“What Words/Phrases Do You Hear Someone Say And Immediately Know You’re Probably Not Going To Like The Person?” (50 Answers)
We’ve all got pet peeves. Some people will smack anyone who starts chewing with their mouth open, and others might already be on their way home if a date shows up 5 minutes late. But there are also plenty of things people can say to make their potential friendships instantly go up in flames.
Someone recently asked Reddit users to share words and phrases that alert them that they won't like a person, and readers did not hold back. Below, you’ll find a variety of statements that people can't stand, so enjoy learning what not to say upon meeting someone, and be sure to upvote the phrases that you consider to be red flags as well!
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Anything that involves "god's will"
As a Christian (lol considering this article's title), I've always hated the use of that phrase. I do believe in God's will, but it shouldn't be used as a replacement for loving and serving a person, and definitely not as an excuse that a person "got what they deserved". God's will could be many things but it will always involve loving and caring for other human beings (and yourself)
Describes himself as an Alpha Male. Tells you implausible stories about how tough he is/how many women he's "Banged". Yeah, me an you gonna fall out soon buddy
Alpha and beta humans do not exist. It's simply an excuse for some to engage in and justify their toxic behaviors.
Anyone who is rude to waitstaff.
Been on a few dates where potential partners treated the waiter/waitress like garbage.
Instant dislike and termination of the date.
Boys will be boys
I hate this one with a burning passion. Same with 'Boys don't cry'
“People don’t like me because I tell it like it is”
"We're a family here" in a work setting. Mother f****r you just laid off "cousin" Bill.
“Do your own research.” Quickly became the mantra of some of the most misinformed and ignorant people on the planet.
I hope somebody teaches those people about burden of proof fallacy
It wouldn't matter. Facts and logic are not the reason they hold their beliefs and won't be the reason they abandon them.
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People in the 90's: Don't trust ANYONE on the internet! People now: Freedom Eagle says Hildog eats babies..and Jewish space lasers..and Soros..and Gates..and something about a reset...wake up sheeple..av DuN mA ResurCh..
That's usually how it goes whenever someone tells you to do your own research. It just gives you more ammo to blow further holes in their arguments.
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It's like recipes. If all you have in the pantry is canned tuna and butterscotch syrup, you can find a recipe for that online. Same goes for "facts" so people go in with their own opinions and beliefs and can 100% find some garbage online that supports and validates them, ignoring the rest. The web has been a huge facilitator for the confirmation bias.
I tried to do my own research, but getting grant and IRB approval is hard work. Turns out it's a lot easier to just assume my hypothesis is correct and go from there. /s
I hear, “Do your own research as long as you only research sources that confirm your existing bias”.
This is it exactly. But it's honestly *almost* inherent to the architecture of the Web, in it's sad state. In a lot of cases it's hard even to come across opposing viewpoints, especially within walled gardens like FB or Twitter or YouTube where people spend a lot of their time. The algorithms boil down to: "Oh, you liked that? Here's more of it. I don't want to change things and p**s you off and send you somewhere else". So you *really* have to make a conscious decision to search and evaluate an opposing viewpoint. It's maybe not surprising that people don't bother. Especially when, at the end of the day, they know they're just shitposting on the Internet while they watch TV.
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And they will NEVER reference their source. "Google it yourself, I don't have time for this."
And if they ever do cite their source, I've seen some instances of their sources (at least scientific one) that have been peer reviewed, and denounced by field professionals.
Load More Replies... I do my own research when something does not seem right or "off" to me. I was trained how to do research for facts when writing papers. Plus I am very interested in how to find the facts. There is a lot of BS out there. Politicians, should (in my opinion) be held accountable for bull** and lies, The same for news medias, and pseudo science papers. Lately I have noticed that cable tv has a lot of bull** under titles of "History".. etc. I am from the USA.
I don't agree with that - people should make an effort to understand things themselves. It's basic critical thinking.
