We all have our secret shames. Guilty little skeletons in the closet that we would never dare to confess to even our closest friends. Well, not when sober, at least.
The great thing about the internet is its anonymity. Behind the protection of a screen, people can feel liberated to say things they never would in face-to-face conversation, and really say what they mean. Of course, it goes both ways and this can also lead to all kinds of bullying and abuse, but that's for another post.
This post is all about getting it off your chest and owning up to past wrongs. While confessing anonymously to randoms on the internet is hardly taking responsibility for one's actions, the very act of confession can alleviate feelings of guilt and help people to get on with their lives. From the hilariously trivial to the actually quite profound, these confessions will take you through a rollercoaster of emotions, and might even make you reflect on your own past transgressions.
So scroll down below to check out the sordid details for yourself, and let the therapy begin!
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i always did it. and turned them away when i thought i'm doing something they wouldn't approve. just in case :D
According to an article in Scientific American, any type of open and truthful disclosure reduces stress and helps individuals come to terms with their behavior. "It is not coincidental that some of the most powerful people or institutions in many cultures encourage people to confess their transgressions," they write. "And there is very strong evidence that writing about upsetting experiences or dark secrets can benefit your mental and physical well-being."
"First, simply putting emotional turmoil into words changes how we think about it. Giving concrete form to secret experiences can help categorize them in new ways. For instance, when we translate emotional experiences into words and stories, we start to think about them in a simpler, less menacing context. There is no solid evidence to explain this phenomenon, but it most likely occurs because talking or writing about a disturbing event helps us understand it better. And things we do not understand cause greater anxiety."
"Dozens of studies have also shown that expressive writing is linked to less stress and improved sleep and cardiovascular function. We know that better sleep is associated with enhanced immune function and better general health—which correlate with better mental health, too."
"Expressive writing and religious confession are not panaceas, but these forms of release can help us get through difficult times. The beauty is that you do not have to be religious to benefit from confession. The underlying mechanisms are available to anyone for the price of a pencil and paper."
Same tbh. I especially hate it when they do this while hiking/camping. People go in the mountains for the quiet, if you want music blasting go to a club.
So there you go. Got any guilty secrets you've been holding on to? Try writing about them, and allow yourself to properly express your emotions. It is clearly a great benefit to both your mental and physical health!
I live in third world country and I still have more love and sympathy for animals lot more than humans.
my brothers gf got pregnant and lost it. I was secretly pleased cause they don't have their s**t together and live in a trashy apt. with no ambition to make their life better. his gf is also not right in the head. I am glad they lost it cause it would have made mess out of their already messy life. however, I'm curious if it would have given him a reason to change.
If you are his best friend I don't want to know who is his worst enemy. But probably his mom.
Exactly, the point of feminism is for you to not get shamed no matter what you choose.
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Neither do I, the first 2 don't exclude the other 2. 🤔
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There are some "feminists" (who are not actually feminists) who see traditionally feminine things such as being a wife or mother as bad things. They're not bad if you choose to marry and have children, they're only bad if you're forced to do those things
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Can we just agree that a woman can be a feminist and have a husband and kids? One does not negate the other. She can also be a housewife and cook an elaborate breakfast every morning for her family. Feminism means the right to choose how you want to live your life and being happy with said choice.
Furthermore, she can educate her kids as future feminists as well, contributing to a more female-friendly society for future generations.
Load More Replies... It's not that easy to be successful and smart and find a man who can handle your intellect. Not impossible, just not easy. The older the woman gets, the harder it becomes too. I feel for her. I'm lucky I found mine early.
I hope you do. Men don't have to choose either a career or a family, why should we? You will need a husband who does his part and hopefully a good support network of friends and family when kids enter the picture!
Then get married and have kids! There isn't anything wrong with it! You can be a scientist, a feminist, a wife, and a mother! Don't feel like you have to box yourself in because of anyone else's stupid binary-d outlook on life!
Wanting to get married and have children is not something only women want, men do as well... so it has nothing to do with being feminist or not
This one annoys me. There is nothing wrong with getting married and being a housewife. There is nothing wrong with having a career and not getting married. And there is nothing wrong with doing both. Do these people know what being a feminist is? Sheesh!
Getting married and having kids doesn't stop you being a feminist. There are a lot of married feminists my husband fully supports my feminism and has been to protests with me.
The whole point of feminism to to be free to make that choice and be your real self, not be forced into someone else’s idea of what you should be. Do it. I know you’ll be fine. You’re intelligent, educated, and capable of making a very good living. You will never be stuck in a bad situation with no way out because all your options are wide open.
you can be a successful feminist and stll want to get married and have kids. one does not exclude the other
I’m a feminist who works in childcare and wants to get married and have children. My mother is a feminist who has a master’s degree and was a stay at home mom for eight years. Nothing contradictory here.
Have your cake & eat it. Feminism is women just equal s**t in life. Including f**king pay!
You know you can still want a family and be a feminist right? lmao idk what's wrong here or what's to be ashamed of.
It's almost easier to get married before you get any title the implies math or science. My field doesn't have many women. Everytime I start a new job there's there awkward introductory period where the men are afraid of how to act or what they say. Sometimes things eventually gel, but often I'm stuck on feminist island, and I'm not even a feminist.
I don't think she's saying these concepts are mutually exclusive or even that having a family is anti-feminist. I think she's saying that, by all standards, she's been successful in her life. But by her own standards, she's still unhappy because she hasn't yet achieved a deeper desire that she has in life.
If she thinks being a feminist means she can't/shouldn't get married, then she isn't a feminist.
I never wanted kids, & never wanted to get married--- too much hassle, mess, bills, & work!! FOR REALS!
Please, about the kids thing... adopt!!! The world is in desperate need of less people, not more people!!!
Real feminism is being able to make the choices you want and not be held back because you're a woman. This kind of thing never occurs to men.
@Phil: in what way did ChickyChicky's comment imply men are less than women!? It did not. It was simply saying that men usually don't have think, "Hmm....if I have a career, can I also have a family?" Also, you do know that most women in Western countries are feminist? If men avoid feminists, there would be like 1 woman for every 100,000 men perhaps?
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I had a big career and that is all I ever wanted too (but wouldn’t tell my friends). I ended up getting married and having kids and it has been the most wonderful thing in my life.
So...get married and have kids. Being feminist can't possibly mean, "I'm against one whole side of choices women can make".
As a feminist, CLAIM YOUR POWER TO DO ANYTHING! As a scientist, CREATE A LOVE POTION.
And that's perfectly normal. Each person have a different "eye" for success ;) hope you'll find what you're looking for.
How can you be a successful feminist???? Let me guess you've successfully convinced yourself man-splaining is a real thing and women being r***d and abused in the middle east is not your problem??? Congratulations it's your bed lie in it!!!!!
If your ideology inhibits you from leading a good life, isn't it time to leave?
The problem isn't the ideology. She doesn't understand the ideology, apparently. See all the other comments, most of which are pointing this out. I have no idea why the post has even a single upvote!
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I'd feel awkward dating a woman who wasn't a feminist.
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I'm a feminist, but I've given up my apartment to move in with my mother and care for her as she is terminally ill. I also volunteer for several non profits. I have a successful career and I found a wonderful man who supports my decisions and tells me all the time what a big heart I have. I'm sorry strong women scare you, but you know NOTHING about what feminism means.
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I tried the vegetarian life...don't have the discipline for it. lasted one week only.
It's sad that this is seen as a shameful thing. It's perfectly normal to feel ánd show emotions, for both men and women!
Then stop lying!! Tell people you're ready to date. Watch what happens!
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I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
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Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
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I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies... Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies... I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
