People Are Telling Their Darkest Secrets To This Twitter Account, And Here Are 50 Of Their Juiciest Confessions (New Answers)
There's a Twitter account (that can now also be found on Facebook) which offers people the chance to anonymously reveal their secrets, and with 535K followers, it has become a viral online sensation.
Titled Fesshole, the account is the brainchild of Rob Manuel. Those of you that are well-versed in internet culture might know him from creating 'B3ta', a meme design website that famously sued Coca-Cola after they ripped off one of its viral animations for a TV ad.
Anyway, the "sins" on Fesshole range from the clumsily awkward (messing up a handshake) to the hilariously outrageous (hiring someone because they share your love for pro-wrestling), and, I guess, their popularity shows that in the age of social detachment, a little gossip can go a long way.
Continue scrolling to check out Fesshole's latest content, and don't miss out on the chat we had about secrets with Dr. Michael Slepian, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School, spread out in between the pictures.
However, if you go through the entire thing and your curiosity wants more, fire up our earlier publication on Fesshole.
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I see nothing wrong with this at all. They wouldn't take care of her give her to someone that can and will
To begin with, Dr. Slepian said when we keep a secret, we often mean to protect something. "Perhaps we believe that it protects our reputation, or our relationship with someone. And yet, our secrets tend to harm our well-being, and can harm our relationships too," the author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are told Bored Panda.
"When we choose to be alone with something, especially something important, we tend not to develop the healthiest way of thinking about it. It often takes another person to get the help that we need. Even a short conversation with a trusted person can offer so much. Emotional support and fresh perspectives can easily be offered by your confidant, but are hard to find on your own. This is why we often want to bring others in. We know that another person can prove helpful, and that having a conversation about the secret would be a healthy thing to do. To have a secret from everyone is to be alone with that thing, and we don't like to be alone. Your desire for help and social connection is in battle with your fear of how others will respond. When we let fear win, we hold the secret tight."
I had a 6 year old foster kid who was obsessed with wanting glasses like her older sister. Alas, she didn’t need them. :/ While her older sister walked around trying on various frames for her new glasses, she was trying to be supportive. I couldn’t bare to see her disappointed, so I told her to pick out whatever frames she also wanted. She was over-the-moon elated! We bought her “glasses” as-is without a prescription… just a clear lens. They were a hideous pink cat eye style. She wore them EVERYWHERE! And anytime she would get complimented on them, she’d tally up those compliments, “See? Another compliment!” It was ridiculously cute! :)
I always want to ask Alexa to end the simulation {like the Matrix} but don't. I'm afraid if it does life might be worst then it is.
With Edy Moulton-Tetlock, a doctoral student in management studying organizational behavior, Dr. Slepian asked more than 800 online participants to describe their personal secrets, using his list of 38 common categories of secrets as their guide.
The participants described more than 10,000 secrets, including both those they had shared with someone ("confided secrets") and the ones they had kept all to themselves ("total secrets").
The data revealed that confiding a secret predicted improved well-being. That's because the participant received social support and because the act of revealing the secret seemed to minimize the amount of time the person spent thinking about it.
Dr. Slepian's research suggests that someone who is more secretive tends to be less extraverted and less emotionally stable, but more conscientious.
However, we also need to be aware of what it means to be "unloaded" on.
"When another person confides in us, this can be a boon but also a burden. When someone trusts us to the point of revealing a secret, we understand this is an act of intimacy, and often feel closer to the person as a result."
And yet, Dr. Slepian explained that if the secret is something we find troubling or surprising, we might find our thoughts returning to it again and again.
"The secret can weigh on our mind. And if the secret implicates someone you know, then you'll have to keep the secret from them, which will bring its own burden," he added.
While Dr. Slepian thinks it's possible for people to live like an open book, sharing everything with the world, he wouldn't advise it.
"There is a class of secrets that most everyone agrees is okay to keep. People often call these 'white lies,'" he clarified. "If you are just arriving at the party, and your friend asks you how their outfit looks, but it is too late to change, then most people agree that saying something positive is the kinder response ('You look great!'). If the truth needlessly hurts someone's feelings, holding back is often the more compassionate choice."
I don't like the taste of beer, wine or spirits, I'm more than happy with a soft drink or juice. I've done it to stop people asking "but whyyyyyyy?" I don't drink and "just try this one".
