Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
A friend has a new sofa in her molar...... After saving for ages, she had to pay it all to her dentist
I thought I finally had it done. House paid off, car paid off, DECADES of hard work to get there... 3 years ago, new HVAC, last year entirely new septic system. THIS year, house foundation work (14K+). I guess I should count myself lucky it waited until the house payment was done.
Then you try and ignore that light for as long as possible so you can get the money to get it fixed and make the issue worse.
YouTube has saved my butt a squillion times. From eggs or pepper into the radiator for a blown head gasket to using pipe clamps and baked beans cans to fix a busted exhaust pipe. I try to problem solve everything with my car cause I'ma teeny tiny older woman in a huge old everything goes-wrong with-lately-truck, and mechanics really take the piss on us little chicks. I've saved heaps by being able to delay the inevitable. And yeah, pepper held for 6 months!
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Too much effort, just choose the right colour masking tape instead!
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I finally paid off my student debt and was happy I could finally save some money for emergencies so I finally don't have to worry if something breaks down. 3 months in, my car and fridge broke down. I know that's where the savings are for but it's frustrating because the savings are back to 0 and the worries back to 100
Tip: most check engine light issues aren't that big of an issue. Take the car to a auto parts shop and they'll read the check engine code for free. Then google it. If the car doesn't sound or act weird, it's probably something you can ignore. Just do the google.
Once you have the code and you know it's something like the O2 (oxygen) sensor, for example, then you google your car make and model and O2 sensor and there will be tons of information on whether or not you can just live with it, and you might find youtube videos that show you how to fix it yourself.
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Poor? U own a car..poor is having no food, no home, no hope..a car is luxury..
We did not have a car when I was a kid and many times had to have family help us. Before Food stamps and free lunches at school. I Didn't know we were homeless because we lived with other family for years. Went to 8 different schools in 12 years. Many people in USA know what it is to be poor
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Yeah, we had been saving up to replace the flooring in our kitchen and living room and then my son dislocated his knee.
For me it was an air conditioner that went during a 95°+ day. Every time!
Being poor builds character,. It also kills you, but then again, there's always something, right?
Yep. This last year and a half has been - save for new computer that was necessary four years ago, flywheel in car breaks; fix it and start saving again, oh actually car needs all four new wheels too, the actual wheels; pay for those, back and forth trying to source them; still have no money, no new computer, and the car is still broken.
But when you eventually buy the thing you want, you appreciate it so much
I know, deep in my heart, not so say that I have any extra money aloud. If I do, the car or the pets will require that amount and more.
Story of my life. When I was young banks had Xmas savings accounts, the years I was able to save for Xmas every time something would happen and I would have to spend my saved money on something else. I finally stopped saving in Xmas accounts:(
Ya know there are poor boomers that have been poor all of their lives, it's not just a Millennial thing
Load More Replies... For me it is the other way- RIGHT AFTER I drop a bundle on something non-essential, something major (AC, car, medical, appliances) goes belly up. I am slowly catching on to this....
This happened to me last week. I got a really nice commission, so I figured I'd be able to keep money in the bank and finally start saving. Then my car started overheating.
I have always said the bad luck grinches lurk around your house waiting for a payday of any kind then "wham"!
Yeah, those $1200 checks came in and whammy the car repair was $2000!!! No joke!!!
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
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Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies... Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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