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Psychologists think we tend to ignore red flags because we simply don’t want to be right. Falling in love can really mess up our minds, and turning a blind eye to behavior that’s obviously not right is one way. After all, finding someone you truly like is like winning the lottery these days, but no matter how much we’d want to fall in love, some glaring signs indicate we may be better off without them.

Examples of Red Flags (Funny But True)

When X user Lauren Chanel (formerly of Twitter) asked, “What’s a simple red flag that has never failed you? Something small like a person quoting 48 Laws of Power”—it struck a chord with many people. 

The illuminating replies started pouring in, and they definitely shed light on what to be cautious about in our love interests. You might find some of the biggest red flags in a guy funny at first glance, but they actually reveal what kind of a person they are. From people who say they hate animals to “littering,” some things may look basic or funny at first, but when you really think about it…

Whether you find the biggest red flags in a girl funny or not, the following compilation may save you from taking the wrong step. By the way, this isn't just a collection of funny red flags for girls; it includes funny red flags for guys, too!

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Dre Mosley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took a woman on a date years ago who did that. Had our waitress constantly attending our table, you could tell she got off on having a "servant." It was a major turnoff. Didn't go out with her again after that.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have always wondered why people think that it is alright to say that they hate cats. The general response would be "Yeah, I get it. Cats are assholes." If you say you hate a dog, then the whole world is against you. "How dare you hate a dog? What sort of sub-human are you?" To cat-haters: what in the world did a cat ever do to you? So, yes, I'd run far, far away from someone who would harm a cat, or any animal, really.

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Have you ever been in love? Your best friend, your family friend, your parent? If so, you’d know very well how love changes people. Thankfully, the transformation is usually for the better, but sometimes, we fall head over heels so deeply that we lose the ability to detect doubts and other negative reactions we have with our love interests.

Elite Daily interviewed some experts. Here’s what they had to say about blind love and its impact on the people in the relationship.

In fact, very few of us are immune to this phenomenon, says nationally recognized psychotherapist Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, who considers blind love to be something that doesn’t have to do with appearances. It usually hits during the honeymoon phase, when we still haven’t had enough time to experience the negative side of our loved ones.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's some sense to this statement. You can have respect for your fellow human and also respect the roles that different people have. If you make a big spill in a mall or airport, will you get a mop or a janitor? Just apologize and show gratitude.

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According to relationship expert Susan Winter, who also spoke to Elite Daily, the honeymoon phase brings all the best parts of our significant others to the spotlight. “We haven’t experienced the many times they’ll disappoint, let us down, and hurt us. These are the things that occur later in a relationship. Without knowing the totality of our partner, we are forced to see them in a state of love blindness.”

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Keri O'Donnell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

omg - the most violent person I know is a huge litter bug - flings stuff all over the place, disgusting...also a serial domestic abuser and physically violent

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Pamela24
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those people also often can't stand jokes of similar type aimed at them.

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MiniMaus
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took my date to a great restaurant where one of my best friends was our waiter. I introduced them to each other. On the ride home my date said to me " I cannot believe you would introduce me to a waiter... and what is it with you wearing a trench coat to a luxe restaurant.. don't you have anything nicer?" LAST DATE.

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After the honeymoon phase ends, many lovebirds start to see and experience the not-so-pretty side of their relationship. This is why recognizing your initial doubts at the beginning of a relationship is crucial. Cherlyn Chong, a dating and breakup recovery coach, suggests seeking a person who can meet one’s needs “regardless of surface or social standing.”

“They need to not completely judge people right off the bat, but they should also prioritize those compatibility traits.” Thus, often, that very first hint of a negative reaction you have may be the most telling one. Basically, don’t ignore the red flags!

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Periwinkle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's part of someone's identity, It's important you get it right to respect them if they are sensitive or feel more comfortable with you doing so.

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Troux
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also please ask before you decide to abbreviate. Some people still prefer Jacqueline, Christopher, Catherine or Joseph.

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Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First meeting with a new employee, I straight up asked, "Do you prefer to be called Sam or Samantha?" It helped me as well, so I knew exactly what to use, as did others in the room.

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Daria B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless they really have problems pronouncing it because, for example, their mother tongue is very different than yours, even with the best of efforts. Luckily my name is easy for Koreans, but if I were, for example, Zvjezdana.....

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earringnut
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The point is to try. You might fail, but trying is a sign of respect.

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Kisses4Katie
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Data from TNG said it best. A doctor was pronouncing it wrong and he corrected her. "Day-ta, Dah-ta, what's the difference," she says. He said "it's my name, and there is a difference" Been a while since I've seen it but he handled everything so well.

