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Father Lists All The Reasons He Thinks His 1-Year-Old Is Gay, Mother Left Speechless
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Father Lists All The Reasons He Thinks His 1-Year-Old Is Gay, Mother Left Speechless

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You and us, we’ve been around the digital block a few times and we’re familiar with how the internet works, right, dear Pandas? So we tend to think that nothing can shock us anymore. Who, us, shocked? We’ve seen it all, from the best to the worst the net has to offer. However, there are some stories that take us by surprise in the most unexpectedly awful way and we’re stuck there, wondering how this can be real.

A post is going viral again on Reddit and social media in which a mom to a 1-year-old boy is sharing her husband’s very bizarre views. The man thinks that his son is gay and lists a variety of reasons, all of which are utter nonsense. Among them are things like enjoying colors, spending more time with his mother than his dad, looking at flowers, and liking books too much.

Ridiculous? Of course. Potentially damaging to the kid’s self-esteem as he grows up with such a dad at home? Likely. Scroll down to have a read how people reacted to the Reddit post. It’s difficult to even begin untangling this story. The dad is quite obviously homophobic. What’s more, he has a very warped perspective about what makes someone gay. These sorts of intolerant, fearful mindsets are usually the result of learned behavior over many years since childhood.

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One dad has a very strange list of reasons why he thinks his infant son might be gay

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A therapist writing on Reddit explained in the original thread on r/relationship_advice_ that everything that the 1-year-old was doing was “developmentally appropriate.”

“Kids are curious, altruistic, and love colorful things. And at 1, kids are not even in their conscious mind. They react simply to what is in front of them,” they explained, adding that it would be helpful for the dad to talk to a counselor about his fears that his son might grow up to be gay.

Previously, Bored Panda had an in-depth interview with psychotherapist Silva Neves who explained some of the reasons why someone might be homophobic. One’s upbringing is a part of this, but not the entire story.

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“If people grew up with homophobic parents and they haven’t been exposed to different opinions, they are more likely to be homophobic themselves. Most religions promote the inaccurate idea that same-sex relationships and sexual behaviors are unnatural, wrong, against their God, and a sin,” he said.

“Even recently, the Pope declared that same-sex marriages were not endorsed by the Church. Islam is also very homophobic. Most Islamic countries have anti-gay laws with punishment ranging from imprisonment to the death penalty. Many people in the UK growing up in such households are more likely to be homophobic,” the therapist told Bored Panda.

“Teenagers can be homophobic as a way to conform to heterosexuality and be more accepted by their peers,” the expert noted that some young people want to be part of the ‘in crowd,’ so they adopt the beliefs of their friends and acquaintances.

The therapist said that some people become homophobic because they’re trying to deny and repress their same-sex attractions. “In being homophobic they attempt to repress their own feelings by fighting against the source of their arousal: the LGBTQ people,” he gave another reason for homophobia.

Here’s how people reacted to the story and the dad’s strange behavior

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XSpooky_Mint
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honey, if your man thinks it's okay to sexualize your child, then it's time to throw the whole damn man away

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Monday
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell yes. Who the hell sees a toddler sticking a banana in their mouth and thinks "yup, that's a sexual thing"??

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Miss Cellania
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think I've ever met a toddler who didn't like rainbows and books and bananas.

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Demi Zwaan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he sees a baby eating a banana as something sexual, he's not a supressed homosexual. Gays don't like little boys, they like other adult men. Pedos put sexual meaning to little kid's behaviour... Your husband needs a therapist. I also wouldn't leave him alone with the kid.

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Ongawa Nakata
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Concur! They rationalize their OWN inappropriate behavior by labelling the child as such; my bff ex hubby said her daughter was FLIRTING w him and put hickeys on her neck.

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Daria Z
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any joke stops being funny if repeated many times. It wasn't even a funny or clever joke, just weird. I guess the husband struggles with some deep personal insecurity. I hope he gets professional advice.

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Rose the Cook
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had this sort of thing with my first husband. Not allowed to put "make up" (talcum powder) on the baby because it would make him gay. He would swear that the baby powder was "pink" no matter how many people told him it was white. If the husband refuses to seek counselling take the baby and get out before the situation escalates.

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Deja Katz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So your husband saw your 1 year old baby eating a banana and that looked sexual to him? Your husband is sick and is projecting his sickness onto an innocent baby. Get out of there before this becomes your household norm and results in your child being damaged physically, emotionally or both.

