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We all live in a world governed by rules, common sense and socially acceptable norms. The latter ones refer to things that are generally viewed by the members of our society as being appropriate to engage in.

Although societal norms often vary from culture to culture, that doesn’t mean some of the generally accepted things are not to be questioned. With times changing, some of them feel outdated or raise more questions than they have answers.

This illuminating thread asked people to weigh in and list the things that are “socially acceptable but you can’t help but think ‘why?’” Below are some of the most illuminating responses, so scroll down!

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Beauty pageants for children.

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Karl Baxter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt that anyone outside of the US thinks this is anything but creepy

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“Being within a community, we are relatively conformist,” Dr Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and author of multiple books, including "Be A Great Manager Now," "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," and "The Leader's Guide to Resilience” told Bored Panda in an interview.

According to Dr Tang, this is nothing new and much of this collective approach can be traced back to the dawn of civilization. She calls it “a hangover from our past as a collective.” Dr Tang explained: “It was safer for the community to sleep at the same time because it meant that no one was sneaking into your cave to steal your stuff.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Rich megachurch pastors.

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Daniel Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." - Matthew 6:19-21

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Abuse towards men, it’s still laughed at when a man says it happened to him.

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Emmie Lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It isn't okay at all. I had an abusive ex-boyfriend, which left me feeling battered and like I needed to fight. When I finally fell in love with my husband, I would occasionally hit him. I felt awful and didn't understand why, at first. Then I realized that my first major relationship included more physical abuse than I even want to think about. It was bad. But, at some point, we have to realize that we have a choice to make a change, and we have to stop it. We have to set a new precedent. If we don't, the cycle will keep going. I still hate seeing that person's face, but I refuse to let it dictate who I can be now. I never want anyone to look at me how I look at him.

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girlsrock4ever
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse DOES happen more to women, but an abused man does NOT deserve to be laughed at because of that. Seriously, WHO THE ***K LAUGHS AT ABUSE?!?!?!

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Paul Neff
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We may never really know it happens more to women, truthfully, because our culture pushes men to both hide and deny it. Male victims are taught they look weak, and invite ridicule, when they speak of it. There is a disturbingly significant number of abusive females out there, but we are led to believe if this happens it is the man's fault somehow.

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JF
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fella here, took me 10 yrs in an abusive marriage to realise how toxic she was... Held a bayonet twirling it around my belly one night in the dark alone. The thought of my child stayed my hand... Now happily divorced... but the PTSD still wakes me up a few times every night. But i'm good, healing.

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KombatBunni
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s awful! As someone who also has ptsd I can understand how you feel at times, and I hope you’re on your way to healing xx

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Natalie H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely!! I’m a feminist too, but abuse is abuse, and anyone, regardless of age or gender, can be a victim.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can tell you for sure, it happens to men. Of all ages. We're also taught we can't fight back if it's a girl, so we have to just allow to go on and on and.......

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Tamra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, you don't have to allow abuse to go on and on. The more that men speak up about it, the less stigmatized it will be. It takes a lot of courage to speak out against an abuser, ask any woman.

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El Dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We still hear jokes about men being raped in prison. It's such a common theme. I hope the day will come soon when we look back on this with the same disgust that we view 'rape jokes' against women..

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Tamra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree 100%. I don't even know why or how anyone thought it would be okay to make jokes about that.

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Valden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the reason it is still "acceptable" is because men are exceptionally stronger than women. As someone else mentioned, men are, or should be, taught not to hit women due to the difference in strength. Which is OK, but the emotional abuse is the same. Western society still has an issue accepting mental an emotional abuse. People tend to think, no blood no foul. It's the same with children. There are plenty of times when child abuse continues because of the lack of physical trauma.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even as a woman I can testify that my experience, outside of my family, most mental and emotional abuse has been caused by other women and mostly in the workplace.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in HR and I always have to stress during orientations that things like harassment is a two way street.

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Natalie H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ANYONE can be a victim, no matter their age or gender. Anyone who laughs at a victim of abuse is a PIECE OF SH*T. Men get laughed at, women aren’t believed, and there are so many more victims that suffer in silence because of this.

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Team Jay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was physically abused by my wife at the end of our marriage. She knew I wouldn't even restrain her to stop her because if it caused marks on her I'd be arrested and lose my job. It ended when a neighbor called the police and I was the one with marks on me.

