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Nearly 77k People Found This Thread Of Random Advice Useful And These Are 30 Of The Best Bits
There aren’t people who haven’t failed at doing something, but that’s actually a good thing, because now they know how to do it right. Even though it is human to make mistakes, you can significantly reduce them if you try not to repeat your own mistakes and also learn from others’.
This is how advice is born: people just want you to not do the same things that didn’t work out for them. And the best place to look for them is the internet. For example, in this Reddit thread the user prolific_ideas started. It was quite a success with 16k people joining it and almost 77k users liking it. The advice in the thread isn't related to one topic but instead are just the most random tips people got to find out the hard way.
So enjoy learning about life and share your own secrets so others can do the same. Also, don’t forget to upvote the answers that you find the most useful!
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Don’t take criticism from people you’d never go to for advice.
Being able to admit you were wrong or made a mistake is respectable
It is soooooo much easier to admit you made a mistake than spend your life trying to hide it from people.
If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you. The same goes for gossip.
Be comfortable being alone before you get in a relationship. It will keep you from staying in crap relationships just to “not be lonely”
I have been single for 15 years and there has not been one day when I have been lonely. I can not be in a relationship now. I am too selfish.
That’s what gets me too, I got very accustomed to my independence and single-dom, but now going on 8 years with my partner. We took it slow so neither one of us felt smothered.
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Yes, but I am becoming too comfortable. So long alone I probably can't even be in relationship anymore.
Be independent and happy on your own before getting in a long-term relationship. You'll learn so much about yourself and the world.
You won't be any good at loving someone else if you don't love yourself.
Quite. And afterward, you won't be able to truly handle a long-term relationship until you've experienced one for a while. Don't move too fast in any relationship, the odds are that you will regret it in the long run!
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I have never been lonely since my last long term relationship broke up. I decided that I am too happy with my own company, and controlling my own time, finances, living arrangements, etc. It's not for everyone, but for me, solitude is precious.
And sleeping like a starfish in your own bed. I was used to have 15% of the bed. It's been 3 years without partner and love it.
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Seperate beds, seperate hobbies and seperate social circles. 18 years and still going strong
Not that I think either of those those things are bad, it’s just that they aren’t for me.
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I love my husband dearly, but the 3 years I spent after my divorce & between meeting him were golden.
"Learn to be lonely. Life can be lived, life can be loved, aloooone." --Learn To Be Lonely, end credits song of the Phantom of the Opera, 2004.
I'm totally comfortable and content alone. On the rare occasion someone questions my solitude, I tell them that I am alone, not lonely, and it's very true. I read a Twitter post that struck home with me. The woman who wrote it stated that suitors are always concerned about who they are in competition with in being in a relationship with her. She replies, None. The competition is you against me being by myself. Am I happier with you than when I'm alone? Am I experiencing joy with you more so than when I'm alone in my own space. I felt that was perfect except that I apply the reasoning to ALL relationships. I have lived alone for over 10 years and it's been the happiest, quietest, most drama free time of my life. I can't imagine anyone being able to be better than my Solitude
As Adolph Knigge wrote in his work "On Human Relations" in 1788: You have to be good company for yourself before you can be for it for anyone else. It's a really good book, not the "manners guide" for what it is mistaken nowadays. Some of the advice might be a bit obsolete, though. I wouldn't recommend bawdy jokes to break the ice among nuns anymore. Well, he hated cleregy in general.
A definite must. For some staying in crap relationships can be lethal
Too many people mistake drama for love. Being off balance makes you think different thoughts, but you can't live like that. And if you aren't comfortable with yourself, how can you make it right adding someone else? And while you're at it . . . learn to laugh!
I love being alone! And some men, when they meet me, hate that I'm so independent. They realize that I don't need them around and can easily let them go when I feel like it. Let me say again, I love being alone.
FWB is always treated as disrespectful but I sometimes wonder if it's not the logical consequence of our continued social changes. Look. Medieval period, serfdom, farmsteads: extended family. Industrial revolution: families migrate in parts to cities to find work, get reduced to smaller units. Postwar nuclear family. Contraceptions and -liberation, result: swinging culture, clubs, etc., serial monogamy. Is it not the logical conclusion now that we just stay single and hook up as needed? Just a thought, dont kill me.
If it bothers you for more than 24 hours, speak up within 48
Great advice. It makes you think before maybe saying something hurtful in the heat of the moment
Looking back at your past and cringing is good. That means you’ve grown since then.
If you want a raise, ask what you need to do to earn it. Accomplish those things and ask for the raise. If you get the raise, stay. If you don’t, begin looking for another job. Don’t play games with people who move your goal posts.
You spend half your life walking and sleeping. Never buy cheap shoes or a s***ty mattress.
Watch old episodes of Bob Ross and Crocodile Hunter with your little kids. Get them started on the right path.
Always take the time to say I love you and remember tomorrow is never guaranteed.
