Woman Turns Down Arranged Marriage After Man Asks To Give Up Her Dog
When New Dehli-based Karishma Walia found out that her potential husband is not of fan of dogs and wouldn’t want one after marriage, it became clear to her that it’s going to be an issue. So she turned down the arranged marriage.
“Having a dog is definitely not a temporary phase. I can’t abandon my dog for anyone,” Walia told him in a Whatsapp conversation. Though the guy still tried to get her to reconsider, it didn’t work. Walia just loves her pooch, Lucy, too much and if he can’t accept that – it’s a dealbreaker! She posted the full Whatsapp conversation to Facebook, and people on the Internet have been supporting her since. Take a look below!
Meet Karishma Walia – an analyst currently based in New Dehli, and her adorable pup Lucy
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Walia recently found out that her potential husband doesn’t want to live with Lucy
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She was heavily pressured by her family – mom tried to convince her that he’s an excellent match as he’s good-looking and well-off
Image credits: Karishma Walia
The guy still tried to get her to reconsider…
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But Walia is certain that “having a dog is not a temporary phase,” and she can’t abandon [her] dog for anyone!
Image credits: Lucy Walia
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Share on FacebookWhat arrogance?! Pet is for life. Not something you dump just because it gets in your way. And I'll be very wary of that guy. He expected her to give up her dog because he didn't like dogs. What else will he be demanding her to give up just because he doesn't approve? I'm so glad she stood firm!
Exactly! First it's the dog, then what? Her career? Her friends? She absolutely made the right choice!
Load More Replies...Love me, accept my cats. No acceptance of my cats - there is the door, close it on your way out. No negotiation at all. Karishma Walia - you are an awesome Human Being & Woman!!!
exactly! i cant imagine house without pets this is huge issue.
Load More Replies...Sounds like he is controlling and abusive. She did herself a big favor by rejecting him and keeping her dog. The dog will give her unconditional love. The husband, abuse and no love.
It's not even about the dog, it's about accepting other people's stuff if you want a relationship. The dude is a douche and has no respect for other people, he wants what he wants and that's it.
Yes, very true. Shows major character flaw in this guy. Good for her! Never regret the decision.
Load More Replies...Very brave of her to stand up against this since pre-arranged marriages can have alot of pressure coming from both families. And I think it's just awesome she won't give up her dog because someone tells her to. I would do the same though, you don't have to love my pets the same way I do but telling me to get rid of them... How about no, I'll just stay with my pets.
Good for you girl! If only more people were like you. In a marriage, arranged or not, you need to be accepted for who you are - including everything you come with! A pet is a life-long commitment and deserves the best love and care you can give. As for someone who doesnt like animals - always be wary of them. Best decision of your life right here!
Gandhi's statement : 'If you want to see a true nature of a person see how he behaves towards lower creatures'
Can I add this quote to my file (for later use) compartment of my brain? If we could channel his wisdom the world would be a better place
Load More Replies...The bigger issue is that he wanted her to change for him. When she had self respect and stood her ground, he showed his true colors.
Kudos to this woman! She's better off without a guy like that anyway :)
Did you see that article he posted on a divorced based off the husband being TOO GOOD? What arrogance! And from what little I do understand about their culture, what she did was HUGE and very brave. Families in India are very tight-knit and can tend to put the pressure on immensely, especially if the intended is someone of great wealth or prestige. Bravo young lady, this obviously was not about the dog and more to do about control issues. But damn awesome for her sticking to her guns! LOVE THIS!
Guys is an a*****e.LOL. He lost a cute woman and a cute dog. LOOOOOOOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She will find a better suited man, a man that feels equally about dogs!
This dog is part of this girl's life.If this guy really love the girl,he shouldn't ask the girl to choose between him and the pet!!
He didn't love her, he barely knew her. To him, she was just a commodity.
Load More Replies...The dog is so much more better a companion than the rude guy, who is definitely a mom's boy and a terrible husband for her. She's brave enough to make the decision. Best wishes to the girl and her dog.
If the dog is a problem, what other parts of her life is he going to ask her to give up? This sounds like the dog was the tip of the iceberg.
I bet if she didn't have a pet in the first place he would have said to give something else up.
Load More Replies...Arranging marriages is beyond ridiculous in 2016. She's better off with a dog. Unconditional love vs. D-bag love. Not really a tough decision.
I know it seems crazy here in the West, but I think somehow the Indians are onto something. The divorce rate is lower, and self-reported marriage satisfaction is higher. Or maybe I just watched "Monsoon Wedding" too many times ;-)
Load More Replies...Forcing her to abandon her dog would have been just the beginning of requiring her to do whatever HE wants as he apparently wanted to be the controlling force. SMART LADY!
