Woman Wants To Know If She’s The Bad Guy For Telling Her Half-Brother That His Kids’ Future Isn’t Her Responsibility
Relatives are wonderful people who will always come to the rescue in difficult times, who are ready to support, give useful advice or share something of their own at any time. But this is all, of course, only in an ideal world, and in our reality, everything is far from being so beautiful.
Many people, on the contrary, use family ties as a means of manipulation, or just sincerely believe that the status of a relative literally obliges a person to completely disinterestedly rush to help at any moment and share their things – even when they are completely unprepared for this.
Do you want any examples? Then here’s this post on the AITA Reddit community by the user u/aitathrowaway328, which has nearly 18.1K upvotes and over 2K different comments as of today. And yes, the heroine of this story in fact almost fell victim to manipulation by her relatives.
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The author of the post inherited a spacious house from her late father three years ago
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So, the author of the post is 23 years old and she recently lost her father. As the woman admits, it was a heavy blow for her, but none of the siblings supported her in difficult times. Perhaps, the Original Poster supposes, it’s because she had a different dad from them and that drove a wedge between them and her.
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In any case, her father spent a lot of time with his daughter – significantly more than her siblings spent with her their own dad. Probably, her relatives began to envy her – who actually knows? Be that as it may, the OP continues, her dad was a wealthy man, and he left almost all his property to her.
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The woman lives in the house with her best friend who always supported her in difficult times
So at the age of 23, our heroine became the owner of a spacious house with 4 bedrooms and 2 baths. Her uncle helped her take over properly, and now the woman lives in this house with her best friend – who, by the way, always supported her in these difficult hours. The remaining two rooms are used by both friends as a study room and an art room.
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And everything would be just fine if the OP’s half-brother did not literally start pestering her with persistent requests to sell this house to him. The man argued his pretty cheeky demands by the fact that he and his wife and their two children, 6 and 8 years old, live in a 2-bedroom apartment, and his kids would be very comfortable in such a large house, so then they will even be able, as they dreamed, to get a dog.
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The woman’s half-brother liked her house and literally demanded that she sell it to him, offering a really ridiculous low price
The funniest thing, the OP recalls, is that the hapless buyer offered a price that was simply ridiculous – no more than half of the real value. In general, the main arguments for bargaining were that she, as a decent aunt, should take care of her nephews’ future, and also that she has no family and is too young so allegedly does not really know how to own such a spacious house.
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The author flatly refused to sell the house and got blasted by literally all of her relatives for being “selfish”
Of course, the woman flatly refused. In response, her brother and his wife began literally bombarding her with messages, asking if she had changed her mind. Another half-brother of our heroine even joined the case, directly accusing her of selfishness. This very selfishness, according to him, was that she stubbornly refused to sell her house at a price well below the market.
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However, the OP, after consulting with her best friend and her uncle, firmly decided that no one and nothing would force her to part with her new home. And in a conversation with the half-brother, the woman simply stated that the future of his own children is actually his responsibility, not hers. In response, her relatives criticized her heavily, but the OP didn’t care anymore.
However, people in the comments unanimously sided with the woman, supporting her decision not to sell anything
We must say that the vast majority of commenters, of course, sided with the author of this post. According to people in the comments, firstly, her house is her own property, which only she has the right to dispose of, and secondly, if her half-brother could afford to buy this house, then he could afford some other one – since this one is not for sale.
As for our heroine’s relatives, here the opinion of people in the comments is also almost unanimous – yet another example of entitled and selfish people. After all, they de facto require her to “give them her house” simply because they like it. What’s more, the only people in this situation who actually aren’t acting like adults are the Original Poster’s relatives.
However, as we have said before, relatives generally tend to unceremoniously interfere in others’ lives. As an example, here’s this post of ours about a woman who called her BIL and his wife bad parents simply because she did not like their methods of raising their children. In any case, if you also have any memory of a confrontation with relatives like these, please feel free to tell your own story in the comments.
I have read a couple of AITA like this and I am so appalled by how many people think single people or childless people don't need or want houses. What makes a person with a family of like 4+ deserve a house more than a single girl. I just don't understand the mindset.