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fu yu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my. Father has some MAJOR issues. It's time for him to self-reflect on why he's always carrying a torch for homosexuality.

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Gavin Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter is 11. I literally have no idea what her life will become or what path she will choose, her sexuality is way, way down the list, she’s still deciding if purple or yellow is the better colour! She exhibits traits that could indicate that she’ll fall in love with a human but for now her rats, her dog and her Grandparents cat are way higher up the priority list than anything as daft as a boy or a girl. FFS let them be children and let them discover who they are.

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is the father afraid he might be gay? Are certain feelings pushed aside / suppressed ? To me it seems so. Also, little kids, ALL little kids love rainbows, flowers, butterflies, cookies and unicorns (I still do). I'm getting mixed feelings about this one tbh.

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Hphizzle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is in desperate need of therapy. I don’t think it’s grounds for divorce. But he has transference issues to work through.

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Phil Vaive
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'd never bring that up because I'm sure he'd get furious" is a huge red flag for me. If you're afraid to talk about something with your husband, that man needs to be your ex husband.

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy toxic masculinity, Batman! I'm more than ready for it to be okay for straight guys to like colors and glitter without it making them "gay." If you're gay, you're gay and if you're not, you're not. I don't think it should have anything to do with what kind of material objects you like. Fellas, you do you.

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Me Oh My
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see a possible divorce and DEFINITE counseling for the husband in the future.

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Kristin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

therapy? separation? If your husbands thoughts circle around "one year old son+ sexual behaviour" he's clearly struggeling with something and needs help sorting this out as to not possibly negatively impacting your son's development. No matter where it comes from, whether it's something in his childhood or a sexual preference- it does not sound healthy (fathers must not sexualize their children and don't ridicule their behaviour either) and it needs to stop.

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Douglas Mock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is something deeply wrong with this "male" who is having a sickening sexual fantasy about an infant. You need to run very far away and hide your son from this disgusting pervert.

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Belle Miles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude sees sexuality in a baby at all is your BIG RED SIGN. No joke. If it were it would have passed, but he's still doing it. Write everything he says that references sexuality about your child down. Don't blow it off, or let someone say it's silly.

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Jo Choto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a strong correlation between people who are vocally and actively homophobic, and suppressed homosexuality. Whether that's true of this husband or not, there is not much time left before the child starts absorbing a couple of things: that who he is, is not okay. That his father's love is conditional and that he is not supportive. That being gay is wrong. For those reasons, the mother needs to leave.

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Izzy Curer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'd never bring that up because I'm sure he would get furious." I can't think of a single thing my husband would get furious at for just asking. Same with me. That sounds unhinged.

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RoseTheMad
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that man seriously thinks a child so young has any interest in anything romantic/sexual towards any gender - you need to run the hell away. Secondly? If he's so critical that his 1 year old may be gay, he's probably not going to be accepting if your child actually did end up gay several years down the line. A father like that is no good for a child who is just starting to explore the world around him. Kid doesn't need that kind of casual homophobia and misogyny/toxic masculinity in his life.

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Goth mouse (they/them)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats ridiculous, children dont have a sexuality 🤢 why is he sexualising everything even food?! and babies??! wtf?? 🤮 If he cant even cope with the baby reading a book he would have freaked if i was his kid, when i was little i liked pink and wearing girls clothes and had a tea set, cute plush animals, a dolls house and neon my little ponies 😅

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debrina blackmoon
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who's acting like/believing it's a horrible, disgusting thing! Many heteros and Caucasian/other racist people make me sick and are so embarrassing even if there were none in my family!!!

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Archer Harris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude… I read books ALL. THE. TIME. Doesn’t make me any different. 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻

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Marianne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sooo ... Eating bananas is generally forbidden for straight men?

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Hannah Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. Husband clearly has issues and doesn’t understand how gay works. I struggled with this with my own husband and son. My husband has had a very restricted upbringing and thought that my painting my son’s nails would make him gay. After a lot of talking and some gentle mocking, he’s updated his mindset and wouldn’t care if his sweet, caring, football hating, flower loving son was gay or not. The husband in this post needs educating and perhaps some therapy.

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Jacob Phillips
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this man sexualising a 1 year old child? That is incredibly worrying and the only person who’s sexual preference should be at all worried about is him. MASSIVE red flag right there

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Christoph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think hubby might be the one to look at. ANYONE that freaked out by gays are SUPER suspect. But we don't want him just the same.

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Aradia Sayner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Father Lists All The Reasons He Thinks His 1-Year-Old Is Gay, Mother Left. I would have preferred that title.

