These Parents Were Told To Dress Their Daughter More “Girly” By Daycare, And They Responded In A Perfect Way
When dropping their kids at daycare, parents have a million things to worry about. Their diapers, for example. Or formula. Or a change of clothes. Whether or not their child is wearing gender-specific clothing, however, shouldn’t be one of them. But some Danish daycare teachers, however, think otherwise.
Recently, Steve Rold turned to reddit to share this experience that caught him and his wife Jessica completely off-guard.
A few of the older teachers at the daycare made suggestions to his wife that they should think about dressing their girl in more dresses or putting bows in her hair so that the other kids would know that she was a girl.
“As a parent, you really have to pick what your priorities are and where you’re dedicating your energy and resources to,” Steve told Bored Panda. “If you have the time, money, and inclination to dress your daughter or son in ribbons and bows and that makes you and them happy by all means go for it. It’s just not on our radar at this exact moment.”
“We didn’t bother to find out the genders of our children ahead of time so most of what my daughter wears at the moment are hand-downs we bought before we knew our son was even going to be a boy, all pretty gender neutral.”
“Whether it’s a cultural or a generational thing, we completely understand that they were just trying to be helpful,” the man added. “Maybe they thought that it hadn’t crossed our minds to dress our daughter any differently or perhaps they just didn’t want to answer a million questions from the other kids at the daycare as to why our baby isn’t dressed in pink and flowers. The suggestion was actually pretty mild but it was piled onto a hundred other similar ones that I’m sure all parents get so my wife just felt the need to push back a tiny bit.”
This incident in mind, Steve gave the facility an overall score of 12/10. “It’s an absolutely amazing daycare. They focus on early education and outdoor play. We both feel like we’re extremely lucky to have our kid in that kind of place.” Steve and his wife don’t think that this particular situation is as dramatic as the internet thinks, however, he understands that similar things happen to other parents, only in much worse scenarios. “My wife was just trying to expose the humor inherent in the situation.” Scroll down to check out what Jessica’s response was and let us know what you think about it in the comments!
Meet Steve and Jessica Rold
Recently, the staff at their children’s daycare facility voiced their concerns that one of their kids isn’t dressed ‘girly’ enough
So they responded in the best possible way
Someone immediately explained why “color marketing” is ridiculous
And other parents shared their own similar experiences
Someone even pointed out the amazing drawing skills
The parents were in awe of the many heartwarming responses they received
Please do have them because aliens are awesome
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Just dess them as YOU want - until they are old enough to point to a colour or pattern they want themselves
I'm not saying don't allow her to wear anything blue. I was simply saying to be prepared for people to comment based on what the child is wearing. For example, be prepared for comments about your son if your daughter is wearing a onesie that says "Little Slugger" or comments about your daughter if your son is dressed in pink. People usually go by what the baby is wearing to first determine a gender before commenting. Dress your child however you want. Just don't assume people will always automatically know which it is, or even ask which it is, before commenting.
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If I ever get pregnant, I want that "We are hoping it's a dinosaur" shirt
I would buy a plain white shirt and print "IT'S A BABY !" on it ! ^__^
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As a child care professional, I've dealt with similar situations; we had a little girl come to our summer camp with boys clothing on and a pixie cut. She rocked the c**p out of it and was so happy and proud of how "cute" she looked that day. Telling you how to dress your child is almost never okay. If the child is not in danger or wearing inappropriate clothing than who cares?
What difference should it make to a daycare worker what gender a baby is? They should be prepared to change diapers of either sex. It certainly doesn't matter to the babies.
A good friend of mine has young twin girls. One is so girly and loves dresses and cute shoes and refuses sneakers. The other is a little sporty girl who loves superheros and active clothes and hates dresses! I love that she lets them be themselves and never forces them to match, or makes the sporty girl feel she needs to be more feminine, or vice versa. They're both adorable and fun little girls!
My younger brother had 4 older sisters when he was born... no brothers. He LOVED dolls and we let him play with them. GUESS WHO is the most handsome lifeguard on the beach??
Ridiculous. Why not even buy clothes that you simple look nice and that fit a girl or a boy? Chances are pretty high (50%, eh?), a second child will be the other sex...
