Woman Offers Advice To People Who Are Staying At Home With Their Spouse During The Coronavirus Quarantine
Even though social distancing is highly advised during these difficult times and people choose to stay home with their loved ones, staying behind locked doors with your significant other 24/7 may not be as idyllic as it may seem from the first glance. Turns out, many couples who are not used to spending so much of their time together are having quite a hard time being confined in a small space together with their partners. Adding up to the stress of the potential illness and unstable situation of the whole world probably doesn’t help in keeping a peaceful mind as well.
However, digital illustrator and creative development manager Christine Knopp has 6+ years’ worth of experience in how to manage working from home together with your SO and didn’t hesitate to share it on Twitter.
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Illustrator Christine Knopp has been working from home together with her SO for 6+ years now
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Maintaining a healthy relationship during the quarantine might not be an easy task for everyone since some of us are just not used to being around people 24/7 and cherish our alone time. But no worries, people with more experience on that will help to get you through. While Christine Knopp offered excellent advice based on her own experience in her tweets, we have some more professional advice from Pepper Schwartz, a psychology professor at the University of Washington, as well.
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Thus, she just can’t wrap her head around why people find it hard staying home with their partners during the quarantine
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“Scary times have the potential to drive people together or apart,” she says. But not all is lost as she adds that we may find “a new appreciation for having someone to face a scary future with”.
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Thankfully, she has some solid advice to offer on how to manage your relationship during this period
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“If people are stressed out, there are likely to be arguments,” says Daniel Kruger, a social and evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan’s School of Public Health, adding to Schwartz’s point that dramatic times tend to heighten emotions and outcomes. He advises to avoid sensitive topics: “Don’t talk about politics or religion with your family” is especially worth adhering to during stressful quarantine times. It’s generally good to avoid talking about issues where people know there’s going to be fault lines and contentions,” Kruger says.
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And says that having some alone time is not only important but also manageable even when you are both at home
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He also believes we can take this time and make our relationships stronger than ever. “People get to know each other better and may appreciate these experiences,” he says and if that’s not encouraging, we don’t know what could be.
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This is true, but we also can cut a little slack for people because just like some of the comments up there were saying, it's a change and people need time to adjust. It's not all black and white like you hate your spouse or your spouse is someone you can never be away from and you have to hang out all the time. Like if you express concerns that you will need to figure out how to be around your SO 24/7 because that's not something you normally do, people shouldn't be like "wow if it's like that, why are you even dating :/" That said I really don't like the "haha I hate my spouse, aren't our problems so funny" humor. Hate is a strong word for "we have disagreements and get on each other's nerves sometimes", and I don't think that's fair to the partner for someone to go around saying things like that. Overall I thought her advice was really good, just some people replying weren't quite getting it.
Your comment should be on top, really. I'm glad to see someone gets it and is avoiding the "look at me, I'm better" approach. My husband and I don't really have so much problems being together or together alone, but I understand both sides. It's all about the change of lifestyle, and people and relationships are way to complex to be boxed into "working vs. failure". This post is a sound advice to those who have difficulties dealing with change, no need to point fingers and criticise those who need help.
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I've worked from home with my partner for a decade and we both love it and each other. I do sometimes wonder if people who say this sort of thing are just not that into whoever they are with. Also, working from home together doesn't mean you both have to be on top of each other. We like to work in separate rooms and check in with each other several times throughout the day and catch up then.
This is the healthy way and I'm happy for you. I believe there's various people with various living situations. Some of those couples, indeed, aren't that much into one another, but some of them just cannot afford to live in a place that would allow them to distance from each other in separate rooms. So many couples live in homes that are literally composed of just one living room which is used as a bedroom, a kitchen (often not even separated from the living room/bedroom), a toilet and, if lucky, a tiny wee little additional room that usually serves as storage. My husband and I live in a place like this, plus a balcony for the laundry. We don't fight or quarrel, and we're okay with staying together, but I do understand the need for some more space.
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My husband's been home for 2 days - his work is making half of them stay home each day to allow more "social distancing". First day I was out most of the time. Today he was on so many conference calls I felt I had to be careful how much noise I made and certainly didn't get onto the vacuuming I, for once, felt like doing. I like my alone time, so if it became full time work from home I would find it hard mentally.
wilvander - I never said any such thing. No need to try so hard to be clever. This story is about why people might find having their spouse home all day a little trying, whatever the reason for staying home might be.
