Some rules exist because they had to be implemented. Like the speed limit or legal drinking age. Meanwhile, some rules have backfired big time and made the people who implemented them regret their decision. Check out our previous post about such instances right here.
But there are rules that need no introduction. They’re not documented in books nor authorized by law, and still, they govern our daily lives. This simple “common sense” is also known as “unwritten rules” and they refer to common behavioral constraints we all take for granted.
Things like not swiping sideways if someone shows a picture on their phone, or never making fun of someone else’s laugh. Sounds random, but people swear by it! Scroll down below for more unspoken rules listed by people online.
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Never ever make fun of someone who is overweight at the gym.
Never make fun of someone who is overweight, period. Oh wait, let me rephrase that: Never make fun of someone, period!
I dunno man, I think it's a pretty good idea to make fun of people who go out of their way to be an idiot. Like if a grown man thinks it's a good idea to nuke a hurricane we should definitely make fun of them for that.
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"Do not mock what is being fixed". Don't mock an overweight person at the gym, don't mock a guy with bad teeth at the dentist, don't mock a stupid man studying. Regardless of how right or wrong their choices are, either actively help or stay away.
It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that in an attempt to better your health. (edited to remove unintentional pun)
they are doing more than you would probably be willing to do to better themselves so just grow the F up
When I was thirty-five I was seriously overweight and I started going to the gym every day. At one point a 20 year old woman came up to me and said, "I just wanted you to know that I see you here every time I'm here and I admire you so much ." And then she left. I was baffled. I'm thinking, "why would she admire me?" It took me a while to figure out that she was complimenting me for having the courage to go to the gym AT ALL when I was that heavy, much less every day. ---- For anybody who doesn't understand why you should not make fun of an overweight person in the gym. That's why. --- It's hard enough to get your butt moving and GO to the gym. When a total stranger make fun of you for no particular reason, it makes it just that much harder to go.
Just mind your own business, everywhere, all the time, because nobody owes you anything when it comes to their body.
Some people are unaware they're being POS, so it's worth to break down the concept.
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I got mocked all the time at the gym...not fun. I would have stopped going but only indoor pool in the area where I lived at that time. Two things. 1. Don't mock overweight folks at the gym. 2. Do not inspiration porn people at the gym. No joke I am so used to sarcasm in compliments that genuine compliments trigger the SAME shame and embarrassment being loudly mocked for my weight does and then I run away and stress eat because obviously it was stupid of me to go to the gym and expect people to just be normal to me
Fat-shaming is not cool regardless of where it takes place, but fat-shaming people at the gym is especially irritating to me. Like, THEY'RE AT THE GYM. They're obviously trying to do something about their weight, or they wouldn't be there. You have no idea where this person is on their fitness journey. This could be their very first time at the gym ever, in which case it probably took a lot of courage to show up, knowing there are judgmental jerks like you lurking around. If you have a problem with fat people, then surely you should be applauding all the fat people who go to the gym and make an effort to be healthy? What do you want them to do, stay home and not try?
Pls don't invalidate the message here. Fat shaming is much more severe then 'skinny shaming', and this post is about how a minority gets treated in a public space
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This should be a written rule, it is already more than mean enough to make someone for being fat when they aren't trying to get better.
That sentence is several words too long. You could stop after "overweight." Or, hey, you could stop after "someone."
Agreed. Somebody who is in the gym is there for self improvement, both physically and mentally. That being said, I'm not above internally laughing at gym goers who do legitimately stupid things, (like not falling instructions or a 100 pound guy scrawny newbie who tries to bench 300 pounds with no warmup on his first day,) or lightly teasing my buddies so long as its mutual.
I worked at a large gym once upon a time and nothing made me happier than watching the progress someone made towards their goal. Losing weight, recovering from an injury, competing in some event... didn't matter, it's awesome to watch!
That should be pretty obvious. They're there trying to get to a healthier body or whatever and they're putting in effort. You make fun of unhealthy overweight people for being overweight, but they hit the gym and suddenly it's funny? It doesn't make sense to me.
Just say I can always lose weight but you'll still be ugly. Or ugly goes clear to the bone.
To paraphrase a guy who spent his last day hanging around on a cross, "Let he that is without fault cast the first stone!"
Thank you! It's hard enough to get the courage up to workout by myself, trying to remember how many reps to do on the different machines & what I was supposed to do with the kettle bell, etc.
A big huge muscley Russian guy walked up to me at the gym once and said, you would be so hot if you lost 20 pounds. Yes, thank you d*&%head!
