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We all live in a world governed by rules, common sense and socially acceptable norms. The latter ones refer to things that are generally viewed by the members of our society as being appropriate to engage in.

Although societal norms often vary from culture to culture, that doesn’t mean some of the generally accepted things are not to be questioned. With times changing, some of them feel outdated or raise more questions than they have answers.

This illuminating thread asked people to weigh in and list the things that are “socially acceptable but you can’t help but think ‘why?’” Below are some of the most illuminating responses, so scroll down!

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Beauty pageants for children.

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Karl Baxter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt that anyone outside of the US thinks this is anything but creepy

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“Being within a community, we are relatively conformist,” Dr Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and author of multiple books, including "Be A Great Manager Now," "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," and "The Leader's Guide to Resilience” told Bored Panda in an interview.

According to Dr Tang, this is nothing new and much of this collective approach can be traced back to the dawn of civilization. She calls it “a hangover from our past as a collective.” Dr Tang explained: “It was safer for the community to sleep at the same time because it meant that no one was sneaking into your cave to steal your stuff.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Rich megachurch pastors.

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Daniel Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." - Matthew 6:19-21

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Abuse towards men, it’s still laughed at when a man says it happened to him.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Texting while driving doesn’t get enough hate.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they can't walk and text without tripping or hitting a pole, yet think they can drive and text

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Moreover, we have a fundamental drive to be part of a group. “We have always been safer together, and inclusion – even if you are near the bottom of the pack – still means you are part of something bigger.”

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Dr Tang argues that "social norms" are the cultures, behaviors and expectations which make up society. “They can differ from community to community, but in many ways, adherence allows us to know where we fit within our group.”

She continued: “When we live in a society with others (and this is evident in the animal kingdom), we tend to understand our ‘place’ in the pack through acknowledging ourselves in comparison to others – with the goal being access to resources. In humans, we are fighting less over a perceived scarcity of food and water, but (especially in the social media world) a need for acknowledgment and validation.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Pockets in female clothing… I am a male. My daughters cannot understand why there is fake pockets in all womenswear.

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Na Schi
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS! This everytime annoyes the fûck out of me! This can literally ruin any shopping experience. So thank god for internet shopping and filter functions. I completely stopped to buy brands/designs that doesn't allow women to have pockets or only provide pixie-pockets that are smaller than the one in a toddler's sweat pants.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Gender reveals.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, this is annoying. It's interesting only for you and eventually the grandparents but the joy would be the same also by telling them over the phone, over dinner etc. Seriously, nobody cares.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Posting EVERY minute of your life on social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wachting all that mundane c**p from a random stranger is even weirder

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Dr Tang also claims that building self-esteem has focused on appreciating the self but often in comparison to others “(e.g. I didn’t win… but at least I didn’t come last).” She added that “While in many ways this was more important historically where there was more of a 'fight' for resources, the 'competition' has now moved to social media and 'likes' - and as such this may now also play a huge part in what is acceptable.”

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#8

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working while sick.

This expectation needs to stop. Being expected to work while sick doesn't make a good employee, it makes a bad employer. That's saying nothing of how this expectation leads to the rest of the employees getting sick too. There was a reason everyone at my previous job called the place the petri dish, if one person got sick literally everyone else would too because you either worked or went to the unemployment line.

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Mayra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to work in a casino kitchen, we were never allowed to go home if we were sick … you have no idea what goes on in kitchens until you’ve worked in one

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tara
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How could a boss let sick people cook food for others? And yet we MUST take the food handlers course when working with food, but the course handbook says "Don't come to work if you are sick."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why you were downvoted so here's an upvote. You shouldn't be at work when you're sick but if you don't get sick pay that's a fault of a broken system and greedy employers - not yours.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People work sick because they do not have sick pay. It is now common place for employers to make employees use vacation days instead of allowing employees sick days. Change that, then working while sick will change.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes used to be 2 weeks sicktime, two weeks vacation. The it was " here is PTO, use it for vacation or sick" but it only 3 weeks. Then 2 weeks. Now I get 40 hours PTO. Was told it carries over if you dont use it, so i went without holiday so i could have longer one next year, only to find you cant use more than 40 hours in given year.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Working sick is just idiotic. What's even MORE idiotic? When you work for a DISABILITY MANAGEMENT COMPANY (you know... the company that is supposed to *specialize* in ensuring that you do *not* work when you're sick because of the inherent flaw in that whole concept) and they strooongly IMPLY that you are 'subpar' if you don't work while sick. Then when your work has mistakes because you know... you were DELIRIOUS... oh well, then all the more reason to put that on your review! wtf?