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Crouching hippo hidden panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Deeply disturbing. I hope this doesn’t escalate. Good for the mum for calling him out on it and defending her child. Hope she gets her family involved for back up and gets husband some help

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Alma Muminovic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband may be gay or bi and using your son as a buffer to express his own sexual curiosity about the same sex? Because it sounds like hes fixating and on a 1 year olds behavior? Well it sounds like he’s projecting.. I bet if you asked him if he might think he’s gay he will either stop or come out to you.

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. a
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce ASAP. What the hell is wrong with people that they partner and then REPRODUCE with people like this? Don't tell me you didn't know the guy was homophobic before you married him. bullshit.

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Christoph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also WHO GIVE A S**T if he gets furious?!?!??!! Are you afraid of him as well? RED FLAGS

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Melanie Hornak
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes exactly! Time to either leave or have that conversation. Because one day soon that baby will be a teenager....and teenagers have a tendency to push boundaries and provoke.....OP does NOT want her kid doing that with someone who is dangerous!

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LynzCatastrophe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Babies are not capable of having a sexuality! They are simply exploring their world as they notice more things about it. Colours are pretty! And how else do you eat a banana?! Tell him he needs to attend therapy to explore his own issues and why he's obsessed with it.

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Victoria Pitt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the father is obsessed, possibly he is gay and never came to terms with it within himself.

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Iapetos
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will from now on refer to make-up as "grown-up crayons". Thank you. And yes, stupid husband.

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ℙ𝕦𝕣𝕣_𝕞𝕒𝕚𝕕
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At this point, I prefer you to your husband. But seriously, whether this child grows up to be gay or not, I can only hope that he is loved and accepted unconditionally.

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Veronica Sjöberg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every toddler likes those things. Nothing strange about it. But dad needs therapy. Like years ago.

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Catherine Ann
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like hubby might be a little homo-repressed - projecting his true feelings on your baby.

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Nina
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate to break it to you, sweetheart, but hubby might be gay and in denial. Only someone really in the closet projects so much over sexualised behaviour on a baby.

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Deja Katz
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sexualization of infants and children has very little to do with someone in the closet. It’s known that pedophiles may project adult sexual desires onto infants and children, to fuel their own fantasies or to make children complicit in their abuse. Some people who have been sexually abused themselves as children may have memories triggered when they have children of their own. The husband is demonstrating several flags that he has some kind of personal darkness to work through and is not a safe father until he has done so.

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Heather Menard
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce him now. He is either a closet gay or a pedophile. Save you and your son get out now.

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OmMarol
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me thinking 23-24 year old are still children and they're having kids on their own lol

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debrina blackmoon
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OBVIOUS FUCKTARD SHITPILE HOMOPHOBE/ HATER OF ALL LGBTQIAP(+?)! Yes-HOW CAN A CHILD HAVE ANY SEXUAL IDENTITY?! THEY FIGURE IT OUT ALONG THE WAY! WHAT A WASTE OF ATOMS PISSANT LOWLIFE ASSHOLE(ETC.)! Probably a racist and flat-Earther too!!! Really, toxic bitchweed?!?!

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Tamra Stiffler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She says that they have some gay friends, of whom the husband is accepting, but when it comes to his own son, all of a sudden he's freaking out about it. This tells me he doesn't really believe what he's showing to the world. As for the banana eating...oy, that's a whole other problem. I hope he gets counseling.

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Billy Bob the 4th
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor kid. Hopefully she can get a more positive/less insane partner to be that kids parent.

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Beth L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cats also like rainbows that come in through the window. They can't even see all the colors, and have been liberated of their reproductive organs.

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Miriam L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wtf... The child is 1. A baby still. He doesn't even have a concept of attraction. He is probably just beginning to recognize that most story books have a mommy and a daddy and he knows them only as parental roles. Absolutely everything described here is part of normal childhood development - the lad is doing great for his age, is fascinated by the world around him, takes pride in helping adults with tasks, and is expressing preferences and favourites. Frankly, the kid may not even be aware of what's in his own underpants - that tends to kick in roughly at about age 1½ or 2, and even then, all they know is that it feels interesting. The baby is not gay - ok, maybe he is if there's an inherent neurological component as some studies suggest, but you're still not going to know from typical infant developmental behaviours. Babies of this age are basically genderless - it doesn't impact their development or self-concept in any significant way yet. ... Gosh

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RatherLoopy
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This might be the creepiest thing I've ever heard. Keep the kid. Dump the hubby.