I get funny looks all the time. For many years I used to train two to three times a day and competing every weekend. Over the past few years my life changed and I gained about 40+ kg. Whenever I go training, I go by my old habits and people will just look at me, WTF?! Quite funny though.
I never seen anyone made fun of..... What should be talked abut is: ~ Do not show off at the gym. ~ I see way to many guys lifting heavy weights and their body is not used to it yet, needless to say you will never see them again due to injuries. Or running so fast you almost pass out and puke.
The people you can make fun of are people with whom you have invested a lot of time and emotional energy to create a secure relationship. You earn the right to tease people, and even then you are on high alert that they are in the right place at that moment - because you know them so well you know when they are genuinely amused by your comments or not.
Try telling that to the members of the FatLogic and FatPeopleStories subs on Reddit. It’s where the term Ham Planet was born
C....ts need targets, so now you can't make fun of gay people or minorities, so on to the next target! these would be overweight people, seniors and vegans
Why would anyone think about fat people when we can look at stock photos of skinny white girls instead?
Define overweight? If you’re thinking how to, then please think again and stop.
Never make fun of anyone at the gym. Unless you know them and poking fun at each other is a mutually acceptable habit between you.
You need to go over to them and say good job, you can do it. If my mom taught me one thing it is that when others are putting people down, you need to pick them up
Only overweight people should be allowed to make jokes about it. Because it is sometimes a way of coping and making all these exercises easier and more worthwhile.
What if you are the fat person at the gym can you make fun of yourself.
Up to you. It might prompt others to join in making fun of you. If that doesn't bother you, then go ahead. If that would bother you, then either don't joke about your weight or do it only with someone who knows your boundaries.
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It's one of those "you don't look for it so you don't see it" things. The reason I stopped going to the gym was for this reason. It's never outright making fun of because they know they'd be told off. It's them following you from machine to machine and laughing as you do your sets. It's the faces of disgust when you run on a treadmill. It's the whispering and pointing with their friends. Or, they'll leave at the same time as you to make fun of you in the parking lot. When you're fat, you notice these a lot more because, 9 times out of 10, it's directed at you. It's the same if you're just running down the street or working out outside. People like to make fun of us because they aren't us, even though we're trying to better ourselves. It's like laughing at a homeless person at a job fair. It's freaking stupid and insulting.
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If someone comes up to you that you don't know starts loudly talking about being your friend you play along
If you're wrong, admit it.
So much this. This needs to be higher on the list. Being wrong and learning is a part of personal growth. Even if I am in a heated debate with someone and arguing my point and it all of a sudden dawns on me that they are right, I will immediately concede. Always good to be moldable, being rigid doesn't do anyone any good.
You having a bad day doesn't mean that you have to ruin other people's day.
Don't play your music out loud when in public.
For example: While walking down the street or sitting on a bus one should not be blasting music on their personal device. Buy a pair of damn headphones.
Always let people out before walking in. This applies to elevators, trains, or anything similar.
If someone is giving you a ride, be ready before the person arrives to pick you up.
When driving and someone lets you into the traffic stream, be sure to do the "Thank You Wave."
Don't wear white to a wedding, and don't propose at someone's wedding. I'm sure this sucks to hear, but that is not your day. Don't be a d*ck.
When I show you a singular picture on my phone, don't ever try to swipe left or right.
Dont hit on women when they're at work. They're not flirting, theyre just being nice, it's their job.
If someone holds a door open for you, then please acknowledge them or say thank you. I'm not your servant.
This may may be trivial, but also don’t hold the door open because of gender. Do it to be kind.
Don't [frigging] cheat on your SO. It's not cool. If you wanna f**k someone else, break up with your SO first instead of being a secretive c**t.
Happens way too often.
For the love of God, just return the shopping cart when you’re done with it
If you're walking side by side on a sidewalk and someone comes towards you, f**king make room.
Or if someone comes up behind you, obviously in a hurry, let them pass!!
Don't touch me or stand so close to me that I can feel you breathing if I don't know you!
Seems so simple, but so many people are disrespectful of personal space.
Be patient with the elderly unless they're being [jerks]
If you borrow a friend's car, fill up the tank when returning it as a thank you.
Leave it better than you found it.
Life isn't fair and thank goodness - imagine the horror of knowing that every bad thing that happened to you happened because you deserved it.
Don't bother someone with headphones in unless it's important. They have headphones in for a reason.
