People Are Telling Their Darkest Secrets To This Twitter Account, And Here Are 50 Of Their Juiciest Confessions (New Answers)
There's a Twitter account (that can now also be found on Facebook) which offers people the chance to anonymously reveal their secrets, and with 535K followers, it has become a viral online sensation.
Titled Fesshole, the account is the brainchild of Rob Manuel. Those of you that are well-versed in internet culture might know him from creating 'B3ta', a meme design website that famously sued Coca-Cola after they ripped off one of its viral animations for a TV ad.
Anyway, the "sins" on Fesshole range from the clumsily awkward (messing up a handshake) to the hilariously outrageous (hiring someone because they share your love for pro-wrestling), and, I guess, their popularity shows that in the age of social detachment, a little gossip can go a long way.
Continue scrolling to check out Fesshole's latest content, and don't miss out on the chat we had about secrets with Dr. Michael Slepian, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School, spread out in between the pictures.
However, if you go through the entire thing and your curiosity wants more, fire up our earlier publication on Fesshole.
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I see nothing wrong with this at all. They wouldn't take care of her give her to someone that can and will
To begin with, Dr. Slepian said when we keep a secret, we often mean to protect something. "Perhaps we believe that it protects our reputation, or our relationship with someone. And yet, our secrets tend to harm our well-being, and can harm our relationships too," the author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are told Bored Panda.
"When we choose to be alone with something, especially something important, we tend not to develop the healthiest way of thinking about it. It often takes another person to get the help that we need. Even a short conversation with a trusted person can offer so much. Emotional support and fresh perspectives can easily be offered by your confidant, but are hard to find on your own. This is why we often want to bring others in. We know that another person can prove helpful, and that having a conversation about the secret would be a healthy thing to do. To have a secret from everyone is to be alone with that thing, and we don't like to be alone. Your desire for help and social connection is in battle with your fear of how others will respond. When we let fear win, we hold the secret tight."
I had a 6 year old foster kid who was obsessed with wanting glasses like her older sister. Alas, she didn’t need them. :/ While her older sister walked around trying on various frames for her new glasses, she was trying to be supportive. I couldn’t bare to see her disappointed, so I told her to pick out whatever frames she also wanted. She was over-the-moon elated! We bought her “glasses” as-is without a prescription… just a clear lens. They were a hideous pink cat eye style. She wore them EVERYWHERE! And anytime she would get complimented on them, she’d tally up those compliments, “See? Another compliment!” It was ridiculously cute! :)
I always want to ask Alexa to end the simulation {like the Matrix} but don't. I'm afraid if it does life might be worst then it is.
With Edy Moulton-Tetlock, a doctoral student in management studying organizational behavior, Dr. Slepian asked more than 800 online participants to describe their personal secrets, using his list of 38 common categories of secrets as their guide.
The participants described more than 10,000 secrets, including both those they had shared with someone ("confided secrets") and the ones they had kept all to themselves ("total secrets").
The data revealed that confiding a secret predicted improved well-being. That's because the participant received social support and because the act of revealing the secret seemed to minimize the amount of time the person spent thinking about it.
Dr. Slepian's research suggests that someone who is more secretive tends to be less extraverted and less emotionally stable, but more conscientious.
However, we also need to be aware of what it means to be "unloaded" on.
"When another person confides in us, this can be a boon but also a burden. When someone trusts us to the point of revealing a secret, we understand this is an act of intimacy, and often feel closer to the person as a result."
And yet, Dr. Slepian explained that if the secret is something we find troubling or surprising, we might find our thoughts returning to it again and again.
"The secret can weigh on our mind. And if the secret implicates someone you know, then you'll have to keep the secret from them, which will bring its own burden," he added.
While Dr. Slepian thinks it's possible for people to live like an open book, sharing everything with the world, he wouldn't advise it.
"There is a class of secrets that most everyone agrees is okay to keep. People often call these 'white lies,'" he clarified. "If you are just arriving at the party, and your friend asks you how their outfit looks, but it is too late to change, then most people agree that saying something positive is the kinder response ('You look great!'). If the truth needlessly hurts someone's feelings, holding back is often the more compassionate choice."
