40 Memes About Being Childless In Response To People Not Accepting That This Is A Free Choice
The romantic notion of owning a white picket fence house and raising several rambunctious rosy-cheeked kids is something that intuitively appeals to me. However, far from everybody has the same dreams that I do — and to each their own.
There are more and more people out there who reject the standard family narrative and firmly believe that not having kids is the way to go. When faced with criticism or disdain, they reply not with anger or excuses but with funny memes. And who here doesn’t like a good meme or two?
Bored Panda has hand-picked the very best memes made by people who don’t want to have kids, all for your entertainment. Whatever side of the (white picket) fence you’re on, regarding the topic of having children, I hope that you’ll enjoy the jokes. So scroll down, upvote your favorite memes, and tell us in the comments which ones made you laugh the loudest. When you’re all done with this article, why not have a glance at Bored Panda’s other hilarious list about people who prefer pets over kids, as well as our post about older people and whether or not they regret not having had kids.
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The memes mostly center around the idea that those people whose life choices includes no kids, because they enjoy having more freedom and money. They also poke fun of the fact that society keeps pressuring them to have children who are a huge responsibility to take care of and expensive to raise.
The New York Times determined the reasons why more people are opting out of having more kids. The 2018 survey conducted by Morning Consult shows that the number one reason why people are having fewer children than their ideal number is money. Or rather, a lack of money. 64% of respondents said that childcare is too expensive. 54% also mentioned wanting to spend more time with the kids they already have; 49% were worried about the economy; and 44% can’t afford more children.
Meanwhile, it’s a fact that birth and fertility rates in the world are plummeting. Our World in Data has revealed the shocking fact that the global fertility rate has halved in the last half-a-century: up until 1965, on average, every woman in the world had more than 5 children; now the average woman has fewer than 2.5 kids.
According to the BBC, lower fertility rates are found in “more economically developed countries”, such as the United States, Australia, South Korea and most countries in Europe. The World Population Review has found that in 2019 the highest fertility rates are in Niger (an average of 6.95 children per woman) and Somalia (6.12 kids); the lowest rates are in South Korea (1.11 kids) and Taiwan (1.15 kids).
Well, the cat ain't gonna walk itself... but it WILL try to get out of that pram if it gets stressed. Watch out.
Whether you already have kids, want to have children or aren’t planning on having any, what’s important is being happy with your decision and living life with no regrets. And what helps you keep a smile on your face? That’s right. Memes! And lots of them.
I think parenthood should be better controlled. Why is it not illegal to have 8 10 12 kids? The earth has 19 births for every 8 deaths. We're so overpopulated were gonna breed out of existence.
How I feel when asked to look at photos... or gender reveal parties! Please - only the parents really care. The rest of us just like a party.
Cat: *regrets life choices* Also isn't that a lot of kittens for one cat? (EDIT: Yep. I stuffed up there. You guys were right!)
"hooman, why are you acting like that?" lol, the dog's face looks horrified
I had 4 kids, whom are all out of the house, and those were the best/worst years of my life.
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Whether you have no kids, one kid or 5 kids etc. It is no one else’s business. It does not mean that someone’s life is more fulfilling as the other, it just means their lives are different and fulfilling in different ways.
And the weird part is that it's literally impossible to know what it's like any other way so you may as well enjoy the choices you've made.
Well... You probably have friends or relatives with which you are close enough to get a real feeling of how their lives are having "chosen" one option or the other
It's not impossible. If you don't have kids, but want to know what it's like, then foster some kids or invite someone with kids to stay with you for a few weeks. If you have kids, and you want to know what it's like to not have them, then send them to summer camp, boarding school, grandparent's house, etc. and chill in the house alone for a bit. I actually had a single dad and his three kids staying in my house for a while. That solidified my choice not to reproduce. I loved his kids and he kept telling me how awesome I was with them and that I should have some of my own. I was like, "Shut up, dude. It's my choice."
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YES THANK YOU. I think both side get entirely too mean and judgy thinking they have it "better" than the other, when in reality its just difference lifestyle choices and there's nothing inherently wrong with either path.
i think the point is that nobody gets the question 'why do you have kids?' but i (many women) get the question 'why didn't i have kids?' all the time
Well said!
