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We all live in a world governed by rules, common sense and socially acceptable norms. The latter ones refer to things that are generally viewed by the members of our society as being appropriate to engage in.

Although societal norms often vary from culture to culture, that doesn’t mean some of the generally accepted things are not to be questioned. With times changing, some of them feel outdated or raise more questions than they have answers.

This illuminating thread asked people to weigh in and list the things that are “socially acceptable but you can’t help but think ‘why?’” Below are some of the most illuminating responses, so scroll down!

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Beauty pageants for children.

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Karl Baxter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt that anyone outside of the US thinks this is anything but creepy

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“Being within a community, we are relatively conformist,” Dr Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and author of multiple books, including "Be A Great Manager Now," "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," and "The Leader's Guide to Resilience” told Bored Panda in an interview.

According to Dr Tang, this is nothing new and much of this collective approach can be traced back to the dawn of civilization. She calls it “a hangover from our past as a collective.” Dr Tang explained: “It was safer for the community to sleep at the same time because it meant that no one was sneaking into your cave to steal your stuff.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Rich megachurch pastors.

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Daniel Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." - Matthew 6:19-21

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Abuse towards men, it’s still laughed at when a man says it happened to him.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Texting while driving doesn’t get enough hate.

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Antz Online
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they can't walk and text without tripping or hitting a pole, yet think they can drive and text

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Moreover, we have a fundamental drive to be part of a group. “We have always been safer together, and inclusion – even if you are near the bottom of the pack – still means you are part of something bigger.”

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Dr Tang argues that "social norms" are the cultures, behaviors and expectations which make up society. “They can differ from community to community, but in many ways, adherence allows us to know where we fit within our group.”

She continued: “When we live in a society with others (and this is evident in the animal kingdom), we tend to understand our ‘place’ in the pack through acknowledging ourselves in comparison to others – with the goal being access to resources. In humans, we are fighting less over a perceived scarcity of food and water, but (especially in the social media world) a need for acknowledgment and validation.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Pockets in female clothing… I am a male. My daughters cannot understand why there is fake pockets in all womenswear.

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Na Schi
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS! This everytime annoyes the fûck out of me! This can literally ruin any shopping experience. So thank god for internet shopping and filter functions. I completely stopped to buy brands/designs that doesn't allow women to have pockets or only provide pixie-pockets that are smaller than the one in a toddler's sweat pants.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Gender reveals.

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Red rockin lobster
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, this is annoying. It's interesting only for you and eventually the grandparents but the joy would be the same also by telling them over the phone, over dinner etc. Seriously, nobody cares.

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VictoriaBee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally agreed. Our gender reveal looked like me reading an email off to my husband as we stood around the kitchen counter. Gender was revealed. All was good.

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Kakofonyx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of the biggest wildfires in California history was started by a gender reveal. People lost their lives, houses, and prized possessions.

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L hill
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wonder what legal trouble those folks got into for this? Anyone have any updates?

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Simon’s Cat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should stop. Nobody cares about the sex of your baby. And the sex might be misleading..! Might be transgender.

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David Austin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's face it, the surprise element is limited: it's gonna be a boy . . . or a girl.

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Gin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know right? It's not like anyone is expecting else! It's always a bit of an anticlimax when it doesn't turn out to be a puppy quite frankly! Most people truly aren't that bothered and if you are bothered, that always seems a little bit sad really. Just be glad it's a healthy baby.

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A Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gender reveals are dumb. All that should matter is a healthy new family member that should be welcomed equally regardless of gender.

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Monkeyfunkster
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I recently had our gender scan. Was asked if we were doing a reveal. All I could think about was the mess and clearing up after that balloon is popped! We got a blue heartbeat bear at the clinic, facetimed family and stuck a photo on fb. No clear up, everyone still excited (bar one grumpy sibling but that's another story), baby gets a cute teddy!

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ShellO
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had both my 'gender reveals' when they were born. Much more exciting for us :-) (and everyone else!!)

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BadCat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. But it was also 20 years ago and gender reveals were becoming more in demand but the technology wasn't there yet to safely have more than one ultrasound, unless the health of the baby was in question. That's how it was explained to me. I was told this info was wrong by others. It could have also been a public health requirement, too. Dk. But it's not like it really affected what we bought beforehand. We just went with neutral themes. Not like the baby will care, either way.