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Tams21
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This gets me too, it's just so counterproductive. Sick employees don't work effectively and then take longer to get better. Then as OP said, others get and the cycle repeats. Feeling pressured to work while sick also impacts morale, also affecting staff efficiency. In the short term you might have an extra pair of hands for a shift but in the long term it's such a terrible way to run a business.

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I'm Kid A
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This lead to a permanent disability (that, of course, couldn't be "proved" in court for disability compensation) for me. I'm disabled for the REST OF MY LIFE because I worked in some minimum wage job (*cough* Great Wolf Lodge *cough*) where my coworkers were literally throwing up behind the counter, but couldn't go home until they found someone to cover their shift. Disabled for the rest of my life with no compensation whatsoever - I was even written up for not calling in sick "correctly" - because my managers were the worst people I've ever had the... "privilege" of meeting.

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tara
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my gosh this is so right. Even with the pandemic....when you work where there isn't enough staff....you feel obligated to show up, whether it's a good idea for you and your co-workers and the others you come in to contact with, or not.

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Miss Frankfurter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oddly, hospitals are among the worst culprits for this. I have a severe migraine. I can’t stand the light, I am going through the agony of vomiting and I want to smash my head into the wall, repeatedly. Maybe that will help . No. I can’t just take a couple of Tylenol and come to work. I’m sick, just like all our patients.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Policy: Don't come to work if you're sick. Also policy: Written up if you call in 3 times within 6 months. Which policy do you think employees are more worried about? Great plan for a hospital filled with vulnerable people, don't ya think? 🙄

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My nephew's wife is an intensive care nurse and worked 16 hours per day, 7 days per week, while she herself had COVID. Unless you're wealthy, in the US the healthcare system sucks for everyone, patient and healthcare worker alike.

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Catte West
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Working at Walmart, if you called in sick, everyone was angry. "They can't be that sick!", was the comment from management. If you came in sick, everyone was angry because you came in sick and "spread your germs".

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Amber Gray
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well we're barely paid a livable wage in America and if we call out sick it's possible that we lose our home our car in several other things we don't call in sick cuz we can't afford to because the American employment system sucks and needs a massive improvement.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The expectation to, and the act of, work(ing) while sick is so prevalent it has a name: Presenteeism.

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Kise Miarse
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd like to add - working while sick . . . in a g%×#/_&%n healthcare setting

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate people on the contrary who think working while sick will help show “their dedication to work”

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JCarl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I'm 43 and for some reason I've always felt it was better to be sent home sick from work then call in, only because anytime you call in your supervisor always seems to try and guilt you. Giving excuses how you need to give 24 hours notice. Well I wasn't throwing up or running a fever of 102 yesterday while I was at work or you would have noticed. It's terrible to make employees feel this way.

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Vishy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety disorder and bipolar. I had a severe attack of anxiety once and my psychiatrist prescribed rest for a week. Gave a note even to my office. But they rejected it and asked me to report to work immediately.

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John Bujold
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The old "suck it up and work through it" was really stupid. We were brainwashed into thinking working hard regardless of our health was the right thing to do. To those just getting started in your career don't do it!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live in the US in the state of Virginia. Virginia is known as a "right to work" state, which ironically means an employer can fire an employee without cause. For instance, for missing work due to illness.

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April Miller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, maybe disinfect the phones, counters/desks, and door handles. And people gotta wash their hands. Like don’t obsess over it, but be clean. It goes a long way.

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Clay Tom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm lucky my boss tells me his is selfish and does not want my sickness and sends us home.

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ZenChickChristine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I worked in an office setting there would always be some bug or another that I would inevitably catch. Remote work has been a major boon to my health - plus the coffee’s better and there are cats here.

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Adam L
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have worked as a manager for a few different types of places, between convenience stores and restaurants. I gave employees time off when they were sick, but was never allowed the same courtesy because I was salary. I was always told I needed to work my required 50 hours a week, meaning any plans I made for the rest of the week after my sick day needed to be canceled. Oh, and heaven forbid I was ever sick on the last day of the work week, I would receive an email about making sure I work my full required work week even if I'm off by one hour. It didn't even matter if the previous work week I had worked more than 50 hours.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I s**t on people who come to work sick and threaten to sue them for my doctors' bills.

