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Woman Dumps Bro’s Kids With A Friend To Go Shopping, He Can’t Believe Her Audacity
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Woman Dumps Bro’s Kids With A Friend To Go Shopping, He Can’t Believe Her Audacity

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Being child-free is a choice, and any such person would hate it if their family unceremoniously dumped kids on them to babysit. However, when your relatives really need your help, all it takes is basic humanity to understand that you should help them, right?

Unfortunately, not everyone has that much empathy, just like the original poster (OP). She claimed that taking her dogs to the spa and going shopping was more important for her than looking after her niblings after their mom broke her leg. Of course, netizens slammed her online. Read on to find out the whole story!

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    The poster’s brother left his 2 kids with her, as his wife broke her leg and he had to take her to the hospital, but this irked her

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    Apparently, she had to take her dogs to the spa and go shopping, so she dumped the kids on her friend, and her brother was beyond furious

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    Her father also called to ask how she could do this, but the child-free poster didn’t feel responsible for kids that aren’t hers

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    She even snapped at her dad, who won’t be walking her down the aisle, as he demanded how she chose her stupid dogs over family

    In today’s story, netizens gave a harsh reality check to the poster after she vented online. She tells us that she shares a huge house with her boyfriend, but she is child-free and has 2 dogs and 1 cat. One day, her brother asked her to look after his two kids because his wife broke her leg and he had to rush to the hospital with her, and she was the only one available.

    Considering it’s a medical emergency, anyone would understand, right? Not this lady, though, because she and her boyfriend both had to leave their dogs in a spa and then go shopping in the mall. They felt that this was somehow more important than caring about their troubled family. Guess what she did? Called a friend and unceremoniously dumped the kids on her!

    Get this, her brother had never met this friend, so when he called, he just couldn’t believe what his sister had done. He was extremely angry, which is an understatement, as he went to his friend’s house and picked up his kids. After all, it’s a random stranger for him, and how can he just trust anyone with his children?

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    Well, she ignored him as she felt he would just shout at her, but then, she got a call from their father. Even he was furious that she chose her “dumb dogs over her nephew and niece”. This annoyed her so much that she claimed that he should forget walking her down the aisle if he insults “her family” like this. Ouch, that’s a hurtful thing to say!

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    When she vented online, netizens just couldn’t believe how entitled and selfish she sounded. They understood her decision to be child-free, but not being willing to look after the kids in an emergency was downright unempathetic. They questioned why both she and the boyfriend had to go take the dogs when one could do it, but not shopping? Surely, she could postpone it!

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    However, experts warn that people with a sense of entitlement put their own personal needs before everyone else’s needs. Research also suggests that this is a narcissistic personality trait. A few commentators couldn’t help but point out that her lack of empathy and her extremely selfish behavior towards her own family made it pretty clear that she’s a narcissist. 

    Not only did they call out her mean girl behavior, but netizens also felt that she tried to play the victim card as she came on Reddit looking for validation. It has been observed that “people high in narcissism may see themselves as victims of interpersonal transgressions more often than people not living with the disorder.” Well, it’s a good thing that she got a reality check from them.

    Folks online also highlighted the way she spoke with her father, and they felt that it was very disrespectful. Instead of acknowledging her mistake, she just made things worse by fighting with her father. Seems like some people never learn. Wouldn’t you be frustrated too if you were in her brother’s shoes? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

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    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are plenty of stories posted here about people being exploited as babysitters. This is not one of them.

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem is stupid people who’ve seen a lotta posts from people saying “I’m child-free by choice, so care for your own children!” and assumed they can use it, too, even when its entirely inappropriate like in this case. They’re lacking in critical thinking skills, and the dumbest of them complain about being “parentified” when they’re simply asked for a favor like in this one. (OT: The expression *was* “palm something off,” the way a magician does with a coin or ball or something, and now it’s become “p**n something off,” as if they’re getting a loan against something. How do we let dummies do this with sooo many expressions and words?)

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This feelslike ragebait. Why mention the size of the house at all? It's not even remotely relevant. I'm the most anti-"but they're family" and even I can see this has less to do with "family helps family" and just being a decent person.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The house size and the fact that the groomer was in the Mall. Where the groomer is has nothing to do with the story, it was added to make it sound like she was out shopping. A ragebait story sounds correct.