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Anjelika
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mother isn't the only one that is speechless... just wow... and what is this banana business, so kids can't eat bananas or worse he can't eat it in public??!!

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Eb
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I probably sound old but to me being married means working together against the problem and helping each other develop. Becoming a parent is one of life's biggest challenges and most people find it brings up things from their own childhood that you need to review. It sounds like he's comfortable with having gay friends but this has touched a deeper spot in him. Time for a gentle conversation to point that out and agree how he's going to explore it without projecting it onto your child.

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deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This "dad" is nuts. Liking flowers and rainbows doesn't make you gay and neither does any of his other idiotic reasons. I don't understand why this man is putting a sexual orientation on a one year old in the first place. My dad knows how to sew and can draw really well. Does that make him gay? Absolutely not.

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Dre Mosley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SMH. And if he is, so what? Gonna disown him? Well, he's probably the kind of father who would.

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miss miss
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe husband will be happier if poor kid turns out an addict because of dad

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Stargazer66
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce this idiot and take yourself and your son far, far, far away from him.

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Claire Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does anyone here know a 1 year old that doesn’t like rainbows? My brother’s favorite color is purple that doesn’t mean he’s gay! Some people…

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MagNat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm starting to think that the husband might be gay and that's why he's so obsessed.

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SuePrew
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What in the world is going to happen if the boy picks out a doll as a toy?

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone thinks he is gay himself or possibly homophobic, but I have a different concern. Call me paranoid but if I were you I would be checking your husband's computer for child porn! I would also start watching very closely how he acts around other small children, especially young boys. He may have pedophile tendencies.

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Marian Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he is gay and is repressing it. So lets direct all the attention on the baby and away from dad and his possible sexual tendencies. I wonder if he would have reacted the same way if his son would have been a girl instead? Its really sad and mom really needs to get dad some help before there is damage done to the baby.

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Apollo Brackady
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dudes. Can. Do. What. They. Want. It’s not gay to read books genius >:(

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Rowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

w o w 1. this man is sexualizing fruit and a (let alone HIS) toddler 2. literally none of these things are gay? i'm sorry? why shouldn't this literal 1 year old like flowers and sunshine? he's one, he's exploring the world for the first time. let him live 3. i agree that there are signs that can prove a child is gay from a young age, such as crushing on members of the same sex, or making generally LGBTQ comments about themselves (such as "I don't want a husband/wife, I'd rather marry a girl/boy"). if this is how the man treats his own kid, imagine what it'll be like once the little guy has friends..

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry that looks confusing... didn't realize pressing enter doesn't do anything :')

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Dave
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman married an insecure moron and likely a closeted gay in denial.

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steven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he doesn't sound overly intelligent. Just tell him "gayness" is passed down in the y-chromosome (from the father) and if the father isn't outwardly gay it means its recessive in the father and generally comes out later in life

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Asswipe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is ignorant and dumb af. I'd presume he might have problems with his sexual identity as well.

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Faith Hurst-Bilinski
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be saying, "Yup! He's totally gay." You may as well face it now. Get out while you can and maybe we can find the kid a decent male role model.

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Teresa Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hubby is not suppressing homosexual desires or experiencing homophobic reactions towards the kid. He is flat out sexualizing an infant like some pedophile. I wouldn't let hime near the kid alone and would request he seek therapy. If he refuses, the baby and I would be out the door.

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Janet C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The louder a man complains about something "being gay" the more likely he has suppressed gay tendencies himself. Studies have shown this time and time again.

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Tamara Kroonen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, if that's gay... I will tell my very straight husband to stop being a garderer and find another job, because tending flowers is gay. I will tell him to stop eating bananas because that's gay. I will tell him to stop pointing at rainbows in awe because that's gay. Thinking about it...is he gay??? I'm really questioning my marriage right now... *sarcasm*

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Emmydearest
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is that pretty much every time I read here on bored panda about parents or a spouse behaving oddly/badly they are in their early twenties? I know there are exceptions but I can't help to think that early twenties is too young to get married, and don't even mention of procreating...

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Veronica Sjöberg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't put the blame on her. People change and show different sides of themselves, especially after having kids.

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Freder
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Couldn't read all of this. Divorce your husband! Sounds like you'll learn that he's a closed minded bigot, or worse. Parents should just let the kid be who and what they are, whatever the F that turns out to be.

