There are very obvious red flags that show up right away and are a clear sign that the relationship isn’t worth developing. But most of the time, the red flags are more subtle and are easier to dismiss as a one-off thing or a not-so-serious character flaw that doesn’t mean anything. Those subtle signs are the most important to catch as they may indicate that the person is hiding something more serious.
People on Reddit discussed what are some red flags that are related to cooking that might mean that the person isn’t the right fit. Many of them not only shared what cooking habits they find alarming, but they also spoke about signs that, from their own experience, were red flags.
Would you add anything to this list? Which habit that people mentioned do you think is a solid sign to rethink the relationship? Let us know in the comments!
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There was a letter to an advice column years ago, from a woman convinced her mother in law was slightly poisoning her every time they went to her house for dinner.
After every meal she grew violently ill and threw up/had diarrhea.
When she told her husband her suspicion he said she was crazy. His mother was a saint who adored her and would die before hurting her.
The advice columnist urged the wife to swap her plate with her husband’s during the next dinner. The woman wrote back saying she followed the advice and it was her husband who became violently ill after the meal.
When she told him what she’d done she said he looked at her with such loathing she realized he’d suspected what his mom was doing all along but, instead of standing up for her, he decided to gaslight her about her suspicions to avoid upsetting his mom.
Talk about your red flags.
I found the original: Dear Prudence, My mother-in-law hates me and makes no bones about it when she and I are alone. My husband doesn’t believe me, and she even gloats about that. We have to attend family functions at her home about once a month. (It used to be more frequent, but after I put my foot down, my husband agreed that monthly would be sufficient.) The problem is that after each visit, I wind up with a bad case of diarrhea; my husband does not. I don’t know if the other in-laws are affected, because if I asked, it would get back to her. I suspect that my mother-in-law is putting something in my food or drink. Last time, I barely made it home before being struck down. Now I am considering getting some “adult undergarments” to make sure I don’t ruin the car’s upholstery on the ride home from her place. Do you have any other advice? —Running for the Hills
Refusing to regularly take over the responsibility for providing meals.
God bless him, my late father could *not* cook. He could manage a few basics, would help by fixing sides dishes, but anything more complicated, well.... Nope.
That said both he and my Mom worked fairly long days at not-easy jobs. Still, Mom was usually the one who was responsible for dinner.
But there were evenings when Mom walked in the door, dropped her bad, and announced, " I'm not cooking."
Dad, while hopeless at cooking, was not stupid, and replied with, " Where do you want to go?"
Yes, we were lucky to be able to eat out regularly. But that aside, that one exchange was a fantastic example of how they stayed married for nearly 40 years.
It didn't matter that Dad couldn't cook; what mattered was that it was no longer Mom's problem.
We usually went out to a typical family restaurant. But sometimes it was McDonalds. Sometimes we ordered pizza. Sometimes it was declared an "every man for himself" night, and everybody, including us kids, just fixed ourselves something.
But the big thing was Dad was always willing to take over for Mom when needed. And *that* was why it worked.
I cook a lot for my family. Occasionally my parents will do the cooking.
When they don’t know how to cook, refuse to cook, but are super picky when you cook for them. Nope nope nope
I once decided to cook for a girl I was dating. It was pretty fresh at the time, third time I had seen her. I thought it might be nice to cook, have a wine and chat etc. as you do. While I was cooking she told me to stop talking so much and hurry up because she was hungry in a rude, annoyed tone. That turned me off to the point I didn’t see her again after that night!
That a*****e on YouTube who is tricking his vegetarian wife into loving the taste of meat.
Sneaking animal products into things she believes is meat free.
Huge piece of s**t. Unless it's all b******t for getting views, then mild piece of s**t.
If it's this way it's really awful. But nowadays I, unfortunately, less and less believe in (prank) content created. Just be a descent human being. (Sorry for possibly bad English)
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Once I accidentally ate meat about 2 years after becoming vegetarian (accidentally because it was bacon bits on Mac n cheese that I thought were bread crumbs) and got super sick, vomiting in a campground bathroom at night. Doing this can make be extremely dangerous!