I should add on that, that I found it rather hard to find non-pink sparkling stuff or, alternatively, clothers with over-dimensional symbols of cars and machinery. Many things even with something like "Momma's little girl/boy" printed on them. "Neutral" baby attire is not so easy to find, particularly if you want to combine it with the attributes "not too pricey" and "organic cotton, no harmful chemicals in colours"...
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"Excuse me but the way I dress MY girl is of no concern to you..." God, as long as the clothes are clean... who cares about the color?
I think the best way to dress a baby is to get clothes that fit and are comfortable for the child. It should matter the color, just what's best for the baby!
when i was a child, i love the color yellow...i dont like pink and pinks stuff...i always pick the odd color or the least popular..i know it's weird, but i find joy in it...i find freedom in it...i dont care about pink vs blue...i pick yellow in the power ranger series, or green...haha...it's just me...
I had a pink/blue babygro when my daughter was tiny so depending on which angle they approached her from they'd think she was male or female. I used to crack up laughing at people. She went through a pink fairy phase then opted for black alien Goth! She rocks.
Something about my kid makes people think she's a boy. She could be in the pinkest frilliest dress and people still go "he's so handsome." I dressed her both ways, sometimes super girly, sometimes boyish. She's 5 now and sick of people callimg her a boy so she's started wearing skirts on top of pants so people know. It's her choice. And letting strangers know the gender is literally the only reason for something like this. If no one's bothered, who cares?
Those nursery workers are such pains in the necks - there not even teachers! They have one to two days training and think their experts, trying to sound knowledge. I had one try to teach me what my boy should be doing at his stage when he was one, and it was nonsense. I had to school her on child development and all the observations she overlooked. Dress more like a girl? Do some more diversity aware training more like.
I've never liked nursery workers. When I was in my disgusting kindergarten, they put my little sister's name on the nursery's list, because she was "too young" for first group, since she was born in January. My mom sent them to hell and didn't enrol my sister of course.
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People make a big deal out of everything these days. I'm a woman and blue is my favorite color. Does that mean I'm too boyish?
Possible solution: ‘iron-on transfers’ are great for anyone and everyone. (The solution is for those who, like some in the comment section of this post, explained a difficulty in finding cotton clothes with no chemicals in them, that also have good designs related to science or anything else like that). So, really, about time people just buy plain grey/white/beige/black/pastel green or yellow cotton clothes, then simply have the ‘iron-on transfers’ of anything that’s good and not nauseatingly typical and shallow as princesses. (it’s fine if some children like princesses but, that shouldn’t be the main item in the wardrobe because it is shallow, as I am sure you all can agree.) For inspiration, google: ‘ funny baby clothes’.
As for the couple who drew a bow on a piece of paper: good on them for not even bothering to argue with the people at the daycare, and just show them the couple’s stance using that bow.
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Can kids that young go to daycare?! Doubt she has in depth gender discusssions with the other kids as they are too busy with Peppa Peg (or Gen Z equivalent)
I'm a mom, now a grandma, and I used to work in childcare taking care of infants and toddlers. We had plenty of baby girls dressed in "boy" colors and baby boys dressed in "girl" colors. Never once did it cross my mind to tell the parents how to dress their child, except in the case of comfort. For example, it was cold in the air conditioned rooms where I worked, and we told parents to dress their babies warmly, because they would be uncomfortable.
If I raise kids, I'll put them in whatever comfy clothes as a baby and let them wear whatever the heck they want when they get older (as long as it fits and isn't inappropriate). I hate dresses and skirts and pink and mainly wear loose t-shirts and plain pants. Seriously! Does it really matter what gender your clothes appear to be made for?
People confused me for a boy too when I was a baby, because mom dressed me in blue often. I've never really liked pink. I preferred red until the age of 8, now my favourite colours are black, orange and green. Especially black. And because my hair has never been longer than shoulder-length, many people still confuse me for a boy! Ok, right, I wear black T-shirts and camouflage Bermudas but I thought that since I, well, grew boobs, people would stop doing such a stupid mistake. All in all, I have a family member that criticises my choice for black colours too! My grandma constantly complains that I've "blackened" myself "at such a young age" and asks me if I would wear white on her funeral as a change *eye roll. My best friend is experiencing the same issues, even though her style is not even that ridiculous point of casual mine is. Honestly, grandmas...One of the ways I now measure people's worth is by paying attention if they are stereotypical. Grandma doesn't make it high on my list.