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Scott
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As having been raped and molested, but with nothing done about it or having been believed about it; as having been the victim of domestic violence but having had the police called on me as being the perpetrator, I completely agree this needs to stop.

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Amber Gray
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's crazy 16 male raped by teacher dude your so luck awesome bro. 16 female ahhh noo hang the pedo. Smh

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Kathryn Baylis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just abuse of all sorts, directed at anybody. Period. We’re supposed to be better than that.

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Kelli Pike
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely unacceptable. Men deserve better than we give them; they deserve to be accepted for their feelings, to be shown love and kindness and acceptance, to not be shoehorned into toxic masculinity. If women truly want equality, we need to support and uplift men as well. THAT'S how you defeat the patriarchy.

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Denis Folcik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

100%. After my ex punched me in the face, I went to file a report, without charges, just to be on record. The cops laughed me out of the room.

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CnCitsdynamite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude my ex wife would get drunk and beat on me a lot. I'd laugh at it a bit but it bothered me deep down. I’m a great deal bigger than her, but abuse is abuse. It sucks no matter what.

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Colin Timp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Worse yet, the legal system is so geared towards protecting women, that abused men often suffer more abuse. If a man is abused and calls the police, when they make the claim of abuse if the woman also claims they were abused, guess who goes to jail? In some cases both will go to jail, but almost always It's the man who winds up in jail. So abused men don't reach out for help.

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Roxas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse towards anyone Men, Woman even race(Even though this doesn't have anything to do with this i still wanted to include it)needs to stop in general but I do agree men are treated worse when coming out to someone that they got abused I've had guy friends of mine get abused by females multiple time's and they would cry for hours on end and I would make sure to be there and I know countless of other men getting abused its honestly horrible. Men have feelings too Men are not emotionless humans like most people make them out to be They feel pain they feel Sadness they feel everything a human feels as a female I am disgusted by other female's who thinks its okay to abuse their man because their man cant do anything but either endure it or block it because well you know how society is. I'm honestly glad my mother taught me at a young age it's not okay to hit my partner/Or anyone but if He/She hits me then I'm allowed to defend myself as she had experience this stuff.

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Julia McElroy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse should never be tolerated, ever. Gender equity is empowering men every bit as much as women.

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BadCat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still think about Alex Skeel and what he went through. His now ex-girlfriend is in jail. She would wait for him to wake up then pour boiling water on him, stabbed him, etc. They had 2 kids together. He said he stayed because he was afraid she would target them if he wasn't there, and he was ashamed to easily admit he was being abused because of the stigma.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse against anyone is totally unacceptable. We must start taking this seriously - because it is.

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David Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can 100% vouch for this. It happens and it's debilitating. And when it happens for extended periods time or is really severe PTSD will come out of it.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Literally stabbed and nearly killed by a bi-polar schizoaffective girlfriend. Passed out on the floor of my apartment and woke up cuffed to a hospital bed because she claimed it was self-defense. She cleaned out my apartment and her parents moved her out of state while I was in the hospital (in hospital for a month and a half; lung punctured, heart nicked, lots of PT). A NIGHTMARE to straighten out legally. She never even got a reprimand, because the situation was "murky". It wasn't, she was off her meds and tried to kill me.

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Mr. Cinder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry that happened to you. If the situation was reversed you would be sitting in a jail cell for attempted murder. I'm really glad you made a full recovery and are out of that relationship.

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Victoria
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's a show called The Republic of Doyle... I legit stopped watching it because a woman full on clocked the mine character (a man) with a landline phone and it was passed off as a joke

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Gina Mercer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So sorry, men, from a woman stalked for 9 years, moved to make it stop, happened again, going on 4.5 years. Abuse of any kind is unacceptable, no matter who its directed at.

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Kaitlyn Najvar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a women, I do say that abuse towards women happens a lot! But it also happens to men, and we just need abuse to stop for everyone!

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Birma Gustafsson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ALL victims of abuse need help and support, and accepted as victims! It should be gender neutral.

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Clay Tom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Use to know a guy who was 7 foot 350 lbs BMF! His girlfriend was 4'11 100 lbs and she would beat this guy relentlessly. Of course when law enforcement came she would go and cry to them saying he abused her and he was 7 foot 350 lbs so they always took the females word. Until I called the cops and video her using a shovel hitting him with it out in there yard male needed 20 stitches on his head. She was arrested pled not guilty had to testify. She got off with a disorderly conduct $200 fine and the male was sent to a court order anger management because he pushed her out of the way after he was hit repeatedly on the head with a shovel.