This guy, what an absolute douche. I don't normally say that about someone but I feel it appropriate here. I have a very intimate history with arranged marriages within a patriarchal society, and though there are a few good sides to the practice, this story just highlights the down side. He assumes his looks and academic success entitle him to her and that she should be running into his arms. He stands above her condescendingly judging her for choosing her desires and what's important to her in her life over this idiot and he can't even see his own arrogance and small mindedness. So glad she dodged that one, it would only have gotten worse. I hope you find a wonderful, good hearted, dog loving man who will see how lucky he is to love you.
What a close minded man! So glad she managed to get away from him!
So pets are a phase but im sure marry to an arrogant stranger will work better?!! pffffff pets are best!
Don't know you but I am so proud of you! You are an inspiration to young women the world over. To thine own self be true.
Hats off lady. You got the guts to the say that in the country where most women are not given a choice to choose their lives. And if he can't adjust bringing a pet he won't adjust in anything in future!!!
If some guy asked me to choose between him or my cat, he'll loose everytime!! Totally on her side!! Good on you! ❤️
You go girl! Women at this day and age should have a choice on who to marry. Marry someone who respects you and your family (pets).
I agree she dodged a huge bullet! This guy is asking her to give up something that is very important to her from the get-go! There is no effort made to respect her wishes and, indeed, his understanding of his future bride is so lacking and self-absorbed that a life spent with such a petty tyrant would only get worse with each passing year. What a smart, brave young woman!
OMG, she probably did the best thing! You could see the guy's true colors after reading about his approach towards animals and seeing how he handles rejection. He wants to speak about a solution, but he is not willing to compromise. And he thinks she should abandon a dog she loves, because he is not really into dogs and his mum dislikes them....like really dude? He is not even allergic to dogs! You can see that the girl is pretty even on this picture where you can barely see her face. She has a good job. And judging on how she behaved and how she handles the whole situation she is also smart and kind-hearted. She doesn't need this guy. And I hope she will find love and happiness with an equal partner :)
RUN! Get far away from people that don't respect you, and your commitment to another living being. Love me, love my pets or get the hell out. I would not have given up my Border Collies for ANYTHING or ANYONE in the world. Now I would give my right arm to have them for just one more day. BTW, her dog, Lucy, is positively gorgeous!
Wow, what an absolute moron this guy is! She's definitely better off without him!
She is right. A pet of any kind is not a toy; it is a lifetime commitment. For me the saying, "Love me, love my dog", definitely applies.
Good for her! When you have a pet, you take on the responsibility for the rest of that animals life!
Years ago, I read about an elderly couple living in their car for the last year. When asked why, they replied that shelters don't allow pets and they didn't want to be separated from their dogs. At that moment, I decided that I would live in my car before giving up my dog. Anyone who doesn't understand that isn't worth the time to send a message saying, "Drop dead."
Nope... Didn't come out the way it sounded in my head... But ya'll understand what I meant.
Load More Replies...Is this guy aware that there are men who like dogs? He thinks he's the best guy for her even after she disqualifies him completely!
I would make the same decision. I love animals and having a dog would never be a phase for anyone I know who has a pet because they become a part of your family. If he was primarily asking her to give up the dog because his mom doesn't like dogs in general, then what else is his mom going to dictate in the marriage? I agree with Caitlyn McCracken, she dodged a bullet when she said no.
When my now-wife first contacted me on Match.com and asked if I minded that she already had a daughter, I replied, "Sure, fine with me as long as it's ok with you that I have 2 dogs." To which she replied, "Fine with me, " and the rest is history. If she'd said no, it wouldn't have happened. Way to go, Walia!
My hero! She deserves to be happy not being next to an arrogant macho man. Go girls!!
She's brilliant....and the guy's argument highlights his lack of (1) empathy (2) understanding (3) fairness (his wishes are important - hers aren't so much!)
Walia made the right choice. Liking this guy is the temporary phase, not the dog. The dog won't abuse her later, the dog will always love her, and the dog won't run around on her. What will this guy demand of her next? He just wants to control her. She will find a good man that likes animals, or maybe she will live happily single and enjoy life with her dog
F**k this guy! A person who thinks our pet friends are worthless and can just be abandoned should go f**k himself. And for God's sake- it is enough it's an arranged marriage, which can be traumatizing in itself, but asking to abandon a beloved animal friend is just crossing limits!!!
I have a big sign on my front door before u come into my house. "LOVE ME, LOVE MY DOGS"....period!!!! If a man doesn't like dogs then it will never work for me....I will always have dogs!!!
Hell yeah! Go girl! Animals arent just a pet they are true friends ! <3
I agree with what she did. The dog was with her first. He knew what was going to happen. I can't see her being happy if that guy had succeeded in getting her to change her mind.
It's not that she's "choosing the dog over him," it's the fact that he's asking her to get rid of her dog. If someone loves you, they wouldn't ask you to give up someone or something that you love!
Take a bow Karishma! I can understand the immense pressure from your elders for the marriage but you stood your ground ! Pets are indeed humans who just can't talk and you just can't abondon them . You made the right choice over that douche bag!
