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People Who Regret Their Original Plan Of Being Nice And Working Really Hard Share When It Hit Them (30 Tweets)
A large part of excelling at work means knowing how to deal with your superiors and reminding them of your achievements. If you can successfully manage your managers, odds are that you’ll live a more peaceful life at the office, on the sales floor, at the construction site, and elsewhere. However, some managers are bent on making your life miserable, they won’t recognize your hard work, your dedication, your willingness to give them a second, third, even fourth chance to change their ways.
And some people… they’ve lost the spark of goodwill that made them go the extra mile and be nice to everyone. That’s exactly what Dr. Kate Lister, a lecturer in the School of Arts and Communication at Leeds Trinity University, spoke about in her viral thread on Twitter.
Kate asked her followers how old they were when they realized that their plan of being nice, working really hard, and taking on more than their share of tasks wouldn’t automatically be rewarded, was nonsense and wouldn’t actually work out. Scroll down to have a read what people tweeted back to Kate, as well as for Bored Panda’s interview with financial expert Sam Dogen, the founder of the Financial Samurai project, about how to deal with managers and how it’s vital to let them know about your achievements on a periodic basis.
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Dude just described my entire employed life. Self employed now and never going back. It's less secure but so much better in every other way.
Kate’s thread was a massive success on Twitter. Her questions got a whopping 351.6k likes (that’s over a third of a million!) and was retweeted over 54k times. People opened up the difficulties they faced at work and exactly when they realized that being a dedicated worker who goes out of their way to do more than everyone simply isn’t enough. Not everyone is recognized for working hard. Though I personally still believe that discipline and working hard are the core reasons for success. Is that naive of me? Realistic? That’s for you to decide, dear Pandas.
Financial expert Sam, who runs the Financial Samurai blog, told Bored Panda more about what ‘managing managers’ actually means. In essence, it’s about constant communication and reminding our superiors of what we’re doing, what we’ve achieved, what our contribution to the company is.
I hear similar sentiments that my younger brothers' work mates have shared with him: they're afraid to take time off as it will damage their rep with the boss and affect the amount of over time they will be able to work to pay for the things in their life they can ill afford and have no time to enjoy. [They're in Canada. My brother's been with the company 20 years and now has the right to a month's annual leave...]
This is the worst one to me for some reason. Your monthly pay shouldn’t be confused for a weekly pay. Half of these things wouldn’t be a problem if minimum wage was a normal, decent wage. Like at least $20. Imagine trying to live on less than that. There’s just no way. Not even if you’re single.
“Managing your manager entails keeping him or her abreast of what you are up to,” Sam explained that we should do our best to keep our superiors in the loop about our work as much as we can, without going into too much unnecessary detail.
“It means highlighting your key wins and reminding them at the end of the year about what you did in the first half of the year,” the expert pointed out that we have to periodically remind our bosses of what we’ve achieved so far. It’s something to keep in mind and you should probably take this into consideration, what with the end of the year approaching and all.
This! The last corporate job I had, my manager said she thought I could do more and take on more responsibility but for no pay increase all because I was doing a good job. I was contracted to work part time hours but kept creeping closer and closer to full time hours which resulted in me being stressed and had a full blown panic attack. The head of our department was surprised when I handed in my notice. Never ever give up more of your time for no pay.
I was interested to get Sam’s take on whether we should be worried about leaving a paper trail about what we’ve done and what we’ve spoken about with our colleagues, managers, and bosses.
“It is very important to keep everything in writing. Over time, we tend to forget our interactions,” Sam warned that we have to take the time to make copies of the most important interactions we’ve had at work. These can save our bacon if things go wrong. They can also remind our managers about any promises they made in the past.
Sandberg made that s**t up. When people actually looked at the data, it turns out that while men are rewarded for asking for raises, women are more likely to be punished - forget being given the raise she asks for, she might get fired for asking!
Financial expert Sam noted that we tend to misremember things, so we shouldn’t rely just on our memories. Having documents, screenshots helps refresh your memory and get closer to the truth.
“By keeping things in writing, we can better remember situations and better argue for ourselves when it comes to asking for a raise and a promotion,” Sam said that when we have clear evidence of our work, our achievements, our input, it’s then easier to angle for a raise. The expert added that he’s got some great tips on how to deal with micromanagers which you can find on his blog, Financial Samurai, right here.
That stings! Something similar has happened to me a number of times... I have issues with unfairness.
My wife went through that a few times, especially for county and state jobs. Apparently they prefer to hire morons for those positions.