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Louise Davidson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That are soooooo 2020!! And just another symptom of the consumerism sickness.

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Mistiekim
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m going to say promposals fall into this category as well. When did this start and why???? Some guys end up spending a ton of money or are shamed if theirs are not some big gesture.

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Vorknkx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's so hard about picking up the phone or sending an email that says "It's a boy/girl?" No one needs a special party just for a short announcement.

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Team Jay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm SO glad these were not a thing when my kids were born.

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Paul Rabit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There’s nothing wrong with gender reveals. It’s fun to get together and share in the moment with people you care about. Now, going over the TOP with your gender reveal - making them into some kind of weird spectacle for social media or whatever - that’s obviously very different…

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Gin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most people outside the parents aren't bothered though. As for get-togethers, what is wrong with the usual party for the mum before the baby is born and then a naming ceremony/christening type of thing? What do people really need more for? Why does it matter what gender the baby is? The only people I've known who cared about the baby's gender MINDED that they'd had the 'wrong' gender. Had a neighbour who disliked the daughter just because she was a girl and favoured the boy - that kind of thing. I suppose that colours my feelings about this as I've seen the harm where people minded.

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Scott Crowe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nobody cares if your freakin' kid has a wee-we or a hootie-hoo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Knock that stupid s**t OFF !!!!!!!!

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GrayKumiho84
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This feels like an American thing. Nobody else in the world does gender reveals. I could be wrong but it's not really a grand affair anywhere else. Everyone's happy when the pregnancy goes well and baby is healthy that's all.

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Pandaroo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a genital reveal! Why don't they just call it what it is!

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Ange Marsden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We saw our baby's genitals so let's hold a party to contribute more waste to the f@cked up planet our child has to grow up in...

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Shelley Dawson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just a excuse for someone to make money in the guise of celebration.

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Valdemar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gender reveals are so ignorant, it's just as exciting to tell people what you're having and it's mess and threat to life and property free.

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Hannah Evans
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get gender reveal parties. When did conversation no longer suffice? People asked and I told them.

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tuzdayschild
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think gender reveals are fine if you're not starting fires or endangering the environment. Nothing wrong with a blue cupcake.

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Captain Panda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's how we did ours....our OBGYN told us, we told our families and friends. Then end.

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Carol Aguilar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

just be surprised! I loved finding out the sex of my child seconds after he and she were born.

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Andrea
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are only doing this, so they can get the "proper" gender themed gifts at the baby shower. Cause god forbid a girls has to wear any other colours then pink...

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BadCat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone wants a family party that doesn't affect everyone else, I don't care. Cut a cake, put off those coloured smoky, powdery thingies, whatever. But when it's so obnoxious to the point of destroying the environment, the neighbourhood, putting people's safety at risk then those people are just ruining it for everyone.

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Ruth Hempsey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's embarrassing. Just one more "occasion" to spend money on junk.

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Daycare Attendant Sun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I care about is raising your children with the ideas of respect and manners. All else is void.

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Amber Gray
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have a baby shower n cut the cake for a reveal. How much stupid glitter balloon dust bomb things.

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Small and Annoyed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our gender reveal was a post on fb as we have family scattered all over the place. We did tell close family and friends before we put a post up. Over the top gender reveals are super tacky and not needed

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N8 Lamphere
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm adding glitter on the list. The hooker tears are a mess. All of the micro plastic talk yet they make the devil's dandruff a "fun" thing. That c**p gets everywhere. Not to mention the relationships ruined from the telltale remnants... Ban Glitter!

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Justin Rogers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time and resources wasted just for them to change it 5 times a week. Can't we just be human (e)

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Hagen Radcliffe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Granted I’m old, but these have always seemed just so tacky! Whether held in a state park or a mansion, the idea of pink/blue stuff & rockets& dozens of screaming people excited over an unborn babies genitalia. I hope it’s one of those fads that fades away forever!

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DrBronxx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We're waiting to find out the sex of our baby. After we find out, in the hospital when the doctor tells us, we'll tell people, but probably via group text.

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Nathan Wolfe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can we reverse this a bit? Like, take it back a few steps? The whole "lighting a forest on fire because you just HAD to use fireworks during an August drought" is getting way, WAY to overplayed.

