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Judging others—it’s something that we all do, all the time. Whether we’re aware of it or entirely subconsciously, we’re constantly evaluating and interpreting the world around us. Making comments about people and situations in our heads. Checking how the world conforms to how we imagine it should be like. And frowning upon anyone who litters!

After being prompted to open up by redditor u/supercoliofy, internet users began sharing the things that make them silently judge people. Taking a deep dive into their comments is enlightening: we’ve judged people for similar things; we’ve done some of the things in this list that deserve judgment.

Read on for some silent judgment-gone-loud, upvote the posts you agree with, and drop on by the comment section to share your opinions, dear Pandas. Do bamboo thieves make you angry? Do you think people give other bears more recognition? We’re very interested to hear what makes you silently judge someone.

Bored Panda reached out to Lee Chambers, a Psychologist and Wellbeing Consultant, to talk about why we judge other people, as well as what role this plays in our lives.

"Judging others is something that we as humans do, both consciously and automatically, and there are a number of reasons why we do it. Comically, we are often told as children not to judge others and have stories shared about how judging others can mean we upset them or lose opportunities to see what really lies behind our perception," he told Bored Panda. Scroll down for our interview with Lee!

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I immediately judge you if you make fun of someone who's trying. I saw someone make fun of an overweight classmate despite the fact that he was doing diets, running, and exercising. He's putting an effort and you have no right to s**t on him.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I see an overweight person in a gym I always silently say to myself "good for you"

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Psychologist Lee, the founder of Essentialise Workplace Wellbeing and PhenomGames, revealed to Bored Panda some of the reasons why we judge other people.

"Sometimes, we judge others to feel superior ourselves, finding faults in others, highlighting them, and feeling better about ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we use it to work out where we fit in, recognizing how we want to be, where our aspirations lie, and how we don't want to become," he said.

"Sometimes, it's in response to our own flaws, and we attack others for what we don't like or don't see into ourselves. And on other occasions, it's to fit into a wider group who judge something or someone, and we conform and perform with the same judgment."

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who have no awareness of their surroundings when they're out in public.

It doesn't cost anything to wait your turn in a queue, hold a door open for someone, turn on your indicators 10 seconds earlier than you just did, or not block off the entire pavement because you want to hold hands with your husband / wife.

It's so selfish. Drives me mad just thinking about it.

Thank you for the gold, kind stranger.

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people who don't say please and thank you.

people who act like a d**k to service staff like cashiers and waiters.

people who generally show a lack of consideration to other people.

one thing my dad always told me: manners cost nothing.

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According to Lee, being judgmental can be good and it "does have some benefits when used mindfully," however.

"It can help us to set goals, find alignment with our values, it can help us to build the self-awareness of others and it can boost our self-esteem," he told Bored Panda.

"Add to that it can also help us to make positive social choices, and it's understanding how and why we judge that gives us the ability to use it for our benefits instead of escaping our flaws or pulling others down."

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Littering. It hurts to watch, I don't see how people can litter.

Edit: Hey Cloin

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is what you are taught in the home this is something that needs to be learned from birth! If I tried it outside - would you do that at home?

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I judge people for not washing their hands after using the bathroom

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! YES! My OCD spikes out of control for things like this. End up getting panic attacks if I feel surrounded by too much of it😓

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Racism. In any form.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't be silent about racism. Judge loud and clear. Make sure people hear your voice.

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Far from everyone makes errors with malicious intent. Quite often, people aren’t even aware that they’re making a mistake. Or they might not think that something that elicits judgment (like parking wrong or being late to meet someone all the friggin’ time) is actually that big of a deal. It’s selfishness and we’ve all got that, just in varying amounts.

We know that being self-aware of our own flaws is difficult. For one, nobody likes thinking that they’re less than perfect. Besides, we don’t have the luxury of seeing our behavior from a different perspective. That’s why it’s important to speak up if you see someone constantly making the same mistakes.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People When they have no knowledge of the topic but is still arguing to the person who actually has the knowledge. I mean seriously if you dont know what you're talking about then stfu

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a big one. I don't know why we started treating all opinions as equal. They are not! Truck driver's opinion on health issues is worthless just like doctor's opinion on double clutching a semi.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People having a ton of kids while poor

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are poor, you probably don't have access to affordable birth control.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who talk really loud on the phone in quiet public places.