Simply accept the way others eat, what is so hard about it?! Let her be vegetarian, let him be meat-eater, why would hendo such a stupid thing?
In reply to one of the other replies…not all vegetarians or vegans try to get others to be meat free. I’ve been vegan for over 32 years. At family get togethers we accommodated everyone. Family would try their best for us. I had two amazing daughters in law that fixed wonderful vegan food.
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I'm an omnivore myself, but sneaking something into someone's food the cook knows the eater finds objectionable is NOT OK. I wouldn't feed an observant Jew or Muslim anything with pork in it, either.
My younger brother would bring his Jewish friend to that family meal. His family was doing a traditional jewish Thanksgiving meal while HE was chowing down ham. Bad Jew or open minded human?
Load More Replies... Not the same thing, but I had a roommate who had the palette of an 8 count box of crayons. I made homemade sloppy joes once. He wouldn't quit raving about them, couldn't stop eating them, practically licked the pan clean. "Dude, what did you put in this sauce, it's amazing?" Me: "Trust me, you don't want to know." Him: C'mon, man." Me: "Literally everything you say you hate. First, that's not beef, it's venison and rabbit, second, it's got green peppers, red peppers, mushrooms, an entire Vidalia onion in it, and garlic, all minced with a cheese grater. It's literally made of ONLY everything you say you 'can't stand' on a daily basis. Nobody said you had to eat it, you smelled it and just dove in, not my fault."
I've been pescatarian for years now, if I eat red meat, it will upset my stomach. I've accidentally ingested ground beef before and that's exactly what happened.
This is disgusting, if it's not a stunt for views. Vegans are fine, cool, good you wanna do that, don't make me though. And not everyone you meet needs to know. The Walmart cashier doesn't care if you're vegan. Also, stop. Making. Pets. Vegan. They are NOT herbivores! Really, vegans? Feeding tiny tigers and wolves carrots and hoping they won't suffer is wrong. Cuz that's what you're doing. These guys evolved to eat meat.
Why would you do that? Hope the wife decided to divorce him, once she SEES THE VIDEOS HE'S POSTING ONLINE!
How do you know if someone is vegan/vegetarian??? They tell you...again, and again, and again...
That's just shītty. Noone should try to force their diet on people. Just let each other be.
Even if you don't agree with another person diet choices, don't be an a ss hole about it.
Even worse? A vegetarian accepting an invite for dinner and then throwing a tantrum when the menu isn't changed last-minute just to suit their proclivity.
No. If you want vegetarian if I invite you to dinner, PLEASE bring your own
People don't go meat-free for taste; they do it out of a conviction that meat products are unethical to consume.
Untrue. My husband's dear cousin always disliked eating meat. She's a vegetarian, now it's been 50 years. Hubby's going on 35 years a veggie. Some do it for taste.
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I think it's staged, because she has many opportunities to check his channel and they all have him somehow distracting her with something random and it somehow working long enough for him to be able to put the meat on ( this is just my opinion, if you do not have anything nice to say about my opinion just do not comment)
Yes. Absolutely. Total disrespect. Makes you wonder what other boundaries they're crossing, since they obviously can't be trusted.
Seriously? Long term vegans\vegetarians have issues digesting meat. Please do not do this, you can make people very sick.
Or just simply adding something their partner don't like, and see if they find out.
Like when your partner and kids don't like veggies but they need to eat healthy so we sneak them into food..
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I’m so angry reading this! My family are always trying to make me eat meat, I would be fuming if they ever dared tampering with my food.
Why do all that when fake burgers are easily available if they want the same-ish thing.
That is food tampering and a criminal offense. If I knew who this was, I would report him to Youtube for criminal activity and get him banned. You do NOT mess with anyone's food, no matter who they are.
If it’s not hurting anyone, leave it be. I couldn’t pull off a vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. Something for me though, I can eat an animal and be okay, but if I have to kill the animal myself, watch it get killed, or see it before it gets killed, I won’t eat it.
