Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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A homeless person must be saying the same about the amount of money you spend every month at Starbucks. Or a person that needs a blood or plasma donation. Down vote me all you want, but sometimes we forget that we can help, even if help is not with money.
A reason why i would like to be rich. But it's said money change people so who knows if i wouldn't be selfish. But rn i wish i had a shitload of money so i could give out to foster homes, families in need, animal shelters, homeless.. So many people would just need few k to turn their lives around or change everything
Right now you say you'd give out all this money because right now you don't have the money to do so.
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That is the way of our capitalistic world, protect the rich, sod the poor,
But it's their money to do with what they please. I don't have a lot, but I don't want anyone telling me what to do with my stuff.
That they dont pay federal taxes on. Tax money that could have been used to get you more than two lousy stimulus checks. Or to forgive some of your student loans. Or to fix some busted city streets. Or to provide students with laptops to learn from home. Its actually not "their" money. They get kickbacks from their high ranking governement friends in exchange for keeping them in office. Imagine the millions that would have been poured into our society if these 1%ers were actually honest, ethical citizens.
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Jeff Bezos just spent about 250x as much money as I will ever see in my entire life on a boat. For that absurd fortune he parted with 0.25% of his wealth. The equivalent of two people going to a diner for brunch out of $10,000
Bezos could sneeze and make more money than you and I could itogether in 2 years before he even wipes his nose.
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Workers: hlep we're literally dying here Billionaires: mmmmmm bad vinegar
You have no right to judge how other people spend their own money.
Too many wealthy people, there is no balance, I just hope, those people are kind, that they donate to worthy causes, help in some way, they have a right, it's their money, just be kind !!!
So true. Bezos could be a savior. Instead, he's going to the moon. Weak.
Is the hidden question to this post then asking billionaires and millionaires to give away their wealth and live like the rest of us? Or to keep their wealth but not spend it extravagantly? 🤔
I think it's 'billionaires and millionaires should pay proper taxes'. Also it would help if they paid proper wages, and didn't create fundraisers that made poor people feel guilty. If you have the money to splash, you have the money to help people.
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But they earned it....sorry. If you want to make more money get a better paying job, or don't spend as much.
Also, see my comment on #7 . Our country is a total joke right now. We need to create a whole lot of change
Right ? Don't get me wrong though, my family calls me Mr . Krabs because I love money . My first designer purse purchase was almost as exciting as my first child being born lmfao. I will no longer buy designer though. I just can't justify it when kids in my mostly well to do community are going hungry.We have been poor most of our 25 year marriage.Now that we have money my priorities have thankfully changed.
Would you feel good about yourself if you were the one selling that bottle of wine?
if all rich ppl generous enough, we can lower poverty in many poor countries around the world, wishful thinking :)
$10K isn't enough to actually, literally, change the average persons life though. All $10K would do for the vast majority of us is provide a little window of relaxation. At best this window will close by the 6 month mark after having received said $10K "windfall". Then it's right back to the grind of incurring debt in order to live.
10k could get you a nursing degree at a community college and then you could come out making 70-100k or more. This is life-changing. 10k can be invested in stocks which could grown and be life changing. 10k is life-changing if you can buy a cheap car and now have a way to get to work when previously you had no way. Who are you to say 10k cant change a persons life? Maybe not you, but so many others. This mentality is so flawed.
Load More Replies... When you can earn a billion dollars, feel free to spend it on whatever the hell you want. Until then, you have no f*****g say in how someone else spends their money. Reminds me of those people who spew "my body, my choice". Well, "their money, their choice".
You're an angry Republican, Ed. I hope all that anger doesn't cause an aneurysm, making you unable to post here anymore.
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Yes it's their money, but they achieved it through exploitation.
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Read properly. It does not say anywhere she feels entitled to someone elses money, just what difference 10,000 makes for different people.
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
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Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies... Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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