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You're both way too young, and your partner is waaaay too immature, to be having a child right now. Also, did you get to know the guy before you started breeding with him? Homophobic personalities are super easy to root out from people, you should have seen this in the guy while you were dating and run a mile. Your partner is extremely homophobic and possibly in the closet as gay himself (dated too many guys who then came out as homophobes and I found all kinds of gay porn on their phone and hitting gay men up online for sexual encounters) as the more they protest against anything homosexual, the more likely they are to be ashamed of their own sexuality. Leave this idiot, get on some birth control, find a proper father for the child and partner who respects you. If you let this slide, in 5yrs he will be beating the crap out of the child for liking a girls cartoon show.

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Veronica Sjöberg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree on some parts of what you wrote... it doesn't matter if they are "too young". The child is here. Besides, I don't know if 23-24 is that young to have kids... That's when I had my first two kids (13 months apart) and we didn't have these issues. I think it's a matter of him having unprocessed thoughts that he needs help to deal with. He could have been 54yrs and still feel/think the same. It could be his sexual orientation or some childhood trauma but regardless he needs therapy. Or she could (maybe should) leave.

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THIS is why little boys grow up into violent, rapist men. This child is doomed

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Okay, I have to confess, I've had a "born this way" moment with human baby! Okay, I was shopping for shoes, and there was a young woman there, with a baby boy less than a year old in a baby carriage. She was trying on sparkly heels and talking to the baby "Oooh, look, Bobby, isn't this pretty!"... while the baby gave her a sort of side-eyed death glare. "Well he's straight!", I thought.

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Viviane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could still be gay but very butch. Seriously, maybe the kid was annoyed about something else. Maybe "Bobby" is short for "Roberta". Maybe the kid was thinking about frivolous consumerism. Whatever.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honey, if your man thinks it's okay to sexualize your child, then it's time to throw the whole damn man away

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Monday
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell yes. Who the hell sees a toddler sticking a banana in their mouth and thinks "yup, that's a sexual thing"??

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Miss Cellania
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think I've ever met a toddler who didn't like rainbows and books and bananas.

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Demi Zwaan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he sees a baby eating a banana as something sexual, he's not a supressed homosexual. Gays don't like little boys, they like other adult men. Pedos put sexual meaning to little kid's behaviour... Your husband needs a therapist. I also wouldn't leave him alone with the kid.

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Ongawa Nakata
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Concur! They rationalize their OWN inappropriate behavior by labelling the child as such; my bff ex hubby said her daughter was FLIRTING w him and put hickeys on her neck.

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Daria Z
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any joke stops being funny if repeated many times. It wasn't even a funny or clever joke, just weird. I guess the husband struggles with some deep personal insecurity. I hope he gets professional advice.

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Rose the Cook
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had this sort of thing with my first husband. Not allowed to put "make up" (talcum powder) on the baby because it would make him gay. He would swear that the baby powder was "pink" no matter how many people told him it was white. If the husband refuses to seek counselling take the baby and get out before the situation escalates.

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Deja Katz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So your husband saw your 1 year old baby eating a banana and that looked sexual to him? Your husband is sick and is projecting his sickness onto an innocent baby. Get out of there before this becomes your household norm and results in your child being damaged physically, emotionally or both.

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fu yu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my. Father has some MAJOR issues. It's time for him to self-reflect on why he's always carrying a torch for homosexuality.

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Gavin Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter is 11. I literally have no idea what her life will become or what path she will choose, her sexuality is way, way down the list, she’s still deciding if purple or yellow is the better colour! She exhibits traits that could indicate that she’ll fall in love with a human but for now her rats, her dog and her Grandparents cat are way higher up the priority list than anything as daft as a boy or a girl. FFS let them be children and let them discover who they are.

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is the father afraid he might be gay? Are certain feelings pushed aside / suppressed ? To me it seems so. Also, little kids, ALL little kids love rainbows, flowers, butterflies, cookies and unicorns (I still do). I'm getting mixed feelings about this one tbh.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is in desperate need of therapy. I don’t think it’s grounds for divorce. But he has transference issues to work through.

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Phil Vaive
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'd never bring that up because I'm sure he'd get furious" is a huge red flag for me. If you're afraid to talk about something with your husband, that man needs to be your ex husband.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy toxic masculinity, Batman! I'm more than ready for it to be okay for straight guys to like colors and glitter without it making them "gay." If you're gay, you're gay and if you're not, you're not. I don't think it should have anything to do with what kind of material objects you like. Fellas, you do you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see a possible divorce and DEFINITE counseling for the husband in the future.