A dog doesn't come between love lives, a dog can make them stronger! When me and my fiancé got a dog our family grew, and so did our love!
I know she understands that this dog REALLY saved her life. He is arrogant, selfish, and needs to just live with his momma who also doesn't like dogs! May she live a loving, happy life with that dog who loved her unconditionally.....like a good spouse should!!!!
Good for you! Stick to your guns! And marry a dog lover! He was not a keeper
She's a good woman who made the right choice. This guy's reaction proves what a worthless lout and piece of garbage he is.
Smart young lady. The man shows selfishness and lack of a conscience. Would have been a terrible husband.
The guy doesn't like dogs and doesn't want one to sleep in their bed. She was not prepared at all to compromise in any way, perhaps changing some of the habits she has with her dog like having it sleep in the bed. She is selfish, this is not really something to applaud. If they both sat down and had a reasonable discussion about this, it could have worked out, but both seems to be stubborn. So then its best to get married to someone with the exact same likes and habits as themselves and hope to god there isn't anything they disagree on sometime in the future.
Good for you young lady. You definitely made the right choice. He seemed like he was worried about the dog getting in between you both. Dog's are family. He seems like he's a self-centered jerk! Also, there are plenty of men out there....Lucy is a beautiful dog <3
Anyone that wants you to give up anything for him/her with no discussion and compromise is wrong. He would probably try to control other parts of your life too. You are much better without him. Good for you.
I wouldn't give up my dogs for anyone. They are a major part of my life. If you can't accept them, you will definitely have problems accepting me. Plus I'm pretty sure my dogs probably would sense you don't like them and will protect me from you. They are pits soo...yeah... good luck with that...
She made the right call. Night decent human being would put her in that situation...that would be just the first of many compromising decisions/sacrifices she would have to make. There is a good man, with a good hear,who will love animals out there for her. She not putting her dog first she's honoring her constant companion by not abandoning her. That is having a pet. Period.
And your dog will always love you, wait for you, be happy to see you no matter how long you were gone, never wonder what it would be like to be someone else's dog and even if you're angry with him, he will still love you and kiss you. I've never found a man who does this. Good choice Karishma.
"My mom doesn't like dogs in general" - good thing she ended this! Never stand between a mom and her little boy ^^
What a gal, bravo Karishma Walia ! That dog will be your best friend and far more loyal than that idiot would have been 👏
Drop him like a bad habit....men are like buses honey..our experience on every corner . keep the dog. They never asked for money and are always glad to see you
F**k the guy you rock I would dump and forget any guy that even suggested I get rid of my dogs my dogs are part of me!!
Best decision ever. Some people don't deserve any better than to be broke up with via text message ;)
Just looking at how Lucy leans against you is a clear sign on the bond and love she has for you. You will NEVER regret this decision. Yo GO GIRL!!!
Never give up the ones you truly love. *Walks to the light switch, Turns it off, Leaves room* *Comes back with flashlight, and says*: You think im done talking, wait for the words i have for your old fiance!!
I loved this post. Something which i did recently. Good job girl. Very good job. And your Lucy is worth it. Lots of love and kisses for you 2. Not everyone has guts to take this stand.
She will do so much better by herself or with another NICE human being.
Abusers always try to separate their victims from their supports. That includes pets—especially dogs. This guy has the hallmarks of being a first class douchebag. She dodged that one I'd say. Trust your instincts girl! ✌️
Each of them deserve to live life as they see it. He doesn't want dogs. She does. He could have just said, "I respect your desire to have your dog in your life. But I don't want them. Good luck and wish you well in your life." He didn't have to be rude about it. He didn't even consider changing his position on it. Not a good sign about how he would be in there marriage expecting her to live up to his expectations and his mother's, and her to give in to him, but not giving the same in return. If you don't accept a person as they are, you can't love them faults and all, all you have to do is wish them well and move on.
Yeah, so if she is so important for him, so why he couldnt accept dog as well. And also i think, that if some man is cruel, or irresponsible for pet (treat them like garbage) than this is bad and very selfish person.
Of course she's not going to give up her dog! I can't believe someone would even ASK that question!
Karishma you are my type of person LOYAL and FAITHFUL. Your Ex is a selfish loser. He just lost a wonderful wife who has these priceless characteristics. He should have recognized the treasure he found in you. You will find your soulmate who appreciates your caring heart.
His is so great to witness! Fur babies give us loyalty, unconditional love and companionship like no human can ever vow to do. They are our family and t can't wrap their heart, soul or mind around that truth is revealing selfishness at some level. I don't need to prove what I know in my heart and soul. She deserves a womdeful human partner and standing up for her dog is really standinuo for herself. Love this!
Congratulations Walia for a wise decision. DOG is a woman's best friend ; a man - not always.