Too many people have no idea what "critical thinking" is. Desantis is certainly trying to outlaw it in Florida
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This one is funny. Please, DO your OWN research. You just might learn something. Are you afraid to study? Have you not learned how to think for yourself? Do you not know how to discern between truth and fiction? Those are the reasons you would NOT want to do the research yourself. Unless you are just intensely lazy.
I mean, of course do your own research. But then you've got people that make claims for the sake of argument/debate and fail to either provide proof, or cite their sources.
Load More Replies... What??? How are people supposed to make an informed decision without their own research. I research restaurants that I want to go to. I research the meaning of words I don't know. I research medical issues. I don't understand this. Why do people make such crass generalisations.
That phrase usually follows some hare brained conspiracy after you ask them for a source.
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So considering my job is pretty much doing research, this hits me differently...
In college we learned how to legitimately research topics and confirm genuine facts, one of the MOST important things is to consider the source. You need to know where the information is coming from, who's collecting it, how and why---do they have a agenda to push? Also, facts and opinions are not the same thing.
It's a fair statement though often used by people who should take their own advice. Blindly accepting the official narrative of anything is dangerous and you should look into the background. Not like the "flat earth" or "vacks causes autism" stuff, but there's plenty of things that were initially dismissed as crazy conspiracy theories that were later proven true (Tuskegee, MK Ultra, Apple slowing down old phones, your mobile devices recording you, etc.)
I have recently started using "do your own research". I am a research scientist and have recently got fed up with ignoramuses who parrot media hype and then ask me for my scientific references. The scientific references are all there on Google Scholar, you can look them up as easily as I can.
Thing is, when we challenge that and do the research they ask us to, we can still totally own them with verifiable facts. They hate that. That’s when they get really ugly and threatening, especially if they have a gun.
I see nothing bad in this one. Making researches takes time.and efforts. When discussing a subject with people that denies everything factual found during long hours going from source to source to find the original ones and then they say give the proof, I’ll tend to answer “do you own research”. My time and energy was already taken by the researches and the debate. If I can find proofs of what I say everybody does.
This is so frustrating because what is the alternative? "Don't bother researching?", "Believe everything you're told?". I mean, I get it. Accepting uncritically something your buddy posted on FB is awful. But at the same time, media outlets are *soooo* polarized that how do you get an honest, balanced view of things without looking deeper into it yourself? So frustrating.
Don’t bother getting into arguments with random idiots online. I’ve spent hours “doing the research”, replying to the random idiot with facts, links etc. F* ‘em. They’re stupid because they want to be stupid. Nothing you say will change their mind. Don’t waste your time. So I’ll keep using the “do your own research” reply, thank you.
Covid really broke my faith in humans. So many people that thought research is reading facebook posts or google their own opinions.
These people think research is looking up articles online that confirms their deranged views without even the slightest critical sense
Kinda sucks because if you ask someone to explain it to you, they tell you to Google it. Why not just tell me what info you have and/or your opinion?
Doing your own research is like doing your own brain surgery. And the results are often identical.
No, I won't. I trust that educated, knowledgeable and experienced people done their research, who are better experts in their field that cabbage brained loser from middle of cabbage field town.
That's a lot like "everyone's opinion matters". No it does not. Not everyone's opinion on every subject should be treated with equal weight. I don't wear woman's clothing, so my opinion on women's fashion should be considered less meaningful than Anna Wintour's, or my opinion on astrophysics should carry less weight than Neil Tyson's.
But, in balance, neither should we consider every expert opinion as automatically correct and unquestionable. c.f. The Iraq war, and the consensus of foreign policy experts, and the 'serious' media, around something that a great deal of citizens could see was a mistake at the time. And that I think is close to universally seen that way now.
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I do. But I do it as a medical doctor, which means, yes, I am more qualified to speak on the topic than whoever read the two sentences of an article you read out of context on a facebook post
they only read the the first sentence of the abstract and then consider themselves experts on the topic
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"Men are logical/analytical, and women are emotional."
That's one of the most inaccurate statements I keep hearing every time I listen to a certain type of people on certain videos/podcasts.