This goes both ways. Just yesterday on reddit r/vegan was a post about a girl secretly throwing out HER boyfriend's meat and sneaking him vegan options into his food to force him to eat it. That's just as messed up, but the vegans on that sub were laughing and celebrating such a despicable, underhanded act. No one should force anyone to eat something they morally do not want to est, be it making a vegan eat meat, making an omnivore eat fake meat, making Muslims or Jews eat pork, etc.
I agree that's awful. I also have a friend who is vegan, who delights in sneaking vegan substitutes into omnis' food. Though it's not as horrid as feeding a person a food they specifically don't want to eat, I think that lying to.a person about what's in their food is just skeevey all around. If you can't be honest about what you're feeding a person, refuse to cook for them.
What a jerk he is. Deliberately trying to deceive her. I wouldn't trust him with anything else either.
Stfu dumbass. Humans should not be vegetarian. It's not in our DNA. We are supposed to eat meat. Anyone who doesn't is literally going against their programmed instincts and negatively effecting their self. Idgaf what anyone says, avoiding meat is not normal. Ppl who avoid it meat have serious mental problems.
For those applauding the awful spouse, know you are also applauding any consequences the wife had to deal with. If you are a long term vegetarian, or even lifelong, your body *will not* be prepared to handle meat!! Your body adjusts the gut bacteria to your diet. So if you eat something extremely different like an entire type of protein source not just the meat type itself, then you'll probably have at least some cramping and discomfort at worst lots of pain and other symptoms as your body tries to deal with something so foreign. Everyone is entitled to their tastes and preferences. They are not missing out on anything. You worry about your own consumption thanks.
That would result in a divorce as far as I'm concerned. My sister's family is vegan, but not the typical militant a*****e type. When I cook for them it's no problem to make spaghetti & have the Italian sausage on the side. I keep vegan butter in the freezer, no big deal. But I would never disrespect their food choice by serving them something I KNEW wasn't vegan. And if I'm unsure, I just ask.
My mom did this by total accident. She and the family were visiting from Florida to spend the holiday with me and our Arizona family. She was cutting up the gizzard and livers to go in the stuffing, and she totally forgot to tell my vegetarian aunt about the meat in the stuffing. It wasn't done maliciously, but my brother and sister thought it was quite funny.
I will never be vegan but that wrong what he did. I can not imagine how I'd react of someone sneaked in tripe or liver etc in my food. Nothing wrong if you enjoy eating it but everyone has his or her person preferences when it comes to what they eat. The guy was just wrong..
I've been a vegetarian for 35 years. I loved the taste of meat, but not factory farms and cruelty. I'd never impose it on anyone else. This would make me feel sick AND furious!
Why would you do that?! Many people like the taste of meat, they just choose to not eat it. THEY CHOOSE THAT bc they are entitled to do so! Talk about disrespecting your partner. That's a disgusting human being. Personally, I haven't come across too many meats I wouldn't eat, but I'd never trick a person into eating meat if they didn't want to eat it.
I can't believe there are people that think that dude's channel is legit. He's doing it for the content. It's not real. It's a satire channel.
There’s a disease called PKU, and the sufferers cannot eat much in the way of proteins and meats, because they’re unable to digest and process them. Subbing someone food is dangerous and can be deadly. As someone found out when they got my $900 ambulance bill, because they thought it was hilarious to sneak black beans into my food after being TOLD I am deathly allergic. I went straight into anaphylaxis and was hospitalized for two days because of a biphasic reaction. Because, you know, it’s just sooooo funny to fk with someone’s life because of a food allergy. 🙄😑
I’m vegan and would never try and trick the fam with non meat substitutes. Although, my husband has accidentally eaten what I make for myself, while making the same dish veganized and not and professed how good it was… Until I told him it was mine, anyway lol. I really think it’s just the word “vegan” that turns people off. As I’m pretty damned awesome at veganizing staple meals.
But there are vegans who do try to trick people. And there are vegans who get up in people's faces when they are eating meat.
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My issue with it is that his wife eats plant-based meat, so she already likes the taste if meat. Or she wouldn't be eating fake meat. No matter the reason, it's never OK to sneak something into someone's food.