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    Babs McGurk
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you never have an emergency situation and need to count on your brother for help. And... it's AISLE, not ISLE.

    Caffeinated Ape
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many people walking down the isle lately, are they all getting married at the beach? /s

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    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wow...as a dog person that is childfree and doesn't like kids. YTA

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a cat person that is childfree and doesn't like kids. I agree.

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    Papa
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought it was interesting that there were zero replies or updates from OP.

    J R
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is the ahole. If she really couldn't watch her brother's kids, she should have found a trusted family member or at minimumn let the brother know. But also, dropping your dog at the spa is not an emergency. She could have let her bf do that while she stayed behind to watch the kids. Sure, it's disappointing not to go to the mall, but this is an emergency. I'm sure someone will say that no one is obligated to child sit, and that's true. But you get out of a relationship what you put into it. If OP isn't willing to be mildly inconvenienced when her brother and sil need help, then there may come a time when she needs help and they decide they don't want to help her.

    VNES101
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not just take the kids to the mall with you?

    CD King
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like this may be a made up story by the writers of AITA but by chance it’s true…. The op is a complete self involved a*****e. The mall doesn’t come ahead of a family emergency. The day will come she will need someone to take care of her dogs and the family won’t be there.

    Robin Roper
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She didn't want to cancel her plans and that was selfish and short sighted.

    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am child free but this is dreadful! Family members stand up for each other when emergencies happen. No, I won't babysit for a night out, but I'll be there when the chips are down. OP makes all us childless by choice people look horrid.

    Southie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op is a total b*tch. Dumps the kids for the mall. Then threatens her father to cut him out of walking her down the aisle. Spoiled much?

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was a broken leg not a life threatening emergency. The kids are not babies and they are allowed in hospitals.

    CaliPanda
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not always, and certainly not everywhere in hospitals. Also, the brother needed to focus on his wife’s health, not on corralling the kids.

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    Alexandra
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Refusing to keep the kids company is unreasonable. You can go to the dog spa another day. Even though everyone has the right to make their own choices, OP has shown that she can't be counted on to help which in turn will mean that people will probably think twice if OP needs help.

    Sara Shamsabadi
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this person sounds as dumb as a door k**b....what a selfish human

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's wrong with the kids that a 9 and 7 yo can't be at their own home for a few hours?

    Crystalwitch60
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    2 months ago

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    Might be 4 yr old but WTF op YTA 1mil percent 🤬I’d love an update 😂I’m both a mum and a dog owner lol bloody doggy spa holy hell get a life 😂( yeah ok so I can and do groom n lamer my own dogs lol trained to vi rescue I worked in ) but dam ,I’m with your brother I’d have gone freaking nuke on you , !, just cos you choose to be child free does not equal selfish obnoxious,entitled s k a n k !! I only left my kids with someone once ,. When I went in to hospital to have my son lol we had pre arranged with a neighbour to watch her when I went in to labour , the rest of the time , ie when I tore my medial ligament on right knee badly , they came with us , however you were asked ,in AN EMERGENCY OMFG ,n as for the size of your house u entitled brat , eugh i hope the brother never left his kids either her again , so glad she don’t want them either vile inhumane!

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 months ago

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    She had plans, and he didn't give her a choice. It doesn't matter Where her appointment was, the word is being used to make her look bad, but she had an appointment nonetheless. She should have called him and told him that she was handing the kids off because he ran before she could tell him No. ESH except the friend who watched over the kids.

    Papa
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her plans were not important enough to not help her brother with a medical emergency. And no, she should not have called her brother to tell him that she had handed the children over to her friend because SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE HANDED THE CHILDREN OFF TO SOMEONE WHO IS A COMPLETE STRANGER TO THE PARENTS. By the way, I'm guessing you don't have children.

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    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are plenty of stories posted here about people being exploited as babysitters. This is not one of them.

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem is stupid people who’ve seen a lotta posts from people saying “I’m child-free by choice, so care for your own children!” and assumed they can use it, too, even when its entirely inappropriate like in this case. They’re lacking in critical thinking skills, and the dumbest of them complain about being “parentified” when they’re simply asked for a favor like in this one. (OT: The expression *was* “palm something off,” the way a magician does with a coin or ball or something, and now it’s become “p**n something off,” as if they’re getting a loan against something. How do we let dummies do this with sooo many expressions and words?)