"Ugh I hate cats"
I can't trust someone who says that. People who hate cats, really hate cats. To the point of abuse.
“No offense, but…”, just before saying the most offensive thing you’ve heard in your life.
"It's all a part of god's plan"
“Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?” - Epicurus
You should smile more 🙄
I find grinning widely while maintaining intense eye contact and tilting my head sideways generally makes them retract that statement.
"i have no problem with the gays, just keep it away from me"
“I’m so bipolar” to explain why they are indecisive or to play off poor life choices. Or just to say to sound quirky. Really hate that. I’m bipolar and rarely tell anyone.
I'm bipolar and hate this trend. Having a mental illness isn't fun, cute, quirky, or an excuse for bad behavior. You don't want to know what it's really like being bipolar.
Women who say “I only have guy friends” which is usually followed by something like “women always bring drama / women are usually bitches / women can’t handle how real I am / women are always jealous of me.”
ETA: Yeah, it’s great having guy friends, but the problem is women who view other women as the enemy.
"Why isn't there a white history month" I'm not even huge into politics, but this says a lot about someone to me
If a person humiliates others for the sake of boosting his own ego, I immediately stop communicating with that person.
"Sheeple" As soon as I hear it I tune out everything else they have to say
I just assume they're trying to summon an ancient Eldritch species of sheep-people to usher in the Apocalypse. This ends up being more interesting than what they were actually trying to say, and generally more coherent as well.
"oh, that's such typical [star sign] behaviour"
I’m a cancer, we’re supposed to be sensitive (which I am) so it really hurts my feelings when people say that!
I believe in the Bible as historical fact
Woke.
This one gets so annoying to see. And it's always used by freaking bigots
"If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best"
“I just say what everyone else is thinking”. Describing someone as an “alpha” “sigma” “beta”, or calling women “females”
Depends on context: if I say Andrew Tate is an insecure b***h that tries to hide it behind his aLPhA mAlE image is exactly what everyone is thinking. Btw, is he's still in jail? Has he spread his alphaism among his fellow inmates?
“Let’s go Brandon”
On a positive note, there was a new story about a young Autistic boy, named Brandon, who was nervous about his vacation in Texas. Until he saw all the "Let's go Brandon" signs which cheered him on. https://www.fox2detroit.com/news/8-year-old-boy-with-autism-puts-new-spin-on-lets-go-brandon-chants
"Yes but you know there's worst" everytime you have an issue. Denying the pain of someone isn't helping them at all. Yes other have it worst, but at day D, hour H, I want to talk about my feeling and feel heard and seen. I want solutions or I want help or I want someone to b***h about the subject / person which / who is sensitive topic for me. Not thinking about others. That's not being selfish, that's destressing, and if you can't find a solution at least outing bad vibes.
Worse. I thought i was a typo the first time, but then it was repeated.
"My ex was a narcissist". I didn't hear this nearly as often until the last year or so. Now suddenly everyone has had an ex that was a narcissist. I work in the behavioral health field and this one drives me crazy.
Like no, just because you both wanted different things in life doesn't make him selfish enough to be labeled with an actual *personality disorder,* ***oh my god.*** Just say you weren't compatible and move on with your life.
No offense to those who actually did genuinely date a narcissist.
"As a straight, white, cisgender person..."
Ma'am this a Wendy's.
"oh im compelled to do this totally normal activity because my OCD/adhd/bipolar is kicking in!"
people who will insert, “well if trump was still in office…” in every single conversation despite having nothing to do with politics
Got my shirt for x amount, my shoes for y amount type of people. You paid way more than normal people for stuff that's not something to brag about. Also do you really have no innate worth that you have to toss around price tags to attract people's attention.
People who lie/brag about their IQ. In my experience they seem like the dumbest people.
"I'm a -insert star sign- so that's why I'm (being a c**t)"
I'm a Cantaloupe and my ex was an Asparagus so clearly we were not compatible.
I had this new coworker who I didn’t have to work with, but could have made both of our jobs easier. He didn’t even need to say anything. At the first morning meeting he had a Daily Wire coffee mug that said, “this cup is filled with liberal tears.”
