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What do actresses Emma Watson and Jennifer Aniston have in common? They are both single. "I never believed the whole 'I'm happy single' spiel," Watson said in a 2019 interview. "I was like, 'This is totally spiel.' It took me a long time, but I'm very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered." And they are not the only ones who manage to enjoy life without a partner.

Recently, a now-deleted Reddit user posted a question on the platform, asking: "What is a reason you are glad to be single?" Answers immediately started flooding in. As of now, the thread has over 13,000 comments, providing an interesting insight into the lives of singles. From being able to sleep in the middle of the bed to not being forced to hang out with someone else's friends, here are some of the most popular replies.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) God, I remember rushing home every day because if I was even 5 minutes late getting in the door, I would have to explain myself. Then I would walk in perfectly on time and he’d still be in a horrible mood. Now I can spend the whole day driving around doing absolutely nothing and I don’t have to explain it to anybody and going home is actually an enjoyable thought.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, that's not a problem with relationships, that's a problem with this particular shitty relationship.

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Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard, 1979), a social psychologist and the author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After, believes that some people really wonder whether it's normal or not to be single.

"To be single is utterly ordinary, more so now than any time in recent history, not just in the U.S. but in many places around the world," DePaulo writes. "In the U.S., for example, nearly as many adults 18 and older are unmarried as married."

"Staying single for decades, or for life, is also becoming more commonplace. A Pew Report estimated that by the time today's young adults reach the age of 50, one in four of them will have been single all their life. That's a lot, but a United Nations report shows that North America and Europe are behind several other regions of the world in that regard. In Australia, New Zealand, Latin America, and the Caribbean, a greater percentage get to their late forties without ever having married."

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I don't like spending time with people. I have 1 friend I see once every 2 weeks and that's enough socialising for me

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Powerful institutions such as religion and politics often prop up the perceived normality of marriage beyond what it has actually earned by its numbers—even without assists from religion or ideology, perceptions don't always keep up with the changes that have already occurred. It's what sociologists call "cultural lag."

In the end, we all are responsible adults who craft their own life and if someone finds their fountain of joy, it doesn't mean that it will soothe others too. But not everyone understands that. "When I show that single people are doing well in some way, someone often comes up with a way of explaining it away. Those kinds of discussions can be enlightening, but I'm skeptical," DePaulo says. "They seem to go in only one direction. I don't hear the same kinds of attempts to undermine claims that married people are doing well. It is almost as if some people are invested in putting single people down and dismissing them as not really normal."

The social psychologist said there are, in fact, documented psychological dynamics involved in the stigmatizing of single people. "They include feelings of insecurity in the people doing the stigmatizing, as well as their self-concepts, their search for predictability and control, and their attempts to justify the prevailing social system."

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I read this article a while ago that really clarified my feelings on this. Studies show that people who are married are, on average, slightly happier than people who are not married. Which has been known for a long time, so people have sort of internalized the idea that marriage equals happiness. But when you break down the numbers in that, what it actually looks like is that people in happy marriages are much happier than everyone else and people in unhappy marriages are much less happy than everyone else. So being in a good relationship is the best situation. But being single is the second-best, and far better than being in a bad relationship. So to me, it’s like not the very best, but it is the second-best and that’s pretty good. It’s like you don’t have a Jaguar but you have a Honda, and it’s reliable and gets you where you need to go. And at least you’re not driving a car from the ’70s with a leak in the fuel-line and a plastic Jaguar-sculpture taped on the hood.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is the post that makes the most sense. A lot of the others are talking about the benefits of not being in a BAD relationship. If you’re in a good relationship, many of the things in the other post aren’t an issue (because you have good communication with your partner).

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I was engaged but broke it off in July after putting up with a lot of disrespect from him and his family. I had quite a bit of money put aside for our wedding, but now I can spend it on things I’ve wanted for a very long time. I am finally taking care of myself and learning more about who I am as an individual instead of being someone’s fiancée.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Losing your identity is a red flag. After decades together you do, if you're happy, become different as you learn from and grow with each other. But if your identity is being subsumed before even getting married - get out. Glad OP is happier now,,

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#5

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Honestly, being single allowed me to put more focus on finishing my undergrad degree, which I just did last week.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can do both, but you need to be with someone who is also focused on their goals.... also especially at that age, your goals may take you in different directions.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. If I want to stay up late, I can. If I want to buy something, I can. If I want to watch a movie, I can. If I feel like listening to music, I can. If I feel like reorganizing or redecorating my apartment, I can. I can choose how I use my time. I can choose how I spend my money. I can choose how I save my money. Do I feel lonely? I’ll admit it, sometimes I do. But I have good friends. If I feel like hanging out with my friends, if someone wants to hang out with me, I can. If I don’t feel like going out, I can stay home.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it is not about freedom. I am in a relationship and I can do whatever I want.. it is not a big deal. I can go on holiday with my friend, he can do the same. It is all about having some personal space

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Karin Morris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bullshit. Relationships are about compromise, you have to do it all the time. When you are single you don't have to. You do whatever you want. Don't pretend you can do the same.