Jeff Shannon, an executive coach, has a similar point of view that we need to get our superiors to notice our work. He told BBC Worklife that hard work is a good start early in your career, but it’s not enough if you’re aiming for the top or want to avoid stagnating in your career.
“At a certain point, you look around and realize, wow, everyone works hard at this level. Expertise and hard work just become the expectation, and will not help you up the ladder,” he told the BBC. In short, a certain amount of office politics is inevitable if you want to rise in the ranks, get a proper raise, and see your hard work pay off.
Free work for a business about to go under? That's why they sent 18YO in suicide attacks to face the machine guns in WWI. Too young to know better.
That means getting noticed: advertising what you do and promoting yourself, so you don’t fly under the radar when it’s time for a promotion. Tell your manager that you want to keep them in the loop so it doesn’t look like boasting. Or, as Carol Frohlinger, the president of Negotiating Women, Inc., told the BBC, “If you don’t take care of your career, nobody else is going to do it.”
Good. I hope you got a better one, although I am not optimistic about it. The way many women are treated in the workplace is a blight on our societies.
Exactly this! This is part of why I wasn’t really ever able to advance a career. I literally had to make my own businesses to solve this paradox.
Y'all are missing the point. This is nepotism. Not only did they place their friends in management positions, they poured salt in the wound by having a server (who could have done the job and probably deserved it) train them.
At 18,I was told I couldn’t work in a pet food store in the UK because I was going to get married and have children and that was not in their work ethic . I was too dumbstruck and naive to report them.
I was told I couldn't be given a good review because policy would have required them to give me a raise they hadn't budgeted for.
Interesting Twitter handle... There definitely is a gender bias in the working world: males and females ARE treated differently in every field/profession/occupation, whether private or public. The OP now has the perspective from both PsOV.
Networking is the way to advancement today... in the old days it was schmoozing. If you aren't part of the "inner circle", you will not be rewarded. Many organisations, businesses and political entities are based on nepotism.
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I'm going through this right now, at 51. Just found out I was passed over for the promotion I was working toward for 15+ years--volunteering for extra duties, learning things none of the other admin assistants wanted to do, etc. Director chose someone from outside the division to be the office manager, then told me I "might need to grow a thicker skin" when I told him how hurt and disappointed I was. After all my hard work, I'm in the same situation as the woman who's been sitting at her desk reading a book for 20 years. I have 10 more years until retirement, and from now on I will be loyal only to myself.
Whatever else you do, do NOT train that new office manager on ANYTHING. If they were hired over you, then they should automatically know everything they need to know.
Load More Replies...Last year, 26. My boss was made redundant after 25 years in the role, very much a 'married to her job' type. I stayed in touch and she's still pretty heartbroken, won't hear a bad word against the company though. Made me realise I don't want to spend my life working hard making money for other people only to be turfed our 2 years before I'm due to retire. Time is precious y'all.
Was in a planning position for 2yrs. Redid the way things were done and it was a definite improvement. Worked with other groups we interacted with to help get things done smoothly. Mgmt then decided I wasn't 'qualified' for the position and "Oh by the way, can you train your replacement?"
Add onto your CV that you do business process design. Do a course online. Find a management role. Send them photos of your new payslip.
Load More Replies...A very tiny example from when i was a kid: we used to take turns doing the dishes after supper and at some point i decided that i would just go ahead and do them to be nice. Didn't say anything, didn't want to get praise or anything, just wanted to be nice, so i started doing the dishes every night. Months go by. One night i decide i'm feeling kinda run-down, don't feel like dishes that night, so start walking out of the kitchen. All of a sudden everyone is saying "hey, where are you going? Dishes are your job and you haven't done them!" Was stunned to find out that i had somehow given myself this job and that i was now stuck with it.
I was 28. I worked at a training unit for the government. We were responsible for training people in agriculture, backyard gardening and fish production (my field). We were not well funded so a lot of the time a group of us spent our own money keeping our projects afloat. We worked dawn to dusk, we trained persons in "high risk" areas where no one else wanted to go, we trained schools, the handicapped, everyone. We were terminated after two years and told we were "obsolete" since there was another training unit. (This unit did not do half of what we did). I spent two years at home, unemployed and broke before I got another job. I gave so much for that job that now, it affected my health so badly, I can't even care to put in the effort again. Everyone is expendable.