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Ange Marsden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We went to a work party at a restaurant where a sick employee was forced to come into work. Out of 90 of us, over 70 were violently I'll the next day and they had to close down several stores where everyone worked from a lack of staff. One of the women was pregnant and nearly lost her baby. The restaurant was shut down for a month by the health department...you could have given her a week off sick and saved a small fortune guys...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Funny thing. I live in Japan, where, for a LONG time, the whole philosophy was to "ganbare!" your way through life. I do a very particular job, I have no partner at work who can take over if I'm out, and I have so MUCH work (about 20% more than any other person working my job at my worksite) that I just assumed if I were absent that the whole dang place would fall apart. A few weeks ago, I had COVID and had to be quarantined for 10 days. Kinda shocked, but also kind of happy and elated that the company didn't skip a beat, but just kept right on rolling along! Going to be absent more in the future!

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Alex S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live that COVID had changed this. If you come into work with so much as a sniffle people will literally tell you to f**k off home. But I'm Australian with federally mandated sick leave and the ability to WFH so we're lucky enough to be able to do that.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked in a place that had good sick leave. You could bank it year to year. normally had about 300 hours banked and that's after I called out sick. I NEVER went to work if I was sick or even just felt bad. Never could understand the folks that did, who would end up passing their cold around the entire office. Once we had all gotten sick and thought it would be over the first person would get it again and start it over. I feel for the folks that work in sh*tty places where you don't have sick leave or are made to feel your jobs in jeopardy if you do

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Shelley Dawson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to think that people who came into work when they had colds were very irresponsible. It invariably spread. But employers don't support staff when they do this. They'd rather everyone else suffered than lose a day or two's labour.

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Valdemar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had to work while sick with covid because the only other technician was also out with covid and my boss knew that I was sick with it.

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Oskar vanZandt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My bachelor brother caught COVID last week- most likely at work, since he doesn't do much socialising. Most likely because some infected individual thought it was more important to go to work than keep their infection to themselves (although in Canada there are many companies who do not provide sick leave and people have to use their "holidays" if they need time off when they're sick).

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Deb M.F.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i do it a lot...but I work from home. We only get so many hrs sick time..its about 40 hrs a year

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Julia McElroy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately, many people can not afford the luxury of only working while healthy. And that's just normal people. People with chronic illnesses and disorders live a much different life.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went to work...at a pizza place...with a 103.8 fever. It was only around 100 at the start of the shift. I told them I was sick with a fever... Nope. They wanted me in. Said I could just wear the promo suit... I did. And after 45 mins I walked in and said I have to go home. I took off the costume and a customer offered me a ride home. I told them I called my mom to get me. In truth I rode my bike home and collapsed in the driveway... My stepdad almost ran me over coming home kus of how the driveway sloped. I was 17...

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Kimberly Gross
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yessss I had a boss like that and it was called Three Brother's Liquor store. He would act like his whole store would fall apart if you called out and be quick to tell you that you are replaceable. Thank God I found another job and my boss is VERY understanding!

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Kamie Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad part is, most people take advantage of these systems and thus leaves the rest of us to suffer.

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Greg Wilhelm
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my line of work working sick helps sweat out the illness. Or at least that's what I tell myself. Been at same company 10 years and never missed a day.

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GlamourGhoul
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got fired for not coming in with walking pneumonia and a 105 fever (at a restaurant). I was expected to either come in, or find someone to cover my shift. It was Halloween, and no one wanted to come in, so the boss had to come work and I got fired over the phone.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when you’re on your period! I have to miss school sometimes because my cramps are bad and IMO it should be excused (also not sure if someone commented this yet cause I didn’t read through them but if someone did don’t hate me)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a cold right now. Now, its a pretty mild cold and i have several quizzes today, so im at school. If i have a fever, am in pain, or otherwise cannot focus i go home, but education is super important in my family so here i am at school. I do think going to work/school when obviously sick or in pain is bad, and people should not be forced to. As long as you can focus and are wearing a mask, i think its okay just dont endanger anyone else. I’ve been keeping my distance

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litutje
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live in the Netherlands. 9 times out of 10 If your employer find out you'r sick at work. He/ she will tell you to go home. And not to return until you are better again. And you get 70% payed everyday you are sick at home. it's the law

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Lou Cam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked through covid twice. I was ill enough to need oral steroids to ebe able to breathe enough to live and had difficulty walking for several months but sure, I logged on and put in those hours.

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Caliban Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still don’t understand how this is legal, especially considering the past few years.