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This feelslike ragebait. Why mention the size of the house at all? It's not even remotely relevant. I'm the most anti-"but they're family" and even I can see this has less to do with "family helps family" and just being a decent person.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The house size and the fact that the groomer was in the Mall. Where the groomer is has nothing to do with the story, it was added to make it sound like she was out shopping. A ragebait story sounds correct.

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    Babs McGurk
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you never have an emergency situation and need to count on your brother for help. And... it's AISLE, not ISLE.

    Caffeinated Ape
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many people walking down the isle lately, are they all getting married at the beach? /s

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    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wow...as a dog person that is childfree and doesn't like kids. YTA

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a cat person that is childfree and doesn't like kids. I agree.

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    Papa
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought it was interesting that there were zero replies or updates from OP.

    J R
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is the ahole. If she really couldn't watch her brother's kids, she should have found a trusted family member or at minimumn let the brother know. But also, dropping your dog at the spa is not an emergency. She could have let her bf do that while she stayed behind to watch the kids. Sure, it's disappointing not to go to the mall, but this is an emergency. I'm sure someone will say that no one is obligated to child sit, and that's true. But you get out of a relationship what you put into it. If OP isn't willing to be mildly inconvenienced when her brother and sil need help, then there may come a time when she needs help and they decide they don't want to help her.

    VNES101
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not just take the kids to the mall with you?

    CD King
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like this may be a made up story by the writers of AITA but by chance it’s true…. The op is a complete self involved a*****e. The mall doesn’t come ahead of a family emergency. The day will come she will need someone to take care of her dogs and the family won’t be there.

    Robin Roper
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She didn't want to cancel her plans and that was selfish and short sighted.

    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am child free but this is dreadful! Family members stand up for each other when emergencies happen. No, I won't babysit for a night out, but I'll be there when the chips are down. OP makes all us childless by choice people look horrid.

    Southie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op is a total b*tch. Dumps the kids for the mall. Then threatens her father to cut him out of walking her down the aisle. Spoiled much?

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was a broken leg not a life threatening emergency. The kids are not babies and they are allowed in hospitals.

    CaliPanda
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not always, and certainly not everywhere in hospitals. Also, the brother needed to focus on his wife’s health, not on corralling the kids.

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    Alexandra
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Refusing to keep the kids company is unreasonable. You can go to the dog spa another day. Even though everyone has the right to make their own choices, OP has shown that she can't be counted on to help which in turn will mean that people will probably think twice if OP needs help.

    Sara Shamsabadi
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this person sounds as dumb as a door k**b....what a selfish human

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's wrong with the kids that a 9 and 7 yo can't be at their own home for a few hours?

    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    2 months ago

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    Might be 4 yr old but WTF op YTA 1mil percent 🤬I’d love an update 😂I’m both a mum and a dog owner lol bloody doggy spa holy hell get a life 😂( yeah ok so I can and do groom n lamer my own dogs lol trained to vi rescue I worked in ) but dam ,I’m with your brother I’d have gone freaking nuke on you , !, just cos you choose to be child free does not equal selfish obnoxious,entitled s k a n k !! I only left my kids with someone once ,. When I went in to hospital to have my son lol we had pre arranged with a neighbour to watch her when I went in to labour , the rest of the time , ie when I tore my medial ligament on right knee badly , they came with us , however you were asked ,in AN EMERGENCY OMFG ,n as for the size of your house u entitled brat , eugh i hope the brother never left his kids either her again , so glad she don’t want them either vile inhumane!

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 months ago

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    She had plans, and he didn't give her a choice. It doesn't matter Where her appointment was, the word is being used to make her look bad, but she had an appointment nonetheless. She should have called him and told him that she was handing the kids off because he ran before she could tell him No. ESH except the friend who watched over the kids.

    Papa
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her plans were not important enough to not help her brother with a medical emergency. And no, she should not have called her brother to tell him that she had handed the children over to her friend because SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE HANDED THE CHILDREN OFF TO SOMEONE WHO IS A COMPLETE STRANGER TO THE PARENTS. By the way, I'm guessing you don't have children.

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