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Some people act like they are living in arranged marriages. What will happen when they retire?
I'm on OP's side. People are out there complaining that they HAVE to spend time with their loved ones? Sorry, but social isolation means I'm not able to see my BF for weeks and I literally cried several times yesterday because I CAN'T just sit near him like that.
Wait whut? People need alone time from their spouse? Can't you just both sit on the couch, reading a book, playing a game, watching tv, etc. and not talk? Or one sits at the table doing whatever and the other is doing whatever they like? I don't understand what this alone time would entail.
It's a matter of focus, not of whether you love somebody or not. As I said before, I have no problems with my husband, but sometimes, the very presence of someone else in the room is distracting. Especially when you live in a smaller home, with no couch and whatnot.
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My husband and I were instant best friends when we met. So much so that we got married 7 weeks after we met. This year will be 30 years married and I wouldn't trade him for the world. That being said..there are times when we get on each other's nerves and need some distance from each other. With a quarantine, that can't happen..so relationships will get tested. And he and I joke all the time about being chained to the other unwillingly. It's just playful bantering. As long as he's ok with it and I'm ok with it..I dgaf what anyone else thinks about our relationship. We know we're solid.
I changed job to take the opportunity to work from home especially so I can be with my wife all the time. If you can't stand being with your partner, maybe you should not be together ...
Lord Masuka helped reunite I and my husband back after he abandoned me for half a year, contact him today for any help lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com or whatsapp him +1(234)-307-0752
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HOW CAN I GET MY EX LOVER BACK URGENTLY My name is TAYLOR am from united state, I almost took my life because of my husband who left me and stop picking my calls answering my mails and my messages. He said He do not trust me anymore, I tried to convince and beg him, but he will not believe or answer me until we had a fight and broke up for 6months, after then I realize I can not live without him because of the love I have for him. I tried everything possible to get him back, but non worked for me, some fake spell casters scammed me and went away with my money until I came across this man called Dr Paul he helped me cast a spell and behold my husband came back after 48 hours, begging me for forgiveness, I was so surprised that spell caster like Dr Paul still exist. If anyone here needs some help, with all sincerity, contact Dr Paul today WhatsApp +2347039733645 indeed you are a priest thank you for making my home a happy home again.i can never stop talking about you sir. DR Paul is real
I don't understand how people wouldn't enjoy being with their spouse for a long period of time. My husband and I thrive in each other's company. I understand if you maybe get into an argument or something and you just need some alone time to blow off some steam, that I completely get. You're two different people, so yes, you are going to get into a couple arguments every now and then. But you shouldn't feel like you can't even spend a few days or weeks without being stressed out by their presence. How are you happy if you can't even be happy with the person you're supposed to love most? In hard times you shouldn't be trying to get away from your spouse, you should be running to them. You're supposed to be there for each other. Talk. Laugh. Enjoy each others company!!!
There is such a thing as too much together time. And just how does one approach the subject of the person at work who drove you to the edge of wanting to just fire their a*s and maybe throw in a good punch is the same person you're sharing a bed with. They may make you crazy but not legally. Best thing is to put on some music, real loud and smile while appearing to agree with every word. Then hog all the blankets that night no matter how hot it gets. As Elayne Boosler once said "I want a man in my bed, but not in my house." I don't know. There is something quite endearing about trying to figure them out.
WTF? How crazy can you get? "Offers Advice To People Who Are Staying At Home With Their Spouse During The Coronavirus Quarantine" Really? You just deal with the situation and you talk and communicate and be aware that this is an extraordinary situation that needs improvising, adepting and loving.
It's definitely easier to spend time at home with your SO if they're hot. Nobody wants to spend time with a pig.
I don't get it. The wife and I purposefully take "off-weekends" to spend in each others' exclusive company. Not even going to the shops. Literal isolation. Hell, we work at the same company, walk to work together, go home together (mostly), shop together, clothes shop together... Unless time is of the essence or the other is sick, why not. I think that your partner should be the person you would obviously want to spend the most time with. It's a sign of the times: couples spend less than 4 hours a day in each others company, and they're living in separate worlds despite sitting in the same room. That's the problem. I research, she plays on the ipad, but there is a running conversation that lasts for hours.