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robin aldrich
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially the ones that end up in injury, property damage,....or death. They become so over-the-top that didn't one start one of the wildfires out west?

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Kim Maree Beattie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's almost like it's mandatory. & illegal to say "You'll have to wait for a surprise".

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank God my parents didn't do this for me. Would've been too awkward coming out as enby. Which beings me to my point. Imagine doing this and showing your kid later on without realising that they might be gender dysphoric. You've essentially just made it harder to come out. Way to kick them while they're down.

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Lady Corvid
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think gender reveals are that bad as long as they are done within reason, no explosives or fires. Just an excuse to have a good time with family and friends and have some cake, I'm not going to trash on that

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Gg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think people should celebrate whatever they want. Parties for everything!!! The people that do dangerous over the top things ruin it for everyone.

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Snazzy Smurf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember just having a plain ole baby shower towards the ends of the pregnancy.

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Vishy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sex determination is banned and a criminal offense in India. A doctor could lose his licence for this. To be honest there are places where it's still practiced. A boy is much preferred over a girl. In some states the male to female ratio is so bad that the men have to go to other states to find a wife.

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Tiffany Shankle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just called people. #1 It's a girl.... Oops, out came a boy. #2. It's a boy. #3 It's a boy.... Sike!! It's a girl. Good joke. No money spent.

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Morti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's actually funny that the woman who started gender reveal parties is now so embarrassed and tired of those.

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Niki A
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally, I think the idea is cute, but don't be cringey. Keep it simple and fun. Don't try to get attention.

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Kamie Jones
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kills me is when they invite you for the gender reveal (and expect a gift) then invite you to the baby shower (and also expect another freaking gift) gtfoh this is done so everyone can one up everyone else who does this.

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Cody Hill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with a gender reveal party. EVERYTHING wrong with ANY party where combustible chemicals are used by people without the proper knowledge on how to handle them.

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FlyingGhee74
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just the big messy ones. Cutting a pink or blue cake really isn't hurtful

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No I wanna have one if I ever have kids, which is pretty unlikely, but somehow if I do, I wanna do one with a ribbon that comes down and says their gender, and I want it to say it’s just a baby. Who cares

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John Bujold
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its an egocentric event. After the first 10 minutes of knowing nobody really cares

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cecilia kilian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It makes me nostalgic fot the time when people just walked out of the hospital with a pink or blue balloon.

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Alexis Dominey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or decorating a babies room based on gender, keep it gender neutral or bit of both. Let them decide what they like. There are some people and children that don't understand how I, a girl can like blue.

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Andy Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my daughter was born, we had a gender reveal. It consisted of us calling/texting people after the appt. You know, like normal people

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Nakea Ann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did one. Only because it was my last and my husband's first. Nothing over the top. And it was fine. If you don't like it, don't do it.

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Mario Strada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find them to be a good way to recognize people you shouldn't associate with.

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Cat Chat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Truthfully, I actually wonder how many are actually correct in the end. My sister was told at each of her ultrasounds that it looked to be a girl (but the legs where always in a position that there's a small chance it's not). Well, surprise, surprise! When it was born, it was very obviously a boy. Lots of exchanging of many of baby clothes, for my sister. I mean, has anyone ever seen a "gender correction reveal"? Surely the scenario was not a one time thing (sarcasm implied).

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Daryl McIntire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, good Lord, here comes the parade of people about to dispute the fairly straightforward XX, XY gene concept and head straight into the very unlikely chance that their child will go through body dysmorphia. God forbid parents celebrate having a kid without a horde of people defecating on it because they disapprove. 🙄

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Joseph Harmon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's fun. If you don't care, don't come to the party. Also, it literally hurts NO ONE. something that is brings joy to some and hurts no one isn't bad...by definition.

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Lucas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a great deal of instances it hurts the environment. So, by definition, it absolutely does hurt many. A lot of things we do hurts the environment. So cutting out those events that are unnecessary and, mostly, of no interest to people is a good thing. Stop pretending that what a baby has between its legs matters.

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Gender reveals are very stereotypical. And they harm the identity of non-binary, gender-neutral, etc., children.

