“People Who Caught Their Significant Others Cheating, How Did You Do That? And What Was Your Reaction?”
InterviewCheating is probably the biggest offense your significant other could ever commit. Whether you discover the secret by accidentally reading a text or catching them red-handed, there's no good way to learn that your most beloved person has been disloyal. Not to mention that experiencing such betrayal usually leaves you with a whirlwind of emotions and a broken heart.
So when pugsarelife2 asked the men and women of Reddit who caught their SOs cheating to share their stories, the answers flooded in. More than 14.9K people started telling how they found out that their partner had been unfaithful, and its equal parts hurtful and infuriating.
Prepare yourself for some of the most heart-wrenching stories Bored Panda has collected from this thread. Continue scrolling and share your thoughts and experiences with us in the comments below.
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I found a used condom on the bathroom floor.
I just emailed him a 30 day end of tenancy notice. (I own the house.)
I looked at his phone when it went off and saw it was a young girl. Typical conversation like “hey how was your day? Haven’t seen you in a while” sort of stuff. When he came back and I asked him, he blew up and began yelling at me that I was invading his space and he has a right to talk to whomever he wants. He ran out and deleted the messages. I followed and asked if that was his dealer since I thought he was planning to relapse on heroin. He was still super defensive and began arguing with me in front of his sister and her bf so I got up and left.
This went on for a few weeks and I just wanted us to go back to normal. He admitted he cheated and all I wanted was an apology. Our final phone conversation was me saying, “Please just apologize. You don’t even have to mean it, I just want us back together again!” (Mind you, I was NOT in a good place emotionally and self esteem wise.) Divine intervention must have struck me because his response was, “I’m an alpha male, and alpha males do what they want.” And I was so blown away by how far I’d fallen in respecting myself that my first thought was, “Well you alpha single now.”
I do regret looking at his phone, but I don’t regret that it pushed me out of a failing relationship. 3 years later I’m in bed next to my man, replying to a reddit post about a long ago mistake. When we get up, we’re gonna make waffles.
While a broken heart can trigger a variety of negative emotions, it can also lead to feeling completely lost. When trying to understand why this happened and where did things go wrong, people often end up blaming themselves for these unfortunate circumstances.
Being cheated on is a painful and shocking experience, still many couples (yes, even the happiest ones) face it quite often. What causes people to stray from their loved ones and have an affair in the first place?
A 2017 study revealed that there are many distinct factors that motivate relationship infidelities. Researchers used an online survey to ask 495 young adults who self-reported their infidelities to provide the reasons why they cheated.
A friend of mine was suspicious of her husband cheating, as he went to "play soccer with friends" way too often. He always came already showered as he would sweat playing. One day she sewed his soccer socks toghether, and when he came back all showered she saw the socks were still sewed, so he wasn't playing soccer at all.
I was in the Navy and was out on deployment for 6 months after just recently getting engaged (it's one of those stupid things that young military guys do). One day i get a letter from my fiance's best friend telling me that she caught my fiancee and her BF together (this was years before email and smartphones were common). We write back and forth several times and eventually it comes out how she caught them, how my fiancee begged her not to tell me, and that the fiancee didn't know that we were corresponding.
I eventually get back to the States and planned to play it off as though I didn't know, but too many of my friends intercepted me with the news that is wasn't just the one guy, but several, and let me know that she knew that I was aware. Eventually we met, and the confrontation was minimal and tame. We broke off the engagement without a lot of drama - she kept the ring.
The best friend and I ended up hooking up, at first as sort of a revenge-f*ck kinda thing, but turned serious.
We celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary this year.
In addition to previous research indicating that dissatisfaction, neglect, anger, and sexual desire are key motivations for infidelity, the data from this study revealed additional factors: "Lack of love ('I had 'fallen out of love with' my primary partner'), low commitment ('I was not very committed to my primary partner')."
Plus, "esteem ('I wanted to enhance my popularity'), gaining sexual variety ... and situational factors ('I was drunk and not thinking clearly')." Of course, these factors don’t explain every single case when a partner has cheated but they help us understand why people choose to do it.
We reached out to Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., Ph.D., a professor in the Department of Psychology at Monmouth University and the author of Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship…and How to See Past Them. He was kind enough to share some insights about infidelity and its effects.
I owned a house with my fiancé. I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn’t in bed. I went searching. His truck and another vehicle were in the driveway. Then, I went upstairs and found the guest bedroom was locked. After barging my way in... I found him with another woman in bed. That bed happened to be my childhood bed. He forced me out of the room... literally grabbed me by the neck and pushed me out and closed the door back. I knew I couldn’t do anything at that point, so I called his parents who lived a few blocks away. His dad showed up and another fight broke out. I ended up leaving and staying at his parents until dawn. I moved out that weekend and let the house foreclose. 9 years later.. it’s finally off my credit report, I’m happily married to an amazing man and we own a beautiful home together.
I caught my wife after she passed away from cancer. Worst feeling ever. Caught between unending love, mourning and absolute anger.
While discussing the reactions people have when they witness the disloyalty of their loved ones, the professor said that it’s impossible to plan an ideal response since "cheating feels like the ultimate betrayal."
"The emotions are just too raw," he explained. "That said, though it may initially feel better to be vengeful, individuals rarely look back at those reactions favorably. Though difficult, it’s better to take the high road and be thankful that you got out of a relationship with a person like that (you dodged a bullet)."
Lewandowski thinks that people who are sharing their stories with others can truly benefit from it: "There is a lot of research showing the benefits of writing about traumatic experiences."