I have a 4/2 that's about 2K square feet, and I get this attitude from a lot of people, since it's just me here. I worked really hard for my house, and I resent anyone who deigns to tell me how I should or shouldn't live. Nobody has asked me to give up my house, but I get a lo of: "Why do you need so much house?" It's always strange to me when people judge others' lives like that.
Load More Replies...Emotional blackmail in any situation is an automatic "f*ck off" from me (Oh, you know only 1% of your Facebook friends will post this copy and paste bullshirt about blind orphans and it's making you sad? Automatic hard pass.) Let alone when you are so clearly in the right. Your house, your right to do whatever you like with. Other people's kids? Not your responsibility. Block, ignore, be happy
NTA. Your half-brother is trying to take advantage of you. He expects to be able to cheat you by offering much less than the house is worth, and he justifies his b******t with guilt trips and gaslighting. It's YOUR house. He has no claim on it, and no right to demand you lose tens of thousands of dollars by selling to him cheaply.
NTA and sorry to read that your half-brothers are. Just because you're single now and sharing the house with a friend doesn't mean you won't get married and/or have kids in the future (if that's what you want). Block their numbers on your phone and go no contact for awhile (or forever, your choice). Since your dad wasn't their dad, they are SOL when it comes to the house. Don't feel bad. Enjoy the lovely inheritance your father left you!
NTA!! My mom has siblings like these. Believe me she is NTA. Why people feel entitled to other peoples things is crazy to me!!
NTA, OP. Stand your ground. Cut the rest out of your life. They are harassing and abusing you. So many stories like this. Family bullying their own members out of something nice. They're absolute turds, and so are the commenters who are giving you hate. They should shut up and go continue to make their own families miserable.
The entitlement so many people have today is unprecedented and it's only growing as entitlement breeds entitlement. If you can't afford to take care of your kids then you should use birth control. I'm so tired of entitled people thinking the world owes them because they chose to have kids. Imagine demanding someone's house and thinking you're justified? This level of entitlement is bordering on mental illness.
My mother has already done a will. In the will, everything goes to our Dad. If he has already passed, it will go to my sister and I. Neither one of us is interested in selling it. If anything, we were going to let our little brother and his friends live there. It would essentially be his house and we would be okay with that. He has never really had a stable home because of his biological parents and our house was the most stability that he has ever had and it would feel terrible to take that away from him.
The brother is really saying that he wants op to transfer over a significant portion of her inheritance over to him by buying the house at half price. To him, she is rich and some of those riches should be funneled his way. The other brother wants a share too. She should reduce contact until they get the idea that her money isn’t their money and harassment/guilt trips won’t help.
I am amazed & disgusted by the number of people who seem to share this entitled mindset! And not only the people who believe this b******t, but the family members who back them up!! Even if this brother and his wife had been supportive of the OP for her whole life & her biggest cheerleaders, I can't imagine having the nerve to say, "You know, since we have have kids and you don't, you should give us the house your dead father left you in his will." I seriously wonder if the brother & SIL would even be able to afford the property taxes; people who just expect things to be given to them aren't usually great at saving for future expenses, and I have a feeling that if they got their hands on the house, it would be mortgaged to the rafters in no time.
I am going to go biblical on this and say the relatives are coveting what this young woman has. People often look at this as a lesser sin but as this shows it can be petty and twist people up until nonsense thoughts come out of their mouths if not worse.
Your brother is trying to steal your house. The fact he offered you less then half of what it’s worth gives it away. Tell him no and continue to say no. He is trying to wear you down by continuing to ask. Just cause you are young and living in there with your best friend now doesn’t mean you will not one day have your own family to fill up that space. Enjoy your house, maintain it and let it triple in value with time. Your brother needs to be called out point blank on exactly what he's doing and you need to let him know your not dumb and he is a selfish a*****e. If you want him to stop asking tho all you have to do is say, Sure, I’ll sell you the house. Market value is this and give him a price slightly over market value. If he say’s no that it’s too much, he can’t afford it then tell him he can come buy it when he can. But you will not sell it to him for anything but market value and he is a crook for trying to take advantage of you thinking you don’t know better. Instead of saying no directly and making it seem like you are being selfish, say yes for market value, that way when people ask oh why are you saying no your brother wants it and has a family to fill it up you can say I didn’t say no I said yes and he made me a offer that wasn’t even half of the market value. Then people will see he is trying to steal it from you by making you feel guilty.
