People Are Telling Their Darkest Secrets To This Twitter Account, And Here Are 50 Of Their Juiciest Confessions (New Answers)
There's a Twitter account (that can now also be found on Facebook) which offers people the chance to anonymously reveal their secrets, and with 535K followers, it has become a viral online sensation.
Titled Fesshole, the account is the brainchild of Rob Manuel. Those of you that are well-versed in internet culture might know him from creating 'B3ta', a meme design website that famously sued Coca-Cola after they ripped off one of its viral animations for a TV ad.
Anyway, the "sins" on Fesshole range from the clumsily awkward (messing up a handshake) to the hilariously outrageous (hiring someone because they share your love for pro-wrestling), and, I guess, their popularity shows that in the age of social detachment, a little gossip can go a long way.
Continue scrolling to check out Fesshole's latest content, and don't miss out on the chat we had about secrets with Dr. Michael Slepian, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School, spread out in between the pictures.
However, if you go through the entire thing and your curiosity wants more, fire up our earlier publication on Fesshole.
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I see nothing wrong with this at all. They wouldn't take care of her give her to someone that can and will
To begin with, Dr. Slepian said when we keep a secret, we often mean to protect something. "Perhaps we believe that it protects our reputation, or our relationship with someone. And yet, our secrets tend to harm our well-being, and can harm our relationships too," the author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are told Bored Panda.
"When we choose to be alone with something, especially something important, we tend not to develop the healthiest way of thinking about it. It often takes another person to get the help that we need. Even a short conversation with a trusted person can offer so much. Emotional support and fresh perspectives can easily be offered by your confidant, but are hard to find on your own. This is why we often want to bring others in. We know that another person can prove helpful, and that having a conversation about the secret would be a healthy thing to do. To have a secret from everyone is to be alone with that thing, and we don't like to be alone. Your desire for help and social connection is in battle with your fear of how others will respond. When we let fear win, we hold the secret tight."
I had a 6 year old foster kid who was obsessed with wanting glasses like her older sister. Alas, she didn’t need them. :/ While her older sister walked around trying on various frames for her new glasses, she was trying to be supportive. I couldn’t bare to see her disappointed, so I told her to pick out whatever frames she also wanted. She was over-the-moon elated! We bought her “glasses” as-is without a prescription… just a clear lens. They were a hideous pink cat eye style. She wore them EVERYWHERE! And anytime she would get complimented on them, she’d tally up those compliments, “See? Another compliment!” It was ridiculously cute! :)
I always want to ask Alexa to end the simulation {like the Matrix} but don't. I'm afraid if it does life might be worst then it is.
With Edy Moulton-Tetlock, a doctoral student in management studying organizational behavior, Dr. Slepian asked more than 800 online participants to describe their personal secrets, using his list of 38 common categories of secrets as their guide.
The participants described more than 10,000 secrets, including both those they had shared with someone ("confided secrets") and the ones they had kept all to themselves ("total secrets").
The data revealed that confiding a secret predicted improved well-being. That's because the participant received social support and because the act of revealing the secret seemed to minimize the amount of time the person spent thinking about it.
Dr. Slepian's research suggests that someone who is more secretive tends to be less extraverted and less emotionally stable, but more conscientious.
However, we also need to be aware of what it means to be "unloaded" on.
"When another person confides in us, this can be a boon but also a burden. When someone trusts us to the point of revealing a secret, we understand this is an act of intimacy, and often feel closer to the person as a result."
And yet, Dr. Slepian explained that if the secret is something we find troubling or surprising, we might find our thoughts returning to it again and again.
"The secret can weigh on our mind. And if the secret implicates someone you know, then you'll have to keep the secret from them, which will bring its own burden," he added.
While Dr. Slepian thinks it's possible for people to live like an open book, sharing everything with the world, he wouldn't advise it.
"There is a class of secrets that most everyone agrees is okay to keep. People often call these 'white lies,'" he clarified. "If you are just arriving at the party, and your friend asks you how their outfit looks, but it is too late to change, then most people agree that saying something positive is the kinder response ('You look great!'). If the truth needlessly hurts someone's feelings, holding back is often the more compassionate choice."
I don't like the taste of beer, wine or spirits, I'm more than happy with a soft drink or juice. I've done it to stop people asking "but whyyyyyyy?" I don't drink and "just try this one".
There's no exact formula that tells Rob Manuel which submissions he needs to feature on Fesshole. His choices are based on simply going through the list and reading them. Everything depends on his judgment of what he thinks is funny or interesting. So if you send Rob something and it doesn't appear on the account, don't sweat it. There are other online "priests" you can share your secrets with. Like the subreddit r/confessions.
This is why I have a Furbo camera… so I can talk to my animals. My cat is too smart! When he wants my attention… he triggers the camera, so I’ll check on him and have a little chat with him. :)
My brother-in-law, who is a right know it all, fitted his fridge freezer into his kitchen work tops. For years my sister-in-law complained nothing was ever cold and the freezer took an eternity to do basic freezing......he'd left the Styrofoam encasing the whole of the back.
