Judging others—it’s something that we all do, all the time. Whether we’re aware of it or entirely subconsciously, we’re constantly evaluating and interpreting the world around us. Making comments about people and situations in our heads. Checking how the world conforms to how we imagine it should be like. And frowning upon anyone who litters!

After being prompted to open up by redditor u/supercoliofy, internet users began sharing the things that make them silently judge people. Taking a deep dive into their comments is enlightening: we’ve judged people for similar things; we’ve done some of the things in this list that deserve judgment.

Read on for some silent judgment-gone-loud, upvote the posts you agree with, and drop on by the comment section to share your opinions, dear Pandas. Do bamboo thieves make you angry? Do you think people give other bears more recognition? We’re very interested to hear what makes you silently judge someone.

Bored Panda reached out to Lee Chambers, a Psychologist and Wellbeing Consultant, to talk about why we judge other people, as well as what role this plays in our lives.

"Judging others is something that we as humans do, both consciously and automatically, and there are a number of reasons why we do it. Comically, we are often told as children not to judge others and have stories shared about how judging others can mean we upset them or lose opportunities to see what really lies behind our perception," he told Bored Panda. Scroll down for our interview with Lee!

#1

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I immediately judge you if you make fun of someone who's trying. I saw someone make fun of an overweight classmate despite the fact that he was doing diets, running, and exercising. He's putting an effort and you have no right to s**t on him.

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Loty
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3 months ago

When I see an overweight person in a gym I always silently say to myself "good for you"

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Psychologist Lee, the founder of Essentialise Workplace Wellbeing and PhenomGames, revealed to Bored Panda some of the reasons why we judge other people.

"Sometimes, we judge others to feel superior ourselves, finding faults in others, highlighting them, and feeling better about ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we use it to work out where we fit in, recognizing how we want to be, where our aspirations lie, and how we don't want to become," he said.

"Sometimes, it's in response to our own flaws, and we attack others for what we don't like or don't see into ourselves. And on other occasions, it's to fit into a wider group who judge something or someone, and we conform and perform with the same judgment."

#2

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who have no awareness of their surroundings when they're out in public.

It doesn't cost anything to wait your turn in a queue, hold a door open for someone, turn on your indicators 10 seconds earlier than you just did, or not block off the entire pavement because you want to hold hands with your husband / wife.

It's so selfish. Drives me mad just thinking about it.

Thank you for the gold, kind stranger.

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Serial pacifist
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3 months ago

This. People who cut lines, either in shops or on the road 🙅🏻‍♂️

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people who don't say please and thank you.

people who act like a d**k to service staff like cashiers and waiters.

people who generally show a lack of consideration to other people.

one thing my dad always told me: manners cost nothing.

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adiiantryx
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3 months ago

manners cost nothing but it pays to have them

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According to Lee, being judgmental can be good and it "does have some benefits when used mindfully," however.

"It can help us to set goals, find alignment with our values, it can help us to build the self-awareness of others and it can boost our self-esteem," he told Bored Panda.

"Add to that it can also help us to make positive social choices, and it's understanding how and why we judge that gives us the ability to use it for our benefits instead of escaping our flaws or pulling others down."

#4

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Littering. It hurts to watch, I don't see how people can litter.

Edit: Hey Cloin

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Brian Bennett
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3 months ago

I think it is what you are taught in the home this is something that needs to be learned from birth! If I tried it outside - would you do that at home?

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#5

I judge people for not washing their hands after using the bathroom

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3 months ago

OMG! YES! My OCD spikes out of control for things like this. End up getting panic attacks if I feel surrounded by too much of it😓

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Racism. In any form.

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Caro Caro
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3 months ago

Don't be silent about racism. Judge loud and clear. Make sure people hear your voice.

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Far from everyone makes errors with malicious intent. Quite often, people aren’t even aware that they’re making a mistake. Or they might not think that something that elicits judgment (like parking wrong or being late to meet someone all the friggin’ time) is actually that big of a deal. It’s selfishness and we’ve all got that, just in varying amounts.

We know that being self-aware of our own flaws is difficult. For one, nobody likes thinking that they’re less than perfect. Besides, we don’t have the luxury of seeing our behavior from a different perspective. That’s why it’s important to speak up if you see someone constantly making the same mistakes.

#7

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People When they have no knowledge of the topic but is still arguing to the person who actually has the knowledge. I mean seriously if you dont know what you're talking about then stfu

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Vicious Insect (they/them)
Community Member
3 months ago

I agree with Gordon here

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People having a ton of kids while poor

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lenka
Community Member
3 months ago

If you are poor, you probably don't have access to affordable birth control.

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#9

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who talk really loud on the phone in quiet public places.

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oktopus
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3 months ago

Sometimes it's fun to provide the other half of the conversation.