I wish I could find this woman on Facebook because I'd like to friend her. She is my hero. I just hope she never doubts herself or reconsiders. This guy was a big jerk. She needs to find a guy who loves dogs like she does. Those men are out there, in India for sure. I wish all the best for her and I'm so happy she escaped being married to such a man. She would have been miserable in so many ways with that guy because it shows what kind of person he is-bad.
Lol If he dislikes dogs enough to let her walk away then just reconsidering, he is actually the one who is letting the dog get between them. If he truly deserved her then he would have never expected her or to get rid of something she loves so deeply, she would regret it for the rest of her life. The dog will always treat her like a goddess and provide more then enough love. Thank goodness that dog got her out of a controlling relationship.
I'm glad he walked away instead of saying it wasn't an issue if it was, or agreeing to accept the dog even if he didn't like it.
Load More Replies...good for u. that a*****e was not worth it. u r Lucy will bring u true love
YOU GO, GIRL! I agree with the other posters: you dodged a bullet with that asshat.
That's awesome! I'm not used to seeing domestic dogs in India. It turns out that my dad used to have one. Just that thought of it is adorable!
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Krishma - you made the right decision. Dog is much more loyal and loving - forever! You can do much better - you are a pretty girl - I am sure you and Lucy will have no problem!
He actually sounds like a pretty big jerk. Animals actually make relationships better in my experience. As for the bedroom, you can always lock the dog out while your having sexy time.
Probably not a smart move publishing this. Women suffer much worse for much less than this in India. The boys are pretty thin-skinned. I hope she's ready to move. Good for her standing her ground though!
Very cute dog! I don't think Walia will be missing out on anything avoiding marriage with that guy.
What a smart and loyal woman Walia is! She is a lovely dog's human and the dog clearly adores her. She can do better than this guy. And what does his mother's opinion about dogs have to do with anything? She was considering marrying him, not his mother!
I would turn it down after dragon punching him in the balls! what an a-hole
Anyway she can get real love, companionship & most of all Loyalty from the dog.. which would be too much to expect of that jackass
Load More Replies...My mom would divorce my stepfather in a minute if he would say just one word about giving her cat away. Sooo, totally support!
When going into a marriage its best to know how that person feels about animals ...the right person is out ther for Karishma I bet he already has a dog lol
Why should it matter that his mother doesn't like dogs? Is she going to live with them? I'd rather have the dog!!!
Probably she would, especially if he is the eldest son. Joint families are the norm in India. But that just means that her decision was even more correct. Who wants to live with people whose views are so totally different to your own. Plus I imagine it's difficult enough living with your in-laws without something like this causing conflict!
Load More Replies...Who wants an arranged marriage anyway especially if you're as beautiful as this lady is! This man is very controlling and she was wise to tell him to kiss off! Kudos to her for remaining loyal to her precious dog after all her dog will remain loyal to her until the end and will NEVER demand anything from her Ever!
You must understant that this young woman is now in great danger. Having refused this marriage, she is riskign her life or might be disfigured by a member of her family (man) or the family (man) of the fiancé. India society is still ruled by< very strick codes on family arrangements and how women should and must behave. This very brave lady has posed a great threat to their way of life and social codes. Read up on how this part of world fonction. It is very interresting and way out of my reach of understanding.
She didn't choose to marry this man, it was forced on her. Her family made the choice for her. He's rich, stupid, selfish, dominant, basically he represents the average Indian man, except that he is wealthy. Otherwise, women in that country are many treated like cattle! Well, not really as they have holy cows that roam the streets looking for food and look very sick from lack of care. The country where Bouda was born, what happened to peace and love?
How this brave young woman has been. I just hope that she will not be harmed by any member of her family or the family of this despicable heartless man. As we all know that in India, woman are considered second zone citizens and are often very maltreated by their families and men in general. They are sold like cattle for a diary even now days. Women and young girls are raped every day in this country, more than here in Europe. I wish her well and that God will guard her from this evil society.
Hopefuly she will be safe after rejected him.. We know what happens in India..
If he can't compromise on something his bride wants, what else can't he compromise on? Good for her!
She should be very happy if for no other reason than the dog saved her from a lifetime married to an arrogant, selfish guy. Her parents were wrong. He's not a catch if he places more importance on his wishes than hers. He'll lose his looks and could lose his money but she'll have a loving companion for years to come.
hate grown a*s men that still attach to their parents, seen that he doesn't have a problem with the dog but gotta do what mommy says.
Me thinks a better reason to turn him down is not because of the dog but because the marriage was ARRANGED! WTF? This still goes on??
Wow, you mean the family didn't kill her and the dog for bringing shame onto them? Very brave if her.
Indians don't kill their loved ones !!!!!!where the hell did that come from ?!!?
Load More Replies...I really appreciate it, that she didn't let her future husband decide about her priorities in life. But there is a reaoly sad thing about all this: Our society has obviously gone so far, that it cancels a marriage via Whatsapp!!! Isn't that shocking? That even something like a marriage isn't considered important enough for a meeting or at least a phone call? This is so sad!
