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I think it's safe to say most of us have had our fair share of bad relationships. But when does a bad relationship becomes toxic? The kind that takes a toll on your physical, psychological, spiritual or emotional well-being?

Twitter user Halima has set out to find out just that. Recently, she asked people what 'red flags' they overlooked in their exes and her tweet instantly went viral.

From forcing girlfriends to cut off ties with all of their guy-friends to defending everything but your boyfriend, scroll down to see what to look out for in your next relationship and let us know in the comments if you have something to add to the list.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's pretty much the textbook definition of gaslighting. Sounds like you are well out of it.

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Dr. Lillian Glass, a California-based communication and psychology expert, who says she coined the term 'toxic relationship' in her 1995 book Toxic People, defines it as “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect, and a lack of cohesiveness.”

Dr. Kristen Fuller, a California-based family medicine physician specializing in mental health, told TIME that those who regularly undermine or cause harm to their partner often have a reason for their behavior even if it’s subconscious. “Maybe they were in a toxic relationship, either romantically or as a child. Maybe they didn’t have the most supportive, loving upbringing,” Fuller says. “They could have been bullied in school. They could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental health disorder such as depression or anxiety or bipolar disorder, an eating disorder, any form of trauma.”

Either way, being in a toxic relationship with these people might even cause health problems similar to those caused by fast food or other toxic environments. "In fact, unhealthy relationships may contribute to a toxic internal environment that can lead to stress, depression, anxiety, and even medical problems," author and psychologist Dr. Sherrie Bourg Carter wrote for Psychology Today.

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To back up her claim, Dr. Carter highlighted a long-term study that followed more than 10,000 subjects for an average of 12.2 years. Eventually, it was discovered that subjects in negative relationships were at a greater risk for developing heart problems, including a fatal cardiac event, than counterparts whose close relationships were not negative.

As we can see, positive relationships are vital for a healthy, well-balanced life. "Make sure your health-conscious lifestyle doesn't leave out this crucial ingredient," Dr. Carter concluded.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is the worst way of destroying someone. It's invisible to others but it tears you apart.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's true. In a healthy relationship you should be able to count on your partner whatever happens. That way those kind of feelings should not be able to come up. Yeah of course there can be a phase for whatever reason where you feel kind of that but it should never be a constant thing

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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one sounds very embarrassing. It must have gotten you lots of inappropriate and unwanted attention from strangers.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh man, this hurts.... so much love for anyone who has been here

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's why I don't want apologies, they don't do much, I want change. A lot of people apologise because they feel like that's what they should do, but then they continue the same kind of behaviour

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't blame yourself for hanging around, it's really hard to leave an abusive relationship, especially when it's emotionally and mentally abusive because then it's easy for you to think you're just overreacting or making things up. And people like these control you and manipulate you and threaten you into staying

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Been there. They can manipulate in a way that you really start doubting yourself and start thinking about if you are not maybe really the guilty

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How could people be so mean. It is very sad to see these sort of things and realize how unfair people are.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this! you should not need a translator to communicate with your partner!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone cheats on you, then it's a clear sign they don't really respect you as a person, and continuing a relationship like that can be extremely challenging, especially when the cheater is also emotionally abusive

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah...partners should have each others backs, the only thing worse than realizing that she doesn't have yours is hearing that she did a lot of the attacking.....

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ouch, and the reverse is true here: I could never cheat for many many reasons, but one of them is sort of funny....The first person I would want to tell about the event would be my best friend. Who I am married too....We talk too much almost, and no matter how mad I am she can still get me talking about random things and enjoying the conversation.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Their words should meet their actions. If not then they are both fake

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is literally no reason to block your partner no matter for how long unless you really clearly finished that relation . Then sometimes this can be the only way to protect yourself

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People change, and there is an old joke about it that has some truth to it. "Men marry women expecting them to remain the same, and they change. Women marry men expecting them to change, and they don't." This is just a joke mind you, but I found that my wife and I both fell into these exact expectations. I love my wife, always have and always will, changes and all...but a lot of people really struggle with that. I did for a while until I used, you know...LOGIC

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If other person doesn't want to talk to us or listen to us, we shall respect that also...no matter how much we want to explain. It's not about us and our feelings, it's a about us two and the other one is not interested anymore. So let go...

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