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Tamra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm very liberal minded and an LGBTQ ally, but telling family and friends whether you're having a boy or girl isn't harming that fetus in any way, shape or form.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Posting EVERY minute of your life on social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wachting all that mundane c**p from a random stranger is even weirder

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Dr Tang also claims that building self-esteem has focused on appreciating the self but often in comparison to others “(e.g. I didn’t win… but at least I didn’t come last).” She added that “While in many ways this was more important historically where there was more of a 'fight' for resources, the 'competition' has now moved to social media and 'likes' - and as such this may now also play a huge part in what is acceptable.”

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working while sick.

This expectation needs to stop. Being expected to work while sick doesn't make a good employee, it makes a bad employer. That's saying nothing of how this expectation leads to the rest of the employees getting sick too. There was a reason everyone at my previous job called the place the petri dish, if one person got sick literally everyone else would too because you either worked or went to the unemployment line.

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Mayra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to work in a casino kitchen, we were never allowed to go home if we were sick … you have no idea what goes on in kitchens until you’ve worked in one

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People asking couples when are they going to make baby.

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Destiney Haddox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I embarrass them by saying something like "oh so you are thinking of us having sex, hu? You weirdo!" Freaks them out enough to stop talking about it. Then if they get persistent I say I hate kids, even though I really don't.

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People listening to loud music on their phone in public transports without headphone.

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Dr Tang argues that we often feel fear of judgment because of a tendency to live our life according to a series of ‘shoulds.’Although if you ask anyone, they are likely not to be able to tell you where their rules came from.

“For example, who said that ‘women should be caring and nurturing?’; who said that ‘men shouldn’t cry?’ Who said that we should/shouldn’t be a certain weight/size/shape, etc.” Dr Tang added: “and more importantly, is anyone still saying it?!”

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Bullying people for not drinking alcohol in social situations

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James016
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had some snide comments when I first stopped drinking alcohol. Its very easy to shut it down.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Assuming a childfree woman in the family will babysit your kid whenever you want to go out.

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had this. Dumping kids at Aunty Caro's house and Byeeeeee. Happened one time too many and I made it clear that I too (gasp) have a life and want to do things outside my work. I loved babysitting my nieces and nephews but the parents had to book in advance.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Unpaid internship for students.

A poor student can't afford the costs that go along with the internship.

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Destiney Haddox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpaid internships are meant to teach the student but many companies take advantage and make them do work for free. It's actually illegal to have your intern do any work that contributes to the income or business services, that's why they get coffee in many movies and pop culture. People need to know their rights as an intern and report companies that take advantage and have their intern making the company money.

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Nonetheless, it is often easier to simply conform. “And there results an unconscious lesson – shout long enough and loud enough and people may go along with you to shut you up.”Moreover, a lot of our beliefs are imposed unconsciously through the stories we watch in the media, in our culture, in our families and in our overall experience, Dr Tang argues.

#14

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Those baby/children’s clothes with sayings like “future heartbreaker” or “does this shirt make me look fat?” Why?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never allowed my kids to dress beyond their years or my daughter in inappropriate clothing. I never understood parents who put their 5 year old daughters in daisy dukes and half shirts. Or any kind of clothing like it.

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Not using your turn signal while driving.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get the feeling that this is on the rise in my country. And additionally to this also a lot of people seem to have forgotten even the basic traffic rules after two years of a pandemic.

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Asking a women when she is going to marry and why doesn't she have a boyfriend.

Asking a couple when they are going to have kids. There are a lot of couples that can't get pregnant and asking that is like rubbing the wound with salt

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was single and was asked why I didn't have a boyfriend I told them I had a shower head I didn't need one

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“Sometimes, especially when we have so much going on, we don’t have time to stop and think – we don’t always appreciate that some of our beliefs about what we ‘should/shouldn’t’ do are not necessarily healthy.” One thing we can do is ask ourselves, Dr Tang suggests, “How would I feel if I didn’t have that thought (i.e. about the other person judging me)?” and then behave accordingly.

#17

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Using speakerphone in public places.

Or having loud (should be private) conversations in public like everyone wants to hear.