There is ABSOLUTELY no reason she should feel selfish for saying no. At this point, I wouldn't even offer to let him buy it above market price. This is your home, your inheritance, and he can go f**k off!
Load More Replies...NTA This is ridiculous and anyone who has any clue how life works wouldn’t have put this woman in that position. I’m a real estate agent so some of these things are just matter of fact, but I obviously realize the personal effect it has on her. FIRST- these are half-siblings. Many times that doesn’t matter because there could still be a bond, but they are entitled to absolutely nothing that her father left her. SECOND- Really sad and sorry that their dad sucked and hers was a good guy, but using some guilt trip psychology for her to sell says more about them. THIRD- I am proud of her because standing up against a “mob” is terrible. Just because you are ganged up on doesn’t mean they are right. FOURTH- oh my God FOURTH!!! This sonafabitch had the balls to start bringing his own goddamn kids into this as bargaining tool?!? Jesus, Mary and Joseph this priick went there. This one gets my blood boiling. She is expected to have some responsibility or honestly even a casual interest in how these kids are doing because their father can’t provide? Christ I need to get off of this and go have a drink. I would lose it on this muh f***a
My go-to response for any of these "sell me" posts are the same. Offer to sell, make sure it's minimum of 7 digits long, starting with an even number. If they agree, then they can buy it.
If you want to put a hitch in their craw, tell them if they don't stop harassing you about the house, you will get file harassment charges and have a No Contact order put in place. Sure getting sick of people using their kids an excuse to have everything handed to them.
Also, if she's the younger sister and they all have different dad's, it's not hard to see why mom left the first husband for the second husband....if the son is any indication of what his father was like.
Load More Replies...I was young and single when I bought my first place, a little 800 square foot 2 bedroom apartment condo that needed a bit of renovation. My mother looked around it and said "Do you really NEED all this space?" I knew what she really meant was "You don't deserve it, you should be living in a tiny hovel."
I'll have to admit something: I chose my best friend to be MOH at my wedding over my sister. Why? B/c my sister was against my relationship for the longest time and only accepted it when we were engaged. Until then, she had said very hurtful things and even made comments how it wouldn't last. Even though she eventually got over it, I couldn't bring myself to give a meaningful place to someone who was so callous towards me (my BF was always supportive and kind). Relationships should matter by how people ACT in them, not their automatic birth title.
NTA..... it's her house, from her own father. She doesn't have to sell it to anyone at any price. That should be the end of it right there.
If they like so much the house why they don't use it as a house model to build theirs as they want. IF people wants to be considered family we should be there for good and not good. I have great parents. I am the firstborn of my mom but the third of my dad. His first wife cheated on him with a married man and disappeared three years with my older half-siblings. Now as an adult of almost 27 yo I would have liked to be the sole child. My 3 siblings have been taking bad decisions, and excusing how she/he made bad decisions so they can, and then ask our dad *for help* resolve it. I was not happy in my adolescence because my older half siblings took bad decisions, the ones with the abilities to find good paths for them and get to study good careers, they promised our father they would not waste his financial support. Then turns out my older male sibling would go drunk to admission exams and older female sibling would skip meetings for go to parties, got pregnant at 18yo and 21 yo from as7jo
Today, economical stability is harder for everyone, and their mom would ask my parents support for their children of 36 and 34 years old as when they got divorced and she would demand the court to cold dad's salary for money for my half-sister but won't give a cent fo half-sister's expenses when she was with our dad. But my half-brother and half-sister would ask money for my dad because they made bad decisions in their time an my dad thinks it was his fault, sometimes he ould say thinks like I should had force them to accomplish their comitments but even with bad advices around them kept being THEIR responsability, my parents are not the bad ones, even their maternal half-brother calls my dad dad too, maybe is a father for him too. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer and was in treatment my dad suffered from insommnia and walked out on midnight on the streets, my half-siblings knew but did not call him to provide him support nor a single word of support.
