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Psychologists think we tend to ignore red flags because we simply don’t want to be right. Falling in love can really mess up our minds, and turning a blind eye to behavior that’s obviously not right is one way. After all, finding someone you truly like is like winning the lottery these days, but no matter how much we’d want to fall in love, some glaring signs indicate we may be better off without them.

Examples of Red Flags (Funny But True)

When X user Lauren Chanel (formerly of Twitter) asked, “What’s a simple red flag that has never failed you? Something small like a person quoting 48 Laws of Power”—it struck a chord with many people. 

The illuminating replies started pouring in, and they definitely shed light on what to be cautious about in our love interests. You might find some of the biggest red flags in a guy funny at first glance, but they actually reveal what kind of a person they are. From people who say they hate animals to “littering,” some things may look basic or funny at first, but when you really think about it…

Whether you find the biggest red flags in a girl funny or not, the following compilation may save you from taking the wrong step. By the way, this isn't just a collection of funny red flags for girls; it includes funny red flags for guys, too!

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Dre Mosley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took a woman on a date years ago who did that. Had our waitress constantly attending our table, you could tell she got off on having a "servant." It was a major turnoff. Didn't go out with her again after that.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have always wondered why people think that it is alright to say that they hate cats. The general response would be "Yeah, I get it. Cats are assholes." If you say you hate a dog, then the whole world is against you. "How dare you hate a dog? What sort of sub-human are you?" To cat-haters: what in the world did a cat ever do to you? So, yes, I'd run far, far away from someone who would harm a cat, or any animal, really.

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Have you ever been in love? Your best friend, your family friend, your parent? If so, you’d know very well how love changes people. Thankfully, the transformation is usually for the better, but sometimes, we fall head over heels so deeply that we lose the ability to detect doubts and other negative reactions we have with our love interests.

Elite Daily interviewed some experts. Here’s what they had to say about blind love and its impact on the people in the relationship.

In fact, very few of us are immune to this phenomenon, says nationally recognized psychotherapist Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, who considers blind love to be something that doesn’t have to do with appearances. It usually hits during the honeymoon phase, when we still haven’t had enough time to experience the negative side of our loved ones.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's some sense to this statement. You can have respect for your fellow human and also respect the roles that different people have. If you make a big spill in a mall or airport, will you get a mop or a janitor? Just apologize and show gratitude.

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According to relationship expert Susan Winter, who also spoke to Elite Daily, the honeymoon phase brings all the best parts of our significant others to the spotlight. “We haven’t experienced the many times they’ll disappoint, let us down, and hurt us. These are the things that occur later in a relationship. Without knowing the totality of our partner, we are forced to see them in a state of love blindness.”

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Keri O'Donnell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

omg - the most violent person I know is a huge litter bug - flings stuff all over the place, disgusting...also a serial domestic abuser and physically violent

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those people also often can't stand jokes of similar type aimed at them.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took my date to a great restaurant where one of my best friends was our waiter. I introduced them to each other. On the ride home my date said to me " I cannot believe you would introduce me to a waiter... and what is it with you wearing a trench coat to a luxe restaurant.. don't you have anything nicer?" LAST DATE.

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After the honeymoon phase ends, many lovebirds start to see and experience the not-so-pretty side of their relationship. This is why recognizing your initial doubts at the beginning of a relationship is crucial. Cherlyn Chong, a dating and breakup recovery coach, suggests seeking a person who can meet one’s needs “regardless of surface or social standing.”

“They need to not completely judge people right off the bat, but they should also prioritize those compatibility traits.” Thus, often, that very first hint of a negative reaction you have may be the most telling one. Basically, don’t ignore the red flags!

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Periwinkle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's part of someone's identity, It's important you get it right to respect them if they are sensitive or feel more comfortable with you doing so.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I've never understood people who bond over and constantly talk about things they hate instead of things they like. Sure, it's fine to mention it when it comes up...But to actively seek out things to hate is sad.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A basic apology demonstrates remorse for something you did or didn't do. You start by saying "I'm sorry." Then you identify what it was that you did or didn't do to offend, you show you understand it hurt or offended the other person and how it hurt or offended them, and you tell them what you will do to avoid repeating it in the future. For example: "Hey, John- I'm sorry I told Mike you were getting divorced. You told me that in confidence and I know I betrayed your trust by sharing it with him. I value your trust, John, and promise you that if you ever confide in me again, my lips will be sealed." Notice I didn't offer an excuse like "I did it just that one time" or " I didn't know it wasn't public info." OWN IT when you apologize. Explaining yourself can come later if THEY request it. Otherwise, you're just throwing out excuses and not owning it.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ex friend kept doing this to me. I would start a conversation that she would wave away with with the comment 'oh, you and your x idea' as though it was weird when it was usually just something I'd seen in the news and wanted to share thinking she'd be interested. She'd roll her eyes and pull faces if she didn't understand or agree. She would demean compliments I got from people to make them appear worthless. I realised her low self esteem got a boost from belittling me. People who only feel better when they try to diminish you are not genuine friends. Real friends would want to listen and support you. Even if you miss the fun times (I do) it's truly not worth the other times when you go home upset and thinking 'what on earth was that for?'.

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Remi Flynne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who won't apologise. Accept it if you have stuffed up. There is no weakness in recognising that and saying sorry to those you have hurt. It is weak to try and hide it, cowardly to try and pretend you did nothing wrong.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In UK, in most supermarkets, you have to put a £1 coin to get a trolley. If you want your coin back, you must return the trolley. (and yes, we call it a trolley!)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like when you dont drink alcohol and people keeps pushing you to have one.