Friendship is a gift we give to ourselves and each other...cherish it❣️
If you think your house is haunted and see s**t buy a carbon monoxide alarm might be a leak making you hallucinate.
When you finish something complicated or pick up a concept from a skill you are learning. Take a moment to be proud of yourself. You don't have anything to prove to anyone. But it feels good to take a sec to enjoy the accomplishment.
Accept people for who they are, not what you want them to be. If they show that they’re trash people, accept it and cut them loose. They won’t change for you no matter how much you want them too. If they show that they’re genuine, they’re the ones you need to surround yourself with.
Put your keys in the same place every time you come home
Put compassion before anger, before jealously, before fear. You never know what other people are going through.
Read to your kids Every. Single. Day. From 1 day old until they graduate high school.
Children who are read to become readers themselves. I grew up in a family where there were bookcases all over the place, and the one on the second-floor landing had a big overstuffed chair right there. I never saw my parents reading because they both had full time jobs and five children to care for, but I can remember being snuggled in the crook of my grandfather’s arm as he read to me as a wee child.
Never invest more than you can afford to lose.
Not financial advice.
Don't live your life regretting the small mistakes you made yesterday. You're not defective, and even though your brain will tell you that you screwed up and because of that you're unworthy of people's time and attention, it's wrong. You are worthy.
This sounds so wonderful, but clearly this person didn’t grow up with someone who never handed out praise and made a full-time practice of criticizing everything you ever did wrong and then punishing you for it...standing in the corner for an hour was getting off light!
DONT STAY WITH SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU "JUST CANT EXPLAIN IT. " You'll end up depressed, isolated and feeling stuck.
True. And at the end, alone, feeling like you lost a decade or more on being miserable in relationship with wrong person.
Most relationships can be maintained/improved by investing the time and having clear communication. If you can’t have difficult conversations with someone you love and trust, you won’t be successful. This is true for significant others, bosses, your kids, your family, everyone.
No one notices that zit or that one hair like you do. You look good homie.
And even if they do, no one really cares. And if they do, they’re not really friends.
Never make any important decisions when either hungry, horny, happy, sad, tired, or angry.
This was a recent lesson learned. When getting a new apartment test both heat and AC. You don't think to check your heater when's it 105 outside on the day you tour the apartment. We never tested our heater. First freeze of the year and our heater is broken. Two weeks for a replacement. If anyone's apartment hunting that's my nugget of wisdom.
If you're making pancakes from scratch, instead of adding in the egg to the batter as is, separate the yolk and the whites. Add the yolk to the batter, then whip and beat the egg whites till they're nice and foamy, then add them to the batter.
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Life should be experiences. When you are old and grey you will remember that wild ski trip but probably not the day you filled out those TPS reports really well.
I don't know... I still feel immense satisfaction about something I designed at work 8 years ago, before retiring.
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Best advice : the four agreements and the "is it true, necessary and kind". Four agreements (Ruiz): Be Impeccable With Your Word. Don't Take Anything Personally. Don't Make Assumptions. Always Do Your Best.
Having a good debate can be rewarding no matter who or where
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Don’t miss seeing your children grow up and only you truly know your child, be prepared to ignore advice from well meaning people. My Dad worked a lot away from home, he worked in the oil industry and it took him to some fascinating places but he missed a lot of the day-to-day stuff and he regretted it. When my daughter was born he told me these two pieces of advice, they are still true now. I’m no longer a long distance truck driver and I’m quite happy ignoring advice about my daughter because I know her feelings and thoughts. PS Obviously don’t ignore ALL of the advice, but be comfortable knowing you are the one who knows them best.
Live your best life. Be humble. Be grateful. Be kind. Smile often. Remember: a bad day isn't a bad life.
Life should be experiences. When you are old and grey you will remember that wild ski trip but probably not the day you filled out those TPS reports really well.
I don't know... I still feel immense satisfaction about something I designed at work 8 years ago, before retiring.
Load More Replies... Best advice : the four agreements and the "is it true, necessary and kind". Four agreements (Ruiz): Be Impeccable With Your Word. Don't Take Anything Personally. Don't Make Assumptions. Always Do Your Best.
Having a good debate can be rewarding no matter who or where
Load More Replies... Don’t miss seeing your children grow up and only you truly know your child, be prepared to ignore advice from well meaning people. My Dad worked a lot away from home, he worked in the oil industry and it took him to some fascinating places but he missed a lot of the day-to-day stuff and he regretted it. When my daughter was born he told me these two pieces of advice, they are still true now. I’m no longer a long distance truck driver and I’m quite happy ignoring advice about my daughter because I know her feelings and thoughts. PS Obviously don’t ignore ALL of the advice, but be comfortable knowing you are the one who knows them best.
Live your best life. Be humble. Be grateful. Be kind. Smile often. Remember: a bad day isn't a bad life.