Yeah, no thanks dude. I don’t need your help with anything.
Or anyone whose worldview distills every situation into 'them and us'.
"All men are trash"
if men said all women are trash they do be acting like they're abt to start a war on twitter. i dont like it when people say something bad about the opposite gender,with "all"
"I hate drama." I have never heard someone say this, unsolicited, and not been exhausted with their shenanigans within a day.
If a high school student said it referring to one of their classes, that wouldn’t be too bad.
"As an ENFP/ISTJ/JKDSAJKHSDF/other alphabet soup personality test baloney..."
"snowflakes", "woke", or "unbeknownst".
Especially unbeknownst, I hate that word more than is reasonable to acknowledge.
"Tough love" often seems to be used as an excuse to be a d**k. I get it when it's like an intervention, but most times I've personally heard it this was just people who wanted to start s**t.
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Until black lives matter, not all lives matter
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Some of these are legit, but for the most part my opinion is that y'all just don't like people.
Using the size of someone penis as an insult - especially common with women who really don’t like being asked if they’re being such a b-tch cause they’ve a c**t the size of a bucket? (How the tables have turned). Simple rule - don’t attack someone on something they can’t change!
I think that if you're a male and insult a woman first by calling her a b***h or c**t, you deserve to have your penis ridiculed.
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A red flag they forgot is someone who writes in weebspeak, like "*blushes* *gets hot and bothered* *shuffles feet:*" my god it is cringeworthy.
Anyone who starts bragging about their self-defense skills. No, your hands are NOT registered as lethal weapons. Also anyone who brags about having street smarts. That instantly tells me you don't because if you did there would be no need to brag about it.
#1 rule - do what you need to , to get the flack away. (according to my teacher.)
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'I'm not a dog person, keep it away from me' Had this in a park the other day. A park, full of dogs. Hmmm okay.
Dogs are adorable, but I'm a little scared of them, which is why I sometimes say this. Though, after going with one of my friends on some dog walks, I'm getting more comfortable:)
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"Can't you just stop being anxious/depressed/panicked?" or "There's no reason for you to be depressed." Like anyone who suffers from anxiety and depression LIKES being that way. The only thing I've ever heard that's more ridiculous was a co-worker talking to a friend who said "Why don't they try not acting like they were black?"
I'd like to add "Do you want me to be honest...?" NO, no thank you. If you aren't already speaking honestly, I'm going to assume the next thing you say won't go well.
But ikr is really useful, especially in text
Load More Replies... Widely unpopular opinion here: "Doggo" and the like. I cannot STAAAAAAND doggo, hooman, and all the rest of that. It drives me absolutely batshit insane.
Pretty much anything relating to "gender critical" is a quick ignore for me. It's like watching a toddler throw a temper tantrum because mommy didn't let them smoke a cigarette: prevention of harm through ignorance being met with hate and rage. I'm intersex, not whatever binary was forcibly written on my birth certificate, and my gender is not defined by that slip of paper either for that matter.
People who use the phrases crotch goblins/spawn/brat/“Ugh, I just don’t like children”. You are allowed to not be drawn to spending lots of time with kids. You are allowed to not be a parent (in fact please don’t if you don’t want to), you are allowed to not enjoy being in close proximity to children making a lot of high pitched noise. What I don’t understand it why it had become socially acceptable to name call and ostracise a vulnerable minority group of humans. We don’t accept a nasty names for people if different skin colours and cultural backgrounds, we don’t accept down putting and isolation of people with disabilities, we don’t accept people saying “Ugh, I just don’t like old people”, so why should treating kids the same way be acceptable?
“You know what your problem is…”, I wasn’t aware I had a problem other than you. SMH
Keto. Gluten free. Paleo. I uninstalled Pinterest because it's ground zero for those words
Why are we so judgy? Sure, some idiots open their mouths & prove how moronic they are. I for one am grateful. Good to know! Others simply say things that are not my style. They may be good people otherwise. The world would suck if we all thought/spoke the same way. I just don't understand the hate, especially over a word/phrase. I don't hate even the worst of these, just avoid them.