We got married when I was 17, and he was 21. He was shipping off to sea, and I was escaping a bad home life.
When he came back after his deployment, he wasn't the same person anymore. After about 6 months, he gained weight on purpose to fail his physicals so he'd get kicked out of the Navy.
Fast forward a year, I'm working full time, and he is sitting at home, watching anime and drinking during the day, and telling me that he "was applying to jobs".
I was applying to universities when my laptop died on me. I asked to use his to finish an app, and while doing so a message popped up on his FB.
A topless pic of his ex, from her. I was shocked and opened it to find that they'd been dating for a loooong time (started again while he was at sea in the Navy, he would talk to her and never to me, saying that he never got the time to email).
She had sent him a pic because he had said how he missed having big tits like hers to play with, and how mine were just too small so he felt like he was f*cking a boy or a child.
I confronted him, he made a bunch of pitiful excuses. I had my friends come to the house that day and kick him out while I went to work.
He then stalked me for the next few years, and made posts on his FB about how I was a coward, he sent emails and called from blocked numbers to tell me that "a restraining order is just a piece of paper" or that 'our vows before God made me his property' and sh*t like that.
Then he bought a gun, and started telling our friends that "if he cant have me no one can".
I ended up talking to our friends, and told everyone conflicting information about where I was going, and moved states. I deleted all my personal social media accounts and lived in fear for years, watching him continually make memes about how he loved his wife and would do anything for her.
It took 8 years for me to finally get the divorce from him.
I found out he had signed up for a bunch of apps. Such as Ashley Madison, Tinder, and Bumble. He would messages mutual acquaintances asking if they’d be up for massages, etc.
I blamed myself for years that he wasn’t interested in sex with me because I’d had a baby and gained a little weight. Nope. He just enjoyed contacting other woman for sex more..
We’re in the middle of our divorce now. He doesn’t understand why I’m wrecking our marriage because of a few indiscretions.
"By writing, individuals are able to process their emotions more thoroughly and see the situation from a new perspective. It’s a cathartic process that lends greater objectivity. Writing about painful experiences like this can be difficult, but it’s worthwhile."
If you’re thinking about how to overcome the pain, he said that "it’s important to realize that a partner’s infidelity says more about who they are as a person, than it does about you."
My first long-term girlfriend and I were going to go to the same college. I got accepted, but had to start the semester after she did meaning we would be slightly long-distance for a few months.
It wasn't too bad because we were only about 2 hours apart so it was pretty easy to visit, but our relationship did struggle a bit. I remember one night I got a phone call from her and when I picked up it was obvious it was a butt dial. I could hear her talking to some guy, but couldn't make out what they were saying. I called her and she picked up and I asked what was up? She said she was in bed about to go sleep. I told her about the butt dial and she said it was her friend Jack, who I had met, asking to borrow something. I thought it was odd but brushed it off.
A couple weeks later I was up there visiting her and I met a bunch of cool people, including this guy Luke. After I got back from visiting I get a Facebook message from him saying, "Look man I hate to be the one to say this, but I think you're an awesome guy and you don't deserve this to be happening to you. She's been cheating on you with this guy pretty soon after she started here."
I was devastated, but I had to hear it from her, so I called her and said, "Are you cheating on me?" She gave a heavy sigh and said, "Well, at least I don't have to lie anymore." That guy's voice I had heard wasn't Jack, it was the guy she was cheating on me with, I just trusted her so much that I took her word for it.
Even though it was painful, I was grateful for Luke sending me that message. What's funny is that most of the people I met up there that were her friends sided with me after the break up, so when I started going there that next semester I had a group of friends to support me and most of them are still very close friends of mine to this day.
that sucks. But great to see he found lifetime friends instead :).
My ex husband and his family smoked a lot of pot, still do. His sister, kids, and nanny were visiting from out of state for a few weeks. When it was time to fly home they left their stash at my ex MILs house because they didn’t want to take it on the plane. My ex asked if I would pick it up because I was nearby. Stupidly I agree. I don’t smoke and I was willing to carry it in my car for him. To my surprise I found a note from the nanny to my ex saying she was in love with him and she was so happy for the time they had together. Obviously she thought he would get the weed instead of me. While it was incredibly painful at the time I am definitely living my best life 15 years later.
Sometimes it may seem like the biggest heartbreak of your life but in the end you're in a better place and away from what could have been a really bad relationship.
According to Lewandowski, being cheated on is a serious violation of trust but you should not let the effects linger into your future relationships: "The natural reaction may be to close yourself off and put up walls so that your next partner can’t possibly hurt you in the same way."
"But doing so also robs you of experiencing all the best parts of being in love. Get back out there, be vulnerable, trust again, and find the great relationship you deserve," he added.
He broke up with me after 8 years together, seemingly out of nowhere (I look back and see the signs now). He told me I was the cause of his severe depression, I had no clue he was even suferring with mental health issues. Obviously I carried a huge amount of guilt knowing I was the reason someone didn't want to be alive and took the break up really rough.
Our cell phones were on the same bill and it would get sent in the mail. 3 months after we broke up I had the thought to check through the calls list, there was a number he was calling at all hours of the day/night every day. Decided to look back through previous bills from when we were together and sure enough same number and same volume of calls as far as 6 months prior to our break up. Called the number and a woman answered. Confronted him and he fessed up. I had a very hard time processing the fact the someone I trusted for 8 years would purposely make me feel like I was an awful human, when it was actually him all along.