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LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lots of valid comments about lack of sick leave, but my job has a generous sick leave policy. We also have had the option to work from home if you are coughing or sneezing but feel OK to work. People STILL come in and some have been sent home.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Last job I worked I was limited to 12 "sick days" a year. That message sends- you can be sick 12 days only, after that you better come in!! I can't help what my body is immune to and not immune to. I can't help that I have vertigo and it takes a week to recover from. A number of sick days at work to me is ridiculous.

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Daryl McIntire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never had an experience where I was told to come into work after telling them I was too sick to work. But I've gone into work not feeling well. I didn't do so because of my job, but because of my own work ethic. A concept that is totally lost in modern times where unemployment and job availability is nearly equal.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem isn't that people don't want to work, it's that many are no longer willing to work for wages that won't allow them to survive financially. The wealthy in the US became infinitely wealthier during COVID, while the middle class shrunk significantly and the already impoverished became even further worse off. The inequality in the division of wealth in the US is creating a crisis point, where something is going to change soon. Don't know what that change will be, but people are starting to realize that the propaganda we were fed saying that if you're not successful in the US, you're either lazy or stupid, is a flat out lie designed to embarrass workers into not acknowledging that they can't survive on what they're being paid, no matter how hard they work and how smart they are. We are a nation run by the wealthy and given an illusion of choice.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People asking couples when are they going to make baby.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I embarrass them by saying something like "oh so you are thinking of us having sex, hu? You weirdo!" Freaks them out enough to stop talking about it. Then if they get persistent I say I hate kids, even though I really don't.

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People listening to loud music on their phone in public transports without headphone.

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Dr Tang argues that we often feel fear of judgment because of a tendency to live our life according to a series of ‘shoulds.’Although if you ask anyone, they are likely not to be able to tell you where their rules came from.

“For example, who said that ‘women should be caring and nurturing?’; who said that ‘men shouldn’t cry?’ Who said that we should/shouldn’t be a certain weight/size/shape, etc.” Dr Tang added: “and more importantly, is anyone still saying it?!”

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Bullying people for not drinking alcohol in social situations

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had some snide comments when I first stopped drinking alcohol. Its very easy to shut it down.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Assuming a childfree woman in the family will babysit your kid whenever you want to go out.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had this. Dumping kids at Aunty Caro's house and Byeeeeee. Happened one time too many and I made it clear that I too (gasp) have a life and want to do things outside my work. I loved babysitting my nieces and nephews but the parents had to book in advance.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Unpaid internship for students.

A poor student can't afford the costs that go along with the internship.

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Destiney Haddox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpaid internships are meant to teach the student but many companies take advantage and make them do work for free. It's actually illegal to have your intern do any work that contributes to the income or business services, that's why they get coffee in many movies and pop culture. People need to know their rights as an intern and report companies that take advantage and have their intern making the company money.

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Nonetheless, it is often easier to simply conform. “And there results an unconscious lesson – shout long enough and loud enough and people may go along with you to shut you up.”Moreover, a lot of our beliefs are imposed unconsciously through the stories we watch in the media, in our culture, in our families and in our overall experience, Dr Tang argues.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Those baby/children’s clothes with sayings like “future heartbreaker” or “does this shirt make me look fat?” Why?

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Biliegh Berrie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never allowed my kids to dress beyond their years or my daughter in inappropriate clothing. I never understood parents who put their 5 year old daughters in daisy dukes and half shirts. Or any kind of clothing like it.

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Not using your turn signal while driving.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get the feeling that this is on the rise in my country. And additionally to this also a lot of people seem to have forgotten even the basic traffic rules after two years of a pandemic.

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#16

Asking a women when she is going to marry and why doesn't she have a boyfriend.

Asking a couple when they are going to have kids. There are a lot of couples that can't get pregnant and asking that is like rubbing the wound with salt

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was single and was asked why I didn't have a boyfriend I told them I had a shower head I didn't need one

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“Sometimes, especially when we have so much going on, we don’t have time to stop and think – we don’t always appreciate that some of our beliefs about what we ‘should/shouldn’t’ do are not necessarily healthy.” One thing we can do is ask ourselves, Dr Tang suggests, “How would I feel if I didn’t have that thought (i.e. about the other person judging me)?” and then behave accordingly.

#17

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Using speakerphone in public places.

Or having loud (should be private) conversations in public like everyone wants to hear.