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Dana Bragg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tried talking about an instance where a gf at the time literally tried to rape me and was told, by friends, to shut the f**k up. Good times we live in.

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Dana Bragg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tried sharing an instance where an ex literally tried to rape me with some friends and was told to, and I quote, "Shut the f**k up, now."

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Ray McArdle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men silently suffer abuse, but it is considered "weak" to complain.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One thing that surprises me is that recently there are three different video game developers I can think of off the top of my head that try very, very hard to be progressive about a lot of issues, and yet all three put "jokes" in their games about sexual violence, or genitalia violence against men. One had the SAME joke ("shoot them in the d...") THREE times. I thought: Wasn't once enough? And these companies don't seem to realize that 10 years from now, they're going to be just as ashamed of these jokes as they currently are about jokes that were in their games 10 years ago.

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Liam Lowenthal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gender demands are pathetic in any respect. It's like saying "never hit a woman" despite her being a military combatant and she's coming at you with a knife. Yeah, uh.. we need to talk about situations and circumstances.

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Shelley Dawson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe that a great many men are now treated worse than women. Equality is for all, men and women, it is equal opportunity that matters and let the best person winm

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Misty Moon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not laughed at by everyone. I've never understood why for so long that females were dismissed as abusers and that only makes could possibly be an abuser. It makes no sense! There are bad people no matter their gender and no one should be on the receiving end of abuse regardless of their gender. Why is that so hard to understand?! Anyway, I'm so sorry you weren't taken seriously and even more sorry you had to experience abuse in the first place.

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Oskar vanZandt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one deserves to be abused. Abuse of any kind is no laughing matter.

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Nathan Wolfe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a man who has been abused, yes. Heck. I was SA'd at 5 years old by a man who was 45+. Whenever I mention it, im told to "be a man and suck it up", largely by women. Even when I'm not, I'm generally ignored. I've also found that, a lot like racial issues, I can't have an opinion on it, unless my opinion is stated and represented by a woman (though race issues, they need to be represented by an oppressed minority).

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Hannah Evans
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We didn't laugh at Johnny thank goodness. I'm some ignorant poor excuses for humans did but he came forward and those who matter believed him and didn't laugh

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Shadow S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Though my parents were divorced when they shared custody she would always start things with him. Hated seeing it. He just wanted to take care of us but with her it felt like we were just prizes to win at a game.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Funny thing is it's mostly men doing it to other men. Just saying.

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It'll stop when men stop abusing everyone else

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're ignorant. And lack empathy. And this comment is so narrow-minded, I can only assume you've never experienced anything like this. Hopefully you never do, but if you do, just remember this comment you made.

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It’s because men claim abuse when they are butt hurt, like a woman breaks up with them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Listen Miss Cow, I don't know what kind of terrible relationships you've been in, or what terrible things you've done to people and then gaslighted everyone to make them think he was just butt hurt about you breaking up with him. But it's so hard to read comments like yours, and also know that nothing anyone says will get through to you, through your very thick skull, and over opinionated brain. You're wrong, deal with it.

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Basically, it's a particularly nasty vicious circle. It is "unacceptable" for a man to be abused, so he has to become an abuser himself, in order to prove his "masculinity."

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Texting while driving doesn’t get enough hate.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they can't walk and text without tripping or hitting a pole, yet think they can drive and text

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Moreover, we have a fundamental drive to be part of a group. “We have always been safer together, and inclusion – even if you are near the bottom of the pack – still means you are part of something bigger.”

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Dr Tang argues that "social norms" are the cultures, behaviors and expectations which make up society. “They can differ from community to community, but in many ways, adherence allows us to know where we fit within our group.”