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If you don’t hear any criticism about what you do, then it’s only natural to assume you’re ‘perfect’ and ‘flawless.’ If there’s no feedback, how can we expect someone to learn? Overly selfish people don’t change their ways at the drop of a hat. It takes a series of moments of clarity to get them to think that maybe—just maybe—they might need to rethink some things. However, some individuals find it hard to get past the embarrassment that comes from realizing they’ve been making mistakes.

"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University explained to Bored Panda.

#10

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People walking toward you that don't put equal effort into avoiding collision. I'll move a bit, but you should do the same. You expect me to walk around you?

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Mrs_ Possum
Community Member
3 months ago

This! One time, 3 people were walking towards me side by side, taking up the entire pavement. I would have had to walk in the busy road to avoid them. They did not move over one inch. I just stopped in the pavement and looked at them. They also stopped in front of me until it got awkward and they grew enough social awareness to apologise... 😑

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#11

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Parents of unruly children

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

I don't judge silently about this. I give off a very pissed off vibe and looks to the parents. Keep your little buggers away from me and start parenting please.

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#12

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I can't stand people who piss on the toilet seat and don't clean it.

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postboredom
Community Member
3 months ago

How could you just leave your own urine and poop on a public toilet seat with a clear conscience? ಠ▃ಠ

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"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing."

One powerful way to change for the better is to become kinder, more altruistic, more giving. And there’s an added benefit, too—you’ll become happier while making the world a better place.

#13

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Not using a turn signal when driving. It's not that hard, and it's pretty arrogant not to use one

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Steve Barnett
Community Member
3 months ago

I think I've been the only BMW driver that used their turn signals. I’ve heard tales of others doing the same. But they're probably apocryphal and now lost in time.

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#14

I can't stand people who don't pick up their dog's s**t! You're a scumbag!

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Graham Chapman
Community Member
3 months ago

or those folks who leave doggy poo bags hanging from trees and bushes like weird Christmas decorations... they just can't be bothered to put it in the doggy bin..

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Being unjustifiably rude to waiters, sales associates, janitors, etc. (basically anyone who is being paid to perform a service for you)

It is extremely telling of a person's character.

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Mindghost
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

Saw a old, spoiled lady getting her bad character out on a approx. 20 y.o. waiter, because he didn't get the 6 wine glasses at the same filling level on first try. From then on, she always watched him and shook her head and said things like "i would be shamed soo much if i were him". Next morning (it was in a hotel) i overheard from her family that she got a stomach bug and diarrhea and can't make it to breakfast. Well deserved

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"The 10 keys to happier living are giving, relating, exercising, awareness, trying out, direction, resilience, emotions, acceptance, and meaning. We are likely to be happier if our lives have direction, meaning, and purpose and if we are part of something bigger than ourselves," Sarah Vero from ‘Action for Happiness’ told Bored Panda.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who bring children to situations that are not appropriate for children.

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lenka
Community Member
3 months ago

Mmm.... define 'appropriate' for children. The picture suggests an office. I don't judge for this. People don't want to bring their kids to offices and the like. If they do it's usually because they don't have any other option and they are doing the best they can with what they have. Bars and genuine inappropriate places and times are a different story.

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#17

Even worse are the people who play their music through their speakers on a trail. You're outside its gorgeous there are birds and s**t. Turn off you god damn music you're ruining it for the rest of us.

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troufaki13
Community Member
3 months ago

Or public transport, or anywhere public for that matter

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#18

Finally: "I judge people who complain about politics, but choose not to vote

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Andy Acceber
Community Member
3 months ago

Unless you can't legally vote. In my country, we have lots of people disenfranchised from voting, often for very petty reasons. If you're politically active and engaged in other ways, I figure you've earned your right to complain -- even if you can't vote.

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"Think about how you can reach out and do things for others, help a neighbor or volunteer for a cause, we get happiness high from helping other people. Or start small and simply list three things that you can be grateful for each night before bed. Take it slow and be kind to yourself,” she suggested how people can learn to open up to new experiences and helping others.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Parking.

If you can't get within the lines the first time, it's ok to adjust.

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

If you fu*k like you park you'll never get it in...

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Not paying attention to your screaming kid. Like not even trying.

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lenka
Community Member
3 months ago

Sometimes ignoring my screaming kid is the best discipline available. If s/he is having a stupid tantrum, I'm not going to feed it with attention. Depends on the tantrum and the reason of course, but your judgement does not affect my parenting.

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#21

People who chew with their mouths open

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Dimitrios Vougioukas
Community Member
3 months ago

I hate the mother f*ckers who do that

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#22

Throwing others under the bus in the work place for their own personal gain. Especially when they do it in front of a group of people,

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Raven Sheridan
Community Member
3 months ago

Stealing the credit for someone else's hard work, too!

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#23

I work at a Starbucks in a grocery store and I have two regulars with scrawny, super scraggly kids and they spend $7-$10 on one or two drinks while they yell at their kid for wanting a 75 cent doughnut.