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse: People who knowingly and willingly keep calling people by a certain name although the person has repeatedly asked them not to do so. Some people want to change their name for various reasons and you need to respect their choice. Don't care how long you know them, if they tell you that their new name is Roberta instead of Adam, you call them Roberta.

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cat in a tank
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my strategy is calling them the wrong name when they refuse to use mine. they don't like it loll

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Iggy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My real name causes problems for a lot of people. All that matters is that people try. It's people who say "Oh, well I'm just going to call you XXXXX" that annoy me. My parents already named me, you don't get to. Ask if there is a nickname you could use if you can't pronounce a name.

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Gyro Pilot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dunno about this. Nicknames become part.of the basis for group cohesion. You may formally be XXX but once renamed by your mates or colleagues you've been taken in and become one of the trusted circle.

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Ozacoter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or when they correct you. My surname starts with V and in spanish the V is pronounced as a B. I had it a lot in other countries that people corrected me like "I am X with V" and they are like "You mean Y (pronounced with a V). How are you so arrogant to correct somebody about how to say their own name?

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Mohsie Supposie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some names can really be difficult to pronounce, especially foreign ones, but at least try. Marks for effort.

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Tree P
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. I would try, but ask them to forgive me if I pronounced it wrong.

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Hehehehehehehehe (ve/ver)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also people refusing to stop using deadnames. Thats not their name get over yourself

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happens a lot with Kamala. People do it on purpose. People often purposefully mispronounce foreign names as a way of rejecting the culture / race of the person.

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Lorraine R
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See Randy Rainbow's take on that on YouTube -- "Kamala" sung to the tune of "Camelot".

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Janette Parker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate being called Janet, especially when I've introduced or been introduced verbally as Janette. Janet is somebody else's name. People even spell it wrong when replying to my work email and my spelling is right there at the bottom. It's rude.

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Afton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sisters name is Daphne, she hates it when people pronounce her name like daf fuh knee, its daf knee, she even has a shirt that says that

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Hilzillah
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the only one who likes freestyle naming? My name is weird and I like the stuff People Come up with. It's hilarious 🙈

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s fun to see people butcher my very Iranian last name sometimes. It’s pretty impossible so I just let people say whatever. No excuses on my first name though. Even though it’s different it’s still easy to say.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Spelling is just as important as pronunciation too. If you care enough about the person, you'll learn to both spell and pronounce their name correctly.

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Artoonist Corine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I. Hate. That. After I tell someone 20 bajillion time how to pronounce my name and they STILL don't TRY to pronounce it right - I am done. (It's Cor-reen btw)

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Noelle (she/her)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My gym teacher accidentally put my name as 'Noella' on the list or something and he still calls me Noella even though I keep reminding him my name is Noelle

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Hehehehehehehehe (ve/ver)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My name is a feminine version of an old Welsh name and my science teacher still calls me the Welsh name

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Back when I worked at AAA folks would call and just give their membership number. I learned that if you just read the name really fast and a little mumbly, people would hear it correctly pronounced. "Why hello Mrs. Katchezantomarkaris!"

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend from Iran, when Americans try and nickname her or mispronounce her name, she calmly says “I took the time and energy to learn your language the least thing you can do is learn my name”. I love her for this!!

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JayWantsACat
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Add gender pronouns to this, as well. It's not at all difficult to refer to people in the way they prefer...within reason, obviously. Im not calling you "Champion of the World" or whatever...

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Rocio Palacios
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree with this one. I believe that life requires tolerance and we need to understand that not everybody can pronounce the same sounds. My name has a strong r, and the lastname Is a tongue twister. If i got offended because people could not roll their r, i would have missed the opportunity to meet wonderful humans. I agree that if important for the other side we should try our best, but life Is a lot easier if we accept the other as a nivel person doing their best.

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CrEaTiVe_duck
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

for me its this one friend i used to have my name is Nicky and i specifically told him to type Nicky but he would always write Niki or Nicki i mean sure im a girl but i clearly asked for a c,k and a god damn Y not I

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Andrew Cohen
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok I'm going to get flamed for this but if you have a non typically pronounced name, don't get all bent out of shape if someone does not pronounce it correctly the first time they say it. It's not their fault you decided to make up an alternate pronunciation for a name that is commonly pronounced differently or your name is not one they have heard before. As someone who has worked in customer service, this is pretty common and it gets repaid ;)

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Kisses4Katie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course! But anyone who continues to mispronounce and not make an effort is being ignorant.

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El Dee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or tell you that you are pronouncing your own name wrong - had it happen..

