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Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.

The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.

Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.

I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.

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Aw Man

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denzoren
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First I was like "ohhh boy" and then I was like "okay that genuinely made me laugh" I really hope this was a joke right?

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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.

This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m probably gonna repeat myself more than once here… Heartbreaking

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10 Year Challenge

10 Year Challenge

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James016
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read somewhere that the person who created insulin didn't patent it so that it could be given to people who need it to live at no cost to them. I may not have that quite right though.

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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.

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ZombieGirl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol

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In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

In Dystopia We Were Told To Trust

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Marie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when the garbage man clocks out for the day that's it, job is over till you clock back in.

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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”

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Alexandra Davis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Didn't know we could be racist to animals too. Humanity slips lower and lower all the time and it's horrible

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H G
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly, black animals, especially cats, are adopted less than other colors.

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Donkey boi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just because it isn't clear in this post I want to clarify that it was NOT the driver that told her to get off. It was a dumb a**e Karen passenger who thought that all guide dogs were golden retrievers. I know that the situation should not have occurred at all, but I don't what the bus driver getting the blame!

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Emma Love
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This this this is just the dumbest thing I've heard today, a guide dog CAN'T be black! Omg, who told him that! It's no possible way more that one person believes this nonsense.

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Black Karen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But seriously. Put yourself in the persons shoes who said this and imagine being that incredibly and humiliatingly stupid (and racist). Cringe.

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Kennedy Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hahah! What the f*** is black!!! But it’s true she can’t see!

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Mishte Tine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What??!! There is a “black dog” phenomenon - in shelters, etc., they are the least popular for some reason. My black lab mix Zander was my boy - a brother to his human siblings. He passed a few years ago, I still miss him. People ought to know that Black, Yellow and Chocolate labs are exactly the same save fur color (not talking about other lab types which are darn close). You can have all three colors in a litter. Color doesn’t make on LR better than a litter mate because of fur color. Ignorance is heartbreaking and stupid. AKC standard views Labrador Retriever breed as one breed that can have the three basic coat colors. Please adopt a black rescue - Cat or dog. That woman might seek damages. Ugh.

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Louloubelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a lovely black lab, sweet as could be. People were afraid of her. I also had a yellow lab, and everyone would want to pet him. I had to stop people. He was unpredictable, and a little ornery. What ridiculous assumptions to put on dogs.

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N G
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wasnt the bus driver, it was an obnoxious passenger who complained and kicked up a fuss.

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H Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should have acted by kicking off the passenger who was complaining then.

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Daria B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, what.... In Three Men and a Leg, that was an actual joke. And it was funny. Couldn't imagine I'd ever find myself in the situation to quote that joke while actually being serious.... so... here we go (roughly translated from Italian), "now you have to be racist even with dogs?!"

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Viviane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's the story: https://metro.co.uk/2019/01/10/blind-woman-told-to-get-off-bus-because-guide-dogs-cant-be-black-8329869/

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sharron lynn parsons
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That person is simply, ignorant of the facts, he needs to learn, the jerk !!!

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Grace and Lucy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this for real or is this a planted post designed to enrage people ?

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Sorican
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The absolute irony here is that German Shepherds range from mostly-brown with some black, to mostly black with some brown... and when most people think of guide dogs... they think of German Shepherds.

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Telmo Belo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm more curious about the $10/lb pork supplier. I need a captain

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Emo Sloth
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This brings up an interesting question: how do people who were born blind understand the concept of color or sight?

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And yet anyone can claim their dogs are "service" dogs. No Karen, your f*****g purse puppy IS NOT A SERVICE ANIMAL. Service animals go through a rigorous 22-24 month training process and are then CERTIFIED. They most certainly don't take a s**t on aisle 12 of The Home Depot.

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mamafrog
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And I would report them, if it was the bus driver, for discrimination.

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Erica Cochrane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw the original and it wasn't the bus driver from what I remember, it was a random passenger who got mad at her for bringing a dog on the bus.

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Michael Sanders
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The world has come to someone actually thinking this is even remotely akin to racism in any way. Of a dog. Racism. Of. A. Dog. Christ guys.

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Hannah Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Driver was an ignorant fckwit. Don’t they have training on this?

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Michael Sanders
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus the driver didn’t even have anything to do with it as you can see from the multiple clarifying posts above, but they’re a f-cktwit too? Brits need some new buses.

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Neil Bidle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people actually have guide horses (miniature ponies, of course) because they're allergic to dogs.

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Tiger Pearl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Staring at this black dog is terrifying… it’s stolen my heart and I don’t know how I’m gonna get it back!!!!!!

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Suzanne Haigh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where was this? IF the UK he would loose his job, if reported.

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Brandi VanSteenwyk
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Equally sad, mind-boggling and humorous. Dog needs a "Black Lives Matter" T-shirt.

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Analyn Lahr
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guide dogs can be any dog who passes the class. They're often labs, and labs come in more than yellow.

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Ryan Deschanel
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe they were just reaaaaaaaaly stupid and thought "guide dogs" can only be one precise species? But still... The blind person probably knows best than you, so don't make her get off the bus because you entitled ignorant douchebag assumes things. It is... Like... Pure evil.

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Caroline
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That doesn't sound real to me. Just another post to provoke a reaction from readers.

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He's Right

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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.

#13

Mysterious Ways

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Raven Sheridan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.

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I Feel We Are There Already

I Feel We Are There Already

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s sad that we have to make jokes out of our healthcare system in order to cope with it.

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You’re Not From Around Here Are You

You’re Not From Around Here Are You

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K Witmer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is right on the nose. It was incredibly sad to see how many people really don't care about anyone but themselves

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#19

"Cries In Millenial"

"Cries In Millenial"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Every generation blames the one before..." Good song, true too.

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Sad Truth

Sad Truth

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River Webb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them

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Useless Job

Useless Job

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H Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 29 year old professional footballer had a cardiac arrest last week on the pitch in the middle of an international game. You never know when people are going to need assistance.

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London

London

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ElenaK
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If everyone in the train clapped their hands it wouldn't be London. It would be a Disney movie!

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#29

Please

Please

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...

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#30

Is Being Short Really That Bad

Is Being Short Really That Bad

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t get it why are we so upset about people who are shorter or taller or fat or skinny or just different in any way??? Snap out of it people

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Sad Truth

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J. F.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Germany there is the discussion to raise it to 68 and step by step to 70.

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And Don’t Forget Student Loans

And Don’t Forget Student Loans

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.

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#33

Motivation Is The Leading Cause Of Death On The China/Nepal Border

Motivation Is The Leading Cause Of Death On The China/Nepal Border

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Life Can Be So Rewarding

Life Can Be So Rewarding

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.

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#35

I Don't Know If I Would Trust Him With My Pets

I Don't Know If I Would Trust Him With My Pets

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#36

"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"

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#37

Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

Student Loans Put You Through College But Put You Through Debt For Much Longer!!

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It Was So Beautiful

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#39

How

How

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because if we don’t have ice cream we know we will all die a slow horrible agonizingly painful death!!! You’re more than essential

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Welcome To The Show

Welcome To The Show

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Lauren Caswell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(

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#42

Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!

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Mishte Tine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!

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Hmm

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love my cast iron skillet that belonged to my husband’s grandmother. It took 75 years of seasoning to perfect, and I will cut anybody who dares come at it with dish soap!

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I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

I Know It Hurts Sometimes But You'll Get Over It

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