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If you don’t hear any criticism about what you do, then it’s only natural to assume you’re ‘perfect’ and ‘flawless.’ If there’s no feedback, how can we expect someone to learn? Overly selfish people don’t change their ways at the drop of a hat. It takes a series of moments of clarity to get them to think that maybe—just maybe—they might need to rethink some things. However, some individuals find it hard to get past the embarrassment that comes from realizing they’ve been making mistakes.

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"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University explained to Bored Panda.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People walking toward you that don't put equal effort into avoiding collision. I'll move a bit, but you should do the same. You expect me to walk around you?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! One time, 3 people were walking towards me side by side, taking up the entire pavement. I would have had to walk in the busy road to avoid them. They did not move over one inch. I just stopped in the pavement and looked at them. They also stopped in front of me until it got awkward and they grew enough social awareness to apologise... 😑

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Parents of unruly children

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't judge silently about this. I give off a very pissed off vibe and looks to the parents. Keep your little buggers away from me and start parenting please.

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NsG
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I put effort into avoiding judgement until I've done an assessment on the parent. If the parent is clearly struggling to cope, I try to be more generous. If the parent clearly doesn't give a flick, yeah I'm judging loud and clear.

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KM
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have to agree with that. For example while I hate having to sit near kids on planes I realize situations can be different. 4-month old crying uncontrollably because planes are loud and scary while their parent is trying the best to keep them calm and distracted? Sucks for me and everyone else including the parent, but well, part of life. 4-year old yelling non-stop at their sibling and watching loud cartoons while the parent is playing candy crush? Get's all the hate from me)

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Elena Summers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People definitely shouldn't judge "unruly children" My niece is autistic and the amount of times my sister has been so upset by others judging her and it's heartbreaking for her. You don't know the situation of every child and parent you come across.

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Rissie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your sister is showing is involved and shows effort to help her kiddo around others, she most likely won't be judged by people with any decency.

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Mama Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was pregnant with my son, I was a security officer in a mall (easy money). I remember watching all of the bratty kids who would yell, hit, scream and cuss out their parents and the parents would just take it. I told myself that my child would NEVER act like those little monsters and you know what? He never did! He was well behaved and polite, still is to this day and he is 19 years old. So yeah I judge those parents who won't teach their children manners!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When one is raising a child with severe ADHD this is sometimes impossible to control as doctors usually won’t medicate them until they are school aged. My ex husband and I spent years taking turns doing things because we were judged so many times by people because our child literally could not sit still for more than a minute at a time. Never getting to spend time together ruined our marriage. But she’s been medicated and calm (but still has her amazing personality) for years now and we are great co parents and friends so just remember some people are trying but can’t do anymore than they are doing until the child is older .

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now, in the defence of SOME cases, not all, the child could have some class of disability. My parents were judged all the time when I was younger because both of my siblings are on the spectrum and I have severe ADHD, so we were often unruly. But even then my parents would try to reign us in a bit. What is bad is when the parents do nothing about it, and allow their kid to act the bollocks, that's when it's a problem

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Jo Choto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having been a parent (of an extremely well-behaved child) I try not to judge, but I do get pissed off when I see parents making no effort to control their child in a public space, while said child is behaving in an antisocial or disruptive or destructive manner.

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Alicia Miller
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had an old lady tell me I should "beat my 3 yo son's a**" b/c he was cranky at a restaurant. He was on crazy-strong, personality changing steroids after brain surgery for a brain tumor. We were simply trying to feel normal again once he was released from the hospital. People shouldn't judge. You don't always know the story.

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Mari
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope your son is ok now and in good health. People are so judgemental and don't know anything of the situation you're in.

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Queenie-Poo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need to know what you're defining as an unruly child. A 10yo screaming at their mom for not buying the fake nails at Claire's is vastly different from the tantrum-throwing 3yo who hasn't yet learned to control their behavior.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're in a public place and you tell your children (running about, screaming and knocking things over) to stop multiple times and they don't listen... you're not the one in control. They are.