I don't think the guy's an a-hole, he just doesn't get it. Either way, I think she made the right choice. Btw, I love dogs... marry me? :)
Better to mourn a dog than live with some idiot who will maker her life miserable for a lot longer.
Load More Replies...They weren't even married and he was already trying to force her to obey him. That's a deal breaker. If he'd be so boorish as to demand that she give up her dog, what's next? Her job? Her friends? She's well rid of him.
Load More Replies...What relationship? They don't know each other. Their parents told them to get married. They hadn't even met before that. Why would she rearrange her life to accommodate a stranger who acts like a controlling jerk?
Load More Replies...What arrogance?! Pet is for life. Not something you dump just because it gets in your way. And I'll be very wary of that guy. He expected her to give up her dog because he didn't like dogs. What else will he be demanding her to give up just because he doesn't approve? I'm so glad she stood firm!
Exactly! First it's the dog, then what? Her career? Her friends? She absolutely made the right choice!
Load More Replies...Love me, accept my cats. No acceptance of my cats - there is the door, close it on your way out. No negotiation at all. Karishma Walia - you are an awesome Human Being & Woman!!!
exactly! i cant imagine house without pets this is huge issue.
Load More Replies...Sounds like he is controlling and abusive. She did herself a big favor by rejecting him and keeping her dog. The dog will give her unconditional love. The husband, abuse and no love.
It's not even about the dog, it's about accepting other people's stuff if you want a relationship. The dude is a douche and has no respect for other people, he wants what he wants and that's it.
Yes, very true. Shows major character flaw in this guy. Good for her! Never regret the decision.
Load More Replies...Very brave of her to stand up against this since pre-arranged marriages can have alot of pressure coming from both families. And I think it's just awesome she won't give up her dog because someone tells her to. I would do the same though, you don't have to love my pets the same way I do but telling me to get rid of them... How about no, I'll just stay with my pets.
Good for you girl! If only more people were like you. In a marriage, arranged or not, you need to be accepted for who you are - including everything you come with! A pet is a life-long commitment and deserves the best love and care you can give. As for someone who doesnt like animals - always be wary of them. Best decision of your life right here!
Gandhi's statement : 'If you want to see a true nature of a person see how he behaves towards lower creatures'
Can I add this quote to my file (for later use) compartment of my brain? If we could channel his wisdom the world would be a better place
Load More Replies...The bigger issue is that he wanted her to change for him. When she had self respect and stood her ground, he showed his true colors.
Kudos to this woman! She's better off without a guy like that anyway :)
Did you see that article he posted on a divorced based off the husband being TOO GOOD? What arrogance! And from what little I do understand about their culture, what she did was HUGE and very brave. Families in India are very tight-knit and can tend to put the pressure on immensely, especially if the intended is someone of great wealth or prestige. Bravo young lady, this obviously was not about the dog and more to do about control issues. But damn awesome for her sticking to her guns! LOVE THIS!
Guys is an a*****e.LOL. He lost a cute woman and a cute dog. LOOOOOOOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She will find a better suited man, a man that feels equally about dogs!
This dog is part of this girl's life.If this guy really love the girl,he shouldn't ask the girl to choose between him and the pet!!
He didn't love her, he barely knew her. To him, she was just a commodity.
Load More Replies...The dog is so much more better a companion than the rude guy, who is definitely a mom's boy and a terrible husband for her. She's brave enough to make the decision. Best wishes to the girl and her dog.
If the dog is a problem, what other parts of her life is he going to ask her to give up? This sounds like the dog was the tip of the iceberg.
I bet if she didn't have a pet in the first place he would have said to give something else up.
Load More Replies...Arranging marriages is beyond ridiculous in 2016. She's better off with a dog. Unconditional love vs. D-bag love. Not really a tough decision.
I know it seems crazy here in the West, but I think somehow the Indians are onto something. The divorce rate is lower, and self-reported marriage satisfaction is higher. Or maybe I just watched "Monsoon Wedding" too many times ;-)
Load More Replies...Forcing her to abandon her dog would have been just the beginning of requiring her to do whatever HE wants as he apparently wanted to be the controlling force. SMART LADY!
This guy, what an absolute douche. I don't normally say that about someone but I feel it appropriate here. I have a very intimate history with arranged marriages within a patriarchal society, and though there are a few good sides to the practice, this story just highlights the down side. He assumes his looks and academic success entitle him to her and that she should be running into his arms. He stands above her condescendingly judging her for choosing her desires and what's important to her in her life over this idiot and he can't even see his own arrogance and small mindedness. So glad she dodged that one, it would only have gotten worse. I hope you find a wonderful, good hearted, dog loving man who will see how lucky he is to love you.
What a close minded man! So glad she managed to get away from him!
So pets are a phase but im sure marry to an arrogant stranger will work better?!! pffffff pets are best!
Don't know you but I am so proud of you! You are an inspiration to young women the world over. To thine own self be true.