Yes, exactly. Why all of the parent hate? I saw this with marriage, too. They're both good. Stay single and live it up, that's awesome! But don't turn around and bitch about how all of your friends are getting married. Rude.
Well, the reason why people bitch about their friends getting married is usually rooted in fear of losing them (the friends). Which is usually what does happen: marriage is often followed by moving or having kids and over all having less time to hang with the old crew. It's no fun being single and ready to party and none of your friends want to go because they have families now. It happens.
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Why would we bitch about someone else getting married?
Except people with kids like to never shut the fuck up about you'll change your mind blahblahblah
I'm sorry your parents didn't brag about you
This is definitely the best response to this entire post
I was refering to the main comment? Why was I down voted?
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and then in walks scientist who tells you child-free women live longer and healthier lives ;)
yes, a male scientist most likely
I genuinely don't understand this seemingly reflexive need to justify one's decisions by mocking the decisions of others. I always knee that I wanted to be a wife and mother, because I come from a big, happy family and had a wonderful mother who set a beautiful example for me. I also wanted to be a pirate and psychologist. While the wife part turned out to be a disaster - more due to my awful partner choosing abilities than anything else - I am a happy, proud mother of two boys, both of whom were planned, with a degree in forensic psychology and a thriving fencing instruction business. I am happy with my choices and their results. That being said, I constantly get asked "are you going to try for a girl?" Despite having lost my daughter at birth and being almost 40. If you have made a choice that enhances your life and makes you happy, screw the expectations of others! Ignore shitty attitudes and try as much as possible to not absorb their snarkiness into yourself. Using the crappiness of others to reationalize being crappy yourself is awful and ridiculous. For what it is worth, I celebrate all of you - so many I differ with philosophically but still look forward to reading your comments! Be happy, Pandas!
I couldn't agree more, I can't stand the smarmy snark from childless people anymore than I can stand the "you'll regret it" mentality from some parents. Why can't we all just appreciate that we each have different paths and that either is just as valid as the other? I'm 37 and childless and apparently I'm lucky in the sense that I've not had ONE SINGLE PERSON question me when I tell them I don't have kids. I've gotten zero pressure from anyone about not having kids (ok, maybe a bit from my mom but she's grandbaby crazy lol). My sister has 6, three natural, three adopted and I'm incredibly proud of all the work her and her husband put into their family, but I'm happy t just being an aunt :)
I cut off contact with my parents because every time we got together it was one long lecture about when are we having kids (My wife and I). Finally after 3 years they sent me a letter saying they would never bring up the subject again, so we are talking now. Kids? No way...
See, I always knew that I did not ever want to be a wife and / or mother, even though I come from a big mostly happy is family, and had a wonderful mother who set a beautiful example for me.
Same here. Actually, I'd be fine with wife or single lady, but not with being a mother.
it's just a joke. I think you're on the wrong page!
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Sorry, I’m laughing so hard at Pirate and Psychologist... I had a mental image of a pirate on a bed with a psychologist sitting beside them... 😂 OK BUT SERIOUSLY that’s a good point.
Wonderful! I'd like to be able to upvote you 1000 times.
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*knew, not knee, lol.
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Um, you don't understand why people need to justify their decisions by mocking yet you describe yourself as perceptive and have a forensic psychology degree? There are many reasons, chief of which is being constantly questioned and/or criticised by family and people around you. It gets very tiring and letting off steam in mocking, joking memes comes as light relief.
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I'm more and more under the impression that very few parents really actively made the decision to have kids after thinking it through thoroughly. Most parents... (1) get pregnant by accident and feel obliged to follow through. (2) just do what most people do without considering making life choices of their own. (3) bow to their spouse. (4) see kids as kind of a status symbol, something you have to have in order to live a "proper life".
I agree, I got engaged years ago because that seemed to be the next step for us, but I was just going along with what everyone else was doing. the deal breaker was that he wanted kids and I didnt, so we ended it there. He is happy with a family now and I live in england with a wonderful husband and we are child free, happy days ..xx
I really really agree with you, Arno.