I was 47 when I realized it didn't matter how hard you work and how much time you dedicated to your job. I work as an ER nurse for over 12 years. I was constantly placed in the worse area of the ER. I always went beyond the call of duty. Of course the younger, newer, lazy, a lot less experienced nurses got their choice of assignments. Those nurses refused to work the s&@t section where I was permanently assigned. They were lazy, dangerous, unprofessional and I knew I would never be able to compete with them. My supervisors would always side with them. I gave up. I left feeling jaded and realized I was expendable. Hard work doesn't pay off. I now work as a traveler. It's pretty much a repeat of my last job, but it pays better.
At 33yo, I had been working as an acting supervisor on the night shift. I was the only supervisor on all 3 shifts to have 2 areas to supervise, and for 3 years, I consistently had the highest pieces per man hour. When I applied to make the position permanent, I aced all 3 parts of the exam. They gave the job to a man whose numbers were consistently low, who nearly failed the exam, but who was related to 2 supervisors and a manager. I stepped down and sat my a**e on a forklift all night...for the same pay.
Mine came around age 30 when I asked the director of the call center what it would take to advance. He told me I needed to get a degree, when no other supervisor had one. When I told him I had a degree, he said go for your masters.
A twist, I have a young friend who is now working in an entry role for her chosen career at nationally recognised employer, because while doing voluntary work near the head office, she got to know the security personnel. Just by being nice to the literal gatekeepers, they put in a word for her when her voluntary role came to an end. Being nice can work.
I was 38. I got passed over for a promotion because "I was too valuable in my current position" and then was asked to train the person they promoted over me. That was it for me. No more staying late, no more answering questions on my day off, no more covering the holidays for others. It took me a year to find an awesome company that valued me and I am never asked to do all of the extras.
Well, if they hired someone who was supposed to be better than you, that person can figure out how to do the job YOU were qualified for. You shouldn't have to explain it. I agree with you, no more goodies, they were not worth your time.
Load More Replies...Once at 18, got passed up for a promotion to manager at McDonald's that I had worked at 3 years. The Game niece got the job. Then in my late 20s at Sallie Mae. I working my butt off, met goals not only for my team, but other teams as well. Applied for a promotion, other people in the same position I applied for was certain I'd get it, went to a guy who was "one of the boys". Cliques even in the workplace, just like high school. Karma did step in when he was fired a couple months later for soliciting a female employee through work email
I was very experienced in caring for patients who were extremely sick. Used to work in ICU. Consequently I was always the one assigned to extremely sick patients. All the time. It became very stressful when I never got a rest from that. ICU is one thing. You have 1 or2 patients. On the regular floor you have 5. The less experienced nurses were never given these patients. How did they think I learned all I knew? I was assigned very sick patients with a shadow experienced nurse. I was 59. My last day I ended up with someone so sick they had to take my other patients away. I NEVER left that room except to get supplies. Eventually not at all. No food water or bathroom break. 9 hours. The doc was there all the time. ICU said they didn't have a bed. Finally their doc came over and I got in his face. My patient was sent to ICU in exchange for someone who was going home the next day. Was there because there were no beds on the medicine floor. They had a bed all along. Tore a strip off the doc. Got back to my unit, called Occupational Health and said "Im done!" Never worked another day.
I was in college when I truly discovered that it's not about how hard you work or how talented you are...It's about who you know and how much money/connections your family has.
52 years old after 24 years in the company. Passed over time and time again by young males who were budding up to senior male management with after work drinks and even boys weekend away skiing and yachting trips. No female included or invited to those weekends. Busted my arsecworkingvridiculous hours and constantly berated by males who were breaking everybrule under the sun, especially lazy with OH&S issues and legislation around transport of secure loads etc in transport industry. Had 2 years of bad luck, first uterus cancer, then serious parental health issues, the a gall bladder infection for myself which went sceptic. Struggled with overwork the week before Christmas, which was gonna be a lonely one with sick parents for me and made 2 mistakes, both of which the customer did not blame me for due to my excellent record servicing them and saving them from their own mistakes many a time. Got advised I would be written up after the holiday period on Jan 5, at 2pm Christmas eve.
I told my boss he was a sociopath and a p.r.i.c.k., spelled it out. He is not even 30 years old and yells that same word out regularly to the other males in the company, along with a huge range of other expletives. I was suspended with pay, went on stress leave and finally fired 11 months later. Oh, and I hadn't had a singlevpay increase in 5 years by this point despite working 10 hour days without overtime, on salary and getting very good reviews every year on my assessments just to appease me.