I was just waiting at the social security office and EVERYONE in there overheard this woman helping this man, I’m assuming her man?, fill out his paperwork. She was shouting questions like “do you have any mental disabilities?” “Do you take medication?” Lady, no one thinks that’s cool.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't assume people are just rude. If I get a call, I have to put it on speaker because I am hard of hearing.

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#18

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Driving after drinking at all. You are operating a 2-ton murder mobile. Please give the road your full attention.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial How we have become so okay with so much consumption just for the sake of it.
Black Friday deals, "sales", new phone upgrades every year. It's all so weird.
Also working for 80000hrs of our lives is pretty weird too.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In 2008, there was an enormous queue of people outside a branch of Walmart for Black Friday. When the security guard unlocked the door to let everyone in, they barged through the doors and he died due to the stampede. People were literally running and stomping on his dead body. That's utter insanity. Such an extreme and scary case of "pack" behaviour.

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When we are at odds with others, it is common to feel guilt. “Related to this is our self-esteem – which (unlike self compassion) is developed in comparison to others – if we see we are doing better, we feel better about ourselves.”

Dr Tang explained that “when we hear differing opinions, yes, the opinion itself may make us angry, but it causes us to question our own foundations, and unconsciously, our position in our own world… if someone else is different… could they end up being more 'powerful' (or at least get more access to the resources I want)?”

#20

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Saying that your child is going to break so many hearts when they are older or saying to the mother to "save him for me" as a joke.

Just sexualising children in anyway especially when they are far too young to understand and begin to learn that its ok to grab a womans tits because when you did it your parents laughed and encouraged you when you were younger.

Its gross.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, a woman can do this and get away with it. If a man does it, he could end up in the back seat of a police car or get beat up by whoever happens to hear him.

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#21

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Off leash badly trained dogs in public parks where others are trying to enjoy a picnic.

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#22

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Honking your horn while in traffic. What do you want me to do, drive through the cars blocking the road? These people are morons.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe they think they have a magic horn that when you honk it, it will make the obstacle ahead disappear!

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What’s unfortunate, according to Dr Tang, is the common behavior, rather than to show acceptance of difference, to try to negate that of the other. “It is the act of ‘normative idealization’ – what I do is normal, what you do is odd (it makes our own ego feel better); or we might alternatively just be picking on others to avoid thinking about our own problems – and something which makes them 'different' is an easy target.”

Sometimes it means by bringing someone down (rather than working to raise ourselves up), we feel better about ourselves, Dr Tang explained, and don’t need to admit we need to do something about our own insecurities.

#23

Telling a young person that they’ll change their mind eventually when they say they have no interest in ever getting married.

Also telling someone they’ll want kids eventually even if they’re adamant about never having kids.

Case in point, I would very much prefer to have two cats that I can love and pamper and cuddle with than a husband or wife.

I refuse to give birth, I refuse to be pregnant, if it ever happens, I am getting an abortion. If I ever have kids, it’ll be through foster or adoption and it’ll only happen if I become moderately wealthy and can give those kids a good life, if not? My cats will be close enough to kids anyway.

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Ducki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone in my family asks me this! "WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GIVE US OUR GRANDBABY" I'm only 17 bro I'm not ready or planning for that yet 😭

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#24

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Full grown adults dating barely "legal" teens.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eh.... It depends on the situation... 48 year old person who has been "waiting" for the teen's 18th birthday, starts RIGHT in on them on that day - because hey, now it's legal! ... still gives me pause. 23 year old dating a 19 year old? Meh. Normal.

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#25

Kids having social media accounts

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on the social media, are you letting them watch some fun YouTube videos, talk to their friends on discord, or is it Snapchat and Instagram. Not all are blanketly bad, bur most of the image sharing ones are

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#26

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People smashing other people's face into cake when it's their birthday, or when newly weds are sharing a cake and they smear the cake onto their SO's face in the ceremony. Just, why? Not everyone thinks it's a fun, quirky thing to do, it ruins whatever makeup they're using, and most of the time I see it, the people with cake on their face gets pretty mad over it, and I think they're justified

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Professional frostitute here 🙋‍♀️ I have to tell my customers not to do this with my cakes as I dowel my cakes so they stay in place…you don’t want your loved one with a stick shoved into their eye

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#27

Untrained 'emotional support' animals. I’m all for service animals, but some people abuse the concept and just make sh*t up.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll have you know my emotional support gibbon has got me through some hard times

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#28

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Touching pregnant people's stomachs.