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abby smink
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had someone tell me that my name was actually Abigail and not just Abby. It was a stranger. Pretty sure I know what my birth certificate says.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I genuinely don't care if people get my name wrong - it's hard to pronounce in some languages, and even my mother spells it wrong sometimes - and she's the one who gave it to me. It's so not worth getting upset over.

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Jyri Hakola
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It depends of who and where. As a Finn I totally understand that 99,5% of world can`t pronounce my name correctly...

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Gyro Pilot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At work I have a colleague with an Indian name 22 letters long. My real-word name has only five but mostly consanants. We joke that we share a problem but for different reasons/lengths: nobody new can can pronounce our names correctly!

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King Joffrey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's such a big deal and I say that as someone whose name is almost always mispronounced.

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Stephanie Rassier
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not hard to pronounce but I will introduce myself as Stephanie and first thing out of people's mouths: "Hi Steph." If I wanted you to call me Steph, I would have said that.

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Reggie Smurf
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do this but not on purpose. I have trouble with some names so I will just ask the person to say their name so I can get it right. Yes it annoys people.

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Ruby DosSantos
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once had a teacher who would call u what ever he wanted.he got fired for intentional miss gendering kids

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Allan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

High School kids are big time victims causing them mockry and depression

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thepinkrobot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is also hi-key racist for non-English names. I have never allowed someone to mispronounce my name once I realized that they would be downright pressed if I purposefully messed up a name like Smith or Johnson.

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djinnjeannie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My name is regularly mispronounced. Used to bug when I was younger but after 20 odd years of correcting people I just started shrugging and answering to whatever.

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Lorraine R
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a feeling that the babies named 'Myreigha' and 'Tymotheigh' today will end up in your boat in a few years. Some parents are idiots.

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abby smink
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Within reason, tho. You can't name someone "Ae12zyz" and expect people to pronounce it "Bob"

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Kenny Vermeulen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Than i would love for you to pronounce my FULL name correctly, without any mistakes.

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Mandy Thompson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or how a city or word is pronounced in the native language that it came from! People who refuse to try to pronounce things correctly or don't think that they should be because we are "in America where we speak English" are usually closed minded.

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deanna woods
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of teachers I have had have called me the wrong thing. Eventually I got tired of correcting them and just answered to what they called me.

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Shinomi Chan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. If they tell you: "it's pronounced-" then at least ATTEMPT to do it right.

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Michael Se
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh... THIS... when I literally JUST introduced myself and they immediately call me "Mike". It's barely half a syllable to finish my name and you are THAT lazy.

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brukernavn340
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually haven't had much of an issue with this. My name is Andreas, but people pronounce it differently depending of where they come from. My dad pronounce it with a different intonation than I, and even I pronounce it differently when I speak English (Norwegian is my mother tongue).

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Andre Michael Pietroschek
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Misanthropes look for submission, only pretending to be interest in ``equals´´. Also: Many repeat offenders from psychaitric care are known for such attitudes.

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MIA J RODRIGUEZ
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My name is clearly pronounced ¨Me-uh¨ How the f**k does Mia Look like Maya?

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Owiella Freddie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep in mind that some people have speech impediments that makes it difficult to say another's name without practice, especially if it's a name they've not heard before. At some point, focusing too much on proper pronunciation get's in the way of a happy conversation. It's not always about respect. My dad could not pronounce my name properly, and he's the one that chose it. Hence my nickname.

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Eric Lafleur
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And don't use nicknames if they don't give you permission. Dude is also not the proper way to adress someone who's not part of your entourage.

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Mark Kelly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's fine unless it's it's a play on the name that's an insult. Some people say Markus to me.

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Adem Townsend
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teachers sometimes spell or say my name wrong, not sure if it goes along with this.

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Erica Cochrane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

at work we have to put names on drinks, i always ask people how to spell their name, if i'm unsure, or if it's a name with multiple spellings. however, i feel bad if i'm handing out a drink and i dont know how to say the name, so i make a guess, then ask the person (if they hang around) how to say it correctly so i can get it right the next time.

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Kerry Bullen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's my pet hate, i get ridiculously cross when i hear football commentators saying player's names wrong!

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Lily Mae Kitty
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My last name sounds VERY slightly like a common word. some different letters-that are really important. I had someone tell me they were going to call be by the common word b/c it was easier to say.

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Sori
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m the worst with this, it’s that I mix up sounds in English and Spanish! I always apologize and try to explain that I never confuse their face or forget who their are; just the pronunciation of their name.