Load More Replies...NTA, but the rest of her family are. It is her house and it never would have been theirs because they had different fathers. So scummy how they were never there for her and stayed distant until they wanted something. They are all entitled losers and should be ghosted out of her life. I would also suggest a restraining order against them to stop the harassment.
She’s right. Her brother’s kids are not her problem and she is not obligated to help them in any way, shape or form.
It;s telling that her family is calling her the a*****e and not the people trying to guilt trip her by making her responsible for their kids' 'future'.
I agree with the OP when she says that she believes that her brother was joking when he offered her half the value of what the house is actually worth. I doubt he'd be willing to cough up even that if she were willing to accept it. He wants a free house. It makes me laugh when people think homeowners are "loaded". If you ever want to feel broke AF, buy a house. Even if you inherit one free and clear, between property taxes, basic repairs, monthly bills like utilities, etc., especially in this economy, there's no cheap way of owning a home. Something always is breaking, something always needs fixing. The only people who don't know this are people who haven't owned a home. I'm not saying that there aren't benefits, but the OP's brother & SIL are delusional if they think getting her house would be the proverbial "free lunch".
NTA. Everything was specifically inherited to you by your father and you don’t owe anyone anything or the world any explanations. You felt like you were being attacked and you acted out briefly, yes, but you’re way nicer than I am. I wouldn’t of let it go on so long and I wouldn’t of been so nice about the truth. You and your friend can do what you want with the house and your brother needs to man up and be responsible to his own family and be respectful towards your things. It’s not his and you don’t owe him anything. I’d probably say things like “Are you saying they should live here and I should be their legal guardian because my situation is better than yours? You’re absolutely right! I care a lot about my niece and nephew. They deserve to live in my home! They deserve my things! We can get lawyers and you can dismiss any legal rights you have so they can have a life they deserve!”. But again I’m not nice like you
Not their dad, not their house. Your Dad gave it to you. There are no blood ties from your dad to those blood-sucking vampires. Glad you have your best friend and your uncle to talk to about your house. Don't let them (vultures) in your life. If you have to put a restraining order on them to stop them from contacting you in anyway, do it.
Your half brothers are most definitely TA. Him and his wife thought they could bully you into selling them YOUR home. Your Dad left you a gift that he worked for because he loved you. It’s yours and no one can take that from you. I am glad your friend is there for you. I hope she pays you some kind of rent that you put away for taxes and repairs on your home. Now make sure you draw up a will so God forbid if something happens to you those SOB siblings get nothing of yours.
NTA. Your half siblings have NO CLAIM on a house that YOUR father left you. Laughable that they would ask much less demand.
And yet again I have to ask (uselessly, I realize), Why in the world do people go to the Internet for "advice" when they don't know anyone at all who's answering them? Go to a trusted relative, if one is available, and/or to a lawyer or spiritual advisor. But don't take issues to the world....you're not going to get solid, dependable answers! You're going to get people's opinions, and depending on what they have going on in their own lives, you're going to get really lousy responses!
NTA. It's so obvious that the reason why this house is perfect for the brother's family is because they expect a steep "Friends and Family" discount. While I think that everyone needs some help sometimes, we should still respect that some people are in better positions than others. That brother and his wife are the a*****es for trying to guilt trip the poster. I bet their offer to buy the property at $XX was not sincere either; Sounds like the brother will try to renegotiate it over and over until it is significantly less that the original offer.
If OP sells the house to her half-brother at half of its value, the neighbors are going to be outraged. It will potentially affect the value of their properties. OP should stick to her guns and refuse to sell for less than the true value of the house. If, on the other hand, she wants to keep it, she should keep it.
Your family treated you like the black sheep. They are TA. It's none of their business what you do with your house
The brazen balls of the brother needs a swift kick to reorient to a more appropriate view of the world
I spent my first 15in a trailer. I still dropped out of college after moving to a new house. If you want kids then you're responsible for housing and feeding them.
She wasn't harsh at all!! They were the ones stalking her!!
Load More Replies...I have read a couple of AITA like this and I am so appalled by how many people think single people or childless people don't need or want houses. What makes a person with a family of like 4+ deserve a house more than a single girl. I just don't understand the mindset.