It's funny tho that vegans have fake meat products. Like you have the whole rest of food to work with why do you want a pretend version of the thing you hate?
Because they don't hate the taste, but the fact it's a dead animal, Sherlock.
Load More Replies... What if she’s not eating meat because she has a meat allergy? I can’t eat pork because I am allergic to it. If I eat even one serving of some thing made of or with pork, I guarantee you it would have some downright painful, if not worse, effects! Having found out the hard way as a late teenager/early young adult, I would be very upset with a significant other doing something like this to me because he thought otherwise to say the least!! I am so grateful that it’s never happened to me!
Eating animal products can make you sick if you aren’t used to it. Becomes like a food allergy. I’m vegan so I don’t eat any animal products. So I might be a bit different. But it didn’t take long for my body to tell me very disrespectfully if there was anything in the food that should not be.
Not that different from the vegan who insists the whole family or party serve only vegan food ...
If you are cooking for/serving someone who is vegetarian, you are responsible for providing them a meat-free meal.
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Stepfather refused to believe I didnt like kidneys. Had to leave the table when he offered me a big forkful.
I am okay with that, just shows that's a completely arbitrary restriction and nothing that has a real impact on your body. People are just pissed because meat tastes good.
Omfg this post and these comments those videos are a joke he doesn't actually give her meat idiots
It’s bs luckily, someone would track her o. Social media by now I believe if not though I swear I will hunt him down
I have two (now grown) children that are vegetarians. Before this, they loved a dish I made that had cream of chicken soup in it. They didn't realize it, because they weren't vegetarians at the time and no discussion seemed necessary. You can't really tell it's in there, but when they asked my to make it after becoming vegetarian, I told them it had that in it. They were sad, but opted not to eat it. I cannot fathom a time where I would "fool" them into eating meat. Frankly, if I wasn't such a picky eater, I wouldn't either.
My daughter to extremely allergic to dairy but waiters/cooks will sometimes not care about our mentioning it. She gets a severe migraine, diarrhea and upset stomach that can last 8 hours. Please respect people’s food limitations. As a young adult I did not but now I do.
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Being a full grown adult that waits to be cooked for. Knowing full well, his spouse might also be working full time. But they won't lift a finger to grab dinner on the way home or if already home toss something in the microwave.
You cook and they dont help clean
Well, when I cook, I use minimum dishes and tidy up while cooking. My better half on the other hand leaves the kitchen like a tornado hit it, so I do refuse to clean up after she cooks.
Touching the oven when I'm cooking. Had a friend "fix" the oven while I was reverse searing ribeyes a few years back so they'd cook faster. You know what happens to a ribeye when you leave it in the oven at 375 for an hour?
She did the same to a rack of ribs on another occasion. Saw that the grill was set to low and thought "That can't be right." Jacked it up to high without telling anybody, and treated us to a nice rack of charcoal chips for dinner.
She should have learned the first time. If she was my friend, she would get a blunt warning to not mess with my cooking again.
Haven’t seen cleanliness yet.
I’m not talking about pots, pans and dishes after (that should be negotiated or depends on who invited who. But one should always offer to help).
I’m talking about during preparation and cooking. For example, if you handle raw meat, you should use soap and warm water before touching anything else. Any possible contamination on a counter top, …
We were at a bbq and thankfully I was watching while he started brushing sauce from the bag (where the raw meat came from) onto the fully cooked chicken he was just about to serve! Salmonella anyone??
I knew a guy who dropped his $1 bottle of spaghetti sauce, jar broke in the bag. He goes and makes spaghetti…. With sauce. We ask if this is the same sauce…. Yup! He just pulled the chunks of glass out of it 😳. I do not eat that spaghetti or anything he cooked after that
Saying they are allergic to some ingredients but later admit they "just don't like the texture."
I get the texture thing, I hate mushy slimy myself. But ffs don't pull the "I am allergic to mushrooms/peas/onions/tomatoes" thing.
