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Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.

The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.

Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.

I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.

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denzoren
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First I was like "ohhh boy" and then I was like "okay that genuinely made me laugh" I really hope this was a joke right?

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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.

This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m probably gonna repeat myself more than once here… Heartbreaking

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10 Year Challenge

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James016
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read somewhere that the person who created insulin didn't patent it so that it could be given to people who need it to live at no cost to them. I may not have that quite right though.

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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.

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ZombieGirl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol

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In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when the garbage man clocks out for the day that's it, job is over till you clock back in.

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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”

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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.

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Mysterious Ways

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Raven Sheridan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.

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I Feel We Are There Already

I Feel We Are There Already

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s sad that we have to make jokes out of our healthcare system in order to cope with it.

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You’re Not From Around Here Are You

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K Witmer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is right on the nose. It was incredibly sad to see how many people really don't care about anyone but themselves

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"Cries In Millenial"

"Cries In Millenial"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Every generation blames the one before..." Good song, true too.

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Sad Truth

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River Webb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them

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H Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 29 year old professional footballer had a cardiac arrest last week on the pitch in the middle of an international game. You never know when people are going to need assistance.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If everyone in the train clapped their hands it wouldn't be London. It would be a Disney movie!

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Monty Is Fiennes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...

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Is Being Short Really That Bad

Is Being Short Really That Bad

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t get it why are we so upset about people who are shorter or taller or fat or skinny or just different in any way??? Snap out of it people

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Sad Truth

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J. F.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Germany there is the discussion to raise it to 68 and step by step to 70.

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And Don’t Forget Student Loans

And Don’t Forget Student Loans

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Deborah B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.

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Motivation Is The Leading Cause Of Death On The China/Nepal Border

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Life Can Be So Rewarding

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.

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#35

I Don't Know If I Would Trust Him With My Pets

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#36

"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

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Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

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It Was So Beautiful

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How

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because if we don’t have ice cream we know we will all die a slow horrible agonizingly painful death!!! You’re more than essential

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Lauren Caswell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(

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Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love my cast iron skillet that belonged to my husband’s grandmother. It took 75 years of seasoning to perfect, and I will cut anybody who dares come at it with dish soap!

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Saico Hipe
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A properly seasoned cast iron skillet can get washed with zero ill effect. Use flaxseed oil and a BBQ grill to season it, and you can send that baby through a dishwasher on heavy duty with detergent and rinse agent and it won't touch the seasoning. I speak from experience working years in foodservice and having my own cast iron pans at home.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But cast iron skillets are better for hitting people over the head, rapunzel style

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Brandon Collinsworth
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, all of you are very wrong, you can't get regular skillet hot enough to get that perfect char, and for me at least the most important thing is I can use a single pan to get a good char on a pork chop or whatever and then pop it in the oven to finish cooking. And they are also, not really that damn hard to clean because unlike stupid cheap frying pan you don't have to worry too much about messing up the finish, get a good plastic or wooden scrapper and just scrap the bits off then wipe, super easy.

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Mimi777
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t know anything about cast iron skillets so do you actually need to use water and/or soap to clean it? Or you just scrape stuff off then wipe it?

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Kenny Kulbiski
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cooked a rib eye in a plain Jane skillet the other night because I was to lazy to wrestle the cast iron skillet. Only difference I noticed was less hassle. (Sorry purists.)

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Otter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got a set of 3 cast-iron skillets for $15 at the Winco. I got the others at thrift stores, so I've paid a total of about $45 for my 6 cast-iron pans.

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Nathan Pogorzala
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got an 18” Lodge and it cost me 20 dollars. I use soap on it and guess what!!? It cooks food just fine.

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Martz Migraña
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I purchased my first cast iron skillet at 27 and low key I'm looking forward to pass it on my niece when I'm older 😅

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mine is over 100 years old and it's still non-stick. It was from a Great-Great Grandmother.

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F. H.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a rolled iron skillet. It's just a non-stainless piece of iron and was about 10 Euro. You can use those things for everything and they are almost indestructable.

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Tara Louise
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just came here for cleaning/seasoning tips. Did not disappoint thanks guys!!

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An Co
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love my cast iron skillet that I got from some guy on the internet named Daumer. Gives a nice, pork taste to everything.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is stupid. Cast iron skillets/pans can withstand an amazing amount of abuse. If it gets rusty/too grimy or otherwise a sad look, you just buy some abrasive paper in the closest hardware store and grind it down a bit. The main problem is that cooks are not necessary experts on metallurgy. And yes, I have asked metallurgists how to handle a cast iron skillet. And no. The cast iron do not soak up detergents so you cannot wash the chemical away. If you are as lazy as me, a flap disc on the angle grinder works a treat for deep cleaning.

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Erik Granqvist
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe I should add you need to season the pan after the angle grinder. But that is easy. Really easy.

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lara
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK, when you use a cast iron skillet you use it to fry or bake. YOU NEVER WASH IT. You scrape it out, wipe it and store it. You wash it you MUST RE-SEASON IT. You wash it, dry it [thoroughly], wipe it down [ALL OF IT, OUTSIDE AND INSIDE THE PAN} with solid Crisco, and put it in the oven at 220 degrees. Them turn the oven off and let it sit until it cools, then you take it out and wipe it out with a paper towel or a towel.

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grotesqueer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you have to re-season it after soap it wasn't properly seasoned to begin with. A good seasoning will stand soap wash too. (Not that you're supposed to use soap. You're not, but doing so every once in a while won't harm the pan)

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Edie Hart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, way heavier. No, not more expensive. Lasts forever , so you can pass it down to your grandchildren. Yes, you can clean it, but don't put it in the dishwasher. Also, makes a wonderful weapon if you need to defend yourself in the kitchen.

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Leslie Burleson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you think there is no difference , you don't know anyone who really knows how to make food slap . You can clean them, just not with soap. You can clean them with a scrub of olive oil and kosher salt . Cleaning with soap wouldn't be enough to strip the seasoning completely.

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Isa Trip
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can clean it but you have to put some oil after drying it. Keep it with some coconut oil. This will prevent it from getting orangy and its easier to clean.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

got three , great for camping and throwing at bears

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically, according to a number of professional cooks I have found myself having to ask since being told this awhile ago, washing skillets and pans of any sort is a no-no. We are just supposed to wipe them out and sanitize. YUCK!! I will continue to treat my cast-iron pieces with exceptional care but they and other utensils will be washed for my own sanity and comfort.

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lara
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you heat it on the stove after you wipe it out, the heat destroys ANY bacteria, virus, aliens, and you never have to worry about botulism.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate cast iron pots for all those reasons mentioned above. Not worth the money imo.

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Me
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really?? I find cast iron pans to be great...non stick, easy to clean, versatile and inexpensive. I bought a 12" pan for $9 USD, eggs slide right off the pan.

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I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

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