She continued: “When we live in a society with others (and this is evident in the animal kingdom), we tend to understand our ‘place’ in the pack through acknowledging ourselves in comparison to others – with the goal being access to resources. In humans, we are fighting less over a perceived scarcity of food and water, but (especially in the social media world) a need for acknowledgment and validation.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Pockets in female clothing… I am a male. My daughters cannot understand why there is fake pockets in all womenswear.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS! This everytime annoyes the fûck out of me! This can literally ruin any shopping experience. So thank god for internet shopping and filter functions. I completely stopped to buy brands/designs that doesn't allow women to have pockets or only provide pixie-pockets that are smaller than the one in a toddler's sweat pants.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Gender reveals.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, this is annoying. It's interesting only for you and eventually the grandparents but the joy would be the same also by telling them over the phone, over dinner etc. Seriously, nobody cares.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Posting EVERY minute of your life on social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wachting all that mundane c**p from a random stranger is even weirder

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Dr Tang also claims that building self-esteem has focused on appreciating the self but often in comparison to others “(e.g. I didn’t win… but at least I didn’t come last).” She added that “While in many ways this was more important historically where there was more of a 'fight' for resources, the 'competition' has now moved to social media and 'likes' - and as such this may now also play a huge part in what is acceptable.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working while sick.

This expectation needs to stop. Being expected to work while sick doesn't make a good employee, it makes a bad employer. That's saying nothing of how this expectation leads to the rest of the employees getting sick too. There was a reason everyone at my previous job called the place the petri dish, if one person got sick literally everyone else would too because you either worked or went to the unemployment line.

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Mayra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to work in a casino kitchen, we were never allowed to go home if we were sick … you have no idea what goes on in kitchens until you’ve worked in one

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People asking couples when are they going to make baby.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I embarrass them by saying something like "oh so you are thinking of us having sex, hu? You weirdo!" Freaks them out enough to stop talking about it. Then if they get persistent I say I hate kids, even though I really don't.

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People listening to loud music on their phone in public transports without headphone.

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Dr Tang argues that we often feel fear of judgment because of a tendency to live our life according to a series of ‘shoulds.’Although if you ask anyone, they are likely not to be able to tell you where their rules came from.

“For example, who said that ‘women should be caring and nurturing?’; who said that ‘men shouldn’t cry?’ Who said that we should/shouldn’t be a certain weight/size/shape, etc.” Dr Tang added: “and more importantly, is anyone still saying it?!”

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Bullying people for not drinking alcohol in social situations

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had some snide comments when I first stopped drinking alcohol. Its very easy to shut it down.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Assuming a childfree woman in the family will babysit your kid whenever you want to go out.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had this. Dumping kids at Aunty Caro's house and Byeeeeee. Happened one time too many and I made it clear that I too (gasp) have a life and want to do things outside my work. I loved babysitting my nieces and nephews but the parents had to book in advance.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Unpaid internship for students.

A poor student can't afford the costs that go along with the internship.

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Destiney Haddox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpaid internships are meant to teach the student but many companies take advantage and make them do work for free. It's actually illegal to have your intern do any work that contributes to the income or business services, that's why they get coffee in many movies and pop culture. People need to know their rights as an intern and report companies that take advantage and have their intern making the company money.

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Nonetheless, it is often easier to simply conform. “And there results an unconscious lesson – shout long enough and loud enough and people may go along with you to shut you up.”Moreover, a lot of our beliefs are imposed unconsciously through the stories we watch in the media, in our culture, in our families and in our overall experience, Dr Tang argues.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Those baby/children’s clothes with sayings like “future heartbreaker” or “does this shirt make me look fat?” Why?

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Biliegh Berrie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never allowed my kids to dress beyond their years or my daughter in inappropriate clothing. I never understood parents who put their 5 year old daughters in daisy dukes and half shirts. Or any kind of clothing like it.

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Not using your turn signal while driving.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get the feeling that this is on the rise in my country. And additionally to this also a lot of people seem to have forgotten even the basic traffic rules after two years of a pandemic.

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Asking a women when she is going to marry and why doesn't she have a boyfriend.

Asking a couple when they are going to have kids. There are a lot of couples that can't get pregnant and asking that is like rubbing the wound with salt

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was single and was asked why I didn't have a boyfriend I told them I had a shower head I didn't need one

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“Sometimes, especially when we have so much going on, we don’t have time to stop and think – we don’t always appreciate that some of our beliefs about what we ‘should/shouldn’t’ do are not necessarily healthy.” One thing we can do is ask ourselves, Dr Tang suggests, “How would I feel if I didn’t have that thought (i.e. about the other person judging me)?” and then behave accordingly.

#17

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Using speakerphone in public places.

Or having loud (should be private) conversations in public like everyone wants to hear.