Yes! And normally I'd make an exception about cats, but I just saw the "Kitchen Nightmares" episode about Amy's Baking Company and she says "we have 3 sons who inhabit cat bodies" and "I speak feline- meow meow meow meow." That level is a red flag for me.
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"The intrusive thoughts won!" while referring to, idk, spontaneously dying their hair. Those are impulsive thoughts. Impulsive thoughts are throwing something, dying your hair, binge shopping. Intrusive thoughts are horrific, sickening images and ideas that stay in your head constantly because of mental illness. I have diagnosed OCD. Intrusive thoughts are about hurting others. Hurting yourself. And not just punching someone, like horrible sh*t you'd see in American psycho or happy tree friends. Anything taboo or morally wrong can be constantly on repeat in your mind, like r*pe, p*dophillia, ect. And you can't stop it. Because they are INTRUSIVE. You feel like the most horrible, evil, disgusting person ever. When mine were bad, I was having daily panic attacks, and su*cidal thoughts at age 10/11. And you can't just tell people whats going on, because 1. no one knows what intrusive thoughts or OCD actually is, and 2. You can't describe them without triggering or upsetting people.
Should pronouns people and you misgendered me people be in the list?
Wow, I posted a comment that basically said I don't like these one-sided politically-based bored pandas and my comment got immediate blocked by I suppose a one-sided political censor. Nice work Bored Panda! Great job on keeping an open mind and a place for open discussion! Guess I need to not resist and be assimilated by the snow flakes...oh sorry, snowflakes don't like people that call them snowflakes.
Honey, there's only one person acting like a snowflake here and it's you. I know it's hard but accepting that other people have a different opinion than you is something that comes with being a grownup.
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"could of.." -"would of" ------ maaan, that is "could´ve" what is literally "could HAVE" ----- I don´t like people being that lazy with their own language
"It is what it is" I freaking hate when people say that. It "is what it is" because you are too lazy/scared/disinterested in actually doing something to change the situation for the better.
Yuck..these political Bored Pandas are annoying. So much virtual signalling...so much my side's good...the other side's bad...blah, blah, blah, blah. Most of us are here to take a break from the political warfare and don't really want to hear from yet another close minded, bigoted author who is talking to the rest of those inhabiting their political bubble.
Until black lives matter, not all lives matter
Load More Replies... Some of these are legit, but for the most part my opinion is that y'all just don't like people.
Using the size of someone penis as an insult - especially common with women who really don’t like being asked if they’re being such a b-tch cause they’ve a c**t the size of a bucket? (How the tables have turned). Simple rule - don’t attack someone on something they can’t change!
I think that if you're a male and insult a woman first by calling her a b***h or c**t, you deserve to have your penis ridiculed.
Load More Replies... A red flag they forgot is someone who writes in weebspeak, like "*blushes* *gets hot and bothered* *shuffles feet:*" my god it is cringeworthy.
Anyone who starts bragging about their self-defense skills. No, your hands are NOT registered as lethal weapons. Also anyone who brags about having street smarts. That instantly tells me you don't because if you did there would be no need to brag about it.
#1 rule - do what you need to , to get the flack away. (according to my teacher.)
Load More Replies... 'I'm not a dog person, keep it away from me' Had this in a park the other day. A park, full of dogs. Hmmm okay.
Dogs are adorable, but I'm a little scared of them, which is why I sometimes say this. Though, after going with one of my friends on some dog walks, I'm getting more comfortable:)
Load More Replies... "Can't you just stop being anxious/depressed/panicked?" or "There's no reason for you to be depressed." Like anyone who suffers from anxiety and depression LIKES being that way. The only thing I've ever heard that's more ridiculous was a co-worker talking to a friend who said "Why don't they try not acting like they were black?"
I'd like to add "Do you want me to be honest...?" NO, no thank you. If you aren't already speaking honestly, I'm going to assume the next thing you say won't go well.