The husband of one of the women he was cheating on me with called me at work. At first I didn't believe him and hung up. How could the man i spent the past 8 years with,had 2 beautiful babies with, suffered together the loss of one of those children do something so hurtful?? Still a part of me had doubt. He had affairs in other relationships and we had a rocky patch early in the beginning where I suspected an affair but didn't have proof. I told my boss I felt sick and had to leave early and I called this guy back and found out that my ex and his wife along with one of their friends were all sleeping together for about a year. He had confronted my ex and told him that he was going to tell me but my ex convinced him to wait a month since my mother had just died. I took my time coming home and confronted him and told him to pack and leave. Since I've pieced together a lot of what happened and all the lies he told me where if I was in a different headspace I might have caught on to the affairs earlier. I also found videos hidden on one of our computers and found out he was having bootycalls in our apartment while I was at work and he was watching our daughter. At that point it put the headstone on any possibility of reconciliation.
June 1, 2018. Normal day. A Friday. My husband had kissed me goodbye and gone to work. I was cleaning the house for company who was coming to stay the weekend. The doorbell rang. There was a man at my door who introduced himself as the husband of a woman who my husband worked with. He was there to tell me that my husband and his wife were having an affair. He had busted them about six months prior and had told his wife that she had to end the affair. He thinks that she did end it...for about three months, but then they started up again. When he found out they were at it again, he called my husband (because he knew if he confronted him in person, he'd be in a jail cell for what he'd have done). On the phone, he told my husband to leave his wife alone or else he would come and tell me everything that was happening. Apparently, my husband thought that he was bluffing.
So I was literally the last to know. My husband never came home again. He got an air b'n'b and a lawyer. The divorce was December 21, 2018. We had been together for 24 years. Still hurts.
The story is remarkable in that it happened before the internet was widely available, in the very early 90’s, when the world seemed much bigger.
My fiancé (Meg) had one semester left of college that had to be taken as an internship abroad for her major. She chose to go to Belgium for this internship. I stayed back & the plan was that I would set up house & when she returned that summer, she would move directly in & we would set a date for our wedding. So, while Meg was off in Europe, calling every couple of weeks to check in, (the long distance was super expensive back then) sending me postcards & letters, I moved in to a brownstone, bought furniture, etc...
About a two weeks before Meg was supposed to return, I stopped in to a nearby coffee house that I had noticed down the block, but had yet to visit. To my surprise, I found that my neighbor from growing up in a completely different city, Claire, was a waitress there. We hadn’t seen each other since high school, so we made a plan to meet up after her shift for a cup of coffee to catch up. We met & Claire told me that she was engaged as well, to a man, Ben, who was completing his course of study by working on an internship in...you guessed it, Belgium. I couldn’t believe the coincidence, & told her about my fiancé, & that they HAD to know each other. Crazy, right?
A couple days later, I stopped in for a cup of coffee & Claire looked extremely upset. She asked if I had time to wait, as she had a break coming up, & that she needed to talk to me. We went outside & she told me that she had gotten a call from her Aunt Sue the day before. Aunt Sue had just returned from Czechoslovakia, & that something very strange had happened. While they were touring Prague, Sue & her travel group had stayed in a local hotel & the next morning she had run into Claire’s fiancé, Ben, in the lobby...with a female companion by the name of Meg. She said that he introduced her as a student from America, that they worked together, but it was very awkward & they both looked scared sh*tless.
Claire said that she immediately called long distance to Belgium, & after several tries over the course of a day or so, got him on the phone. She asked him about the chance encounter & he said he had been kind of expecting her call, & ended up admitting that he had been seeing Meg pretty much the entire time they were in Europe, spending weekends & holidays traveling around with each other. I was floored. Couldn’t believe it.
I went home & started trying to call Meg at her dorm in Belgium, finally getting through to her late into the night, early morning for her. I point blank asked her if she was dating Ben. I didn’t even explain how I knew about it. She hemmed & hawed for a moment, kind of acting like I was crazy for saying something so nonsensical, but when I said that I knew Claire, she dropped the facade & admitted to all of it.
So Ben & Meg had a very bittersweet homecoming. Meg got off much easier than Ben, as Claire had already left all of his belongings on the front lawn, from the day she found out, which had been pretty picked over by the time he got back two weeks later. I did pick Meg up from the airport, I think at the time I really just wanted to see her face when I told her that all of our friends knew what a piece of sh*t she was, & that I never wanted to see her again.
To this day I revel in how many utterly astounding factors of complete random coincidence went in to Meg & Ben (who later married, then later divorced after he cheated on her) being caught. The universe works in incredible & mysterious ways.
Was anyone else hoping that the OP and Claire got together in the end?
4yrs ago I was dating a girl who became distant and disinterested in a lot of things we both enjoyed together. Despite attempts to talk about it, she only grew more distant then became less available to hang out and suddenly was working late a lot. I started getting suspicious about cheating when she was on her phone nonstop. Again I tried to talk about it but she wouldn't engage. She also just didn't want to break up with me for whatever reason.
I was actually going to end it on my own, but one weekend when she was seemingly unavailable, some mutual friends told me they spotted her with a dude from her work and they were all over each other. Coincidentally, she had also lent me her ipad and it was synced to her phone so I saw lots of texts between those two over that weekend. They were talking about running away together, etc.
He was married and her supervisor. Mutual friends were also composed of her coworkers and reported them to HR. They were both forced to do training on not sleeping with coworkers, they were both denied promotion, his wife left him, and she moved overseas.