For women: always have an extra pad or tampon on you. You never know when another woman might desperately need it. You may not like her, but this is your one exception to be nice. We've all been there.
Always say please and thank you. Good to do it until it becomes second nature. Most people know this, but not everyone does it.
If you're going to ask someone to help you move, please have all the boxes already packed and ready to go.
Always start with the question "how might I be wrong?"
Everyone can figure out a reason to believe they're correct, but if you look for reasons you are wrong first you will make fewer horrific assertions and mistakes.
"How might I be wrong" is the core question of science and the start of all wisdom.
If a bro [passes away] while lifting, put more weight on the bar, then call 911
Common sense ain't that common, so explain things in the simplest manner you possibly can.
We have an ABC mantra at work:
Assume nothing.
Believe nobody.
Check everything.
Should be the rule of life! Just because you read it on social media doesn't mean it's true. How can there be so many legitimate sites to verify facts, but people choose Sally's "Uncle Joe"?
When letting cars into traffic, you let one then you go, just keep alternating.
The first time visiting someone's place you bring something. Anything. Bottle of wine, six-pack, food, origami penguin. Something.
Don’t touch another person’s hair just because you think it’s pretty.
This one right here!! When my son was born, he had bright red hair. Every damn time we went out, people would come up to us and want to touch his hair. Of course I had stupid people accuse me of dying his hair. But they still had to put their "god only knows what is on their fingers" all over my son's head. Even after I asked them nicely. Even after I was rude to them. Even after I threatened bodily harm. They would still try to touch his hair. People are rude!
Especially to your kids, don't make promises you can't keep. Also, don't ever threaten to do something you can't or won't follow up on.
Saw a shirt recently that says “No one is more full of sh*t than a parent who just said “maybe.” Lol
If someone clearly doesn't want to talk to you or needs to be somewhere else, let them be.
Never refuse when someone offers you a breath mint
Because your breath smells like a wet dog after he rolled in his own poop.
Don't touch a disabled person's mobility aids without being specifically asked to do so by the person. Wheelchair, scooter, cane, dog, walker, whatever they are using don't touch it unless they ASK you to. View it as a stranger trying to touch your legs, do you want rando to pick up your leg? Move your leg? Pet your leg? Probably not.
Never say something to someone you love that you can't recover from in the heat of an argument. You love that person for a reason.
and learn to forgive things that was said in the heat of the moment - no use letting them hurt you forever
Ask the person if they are at the back of the line before you join it.
Cover your mouth when you cough with your elbow, not your hands that you will then touch a bunch of stuff with. Applies to sneezes as well. In general, just keep your gross bodily fluid to yourself unless clearly requested to share.
If you're in someone else's home/car/yard- Anything of someone else's, ASK before you do something. No, I don't want you smoking in my car. I don't want you feeding my dog food from the table. Just stop.
Definitely agree with feeding my dog human food. It's my number one rule. He has his own food and treats I paid a lot for. Plus if it's something he is allergic to I'm sure you won't foot the vet fees. Just say no to him and he'll walk away.
If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
The window seat gets an armrest and a wall, the middle seat gets two arm rests, and the aisle seat gets an arm rest and a little extra leg room. We're not savages, we live in a society.
After applying restraints to objects in the flatbed of a truck, saying "Yep, that's not goin' anywhere" is an absolute necessity.
Make sure you twang the strap when you say it. Otherwise it absolutely will go somewhere.
We don't fight at weddings.
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If you're just teasing someone but they get upset by the remarks, stop. I've been through this kind of thing a lot and people don't seem to care or realize when my feelings have actually been hurt. Maybe it wouldn't offend you, but it could offend other people.
Yes, and never tell people how to feel or not feel.
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Oh yes. "It's a miracle I survived that cancer! God is watching out for me!" Er, how about all the doctors, nurses, therapists, scientists, and friends and family that helped?
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Offer a real apology when you are wrong. "My bad" is not an apology. Any apology that includes "you" after "sorry" is not an apology -- "I'm sorry that you were offended" / "I'm sorry you didn't like that." A real apology includes "I" -- "I'm sorry that I hurt you" / "I'm sorry that I acted like such a jerk".
"Any apology that includes "you" after "sorry" is not an apology." - I'm sorry, you were right.
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A friend used to remind me not to fish from the company pier.