I don't like the taste of beer, wine or spirits, I'm more than happy with a soft drink or juice. I've done it to stop people asking "but whyyyyyyy?" I don't drink and "just try this one".
There's no exact formula that tells Rob Manuel which submissions he needs to feature on Fesshole. His choices are based on simply going through the list and reading them. Everything depends on his judgment of what he thinks is funny or interesting. So if you send Rob something and it doesn't appear on the account, don't sweat it. There are other online "priests" you can share your secrets with. Like the subreddit r/confessions.
This is why I have a Furbo camera… so I can talk to my animals. My cat is too smart! When he wants my attention… he triggers the camera, so I’ll check on him and have a little chat with him. :)
My brother-in-law, who is a right know it all, fitted his fridge freezer into his kitchen work tops. For years my sister-in-law complained nothing was ever cold and the freezer took an eternity to do basic freezing......he'd left the Styrofoam encasing the whole of the back.
Agreed. I work 4 days and haven't told everybody but no way would I keep this from my husband and I'd be annoyed if he kept it from me.
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MY HUSBAND JUST DID THIS! I know, but he hasn't told a single other soul because if he did they would hit him up for errands and random stuff all the time and mess up his day off! Everybody needs some good alone time 🙂
As long as the partner gets the same right, then yes.
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This is another case of a bad marriage. You should be able to tell your partner that you want Fridays to yourself and they should support that!
Sneaking around behind someone's back is not cool, period.
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SAD and dishonest and! You don't have a "partner" you live and have relations with another person you do not respect.
Very good point. If you keep something like this to yourself, whatever your relationship, it isn't a partnership.
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If you're getting up on Friday at the same time you get up on your workdays, you've missed the point of a 4 day week.
Ehm.. No they haven't! The point is to have more free time, it's nobody's business what they do with it. If they want to get up early and do their taxes, that might be just as precious to them as sleeping in is to you.
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wow. If i was the partner, i would feel really betrayed and lied to if/when I found out. Its fine & understandable to want a "me" day but a weekly "secret" day is not to hide from your partner.
I think this is not a great strategy; hide it from most people but not from your life partner. Lying in your relationship can cause major trust issues.
I'd suggest you at least let your partner know. You could plan some time together, or at least avoid a nasty scene when they find out.
Umm I've been married for 22 years and this wouldn't fly with me if you want a day to yourself say so, don't sneak WTF?
Exactly. A "partner" would respect and value your "me time" because they care about you. Hopefully this person does some soul-searching during their "me time" and decides if they really want a partner or need to break things off. It's not looking good.
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Sir just be single. It’s your truth you’re denying that makes you untrustworthy. Don’t tell anyone hut it’s the BEST, no lies needed.
Isnt he going to notice when pay checks roll in 10 hours short? Since he thinks she's working 50 hours a week
Tuesday thru Friday and everyone still thinks I work 6d a week!!!
My days are 3-5 depending… I really wish I’d have kept it quiet
Plot twist. The partner works four days a week Tuesday to Friday.
Over the years, I've invented night classes, volunteer jobs, and other weekly excuses to have time alone. Never got caught. That would've been awkward.
I do this and when people want to schedule with me on one of "my" days, I tell them, "I'm sorry, but I already have an appointment on that day." No one knows, and they always respect it.
thats not really cool. you just lied to everyone including your Partner just do have one more free day, while she is doing all the obligations. then better stay alone if you dont want that.
On Malcolm in the Middle, Hal's bosses framed him for a bunch of business crimes. In court they showed a bunch of photos of him taking bribes etc, all date stamped on Fridays. Hal told Malcolm that they all had to be fake. Why? "I haven't gone to work on a Friday in fifteen years!" He had a trunk full of souvenirs from all the places he went on Fridays when he was supposed to be working. Acquitted. Then he had to tell his wife.
Done this, highly recommend it. Had to fake a couple of sick day when partner came back home from work early though 😆
That was my plan! I'm so happy that there are others on this planet who've done it ha!
Well you told him. It on him should of listened sometimes that is what it takes and you can have a laugh about it
Shame on you! Think of all the jobs you're stealing from people with REAL interpretive dance degrees! :)
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Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
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I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
Load More Replies... I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