Sucked at the time, I was devastated, but karma got them good.
This is almost word for word how the convo went:
Me: you sleeping with so and so Her: yea Me: wanna divorce? Her: kinda Me: ok I’ll file tomorrow
He went to Hawaii for a business trip without his wife and kids. Like a good wife, I packed his clothes before he left and unpacked his dirty laundry when he returned home. I found a tiny pair of white cotton panties (no lace) in his suitcase. He had recently dropped a lot of weight (>100 lbs) and played it off that he had bought them for himself .... they had no label and were simple bikinis so theoretically could have been men's as well. It did sort of explain the pretty brunette that followed him off the plane at the airport and kept looking at my kids and I at the luggage carousel (what an ass to make his side piece come face to face with his wife and kids). I made sure he wore those panties at least once a week for the remaining few months we were together (I set out his clothes everyday and he couldn't protest).
Very unhealthy relationship. He was emotionally very abusive and I was in a terrible place with my mental health.
I found out at the ultrasound to determine the gender of our child. He was late and I was noodling on Facebook waiting to be called.
He was tagged in some photos in my news feed from a gig he’d been at on the previous weekend. Random lass was in all the photos of him and they were all over each other. Also they were making out in the background of one photo.
He turned up after I was called in. While the technician was printing the images I told him I knew. He went off and on about how I was making it up, he’d never do that, obviously I was lying to compensate for cheating on him and so on. When I pointed out there were photos he stormed out and left me there.
My Dad had turned up during the appointment (anticipating that he’d react badly if we were having a girl, which he did, that was scattered through the cheating denials) and took me home.
I considered us broken up at that point and stopped all contact except texts related to the pregnancy.
Mostly I was relieved. I had concrete evidence that it wasn’t in my head and I finally managed to escape that relationship.
My (now ex) husband demanded constant access to all of my social media and cell phone messages and was constantly accusing me of cheating even though he had no reason to think I would do that. I had nothing to hide. Never even thought of cheating. I was watching our young kids 24-7 and didn't even have transportation since he "accidentally" totalled my car. One day I handed over my phone for him to check for other men and asked to see his. He hesitated but then handed it over. There was a long, sexual, text history with one of the teenage girls who works for him. He tells me he's in love with her and wants her to move in with us. I was in total shock, dropped his phone cracking it. He retaliated by breaking my laptop. He's a wonderful man and I miss him every day sarcasm
This is getting more common, with thrupples becoming acceptable in some places. Good the OP didn't give in.
My ex husband was sleeping with his best friend’s wife while I was 8 months pregnant, it had been going on for a while.
I was 8 months pregnant with our second child at the time and he wanted to go visit his brother for the weekend. I asked my doctor if it was safe for me to travel and she said it would be fine. I told my husband I could go but he said he was really hoping to just have some time with his brother, I understood because a new baby really makes it hard to spend quality time but I asked if he could take our older son (3yo at the time) so he could see his grandma and cousins. He said they were planning on drinking and whatnot and wasn’t sure it would be a good idea. (They’re country boys so think shooting, drinking and whatnot) I agreed and he left for the weekend. After he left I get a call from his best friend telling me that he’ll be in town for the weekend and he wanted to meet up, not weird he called me because my husband was terrible at answering his phone. I told him unfortunately my husband was visiting back home, bad timing. His best friend then said ok, I’m going to call you back. And hung up very abruptly. Turns out my husband and his wife had been caught by him a few months previously and he gave them a chance to make it right...I don’t know why. He didn’t tell me but threatened to if they didn’t stop. Well, they didn’t stop and he told me. I think the worst part was that my husband’s family knew and never once thought to tell me. These people were my family for 5 years and nothing. It’s been almost 10 years now and I’m so much happier but it was definitely an eye opening experience.
Oh wow, the worst part really is that they kept it a secret from her. Damn. I hope she is doing well and her kids.
My buddy works at a hotel and called me saying that my wife just checked in with another guy
My best friend caught his ex cheating in a really funny way. She was super sly in talking to the guy and they used a shared google doc to talk to each other, my friend didn't realise until he asked to use her notes for a class they had together. He noticed a doc called "Slycooper" which piqued his curiosity and he realised what was happening when he read it.
So he started f*cking with them, whilst she was in class and wouldn't be able to access the doc he would leave weird messages for the other guy and then when the guy responded he would delete both the messages he sent and the guy's responses. He also figured out when the guy would respond as it was a pretty standard pattern and did the same but the other way around. Eventually he set it up so that they both thought they were going on holiday together with the other paying for it, tbh I don't know how he pulled that off still but his ex was as bright as a lampshade so it's definitely possible.
Fast forward to the day of the "holiday", he sees his ex and the guy meet up for their romantic weekend away and starts arguing about why the other hasn't bought tickets etc. He then texts his GF to look at the google doc and it just says go f*ck yourselves with a selfie he took with them in the background. I wish I was there to see the reactions.
So they never talked in person about the vacation in person? seems like a figment of someones imagination
He took a phone call from her in front of me and because, I guess, he thought he was being slick, he started flirting with her in front of me.
He ended up sexually harassing me after the relationship was over and I got him in hot water for that. He never did it again and was told if he even talked to me again, he’d get fired. I ended up leaving that job a few months later.
His balls are bigger than his brain. That will be his undoing in life if he doesn't change his strategy.
My friend found a mask he had never seen before on the balcony.
Only in 2020 folks
I knew he had been unfaithful in the past but I didn’t really love him so it was not that bad.