And don't give others grief if they don't like the texture. I hate the texture of onions. Can't stand them. Don't even like to see them. If I had a dollar for every time someone gave me $H!T about it, I'd be able to hire someone to destroy all the onions in the world.
people who won’t eat leftovers
This can very much depend. My husband won't eat leftovers because the leftovers he was fed as a child were the result of the cheapest nastiest sh1t that he barely ate it before it became leftovers. Oh, and his leftovers weren't what was left in the dish unserved, they were the scraping back off the plate. So yeah, we don't do leftovers, thanks for your judgment.
I love to cook. My ex-boyfriend was a really picky eater. So i tried to make things without the ingredients he doesnt like. But several times after i cooked he said "im just gonna order something". I know it sounds like im a bad cook, but thats not the case. I worked in a kitchen for years and my friends all love my food. I still get pissed when i think about the time i just wanted him to tast my soup, just a little spoon. He refused because he was gonna order shoarma and didnt wanna ruin the 'before taste'.
If they are purposefully cooking things that their partner does not like or worse, that they are allergic to.
Well deppending on the case this might be a good thing, when i was a kid ( toddler ) i was alérgic to eegs, só my pediatritian advised my Mother to give me just a bit of egg every now and again, and it did work, i can eat eggs with no isues whatsoever, of course i only had a light reaction, and my Mother was advised by a doctor, don't f*****g do the same to a person that hás severe alergies, you might kill the poor bastard lol.
Making fun of your diet restrictions.
I get it often because I'm allergic to peppercorns. No I don't sneeze. Yes I could die with a large enough quantity. Sorry you've never heard of someone's throat closing up from pepper but I assure you I'm not lying. Please don't try to test me; small amounts will only give slight breathing issues but I really enjoy breathing normal. It's not cute mocking me or slowly pushing the pepper shaker or grinder slowly towards me.
The last time I saw this question posted, a guy responded saying that his wife only makes one thing at a time when making a meal. Mashed potatoes until they’re done, then beginning the meat, etc. He hadn’t had a hot meal in years. That comment still haunts me.
Not having any spices at all in your kitchen
I always say that a good, varied spice cabinet is an investment. Learn how to use them properly and you can make anything taste amazing, even if you're broke and eating spaghetti for the fifth night in a row. I always make sauces from scratch because it's cheaper and I have the spices for it.
Not being the one who's chore it is to clean something doesn't give you license to make more work than necessary for someone else. It's a huge red flag when you and your partner have the alternating "one cooks, other cleans" chore cycle and your partner completely *trashes* the kitchen every time it's their turn to cook. I'm talking leaving out ingredients, spilling and splashing stuff everywhere, dirtying way more cookware than needed, or cooking in a way that leaves burnt on residue so you have to deep clean.
When I was still married to my ex I always tried to keep things neat when I cooked and he always left a huge mess. Turns out its a big warning sign that they don't value your time or have consideration for your feelings.
Being a full-grown adult who doesn’t know how to cook
Depends. A young adult, just left the nest, might not have been taught. If willing to learn, great. An adult who can follow recipe instructions but is a meh cook due to lack of interest, as long as honest and appreciative of others cooking, fine. An adult who doesn't know how to cook even the simplest thing and refuses to learn on the other hand...
Not necessarily cooking but it's a pet peeve of mine when people buy things and just, don't eat them but throw them away... watched my ex purchase a wonderful looking ice cream, sit and let it melt for half an hour, then get up and throw it away.
My ex wife wanted to make meatloaf when we were first married. I was like cool I love meatloaf. So she pulled this meatloaf out of the oven when I got home. It was a slightly charred sad looking meatball floating in grease. She was apologetic about it but I didn't say s**t about it. I have never complained about her cooking anything. I made meatloaf a few weeks later and she loved it and wanted to know what I put in it. I told her and asked her how she makes meatloaf. She said you take some meat and put it in a pan. No egg, salt, pepper, ketchup. Just meat. I was like yep this is going to take some work. Turns out she was overconfident about everything and just winged it.
When they put your best knives in the dishwasher
Cough ... I recently ruined a knife with a wooden handle by putting it in the dishwasher then leaving it unemptied for I don't know how long
My ex thought that "browning" ground meat meant leaving it in the fridge til it turned brown.
someone who judges my personal tastes so strongly that they allow it to threaten a (potential) relationship
And the two above this for me qre not trusting or liking people who dont eat pizza or use garlic or garlic powder. Irony.