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Raven DeathShade
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Growing up, I always saw my family as chaotic, unruly. In church every week, they'd whisper and fidget and fight. But every week, my mother would hear "Your kids are so well behaved!" A: it's because we were flat-out terrified of retribution (XD), and B: what kind of lunatic lets their kids run amok during (often) the only quiet time they can get?

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Jitka Šedová
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to be the same, but then I had my firstborn and it totally changed my views on this. He is not a neurologically standard child but you could never guess it just from seeing him for a little while. So sometimes he seems to be an unruly little brat while he is just struggling and trying to deal with e.g. noisy environment or an unexpected situation. I know it is not always the case but please, do not judge parents. Sometimes we have it hard as it is.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on the situation and where you are. If they're being unruly in a park, fair play to them. And if the parent is obviously trying and the kid is obviously in a mood, I'm not going to judge. I'd have to say, though, I am stunned at how many parents let their kids ride their f*****g scooters around a supermarket or shopping centre. Those parents and kids get looks from me!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents who aren't paying attention to or trying to discipline unruly kids definitely annoy me but I think completely the opposite is true when a parent is genuinely trying to calm/control their kid and people are giving them dirty looks and nasty comments.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate entitled and negligent parents with a passion.

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Laura McPherson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to be like this. Until I had an unruly, stubborn and difficult child. Some children are naturally more difficult. Be kind to those people, they have to deal with that child every day, you only have to deal with it for a moment.

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Mari
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are kids with a stubborn and difficult caracter. 2 of my kids are like that. They behave good 98% of the time. The other 2% are days you can't control them, they won't listen.

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Lisa Bardelli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a parent of an unruly child. He's autistic bit looks "normal". Hate all the judgemental looks

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem with this attitude is that it inherently assumes there is some (magical) way to raise children which results in them being perfectly obedient. Nope. Every living creature has an independent mind. More often than you would think, the fault lies entirely with a child and not parents. Anyone who thinks otherwise has never met an obstinately obdurate child. Parents can do everything right... and still produce a little monster. Most notable in families with a "black sheep" member.

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Sheila Stamey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once saw a lady's kid almost get eaten by an alligator because she was so up the a**e of her phone. Little girl, maybe three, just farting around like kids do, but at a picnic site in Florida. With warning signs. About alligators, and them eating small dogs and such. There was a big one, old gator, doing the thing of pretend to be a log that they do, and was easing up, as this little girl was throwing rocks into the water. I walked over, took the little one by the hand, and led her to her mom, maybe 45 feet away. I let her Have it,. She started to cuss me out for having her kid and judging her, but I told her she needed to either keep watch or plan the kid's funeral. And before anybody says alligators won't, they will eat the dog you are leading on a leash if they have a good chance. I've seen it.

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Amy Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Before I had kids I was super judgey but then I had friends with kids that were on the spectrum and they really can't help it :(

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you are a parent with perfectly behaving children, you don’t get to comment. Children are not beings to be controlled, they are little people to be raised. By their parents, by society, and by the norms presented by both. Perhaps the child is unruly just that day. Maybe they have a hidden issue mentally that we don’t see. Children are also pretty terrible at regulating emotions. Don’t blame the parents for that alone, brains are literally still being developed.

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Omi bub
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friends kid has autism, obviously invisible and she is stressed enough without all the looks & judgement

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Summer Mason
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now....I got yelled at for yelling at my kid at a play ground for knocking a toddler over on purpose. She was 4 at the time. The lady yelled at me (I wasn't cussing but repremanding my child's behavior so the other parents of the small toddler knew i didn't think this was okay and I was paying attention) well my smart ass back fired that I would spank her too if she didn't shut up. If someone is correcting their child's behavior in public and not being a d**k about it or harming them unessasarly then MYOB.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This annoys me too, however I always bear in mind that the child could possibly autistic, especially if they look to be having some kind of breakdown

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Chucky Cheezburger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes...control your kids or remove them. If you let your kids run wild and bothering others, don't say a damn thing when someone says mean things to them to make the go...away...