However, I was bartending one night and this drunk chick walks up and tells me that I looked familiar. She then proceeds to yell, “oh my friend is f*cking your husband!”. So I walked into the beer keg cooler with a bottle of vodka. I downed some shots and went back to work.
I held it in that I knew for a few months while I hired an attorney and figured out my next move. I had three kids to think of too. So I moved with my kids back home to Texas and got divorced.
Now, I’m engaged to my childhood best friend and we plan to marry in Yosemite next year. He’s the complete opposite of my ex. Kind, supportive, and loving.
So f*ck that sasquatch looking cheater!
So she married a cheater that she didn't love anyway and was surprised when she got cheated?
We were together for 5 years, living together for around 4. I came home from work early. When I got out of my car I saw her peek through the blinds to see who was outside. I walked in the door to her coworker on the couch, obviously uncomfortable and clothes messy and her locked in the bathroom.
I wanted to pummel the sh*t out of him then and there, but he was a trained MMA fighter, and I woulda left the house that night with more than a broken heart. Went to a friends house for a while.
They started dating the next day.
It took a while for me to get trust back in relationships.
She confessed to her mom... Then mother in law called her other daughter and told her...Sister in law then called me and told me, she let me listen in on a three way call to her mom and tried to convince mom to tell me but she refused which basically confirmed it.
I was at work and tried to call my boyfriend, but he wasn’t answering even after a few hours, and I just got a horrible feeling. It stressed me out so badly for some reason that I started to cry and my boss let me go home. The whole way home I just kept feeling serious dread. Walked in the house and into my bedroom, and he was laying in bed half-clothed with some naked chick.
Obviously a huge blowup went down, and after everything settled, this motherf*cker tried to tell me that he went to the movies alone and met her there and she “followed him home.” Like, even if I believe that this person just followed you home and got naked, you let her do it, so what’s the purpose of saying that to me? It was a sh*tty abusive relationship, and it didn’t even end then. I eventually broke up with him but not on the spot like I should have. If I could change anything about my life, it would be that I wish I broke up with that guy sooner. That was over ten years ago though!
Ah yes the ol' she followed me home, entered my house, stripped, took MY trousers off, got in bed, dragged ME into bed and -last but not least- made me have sex with her
😄 Yes, I hate it when that happens - messes up my whole daily schedule!
Load More Replies... I didn't catch her, she told me and told me I wasn't a real man and that's why she did it. She just told me everything she hated about me, went on to why I'm worthless pulled over, kicked me out the car and I had to walk back to my place.
As far as my reaction went. I went home, cried, went to bed, stayed in bed for a few days, thought I was a terrible person for a few weeks, cut my holiday leave short and went back to work early to get my mind off things.
This isn't my story, but my parents.
My mom had a boyfriend when my parents met, and she broke up with him to be with my dad. Fast forward ten years or so my parents are married with two kids: my older brother and me.
Anyway, she travels for work semi-often and she started taking trips to see her "friend" in Chicago. I was young enough that I don't really remember when it started, but my I noticed that my dad was really irritable on these weekends. I think I was about twelve when I realized what was going on. I figured it out before my brother did. I used to sit at the top of the stairs and listen to my parents argue. I don't even remember if I heard something that gave it away, if it slowly dawned on me as I grew up, or if one day it just hit me. It's always just been a part of my life that my mom lies. Still is.
My dad used to beg me to not say anything to her that I knew because A) he was desperate to keep the family together and 2) my mom would get on his case for getting the kids involved. No joke.
One day, during the summer after I graduated high school, I came home from work to find my mom in the garage loading up her car. I asked her why she was putting blankets in her car and she got quiet for a moment and said "well... I'm moving out." I just went inside.
Later she texted my dad that she had moved to her brother's house. That's how he found out. They were married for twenty years and she sent him a f*cking text message. I don't know if she was planning on telling me at all if I hadn't happened to come home when I did, or if she would have just disappeared. There have been times when she left without telling me she was going somewhere. I'd realize that I hadn't seen my mother in a few days and ask my dad where she was and he'd be like "Oh, she didn't tell you? She's in 'Montreal' for a week." Or something like that. So anything possible.
You can divorce your spouse. That shouldn't mean you're divorcing your children.
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He said he wouldn't be home for the weekend. I forgot a pair of shoes at his place that I wanted to retrieve, so I used the spare key he gave me. He was sitting on the bed with his naked ex beside him. His reasoning? She just came over to shower and he didn't have a towel so she was drying there naked. Like... WTF.
I’ve written this more times than I care to mention. If you are in a relationship and think a ‘bit on the side’ sounds like your kind of thing, stop, leave your partner, give them the respect they deserve and leave the relationship, they are a human being and as such deserve the right to be truly happy too and you aren’t the one to give that to them. End it. If you are cheated on, end it, they haven’t given you the respect you deserve. End it, move on, live a life that’s better. Everyone deserves true and committed love and care, you are worth more than you imagine.
Or at least talk about it before. Maybe both can find an arrangement that suits them. Dishonesty will break the trust forever, while honestly talking about it at least gives options for both to choose from. I heard of some polyamory cases, and also happy open marriage relationships. Not that I personally would go this way, but I heard of some where it supposedly even deepened and strengthened their relationship. How could betrayal do that? Never.