I have a 4/2 that's about 2K square feet, and I get this attitude from a lot of people, since it's just me here. I worked really hard for my house, and I resent anyone who deigns to tell me how I should or shouldn't live. Nobody has asked me to give up my house, but I get a lo of: "Why do you need so much house?" It's always strange to me when people judge others' lives like that.
Load More Replies...Emotional blackmail in any situation is an automatic "f*ck off" from me (Oh, you know only 1% of your Facebook friends will post this copy and paste bullshirt about blind orphans and it's making you sad? Automatic hard pass.) Let alone when you are so clearly in the right. Your house, your right to do whatever you like with. Other people's kids? Not your responsibility. Block, ignore, be happy
NTA. Your half-brother is trying to take advantage of you. He expects to be able to cheat you by offering much less than the house is worth, and he justifies his b******t with guilt trips and gaslighting. It's YOUR house. He has no claim on it, and no right to demand you lose tens of thousands of dollars by selling to him cheaply.
NTA and sorry to read that your half-brothers are. Just because you're single now and sharing the house with a friend doesn't mean you won't get married and/or have kids in the future (if that's what you want). Block their numbers on your phone and go no contact for awhile (or forever, your choice). Since your dad wasn't their dad, they are SOL when it comes to the house. Don't feel bad. Enjoy the lovely inheritance your father left you!
NTA!! My mom has siblings like these. Believe me she is NTA. Why people feel entitled to other peoples things is crazy to me!!
NTA, OP. Stand your ground. Cut the rest out of your life. They are harassing and abusing you. So many stories like this. Family bullying their own members out of something nice. They're absolute turds, and so are the commenters who are giving you hate. They should shut up and go continue to make their own families miserable.
The entitlement so many people have today is unprecedented and it's only growing as entitlement breeds entitlement. If you can't afford to take care of your kids then you should use birth control. I'm so tired of entitled people thinking the world owes them because they chose to have kids. Imagine demanding someone's house and thinking you're justified? This level of entitlement is bordering on mental illness.
My mother has already done a will. In the will, everything goes to our Dad. If he has already passed, it will go to my sister and I. Neither one of us is interested in selling it. If anything, we were going to let our little brother and his friends live there. It would essentially be his house and we would be okay with that. He has never really had a stable home because of his biological parents and our house was the most stability that he has ever had and it would feel terrible to take that away from him.
The brother is really saying that he wants op to transfer over a significant portion of her inheritance over to him by buying the house at half price. To him, she is rich and some of those riches should be funneled his way. The other brother wants a share too. She should reduce contact until they get the idea that her money isn’t their money and harassment/guilt trips won’t help.
I am amazed & disgusted by the number of people who seem to share this entitled mindset! And not only the people who believe this b******t, but the family members who back them up!! Even if this brother and his wife had been supportive of the OP for her whole life & her biggest cheerleaders, I can't imagine having the nerve to say, "You know, since we have have kids and you don't, you should give us the house your dead father left you in his will." I seriously wonder if the brother & SIL would even be able to afford the property taxes; people who just expect things to be given to them aren't usually great at saving for future expenses, and I have a feeling that if they got their hands on the house, it would be mortgaged to the rafters in no time.
I am going to go biblical on this and say the relatives are coveting what this young woman has. People often look at this as a lesser sin but as this shows it can be petty and twist people up until nonsense thoughts come out of their mouths if not worse.
Your brother is trying to steal your house. The fact he offered you less then half of what it’s worth gives it away. Tell him no and continue to say no. He is trying to wear you down by continuing to ask. Just cause you are young and living in there with your best friend now doesn’t mean you will not one day have your own family to fill up that space. Enjoy your house, maintain it and let it triple in value with time. Your brother needs to be called out point blank on exactly what he's doing and you need to let him know your not dumb and he is a selfish a*****e. If you want him to stop asking tho all you have to do is say, Sure, I’ll sell you the house. Market value is this and give him a price slightly over market value. If he say’s no that it’s too much, he can’t afford it then tell him he can come buy it when he can. But you will not sell it to him for anything but market value and he is a crook for trying to take advantage of you thinking you don’t know better. Instead of saying no directly and making it seem like you are being selfish, say yes for market value, that way when people ask oh why are you saying no your brother wants it and has a family to fill it up you can say I didn’t say no I said yes and he made me a offer that wasn’t even half of the market value. Then people will see he is trying to steal it from you by making you feel guilty.