If I ever become pregnant and some rando decides that they can just start rubbing my stomach without asking then you bet I'm gonna be rubbing their stomach back

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaand also... nobody dare to rub your SO's crotch, like "Good job,mate !"

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#30

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working 40+ hours a week for someone else for most of your adult life only to maybe get 10 years to enjoy life when you may be too old to enjoy it anymore

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever "dream" job we might imagine, it will never be wonderful all of the time. Clearly there are many people in the world without the means or options to choose their work, but there are many who can choose. By making the best choice and making the best of that choice, it is then a matter of attitude and perspective to enjoy the best parts and make it through the worst.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Not wearing a seatbelt. BACKSEAT TOO.
Let me tell you a story.

We had a girl in our house, basically a medical foster placement. Your typical 4-5 yo before her ‘incident’.
Her family was going somewhere together, mom and grandma (I think) and they strapped her into the kid seat. But didn’t strap the kid seat into the seat of the car. Head on collision, and this little girl (+kid seat)is sent *through* the dash board. Can’t walk, talk, feed herself, be a 5 yo. Had a chunk of her skull smashed to bits, repaired, removed again because of an infection, and a plate added.

Ffs people. Wear your damn seatbelts. You become a potential projectile for the other people in the car too. No one is safe.

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#32

Going to get crucified for this but getting drunk.
I don't have a problem with drinking alcohol but the way people talk about how drunk they got with immense pride always baffled me.

Also the fact that it's completely legal along with cigarettes when other things aren't is moronic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a culture where I live. If you don't go out every weekend and get drunk, you're seen as socially inept by your colleagues. Personally I'd rather spend a whole bunch of money on something that gives me pleasure and is tangible, rather than something I'm going to pee out or throw up copiously while feeling like death warmed up

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#33

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Customer entitlement in retail. Returns culture. Posting bad reviews before trying to understand what actually went wrong when it comes to meeting their expectations.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is mostly, and sadly, an American thing. It's because, for some dumb reason we have encouraged the phrase"the customer is always right". Which has led to entitled a*s customers who can never, ever, be wrong no matter how horrible or wrong they are. It's honestly our own fault.

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#34

Being viewed as a failure if you don’t enter into a relationship, get married and/or have kids.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel this. Every year of my life, I got straight A's and A+'s with almost no fail, am working on computer programming, never got glued to devices, won a lot of school awards...yet my parents still sorta hate me and threaten to disown me cause I'm NB and never want kids. Did I do that for nothing bruh 😭

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#35

Giving up so much private data to companies without the option not to.

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Elliot Fowler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand how shitty that is but it really is the main reason most of the internet is free. Imagine if you had to pay for every website you visit

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#36

Oversharing everything and everywhere your kids or babies are. Like putting full names, tagging their school/frequented play areas, interests, etc. Friends and family ain’t the only people looking at this stuff.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The good way for predators and pedophiles to find out more about your children and possibly abduct them.

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#37

Taking pictures of strangers without permission when the context isn’t justified, especially covertly (bonus points if the person does it for the purposes of sharing/posting it). Am I the only one that thinks it is weird and creepy?

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s even worse when people mention that this is a problem and others then start justifying it. I’ve seen so many comments where people start preaching about “if you’re in a public space you’ll have to accept blah, blah, blah, if you don’t like it stay at home, blah, blah…” Why on earth would you defend something like this?

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#38

grabbing people’s wheelchairs and pushing them without being asked or asking consent. pushing people around is rude as f**k and bullying behaviour, but if someone is on wheels suddenly it’s fine? no. don’t touch the chair

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh my lord, who would EVER think that is okay? Someones toes need run over..........

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#39

Strangers touching all over babies. Pinching cheeks, picking them up and kissing them. I’ve had people come up to me at a store and open up her car seat cover to see her. And I’ve had people that know my mom (strangers to me) come up and kiss her and pinch her cheeks and pass her around when she was just a little infant. None of them cleaning their hands either. I enjoy seeing people that I know holding and loving on my child but at least ask especially if you are a stranger.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus the constant need to overstimulate them. Had this at work, colleague brings in her new baby who is lying in its pram, totally calm and just peacefully looking around, enjoying being chill, when another colleague comes along and has to start tickling and groping the baby, making loads of silly noises and daft exaggerated faces. Why??? The poor mite was just totally happy and chill and now they’re all wound up and have been needlessly disturbed from their rest.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Family YouTube channels, honestly they start really sweet and all but it progressively gets worse when money gets involved.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can make them do pretty much what you want if you post enough comments!

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