Saying that MSG is extremely bad for food.
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I was slow smoking racks of ribs on my outdoor grill one holiday weekend, as usual. One of my next-door neighbor's guests came out on her porch and said: "Grandma, your barbecue smells wonderful! I can't wait for supper!" "THAT'S NOT MINE!!!!" was angrily shouted from inside her place. I had to go inside to laugh.
Mine was asking my partner if she wanted some of the food I was going to prepare, she says no, waits till it's cooked then decide that she wants some. Drives me crazy, sharing means that I'm now hungry because I have only eaten half of a meal, cooking more in anticipation of this nonsense means that we end up wasting food because sometimes she does not actually want some.
My wife used to do this too so I'm glad I'm not alone. I'd say I was going to make something and ask if she wanted any. She'd say no so I ask if she's sure and she'd say no again. Inevitably she'd then come into the kitchen and say "that smells nice, is there enough for me to have some". I'd share but as I was only cooking one portion there was never enough. In the end I just started to refuse, saying I asked her several times beforehand and there just isn't enough (which was true). Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore but it had to put up with a few silent treatments before it sunk in.
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No one mentioned using a cast iron skillet and then leaving it soaking in the sink instead of cleaning it.
it's ok if they're doing that to loosen the gunk from the ribs in the pan. If however they leave it there indefinitely that is a no go
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Not sure if red flag, but it annoys me really a lot - when someone grabs salt, pepper, or any kind of seasoning and starts to season his meal without tasting it first. Ugh
When I cook, my husband cleans. He usually cleans, anyway. But he enjoys cleaning (has told me so, genuinely, on several occasions). He does most of the cleaning, laundry, and childcare at home, as he's disabled, and doesn't work. I'm the breadwinner. I'm also neurodivergent, and he knows how exhausting the world can be for me. So when I come home, he wants me to rest, while he takes care of me. I have a winner. 😊❤️ I do make a bit of a mess sometimes, when I cook. But I try to at least wipe the counters (and any spills), rinse the dishes I use, and stack them neatly in the sink, lol.
I'm a great cook. My ex mil was not a good cook. So everytime I cooked my ex would say don't make that again. Before I left him I was making hamburger helper 5 days a week. He had also heard that you put spices in your cooking at the end. I could not get him to understand that was for fresh spices not dried. His spaghetti sauce was can of tomato sauce heated then spices thrown in for about 2 mins (dried spices) then served it over noodles. It was horrible. But he thought it was the most fantastic meal. Note: red flag for relationships and cooking if they put ketchup on something before even tasting it they didn't grow up eating or learning to cook food with flavor. My ex and ex-mil both would put ketchup on their food before tasting when mil cooked. I never understood till the first time I ate her cooking. Bad just plain bad cooking. Roast cooked on a top of the stove. Not oven not crock pot. In a fry pan. Nope
My ex-husband did so many weird things on our first date that should have been red flags but I somehow overlooked them. No regrets as I can't imagine my world wo my children. Not food related but for starters he would not tell me where we were going and told me to dress casual. I asked what casual was to him, he said Jeans wo holes and clean sneakers. Ok fine. I was nicely dressed but he showed up in a suit and tie and I was very under dressed for the restaurant. Then the reservation was in my name. He made it but used me name. But the biggest thing was when he ordered he asked that every item he placed on it own plate as apparently he did not like his foods to touch! He also ate one plate at a time until it was done. So all the meat then all the potatoes then all the veggies. I was young and thought it was weird but funny. It was a huge read flag hitting me in my naive face. When someone shows you who they are believe them!
Not disagreeing with you on the other stuff, but the seprate plate thing could be a sensory issues thing. Even if it wasn't for him, it often is, in general. I have sensory issues, and I don't like certain foods touching, because the juices from one change the taste/texture of another. I have divided plates at home, lol. I don't always ask for seprate plates, at a restaurant. But if I'm getting something that has a lot.of juices, like a steak, I will politely ask that my fries be served separately.