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Kristin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

therapy? separation? If your husbands thoughts circle around "one year old son+ sexual behaviour" he's clearly struggeling with something and needs help sorting this out as to not possibly negatively impacting your son's development. No matter where it comes from, whether it's something in his childhood or a sexual preference- it does not sound healthy (fathers must not sexualize their children and don't ridicule their behaviour either) and it needs to stop.

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Douglas Mock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is something deeply wrong with this "male" who is having a sickening sexual fantasy about an infant. You need to run very far away and hide your son from this disgusting pervert.

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Belle Miles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude sees sexuality in a baby at all is your BIG RED SIGN. No joke. If it were it would have passed, but he's still doing it. Write everything he says that references sexuality about your child down. Don't blow it off, or let someone say it's silly.

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Jo Choto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a strong correlation between people who are vocally and actively homophobic, and suppressed homosexuality. Whether that's true of this husband or not, there is not much time left before the child starts absorbing a couple of things: that who he is, is not okay. That his father's love is conditional and that he is not supportive. That being gay is wrong. For those reasons, the mother needs to leave.

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Izzy Curer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'd never bring that up because I'm sure he would get furious." I can't think of a single thing my husband would get furious at for just asking. Same with me. That sounds unhinged.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that man seriously thinks a child so young has any interest in anything romantic/sexual towards any gender - you need to run the hell away. Secondly? If he's so critical that his 1 year old may be gay, he's probably not going to be accepting if your child actually did end up gay several years down the line. A father like that is no good for a child who is just starting to explore the world around him. Kid doesn't need that kind of casual homophobia and misogyny/toxic masculinity in his life.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats ridiculous, children dont have a sexuality 🤢 why is he sexualising everything even food?! and babies??! wtf?? 🤮 If he cant even cope with the baby reading a book he would have freaked if i was his kid, when i was little i liked pink and wearing girls clothes and had a tea set, cute plush animals, a dolls house and neon my little ponies 😅

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debrina blackmoon
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who's acting like/believing it's a horrible, disgusting thing! Many heteros and Caucasian/other racist people make me sick and are so embarrassing even if there were none in my family!!!

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Archer Harris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude… I read books ALL. THE. TIME. Doesn’t make me any different. 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻

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Marianne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sooo ... Eating bananas is generally forbidden for straight men?

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Hannah Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. Husband clearly has issues and doesn’t understand how gay works. I struggled with this with my own husband and son. My husband has had a very restricted upbringing and thought that my painting my son’s nails would make him gay. After a lot of talking and some gentle mocking, he’s updated his mindset and wouldn’t care if his sweet, caring, football hating, flower loving son was gay or not. The husband in this post needs educating and perhaps some therapy.

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Jacob Phillips
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this man sexualising a 1 year old child? That is incredibly worrying and the only person who’s sexual preference should be at all worried about is him. MASSIVE red flag right there

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Christoph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think hubby might be the one to look at. ANYONE that freaked out by gays are SUPER suspect. But we don't want him just the same.

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Aradia Sayner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Father Lists All The Reasons He Thinks His 1-Year-Old Is Gay, Mother Left. I would have preferred that title.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Deeply disturbing. I hope this doesn’t escalate. Good for the mum for calling him out on it and defending her child. Hope she gets her family involved for back up and gets husband some help

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Alma Muminovic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband may be gay or bi and using your son as a buffer to express his own sexual curiosity about the same sex? Because it sounds like hes fixating and on a 1 year olds behavior? Well it sounds like he’s projecting.. I bet if you asked him if he might think he’s gay he will either stop or come out to you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce ASAP. What the hell is wrong with people that they partner and then REPRODUCE with people like this? Don't tell me you didn't know the guy was homophobic before you married him. bullshit.

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Christoph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also WHO GIVE A S**T if he gets furious?!?!??!! Are you afraid of him as well? RED FLAGS

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Melanie Hornak
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes exactly! Time to either leave or have that conversation. Because one day soon that baby will be a teenager....and teenagers have a tendency to push boundaries and provoke.....OP does NOT want her kid doing that with someone who is dangerous!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Babies are not capable of having a sexuality! They are simply exploring their world as they notice more things about it. Colours are pretty! And how else do you eat a banana?! Tell him he needs to attend therapy to explore his own issues and why he's obsessed with it.

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Victoria Pitt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the father is obsessed, possibly he is gay and never came to terms with it within himself.