Load More Replies...One thing I have learned during my working career is that companies have no loyalty to their employees. If they want to, you are gone. Your position doesn't exist anymore, or you comited an infraction that gets you fired. The only loyalty I have is to my wife and dog. Work is a paycheck. I do my job best I can and they pay me for my time, experience and skills.
36, I started a job at a supermarket in home shopping. I worked bloody hard and was exceeding the rate at which we were supposed to pick items. I was going back to work after my breaks slightly early so I wouldn't be late and to help my colleagues. I noticed that the slackers who were not even reaching the expected pick rate were taking longer than their allotted break and weren't pulled up for it and weren't pulled up for their pick rate. So I dialled it back, took longer on my breaks too, and just kept my pick rate slightly above the average. I got the same bonuses as everyone before I started to do this (until they stopped the bonuses, took away our staff canteen, took away our rewards programme etc).
I injured myself on the job back in the 1980’s. Career ending. While I was fighting hard to get back in the game, a good number of my coworkers were faking injuries to get out of doing work. I had to quit, some of the coworkers were fired fir fleecing the system. Yet they called me a faker. Got to love humans, yeah…NO
How sad it is that employers have to be total d##ks. Does management training turn people into ogres? The rank-and-file workers are the ones who make the company strong.
Management positions attract people who lean authoritarian, lack empathy, and are greedy...Even sociopathic. It's similar to how bullies are also attracted to law enforcement.
Load More Replies...24. It was right in the beginning of the pandemic and I woke up one day and couldn’t move without my entire back spasming. Most pain I’ve ever been in (turns out I have an autoimmune disorder, great). And what did they say to me, the loyal employee who had never called in or even been late before? “You need to get this figured out because we don’t need unreliable employees”. I always prided myself on being “the reliable one” so hearing that just broke me. Decided to show them what an “unreliable employee” actually was and sent a text around 10pm, an hour before my shift, saying that I quit
When I graduated with a masters degree from an Ivy League school and couldn't find a job. I realized that a fancy and expensive degree didn't make me special except for easily impressed people at cocktail parties. I cried for months when I realized that I was now deeply in debt and that the "system" had lied to me. 10 yrs later my loans were forgiven (I worked in public service to make that happen) and I'm finally free, but I would do it very differently if I could do it again.
42 when my boss wouldn't even acknowledge my one accommodation. I put up with it time and time again because I needed the job. One day I got mad and walked out. Don't make the person willing to put up with endless s**t mad. I was followed by four people over the next month and she was fired less than a year later.
What I find hard to understand is WHY Amreicans think they are living in 'the land of the free' and are afraid of "evil' socialism
I don't know anyone under the age of, probably 50, who believes that.
Load More Replies...Not me but a colleague who was a health care support worker, her husband had his own very successful business and they were very wealthy had a massive house etc. She worked 2 days a week at the hospital at the lowest grade because she loved it and she wanted to express her caring instinct it was a real vocation for her, this drove the (male) ward manager ( a registered nurse) nuts, he could not stand it that she was better off than him and that she had a real caring vocation rather than the need to make a living, she absolutely did not give a rats ass what he thought of her, even though he gave her horrible tasks to do all the time, this made me think a lot about people's motivations and made me much less trusting of management and their agendas. I was a student nurse at the time.
I'm going through this right now, at 51. Just found out I was passed over for the promotion I was working toward for 15+ years--volunteering for extra duties, learning things none of the other admin assistants wanted to do, etc. Director chose someone from outside the division to be the office manager, then told me I "might need to grow a thicker skin" when I told him how hurt and disappointed I was. After all my hard work, I'm in the same situation as the woman who's been sitting at her desk reading a book for 20 years. I have 10 more years until retirement, and from now on I will be loyal only to myself.
Whatever else you do, do NOT train that new office manager on ANYTHING. If they were hired over you, then they should automatically know everything they need to know.
Load More Replies...Last year, 26. My boss was made redundant after 25 years in the role, very much a 'married to her job' type. I stayed in touch and she's still pretty heartbroken, won't hear a bad word against the company though. Made me realise I don't want to spend my life working hard making money for other people only to be turfed our 2 years before I'm due to retire. Time is precious y'all.
Was in a planning position for 2yrs. Redid the way things were done and it was a definite improvement. Worked with other groups we interacted with to help get things done smoothly. Mgmt then decided I wasn't 'qualified' for the position and "Oh by the way, can you train your replacement?"
Add onto your CV that you do business process design. Do a course online. Find a management role. Send them photos of your new payslip.