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About 40 years ago, my boyfriend invited me over for dinner. He asked that I start the cooking while he showered. He had something I'd never seen before called Hamburger Helper. So I browned the beef and was draining the grease when he returned. He asked what I was doing. He had apparently never bothered removing excess grease from ground beef before.
Hair! And over reacting! And all the variety of this. The fine line from tolerating "that one hair found once", to "every single time" "in every damn plate", to "demanding that you should get dressed like an astronaut every time you cook because of this one incident two years ago"
my red flag: person only liked really bland food, like plain rice. I mean, food is life. If you're going to do that then why bother living at all?
Autism, mate. Pretty rude to say someone shouldn't live because they prefer plainer food tastes.
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#14. I don't see this as a red flag. For example, I hate mayonnaise (and most other sauces) in sandwiches to the extent I'd rather starve than eat it. And simply requesting no mayo in the sandwich from fast food places doesn't work, most times they ignore the request and I end up with mayo in a sandwich I won't eat. I've had to specify I'm allergic to mayo in order for them to get my order correct. #36. He sounds like a huge a*****e tbh. His wife cooks dinner and has to see about a baby and he's complaining that the cleanliness of the place isn't up to his standards? Taking care of a child and dinner is absolutely not easy work. How hard is is to pitch in help instead of complaining. Working doesn't excuse anything when it's also your child, your household and your dinner.
How are most of these red flags? Most of these problems seem to stem from people never having been corrected, maybe never having anyone teach them. Did they at least TRY to talk about how to treat the knives, or how to season things, before judging the other person? I am glad for people who are brought up to know "everything" about cooking, but isn't the worst Red flag for a relationship when the person who CAN won't teach/help out the person who CAN'T? Otherwise, it's just a matter of superiority and prejudice.
I was using my nice little paring knife to debone some meat. A few days later I couldn't find the knife and realized I tossed it in the trash with the scraps I removed. I dug through the trash until I found the stinking mass of slimy decaying fat and found my knife. Took a while to clean the handle. Wife thought I was nuts, but I like that little knife.
I was slow smoking racks of ribs on my outdoor grill one holiday weekend, as usual. One of my next-door neighbor's guests came out on her porch and said: "Grandma, your barbecue smells wonderful! I can't wait for supper!" "THAT'S NOT MINE!!!!" was angrily shouted from inside her place. I had to go inside to laugh.
Mine was asking my partner if she wanted some of the food I was going to prepare, she says no, waits till it's cooked then decide that she wants some. Drives me crazy, sharing means that I'm now hungry because I have only eaten half of a meal, cooking more in anticipation of this nonsense means that we end up wasting food because sometimes she does not actually want some.
My wife used to do this too so I'm glad I'm not alone. I'd say I was going to make something and ask if she wanted any. She'd say no so I ask if she's sure and she'd say no again. Inevitably she'd then come into the kitchen and say "that smells nice, is there enough for me to have some". I'd share but as I was only cooking one portion there was never enough. In the end I just started to refuse, saying I asked her several times beforehand and there just isn't enough (which was true). Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore but it had to put up with a few silent treatments before it sunk in.
Load More Replies... No one mentioned using a cast iron skillet and then leaving it soaking in the sink instead of cleaning it.
it's ok if they're doing that to loosen the gunk from the ribs in the pan. If however they leave it there indefinitely that is a no go
Load More Replies... Not sure if red flag, but it annoys me really a lot - when someone grabs salt, pepper, or any kind of seasoning and starts to season his meal without tasting it first. Ugh
When I cook, my husband cleans. He usually cleans, anyway. But he enjoys cleaning (has told me so, genuinely, on several occasions). He does most of the cleaning, laundry, and childcare at home, as he's disabled, and doesn't work. I'm the breadwinner. I'm also neurodivergent, and he knows how exhausting the world can be for me. So when I come home, he wants me to rest, while he takes care of me. I have a winner. 😊❤️ I do make a bit of a mess sometimes, when I cook. But I try to at least wipe the counters (and any spills), rinse the dishes I use, and stack them neatly in the sink, lol.