There is ABSOLUTELY no reason she should feel selfish for saying no. At this point, I wouldn't even offer to let him buy it above market price. This is your home, your inheritance, and he can go f**k off!
Load More Replies...NTA This is ridiculous and anyone who has any clue how life works wouldn’t have put this woman in that position. I’m a real estate agent so some of these things are just matter of fact, but I obviously realize the personal effect it has on her. FIRST- these are half-siblings. Many times that doesn’t matter because there could still be a bond, but they are entitled to absolutely nothing that her father left her. SECOND- Really sad and sorry that their dad sucked and hers was a good guy, but using some guilt trip psychology for her to sell says more about them. THIRD- I am proud of her because standing up against a “mob” is terrible. Just because you are ganged up on doesn’t mean they are right. FOURTH- oh my God FOURTH!!! This sonafabitch had the balls to start bringing his own goddamn kids into this as bargaining tool?!? Jesus, Mary and Joseph this priick went there. This one gets my blood boiling. She is expected to have some responsibility or honestly even a casual interest in how these kids are doing because their father can’t provide? Christ I need to get off of this and go have a drink. I would lose it on this muh f***a
My go-to response for any of these "sell me" posts are the same. Offer to sell, make sure it's minimum of 7 digits long, starting with an even number. If they agree, then they can buy it.
If you want to put a hitch in their craw, tell them if they don't stop harassing you about the house, you will get file harassment charges and have a No Contact order put in place. Sure getting sick of people using their kids an excuse to have everything handed to them.
Also, if she's the younger sister and they all have different dad's, it's not hard to see why mom left the first husband for the second husband....if the son is any indication of what his father was like.
Load More Replies...I was young and single when I bought my first place, a little 800 square foot 2 bedroom apartment condo that needed a bit of renovation. My mother looked around it and said "Do you really NEED all this space?" I knew what she really meant was "You don't deserve it, you should be living in a tiny hovel."
I'll have to admit something: I chose my best friend to be MOH at my wedding over my sister. Why? B/c my sister was against my relationship for the longest time and only accepted it when we were engaged. Until then, she had said very hurtful things and even made comments how it wouldn't last. Even though she eventually got over it, I couldn't bring myself to give a meaningful place to someone who was so callous towards me (my BF was always supportive and kind). Relationships should matter by how people ACT in them, not their automatic birth title.
NTA..... it's her house, from her own father. She doesn't have to sell it to anyone at any price. That should be the end of it right there.
If they like so much the house why they don't use it as a house model to build theirs as they want. IF people wants to be considered family we should be there for good and not good. I have great parents. I am the firstborn of my mom but the third of my dad. His first wife cheated on him with a married man and disappeared three years with my older half-siblings. Now as an adult of almost 27 yo I would have liked to be the sole child. My 3 siblings have been taking bad decisions, and excusing how she/he made bad decisions so they can, and then ask our dad *for help* resolve it. I was not happy in my adolescence because my older half siblings took bad decisions, the ones with the abilities to find good paths for them and get to study good careers, they promised our father they would not waste his financial support. Then turns out my older male sibling would go drunk to admission exams and older female sibling would skip meetings for go to parties, got pregnant at 18yo and 21 yo from as7jo
Today, economical stability is harder for everyone, and their mom would ask my parents support for their children of 36 and 34 years old as when they got divorced and she would demand the court to cold dad's salary for money for my half-sister but won't give a cent fo half-sister's expenses when she was with our dad. But my half-brother and half-sister would ask money for my dad because they made bad decisions in their time an my dad thinks it was his fault, sometimes he ould say thinks like I should had force them to accomplish their comitments but even with bad advices around them kept being THEIR responsability, my parents are not the bad ones, even their maternal half-brother calls my dad dad too, maybe is a father for him too. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer and was in treatment my dad suffered from insommnia and walked out on midnight on the streets, my half-siblings knew but did not call him to provide him support nor a single word of support.