But ikr is really useful, especially in text
Load More Replies... Widely unpopular opinion here: "Doggo" and the like. I cannot STAAAAAAND doggo, hooman, and all the rest of that. It drives me absolutely batshit insane.
Pretty much anything relating to "gender critical" is a quick ignore for me. It's like watching a toddler throw a temper tantrum because mommy didn't let them smoke a cigarette: prevention of harm through ignorance being met with hate and rage. I'm intersex, not whatever binary was forcibly written on my birth certificate, and my gender is not defined by that slip of paper either for that matter.
People who use the phrases crotch goblins/spawn/brat/“Ugh, I just don’t like children”. You are allowed to not be drawn to spending lots of time with kids. You are allowed to not be a parent (in fact please don’t if you don’t want to), you are allowed to not enjoy being in close proximity to children making a lot of high pitched noise. What I don’t understand it why it had become socially acceptable to name call and ostracise a vulnerable minority group of humans. We don’t accept a nasty names for people if different skin colours and cultural backgrounds, we don’t accept down putting and isolation of people with disabilities, we don’t accept people saying “Ugh, I just don’t like old people”, so why should treating kids the same way be acceptable?
“You know what your problem is…”, I wasn’t aware I had a problem other than you. SMH
Keto. Gluten free. Paleo. I uninstalled Pinterest because it's ground zero for those words
Why are we so judgy? Sure, some idiots open their mouths & prove how moronic they are. I for one am grateful. Good to know! Others simply say things that are not my style. They may be good people otherwise. The world would suck if we all thought/spoke the same way. I just don't understand the hate, especially over a word/phrase. I don't hate even the worst of these, just avoid them.
Yes! And normally I'd make an exception about cats, but I just saw the "Kitchen Nightmares" episode about Amy's Baking Company and she says "we have 3 sons who inhabit cat bodies" and "I speak feline- meow meow meow meow." That level is a red flag for me.
Load More Replies... "The intrusive thoughts won!" while referring to, idk, spontaneously dying their hair. Those are impulsive thoughts. Impulsive thoughts are throwing something, dying your hair, binge shopping. Intrusive thoughts are horrific, sickening images and ideas that stay in your head constantly because of mental illness. I have diagnosed OCD. Intrusive thoughts are about hurting others. Hurting yourself. And not just punching someone, like horrible sh*t you'd see in American psycho or happy tree friends. Anything taboo or morally wrong can be constantly on repeat in your mind, like r*pe, p*dophillia, ect. And you can't stop it. Because they are INTRUSIVE. You feel like the most horrible, evil, disgusting person ever. When mine were bad, I was having daily panic attacks, and su*cidal thoughts at age 10/11. And you can't just tell people whats going on, because 1. no one knows what intrusive thoughts or OCD actually is, and 2. You can't describe them without triggering or upsetting people.
Should pronouns people and you misgendered me people be in the list?
Wow, I posted a comment that basically said I don't like these one-sided politically-based bored pandas and my comment got immediate blocked by I suppose a one-sided political censor. Nice work Bored Panda! Great job on keeping an open mind and a place for open discussion! Guess I need to not resist and be assimilated by the snow flakes...oh sorry, snowflakes don't like people that call them snowflakes.
Honey, there's only one person acting like a snowflake here and it's you. I know it's hard but accepting that other people have a different opinion than you is something that comes with being a grownup.
Load More Replies... "could of.." -"would of" ------ maaan, that is "could´ve" what is literally "could HAVE" ----- I don´t like people being that lazy with their own language
"It is what it is" I freaking hate when people say that. It "is what it is" because you are too lazy/scared/disinterested in actually doing something to change the situation for the better.
Yuck..these political Bored Pandas are annoying. So much virtual signalling...so much my side's good...the other side's bad...blah, blah, blah, blah. Most of us are here to take a break from the political warfare and don't really want to hear from yet another close minded, bigoted author who is talking to the rest of those inhabiting their political bubble.
