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Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.

The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.

Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.

I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.

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Aw Man

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denzoren
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First I was like "ohhh boy" and then I was like "okay that genuinely made me laugh" I really hope this was a joke right?

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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.

This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m probably gonna repeat myself more than once here… Heartbreaking

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10 Year Challenge

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James016
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read somewhere that the person who created insulin didn't patent it so that it could be given to people who need it to live at no cost to them. I may not have that quite right though.

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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.

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ZombieGirl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol

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In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

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Marie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when the garbage man clocks out for the day that's it, job is over till you clock back in.

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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”

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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.

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Raven Sheridan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.

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I Feel We Are There Already

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s sad that we have to make jokes out of our healthcare system in order to cope with it.

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Jim Nanni
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Come to canada lol. U get cancer, u actually get time off work, get paid, and get free treatment. And If u survive, u still have a job!

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Springy boi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Canadian healthcare is amazing because it's free! I live in Canada and I grew up in Canada with my family with awesome neighbours

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Leigh C.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

GoFundMe is pretty much like tipping the waiter. The restaurants expect the patrons to pay the staff's wage so why bother paying them fairly? Insurance companies be like why help these people with healthcare when there's GoFundMe?

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Anonymous
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I received several notices from the largest healthcare network in my area prior to national doctor's day wanting me to send money to my doctors like I'm not already paying them 6x what I earn. I was very put off by it

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Watching
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Republicans not only do not want to help anyone they don't want anyone else helping anyone either.

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Id row
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as lawmakers get top shelf health insurance with the job and lobbying remains legal, it will never change. The rest of us will still be taking an Uber to the hospital and hope we get there before dying.

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Vasana Phong
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow this is so true, family member currently in icu without any insurance, a go fund me page was started to bring cost down

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Artoonist Corine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People wear medical alert bracelets now stating to NOT call an ambulance bc they can't afford it. How SAD is that???

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chrissy goodman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i have one for my epilepsy and it says to call my husband not 911. i can afford an amublance cuz of my medical insurance which covers everything but i also have a major anxiety disorder and social anxeity disorder which can make my situation after a seizure worse. so my husband and his car is my only chance of getting to a hospital. the ones ur talking about usually have an emergency contact or 2 on them or a number from one of those ambulette services that r either cheap or covered by their insurance. its unfortunate but true and for ppl like me its worse i havent had a seizure in 2 years and dont wear the bracelet anymore bc of covid im always with my husband or his parents since we live in a basement apartment of their house but before i wasnt even comfortable with my own parents helping me before i met my husband the phone number was my closest friend.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's even more ironic that people complain about social medicine because "I pay my taxes and someone I don't know will benefit from it" but these same people will gladly hand money over to someone they don't know with no way to verify the person receiving the money is telling the truth.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

GoFundMe is a 21st century copy of the 16th century French small town. No one could afford to pay a doctor if Francois got the plague so everyone in town came together to provide a cow, some ducks, some coin from selling lace, etc to ensure a doctor would stay in town and provide care. Then towns started assigning someone to keep track (The duck out front of the Arc place is part of the insurance) and pow - you got GoFundMe.

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Don't Look
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm pretty sure it's the number one way to raise funds for healthcare issues.

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Computernaut
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The good thing about this would be that people are giving willingly to causes they support and people they know.

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Myriam Ickx
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a really sick country when you have to rely on charity to pay your medical expenses...

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No.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

move to england. We have free healthcare here and no dangerous spiders

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Jonathan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Speaking of gofundme, here is ours. Any help will chnage our lives- https://gofund.me/b2ef0ded

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Vladimir Bozic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately, in Serbia that is in most of the really ill people the only solution. Not exactly GoFundMe, but there are couple of charity organizations that are doing some good work.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about you somehow build you're own healthcare insurance? Shouldn't it be possible? Especially over the internet?

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Charity? Why is that a bad thing? Since when was society depending on DC supposed to be admirable or even good?

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JessG
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Charity isn't a bad thing, no one said that. What's bad is, having to rely on the charity of others to provide something that the government is capable of providing. The right to health care would stop medical bankruptcies, improve public health, reduce overall health care spending, help small businesses, and it should be an essential government service. The U.S. is the only nation that doesn't provide it, and as one of the richest nations in the world, we still would rather let people die and/or suffer than let their wallets get smaller

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is right on the nose. It was incredibly sad to see how many people really don't care about anyone but themselves

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"Cries In Millenial"

"Cries In Millenial"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Every generation blames the one before..." Good song, true too.

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Sad Truth

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them

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Useless Job

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H Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 29 year old professional footballer had a cardiac arrest last week on the pitch in the middle of an international game. You never know when people are going to need assistance.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If everyone in the train clapped their hands it wouldn't be London. It would be a Disney movie!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...

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#30

Is Being Short Really That Bad

Is Being Short Really That Bad

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t get it why are we so upset about people who are shorter or taller or fat or skinny or just different in any way??? Snap out of it people

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Sad Truth

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Germany there is the discussion to raise it to 68 and step by step to 70.

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#32

And Don’t Forget Student Loans

And Don’t Forget Student Loans

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.

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#33

Motivation Is The Leading Cause Of Death On The China/Nepal Border

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Life Can Be So Rewarding

Life Can Be So Rewarding

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.

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#35

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"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

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Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

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It Was So Beautiful

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How

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because if we don’t have ice cream we know we will all die a slow horrible agonizingly painful death!!! You’re more than essential

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Welcome To The Show

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(

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Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love my cast iron skillet that belonged to my husband’s grandmother. It took 75 years of seasoning to perfect, and I will cut anybody who dares come at it with dish soap!

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I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

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