Load More Replies...I traveled for work. My neighbors kept seeing the same silver Chrysler 300 parked at random near my house every time I left for work. I gave my ex 8 months to either say she wanted an open marriage or that she wanted a divorce but she wouldn't do it. Our daughter wasn't even a year old when I filed for divorce so I didn't even get joint custody. However, once she turns 18 I will have hours of hidden video conversations where she literally bragged to my face that if she were to have an affair I'd never find out. Idiot.
Many of my relationships early in my life (pre 16yo) ended up in me busting my bf cheating. The rest weren't found out until after we broke up or we dated for such a short time you couldn't really call it a relationship. My shortest "relationship" lasted approx 1hr. I was only 11 or 12 then so doesn't quite count haha. One guy thought I was at school but I saw him at the local shopping centre holding another girls hand. Another guy admitted it outloud to his mate not knowing I was standing around the corner. A little while later I find him crying so I ask what's wrong and he says he doesn't know what to do. To stay with me or go with the other girl. I said calmly that he has to make a choice right now whilst I was trying to comfort him. He said he chooses me. Well next morning I found out he slept with the other girl. What tops this whole thing off is I dated him previously but broke up new years day after admitting he cheated the previous night. Fun times.
He was cheating multiple times with multiple women, always with his colleagues (Found out later). With latest (the one that I found out) he told her that he had broken up with me when she questioned (that hurt the most). Found out everything when his phone rang at night, while he was sleeping. It was her and very much surprised that I picked up. Then me and lady had very long conversation, I checked their message chain so I could collect "evidence" for myself and by 7am I was packed. He was dumped by both of us. As far as I know he is "stuck" with one of the ladies that he was screwing around for fun :)))) ohhh she is super clingy, 10 years older than him and very desperate to get married. Karma served him a good dish. Last I heard from friends he was looking for a way to contact me to get back together (while still being with her). I was laughing hysterically, not going to tell her, coz I don't want them to break up :'D
Friend of mine's wife. She suddenly developed an interest in the gym. They had their anniversary celebration, then he went overseas for a week. From the time he came back, to a few months later, she didn't have a period AND didn't want sex. Blamed it on menopause. That was horseshit as he tells me that she was regular as clockwork up to that point. He told me that he saw lots of texts coming through from other men. He hacked her phone and saw three guys hitting on her. One message to her best friend reported a miscarriage around the time her period came back. He confronted her about it but she claimed it was the husband's. Strangely, she stopped going to the gym shortly after he came back. He reckons she was cheating with the gym instructor, got knocked up, and lied till she had the miscarriage. He tells me he decided to drop the issue but that he stopped having sex and after a few months he left her.
I had this happen to me. Back when I still identified as straight I was dating a woman whom I worked with. We were a team at work and enjoyed our time together at work and afterwards, but she was always exhausted. We didn't live together yet and sometimes she asked me to call her before work to make sure she woke up on time. Sometimes it would take like 10 calls, 4 rings each before she would wake up and answer. Once some dude answered and said he was a friend who crashed on the couch. Okay. Then it happened again with another guy, and then again with yet another guy. Turns out she was stopping at the bar on her way home and picking up random drunk dudes instead of sleeping. We had sex a lot, she claimed to be satisfied (and acted like it too), but apparently she preferred to cheat rather than talk about her sexual needs.
I flew her around the world - Amsterdam, Germany, Ireland, helped pay her way through college so that she could be a respiratory therapist. Adopted her child from a previous relationship. Bought her a house in the neighborhood she wanted to live. I worked insane hours to give her the life she wanted. She had multiple relationships with men while I was at work, two of them met the kids. She let me know on our anniversary she wanted a divorce after 8 years. I still have to pay for the kid I adopted, she got the house and moved one of the guys in immediately, and half of my retirement. Never! Ever! Ever! Ever, will I ever do it again.
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Being in 30 years of marriage, I thought I knew everything about my husband. But one day, everything changed when I discovered a secret that shook me to my core. It all started when I noticed some irregularities in our finances—money missing from our accounts, unexplained expenses, and strange withdrawals. I couldn't shake the feeling that something was off, but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. Then, one day, a friend told me about Craker cyberdude Recovery, a service that helps uncover hidden secrets online. Desperate for answers, I decided to give it a try. With their help, I was able to access my husband's online activities and uncover a shocking truth—he had another family that I knew nothing about. The evidence was undeniable—emails, messages, and financial transactions revealing that my husband had been sending money to another woman and their children for years. I felt like the ground had been pulled out from under me. How could he betray me like this after all we had been
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MUYERN TRUST HACKER allowed me to track my wife's location and monitor her online activities. This feature provided further insight into her actions and behavior. By discreetly monitoring her whereabouts, I noticed inconsistencies in her explanations. Tracking her online activities revealed frequent visits to dating websites and suspicious social media interactions. I am sincerely grateful to MUYERN TRUST HACKER for this. muyerntrusted (AT) mail-me (DOT) c o m Or Telegram (AT) muyerntrusthacker
MUYERN TRUST HACKER allowed me to track my wife's location and monitor her online activities. This feature provided further insight into her actions and behavior. By discreetly monitoring her whereabouts, I noticed inconsistencies in her explanations. Tracking her online activities also revealed frequent visits to dating websites and suspicious social media interactions. I am sincerely grateful to MUYERN TRUST HACKER for this. T e l e g r a m (AT) muyerntrusthacker
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My sister caught her bf cheating. She was supposed to be away on a bike rally but her bike broke down. After getting a lift home she opened the door to find her bf coming down stairs with a bra in his hand that wasn't hers. He'd been having an affair with her best friend. My sister turned around and got a lift to another friend's house and never went back. She was more devastated about the loss and betrayal of her best friend. She's been happily married to her husband now for 25 years
I think anybody cheating can never use the excuse that they can't help it or that it was a momentary lapse of judgment. Cheating takes effort, conniving, and cover-up. It's probably harder to pull off than 1st degree murder.