Same here. And when they have got their first kid, then they feel that "now they must build a family so let's get some more kids". I don't get why some people feel like they must. I don't know if they are in therapy together and the therapist tell them that their relationship will get better if they get one more kid.. I have seen it soo many times. A tired couple, rarely speaking to each other, gets another kid. Then after some months, they divorce. Some people don't think.. And also, why don't they use protection if they haven't planned it?
We had our kids on purpose. Expecting number four now. Our marriage is great (and no...we didn't do it for that reason...but because we enjoy having a family so much, and we wanted a large family from the start). Took us a few years for the first one, to the point that we were terrified we would never have any. Fell into a deep depression. Insurance only covered diagnosis, which was inconclusive. Treatment is not cheap. It's about $12,000 PER ATTEMPT, and that doesn't include the $3,000 for the medications. We had to have them naturally, or it wasn't going to happen (and no, adoption isn't free either, and yes it we wanted to try that too) Not sure what happened, but after the first pregnancy happened (at a point when I was loosing hope...four years trying age 21-26) we had them back to back. We are so thankful, because it would have taken a few years of saving up in order to afford treatment just to have one. People do it on purpose, and are heartbroken when it doesn't work.
We actively decided to have children. What a dumb theory. There is a multi billion dollar industry devoted to helping couples have children who can't do it naturally that completely disprove your theory.
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No. Just no. And this pseudo-sociological ramble is just thinly-veiled hybris based on the fact that you didn't procreate. Why not accept it as other people's life choices without the pitiful judgement?
It is and should be everybodys own choice. I have 2 lovely girls and would not change my situation for the world- I love them to bits. But also being a parent can be very difficult and certainly expensive. I can understand very well people that don't want kids. And the worst possible reason to choose having kids is somehow feeling pressured by society or religion or family. My inlaws used to push the having kids subject so often we got really tired of it and walked out of a family dinner once. Just respect each others choices.
I cannot upvote this enough! It really depends on the person.
At least half of these comments are as a response to ill-mannered, misbehaving children with unempathetic parents. Not all kids are bad. In my family, no one would dare to throw a super-market tantrum. So even though I am an entitled millinial who loves dogs and owns her own home....I can risk having kids.
I've got a child and it's not as bad as the memes make it out to be just saying
Ah, yes, but hopefully you would feel that way. Oxytocin kicks in (for most) when a baby comes along. Good dollop of a hormone to ensure you want to take care of this strange creature!! I have a nephew and he's wonderful and I loved looking after him thoughout all the stages of his childhood but it made me very, very sure that I didn't want to have one of my own. I also used to volunteer to look after the tinies when I was at school and I had a lot of children in my life - from choice. My friends had children and I spent a lot of time with them - all are lovely. I do have one friend who really did regret having children - she loves her daughter but it isn't at all what she thought it would be. Anyway, for me, all the exposure i had to children really made me sure that I didn't want to have them in my life full time.
I kinda enjoyed this post, but tbh it's bc I always doubt if I'd like having children in future, and I'm grateful the way things are now. All the exposure I had to children in fact kinda made me afraid of having children myself bc, in seeing and being around them the thought about 9 mnths creating, labour and then lifelong responsibility over a little, delicate and precious creature. It is kinda scary. And that's ok though since it's all about experiencing something life-changing and new. IDK how mothers and moms-to-do it! That's why there's an element of supermom or superdad in them, because it can and DOES take the guts and the strength, the patience of a saint and all the love of your being to nurture and enjoy all that parenting and an infant brings, good or bad. For now though, one of my lifegoal is to adopt a cat from animal rescue.. Just sayin 🤗
I've never wanted kids and now I have three and there is a huge difference between what you think having kids is like and what it's actually like. You just can't know until you experience it. I had it all wrong. There is nothing comparable to it. The responsibility and hard-work goes hand-in-hand with purpose, meaning and overwhelming happiness. I have found the meaning of life and it is something I could never have imagined.
Thing is, there are tons of people online who talk anonymously saying they regret having children so allow me to doubt this "hapiness " is always worth it.