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Ileana Sky Aviles
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand, these are basic things you do for yourself even in relationships.

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Henny Hana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's better to be lonely when you're alone than lonely when you're with somebody

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The money was a big thing for me and my marriage..... When he got paid he would spend what he wanted on his stuff, then give me what was left over the bills, and then just say, I don't know what you want me to do....then he would start spending money on bills. If I ever get in another relationship, I will never have a joint Checking account. He took money out of MY savings to but a boat motor not, a boat, just the motor...I was pissed at the bank as only my name was on the savings account, and she could say, well you guys are married...was pissed

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And you can use the Steam controller without being yelled at.

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Margaret Martin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you find your soul-mate... you AND your companion can do all of those things together.

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Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you don't want to make any accommodations, be prepared to be alone, but many couple live separately, so maybe that's what you need IF you are lonely.

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Sharon Kapon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like all of those in this page are just lame excuses. Cause i have a wonderful relationship which allows me to do whatever and whenever i want and even to go to sleep late. I mean, you just have to find the right person

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been married 38 years & I can do those things if I want. The key is to be in a good marriage that works for both of you.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband says I’m gonna do what I want anyways so he just stays outta the way.

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Paul Z.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am in a relationship for over 19 years now and I can do all those things. So does my girlfriend. Maybe the trick is not to get married, so you still feel free...

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I felt like this at one time, when I was in my twenties. Than all my friends either moved away, died, or got married. THATS when you get lonely, and wish for companionship.

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Chris Challis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes I hear you... Occasional loneliness is better than huge regrets and being stuck with a partner you are unhappy with because of the children and/or finances...

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I binge watch kdramas and have time for hobbies. Now that's life 😌

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

binge watching kdramas does not sound like living to me at all.. but to each their own.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

young adult male who can't find someone to be in a relationship with... sounds like college was the height of life for him too.

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#7

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I never want to turn the key in the door and have to worry about what is going on, on the other side again. I don’t want to have to manage another’s emotions or walk on eggshells. I love the peace that my space is mine alone. I also hate the obligations that tend to come with relationships. I don’t want to attend other people’s events, or buy presents for in-laws, etc. Basically, I’m selfish.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The first bit is not selfish, and the second bit only a little bit. (You just sound like an introvert.)

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#8

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Call me selfish, but I like the freedom to wake up and go to sleep when I want to, to decorate and organize my home (that I bought and paid off on my own) as I like, to make my plans and schedule as I see fit, to watch/read/play whatever I want, to buy and wear whatever I want, to cook and eat whatever I want (and not have to share), and to make long term financial and career goals without having to worry about it conflicting with someone else’s.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one I can totally relate to. I've been single for quite some time now and I love my freedom. My kids are all grown up and on their own and that makes me lonely sometimes. For now the freedom I gained is a bigger pro than the loneliness is a con, but who knows, someday....

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#9

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I have been single most of my adult life and I find it really annoying when I am living with a partner. I had a partner who snored and that really affected me with the lack of sleep I was getting. You get set in your ways then all of a sudden you have someone wanting you to do a whole bunch of things another way. I don’t necessarily prefer to be single, but I prefer to live on my own.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Separate bedrooms are a life saver. Not sure why there’s a stigma about sleeping apart. Sleep is a solo activity. And lack of sleep (because your partner snores) is a recipe for disaster in a relationship.

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#10

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can eat a sandwich or popcorn for dinner if that’s what I want.

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#11

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) My apartment is clean and neat and most importantly, 95% empty.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I have been single for the last 10 years. All my money is mine. All my time is mine. All my attention goes where I want it to go. I just try to get fulfillment in life.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not sad at all. So peaceful, can do whatever I love whenever I want, it's awesome! Can hang with friends and family when I want to, and be alone when I want to. If it sounds sad to you, then it's not for you....everyone has different ideas of what makes a great life. It's all good.