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Ivana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...so, everyone in my friend group has a nick name that developed over time except for me...I don't like my name and I keep waiting for my own nick name. I would love someone to freestyle it. Also, Ivana is not my real name guys. I don't use my real name online. Not so people won't know who I am, but because I really hate my real name, deeply.

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Hugh Cookson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, yes ; or comment on a particular aspect of your looks. In my case, I have been bald since I was about 22. If someone was derogatory by saying something like ' hey baldy' I'd quite happily respond with 'what, big nose' or ' man, you're ugly on the inside' or, one that nearly ended badly ' what, you zit faced twat with your ugly child and wife'. I have it down to a fine art nowadays

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Lúthien
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a middle name. If I present myself as "Firstname Middlename", 90% of the time people start calling me by my middle name! I don't have anything against my middle name, it is just that I grew up being called both (or just my first name), so I will assume you are talking to somebody else if you just say Middlename. also, I don't get why they would all take it for granted I want to use my middle name as my first name. *sigh*

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Vicky Zar
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uuh this reminds me: don't know if it's true but I heard a story once. An asian guy with a western name like George Smith had a coworker who couldn't or wouldn't remember his name. So the coworker just named him Genghis Khan. I told this story to my German Mother in Law. She did not see what was so bad about it. So I tried to explain it by asking what she would think if someone just named her Adolf Hitler. She was outraged but said "thats different!". I was speechless. And thats my mil in a nutshell.

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hear, hear. I think pronouncing someone's name incorrectly (if you've been told the right pronunciation) or misspelling their name in a return email, for example is not just bad manners. It's also lazy and tells me that they don't give a s**t about you. So yup, red flag for me.

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I I
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i am really bad at remembering names , had to make nick names to remind me , not good when drunk and one slips out

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Tye Dye Llama
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Respect pronouns too! They’re just as important as names.

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embarrassed american
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And people that don't take the time to spell someone's name correctly when it's RIGHT THERE IN THE EMAIL!

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MiraiJack
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's what happens when your name sounds like a Star Wars character, mister D/é/ré/k B/un/duran/te/.

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Flora Endebez
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So... everyone at my school except for a couple of close friends

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David Retsler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing is as pleasing to the ear as someone saying your name. Even more so if they put the effort into pronouncing it correctly. I was a liaison in Thailand for a year and I studied the names of the Thai's I worked with like a mental patient. I knew how to correctly pronounce everyone's name. When I was reassigned, the Thais expressed their admiration of how I learned to say their names correctly when so many of my predecessors couldn't be bothered. It is DEFINITELY worth the effort to pronounce a name correctly- especially the challenging names. This displayed of respect and admiration will never be forgotten.

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Alexis draskinis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never got this either. Even if their name is hard for you to pronounce, you can ask them if they have a nickname they prefer. Way easier & nicer than continuing to screw it up and/or purposely doing so. Not to mention, many people with hard names have probably gone through this a lot & have something they are ok with.

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Isabelle Balagué
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How di you pronounce yours. as a french women, I am pretty sure I would offend your ears ;-)

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Isabelle Balagué
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how do you pronounce yours. As a french women I am pretty sure I would hurt your ears

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People are pompous assholes about their names. If it’s a messed up spelling or you choose to pronounce it weird for the sake of being unique, I’ll pronounce it however I damn well please.

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humahasit tweets about people who try to bond by talking badly about other people

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I've never understood people who bond over and constantly talk about things they hate instead of things they like. Sure, it's fine to mention it when it comes up...But to actively seek out things to hate is sad.

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kianamoods tweets about apologize as red flag in relationship

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A basic apology demonstrates remorse for something you did or didn't do. You start by saying "I'm sorry." Then you identify what it was that you did or didn't do to offend, you show you understand it hurt or offended the other person and how it hurt or offended them, and you tell them what you will do to avoid repeating it in the future. For example: "Hey, John- I'm sorry I told Mike you were getting divorced. You told me that in confidence and I know I betrayed your trust by sharing it with him. I value your trust, John, and promise you that if you ever confide in me again, my lips will be sealed." Notice I didn't offer an excuse like "I did it just that one time" or " I didn't know it wasn't public info." OWN IT when you apologize. Explaining yourself can come later if THEY request it. Otherwise, you're just throwing out excuses and not owning it.

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LusraGray tweets about appearance as red flag in relationship

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Remi Flynne
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ex friend kept doing this to me. I would start a conversation that she would wave away with with the comment 'oh, you and your x idea' as though it was weird when it was usually just something I'd seen in the news and wanted to share thinking she'd be interested. She'd roll her eyes and pull faces if she didn't understand or agree. She would demean compliments I got from people to make them appear worthless. I realised her low self esteem got a boost from belittling me. People who only feel better when they try to diminish you are not genuine friends. Real friends would want to listen and support you. Even if you miss the fun times (I do) it's truly not worth the other times when you go home upset and thinking 'what on earth was that for?'.