There's no exact formula that tells Rob Manuel which submissions he needs to feature on Fesshole. His choices are based on simply going through the list and reading them. Everything depends on his judgment of what he thinks is funny or interesting. So if you send Rob something and it doesn't appear on the account, don't sweat it. There are other online "priests" you can share your secrets with. Like the subreddit r/confessions.
This is why I have a Furbo camera… so I can talk to my animals. My cat is too smart! When he wants my attention… he triggers the camera, so I’ll check on him and have a little chat with him. :)
My brother-in-law, who is a right know it all, fitted his fridge freezer into his kitchen work tops. For years my sister-in-law complained nothing was ever cold and the freezer took an eternity to do basic freezing......he'd left the Styrofoam encasing the whole of the back.
I need to take a pic of the stove knobs on off.
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When I go out I check the door several times, walk away. At that point my brain forgets I have locked the door so go back and check again
Oh my god! I am not exaggerating, this is so me. I have done same back and forth lock check with car as well; throw in making sure all windows are pulled up in the mix, all as in all four windows. I have to physically touch all four glass right under top rim of car window couple rounds while muttering ‘up’ before my brain will register. When I lock doors, I have to mutter “locked” while turning the key and while pressing lock button for car. It's really a curse.
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I went away for a weekend and left the front door wide open. There was a screen door but otherwise nothing to seal the house.
They don't have memory cards big enough to film everything my wife thinks we've not done before leaving the house ;o)
I like that. I always go to every burner on the stove saying to myself, “off, off, off, off.” And still ask my husband if everything is off. We leave our cat home with a friend who comes over, but I worry about my fur daughter.
Whenever there’s a risk I’ll get anxious like that, I have a short conversation with myself before walking away: “ is this door locked? Yes. Is there any chance that I didn’t check it properly? Not a chance. Here’s a message for future me: this door is locked. Coming back to check it won’t make a difference, so F off.”
That's an excellent idea. When I was having an anxious spell awhile back I noted the date and time of my locking the door in a notebook. It served the same purpose - not many cellphones back then.
I'm like this on the rare occasions I iron something. When I've finished I have a little conversation with myself: "Now I've unplugged the iron. Now I've draped the power cord across the ironing board where it can't possibly be plugged in." Takes away the autopilot fear. Did I unplug the iron and just not remember? Maybe I left it plugged in?
That is a common fear ("Did L unplug the iron? Turn off the stove?") It's related to anxiety about your destination. The fear that you have forgotten something dangerous acts as a "tug" to pull you back home again -- theoretically, to check the house out, but really to avoid the stress or anxiety associated with your destination. So check yourself out to see what is making you anxious about going to your destination. It's better to resolve that problem by facing it head on.
This is crazy. If you get to a point where you have to film yourself and still gets confused, you should get a MRI and a doctor. This is not normal
I have a smart door lock with the touchpad. It was not expensive at all and it works with Wi-Fi so I can use an app on my phone to lock and unlock the door from anywhere. I can also check the status to see if it is currently locked or not.
Generalized Anxiety means I make up nightmare scenarios and then stress over them. Completely bizarre.
Excellent idea! I could have done that with my thermostat. Now it's on my phone.
I read something once, after you lock the door, do something unusual every time (the same thing every time though) like whistle or tap or something. You may not remember locking the door, but you'll likely remember doing the thing you did after locking the door.
I went away on holiday once and the whole time I was there I was convinced I had forgotten to turn my alarm clock off, electric clock radio....I sleep deep so I have it really really loud ( I had woken up from excitement before it went off). It was a relief to open the door when I returned to silence.
I take pictures of my hair straightners and iron after I've turned them off so that I don't panic that I've left them on when I'm out.
This is also good for other things you may panic you forgot to do, like turning off the oven knobs, filling pets food and water dishes, blowing out any candles, unplugging your curling iron, etc.. just take a pic or quick video on your way out the door.
What a absolutely great idea ..I always think I've left something on xx
oh I saw that in a magazine! They recommended taking a picture doing all the things you usually worry about, like adjusting the thermostat or turning the stove off or leaving the doors locked etc etc etc.
I find saying it out loud helps me remember. For example " I have turned the iron off "
Do You Film Unplugging The Iron Too ? ( I Know--"What's An Iron? " )
Totally doing this. Video myself turning everything off and locking all the cars & house up
Well you told him. It on him should of listened sometimes that is what it takes and you can have a laugh about it
Shame on you! Think of all the jobs you're stealing from people with REAL interpretive dance degrees! :)
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Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
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I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
Load More Replies... I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