Exactly, me and my husband never want to be apart, we love each other and we love spending time together. I don't get it when couples get stressed out in the simple presence of their spouse. Me and my husband run to each other in hard times, not away from each other.
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Draws WHILE living with her spouse at home. "Professionals" don't do that.
Load More Replies... This is true, but we also can cut a little slack for people because just like some of the comments up there were saying, it's a change and people need time to adjust. It's not all black and white like you hate your spouse or your spouse is someone you can never be away from and you have to hang out all the time. Like if you express concerns that you will need to figure out how to be around your SO 24/7 because that's not something you normally do, people shouldn't be like "wow if it's like that, why are you even dating :/" That said I really don't like the "haha I hate my spouse, aren't our problems so funny" humor. Hate is a strong word for "we have disagreements and get on each other's nerves sometimes", and I don't think that's fair to the partner for someone to go around saying things like that. Overall I thought her advice was really good, just some people replying weren't quite getting it.
Your comment should be on top, really. I'm glad to see someone gets it and is avoiding the "look at me, I'm better" approach. My husband and I don't really have so much problems being together or together alone, but I understand both sides. It's all about the change of lifestyle, and people and relationships are way to complex to be boxed into "working vs. failure". This post is a sound advice to those who have difficulties dealing with change, no need to point fingers and criticise those who need help.
Load More Replies... I've worked from home with my partner for a decade and we both love it and each other. I do sometimes wonder if people who say this sort of thing are just not that into whoever they are with. Also, working from home together doesn't mean you both have to be on top of each other. We like to work in separate rooms and check in with each other several times throughout the day and catch up then.
This is the healthy way and I'm happy for you. I believe there's various people with various living situations. Some of those couples, indeed, aren't that much into one another, but some of them just cannot afford to live in a place that would allow them to distance from each other in separate rooms. So many couples live in homes that are literally composed of just one living room which is used as a bedroom, a kitchen (often not even separated from the living room/bedroom), a toilet and, if lucky, a tiny wee little additional room that usually serves as storage. My husband and I live in a place like this, plus a balcony for the laundry. We don't fight or quarrel, and we're okay with staying together, but I do understand the need for some more space.
Load More Replies... My husband's been home for 2 days - his work is making half of them stay home each day to allow more "social distancing". First day I was out most of the time. Today he was on so many conference calls I felt I had to be careful how much noise I made and certainly didn't get onto the vacuuming I, for once, felt like doing. I like my alone time, so if it became full time work from home I would find it hard mentally.
wilvander - I never said any such thing. No need to try so hard to be clever. This story is about why people might find having their spouse home all day a little trying, whatever the reason for staying home might be.
Load More Replies... marriage conflict settle i am a living testimony of this powerful spell caster how he brought my love partner back to me after six months of separation, i never thought this could be real because i have contacted many spell casters but none could bring back my lover all they ask from me is more money,but this spell caster just helped me without asking for much,he is so genuine and real,he make me to believed that they are still good people out there who can help you when you are in a bad situation all thanks to him, For helping me to regain my marriage back and makes my husband to do any thing i ask him, indeed he is a a great and powerful spell caster...my husband and i are back and not only that we are also happy with each other join me to thank him...for he has save my life from sadness and pain. this great spell caster is called Dr solutions you can have contact him and ask him questions or get advise concerning your marriage VIA, landofsolutions @ outlook . com
Some people act like they are living in arranged marriages. What will happen when they retire?
I'm on OP's side. People are out there complaining that they HAVE to spend time with their loved ones? Sorry, but social isolation means I'm not able to see my BF for weeks and I literally cried several times yesterday because I CAN'T just sit near him like that.
Wait whut? People need alone time from their spouse? Can't you just both sit on the couch, reading a book, playing a game, watching tv, etc. and not talk? Or one sits at the table doing whatever and the other is doing whatever they like? I don't understand what this alone time would entail.
It's a matter of focus, not of whether you love somebody or not. As I said before, I have no problems with my husband, but sometimes, the very presence of someone else in the room is distracting. Especially when you live in a smaller home, with no couch and whatnot.
