We all have our secret shames. Guilty little skeletons in the closet that we would never dare to confess to even our closest friends. Well, not when sober, at least.
The great thing about the internet is its anonymity. Behind the protection of a screen, people can feel liberated to say things they never would in face-to-face conversation, and really say what they mean. Of course, it goes both ways and this can also lead to all kinds of bullying and abuse, but that's for another post.
This post is all about getting it off your chest and owning up to past wrongs. While confessing anonymously to randoms on the internet is hardly taking responsibility for one's actions, the very act of confession can alleviate feelings of guilt and help people to get on with their lives. From the hilariously trivial to the actually quite profound, these confessions will take you through a rollercoaster of emotions, and might even make you reflect on your own past transgressions.
So scroll down below to check out the sordid details for yourself, and let the therapy begin!
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i always did it. and turned them away when i thought i'm doing something they wouldn't approve. just in case :D
According to an article in Scientific American, any type of open and truthful disclosure reduces stress and helps individuals come to terms with their behavior. "It is not coincidental that some of the most powerful people or institutions in many cultures encourage people to confess their transgressions," they write. "And there is very strong evidence that writing about upsetting experiences or dark secrets can benefit your mental and physical well-being."
"First, simply putting emotional turmoil into words changes how we think about it. Giving concrete form to secret experiences can help categorize them in new ways. For instance, when we translate emotional experiences into words and stories, we start to think about them in a simpler, less menacing context. There is no solid evidence to explain this phenomenon, but it most likely occurs because talking or writing about a disturbing event helps us understand it better. And things we do not understand cause greater anxiety."
Don't hide it. Talk to someone. People care about you.
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This is terrifying, I worked with a girl who was always 'super happy', she committed suicide 3 days before her wedding. I've been suicidal on & off for 20 years, but going through the pain of losing someone I very much liked has kept me from doing something stupid. Ppl don't really recoup from that pain that's left behind, and I hope you know how devastating your death would be for your family and friends OP. Please see a Dr. about maybe getting on a Rx to help with the symptoms and maybe therapy. Please.
Maybe a life in the theatre is what you really seek. A new face, a different role. You could be the greatest actor there ever was . . .
Why are people downvoting this? It's actually a really interesting concept.
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I always inform my doctors that my affect is very happy and bubbly and outgoing, but I am managing strong anxiety and a chronic, deep depression. Only those close to me really see it.
I like that song "I Second That Emotion". I think by Smokey Robinson.
Literally me. My therapist said she would have no idea what was going on inside of me. And what eats me up is that I told myself, “wow, I’m awesome at keeping my mask on *brushes shoulders off*” like how sick can I be?
Depressed people make the best actors and actresses. We hide our true emotions and act new ones. So good at it, no one knows or even suspects deep inside we are nearly suicidal. Fake you out, buddy. I am not happy, I am not laid-back, I am not chill. I am not 'blessed with a great life". What I am is darkly sad, lonesome, anxious, suicidal, hopeless, dead inside. Give me that damn Oscar.
Oh... But they would LOVE you the same way, or even more, if you told them or asked them for help. Trust me. That day maybe you could feel your smile at your heart.
So true. That's why whenever people thinks I have a problem, they think I am too brave to face it. But inside, I'm slowly breaking.
same here, same there.' but beeing bubbly and funny and smiliing does not only hide it from people (mostly those who don't have no business in my private life like work mates) it also is an active way of coping. Dwelling in the gloom never helped me in anyway. Being sunny sunshine on the other hand has the inherent chance of lifting my spirit and getting me to see and apreciate good stuff, finding some hope. With psychotherapy and al lot of work on myself I learned to share my darkness, but only with professionals and really close friends. The problem of sharing your depression is: a) you get jugded b) the burden is too heavy for most people, so they try to cheer you up and if you don't , they are disappointed in you and leave you. c) sensitive people can be pulled down by my darkness and I don't want anyone else to suffer because of me. d) nobody can really help, not friends, not lovers, not professionals. I am working on my mental health since over 30 years and no therapist, social worker or whatever could ever do something that helped. Of course, sharing via telling the burden is a little relief, but besides that, just nope. My last therapist just kind of shrugged his shoulders when I asked what to do about the severe anxiety and panic attacs I was having daily and nightly over months. I just had to endure them. So: in the end, there is no good in sharing your depressed self. You maybe feel a little relief about not keeping it secret, but besides, it is the same helplessness. So, I rather engage in things and behaviours that make me feel good, like jokes, puns, a little bit of comedy, helping others, trying to cheer up, feeding the crows on my way to work, playing with my kitties a.s.o.
I used to be this way. Now I wear that depression like an overcoat so people know that its real and will stop judging me when I am not Miss Mary Sunshine everyday.
Same! Everyone thinks I've totally got my life together. I don't. Not even a little bit.
Keep hiding it. Don’t tell anyone. They don’t understand and will ridicule you and make you feel worse. I know. I have chronic major depression.
I tell people straight out how I'm feeling. Hiding things makes me feel worse.
I am the exact oppisite of you. if nobody knows about me being sad nobody rushes up to me and says " Are you alright?! Who did this to you?" But its my loved ones who did it to me. And I don't want them to get in trouble. So I just cry, and come out of my room, a happy person with lots of secrets.
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i'm not very good at hiding it, plus i have generalized anxiety. dear husband and his parents all want me locked up
That's me too. I spend all my time wishing I was dead. Whenever I hear of someone who's just died all I can think of Is I wish that was me.
I do the same. Each morning I hope I will be in an accident and die. But that never hapens :(
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"Dozens of studies have also shown that expressive writing is linked to less stress and improved sleep and cardiovascular function. We know that better sleep is associated with enhanced immune function and better general health—which correlate with better mental health, too."
"Expressive writing and religious confession are not panaceas, but these forms of release can help us get through difficult times. The beauty is that you do not have to be religious to benefit from confession. The underlying mechanisms are available to anyone for the price of a pencil and paper."
Same tbh. I especially hate it when they do this while hiking/camping. People go in the mountains for the quiet, if you want music blasting go to a club.
So there you go. Got any guilty secrets you've been holding on to? Try writing about them, and allow yourself to properly express your emotions. It is clearly a great benefit to both your mental and physical health!
I live in third world country and I still have more love and sympathy for animals lot more than humans.
my brothers gf got pregnant and lost it. I was secretly pleased cause they don't have their s**t together and live in a trashy apt. with no ambition to make their life better. his gf is also not right in the head. I am glad they lost it cause it would have made mess out of their already messy life. however, I'm curious if it would have given him a reason to change.
If you are his best friend I don't want to know who is his worst enemy. But probably his mom.
I tried the vegetarian life...don't have the discipline for it. lasted one week only.
It's sad that this is seen as a shameful thing. It's perfectly normal to feel ánd show emotions, for both men and women!
Then stop lying!! Tell people you're ready to date. Watch what happens!
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I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
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Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
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I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies... Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies... I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