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#13

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Learned to love myself without needing anyone else’s words of affirmation after being single for the first time in a few years.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you need someone else's confirmation you're not ready to start a relationship. "If you can't be happy on your own, you'll be twice as miserable in a relationship. "

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#14

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Wanna watch a movie? I pick what I want and don’t have to debate what we’re both in the mood for, or whose turn it is to pick, or “I don’t like scary movies, let’s watch a rom-com!” Wanna get something to eat? I go get what sounds good to me and don’t have to hem and haw for an hour over what sounds good to you but not to me, then me but not you, and then finally settle on something that neither of us really wants but we can both deal with when all I want in this world is sushi. Wanna sleep till noon on my day off then get up and just play video games all afternoon? My choice and mine alone and nobody can try to shame me for it, or complain that I’m not paying attention to them. Having an off day and don’t feel like talking at all or expressing my feelings? I don’t have to talk to anyone or feel pressured to “open up” to them because we’re dating.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is SUCH a big thing. After I got divorced it took me over a year to realise some of the TV programmes I was watching weren't actually ones that I liked. I'd become accustomed to 'compromising' ie watching mostly stuff I didn't like..

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I’d rather be single than be with someone who doesn’t appreciate my love and affection.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) As someone who got out of a 3-year-long relationship about 4 months ago, I would say one of the biggest things that makes me happy about being single is being able to see myself clearly again, you don’t realize how much being in a relationship can blind you to how you’ve changed, or how love can numb you to certain things. When I got out of that relationship and once the initial crying and being depressed phase ended, I slowly realized how much happier I was and how much I’ve changed, some of it good and some bad, but it was like being able to see myself through a clear lens and not through a distorted one.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too often we see ourselves through the lens of our partners eyes. Even if they have the best of intentions they have a distorted view and will leave us feeling we have minor faults that don't actually exist. I believe that each relationship, when it ends, causes us to reflect and grow..

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Christmas is coming and I have no stress and it's not expensive

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Christmas is what you make of it. We never took part in the foolishness and stress of giving presents. I'll buy my wife a present when I know she wants something, not because it's the 25th of December.

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#18

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) That fear of coming home just for the sake of not knowing your significant other’s mood and being extra cautious to not trigger anything in any way. Then struggling to find out if it’s a good day and I am expected to say hi with a kiss or a bad day and I’m expected to not interrupt them at all, such a bad feeling. I am just learning to love coming home again.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's described above is essentially an abusive relationship. The SO is manipulating their partner by keeping them constantly off balance, and in a constant state of anxiety, and therefore easier to control. It's a HUGE red flag. Ah-ROOO-gah! Ah-ROOO-gah! Run! Run like hell!

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) No longer being forced to hangout with their friends.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can barely muster the social energy to hang out with MY friends what am I supposed to do with yours

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#20

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without checking in with anyone. Also, no woman should have to be subjected to my toxic family.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But it's your choice to introduce your woman to your toxic family. You can also be very blunt to your family and tell them that your life is better without them.

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#21

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can talk to myself aloud and it won’t seem weird to anyone. If someone else is around when you talk to yourself, you’re a nutcase, but if no one hears you, it’s fine.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes talking to yourself is the only way to get intelligent conversation.

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#22

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I don’t have to worry about what I look like or what I’m wearing while I’m just chilling on my days off. Hair up in a messy bun, no makeup, no pants, no problem.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if your hubbie or boyfriend cares so much about what you are wearing at home... I honestly think women can look a lot better with a messy bun and no makeup.

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#23

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Got off work at an indecent hour? I don’t have to sneak into bed and then have an awkward conversation that I’m too tired to have when I wake them up and they ask what time it is, and why I’m so late, and what kept me, and how was my day, when the only thing I want to do is close my eyes and rest.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on if I want. I can also leave something on the table, come back 2 weeks later, and it is still there.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I learned who I am after I decided to stop dating. It’s been 4 years being single, and I really love who I’ve become. I was able to establish myself, my goals, and who I want to be.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Stuff in my home is exactly where I left it. I’m not actually single but this is what I remember from when I was. Other people have all kinds of weird habits that make your life difficult. Want to wash a pan? Someone’s filled the sink with plates! Go to find your keys? Someone couldn’t find theirs and has borrowed yours and thinks they may be in their coat pocket! Where’s the coat? They can’t remember!

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I have so many hobbies. When I was in a relationship I couldn’t do any of them. I even had a hard time making time for school work. Now that I’m out of a relationship, I’ve been playing music, painting, coding, etc. Literally today I finished designing and making the wooden case for some headphones I’m making.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can only hang with my friends when I want to. I am an introvert and used to date an extrovert who couldn’t get through one weekend without going out/socializing at least 5x. He’d insist on dragging me along on or invite his friends over. That was horrible for me, I just wanted to relax on my own or spend quality time together instead of having to entertain guests that weren’t even nice to me half the time.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's perfectly fine to be in a relationship and have separate entertainment activities or hangout with your own friends.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I’m not a huge fan of the single life, but in the past when I’ve been in a relationship, I always felt like I needed to check my phone 24/7. I like being able to just chill and play video games, watch a movie, or hang out with friends without checking my phone constantly.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again this says something about past relationships with a controlling partner. Has got nothing to do with the advantages of being alone.

