“He Didn’t Want To Live In A Flat That Was Bought With ‘Stripper Money’”: Woman Won’t Sell Her Flat, Relationship Drama Ensues
Hard work has been applauded in most cultures, but especially in America. After all, it’s what the American dream is made of, the idea that if you work very hard, you will attain everything you ever wanted. So this should only be your business how you made that fortune, right?
Well, this story shows how there’s still a lot of stigma attached to particular professions like exotic dancing, no matter how well off the person is. “For several years, I was a stripper. I have no shame about what I did, and only quit when I got a better job offer,” the woman who goes by the nickname TraditionImpressive2 wrote in a post on AITA.
It turns out, the author intentionally lived as cheaply as possible because she believed she could buy her own place on her income, as long as she saved like crazy. And there you have it, before TraditionImpressive2 “retired,” she “managed to outright buy myself a 3-bedroom flat.” Something that’s invaluable in the current crazy real estate market where people can not only no longer afford their own home, but they can barely rent the one they already have.
The problem arose when the author became pregnant with her boyfriend, who was less than excited to move into her flat. “He said that he didn’t want to live in a flat that was bought with ‘stripper money.’” So he pressured her to sell her own home until it became unbearable.
A pregnant woman shared how her boyfriend tried to pressure her to sell her own place because she bought it “with stripper money”
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People expressed their overwhelming support for the woman and said she was better off without the guy
He wants you to think realistically? Ok, realistically, he's a misogynist AH who is showing you his true colors. He probably thought it was hot that his GF used to be a stripper - and probably brags about it to his friends - but now that the possibility of a long-term future with you is a reality, he's ashamed of your past (he already showed that by lying to his family and asking you to lie to them, too) to the point where you may want to reconsider your options. He waved a small red flag already. He's waving a huge one now. It's your move. ETA: I wrote the preceding before I saw the update. Good for you, OP, and good luck!
i cannot fathom the level of arrogant delusion that leads you to patronise someone about being "realistic" when you're crying about them refusing to sell a fully paid off, centrally located flat w all necessary amenities nearby. imagine telling someone to go into debt for housing..... when they already have a fully owned apartment? literally cannot wrap my head around it! you're THAT misogynistic and s**t-shamey that you'd lose stability, housing and accrue mortgage w a newborn bc you can't hack living in a place that was paid for by stripper money years ago? AND you want someone to sell their dream space to placate your ego AND fully pay for another place AND take on all the debt while you contribute nothing AND you want to own the place jointly? the audacity knows no bounds. what a disgusting judgemental arrogant useless leeching irresponsible freeloading piece of s**t. i'm so happy she dumped that little f****r
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NTA- on a side note: who would buy a flat in this economy if they already have one?
NTA. You're gonna be a great mom! You saw through his bs immediately and didn't stick with him "just because of the baby" you should be proud! You worked your tush off (literally) and bought that with your own money. I do understand the part of wanting something for the both of you, but the fact he got angry at your suggestion to pay half, which is exactly what HE should've suggested in the first place, you paid attention to the red flags. Kutos!
He wants you to think realistically? Ok, realistically, he's a misogynist AH who is showing you his true colors. He probably thought it was hot that his GF used to be a stripper - and probably brags about it to his friends - but now that the possibility of a long-term future with you is a reality, he's ashamed of your past (he already showed that by lying to his family and asking you to lie to them, too) to the point where you may want to reconsider your options. He waved a small red flag already. He's waving a huge one now. It's your move. ETA: I wrote the preceding before I saw the update. Good for you, OP, and good luck!
i cannot fathom the level of arrogant delusion that leads you to patronise someone about being "realistic" when you're crying about them refusing to sell a fully paid off, centrally located flat w all necessary amenities nearby. imagine telling someone to go into debt for housing..... when they already have a fully owned apartment? literally cannot wrap my head around it! you're THAT misogynistic and s**t-shamey that you'd lose stability, housing and accrue mortgage w a newborn bc you can't hack living in a place that was paid for by stripper money years ago? AND you want someone to sell their dream space to placate your ego AND fully pay for another place AND take on all the debt while you contribute nothing AND you want to own the place jointly? the audacity knows no bounds. what a disgusting judgemental arrogant useless leeching irresponsible freeloading piece of s**t. i'm so happy she dumped that little f****r
Load More Replies... NTA- on a side note: who would buy a flat in this economy if they already have one?
NTA. You're gonna be a great mom! You saw through his bs immediately and didn't stick with him "just because of the baby" you should be proud! You worked your tush off (literally) and bought that with your own money. I do understand the part of wanting something for the both of you, but the fact he got angry at your suggestion to pay half, which is exactly what HE should've suggested in the first place, you paid attention to the red flags. Kutos!
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