Load More Replies... My husband and I were instant best friends when we met. So much so that we got married 7 weeks after we met. This year will be 30 years married and I wouldn't trade him for the world. That being said..there are times when we get on each other's nerves and need some distance from each other. With a quarantine, that can't happen..so relationships will get tested. And he and I joke all the time about being chained to the other unwillingly. It's just playful bantering. As long as he's ok with it and I'm ok with it..I dgaf what anyone else thinks about our relationship. We know we're solid.
I changed job to take the opportunity to work from home especially so I can be with my wife all the time. If you can't stand being with your partner, maybe you should not be together ...
Lord Masuka helped reunite I and my husband back after he abandoned me for half a year, contact him today for any help lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com or whatsapp him +1(234)-307-0752
Hi.+I+went+over+an+awesome+Hacker+Kevin+Mitnick.+They+have+assisted+with+a+ton+of+issues+like+Phone+Hack,+Account+Hack,+Clear+Debts,+Grade+update,+Criminal+Records+help+E.t.c.+They+spared+my+life.+ you+can+contact+by+means+of+ email:+kevinmitnick773+(at)+gmail+dot+com Text/Whatsapp:++1+8634559148
HOW CAN I GET MY EX LOVER BACK URGENTLY My name is TAYLOR am from united state, I almost took my life because of my husband who left me and stop picking my calls answering my mails and my messages. He said He do not trust me anymore, I tried to convince and beg him, but he will not believe or answer me until we had a fight and broke up for 6months, after then I realize I can not live without him because of the love I have for him. I tried everything possible to get him back, but non worked for me, some fake spell casters scammed me and went away with my money until I came across this man called Dr Paul he helped me cast a spell and behold my husband came back after 48 hours, begging me for forgiveness, I was so surprised that spell caster like Dr Paul still exist. If anyone here needs some help, with all sincerity, contact Dr Paul today WhatsApp +2347039733645 indeed you are a priest thank you for making my home a happy home again.i can never stop talking about you sir. DR Paul is real
I don't understand how people wouldn't enjoy being with their spouse for a long period of time. My husband and I thrive in each other's company. I understand if you maybe get into an argument or something and you just need some alone time to blow off some steam, that I completely get. You're two different people, so yes, you are going to get into a couple arguments every now and then. But you shouldn't feel like you can't even spend a few days or weeks without being stressed out by their presence. How are you happy if you can't even be happy with the person you're supposed to love most? In hard times you shouldn't be trying to get away from your spouse, you should be running to them. You're supposed to be there for each other. Talk. Laugh. Enjoy each others company!!!
There is such a thing as too much together time. And just how does one approach the subject of the person at work who drove you to the edge of wanting to just fire their a*s and maybe throw in a good punch is the same person you're sharing a bed with. They may make you crazy but not legally. Best thing is to put on some music, real loud and smile while appearing to agree with every word. Then hog all the blankets that night no matter how hot it gets. As Elayne Boosler once said "I want a man in my bed, but not in my house." I don't know. There is something quite endearing about trying to figure them out.
WTF? How crazy can you get? "Offers Advice To People Who Are Staying At Home With Their Spouse During The Coronavirus Quarantine" Really? You just deal with the situation and you talk and communicate and be aware that this is an extraordinary situation that needs improvising, adepting and loving.
It's definitely easier to spend time at home with your SO if they're hot. Nobody wants to spend time with a pig.
I don't get it. The wife and I purposefully take "off-weekends" to spend in each others' exclusive company. Not even going to the shops. Literal isolation. Hell, we work at the same company, walk to work together, go home together (mostly), shop together, clothes shop together... Unless time is of the essence or the other is sick, why not. I think that your partner should be the person you would obviously want to spend the most time with. It's a sign of the times: couples spend less than 4 hours a day in each others company, and they're living in separate worlds despite sitting in the same room. That's the problem. I research, she plays on the ipad, but there is a running conversation that lasts for hours.
Exactly, me and my husband never want to be apart, we love each other and we love spending time together. I don't get it when couples get stressed out in the simple presence of their spouse. Me and my husband run to each other in hard times, not away from each other.
Load More Replies... Draws WHILE living with her spouse at home. "Professionals" don't do that.
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