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Remi Flynne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who won't apologise. Accept it if you have stuffed up. There is no weakness in recognising that and saying sorry to those you have hurt. It is weak to try and hide it, cowardly to try and pretend you did nothing wrong.

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PeterAstridKane tweets about shopping carts as red flag in relationship

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Mohsie Supposie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In UK, in most supermarkets, you have to put a £1 coin to get a trolley. If you want your coin back, you must return the trolley. (and yes, we call it a trolley!)

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GleaningSage tweets about not listening to a small no as red flag in relationship

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Ozacoter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like when you dont drink alcohol and people keeps pushing you to have one.

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AlisaValdesRod1 tweets about hating all their exes as red flag in relationship

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Remi Flynne
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister would believe 100% every critical story about every new boyfriend's exes. Boyfriend after boyfriend - they all had evil exes. Then, shock, discover that her boyfriends were actually the people with the problem. Not saying that applies in all cases but be wary if it's a trend in the partners you pick.

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AlisaValdesRod1 tweets about men who call it cute as red flag in relationship

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Wendillon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about a woman thinking it's "cute" when a man cooks them dinner? Are we throwing those women in the trash too or is this a gender specific thing?

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Troux
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

100%. It tells me they are more a fan of cults than sports.

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freddymac2020 tweets about converstations as red flag in relationship

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Vic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see narcissistic behaviour is rising among people, or maybe it was always there any social just makes it more evident.

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officialsadgyal tweets about people who leave food on the table as red flag in relationship

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Pink kitty
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to work as a cleaner. I couldn't understand why some people would leave their lunch rubbish on the table when you had to pass the bin to leave the room!

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SarahSmith4WA tweets about man who follows a no thanks as red flag in relationship

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Wendillon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like this might also be the influence of movies showing that you have to be persistent and if you keep trying he/she will fall in love with you so "don't give up".

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LisaNNwachukwu tweets about drama in life as red flag in relationship

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Leo Domitrix
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IMHO? We have to be careful what we mean by "drama", as in, do we mean overexaggerating small problems, or do we mean the person is a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom, or do we mean that they had bad luck and are feeling crappy about it?

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janieboo25 tweets about men who say I word hard and play hard as red flag in relationship

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Giovanni
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I barely work and barely play, i mostly take depression naps. Is it ok?

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_Astro_Nerd_ tweets about people who have to announce every good deed they do

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Katie Lutesinger
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never been religious, but I do like that line in the bible about how when you do good deeds it doesn't count if you brag about it afterwards. Because it's true - you should do kind, charitable things for their own sake, not just to make yourself look good.

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thelexep tweets about people are so sensitive these days as red flag in relationship

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mph seti
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this one. People have always been having their feelings hurt by insensitive (and bigoted) comments. It's just that nowadays it's much more acceptable to call people out on it. For example, decades ago, women had to just quietly take workplace harassment or be fired.

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LacieDank tweets about politically correct to say as red flag in relationship

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree with this one. There is a lot of politically correct racist and misogynist things said and there are a lot of not politically correct things which are not racist and misogynistic. The preamble is to recognize that you may not agree with what they are saying. That doesn't make it automatically wrong.

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kindaashady tweets about good guys as red flag in relationship

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Paul Mitchell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or... I'm a nice person.... it's not for them to judge, it's for people who know them to decide if that's what they think.

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astro78 tweets about kids and father as red flag in relationship

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StIJN
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

actually it means something worse : "they don't want to see their kids"

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WarmestRegardss tweets about trusting women as red flag in relationship

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Hermitbunny
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's easy to assume women who don't have women friends must not like women. When really tons of us are just too f*ckin shy ^.^;;

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Teacher_Toni tweets about generation as red flag in relationship

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Iggy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No generation is soft. Those who suggest it should stop paying attention to silly Daily Mail nonsense.

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msdanifernandez tweets about saying perfect for her as red flag in relationship

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Oskar vanZandt
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the key of the OPs concern is that the men who say she's perfect barely know her... a bit premature to make such an evaluation. Plus those men probably have unrealistic expectations about a relationship with her...

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rosiebuttoncups tweets about Elon Musk as red flag in relationship

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Ziva Kravdahl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh! I have one red flag! People who do not like others JUST because they like different things and judging others by it.

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