Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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I love my cast iron skillet that belonged to my husband’s grandmother. It took 75 years of seasoning to perfect, and I will cut anybody who dares come at it with dish soap!
A properly seasoned cast iron skillet can get washed with zero ill effect. Use flaxseed oil and a BBQ grill to season it, and you can send that baby through a dishwasher on heavy duty with detergent and rinse agent and it won't touch the seasoning. I speak from experience working years in foodservice and having my own cast iron pans at home.
Load More Replies...But cast iron skillets are better for hitting people over the head, rapunzel style
Ok, all of you are very wrong, you can't get regular skillet hot enough to get that perfect char, and for me at least the most important thing is I can use a single pan to get a good char on a pork chop or whatever and then pop it in the oven to finish cooking. And they are also, not really that damn hard to clean because unlike stupid cheap frying pan you don't have to worry too much about messing up the finish, get a good plastic or wooden scrapper and just scrap the bits off then wipe, super easy.
I don’t know anything about cast iron skillets so do you actually need to use water and/or soap to clean it? Or you just scrape stuff off then wipe it?
Load More Replies...Cooked a rib eye in a plain Jane skillet the other night because I was to lazy to wrestle the cast iron skillet. Only difference I noticed was less hassle. (Sorry purists.)
I got an 18” Lodge and it cost me 20 dollars. I use soap on it and guess what!!? It cooks food just fine.
Yeah, who the hell is buying expensive cast iron pans?
Load More Replies...I purchased my first cast iron skillet at 27 and low key I'm looking forward to pass it on my niece when I'm older 😅
Mine is over 100 years old and it's still non-stick. It was from a Great-Great Grandmother.
Just came here for cleaning/seasoning tips. Did not disappoint thanks guys!!
I love my cast iron skillet that I got from some guy on the internet named Daumer. Gives a nice, pork taste to everything.
That is stupid. Cast iron skillets/pans can withstand an amazing amount of abuse. If it gets rusty/too grimy or otherwise a sad look, you just buy some abrasive paper in the closest hardware store and grind it down a bit. The main problem is that cooks are not necessary experts on metallurgy. And yes, I have asked metallurgists how to handle a cast iron skillet. And no. The cast iron do not soak up detergents so you cannot wash the chemical away. If you are as lazy as me, a flap disc on the angle grinder works a treat for deep cleaning.
Maybe I should add you need to season the pan after the angle grinder. But that is easy. Really easy.
Load More Replies...Fond memories of mine before the electric stove. I hear the work well on induction stoves.
OK, when you use a cast iron skillet you use it to fry or bake. YOU NEVER WASH IT. You scrape it out, wipe it and store it. You wash it you MUST RE-SEASON IT. You wash it, dry it [thoroughly], wipe it down [ALL OF IT, OUTSIDE AND INSIDE THE PAN} with solid Crisco, and put it in the oven at 220 degrees. Them turn the oven off and let it sit until it cools, then you take it out and wipe it out with a paper towel or a towel.
If you have to re-season it after soap it wasn't properly seasoned to begin with. A good seasoning will stand soap wash too. (Not that you're supposed to use soap. You're not, but doing so every once in a while won't harm the pan)
Load More Replies...Then you can't left it with one hand..after middle age ( usually)
If you think there is no difference , you don't know anyone who really knows how to make food slap . You can clean them, just not with soap. You can clean them with a scrub of olive oil and kosher salt . Cleaning with soap wouldn't be enough to strip the seasoning completely.
Technically, according to a number of professional cooks I have found myself having to ask since being told this awhile ago, washing skillets and pans of any sort is a no-no. We are just supposed to wipe them out and sanitize. YUCK!! I will continue to treat my cast-iron pieces with exceptional care but they and other utensils will be washed for my own sanity and comfort.
When you heat it on the stove after you wipe it out, the heat destroys ANY bacteria, virus, aliens, and you never have to worry about botulism.
Load More Replies...I hate cast iron pots for all those reasons mentioned above. Not worth the money imo.
Really?? I find cast iron pans to be great...non stick, easy to clean, versatile and inexpensive. I bought a 12" pan for $9 USD, eggs slide right off the pan.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
Load More Replies...This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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