A long-term truism: Finding out about a bad thing isn't a bad thing - the bad thing is the bad thing. Finding out the truth about any situation is a good thing - the truth is a good thing. It can be painful, and it can suck to deal with in the short term, but experiencing a bad thing and then having it hidden from you with lies and deceit is worse than experiencing a bad thing and knowing the truth.
Wonder what about and how people talk to eachother? We talked about all kinds of hypothetical scenarios and how we would like to be treated and how to handle these situations best, with least hurt for both of us. Also that we want trust and honesty foremost. These text at least let me suspect other people don’t do this, or have apparently different priorities?
My husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy. All thanks to Mike. Incase anyone needs help with marriage/relationship problems, his email address purityspell@gmail.com his spells is for a better life.his Whatsapp +2348089322465
My story goes to everyone out there that are in the situation that i have also being through. and how i was saved.I have been rejected by my husband after nine(9) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kids to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster Prophet Mike on this Email: purityspell@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband. and i gave him a reply to his address and he assured me of getting my husband back in 24hrs and i believed in him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband as everything happened just as he has said. his Whatsapp +2348089322465
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He said he wouldn't be home for the weekend. I forgot a pair of shoes at his place that I wanted to retrieve, so I used the spare key he gave me. He was sitting on the bed with his naked ex beside him. His reasoning? She just came over to shower and he didn't have a towel so she was drying there naked. Like... WTF.
I’ve written this more times than I care to mention. If you are in a relationship and think a ‘bit on the side’ sounds like your kind of thing, stop, leave your partner, give them the respect they deserve and leave the relationship, they are a human being and as such deserve the right to be truly happy too and you aren’t the one to give that to them. End it. If you are cheated on, end it, they haven’t given you the respect you deserve. End it, move on, live a life that’s better. Everyone deserves true and committed love and care, you are worth more than you imagine.
Or at least talk about it before. Maybe both can find an arrangement that suits them. Dishonesty will break the trust forever, while honestly talking about it at least gives options for both to choose from. I heard of some polyamory cases, and also happy open marriage relationships. Not that I personally would go this way, but I heard of some where it supposedly even deepened and strengthened their relationship. How could betrayal do that? Never.
Load More Replies...I traveled for work. My neighbors kept seeing the same silver Chrysler 300 parked at random near my house every time I left for work. I gave my ex 8 months to either say she wanted an open marriage or that she wanted a divorce but she wouldn't do it. Our daughter wasn't even a year old when I filed for divorce so I didn't even get joint custody. However, once she turns 18 I will have hours of hidden video conversations where she literally bragged to my face that if she were to have an affair I'd never find out. Idiot.
Many of my relationships early in my life (pre 16yo) ended up in me busting my bf cheating. The rest weren't found out until after we broke up or we dated for such a short time you couldn't really call it a relationship. My shortest "relationship" lasted approx 1hr. I was only 11 or 12 then so doesn't quite count haha. One guy thought I was at school but I saw him at the local shopping centre holding another girls hand. Another guy admitted it outloud to his mate not knowing I was standing around the corner. A little while later I find him crying so I ask what's wrong and he says he doesn't know what to do. To stay with me or go with the other girl. I said calmly that he has to make a choice right now whilst I was trying to comfort him. He said he chooses me. Well next morning I found out he slept with the other girl. What tops this whole thing off is I dated him previously but broke up new years day after admitting he cheated the previous night. Fun times.
He was cheating multiple times with multiple women, always with his colleagues (Found out later). With latest (the one that I found out) he told her that he had broken up with me when she questioned (that hurt the most). Found out everything when his phone rang at night, while he was sleeping. It was her and very much surprised that I picked up. Then me and lady had very long conversation, I checked their message chain so I could collect "evidence" for myself and by 7am I was packed. He was dumped by both of us. As far as I know he is "stuck" with one of the ladies that he was screwing around for fun :)))) ohhh she is super clingy, 10 years older than him and very desperate to get married. Karma served him a good dish. Last I heard from friends he was looking for a way to contact me to get back together (while still being with her). I was laughing hysterically, not going to tell her, coz I don't want them to break up :'D
Friend of mine's wife. She suddenly developed an interest in the gym. They had their anniversary celebration, then he went overseas for a week. From the time he came back, to a few months later, she didn't have a period AND didn't want sex. Blamed it on menopause. That was horseshit as he tells me that she was regular as clockwork up to that point. He told me that he saw lots of texts coming through from other men. He hacked her phone and saw three guys hitting on her. One message to her best friend reported a miscarriage around the time her period came back. He confronted her about it but she claimed it was the husband's. Strangely, she stopped going to the gym shortly after he came back. He reckons she was cheating with the gym instructor, got knocked up, and lied till she had the miscarriage. He tells me he decided to drop the issue but that he stopped having sex and after a few months he left her.
I had this happen to me. Back when I still identified as straight I was dating a woman whom I worked with. We were a team at work and enjoyed our time together at work and afterwards, but she was always exhausted. We didn't live together yet and sometimes she asked me to call her before work to make sure she woke up on time. Sometimes it would take like 10 calls, 4 rings each before she would wake up and answer. Once some dude answered and said he was a friend who crashed on the couch. Okay. Then it happened again with another guy, and then again with yet another guy. Turns out she was stopping at the bar on her way home and picking up random drunk dudes instead of sleeping. We had sex a lot, she claimed to be satisfied (and acted like it too), but apparently she preferred to cheat rather than talk about her sexual needs.