I was just waiting at the social security office and EVERYONE in there overheard this woman helping this man, I’m assuming her man?, fill out his paperwork. She was shouting questions like “do you have any mental disabilities?” “Do you take medication?” Lady, no one thinks that’s cool.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't assume people are just rude. If I get a call, I have to put it on speaker because I am hard of hearing.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Driving after drinking at all. You are operating a 2-ton murder mobile. Please give the road your full attention.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial How we have become so okay with so much consumption just for the sake of it.
Black Friday deals, "sales", new phone upgrades every year. It's all so weird.
Also working for 80000hrs of our lives is pretty weird too.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In 2008, there was an enormous queue of people outside a branch of Walmart for Black Friday. When the security guard unlocked the door to let everyone in, they barged through the doors and he died due to the stampede. People were literally running and stomping on his dead body. That's utter insanity. Such an extreme and scary case of "pack" behaviour.

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When we are at odds with others, it is common to feel guilt. “Related to this is our self-esteem – which (unlike self compassion) is developed in comparison to others – if we see we are doing better, we feel better about ourselves.”

Dr Tang explained that “when we hear differing opinions, yes, the opinion itself may make us angry, but it causes us to question our own foundations, and unconsciously, our position in our own world… if someone else is different… could they end up being more 'powerful' (or at least get more access to the resources I want)?”

#20

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Saying that your child is going to break so many hearts when they are older or saying to the mother to "save him for me" as a joke.

Just sexualising children in anyway especially when they are far too young to understand and begin to learn that its ok to grab a womans tits because when you did it your parents laughed and encouraged you when you were younger.

Its gross.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, a woman can do this and get away with it. If a man does it, he could end up in the back seat of a police car or get beat up by whoever happens to hear him.

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#21

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Off leash badly trained dogs in public parks where others are trying to enjoy a picnic.

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#22

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Honking your horn while in traffic. What do you want me to do, drive through the cars blocking the road? These people are morons.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe they think they have a magic horn that when you honk it, it will make the obstacle ahead disappear!

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What’s unfortunate, according to Dr Tang, is the common behavior, rather than to show acceptance of difference, to try to negate that of the other. “It is the act of ‘normative idealization’ – what I do is normal, what you do is odd (it makes our own ego feel better); or we might alternatively just be picking on others to avoid thinking about our own problems – and something which makes them 'different' is an easy target.”

Sometimes it means by bringing someone down (rather than working to raise ourselves up), we feel better about ourselves, Dr Tang explained, and don’t need to admit we need to do something about our own insecurities.

#23

Telling a young person that they’ll change their mind eventually when they say they have no interest in ever getting married.

Also telling someone they’ll want kids eventually even if they’re adamant about never having kids.

Case in point, I would very much prefer to have two cats that I can love and pamper and cuddle with than a husband or wife.

I refuse to give birth, I refuse to be pregnant, if it ever happens, I am getting an abortion. If I ever have kids, it’ll be through foster or adoption and it’ll only happen if I become moderately wealthy and can give those kids a good life, if not? My cats will be close enough to kids anyway.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone in my family asks me this! "WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GIVE US OUR GRANDBABY" I'm only 17 bro I'm not ready or planning for that yet 😭

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#24

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Full grown adults dating barely "legal" teens.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eh.... It depends on the situation... 48 year old person who has been "waiting" for the teen's 18th birthday, starts RIGHT in on them on that day - because hey, now it's legal! ... still gives me pause. 23 year old dating a 19 year old? Meh. Normal.

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#25

Kids having social media accounts

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on the social media, are you letting them watch some fun YouTube videos, talk to their friends on discord, or is it Snapchat and Instagram. Not all are blanketly bad, bur most of the image sharing ones are

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People smashing other people's face into cake when it's their birthday, or when newly weds are sharing a cake and they smear the cake onto their SO's face in the ceremony. Just, why? Not everyone thinks it's a fun, quirky thing to do, it ruins whatever makeup they're using, and most of the time I see it, the people with cake on their face gets pretty mad over it, and I think they're justified

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Professional frostitute here 🙋‍♀️ I have to tell my customers not to do this with my cakes as I dowel my cakes so they stay in place…you don’t want your loved one with a stick shoved into their eye

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#27

Untrained 'emotional support' animals. I’m all for service animals, but some people abuse the concept and just make sh*t up.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll have you know my emotional support gibbon has got me through some hard times

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#28

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Touching pregnant people's stomachs.

If I ever become pregnant and some rando decides that they can just start rubbing my stomach without asking then you bet I'm gonna be rubbing their stomach back

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaand also... nobody dare to rub your SO's crotch, like "Good job,mate !"