I've got four children and it's the single hardest thing I've ever done (and I'm a successful white collar professional with an extremely prestigious and long education, and tons of volunteering ). Also, it's the single most important, beautiful, precious, fulfilling and meaningful thing I've ever done or will do. And I've travelled the world for a while, so I've got stuff to compare with. There is NOTHING in the world that can be compared with shaping a human, with all their thoughts, feelings, experiences etc. Whenever you feel repelled by a child, remember they can feel it, and that child could have been you. I mean, seriously, not one person here writing nasty offensive stuff about toddlers skipped being one.
In other words your carbon footprint is massive. Children and all that travelling - BIG factors. Also, these are jokes. Doesn't mean that people who don't want children are repelled by them at all. My mother was the worst for being repelled by children yet she had four so that doesn't fit with the assumptions you are making. I like children and have spent a lot of time with them in various parts of my career and family/friends children. I just didn't want to be a parent. Having children is important and they are precious, my not wanting to raise them doesn't alter that OR affect your choices. Stop justifying your choices by criticising others and being so bloody smug. You don't have any reason to act like your way is the only way.
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It’s not as bad as the memes because you were at minimum at least WILLING to have a kid and at best you were probably thrilled and overjoyed. So it wouldn’t be bad to you. For some it would end our lives as we know them.
Kids or no kids, it's none of my business. However I don't understand the concern over low birthrates. It's not like humans are an endangered species.
An aging poplulation makes it harder for workers who have to support them. That's why countries have to bring in a lot of immigrants to take the place of the native population declining. Low birthrates doesn't mean less people, it just means less native people and more foreign people.
You know it Aroha. Yet some people still claim that parents are getting the hard time here!! Why can't people accept that a life with children isn't for all?
GASP!!! Not.. foreign people!! The world as we know it is ending!!! Some countries have a low birthrate and some have a high one - usually poorer and less educated ones in fact. Mixing us all up and spreading people around the world to ease areas of burden would be a marvellous thing... bar all the narrow minded bigots and power hungry leaders.
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Foreign from whose perspective? We are all foreigners! This comment section is ridiculous, any comment pointing out that not everyone wants kids gets downvoted x 10, even if it is polite and well argumented. :D
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Good, sounds like a better tomorrow.
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Why was Leaf downvoted? It was a factual response to an answer. It's like downvoting a Wikipedia summary.
Why does not having kids=not liking kids?
Exactly. I pretend to dislike children in the hope my family will shut up about me not having them.
Thats what exactly what I thought while scrolling through the pictures!! I love kids but I don't want to have my own. Why we have to confirm the stereotype of us that we don't like children? That's stupid
Exactly! I love kids. Work with kids even, every day. They're other people's kids, but to me, those are the best kind ;-)
It doesn’t, necessarily. But it definitely does for some, like myself. If I liked kids I would probably have one, too, because I think I would be able to afford it and spend time on it. I just really don’t enjoy children. I wish I did, sometimes. It’s more normal for society when you like kids. It is wrong to dislike individuals you don’t know, but everyone knows kids aren’t just little adults. They’re very different from us in ways I just strongly dislike.
I don't have any kids and never wanted to. I have an 11 year old nephew who told me he'll take care of me when I'm old so I guess I'm good.
I'm not childless, I'm child-free!
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You apparently forgot to count yourself:)
My husband and I act like the kids we didn't have. :)
All of my life, from a young age I never wanted children. People keep saying you'll change your mind. I never have and no one I know who insisted they do not want kids at a young age has changed their mind.
I have. I never wanted kids before I got pregnant. Perhaps it was the raging hormones that changed my mind, but I did. I absolutely love being a mom and I adore my kids. But that is my choice - I would never force it on someone else. But people change and so do their convictions. And for some they don't and both are just fine.
Good for you Barbara - live and let live. Those who are so upset by a mere collection of memes designed to make people laugh need to stop and think about why their response is so over the top. Why are they so defensive? I used to want children but then the desire just trickled away. If we all wanted the same thing that would probably not be good for the planet!
I really don't understand why you got downvoted here!
Same here. Knew I never wanted kids, never had any, and am happy about it. I had a friend years ago who didn't want kids. She had 3. One is mentally disabled due to trauma, one is in jail for life (these issues are related), and one is relatively okay.
