Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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Yes but also look at dat puppy’s face it’s so cute
Load More Replies...Didn't know we could be racist to animals too. Humanity slips lower and lower all the time and it's horrible
Sadly, black animals, especially cats, are adopted less than other colors.
Load More Replies...Just because it isn't clear in this post I want to clarify that it was NOT the driver that told her to get off. It was a dumb a**e Karen passenger who thought that all guide dogs were golden retrievers. I know that the situation should not have occurred at all, but I don't what the bus driver getting the blame!
This this this is just the dumbest thing I've heard today, a guide dog CAN'T be black! Omg, who told him that! It's no possible way more that one person believes this nonsense.
But seriously. Put yourself in the persons shoes who said this and imagine being that incredibly and humiliatingly stupid (and racist). Cringe.
Load More Replies...What??!! There is a “black dog” phenomenon - in shelters, etc., they are the least popular for some reason. My black lab mix Zander was my boy - a brother to his human siblings. He passed a few years ago, I still miss him. People ought to know that Black, Yellow and Chocolate labs are exactly the same save fur color (not talking about other lab types which are darn close). You can have all three colors in a litter. Color doesn’t make on LR better than a litter mate because of fur color. Ignorance is heartbreaking and stupid. AKC standard views Labrador Retriever breed as one breed that can have the three basic coat colors. Please adopt a black rescue - Cat or dog. That woman might seek damages. Ugh.
I had a lovely black lab, sweet as could be. People were afraid of her. I also had a yellow lab, and everyone would want to pet him. I had to stop people. He was unpredictable, and a little ornery. What ridiculous assumptions to put on dogs.
Load More Replies...Wasnt the bus driver, it was an obnoxious passenger who complained and kicked up a fuss.
They should have acted by kicking off the passenger who was complaining then.
Load More Replies..."But we're both black?" would have been my response to the driver...just to mess with him.
Sometimes I think that Monty Python and the Marx Brothers should be in charge.
Wait, what.... In Three Men and a Leg, that was an actual joke. And it was funny. Couldn't imagine I'd ever find myself in the situation to quote that joke while actually being serious.... so... here we go (roughly translated from Italian), "now you have to be racist even with dogs?!"
That person is simply, ignorant of the facts, he needs to learn, the jerk !!!
Is this for real or is this a planted post designed to enrage people ?
And yet anyone can claim their dogs are "service" dogs. No Karen, your f*****g purse puppy IS NOT A SERVICE ANIMAL. Service animals go through a rigorous 22-24 month training process and are then CERTIFIED. They most certainly don't take a s**t on aisle 12 of The Home Depot.
I saw the original and it wasn't the bus driver from what I remember, it was a random passenger who got mad at her for bringing a dog on the bus.
Are we actually being racist against dogs now? What has the world come to?
The world has come to someone actually thinking this is even remotely akin to racism in any way. Of a dog. Racism. Of. A. Dog. Christ guys.
Load More Replies...Jesus the driver didn’t even have anything to do with it as you can see from the multiple clarifying posts above, but they’re a f-cktwit too? Brits need some new buses.
Load More Replies...Some people actually have guide horses (miniature ponies, of course) because they're allergic to dogs.
Staring at this black dog is terrifying… it’s stolen my heart and I don’t know how I’m gonna get it back!!!!!!
Equally sad, mind-boggling and humorous. Dog needs a "Black Lives Matter" T-shirt.
Guide dogs can be any dog who passes the class. They're often labs, and labs come in more than yellow.
Maybe they were just reaaaaaaaaly stupid and thought "guide dogs" can only be one precise species? But still... The blind person probably knows best than you, so don't make her get off the bus because you entitled ignorant douchebag assumes things. It is... Like... Pure evil.
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
Load More Replies...This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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