Load More Replies...A very tiny example from when i was a kid: we used to take turns doing the dishes after supper and at some point i decided that i would just go ahead and do them to be nice. Didn't say anything, didn't want to get praise or anything, just wanted to be nice, so i started doing the dishes every night. Months go by. One night i decide i'm feeling kinda run-down, don't feel like dishes that night, so start walking out of the kitchen. All of a sudden everyone is saying "hey, where are you going? Dishes are your job and you haven't done them!" Was stunned to find out that i had somehow given myself this job and that i was now stuck with it.
I was 28. I worked at a training unit for the government. We were responsible for training people in agriculture, backyard gardening and fish production (my field). We were not well funded so a lot of the time a group of us spent our own money keeping our projects afloat. We worked dawn to dusk, we trained persons in "high risk" areas where no one else wanted to go, we trained schools, the handicapped, everyone. We were terminated after two years and told we were "obsolete" since there was another training unit. (This unit did not do half of what we did). I spent two years at home, unemployed and broke before I got another job. I gave so much for that job that now, it affected my health so badly, I can't even care to put in the effort again. Everyone is expendable.
I was 47 when I realized it didn't matter how hard you work and how much time you dedicated to your job. I work as an ER nurse for over 12 years. I was constantly placed in the worse area of the ER. I always went beyond the call of duty. Of course the younger, newer, lazy, a lot less experienced nurses got their choice of assignments. Those nurses refused to work the s&@t section where I was permanently assigned. They were lazy, dangerous, unprofessional and I knew I would never be able to compete with them. My supervisors would always side with them. I gave up. I left feeling jaded and realized I was expendable. Hard work doesn't pay off. I now work as a traveler. It's pretty much a repeat of my last job, but it pays better.
At 33yo, I had been working as an acting supervisor on the night shift. I was the only supervisor on all 3 shifts to have 2 areas to supervise, and for 3 years, I consistently had the highest pieces per man hour. When I applied to make the position permanent, I aced all 3 parts of the exam. They gave the job to a man whose numbers were consistently low, who nearly failed the exam, but who was related to 2 supervisors and a manager. I stepped down and sat my a**e on a forklift all night...for the same pay.
Mine came around age 30 when I asked the director of the call center what it would take to advance. He told me I needed to get a degree, when no other supervisor had one. When I told him I had a degree, he said go for your masters.
A twist, I have a young friend who is now working in an entry role for her chosen career at nationally recognised employer, because while doing voluntary work near the head office, she got to know the security personnel. Just by being nice to the literal gatekeepers, they put in a word for her when her voluntary role came to an end. Being nice can work.
I was 38. I got passed over for a promotion because "I was too valuable in my current position" and then was asked to train the person they promoted over me. That was it for me. No more staying late, no more answering questions on my day off, no more covering the holidays for others. It took me a year to find an awesome company that valued me and I am never asked to do all of the extras.
Well, if they hired someone who was supposed to be better than you, that person can figure out how to do the job YOU were qualified for. You shouldn't have to explain it. I agree with you, no more goodies, they were not worth your time.
Load More Replies...Once at 18, got passed up for a promotion to manager at McDonald's that I had worked at 3 years. The Game niece got the job. Then in my late 20s at Sallie Mae. I working my butt off, met goals not only for my team, but other teams as well. Applied for a promotion, other people in the same position I applied for was certain I'd get it, went to a guy who was "one of the boys". Cliques even in the workplace, just like high school. Karma did step in when he was fired a couple months later for soliciting a female employee through work email
I was very experienced in caring for patients who were extremely sick. Used to work in ICU. Consequently I was always the one assigned to extremely sick patients. All the time. It became very stressful when I never got a rest from that. ICU is one thing. You have 1 or2 patients. On the regular floor you have 5. The less experienced nurses were never given these patients. How did they think I learned all I knew? I was assigned very sick patients with a shadow experienced nurse. I was 59. My last day I ended up with someone so sick they had to take my other patients away. I NEVER left that room except to get supplies. Eventually not at all. No food water or bathroom break. 9 hours. The doc was there all the time. ICU said they didn't have a bed. Finally their doc came over and I got in his face. My patient was sent to ICU in exchange for someone who was going home the next day. Was there because there were no beds on the medicine floor. They had a bed all along. Tore a strip off the doc. Got back to my unit, called Occupational Health and said "Im done!" Never worked another day.
I was in college when I truly discovered that it's not about how hard you work or how talented you are...It's about who you know and how much money/connections your family has.