The kicker is that they're paying with food stamps.

So that. I judge that.

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Steffen Rehm
Community Member
3 months ago

I feel sorry when mommy and daddy coming in for lots of beer and stronger stuff, but the kids got nothing.

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#24

When you tailgate me when there is a slow car in front of me. What a pointless action and people do it all the time. It accomplishes nothing except making the road even more dangerous than it already is.

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Ally R
Community Member
3 months ago

I hate drivers who do this! Stresses me out so much.

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#25

Not spaying/neutering their pets.

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Jo Choto
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3 months ago

Our younger kitty is being snipped and chipped right this minute. Sweet little baby.

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#26

People who don't take care of their dogs.

I'm not talking about people who don't feed some super premium dog food, or get them groomed every 2 weeks, or even those people who opt to euthanize because they can't afford a 12K surgery.

I'm talking about doing the bare f**king minimum. Take a brush and brush your dog. Find a food that doesn't give him explosive diarrhea every time he has to take a s**t. Give that little turd factory some discipline so he stops trying to maul toddlers when he inevitably dashes out your front door and across the street. For f**ks sake, run your labs and goldens until they're too tired to move any more. A tired dog is a happy dog.

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Brian Bennett
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3 months ago

I think one must add love to this statement!

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I judge people who shut down those asking questions and trying to learn more

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adiiantryx
Community Member
3 months ago

so religious zealots, obstinate teachers, totalitarian governments - most of society's figures of authority

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#28

I'm not always silent about it, but people at my local supermarket who refuse to return their shopping carts, but instead leave them to roll into other cars whenever the next wind gust comes along.

The last lady I confronted about this said some bulls**t that was basically blah blah blah my bad back, but she managed to push it all around the store and then fully loaded out to her car, now she suddenly can't push a now-empty cart a few more feet to the return?? Can't stand those people.

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Caroline Nagel
Community Member
3 months ago

In Belgium we have to put a coin in the trolley to be able to use it. Simple solution.

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#29

People who are habitually late to things. It's one of the most inconsiderate things I can thing of and yet it seems so common

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ToGo
Community Member
3 months ago

I'm guilty of always being late. However, I'm just happy if beat my anxiety long enough to get me there at all.

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Ppl hu typ lyk dis.

Or people who don't use punctuation or at least a damn full stop to break up their god damned sentences. Drives me insane and although I'm not the greatest at punctuation and grammar, I automatically think you're and idiot.

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Loty
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

While we are at it I judge people who put too much emphasis on completely arbitrary and nonsensical rules of language grammar. Go have a heart attack correcting Shakespeare who even spelled his own name 5 different ways.

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#31

Definitely smoking cigarettes while pregnant. I can't help not judging you for that s**t.

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troufaki13
Community Member
3 months ago

I have a coworker who "only feeds her children bio foods" but she's smoking while breastfeeding...

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#32

If you don't like animals....I don't know if I like you.

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Cactus McCoy
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3 months ago

Oh, I know. I know very well.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People There's nothing I dislike more than when a husband feels like he has to act like his wife's authority while other people are around. I hate gender roles in relationships

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Ozacoter
Community Member
3 months ago

Gender roles in general arw extremely harmful for us all

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#34

People who don't say "thank you".

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

That is so rude. It's one word, takes one second and is only needed once. Thank-you.

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#35

cheating on their spouse

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Bubs623
Community Member
3 months ago

Seriously? How hard is it to be honest and say, 'hey. This isn't working for me any longer.' Don't go around behind their backs.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who have their phones out in a goddamn movie theater. We all payed the same price. I don't care if you don't want to get your money's worth, I do. I am going to yell and you and if you don't stop, throw popcorn at you till you do.

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LisaMarie
Community Member
3 months ago

And those who don't stop talking all the way through the film, it actually puts me off going to the cinema as you just can't enjoy the experience with the distractions 😶

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#37

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Constantly posting condescending political rants on facebook.

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Raven Sheridan
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3 months ago

Also those who can't admit that they are wrong, or when they've lost. 🤨

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#38

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Anyone who adopts a "whatever" policy to being late. I freak out when I'm late for something, and it absolutely blows my mind when people just don't care.

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postboredom
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3 months ago

I've seen way too many people who think arriving an hour late to an important event makes them cooler

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#39

Being involved in an MLM... Scentsy, Essential Oils, It Works!, etc.

It's not that I don't appreciate the fact that they are trying to better themselves. It's that I assume they are really stupid for getting suckered in the first place.

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Curious
Community Member
3 months ago

I hate when my friends in MLMs start selling to me, and it ruins the friendship when I say no. Don't assume I'm buying anything just because we're friends.

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#40

Crass public behaviour, especially while drunk. If you can't handle your alcohol without being a s**t, don't drink. Hate it.

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Troll
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3 months ago

Drink at home alone.😋

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