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#30

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) The only things stressing me are my own stressors. I don’t have to help support someone else through theirs.

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I don't have to talk to anyone daily. I don't have to check in on someone and care for what they are doing. I can literally hermit in my room, binge watch TV shows for a week straight, and not message a single person or have anyone bothering me. It's truly wonderful just having to live and care for myself.

I love having my alone time and recharge time. Talking to someone every day would interfere with that.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm like that, normally, when I talk plenty at work. But after months of remote work which is 98% emails, I miss talking to someone I really care about.

#32

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I can save money. Other than rent, utilities, and gas I only spent $50 on food in the past 3 months.

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No drama over where to spend the holidays.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS SHOULD BE HIGHER! I think it is absolutely the hardest thing in a serious relationship. Giving up time we family to be with their family and all the feelings associated with it. UGH

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Freaking freedom I love the single life.

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I'm naturally very empathetic and a people pleaser. It's a part of my brain that goes into hyperdrive when I'm with someone I like. It's not even conscious most of the time, but it can be exhausting. It's nice that my brain can turn that part off when I'm alone. Also I can wake up and go to sleep at any time I want without messing up my SO's sleeping patterns. And middle of the bed! And not needing to check in with his plans.

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Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you get into a relationship it needs to be with someone who respects that and never takes advantage of it.

#36

I visited a friend in Nashville back at the beginning of the year. I’d been there for all of four hours when this little voice in my head went, “You belong here.” So I’m moving there next summer.

Probably wouldn’t be able to do that if I wasn’t single.

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People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I don’t want to take into account someone else’s wants and needs when making life decisions.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's specifically about a car, no one is getting between me and the car I want. Don't care if it's too fast, flashy, big or small. Don't care that you'll never be sitting in it. That's the car I want and that's the car I get. Deal with it.

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#38

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) Flirting is soooo much fun. Plus the possibility of being in a new relationship is something to look forward to! It’s fantastic.

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Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to disagree. I love being single but I HATE flirting and new relationships .

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#39

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) I get to play video games, watch movies, build the most expensive Lego sets, and focus on my job a lot more — totally uninterrupted. I hate having to check my phone constantly because I might miss my partner’s texts and have to deal with a stupid argument. Not saying all partners are like that, just in my experience.

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#40

I’ve been in a toxic relationship before, and I still think it’s better to be alone than to be stuck with the wrong person. I’m not sorry that I had the experience, but I am glad it’s behind me. Now hopefully I can find something better.

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#41

Sometimes, I worry about being single. Then, I remember my parents, and how they’ve been at each other’s throats for all my life. Dying alone then seems like a blessing. Not screaming at my partner all the time...no kids to traumatize with all the aforementioned screaming...bliss.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously, there shouldn't be a stigma around being single, maybe if there wasn't more people who wait for healthy compatible partners.

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#42

I don’t have to live in anxiety 24/7

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#43

Peace. I am (re) learning how to live without walking on eggshells, jumping to meet a communicated need, and constantly doing xyz so as to avoid ‘trouble’. It’s been a challenge to learn to relax and get to know myself again. (58 f divorced from an 18 year marriage)

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#44

I can buy chunky peanut butter without getting grief.

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#45

A lot of people I know who've ruined their lives did so over a lover. Whether trying to get one, keep them, or fighting someone else over them, relationships can be very dangerous if you're too emotionally immature.

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#46

I’ve had some really abusive relationships, singleness = safety

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so sorry that you had to go through that!! It should have never happened! I am glad you are safe now." light always comes after the dark" - someone who lived on earth.

#47

Dating apps and all of the stupid and ridiculous made up rules people think are gospel for dating. No thanks!!! I'm perfectly happy on my own. Not interested in the games and nonsense.

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#48

Sometimes you just need to be alone and have time with yourself and reflect. You can't do that when you're in a relationship you just can't cut yourself off the grid and be alone. In a relationship you're constantly in communication with your s.o. and can't abruptly go dark. Single you can do so and spend all the quality time you need by yourself.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually have a second living room and a perfectly comfy second bedroom. It's possible.