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Best two pieces of advice I got from my Grandfather: There is a world of difference between good, sound reasons and reasons that sound good. And: It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
I smoke (cigarettes) and used to drive my friends around all the time- usually 2-4 friends each time. I had two absolute car rules= 1) everyone wears seat belts and 2) it doesn't matter how many of the passengers smoke, if just one person doesn't smoke, then they're is NO SMOKING in the car
Don't touch my kid unless I invite you to. Or their stroller. Or their toys. Or their food. Unless it's an emergency, stay back 8 feet and keep your appendages to yourself!
I'll sum it up - "Bro bro bro. Bro? Bro bro bro bro!! Bro?? Bro!! Bro... Bro? Broooo... Bro!"
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My goodness, there was some serious male fragility on display up there!
I would like to add, always, if possible, call a person on the phone before dropping by. Better if it's days in advance.Especially if the person you are visiting has small children and/or is taking care of an ill person.
Ss an older lady lady who has to use a cane I can't believe how many people will not hold the door for you. I'm not begging for mercy. It's if someone is cing out & see you're going to go in they just let the door slam shut.
Don't touch random people's babies or kids no matter how cute they are, same with a pregnant woman's belly. My friend had problems with that in public. People wanted to rub her belly or touch her kid's cheeks. She would ask people to please not do that and they would claim she was rude 🙄
Be kind to people on your way up. You never know when you'll meet them again on your way down.
This needs to state the rule of keeping to the right. Walking in a mall? Walk on the right side of the hallways. Going up or down stairs? Keep to the right. Always use the right side. Please. Lol.
Never get in a car driven by someone who is talkative, but can only hold a conversation by making eye-contact. You will eventually die. This should be a part of all driver education courses - talking while looking at the road.
I'm talkative & make eye contact. But when I'm driving, my eyes are on the road.
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If you're just teasing someone but they get upset by the remarks, stop. I've been through this kind of thing a lot and people don't seem to care or realize when my feelings have actually been hurt. Maybe it wouldn't offend you, but it could offend other people.
Yes, and never tell people how to feel or not feel.
Load More Replies... Oh yes. "It's a miracle I survived that cancer! God is watching out for me!" Er, how about all the doctors, nurses, therapists, scientists, and friends and family that helped?
Load More Replies... Offer a real apology when you are wrong. "My bad" is not an apology. Any apology that includes "you" after "sorry" is not an apology -- "I'm sorry that you were offended" / "I'm sorry you didn't like that." A real apology includes "I" -- "I'm sorry that I hurt you" / "I'm sorry that I acted like such a jerk".
"Any apology that includes "you" after "sorry" is not an apology." - I'm sorry, you were right.
Load More Replies... A friend used to remind me not to fish from the company pier.
Load More Replies... some good ones, but some patriarchal b******t at the bottom wihch will hopefully be voted out
Best two pieces of advice I got from my Grandfather: There is a world of difference between good, sound reasons and reasons that sound good. And: It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
I smoke (cigarettes) and used to drive my friends around all the time- usually 2-4 friends each time. I had two absolute car rules= 1) everyone wears seat belts and 2) it doesn't matter how many of the passengers smoke, if just one person doesn't smoke, then they're is NO SMOKING in the car
Don't touch my kid unless I invite you to. Or their stroller. Or their toys. Or their food. Unless it's an emergency, stay back 8 feet and keep your appendages to yourself!
I'll sum it up - "Bro bro bro. Bro? Bro bro bro bro!! Bro?? Bro!! Bro... Bro? Broooo... Bro!"
Load More Replies... My goodness, there was some serious male fragility on display up there!
I would like to add, always, if possible, call a person on the phone before dropping by. Better if it's days in advance.Especially if the person you are visiting has small children and/or is taking care of an ill person.
Ss an older lady lady who has to use a cane I can't believe how many people will not hold the door for you. I'm not begging for mercy. It's if someone is cing out & see you're going to go in they just let the door slam shut.
Don't touch random people's babies or kids no matter how cute they are, same with a pregnant woman's belly. My friend had problems with that in public. People wanted to rub her belly or touch her kid's cheeks. She would ask people to please not do that and they would claim she was rude 🙄
Be kind to people on your way up. You never know when you'll meet them again on your way down.
This needs to state the rule of keeping to the right. Walking in a mall? Walk on the right side of the hallways. Going up or down stairs? Keep to the right. Always use the right side. Please. Lol.
Never get in a car driven by someone who is talkative, but can only hold a conversation by making eye-contact. You will eventually die. This should be a part of all driver education courses - talking while looking at the road.
I'm talkative & make eye contact. But when I'm driving, my eyes are on the road.
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