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Iapetos
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will from now on refer to make-up as "grown-up crayons". Thank you. And yes, stupid husband.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At this point, I prefer you to your husband. But seriously, whether this child grows up to be gay or not, I can only hope that he is loved and accepted unconditionally.

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Veronica Sjöberg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every toddler likes those things. Nothing strange about it. But dad needs therapy. Like years ago.

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Catherine Ann
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like hubby might be a little homo-repressed - projecting his true feelings on your baby.

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Nina
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate to break it to you, sweetheart, but hubby might be gay and in denial. Only someone really in the closet projects so much over sexualised behaviour on a baby.

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Deja Katz
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sexualization of infants and children has very little to do with someone in the closet. It’s known that pedophiles may project adult sexual desires onto infants and children, to fuel their own fantasies or to make children complicit in their abuse. Some people who have been sexually abused themselves as children may have memories triggered when they have children of their own. The husband is demonstrating several flags that he has some kind of personal darkness to work through and is not a safe father until he has done so.

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Heather Menard
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce him now. He is either a closet gay or a pedophile. Save you and your son get out now.

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OmMarol
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me thinking 23-24 year old are still children and they're having kids on their own lol

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debrina blackmoon
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OBVIOUS FUCKTARD SHITPILE HOMOPHOBE/ HATER OF ALL LGBTQIAP(+?)! Yes-HOW CAN A CHILD HAVE ANY SEXUAL IDENTITY?! THEY FIGURE IT OUT ALONG THE WAY! WHAT A WASTE OF ATOMS PISSANT LOWLIFE ASSHOLE(ETC.)! Probably a racist and flat-Earther too!!! Really, toxic bitchweed?!?!

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Tamra Stiffler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She says that they have some gay friends, of whom the husband is accepting, but when it comes to his own son, all of a sudden he's freaking out about it. This tells me he doesn't really believe what he's showing to the world. As for the banana eating...oy, that's a whole other problem. I hope he gets counseling.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor kid. Hopefully she can get a more positive/less insane partner to be that kids parent.

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Beth L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cats also like rainbows that come in through the window. They can't even see all the colors, and have been liberated of their reproductive organs.

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Miriam L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wtf... The child is 1. A baby still. He doesn't even have a concept of attraction. He is probably just beginning to recognize that most story books have a mommy and a daddy and he knows them only as parental roles. Absolutely everything described here is part of normal childhood development - the lad is doing great for his age, is fascinated by the world around him, takes pride in helping adults with tasks, and is expressing preferences and favourites. Frankly, the kid may not even be aware of what's in his own underpants - that tends to kick in roughly at about age 1½ or 2, and even then, all they know is that it feels interesting. The baby is not gay - ok, maybe he is if there's an inherent neurological component as some studies suggest, but you're still not going to know from typical infant developmental behaviours. Babies of this age are basically genderless - it doesn't impact their development or self-concept in any significant way yet. ... Gosh

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This might be the creepiest thing I've ever heard. Keep the kid. Dump the hubby.

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Anjelika
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mother isn't the only one that is speechless... just wow... and what is this banana business, so kids can't eat bananas or worse he can't eat it in public??!!

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Eb
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I probably sound old but to me being married means working together against the problem and helping each other develop. Becoming a parent is one of life's biggest challenges and most people find it brings up things from their own childhood that you need to review. It sounds like he's comfortable with having gay friends but this has touched a deeper spot in him. Time for a gentle conversation to point that out and agree how he's going to explore it without projecting it onto your child.

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deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This "dad" is nuts. Liking flowers and rainbows doesn't make you gay and neither does any of his other idiotic reasons. I don't understand why this man is putting a sexual orientation on a one year old in the first place. My dad knows how to sew and can draw really well. Does that make him gay? Absolutely not.

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Dre Mosley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SMH. And if he is, so what? Gonna disown him? Well, he's probably the kind of father who would.

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miss miss
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe husband will be happier if poor kid turns out an addict because of dad

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce this idiot and take yourself and your son far, far, far away from him.

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Claire Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does anyone here know a 1 year old that doesn’t like rainbows? My brother’s favorite color is purple that doesn’t mean he’s gay! Some people…

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MagNat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm starting to think that the husband might be gay and that's why he's so obsessed.

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SuePrew
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What in the world is going to happen if the boy picks out a doll as a toy?

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone thinks he is gay himself or possibly homophobic, but I have a different concern. Call me paranoid but if I were you I would be checking your husband's computer for child porn! I would also start watching very closely how he acts around other small children, especially young boys. He may have pedophile tendencies.