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I never wanted kids but changed my mind because my husband will make such a kick-ass dad and I realized I would enjoy getting to show the world to a brand new little human. And hopefully contribute to the world by raising the kind of person who volunteers at animal shelters and always returns their shopping cart. (My husband wanted kids but decided he'd rather marry me even if I didn't want them. He didn't pressure me.) It doesn't make me better or take away from the fact that yeah, lots of people don't change their minds and that's absolutely the right decision for them. We should all be free to choose our own ways without judgment.
To be fair, you can have zero kids and still be broke AF. But this post really made me laugh. And for everyone saying "having/not having kids is no one's business but yours", have you observed other cultures? Have you had a Mexican mom coming at you with a chancla? Not everyone should have/wants kids - can we normalize that already?
How is socially acceptable to hate kids? If you change the word 'kids' to any other social cathegory you are a bad person, in the first step for a hate crime (you know what I mean, rasist, homophobe, antisemitic, fascist etc.). You tell that you hate kids and nobody bats an eye (meme #3 and sone comments).
@Mewton's Third Paw: Stop it! Stop pretending that children are another species, they are humans. Stop demonizing them! Children and animals? Really? They are the same category for you? You are talking about personality...., yeah, the little ones don't have any. Personality just appears at age 18 as a miracle...
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I hate them. To me it’s like hating dogs or birds. Like certain animals are just annoying and there’s nothing they can do to change it. Children will always be clammy and have shrill voices and not know anything. That’s what it is to be a child. A bird will always chirp. If you don’t like chirping, you don’t like birds. If you don’t like stupid questions and weirdly damp and sticky hands, you don’t like kids. All your other examples like race and orientation aren’t personality traits and there’s no particular way races or orientations act like there are with children and animals.
Just tell me, why, Boredpanda, why?Why so many “I am so proud I don’t have kids” posts lately? Could we please have a post about kids being great for a change? As much as the childless feel offended when asked about having kids, I feel quite offended by these oh-so-happy-childless posts. Moreover, considering perhaps 90% of these very proud and very convinced childless are probably in their early 20s or younger and most probably will change their mind, because this is just how the life goes and works. I was like that, too; wanting to focus on my career, travel, have free time. You know what? I still have my career (I’m a head and neck surgeon), we do still travel and spending my free time has become much more interesting with my 2yo. Good for me, right? Now lets please have the “happy parent” post.
I agree that there should be all kinds of posts, however I disagree with suggesting that 90% of voluntarily childless people change their mind after their early 20s. (This is exactly the attitude that triggered some of those memes you found offensive). I am 37, never wanted kids, never will have kids. There are no statistics on how many people are like me, so let's not make them up, and let everyone choose their life path with or without kids.
We don’t need those articles because everywhere we go people are constantly celebrating children. Articles like this are for people like me, who knew when I was in my early twenties that I didn’t want to have kids. I’m now almost 42 and for DECADES have listened to people tell me that I would change my mind, that I was making a mistake, that something was wrong with me for not wanting children. Those memes made me laugh, because it’s such a relief to finally have people understand.
Because everywhere else is taken up by the "happy parent" culture. Also, how smug of you to think that most childfree people will change their minds - do you tell that to those who want kids as well?
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I'm sorry your parents weren't happy with you
Anybody can post on bored panda, so have at it. Go collect all the, it’s wonderful to be a parent Memes and post them Oh wait you’ve got kids ......you probably don’t have the time to do anything like that....😂
both contributors are marked as “BoredPanda staff”, just sayin - probably what they are paid for, like a job, u know, not their free time... ;) and actually it might be surprising but there are certain moments during the day my child does not cling on me, like when she sleeps or spends time with her dad, so - mind blown - I DO have free time! 😱 but my choice of activity would probably be a bit different than browsing the internet looking for memes 🤔 who actually does that? 🤷🏼♀️
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There are many posts pro having children too, you clearly missed them. Why so bothered though? No-one forces you to read any of these articles. You criticise people for browsing the internet looking for memes yet here you are! Parents really don't need to be so upset just because there are people who don't want children! Again, why so bothered? This is all just meant to be funny FFS.
