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Life is too complex for smooth sailing. We all struggle with something. But turning a blind eye to our problems won't solve them.

Of course, that's easier said than done. So in an attempt to find out what issues people are running away from the most, Redditor u/Letmediebro made a post on the platform, asking other users: "What is a hard pill to swallow for most people?" And many replied!

From romantic relationships and parenting to mental health and self-image, the answers touched upon plenty of different topics. Here are the ones that got the most upvotes.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More people should learn this. Just because you have the freedom (of speech) doesn't mean you won't receive backlash and will have to deal with the consequences. Treasure your freedom of speech because it's precious, look what's happening in Hong Kong !

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Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Mary Lamia, Ph.D., thinks that the notion that one is “in denial” seems to have taken on a life of its own as an agent of many ills and as a catchphrase for people who dismiss the implications of their behavior.

"Although denial is considered to be a defense often used by people with addictive tendencies, its attributions reach beyond those struggling with substances," Lamia pointed out. "Denial is also attributed to people who do not want to acknowledge that bad stuff is occurring in their lives, such as those who are attempting to cope with a tumultuous relationship, a life-threatening illness, obesity, a loss, or anything else that one may attempt to disavow."

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Kimi Tomminello
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're no less woman or human for choosing the right lifestyle for you 💖 anyone that tells you otherwise deserves a nut/ box kick 😉

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think some people get stuck in that bubble after having kids. Yeah it's great, I know the feeling, but the fact is nobody else really gives a crap.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have never felt "special" for having kids... and I have never noticed anyone else having a sense of superiority because of it. I wonder in which circles this sort of thing happen? Some workplaces..?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who can't have kids, it makes you a little bit special to me but doesn't give you the right to be rude and demanding or ungrateful. I know having and raising kids it a hard job, so if I see someone struggling I'll try and help in any way I can

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! Like big woop, you had a kid. Just like everyone else.

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Teresa Lewis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when the gate agents invite parents with children to the front of the line, it doesn't include you and your teenagers.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup, I wonder why they feel that way. Raising a kid well is special

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Kimi Tomminello
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raising a kid well is what you were supposed to have signed on for when you decided to have a child.... It's a shame we seem to have a lot of people that never got the memo.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No does not having kids. Oh pooh, gonna be lots of folks who don't want to hear that too.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So quit telling me that I will never understand because I am childless. I have many " nieces and nephews" that love me.

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Sidra Badar
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually it does Pregnancy makes u special, having toddlers gives u priority, ITS IN THE LAW,

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But it DOES! Just not any more special than anyone else, including those without children.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it gives you no right to be entitled or make fun of others for not having kids.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every single person on the planet exists because their parents "simply had a kid". 7.8 billion people to be exact... that isn't even vaguely "special". Being a GOOD parent? THAT makes you special.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nor it gives you the right of way or the right to judge who doesn't want kids and family. I'll never have kids or relationships and i don't care about what others say ot think

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This will definitely trigger some parents. They seem to believe that the result of their copulating should be celebrated with its own national holiday

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your inability to read birth control instructions doesn’t make you special

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering most people end up with kids, it actually really doesn’t make you special!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And very much real that cannot just magically be cured by being "strong" or a placebo.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as a person with heavy mental health problems I agree. but like to add, saying you are sorry is often not enough, and people doesn't have to forgive you...sometimes you have to live with the consequences all the same

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Sure, we can deny a fact, deny responsibility, deny the impact of our actions, or even deny what is really going on by hiding from our feelings. But according to Lamia, when we use denial to defend ourselves or cope with what we feel, we contradict the reality of a situation or attempt to adjust to a circumstance by neglecting its impact. However, the extent of someone’s denial may not really be the issue at hand.

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"What’s important is not that people recognize their denial, but that they are able to accept what they are feeling that leads to the denial in the first place," Lamia explained. "If someone excessively and habitually uses alcohol to medicate their anxiety, for example, we might emphasize their attempts to dismiss the harm that their use of alcohol will cause, rather than focus on the emotions they feel that motivate their denial. If that person stops drinking, one would hope the emotions that were formerly hidden by denial, which often have to do with shame, would be exposed and accepted by the individual."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please read this then read it again and then read it AGAIN if it still doesn't sink in.

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We not only use denial to hide from any negative emotion, including shame, fear, guilt, or distress but to mute positive emotions as well. "Sometimes feeling positively may be just as threatening as negative feelings. We may want to deny the reality of our emotions, because accepting a reality that is uncomfortable, painful, or incongruous to what we expect means we must also alter our perception of ourselves. Thus, if you are in denial, perhaps you are simply trying to ignore the truth about what you actually feel, rather than about what you are doing or thinking."

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But if you want to move forward, you have to swallow the truth.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Say it louder! And bisexual women do NOT want to have a threesome with their girlfriend and you!!! 🤬🤬🤬

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! This should be higher. Religions are an organized set of rules supposedly written by a otherworldly, incorporeal divinity. Stop and think about that for a second. Completely bonkers. It's a club, you go, you follow the rules, you pay the monthly fee, you mingle. If you break the rules you're either shunned away or you can pay an extra and all your sins are forgiven. Really. Bonkers.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Karma is a sh!tty concept. It leads to thinking if something bad happens to person, they somehow deserved it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's no cute either! People need to b careful of their pets nutrition and excersice.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah! But doing your best and not succeeding is a lot better than not trying your best and regretting later on.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so important. Family members are often bullies you're conditioned to love and respect. If someone makes you feel bad they aren't doing so out of love, so why keep them around? Blood may be thicker than water and so much harder to clean up, but it isn't impossible and, I say it from experience, once you get some distance, they'll go on full surprised Pikachu mode and be twice as vicious about you. Maybe just my relatives.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone is not into you as much as yourself, it is okay. Just learn to let go for the sake of your own happiness.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have kids, but it seems to me that a lot of parents act the same as a teenager in love - finding every flaw endearing and thinking that their kid is the most amazing person in the world. I blame hormones.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs to be higher! So many people think that they can control others or that others can control them. How many times have we said things like "that person made me feel..."? No one can make someone else feel or think anything. We need to learn to take responsibility for our own reactions and responses to others, and to realize that although we may influence others, we can't control them either.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whoever says that "things happen for a reason" hasn't a clue about life or doesn't want to know about life. Saying this to a grieving person is pure evil.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m afraid this is the Wrong website for that particular hard pill

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly. Since my fiance of 14 years died in November 18, I feel like I'm standing still and the world is spinning too fast. Only our close friends and family cares, but it seems to you like the world should stand still for your immense, unbearable pain. And it is unbearable

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless the situation just maimed you, in which case you working harder won't fix it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminded me of a saying..."if nothing works, do nothing."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And moving on doesn't always mean "forgetting about". Sometimes it just means accepting that it happened and refusing to let it guide your choices.

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