Guy Screws Up By Telling A Woman On Their First Date That Her Pepper Spray Is Useless
Saying, or doing for that matter, something you will regret later is somewhat of a rite of passage when it comes to dating.
Sure, you can write it off as nervousness, but even if you are perfectly on the ball, something unexpected can be flung your way and hence throw you off your game.
This is perfect fodder for one particular community on Reddit, though it’s not exclusive, but incidentally, one such story actually popped up recently.
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No doubt every one of us has said something dumb on a date, but was it ever enough to ruin it?
Image credits: Anthony Crider (not the actual photo)
A fellow recently visited the r/TIFU, or Today I Effed Up, subreddit to share a story of how he effed up a first date by pointing out the pepper spray his date uses is actually very ineffective.
In particular, Reddit user u/throwaway_iansdsdf, whom we’ll call Ian for short, was set up by his friend with a woman who, the friend claimed, had similar hobbies and similar dark humor.
Soon they met for some coffee and all was going quite well until it was time to pay for the check. As the lady was rifling through her purse looking for her wallet, she took out some things that were simply getting in the way of her search. One of things taken out was a bottle of pepper spray. OP later explained it was boar spray—“It stinks more than it burns.”
Well, one Redditor shared their story, involving pepper spray, and telling a date of how useless it is
Image credits: u/throwaway_iansdsdf
Anyway, the context here was that he used to be in the military, and one day he was being stupid with some of his mates there and attempted to test out some of the sprays they had. One of them was this particular spray, which as mentioned before was too weak to be considered effective.
And that’s what he said—he told her it was effectively useless, but without mentioning why he knows that, let alone the very self-harming ‘why would you ever do that’ way he came to know this.
The chemistry that was first very prevalent had now died, and the woman had to leave for a work emergency soon after, adding even more pain to the situation on OP’s part.
He also gave several updates, one of which explained that it’s all good and they are awaiting a second date
Image credits: u/throwaway_iansdsdf
And so he came to the TIFU subreddit to share his misery with others. But Reddit was relatively positive about it and did not roast OP as much as they all had a good laugh, with some pointing out that this is a good lesson to add context next time he speaks about something like pepper spray efficacy.
The post soon went viral, gaining nearly 45,000 upvotes and over 40 Reddit awards in under a day. And, hey, good news, there was an update that she called him to apologize for rushing to work so abruptly, he apologized for his vibe-killing remark, and they agreed on a second date.
Commenters had a lot to say, with some joking, others giving out advice, and yet others sharing stories
Even better, she also found his TIFU post, and the two had a good laugh at the comments. Incidentally, you can check out the full post, as well as all of the comments right here.
But before you go, tell us your thoughts, or share some of your dating screwup stories in the comment section below!
He definitely has a sense of humour about himself. :)
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I once arranged a first coffee meet at a safe, public park. I know the creepers are out there, I’m on the right side of this issue and can park my ego accordingly. Great chemistry, great conversation, and at the end she said “I’m almost embarrassed to admit I brought this,” and showed me her handgun.
Not creepy at all, in Canada only criminals have bear spray and law enforcement have the powerful stuff. You have to get blasted in the face during training so you know what its like and you may have it taken from you and used on you during a fight. Say she encounters a mugger or rapist on the street; while shes fumbling in her bag for something to use against him, hes either A: taken her purse and has weapons to use on her. B: Assaulted her
Well, as you say, only criminals can carry it, (its illegal in Canada) so noone in Canada needs to evaluate which one is best.
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For those looking for pepper spay advice. By 3. Test one on yourself, should you need to use it you will know what to expect and how to keep going. Check expiration dates and replace. Unpaid plug: KIMBER SURE SHOT- 3 for $89. Pair your pepper spray with a neck knife and most importantly AWARENESS. Every time you grab your spray/knife…you are making a choice that you have value. Reminding yourself that the world can be unsafe, and that you will not go quietly should someone choose you as their victim.
All fine and dandy until your weapons are uaed against you
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It doesn't really matter how strong the spray is if you can't even get to it in time because you have to dig thru a bunch of other stuff to get to it. You should either keep it in a holster or at least in a pocket by itself.