52 years old after 24 years in the company. Passed over time and time again by young males who were budding up to senior male management with after work drinks and even boys weekend away skiing and yachting trips. No female included or invited to those weekends. Busted my arsecworkingvridiculous hours and constantly berated by males who were breaking everybrule under the sun, especially lazy with OH&S issues and legislation around transport of secure loads etc in transport industry. Had 2 years of bad luck, first uterus cancer, then serious parental health issues, the a gall bladder infection for myself which went sceptic. Struggled with overwork the week before Christmas, which was gonna be a lonely one with sick parents for me and made 2 mistakes, both of which the customer did not blame me for due to my excellent record servicing them and saving them from their own mistakes many a time. Got advised I would be written up after the holiday period on Jan 5, at 2pm Christmas eve.
I told my boss he was a sociopath and a p.r.i.c.k., spelled it out. He is not even 30 years old and yells that same word out regularly to the other males in the company, along with a huge range of other expletives. I was suspended with pay, went on stress leave and finally fired 11 months later. Oh, and I hadn't had a singlevpay increase in 5 years by this point despite working 10 hour days without overtime, on salary and getting very good reviews every year on my assessments just to appease me.
Load More Replies...One thing I have learned during my working career is that companies have no loyalty to their employees. If they want to, you are gone. Your position doesn't exist anymore, or you comited an infraction that gets you fired. The only loyalty I have is to my wife and dog. Work is a paycheck. I do my job best I can and they pay me for my time, experience and skills.
36, I started a job at a supermarket in home shopping. I worked bloody hard and was exceeding the rate at which we were supposed to pick items. I was going back to work after my breaks slightly early so I wouldn't be late and to help my colleagues. I noticed that the slackers who were not even reaching the expected pick rate were taking longer than their allotted break and weren't pulled up for it and weren't pulled up for their pick rate. So I dialled it back, took longer on my breaks too, and just kept my pick rate slightly above the average. I got the same bonuses as everyone before I started to do this (until they stopped the bonuses, took away our staff canteen, took away our rewards programme etc).
I injured myself on the job back in the 1980’s. Career ending. While I was fighting hard to get back in the game, a good number of my coworkers were faking injuries to get out of doing work. I had to quit, some of the coworkers were fired fir fleecing the system. Yet they called me a faker. Got to love humans, yeah…NO
How sad it is that employers have to be total d##ks. Does management training turn people into ogres? The rank-and-file workers are the ones who make the company strong.
Management positions attract people who lean authoritarian, lack empathy, and are greedy...Even sociopathic. It's similar to how bullies are also attracted to law enforcement.
Load More Replies...24. It was right in the beginning of the pandemic and I woke up one day and couldn’t move without my entire back spasming. Most pain I’ve ever been in (turns out I have an autoimmune disorder, great). And what did they say to me, the loyal employee who had never called in or even been late before? “You need to get this figured out because we don’t need unreliable employees”. I always prided myself on being “the reliable one” so hearing that just broke me. Decided to show them what an “unreliable employee” actually was and sent a text around 10pm, an hour before my shift, saying that I quit
When I graduated with a masters degree from an Ivy League school and couldn't find a job. I realized that a fancy and expensive degree didn't make me special except for easily impressed people at cocktail parties. I cried for months when I realized that I was now deeply in debt and that the "system" had lied to me. 10 yrs later my loans were forgiven (I worked in public service to make that happen) and I'm finally free, but I would do it very differently if I could do it again.
42 when my boss wouldn't even acknowledge my one accommodation. I put up with it time and time again because I needed the job. One day I got mad and walked out. Don't make the person willing to put up with endless s**t mad. I was followed by four people over the next month and she was fired less than a year later.
What I find hard to understand is WHY Amreicans think they are living in 'the land of the free' and are afraid of "evil' socialism
I don't know anyone under the age of, probably 50, who believes that.
Load More Replies...Not me but a colleague who was a health care support worker, her husband had his own very successful business and they were very wealthy had a massive house etc. She worked 2 days a week at the hospital at the lowest grade because she loved it and she wanted to express her caring instinct it was a real vocation for her, this drove the (male) ward manager ( a registered nurse) nuts, he could not stand it that she was better off than him and that she had a real caring vocation rather than the need to make a living, she absolutely did not give a rats ass what he thought of her, even though he gave her horrible tasks to do all the time, this made me think a lot about people's motivations and made me much less trusting of management and their agendas. I was a student nurse at the time.