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Remi Flynne
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister would believe 100% every critical story about every new boyfriend's exes. Boyfriend after boyfriend - they all had evil exes. Then, shock, discover that her boyfriends were actually the people with the problem. Not saying that applies in all cases but be wary if it's a trend in the partners you pick.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about a woman thinking it's "cute" when a man cooks them dinner? Are we throwing those women in the trash too or is this a gender specific thing?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

100%. It tells me they are more a fan of cults than sports.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see narcissistic behaviour is rising among people, or maybe it was always there any social just makes it more evident.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to work as a cleaner. I couldn't understand why some people would leave their lunch rubbish on the table when you had to pass the bin to leave the room!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like this might also be the influence of movies showing that you have to be persistent and if you keep trying he/she will fall in love with you so "don't give up".

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IMHO? We have to be careful what we mean by "drama", as in, do we mean overexaggerating small problems, or do we mean the person is a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom, or do we mean that they had bad luck and are feeling crappy about it?

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Giovanni
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I barely work and barely play, i mostly take depression naps. Is it ok?

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Katie Lutesinger
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never been religious, but I do like that line in the bible about how when you do good deeds it doesn't count if you brag about it afterwards. Because it's true - you should do kind, charitable things for their own sake, not just to make yourself look good.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this one. People have always been having their feelings hurt by insensitive (and bigoted) comments. It's just that nowadays it's much more acceptable to call people out on it. For example, decades ago, women had to just quietly take workplace harassment or be fired.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree with this one. There is a lot of politically correct racist and misogynist things said and there are a lot of not politically correct things which are not racist and misogynistic. The preamble is to recognize that you may not agree with what they are saying. That doesn't make it automatically wrong.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This, but it could also be a genuine fear of negative judgement. We're living in a hyper sensitive world.

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Periwinkle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They must hate having to disguise homophobia, misogynism and racism nowadays..

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No you didn't
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just like saying "no offense, but..." isn't going to make the following less offensive.

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Afton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not politically correct to to say but FOX NEWS has absolutely no news about foxes.

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"It's always racist, misogynistic or misandristic. " There I fixed it for you because I'm getting tired of the double standards here on BP.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm not racist but... /I'm not homophobic but... / I'm not xenophobic but.. are BIG NOPES

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Googleman1234
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im not transphobic BUT sex is real and trans people are all rapists/oppressed women- a famous author

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Kateryna
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you say "but", think about the statement before it. Don't say it just cause it makes you sound justified.

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Joanna
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Using the phrase, "politically correct" is a red flag in and of itself - the rest of us just call it being decent and respectful.

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Truth Monster
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the time of Nazi Germany, it was "politically correct" to blame Jews. PC culture doesn't make you a better human. It just means that you agree with the popularly accepted opinions, whether they are true/decent/respectful or not.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do agree with this one, but I must say that it is starting to get damn difficult not to hurt anyone when you say something. People tend to say things in the context of their own cultural and social life, and we have to try to understand eachother. Take 'Zwarte Piet' in Belgium or the Netherlands: this is considered blackface and blatant racism nowadays, but my parents never taught me that 'Zwarte Piet' was a bad person, he was 'Sinterklaas''s helper, and he was the guy/girl who made sure you got the presents, so he was the good guy (unless you were a bad kid). The fact that he was black, was due to the fact that he crawled down the chimney, not because he was African or whatever... Let's just try to understand eachother, and enjoy life together.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is a stupid thing to be angry about. It is obvious that having black helpers (that used to be portrayed as stupid) is going to offend people. The solution is to just incorporate Piets of different backgrounds and to give him a more active rol. Traditions change with time and its ok.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you preface your comment as not 'politically correct' it means that you know, in general, it is considered offensive. Such a warning suggests that the person is either seeking to offend (I've had this happen regularly here in the south, usually about the 'n' word), or trying to discover if you might share their unpopular view. For those of us who value a supportive and interactive community, this would be a red flag that this person is not a good match or is trying to stir things up.

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Tobias Rieper
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why is it called homophobic or transphobic not homoist of transist and why is called racist and not racephobic i guess my question is why are some called phobic and others ists

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MiraiJack
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just to see if I got it right, it's like saying: "It's not politically correct to say but you are a white trash bitch". Did I get it?

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WhatEvenIsLife
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm not a racist, but..." If you have to preface your statement with that, you are definitely about to say something racist and you goddamn well know it.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

political correctness is either racist or misandrist. simple fact

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yeah , i'm not racist but....... then show you just how racist they are

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Chris Challis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

or "no offense" but you know the comment made is or will be offensive.

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David Retsler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ALWAYS ignore what was said prior to the word "but." "I don't mean to pry BUT (I will anyway)" "It's not politically correct to say BUT (I'll say it anyway)"

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Beeps
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same with: “I’m not racist, but...” or “no offence, but...”

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Marilyn Ransberry
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or start a statement with I’m not racist but.............. . Always going to say something racist.

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El Dee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or, the ever popular 'I'm not a racist but..' Spoiler - only said by racists..

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

or, the alternative "I'm not being (racist/sexist/homophobic etc.) but..."

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or... I'm a nice person.... it's not for them to judge, it's for people who know them to decide if that's what they think.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

actually it means something worse : "they don't want to see their kids"

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's easy to assume women who don't have women friends must not like women. When really tons of us are just too f*ckin shy ^.^;;

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Iggy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No generation is soft. Those who suggest it should stop paying attention to silly Daily Mail nonsense.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the key of the OPs concern is that the men who say she's perfect barely know her... a bit premature to make such an evaluation. Plus those men probably have unrealistic expectations about a relationship with her...

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Ziva Kravdahl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh! I have one red flag! People who do not like others JUST because they like different things and judging others by it.

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Beware of the Red Flags! 

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