Hats off lady. You got the guts to the say that in the country where most women are not given a choice to choose their lives. And if he can't adjust bringing a pet he won't adjust in anything in future!!!
If some guy asked me to choose between him or my cat, he'll loose everytime!! Totally on her side!! Good on you! ❤️
You go girl! Women at this day and age should have a choice on who to marry. Marry someone who respects you and your family (pets).
I agree she dodged a huge bullet! This guy is asking her to give up something that is very important to her from the get-go! There is no effort made to respect her wishes and, indeed, his understanding of his future bride is so lacking and self-absorbed that a life spent with such a petty tyrant would only get worse with each passing year. What a smart, brave young woman!
OMG, she probably did the best thing! You could see the guy's true colors after reading about his approach towards animals and seeing how he handles rejection. He wants to speak about a solution, but he is not willing to compromise. And he thinks she should abandon a dog she loves, because he is not really into dogs and his mum dislikes them....like really dude? He is not even allergic to dogs! You can see that the girl is pretty even on this picture where you can barely see her face. She has a good job. And judging on how she behaved and how she handles the whole situation she is also smart and kind-hearted. She doesn't need this guy. And I hope she will find love and happiness with an equal partner :)
RUN! Get far away from people that don't respect you, and your commitment to another living being. Love me, love my pets or get the hell out. I would not have given up my Border Collies for ANYTHING or ANYONE in the world. Now I would give my right arm to have them for just one more day. BTW, her dog, Lucy, is positively gorgeous!
Wow, what an absolute moron this guy is! She's definitely better off without him!
She is right. A pet of any kind is not a toy; it is a lifetime commitment. For me the saying, "Love me, love my dog", definitely applies.
Good for her! When you have a pet, you take on the responsibility for the rest of that animals life!
Years ago, I read about an elderly couple living in their car for the last year. When asked why, they replied that shelters don't allow pets and they didn't want to be separated from their dogs. At that moment, I decided that I would live in my car before giving up my dog. Anyone who doesn't understand that isn't worth the time to send a message saying, "Drop dead."
Nope... Didn't come out the way it sounded in my head... But ya'll understand what I meant.
Load More Replies...Is this guy aware that there are men who like dogs? He thinks he's the best guy for her even after she disqualifies him completely!
I would make the same decision. I love animals and having a dog would never be a phase for anyone I know who has a pet because they become a part of your family. If he was primarily asking her to give up the dog because his mom doesn't like dogs in general, then what else is his mom going to dictate in the marriage? I agree with Caitlyn McCracken, she dodged a bullet when she said no.
When my now-wife first contacted me on Match.com and asked if I minded that she already had a daughter, I replied, "Sure, fine with me as long as it's ok with you that I have 2 dogs." To which she replied, "Fine with me, " and the rest is history. If she'd said no, it wouldn't have happened. Way to go, Walia!
My hero! She deserves to be happy not being next to an arrogant macho man. Go girls!!
She's brilliant....and the guy's argument highlights his lack of (1) empathy (2) understanding (3) fairness (his wishes are important - hers aren't so much!)
Walia made the right choice. Liking this guy is the temporary phase, not the dog. The dog won't abuse her later, the dog will always love her, and the dog won't run around on her. What will this guy demand of her next? He just wants to control her. She will find a good man that likes animals, or maybe she will live happily single and enjoy life with her dog
F**k this guy! A person who thinks our pet friends are worthless and can just be abandoned should go f**k himself. And for God's sake- it is enough it's an arranged marriage, which can be traumatizing in itself, but asking to abandon a beloved animal friend is just crossing limits!!!
I have a big sign on my front door before u come into my house. "LOVE ME, LOVE MY DOGS"....period!!!! If a man doesn't like dogs then it will never work for me....I will always have dogs!!!
Hell yeah! Go girl! Animals arent just a pet they are true friends ! <3
I agree with what she did. The dog was with her first. He knew what was going to happen. I can't see her being happy if that guy had succeeded in getting her to change her mind.
It's not that she's "choosing the dog over him," it's the fact that he's asking her to get rid of her dog. If someone loves you, they wouldn't ask you to give up someone or something that you love!
Take a bow Karishma! I can understand the immense pressure from your elders for the marriage but you stood your ground ! Pets are indeed humans who just can't talk and you just can't abondon them . You made the right choice over that douche bag!
A dog doesn't come between love lives, a dog can make them stronger! When me and my fiancé got a dog our family grew, and so did our love!
I know she understands that this dog REALLY saved her life. He is arrogant, selfish, and needs to just live with his momma who also doesn't like dogs! May she live a loving, happy life with that dog who loved her unconditionally.....like a good spouse should!!!!
Good for you! Stick to your guns! And marry a dog lover! He was not a keeper
She's a good woman who made the right choice. This guy's reaction proves what a worthless lout and piece of garbage he is.
Smart young lady. The man shows selfishness and lack of a conscience. Would have been a terrible husband.