I flew her around the world - Amsterdam, Germany, Ireland, helped pay her way through college so that she could be a respiratory therapist. Adopted her child from a previous relationship. Bought her a house in the neighborhood she wanted to live. I worked insane hours to give her the life she wanted. She had multiple relationships with men while I was at work, two of them met the kids. She let me know on our anniversary she wanted a divorce after 8 years. I still have to pay for the kid I adopted, she got the house and moved one of the guys in immediately, and half of my retirement. Never! Ever! Ever! Ever, will I ever do it again.
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Being in 30 years of marriage, I thought I knew everything about my husband. But one day, everything changed when I discovered a secret that shook me to my core. It all started when I noticed some irregularities in our finances—money missing from our accounts, unexplained expenses, and strange withdrawals. I couldn't shake the feeling that something was off, but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. Then, one day, a friend told me about Craker cyberdude Recovery, a service that helps uncover hidden secrets online. Desperate for answers, I decided to give it a try. With their help, I was able to access my husband's online activities and uncover a shocking truth—he had another family that I knew nothing about. The evidence was undeniable—emails, messages, and financial transactions revealing that my husband had been sending money to another woman and their children for years. I felt like the ground had been pulled out from under me. How could he betray me like this after all we had been
MUYERN TRUST HACKER allowed me to track my wife's location and monitor her online activities. This feature provided further insight into her actions and behavior. By discreetly monitoring her whereabouts, I noticed inconsistencies in her explanations. Tracking her online activities revealed frequent visits to dating websites and suspicious social media interactions. I am sincerely grateful to MUYERN TRUST HACKER for this. T e l e g r a m (AT) muyerntrusthacker
MUYERN TRUST HACKER allowed me to track my wife's location and monitor her online activities. This feature provided further insight into her actions and behavior. By discreetly monitoring her whereabouts, I noticed inconsistencies in her explanations. Tracking her online activities revealed frequent visits to dating websites and suspicious social media interactions. I am sincerely grateful to MUYERN TRUST HACKER for this. muyerntrusted (AT) mail-me (DOT) c o m Or Telegram (AT) muyerntrusthacker
MUYERN TRUST HACKER allowed me to track my wife's location and monitor her online activities. This feature provided further insight into her actions and behavior. By discreetly monitoring her whereabouts, I noticed inconsistencies in her explanations. Tracking her online activities also revealed frequent visits to dating websites and suspicious social media interactions. I am sincerely grateful to MUYERN TRUST HACKER for this. T e l e g r a m (AT) muyerntrusthacker
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My sister caught her bf cheating. She was supposed to be away on a bike rally but her bike broke down. After getting a lift home she opened the door to find her bf coming down stairs with a bra in his hand that wasn't hers. He'd been having an affair with her best friend. My sister turned around and got a lift to another friend's house and never went back. She was more devastated about the loss and betrayal of her best friend. She's been happily married to her husband now for 25 years
I think anybody cheating can never use the excuse that they can't help it or that it was a momentary lapse of judgment. Cheating takes effort, conniving, and cover-up. It's probably harder to pull off than 1st degree murder.
A long-term truism: Finding out about a bad thing isn't a bad thing - the bad thing is the bad thing. Finding out the truth about any situation is a good thing - the truth is a good thing. It can be painful, and it can suck to deal with in the short term, but experiencing a bad thing and then having it hidden from you with lies and deceit is worse than experiencing a bad thing and knowing the truth.
Wonder what about and how people talk to eachother? We talked about all kinds of hypothetical scenarios and how we would like to be treated and how to handle these situations best, with least hurt for both of us. Also that we want trust and honesty foremost. These text at least let me suspect other people don’t do this, or have apparently different priorities?
My husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy. All thanks to Mike. Incase anyone needs help with marriage/relationship problems, his email address purityspell@gmail.com his spells is for a better life.his Whatsapp +2348089322465
My story goes to everyone out there that are in the situation that i have also being through. and how i was saved.I have been rejected by my husband after nine(9) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kids to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster Prophet Mike on this Email: purityspell@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband. and i gave him a reply to his address and he assured me of getting my husband back in 24hrs and i believed in him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband as everything happened just as he has said. his Whatsapp +2348089322465
ME AND MY HUSBAND BROKE UP 2 YEARS AGO BECAUSE I WAS NOT ABLE TO GIVE HIM A CHILD, I MISSED HIM SO MUCH. SO I DECIDED TO CONTACT (THE TEMPLE OF REUNITING EX SPELL) HE TOLD ME HE CAN HELP ME SOLVE THE PROBLEM I HAVE WITH MY HUSBAND SO I DECIDED TO GIVE HIM A TRY, HE CAST THE SPELL AND TODAY I AM HAPPY WITH MY HUSBAND AND MY 8 MONTHS OLD BABY. ALL THANKS TO THIS GREAT MAN, IF YOU ARE IN THE SAME SHOE WITH ME I WILL ADVISE YOU TO GIVE HIM A TRY. HIS EMAIL (drodintemple3523@gmail.com ) ONCE AGAIN DR.ODIN YOU ARE GREAT. whatsap +393511788587 Website: http://reunitingexspelltemple.i.ng/