I can relate. My husband thinks he has a refined palate or something. He likes Frosted Mini Wheats, which were kind of pricey when we were first starting out and didn’t have much. I asked him if he’d try the bottom shelf generic version, which are a half to a third of the price of the name brand, and he launched into a whole monologue about how the cheaper ones taste different, aren’t nearly as good quality, and that he can immediately tell the difference. I knew he was chock full of s**t when he said it, because I had ALREADY been buying the generic version for a MONTH, and he had been gobbling them up the same as he did with the name brand (we use the plastic cereal containers, so all I had to do was just be sure to hide the box and make sure to put it under other stuff in the garbage can). We’ve been married 21 years now, I’ve done the same substitution with other brand name food, and he has yet to notice the difference.
I've tried and not had luck with the off brand frosted mini wheats.. They always barely have any frosting 😂
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My son hated carrotts but loved "la purée orange" ( mashed carrotts)
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Soon we'll read: "My wife makes lentils at least twice a week. I pretend to love them even though I hate them. She calls them beans as she knows I hate lentils. I can't tell her the truth now as she always smiles when I enjoy my super healthy lentil meal"
My dad grew up in a "meat and potatoes family" and that's also how my mom cooked. He remarried after she passed. His 2nd wife, in an attempt to keep him around as long as possible, bought a book on how to sneak veggies - mostly chopped very fine or pureed- into other foods. It's a parenting a book for cooking for young children 😋. Shhhhh. . . he still doesn't know
Same with vegan stuff sometimes. I told some guy friends I was making a vegan mac and cheese for a get-together, they groaned, so I didn't make it. A year later, same group, I just brought mac and cheese and didn't tell them it's vegan. They loved it, ate the entire pot.
Hehe that's awesome. I can imagine it was delicious. Speaking of hidden vegan food: Nowadays there are many tasty vegan products available, compared to 15-20 years ago!! I've tried veganballs, burger, pretend chicken etc... And they even often come fortified with iron and B12. I'm really happy about it. Just wish they were cheaper :P
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My partner hates asparagus and I make them weekly. He eats them. I do it as revenge because he puts mayo on my sandwich knowing I dont like mayo. It's funny because I think we have the same revenge plan.
More likely he puts mayo on out of habit and has no idea why you keep giving him a veggie he doesn't like.
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I do the same with onions. One of my sons hates onions. I just mince them so fine in the food processor, sauté them, and cook them in the food. He doesn’t even know the onions are there.
It's not really onions people dislike, it's the texture. So it makes sense that if you can't feel them, they taste just fine.
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When I was a kid, my mother would throw whatever yellow root veggies she had into the stew. She told my father it was all turnip, because he hated carrots. She told my sister and I it was all carrots, because we hated turnip. Everyone was happy.
Reminds me of my father--to his dying day he thought he didn't like onions. My mother knew he actually liked them in small quantities. If he could identify onion it was too much, but adding a little bit would make him rate the food higher.
Rebranding. Works on toddlers, too. My son wouldn't try the meat patties I cooked, but he loved the "meat biscuits." He also really enjoyed "tofu cake."
I just keep thinking how much it seems as if more women than men are still doing the cooking and menu decision making. Crazy. I like cooking, but I won't make menu choices for both of us. We make shopping lists and menu plans together. Unless one of us sees something inspiring on TV/media or something, it's a team decision.
I have had screaming arguments with family over them trying to sneak mushrooms into my food then insisting that they haven't. Dinner has gone across the room more than once. Shouldn't I be allowed to choose what I eat?
For throwing food... You seem like a baby. If You don't like what you're served, make your own damn food!
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He will never know kinda like people who hate onions oh yeah guess what that had onions this had onions.
I like the flavor of onions. I can't handle the texture. I either make them big enough I can pick around them, use powder, or make a paste. I WILL be able to tell there are onions in my food and I Will throw up.
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In addition to the tomatoes, onions, peppers & garlic, I put finely grated carrots & zucchini in my Spaghetti Bolognese. He has no idea I've been doing this to him for 14 years.
My FIL hates mayo, my MIL has used mayo on certain veggies for years and he's been none the wiser. At family dinners, we give each other a lil smirk when he eats it.
Sorry, but as a person with Autism, who has sensory problems with most food, I really don't like this! People shouldn't be tricked into eating something they don't like or can't eat! If he eats other healthy things to keep his balance it's totally okay to not like lentils! This is manipulative and shouldn't be applauded!
Well you told him. It on him should of listened sometimes that is what it takes and you can have a laugh about it
Shame on you! Think of all the jobs you're stealing from people with REAL interpretive dance degrees! :)
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Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
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I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
Load More Replies... I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