The stuff in the picture..... yeah, that's the shizz! That's police/corrections grade and BRUTAL! MK-9
Sorry to disappoint but it probably would end up being being taken away and used on her instead as is the case, when most people are attacked, the stats are high for people being injured or killed by their own weapons, self defense training is better, and besides you dont need to spend money on any special pepper spray, those mini bottles of hairspray that you find everywhere is just as effective, you just need to incapacitate someone long enough to get away
"She seemed to have a bit of a mess in her purse" ..... duh. That's literally almost ever woman's purse. If a woman has a super neat and overly organized purse... I stay far away for her cause that bitch is on a whole other level of crazy and I'm not about to get wrapped up in that s**t. She could be a murderer, she could be a sociopath... idk but I don't stick around to find out. Also, most women can have a mess in their bags and just dig their hands In their purse without looking and grab exactly what they need. I know I can. Even when it's filled to the brim with random s**t.
Or she could be a minimalist who doesn't need to carry a ton of stuff coz her little brain cant prioritize
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What does this even mean? Someone is traumatized because they have pepper spray? She's traumatized because she thought the guy was referring to having been pepper-sprayed and would rather not date someone like that? The guy is traumatized by the misunderstanding? Or are you just overly sensitive and go to extremes with labels?
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He definitely has a sense of humour about himself. :)
Load More Replies... I once arranged a first coffee meet at a safe, public park. I know the creepers are out there, I’m on the right side of this issue and can park my ego accordingly. Great chemistry, great conversation, and at the end she said “I’m almost embarrassed to admit I brought this,” and showed me her handgun.
Not creepy at all, in Canada only criminals have bear spray and law enforcement have the powerful stuff. You have to get blasted in the face during training so you know what its like and you may have it taken from you and used on you during a fight. Say she encounters a mugger or rapist on the street; while shes fumbling in her bag for something to use against him, hes either A: taken her purse and has weapons to use on her. B: Assaulted her
Well, as you say, only criminals can carry it, (its illegal in Canada) so noone in Canada needs to evaluate which one is best.
Load More Replies... For those looking for pepper spay advice. By 3. Test one on yourself, should you need to use it you will know what to expect and how to keep going. Check expiration dates and replace. Unpaid plug: KIMBER SURE SHOT- 3 for $89. Pair your pepper spray with a neck knife and most importantly AWARENESS. Every time you grab your spray/knife…you are making a choice that you have value. Reminding yourself that the world can be unsafe, and that you will not go quietly should someone choose you as their victim.
All fine and dandy until your weapons are uaed against you
Load More Replies... It doesn't really matter how strong the spray is if you can't even get to it in time because you have to dig thru a bunch of other stuff to get to it. You should either keep it in a holster or at least in a pocket by itself.
The stuff in the picture..... yeah, that's the shizz! That's police/corrections grade and BRUTAL! MK-9
Sorry to disappoint but it probably would end up being being taken away and used on her instead as is the case, when most people are attacked, the stats are high for people being injured or killed by their own weapons, self defense training is better, and besides you dont need to spend money on any special pepper spray, those mini bottles of hairspray that you find everywhere is just as effective, you just need to incapacitate someone long enough to get away
"She seemed to have a bit of a mess in her purse" ..... duh. That's literally almost ever woman's purse. If a woman has a super neat and overly organized purse... I stay far away for her cause that bitch is on a whole other level of crazy and I'm not about to get wrapped up in that s**t. She could be a murderer, she could be a sociopath... idk but I don't stick around to find out. Also, most women can have a mess in their bags and just dig their hands In their purse without looking and grab exactly what they need. I know I can. Even when it's filled to the brim with random s**t.
Or she could be a minimalist who doesn't need to carry a ton of stuff coz her little brain cant prioritize
Load More Replies... What does this even mean? Someone is traumatized because they have pepper spray? She's traumatized because she thought the guy was referring to having been pepper-sprayed and would rather not date someone like that? The guy is traumatized by the misunderstanding? Or are you just overly sensitive and go to extremes with labels?
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