I was just waiting at the social security office and EVERYONE in there overheard this woman helping this man, I’m assuming her man?, fill out his paperwork. She was shouting questions like “do you have any mental disabilities?” “Do you take medication?” Lady, no one thinks that’s cool.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't assume people are just rude. If I get a call, I have to put it on speaker because I am hard of hearing.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Driving after drinking at all. You are operating a 2-ton murder mobile. Please give the road your full attention.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial How we have become so okay with so much consumption just for the sake of it.
Black Friday deals, "sales", new phone upgrades every year. It's all so weird.
Also working for 80000hrs of our lives is pretty weird too.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In 2008, there was an enormous queue of people outside a branch of Walmart for Black Friday. When the security guard unlocked the door to let everyone in, they barged through the doors and he died due to the stampede. People were literally running and stomping on his dead body. That's utter insanity. Such an extreme and scary case of "pack" behaviour.

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When we are at odds with others, it is common to feel guilt. “Related to this is our self-esteem – which (unlike self compassion) is developed in comparison to others – if we see we are doing better, we feel better about ourselves.”

Dr Tang explained that “when we hear differing opinions, yes, the opinion itself may make us angry, but it causes us to question our own foundations, and unconsciously, our position in our own world… if someone else is different… could they end up being more 'powerful' (or at least get more access to the resources I want)?”

#20

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Saying that your child is going to break so many hearts when they are older or saying to the mother to "save him for me" as a joke.

Just sexualising children in anyway especially when they are far too young to understand and begin to learn that its ok to grab a womans tits because when you did it your parents laughed and encouraged you when you were younger.

Its gross.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, a woman can do this and get away with it. If a man does it, he could end up in the back seat of a police car or get beat up by whoever happens to hear him.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Off leash badly trained dogs in public parks where others are trying to enjoy a picnic.

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#22

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Honking your horn while in traffic. What do you want me to do, drive through the cars blocking the road? These people are morons.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe they think they have a magic horn that when you honk it, it will make the obstacle ahead disappear!

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What’s unfortunate, according to Dr Tang, is the common behavior, rather than to show acceptance of difference, to try to negate that of the other. “It is the act of ‘normative idealization’ – what I do is normal, what you do is odd (it makes our own ego feel better); or we might alternatively just be picking on others to avoid thinking about our own problems – and something which makes them 'different' is an easy target.”

Sometimes it means by bringing someone down (rather than working to raise ourselves up), we feel better about ourselves, Dr Tang explained, and don’t need to admit we need to do something about our own insecurities.

#23

Telling a young person that they’ll change their mind eventually when they say they have no interest in ever getting married.

Also telling someone they’ll want kids eventually even if they’re adamant about never having kids.

Case in point, I would very much prefer to have two cats that I can love and pamper and cuddle with than a husband or wife.

I refuse to give birth, I refuse to be pregnant, if it ever happens, I am getting an abortion. If I ever have kids, it’ll be through foster or adoption and it’ll only happen if I become moderately wealthy and can give those kids a good life, if not? My cats will be close enough to kids anyway.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone in my family asks me this! "WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GIVE US OUR GRANDBABY" I'm only 17 bro I'm not ready or planning for that yet 😭

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#24

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Full grown adults dating barely "legal" teens.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eh.... It depends on the situation... 48 year old person who has been "waiting" for the teen's 18th birthday, starts RIGHT in on them on that day - because hey, now it's legal! ... still gives me pause. 23 year old dating a 19 year old? Meh. Normal.

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Kids having social media accounts

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on the social media, are you letting them watch some fun YouTube videos, talk to their friends on discord, or is it Snapchat and Instagram. Not all are blanketly bad, bur most of the image sharing ones are

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People smashing other people's face into cake when it's their birthday, or when newly weds are sharing a cake and they smear the cake onto their SO's face in the ceremony. Just, why? Not everyone thinks it's a fun, quirky thing to do, it ruins whatever makeup they're using, and most of the time I see it, the people with cake on their face gets pretty mad over it, and I think they're justified

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Professional frostitute here 🙋‍♀️ I have to tell my customers not to do this with my cakes as I dowel my cakes so they stay in place…you don’t want your loved one with a stick shoved into their eye

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#27

Untrained 'emotional support' animals. I’m all for service animals, but some people abuse the concept and just make sh*t up.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll have you know my emotional support gibbon has got me through some hard times

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Touching pregnant people's stomachs.

If I ever become pregnant and some rando decides that they can just start rubbing my stomach without asking then you bet I'm gonna be rubbing their stomach back

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaand also... nobody dare to rub your SO's crotch, like "Good job,mate !"