The guy doesn't like dogs and doesn't want one to sleep in their bed. She was not prepared at all to compromise in any way, perhaps changing some of the habits she has with her dog like having it sleep in the bed. She is selfish, this is not really something to applaud. If they both sat down and had a reasonable discussion about this, it could have worked out, but both seems to be stubborn. So then its best to get married to someone with the exact same likes and habits as themselves and hope to god there isn't anything they disagree on sometime in the future.
Good for you young lady. You definitely made the right choice. He seemed like he was worried about the dog getting in between you both. Dog's are family. He seems like he's a self-centered jerk! Also, there are plenty of men out there....Lucy is a beautiful dog <3
Anyone that wants you to give up anything for him/her with no discussion and compromise is wrong. He would probably try to control other parts of your life too. You are much better without him. Good for you.
I wouldn't give up my dogs for anyone. They are a major part of my life. If you can't accept them, you will definitely have problems accepting me. Plus I'm pretty sure my dogs probably would sense you don't like them and will protect me from you. They are pits soo...yeah... good luck with that...
She made the right call. Night decent human being would put her in that situation...that would be just the first of many compromising decisions/sacrifices she would have to make. There is a good man, with a good hear,who will love animals out there for her. She not putting her dog first she's honoring her constant companion by not abandoning her. That is having a pet. Period.
And your dog will always love you, wait for you, be happy to see you no matter how long you were gone, never wonder what it would be like to be someone else's dog and even if you're angry with him, he will still love you and kiss you. I've never found a man who does this. Good choice Karishma.
"My mom doesn't like dogs in general" - good thing she ended this! Never stand between a mom and her little boy ^^
What a gal, bravo Karishma Walia ! That dog will be your best friend and far more loyal than that idiot would have been 👏
Drop him like a bad habit....men are like buses honey..our experience on every corner . keep the dog. They never asked for money and are always glad to see you
F**k the guy you rock I would dump and forget any guy that even suggested I get rid of my dogs my dogs are part of me!!
Best decision ever. Some people don't deserve any better than to be broke up with via text message ;)
Just looking at how Lucy leans against you is a clear sign on the bond and love she has for you. You will NEVER regret this decision. Yo GO GIRL!!!
Never give up the ones you truly love. *Walks to the light switch, Turns it off, Leaves room* *Comes back with flashlight, and says*: You think im done talking, wait for the words i have for your old fiance!!
I loved this post. Something which i did recently. Good job girl. Very good job. And your Lucy is worth it. Lots of love and kisses for you 2. Not everyone has guts to take this stand.
She will do so much better by herself or with another NICE human being.
Abusers always try to separate their victims from their supports. That includes pets—especially dogs. This guy has the hallmarks of being a first class douchebag. She dodged that one I'd say. Trust your instincts girl! ✌️
Each of them deserve to live life as they see it. He doesn't want dogs. She does. He could have just said, "I respect your desire to have your dog in your life. But I don't want them. Good luck and wish you well in your life." He didn't have to be rude about it. He didn't even consider changing his position on it. Not a good sign about how he would be in there marriage expecting her to live up to his expectations and his mother's, and her to give in to him, but not giving the same in return. If you don't accept a person as they are, you can't love them faults and all, all you have to do is wish them well and move on.
Yeah, so if she is so important for him, so why he couldnt accept dog as well. And also i think, that if some man is cruel, or irresponsible for pet (treat them like garbage) than this is bad and very selfish person.
Of course she's not going to give up her dog! I can't believe someone would even ASK that question!
Karishma you are my type of person LOYAL and FAITHFUL. Your Ex is a selfish loser. He just lost a wonderful wife who has these priceless characteristics. He should have recognized the treasure he found in you. You will find your soulmate who appreciates your caring heart.
His is so great to witness! Fur babies give us loyalty, unconditional love and companionship like no human can ever vow to do. They are our family and t can't wrap their heart, soul or mind around that truth is revealing selfishness at some level. I don't need to prove what I know in my heart and soul. She deserves a womdeful human partner and standing up for her dog is really standinuo for herself. Love this!
Congratulations Walia for a wise decision. DOG is a woman's best friend ; a man - not always.
I wish I could find this woman on Facebook because I'd like to friend her. She is my hero. I just hope she never doubts herself or reconsiders. This guy was a big jerk. She needs to find a guy who loves dogs like she does. Those men are out there, in India for sure. I wish all the best for her and I'm so happy she escaped being married to such a man. She would have been miserable in so many ways with that guy because it shows what kind of person he is-bad.
Lol If he dislikes dogs enough to let her walk away then just reconsidering, he is actually the one who is letting the dog get between them. If he truly deserved her then he would have never expected her or to get rid of something she loves so deeply, she would regret it for the rest of her life. The dog will always treat her like a goddess and provide more then enough love. Thank goodness that dog got her out of a controlling relationship.