I'm a great cook. My ex mil was not a good cook. So everytime I cooked my ex would say don't make that again. Before I left him I was making hamburger helper 5 days a week. He had also heard that you put spices in your cooking at the end. I could not get him to understand that was for fresh spices not dried. His spaghetti sauce was can of tomato sauce heated then spices thrown in for about 2 mins (dried spices) then served it over noodles. It was horrible. But he thought it was the most fantastic meal. Note: red flag for relationships and cooking if they put ketchup on something before even tasting it they didn't grow up eating or learning to cook food with flavor. My ex and ex-mil both would put ketchup on their food before tasting when mil cooked. I never understood till the first time I ate her cooking. Bad just plain bad cooking. Roast cooked on a top of the stove. Not oven not crock pot. In a fry pan. Nope
My ex-husband did so many weird things on our first date that should have been red flags but I somehow overlooked them. No regrets as I can't imagine my world wo my children. Not food related but for starters he would not tell me where we were going and told me to dress casual. I asked what casual was to him, he said Jeans wo holes and clean sneakers. Ok fine. I was nicely dressed but he showed up in a suit and tie and I was very under dressed for the restaurant. Then the reservation was in my name. He made it but used me name. But the biggest thing was when he ordered he asked that every item he placed on it own plate as apparently he did not like his foods to touch! He also ate one plate at a time until it was done. So all the meat then all the potatoes then all the veggies. I was young and thought it was weird but funny. It was a huge read flag hitting me in my naive face. When someone shows you who they are believe them!
Not disagreeing with you on the other stuff, but the seprate plate thing could be a sensory issues thing. Even if it wasn't for him, it often is, in general. I have sensory issues, and I don't like certain foods touching, because the juices from one change the taste/texture of another. I have divided plates at home, lol. I don't always ask for seprate plates, at a restaurant. But if I'm getting something that has a lot.of juices, like a steak, I will politely ask that my fries be served separately.
Load More Replies... About 40 years ago, my boyfriend invited me over for dinner. He asked that I start the cooking while he showered. He had something I'd never seen before called Hamburger Helper. So I browned the beef and was draining the grease when he returned. He asked what I was doing. He had apparently never bothered removing excess grease from ground beef before.
Hair! And over reacting! And all the variety of this. The fine line from tolerating "that one hair found once", to "every single time" "in every damn plate", to "demanding that you should get dressed like an astronaut every time you cook because of this one incident two years ago"
my red flag: person only liked really bland food, like plain rice. I mean, food is life. If you're going to do that then why bother living at all?
Autism, mate. Pretty rude to say someone shouldn't live because they prefer plainer food tastes.
Load More Replies... #14. I don't see this as a red flag. For example, I hate mayonnaise (and most other sauces) in sandwiches to the extent I'd rather starve than eat it. And simply requesting no mayo in the sandwich from fast food places doesn't work, most times they ignore the request and I end up with mayo in a sandwich I won't eat. I've had to specify I'm allergic to mayo in order for them to get my order correct. #36. He sounds like a huge a*****e tbh. His wife cooks dinner and has to see about a baby and he's complaining that the cleanliness of the place isn't up to his standards? Taking care of a child and dinner is absolutely not easy work. How hard is is to pitch in help instead of complaining. Working doesn't excuse anything when it's also your child, your household and your dinner.
How are most of these red flags? Most of these problems seem to stem from people never having been corrected, maybe never having anyone teach them. Did they at least TRY to talk about how to treat the knives, or how to season things, before judging the other person? I am glad for people who are brought up to know "everything" about cooking, but isn't the worst Red flag for a relationship when the person who CAN won't teach/help out the person who CAN'T? Otherwise, it's just a matter of superiority and prejudice.
I was using my nice little paring knife to debone some meat. A few days later I couldn't find the knife and realized I tossed it in the trash with the scraps I removed. I dug through the trash until I found the stinking mass of slimy decaying fat and found my knife. Took a while to clean the handle. Wife thought I was nuts, but I like that little knife.