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working 40+ hours a week for someone else for most of your adult life only to maybe get 10 years to enjoy life when you may be too old to enjoy it anymore

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever "dream" job we might imagine, it will never be wonderful all of the time. Clearly there are many people in the world without the means or options to choose their work, but there are many who can choose. By making the best choice and making the best of that choice, it is then a matter of attitude and perspective to enjoy the best parts and make it through the worst.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Not wearing a seatbelt. BACKSEAT TOO.
Let me tell you a story.

We had a girl in our house, basically a medical foster placement. Your typical 4-5 yo before her ‘incident’.
Her family was going somewhere together, mom and grandma (I think) and they strapped her into the kid seat. But didn’t strap the kid seat into the seat of the car. Head on collision, and this little girl (+kid seat)is sent *through* the dash board. Can’t walk, talk, feed herself, be a 5 yo. Had a chunk of her skull smashed to bits, repaired, removed again because of an infection, and a plate added.

Ffs people. Wear your damn seatbelts. You become a potential projectile for the other people in the car too. No one is safe.

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#32

Going to get crucified for this but getting drunk.
I don't have a problem with drinking alcohol but the way people talk about how drunk they got with immense pride always baffled me.

Also the fact that it's completely legal along with cigarettes when other things aren't is moronic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a culture where I live. If you don't go out every weekend and get drunk, you're seen as socially inept by your colleagues. Personally I'd rather spend a whole bunch of money on something that gives me pleasure and is tangible, rather than something I'm going to pee out or throw up copiously while feeling like death warmed up

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Customer entitlement in retail. Returns culture. Posting bad reviews before trying to understand what actually went wrong when it comes to meeting their expectations.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is mostly, and sadly, an American thing. It's because, for some dumb reason we have encouraged the phrase"the customer is always right". Which has led to entitled a*s customers who can never, ever, be wrong no matter how horrible or wrong they are. It's honestly our own fault.

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#34

Being viewed as a failure if you don’t enter into a relationship, get married and/or have kids.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel this. Every year of my life, I got straight A's and A+'s with almost no fail, am working on computer programming, never got glued to devices, won a lot of school awards...yet my parents still sorta hate me and threaten to disown me cause I'm NB and never want kids. Did I do that for nothing bruh 😭

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#35

Giving up so much private data to companies without the option not to.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand how shitty that is but it really is the main reason most of the internet is free. Imagine if you had to pay for every website you visit

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#36

Oversharing everything and everywhere your kids or babies are. Like putting full names, tagging their school/frequented play areas, interests, etc. Friends and family ain’t the only people looking at this stuff.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The good way for predators and pedophiles to find out more about your children and possibly abduct them.

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#37

Taking pictures of strangers without permission when the context isn’t justified, especially covertly (bonus points if the person does it for the purposes of sharing/posting it). Am I the only one that thinks it is weird and creepy?

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s even worse when people mention that this is a problem and others then start justifying it. I’ve seen so many comments where people start preaching about “if you’re in a public space you’ll have to accept blah, blah, blah, if you don’t like it stay at home, blah, blah…” Why on earth would you defend something like this?

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#38

grabbing people’s wheelchairs and pushing them without being asked or asking consent. pushing people around is rude as f**k and bullying behaviour, but if someone is on wheels suddenly it’s fine? no. don’t touch the chair

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh my lord, who would EVER think that is okay? Someones toes need run over..........

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#39

Strangers touching all over babies. Pinching cheeks, picking them up and kissing them. I’ve had people come up to me at a store and open up her car seat cover to see her. And I’ve had people that know my mom (strangers to me) come up and kiss her and pinch her cheeks and pass her around when she was just a little infant. None of them cleaning their hands either. I enjoy seeing people that I know holding and loving on my child but at least ask especially if you are a stranger.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus the constant need to overstimulate them. Had this at work, colleague brings in her new baby who is lying in its pram, totally calm and just peacefully looking around, enjoying being chill, when another colleague comes along and has to start tickling and groping the baby, making loads of silly noises and daft exaggerated faces. Why??? The poor mite was just totally happy and chill and now they’re all wound up and have been needlessly disturbed from their rest.

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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Family YouTube channels, honestly they start really sweet and all but it progressively gets worse when money gets involved.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can make them do pretty much what you want if you post enough comments!

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