I'm glad he walked away instead of saying it wasn't an issue if it was, or agreeing to accept the dog even if he didn't like it.
Load More Replies...good for u. that a*****e was not worth it. u r Lucy will bring u true love
YOU GO, GIRL! I agree with the other posters: you dodged a bullet with that asshat.
That's awesome! I'm not used to seeing domestic dogs in India. It turns out that my dad used to have one. Just that thought of it is adorable!
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Krishma - you made the right decision. Dog is much more loyal and loving - forever! You can do much better - you are a pretty girl - I am sure you and Lucy will have no problem!
He actually sounds like a pretty big jerk. Animals actually make relationships better in my experience. As for the bedroom, you can always lock the dog out while your having sexy time.
Probably not a smart move publishing this. Women suffer much worse for much less than this in India. The boys are pretty thin-skinned. I hope she's ready to move. Good for her standing her ground though!
Very cute dog! I don't think Walia will be missing out on anything avoiding marriage with that guy.
What a smart and loyal woman Walia is! She is a lovely dog's human and the dog clearly adores her. She can do better than this guy. And what does his mother's opinion about dogs have to do with anything? She was considering marrying him, not his mother!
I would turn it down after dragon punching him in the balls! what an a-hole
Anyway she can get real love, companionship & most of all Loyalty from the dog.. which would be too much to expect of that jackass
Load More Replies...My mom would divorce my stepfather in a minute if he would say just one word about giving her cat away. Sooo, totally support!
When going into a marriage its best to know how that person feels about animals ...the right person is out ther for Karishma I bet he already has a dog lol
Why should it matter that his mother doesn't like dogs? Is she going to live with them? I'd rather have the dog!!!
Probably she would, especially if he is the eldest son. Joint families are the norm in India. But that just means that her decision was even more correct. Who wants to live with people whose views are so totally different to your own. Plus I imagine it's difficult enough living with your in-laws without something like this causing conflict!
Load More Replies...Who wants an arranged marriage anyway especially if you're as beautiful as this lady is! This man is very controlling and she was wise to tell him to kiss off! Kudos to her for remaining loyal to her precious dog after all her dog will remain loyal to her until the end and will NEVER demand anything from her Ever!
You must understant that this young woman is now in great danger. Having refused this marriage, she is riskign her life or might be disfigured by a member of her family (man) or the family (man) of the fiancé. India society is still ruled by< very strick codes on family arrangements and how women should and must behave. This very brave lady has posed a great threat to their way of life and social codes. Read up on how this part of world fonction. It is very interresting and way out of my reach of understanding.
She didn't choose to marry this man, it was forced on her. Her family made the choice for her. He's rich, stupid, selfish, dominant, basically he represents the average Indian man, except that he is wealthy. Otherwise, women in that country are many treated like cattle! Well, not really as they have holy cows that roam the streets looking for food and look very sick from lack of care. The country where Bouda was born, what happened to peace and love?
How this brave young woman has been. I just hope that she will not be harmed by any member of her family or the family of this despicable heartless man. As we all know that in India, woman are considered second zone citizens and are often very maltreated by their families and men in general. They are sold like cattle for a diary even now days. Women and young girls are raped every day in this country, more than here in Europe. I wish her well and that God will guard her from this evil society.
Hopefuly she will be safe after rejected him.. We know what happens in India..
If he can't compromise on something his bride wants, what else can't he compromise on? Good for her!
She should be very happy if for no other reason than the dog saved her from a lifetime married to an arrogant, selfish guy. Her parents were wrong. He's not a catch if he places more importance on his wishes than hers. He'll lose his looks and could lose his money but she'll have a loving companion for years to come.
hate grown a*s men that still attach to their parents, seen that he doesn't have a problem with the dog but gotta do what mommy says.
Me thinks a better reason to turn him down is not because of the dog but because the marriage was ARRANGED! WTF? This still goes on??
Wow, you mean the family didn't kill her and the dog for bringing shame onto them? Very brave if her.
Indians don't kill their loved ones !!!!!!where the hell did that come from ?!!?
Load More Replies...I really appreciate it, that she didn't let her future husband decide about her priorities in life. But there is a reaoly sad thing about all this: Our society has obviously gone so far, that it cancels a marriage via Whatsapp!!! Isn't that shocking? That even something like a marriage isn't considered important enough for a meeting or at least a phone call? This is so sad!
I don't think the guy's an a-hole, he just doesn't get it. Either way, I think she made the right choice. Btw, I love dogs... marry me? :)
Better to mourn a dog than live with some idiot who will maker her life miserable for a lot longer.
Load More Replies...They weren't even married and he was already trying to force her to obey him. That's a deal breaker. If he'd be so boorish as to demand that she give up her dog, what's next? Her job? Her friends? She's well rid of him.
Load More Replies...What relationship? They don't know each other. Their parents told them to get married. They hadn't even met before that. Why would she rearrange her life to accommodate a stranger who acts like a controlling jerk?
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