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Marian Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he is gay and is repressing it. So lets direct all the attention on the baby and away from dad and his possible sexual tendencies. I wonder if he would have reacted the same way if his son would have been a girl instead? Its really sad and mom really needs to get dad some help before there is damage done to the baby.

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Apollo Brackady
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dudes. Can. Do. What. They. Want. It’s not gay to read books genius >:(

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Rowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

w o w 1. this man is sexualizing fruit and a (let alone HIS) toddler 2. literally none of these things are gay? i'm sorry? why shouldn't this literal 1 year old like flowers and sunshine? he's one, he's exploring the world for the first time. let him live 3. i agree that there are signs that can prove a child is gay from a young age, such as crushing on members of the same sex, or making generally LGBTQ comments about themselves (such as "I don't want a husband/wife, I'd rather marry a girl/boy"). if this is how the man treats his own kid, imagine what it'll be like once the little guy has friends..

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Dave
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman married an insecure moron and likely a closeted gay in denial.

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steven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he doesn't sound overly intelligent. Just tell him "gayness" is passed down in the y-chromosome (from the father) and if the father isn't outwardly gay it means its recessive in the father and generally comes out later in life

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Asswipe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man is ignorant and dumb af. I'd presume he might have problems with his sexual identity as well.

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Faith Hurst-Bilinski
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be saying, "Yup! He's totally gay." You may as well face it now. Get out while you can and maybe we can find the kid a decent male role model.

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Teresa Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hubby is not suppressing homosexual desires or experiencing homophobic reactions towards the kid. He is flat out sexualizing an infant like some pedophile. I wouldn't let hime near the kid alone and would request he seek therapy. If he refuses, the baby and I would be out the door.

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Janet C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The louder a man complains about something "being gay" the more likely he has suppressed gay tendencies himself. Studies have shown this time and time again.

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Tamara Kroonen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, if that's gay... I will tell my very straight husband to stop being a garderer and find another job, because tending flowers is gay. I will tell him to stop eating bananas because that's gay. I will tell him to stop pointing at rainbows in awe because that's gay. Thinking about it...is he gay??? I'm really questioning my marriage right now... *sarcasm*

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is that pretty much every time I read here on bored panda about parents or a spouse behaving oddly/badly they are in their early twenties? I know there are exceptions but I can't help to think that early twenties is too young to get married, and don't even mention of procreating...

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Veronica Sjöberg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't put the blame on her. People change and show different sides of themselves, especially after having kids.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Couldn't read all of this. Divorce your husband! Sounds like you'll learn that he's a closed minded bigot, or worse. Parents should just let the kid be who and what they are, whatever the F that turns out to be.

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You're both way too young, and your partner is waaaay too immature, to be having a child right now. Also, did you get to know the guy before you started breeding with him? Homophobic personalities are super easy to root out from people, you should have seen this in the guy while you were dating and run a mile. Your partner is extremely homophobic and possibly in the closet as gay himself (dated too many guys who then came out as homophobes and I found all kinds of gay porn on their phone and hitting gay men up online for sexual encounters) as the more they protest against anything homosexual, the more likely they are to be ashamed of their own sexuality. Leave this idiot, get on some birth control, find a proper father for the child and partner who respects you. If you let this slide, in 5yrs he will be beating the crap out of the child for liking a girls cartoon show.

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Veronica Sjöberg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree on some parts of what you wrote... it doesn't matter if they are "too young". The child is here. Besides, I don't know if 23-24 is that young to have kids... That's when I had my first two kids (13 months apart) and we didn't have these issues. I think it's a matter of him having unprocessed thoughts that he needs help to deal with. He could have been 54yrs and still feel/think the same. It could be his sexual orientation or some childhood trauma but regardless he needs therapy. Or she could (maybe should) leave.

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THIS is why little boys grow up into violent, rapist men. This child is doomed

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Otter
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2 years ago

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Okay, I have to confess, I've had a "born this way" moment with human baby! Okay, I was shopping for shoes, and there was a young woman there, with a baby boy less than a year old in a baby carriage. She was trying on sparkly heels and talking to the baby "Oooh, look, Bobby, isn't this pretty!"... while the baby gave her a sort of side-eyed death glare. "Well he's straight!", I thought.

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Viviane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could still be gay but very butch. Seriously, maybe the kid was annoyed about something else. Maybe "Bobby" is short for "Roberta". Maybe the kid was thinking about frivolous consumerism. Whatever.

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