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Kari Cline
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Speaking as a single mom of a severely autistic child who has violent behaviors when he gets frustrated or doesn't understand, I really wish you would stop staring. We're both doing the best we can

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Erica Cochrane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i work in a coffee shop, and the number of parents of small kids who let them run around the store unsupervised. if the kid runs behind the counter to where we are, there are so many things they could injure themselves on easily. but if the kid does come behind the counter, legally we are not allowed to touch them, in case the parent accuses us of assault or whatever. i've seen myself trying to herd a kid back to the cafe area, the parent will come over and take their kid and sometimes say things like 'oh, aren't they funny' and i'm like 'no. they could have been seriously injured!' i understand that sometimes it's hard to control your kids if they are in a setting that's boring for them, but at the risk of a serious injury...i'd do my best to keep them safe!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is almost always the parents fault. Kids aren't born with a preconceived notion of how to act. There are always exceptions, but majority of the time they are being unintentionally trained young to only get attention when loud or disruptive. Slow down, listen, spend quality time with your kids.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents of unruly children I don't judge... Aggressively supportive parents of unruly children are what get me... you know the type... "How DARE you dislike the fact that my child just destroyed the display that clearly said 'don't touch'? "

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Bob Standen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lived in a hippy area and the kids are taught nothing in the ways of the world. Like manners, respect and other basic rules to get on with others.

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Albany Rushton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well... some kids are just hyperactive, but bad parenting I TOTALLY judge. (Like when they give their kids a standard of perfection- UGH.)

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Evenie Horton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are autistic children and those with FAS that can't behave. Children always deserve a pass, no matter what they do.

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Joley Hidaka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was in a restaurant where a woman was letting her kids run wild. I looked right at her and said "if they get injured I will testify on behalf of the restaurant" and she corralled her kids really quickly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to stick out my pierced tongue to screaming brats and scare the crap outta them. Or they'd start laughing, either way I win!

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Thomson StClair
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who take that frustration out on the child. It's not the child's fault. Take it up with the parent.

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Vasana Phong
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was working at a doctors office, the parents that let their children run around or hop all over the seats( while they are on their phones looking at bored panda)

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New Everywhere
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only if they're not doing anything at all. Otherwise, I give them the "you need some help?" or "I understand" look.

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Brian Bennett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are developed from unruly parents who don't really give a damn about them!

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Christine Temple
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went "karen" on a mother whose child was whining loudly about her buying him a toy. He did this for over 30 minutes in a food court. He was about 9 or 10. I had enough and told her to control her child.

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Iseefractals
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. Whenever i encounter a loud, obnoxious child i always, always ask the parent "what's going on, are you beating them?" :::horrified and confused look::: N-N-NO! Of course not! "Have you even tried?"

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Maris Kurm
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! My neighbors grandkids are very loud and my cats are afraid of them.

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Cattress511
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some days, especially in during the winter, the grocery store or Walmart is the only chance my 3 yr old gets chance to run off some pent up energy. Our place is small, the pandemic limits her opportunities. I try to take her later in the evening when the stores aren't busy so she doesn't bother anyone, but if it does, well I invite you to kiss my butt. I try to keep her in sight, or at least close enough to hear. I try to keep her from laying on the floor, getting under foot, but I'm also trying to shop and grab what I need while I'm in the aisle. She's really cute (I'm not bragging, I'm told this everywhere we go, literally) so she probably gets a pass from a lot of people. She thinks when I go to catch her that I'm playing a game, squeals and takes off faster. Usually people say they wish they had her energy, then comment how cute she is other parents give me a sympathetic look.

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KimB
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This...if you're going to have them pay attention to them and raise them right! They deserve it and they didn't ask to be born.

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Julianne Hannes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's called ADHD or is Autism and please don't judge and offer help to the mom who is CLEARLY struggling

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have children, but I don't agree with this. Having children, raising children is hard. I certainly will never have children. They randomly throw tantrums, they have energy for days, they don't need as much sleep, they watch ridiculous shows. But we all did that. Everyone has different parenting styles and as long as the child is being cared for (and looks cared for) then it isn't my business. Now its different if the parent is ignoring the child while the child is disturbing people and people have asked the parent to intercede. Then I would be annoyed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m a child. I still do this. I hate children. I will never be a parent.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I see a parent ignoring their kids bad behaviour and it becomes a nuisance to me I will step in and correct the child.