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#30

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working 40+ hours a week for someone else for most of your adult life only to maybe get 10 years to enjoy life when you may be too old to enjoy it anymore

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever "dream" job we might imagine, it will never be wonderful all of the time. Clearly there are many people in the world without the means or options to choose their work, but there are many who can choose. By making the best choice and making the best of that choice, it is then a matter of attitude and perspective to enjoy the best parts and make it through the worst.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Not wearing a seatbelt. BACKSEAT TOO.
Let me tell you a story.

We had a girl in our house, basically a medical foster placement. Your typical 4-5 yo before her ‘incident’.
Her family was going somewhere together, mom and grandma (I think) and they strapped her into the kid seat. But didn’t strap the kid seat into the seat of the car. Head on collision, and this little girl (+kid seat)is sent *through* the dash board. Can’t walk, talk, feed herself, be a 5 yo. Had a chunk of her skull smashed to bits, repaired, removed again because of an infection, and a plate added.

Ffs people. Wear your damn seatbelts. You become a potential projectile for the other people in the car too. No one is safe.

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#32

Going to get crucified for this but getting drunk.
I don't have a problem with drinking alcohol but the way people talk about how drunk they got with immense pride always baffled me.

Also the fact that it's completely legal along with cigarettes when other things aren't is moronic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a culture where I live. If you don't go out every weekend and get drunk, you're seen as socially inept by your colleagues. Personally I'd rather spend a whole bunch of money on something that gives me pleasure and is tangible, rather than something I'm going to pee out or throw up copiously while feeling like death warmed up

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Customer entitlement in retail. Returns culture. Posting bad reviews before trying to understand what actually went wrong when it comes to meeting their expectations.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is mostly, and sadly, an American thing. It's because, for some dumb reason we have encouraged the phrase"the customer is always right". Which has led to entitled a*s customers who can never, ever, be wrong no matter how horrible or wrong they are. It's honestly our own fault.

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#34

Being viewed as a failure if you don’t enter into a relationship, get married and/or have kids.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel this. Every year of my life, I got straight A's and A+'s with almost no fail, am working on computer programming, never got glued to devices, won a lot of school awards...yet my parents still sorta hate me and threaten to disown me cause I'm NB and never want kids. Did I do that for nothing bruh 😭

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#35

Giving up so much private data to companies without the option not to.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand how shitty that is but it really is the main reason most of the internet is free. Imagine if you had to pay for every website you visit

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#36

Oversharing everything and everywhere your kids or babies are. Like putting full names, tagging their school/frequented play areas, interests, etc. Friends and family ain’t the only people looking at this stuff.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The good way for predators and pedophiles to find out more about your children and possibly abduct them.

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#37

Taking pictures of strangers without permission when the context isn’t justified, especially covertly (bonus points if the person does it for the purposes of sharing/posting it). Am I the only one that thinks it is weird and creepy?

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s even worse when people mention that this is a problem and others then start justifying it. I’ve seen so many comments where people start preaching about “if you’re in a public space you’ll have to accept blah, blah, blah, if you don’t like it stay at home, blah, blah…” Why on earth would you defend something like this?

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#38

grabbing people’s wheelchairs and pushing them without being asked or asking consent. pushing people around is rude as f**k and bullying behaviour, but if someone is on wheels suddenly it’s fine? no. don’t touch the chair

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh my lord, who would EVER think that is okay? Someones toes need run over..........

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#39

Strangers touching all over babies. Pinching cheeks, picking them up and kissing them. I’ve had people come up to me at a store and open up her car seat cover to see her. And I’ve had people that know my mom (strangers to me) come up and kiss her and pinch her cheeks and pass her around when she was just a little infant. None of them cleaning their hands either. I enjoy seeing people that I know holding and loving on my child but at least ask especially if you are a stranger.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus the constant need to overstimulate them. Had this at work, colleague brings in her new baby who is lying in its pram, totally calm and just peacefully looking around, enjoying being chill, when another colleague comes along and has to start tickling and groping the baby, making loads of silly noises and daft exaggerated faces. Why??? The poor mite was just totally happy and chill and now they’re all wound up and have been needlessly disturbed from their rest.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Family YouTube channels, honestly they start really sweet and all but it progressively gets worse when money gets involved.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can make them do pretty much what you want if you post enough comments!

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