Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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Why do you keep blaming your parents, what evidence do you have to support this? It was the wealthy and the government
I'm sorry but no parent of mine ever said something so nasty to me. They are also not responsible for the housing market and melting ice caps.
That’s something my grandpa would’ve said to his older son. And the people responsible for the housing market are the banks by way of the wealthy. Big corporations are the fault of everything else. Nobody’s random middle class parent has done enough pollution to do anything.
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Many parents, including one of mine ..unfortunately....this was a really common term of phrase as I grew up and for many others I would think 🤔
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Not a millennial but this is correct The greatest generation came back from the war and gave us the GI Bill where society paid your tuition so it was kept at a reasonable cost. The boomers dropped government support and made student loans unforgivable debt so college became a profit industry that mainly serve the bankers. Minimum wage has gone up 105% since I paid my way through college while tuition has gone up 612% at my school . Median home prices increased 121% nationwide since 1960, but median household income only increased 29% so its 4 times harder to save up a down payment. Only 16 of the US largest 100 cities have a median home price at or lower the 2.6 income to mortgage ratio we are supposed to follow. Social Security Administration has stated it may go bankrupt by 2035 so anyone under 52 may never see a dime. And melt the icecaps part - the northern passage opened under the boomers watch for the first time in 2.6 million years.
Damn, I would've behaved better if I'd known that's what they meant
Must be an USA thing. No tuition fees here, housing market pretty fine.. And the polecaos still exist
Yep those are all your parents fault, just like it was the waitresses fault they didn't have cotton candy ice cream no matter how hard you cried.
F**k off! My gen (X gen) didn't have water bottles ( which uses crude oil in production) or internet buying 24/7 or 1000 more power plants and factories so you can have your fluffy unicorn pillows and silly fidget spinners, mobile phones and devices. Production of non usable trinkets has skyrocketed 2000% in the last 10 years. Waste is massive and plastic shopping bags have destroyed our lands and oceans. Now we have a spoiled entitled bunch of snotfaces whinging that we killed everything for you. Have a real good look what contributions you've all made to the decline of our lives it's fuckn staggering! But by all means blame the ones who are not sucking power at a phenomenal rate and buying and destroying everything with your must have attitudes. Greedy selfish brats!
The housing market is a great way for millennials to make money though. And hide money.
I'm confused with this one. A french one is "cry, you will pee less" so some (rude) french parents want their kids to have a kidney disease? Are they related with pharmaceutical businesses? A mindblowing conspiracy.
You hear the politicians and other older people going on and on about posterity and yet they're gonna leave us with mountains of debt and a dying planet. Thanks a lot.
Man nobody on this site ever has an original comment. If one person says “but dat wasn’t your parents” then all the comments will say it. If the first person says “boomers ruined the climate!” then you all will say the same thing. Gross.
I dont get why parents get mad at their kids crying like I get it if its having a temper tantrum but you dont slap your kid for using tears as a vent
You also left out their house you're still living in. Their food you still eat. But what evz.
What they did do is guilt you into having their Grandchildren. In total, Seven Billion Times.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
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Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies... Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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