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Monic Krugell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't judge without knowing all the facts about those people's circumstances.

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lazy panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your child is on the ground kicking and screaming in the middle of Target while you're staring at your phone ignoring the situation, I'm judging HARD.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit it, I've "accidently on purpose" tripped unruly brats running through the restaurant. Not even sorry.

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KLo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless there's a mental disorder, there is no excuse. I taught my two kids early on, even before they set foot into a public place. They understood that going groceries meant food, not trinkets not toys. "We're going to the store, not the jungle". Although, when they saw other kids acting like animals, they would say, "Momma, you lied". Op!

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Jane Alexander
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The big metal cover was off in the 'rock-scape' by the offices and two kids were alone. I only said the boy should get up out a there and told little sister to put the big rock down that she was gonna throw down into where her brother should'n'a been. 'In yo face' type mama shows up, running mouth, (except she's only about to my shoulder) Ok, I said, I'll just call CPS next time. (child protective) I don't think she liked me.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I can't stand people who piss on the toilet seat and don't clean it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How could you just leave your own urine and poop on a public toilet seat with a clear conscience? ಠ▃ಠ

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"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing."

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Not using a turn signal when driving. It's not that hard, and it's pretty arrogant not to use one

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I've been the only BMW driver that used their turn signals. I’ve heard tales of others doing the same. But they're probably apocryphal and now lost in time.

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I can't stand people who don't pick up their dog's s**t! You're a scumbag!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

or those folks who leave doggy poo bags hanging from trees and bushes like weird Christmas decorations... they just can't be bothered to put it in the doggy bin..

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Being unjustifiably rude to waiters, sales associates, janitors, etc. (basically anyone who is being paid to perform a service for you)

It is extremely telling of a person's character.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Saw a old, spoiled lady getting her bad character out on a approx. 20 y.o. waiter, because he didn't get the 6 wine glasses at the same filling level on first try. From then on, she always watched him and shook her head and said things like "i would be shamed soo much if i were him". Next morning (it was in a hotel) i overheard from her family that she got a stomach bug and diarrhea and can't make it to breakfast. Well deserved

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"The 10 keys to happier living are giving, relating, exercising, awareness, trying out, direction, resilience, emotions, acceptance, and meaning. We are likely to be happier if our lives have direction, meaning, and purpose and if we are part of something bigger than ourselves," Sarah Vero from ‘Action for Happiness’ told Bored Panda.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who bring children to situations that are not appropriate for children.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mmm.... define 'appropriate' for children. The picture suggests an office. I don't judge for this. People don't want to bring their kids to offices and the like. If they do it's usually because they don't have any other option and they are doing the best they can with what they have. Bars and genuine inappropriate places and times are a different story.

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#17

Even worse are the people who play their music through their speakers on a trail. You're outside its gorgeous there are birds and s**t. Turn off you god damn music you're ruining it for the rest of us.

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Finally: "I judge people who complain about politics, but choose not to vote

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you can't legally vote. In my country, we have lots of people disenfranchised from voting, often for very petty reasons. If you're politically active and engaged in other ways, I figure you've earned your right to complain -- even if you can't vote.

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"Think about how you can reach out and do things for others, help a neighbor or volunteer for a cause, we get happiness high from helping other people. Or start small and simply list three things that you can be grateful for each night before bed. Take it slow and be kind to yourself,” she suggested how people can learn to open up to new experiences and helping others.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Parking.

If you can't get within the lines the first time, it's ok to adjust.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Not paying attention to your screaming kid. Like not even trying.

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lenka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes ignoring my screaming kid is the best discipline available. If s/he is having a stupid tantrum, I'm not going to feed it with attention. Depends on the tantrum and the reason of course, but your judgement does not affect my parenting.