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They are bothered because they don't have the freedom and money they once had.
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You know why? it's bloody society and people chugging "you''ll change your mind; you're not a real woman/man if you don't have kids; they are you legacy; etc" crap. people like you that makes us childless ones feel like anormal beings or degenerate or selfish. looks like it's affecting you, since you are so bothered by this. go and sped quality time with your kid. i bet that someone watches her all day while you play with the kid 1-2 hours.
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It's like all the articles here. Promoting a very specific radical-liberal agenda (egalitarian genderwise, ethnicity-wise, being an animal or human wise etc.)
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It feels like these are just posts are from bitter people who ran out of time to have kids and now have to justify to themselves why they didn't have kids.
I despise kids! I didn't run out of time at all..... I had my tubes tied when I was 30, knowing that I didn't want any of the little brats! I did a very responsible thing, in MOST people's opinion! We ARE allowed to just simply not want kids! And babies are the absolute fckn worst thing in the world! I'll stick with my 2 kitties... They give UNCONDITIONAL love! Humans don't!
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Nobody wants kids though, that’s like saying you ran out of time to get arrested.
We might have had a kid. But on his mom's side, 11 of the siblings died of cancer, one drank himself to death. On his dad's side, dementia for 3 generation. Due to cervical cancer from lack of medical treatment in the military, if I got pregnant, odds are I would lose the pregnancy, or bleed to death without a c section. Add to it our current medical problems, and, well, yay. Sad that he was an only child, but that's how it goes sometimes.
These are the reasons why I hate when some people insist on why you should have kids, and they do so as if they're morally superior. Thank God, I'm fine, but what if I lost the child I was waiting, what if I were a womb cancer survivor, what if I were raped? Those are things that no random stranger needs to know, and such a person might not want to cry in front of such a judgemental a-hole. I mean, if one is curious, one can ask, sure, but if the answer is a "no", then the conversation needs to stop there. Or choose a different topic.
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I never had an issue with family asking if I wanted to have children, as long as the question was asked once and the discussion in favour of children was under five minutes.
Childless = childFREE. Thank you.
It's no one's business if other people have kids or not...unless you're the potential grandparent. We're forgetting that there IS a biological drive to reproduce. I never thought I'd be one of those people pestering their kid to have kids. In fact, I'm not, but I could easily be. My son has announced he plans to never have kids. I fully respect his decision, understand it, and won't pester him about it. Here's a fun fact for you younger folks: That has changed my outlook on life drastically and permanently. If you don't understand why, you're just as clueless as those who pester people to have kids when they don't want to.
even if you are the potential grandparent, it still none of your business.
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Potential grandparents do not get a say in their child's plans to have children or not... Would you be happy if your son had a child, just because you wanted a grandchild, and then both of them would be miserable?
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No. There really is NO "biological urge" to reproduce. That is 100% social convention.
Yup, that is why female have periods and male have wet dream. That is NOT because of the two component of reproduction is being constantly produced by our body.
you failed at biology it seems.....not surprising
Oh yes, there is - it is one of the primal instincts, to reproduce. Like it or not, there is nothing “social” about it, pure nature.
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If you think potential grandparents should be involved in their kids bedroom, you need therapy.
I don't want kids. I babysat my neighbors' kids enough to know they are evil spawns of Satan himself.
Gee what's with the down votes? I'm a parent and I think that's funny.
I never wanted children. Ever. Then I had to take and raise my nephew when he was about 4. He's now 20. The thought of him brings tears to my eyes, but he did not inspire me to WANT to have children. My co-worker, on the other hand, has only ever wanted children. Her marriage, not strong before adding a child (why you would have a kid in that situation is beyond me), is miserable in her marriage, but has a child she adores.
TO BLAVE: I also had to care for my nephews when I had to turn in my sister into CPS for severe negligence. (Drugs, leaving them days on end with no food-long, long story) I didn't want them going into the system. Hardest 2 years of my life and I knew before then that I didn't want kids; that cement it.
That's a really sad story. I hope the kids and you are doing fine. You are a great person!
Is this really a thing? Or is it an American thing? Are people really bothered if you don't want kids?