Load More Replies...NTA, but the rest of her family are. It is her house and it never would have been theirs because they had different fathers. So scummy how they were never there for her and stayed distant until they wanted something. They are all entitled losers and should be ghosted out of her life. I would also suggest a restraining order against them to stop the harassment.
She’s right. Her brother’s kids are not her problem and she is not obligated to help them in any way, shape or form.
It;s telling that her family is calling her the a*****e and not the people trying to guilt trip her by making her responsible for their kids' 'future'.
I agree with the OP when she says that she believes that her brother was joking when he offered her half the value of what the house is actually worth. I doubt he'd be willing to cough up even that if she were willing to accept it. He wants a free house. It makes me laugh when people think homeowners are "loaded". If you ever want to feel broke AF, buy a house. Even if you inherit one free and clear, between property taxes, basic repairs, monthly bills like utilities, etc., especially in this economy, there's no cheap way of owning a home. Something always is breaking, something always needs fixing. The only people who don't know this are people who haven't owned a home. I'm not saying that there aren't benefits, but the OP's brother & SIL are delusional if they think getting her house would be the proverbial "free lunch".
NTA. Everything was specifically inherited to you by your father and you don’t owe anyone anything or the world any explanations. You felt like you were being attacked and you acted out briefly, yes, but you’re way nicer than I am. I wouldn’t of let it go on so long and I wouldn’t of been so nice about the truth. You and your friend can do what you want with the house and your brother needs to man up and be responsible to his own family and be respectful towards your things. It’s not his and you don’t owe him anything. I’d probably say things like “Are you saying they should live here and I should be their legal guardian because my situation is better than yours? You’re absolutely right! I care a lot about my niece and nephew. They deserve to live in my home! They deserve my things! We can get lawyers and you can dismiss any legal rights you have so they can have a life they deserve!”. But again I’m not nice like you
Not their dad, not their house. Your Dad gave it to you. There are no blood ties from your dad to those blood-sucking vampires. Glad you have your best friend and your uncle to talk to about your house. Don't let them (vultures) in your life. If you have to put a restraining order on them to stop them from contacting you in anyway, do it.
Your half brothers are most definitely TA. Him and his wife thought they could bully you into selling them YOUR home. Your Dad left you a gift that he worked for because he loved you. It’s yours and no one can take that from you. I am glad your friend is there for you. I hope she pays you some kind of rent that you put away for taxes and repairs on your home. Now make sure you draw up a will so God forbid if something happens to you those SOB siblings get nothing of yours.
NTA. Your half siblings have NO CLAIM on a house that YOUR father left you. Laughable that they would ask much less demand.
And yet again I have to ask (uselessly, I realize), Why in the world do people go to the Internet for "advice" when they don't know anyone at all who's answering them? Go to a trusted relative, if one is available, and/or to a lawyer or spiritual advisor. But don't take issues to the world....you're not going to get solid, dependable answers! You're going to get people's opinions, and depending on what they have going on in their own lives, you're going to get really lousy responses!
NTA. It's so obvious that the reason why this house is perfect for the brother's family is because they expect a steep "Friends and Family" discount. While I think that everyone needs some help sometimes, we should still respect that some people are in better positions than others. That brother and his wife are the a*****es for trying to guilt trip the poster. I bet their offer to buy the property at $XX was not sincere either; Sounds like the brother will try to renegotiate it over and over until it is significantly less that the original offer.
If OP sells the house to her half-brother at half of its value, the neighbors are going to be outraged. It will potentially affect the value of their properties. OP should stick to her guns and refuse to sell for less than the true value of the house. If, on the other hand, she wants to keep it, she should keep it.
Your family treated you like the black sheep. They are TA. It's none of their business what you do with your house
The brazen balls of the brother needs a swift kick to reorient to a more appropriate view of the world
I spent my first 15in a trailer. I still dropped out of college after moving to a new house. If you want kids then you're responsible for housing and feeding them.
She wasn't harsh at all!! They were the ones stalking her!!
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