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People who chew with their mouths open

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Throwing others under the bus in the work place for their own personal gain. Especially when they do it in front of a group of people,

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I work at a Starbucks in a grocery store and I have two regulars with scrawny, super scraggly kids and they spend $7-$10 on one or two drinks while they yell at their kid for wanting a 75 cent doughnut.

The kicker is that they're paying with food stamps.

So that. I judge that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel sorry when mommy and daddy coming in for lots of beer and stronger stuff, but the kids got nothing.

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#24

When you tailgate me when there is a slow car in front of me. What a pointless action and people do it all the time. It accomplishes nothing except making the road even more dangerous than it already is.

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#25

Not spaying/neutering their pets.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our younger kitty is being snipped and chipped right this minute. Sweet little baby.

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People who don't take care of their dogs.

I'm not talking about people who don't feed some super premium dog food, or get them groomed every 2 weeks, or even those people who opt to euthanize because they can't afford a 12K surgery.

I'm talking about doing the bare f**king minimum. Take a brush and brush your dog. Find a food that doesn't give him explosive diarrhea every time he has to take a s**t. Give that little turd factory some discipline so he stops trying to maul toddlers when he inevitably dashes out your front door and across the street. For f**ks sake, run your labs and goldens until they're too tired to move any more. A tired dog is a happy dog.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I judge people who shut down those asking questions and trying to learn more

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so religious zealots, obstinate teachers, totalitarian governments - most of society's figures of authority

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I'm not always silent about it, but people at my local supermarket who refuse to return their shopping carts, but instead leave them to roll into other cars whenever the next wind gust comes along.

The last lady I confronted about this said some bulls**t that was basically blah blah blah my bad back, but she managed to push it all around the store and then fully loaded out to her car, now she suddenly can't push a now-empty cart a few more feet to the return?? Can't stand those people.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Belgium we have to put a coin in the trolley to be able to use it. Simple solution.

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#29

People who are habitually late to things. It's one of the most inconsiderate things I can thing of and yet it seems so common

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guilty of always being late. However, I'm just happy if beat my anxiety long enough to get me there at all.

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#30

Ppl hu typ lyk dis.

Or people who don't use punctuation or at least a damn full stop to break up their god damned sentences. Drives me insane and although I'm not the greatest at punctuation and grammar, I automatically think you're and idiot.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While we are at it I judge people who put too much emphasis on completely arbitrary and nonsensical rules of language grammar. Go have a heart attack correcting Shakespeare who even spelled his own name 5 different ways.

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#31

Definitely smoking cigarettes while pregnant. I can't help not judging you for that s**t.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a coworker who "only feeds her children bio foods" but she's smoking while breastfeeding...

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#32

If you don't like animals....I don't know if I like you.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People There's nothing I dislike more than when a husband feels like he has to act like his wife's authority while other people are around. I hate gender roles in relationships

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gender roles in general arw extremely harmful for us all

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People who don't say "thank you".

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is so rude. It's one word, takes one second and is only needed once. Thank-you.

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cheating on their spouse

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously? How hard is it to be honest and say, 'hey. This isn't working for me any longer.' Don't go around behind their backs.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who have their phones out in a goddamn movie theater. We all payed the same price. I don't care if you don't want to get your money's worth, I do. I am going to yell and you and if you don't stop, throw popcorn at you till you do.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And those who don't stop talking all the way through the film, it actually puts me off going to the cinema as you just can't enjoy the experience with the distractions 😶

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#37

40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Constantly posting condescending political rants on facebook.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Anyone who adopts a "whatever" policy to being late. I freak out when I'm late for something, and it absolutely blows my mind when people just don't care.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen way too many people who think arriving an hour late to an important event makes them cooler

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#39

Being involved in an MLM... Scentsy, Essential Oils, It Works!, etc.

It's not that I don't appreciate the fact that they are trying to better themselves. It's that I assume they are really stupid for getting suckered in the first place.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when my friends in MLMs start selling to me, and it ruins the friendship when I say no. Don't assume I'm buying anything just because we're friends.

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Crass public behaviour, especially while drunk. If you can't handle your alcohol without being a s**t, don't drink. Hate it.

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