#49

I have a queen bed and I can use one half to sleep and the other half for books and my Nintendo switch. My bed is the best nightstand for all my books when I’m too lazy to get up on weekends. No one is there that I have to move stuff over for so they can sleep.

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#50

I’m learning to navigate the world through the lens of my own needs and desires without worrying how I’m being perceived by a partner.

I do not believe I will be a good person to be in a relationship until I can do that- so I’m happy to struggle with it.

Also I really love dancing poorly to LCD sound system while my dog watches with fear and judgement in his eyes. Not that I couldn’t do that before... it’s just so free to do it in my own apartment alone.

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#51

I genuinely prefer it to be honest, I don't have to answer to anyone as an adult and I love that. I think I'll want to settle down eventually, but not for a while.

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#52

People Who've Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They're Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics) You don’t have to remember trivial dates, buy extra gifts during holidays or for specific people, no need to justify my purchases, share food, or even decide on food.

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#53

I can do whatever I want and not feel guilty about spending time with no one.

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#54

Spent many years letting partners treat me poorly because I didn’t value myself, and I’d jump from one to the next. I told myself in August 2019 I was going to do a 1 year break from dating. It’s December and I’ve extended it because I’m so happy and I’ve started to appreciate my value.

It’s a dope feeling, and I recommend anyone who bases their value solely on others treatment of them in romantic relationship to do the same.

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Just a girl.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never ever let someone treat you less than the amazing person you are!! If they can't see the awesomeness oozing from you, their loss! You deserve someone who treats you like royalty!

#55

On a day to day basis, I struggle less with feelings of guilt. There are things one misses out on by not being in a relationship, but not beating yourself up over a snappish reply or a thoughtless gesture towards someone you care about are not among them.

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#56

No one can cheat on/ abuse me.

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Just a girl.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Horrible that this happened! So happy that you got out of that toxic relationship! remember, you most likely have trustworthy people around you that will always be there for you!

#57

Being able to save

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Cora Thiemann
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd actually save more if I had someone to split electricity, utilities,...

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#58

It's selfish, but I get to do whatever I want to do and nothing I don't. Feels good.

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#59

Been single my entire 27 years of life but i guess being that im introvert i like that i don't have to keep up with texts or phone calls.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Very relatable. I am an introvert too, and I have a har time imagining myself living with someone else. She's probably expect conversation, and I wouldn't have the slightest idea what to say. Or she'd want to spen time together, and I'd constantly be thinking about all the enjoyable things I could have been doing, if I wasn't "trapped" in spending time together.

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#60

Not having to deal with partners leaving you completely unfulfilled and always putting their bullsh*t above you. Not having to argue to exist in the ways you do because their insecurities and lack of self worth smother your joy.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Compromising is one thing. but not doing anything, suppressing yourself, not being you, no one should have to do that! no one has the right to tell you who you are! no one can hang their problems in your face and expect them fixed! you deserve the right to be happy! never let anyone take that away!

#61

No longer feel like I’m dragging a dead body behind me through life.

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#62

I don’t want to take into account someone else’s wants and needs when making life decisions. I just graduated from college during Covid and I’m so lost so I don’t want to have a partner until I’m less lost.

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#63

Now that I am single, no one can drink, get DUI’s, use all my money to pay their fines, cheat on me, leave me, falsely accuse me abusing my children in order to not have to pay child support and sue me for divorce. So there’s that.

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#64

Despite the woeful lack of sex, being single means I get to spend my money on my own stuff.

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#65

I compromise for noone. I enjoy my own company.

It amazes me that anyone finds the time to make a relationship work in hindsight.

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#66

I've been in a toxic relationship before, and I still think it's better to be alone than to be stuck with the wrong person. I'm not sorry that I had the experience, but I am glad it's behind me. Now hopefully I can find something better.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And I am glad you got out of it! lots of times people don't realize they are in one. My best friend was in one, and it was anything but what a relation ship is supposed to be.

#67

Getting a good night sleep in the same bed with another person is kind of a c***shoot with me.

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#68

I can play video games till 5 am and no one will be mad

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#69

I can come home and unwind and not hear someone else tell me about their s***y day or remind me about the dishes in the sink or the laundry or the things we need to do or places we need to go. My life is stressful enough with just me and my job in it. Another person might drive me [freaking] bats*** right now honestly

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should have realized that you were stressed and done the dishes and laundry themselves! it really isn't that hard to do them. 5-20 minutes. and laundry is just timing. But nevertheless understandable why another would drive you bats.

#70

I can eat a pb & j or popcorn for dinner if that's what I want.

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#71

I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on if I want. I can also leave something on the table and come back two weeks later and it is still there.

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