Can we stop forcing gender stereotypes on kids? They're children. Let them be children, and let them be themselves. If little girls want to wear dresses, and play sports... let them. If little boys want to wear pink and frills and play with dolls... let them. It doesn't matter. Children are born the way they're born, and no amount of pressure from adults will change it. It only makes them miserable. Forcing little girls to be quiet, docile and that their worth is based on their looks is harmful. Forcing little boys to be loud, rough and to hide their feelings is harmful. Abolish that c**p.
I use to dress my babies in yellow and green just to mess with people.
When my daughter was a baby I had her dressed in a blue frilly dress. Some dumb woman kept calling her "he". I told her she was a little girl and she said "how can anyone tell, it's dressed in blue?" Can't fix stupid.
It hardly matters for an infant. I remember taking my daughter out in all pink and a little old lady still kept calling her a boy and told me I needed to pierce her ears. Lol I never did, she decided to pierce them around 16
Oh dear, I had the same unsolicited advise for my daughter. She's 2yo, pixie haircut (her hair won't grow) and half of her clothes once belonged to her brother. I got my ears pierce at 6 because I asked for it. I had them repierced around 18, I know it doesn't hurt at all but I would never impose it to my kids. Would they advise nose or eyebrow piercing???
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When my eldest daughter was 6 months old she was wearing a purple dress with a tutu style skirt. While we were out shopping a lovely older lady told me what a beautiful boy I had. Damned if you do damned if you don't and good luck to anyone who can get a bow to stay in the hair of a baby girl (I had 3 of them before I had a boy).
My response if I had a child and if that one was mine "She's my daughter. I think she looks fine"
God, I absolutely detest these weird bows they put on babies! It's really not a good look on a little person with no hair! Just draws even more attention on the fact they are still "bald".
as if!!! My nephew LOVED playing with dolls when he was a toddler. He spoke softly and was tender and cute... now he's a womanizer. What are you tlking about getting them "confused"???
Isn't the child's name an indication of her gender? Or do the staff at the day care place refer to the children as Boy 1, Girl 3 etc, rather than by name?
When my daughter was around 6 months old we had really hot summer so I dressed her in oversized loose t-shirts (got more wear out of them) and shorts. I shopped in the boys sections for primary colors as well as the girls section for pastels for variety. Poor kid was practically bald when she was born so at 6 months her hair was still quite short. I never put one of those stretchy headbands with bows on her because I thought they looked stupid and uncomfortable. When she was wearing primary colors, people would assume she was a boy. Pretty dang stupid.
We have a baby boy and people are just obsessed over baby boys in India. And if he is cute+ handsome + fair skinned then it's considered as a Lottery by most! So to avoid people getting jealous and to avoid those disturbing GREEDY gazes.. . I dress him as a girl 🤭 then people by default think that he is a fair- beautiful looking baby girl who has a bright future because she is fair and will easily get married to a nice rich man!! I don't bother to correct them!! Seriously the amount of old ladies who are clearly jealous that we have a fair skinned son as our first child is huge!!! This bothers me a lot! Those people they don't even hide it!! Very very backward!!! Dressing him like a girl just changes the entire scene!! And I have a good time laughing at them 😂😂
When I was pregnant with my kids pre-ct scans, I used to knit my kids jumpers green, white or yellow, also anything I sewed were basically in the same colours of green and yellow.
My little sister hated pink from birth it seemed. She became a me!bet of our family at just 15 days old. Big blue eyes, blonde ringlets, looked like a porcelain doll. I sh*t you not, every single time my dressed her in anything pink, my sister would spit up or vomit all over it. When she started school, my !on bought her all these really girly dresses, skirts, etc. I was 17 then, and after the first week of school sewing my sister basically have meltdowns because she hated girly clothes, I took her shopping for clothes. I told her that she could pick out her own outfits. Every outfit was from the boys section. My sister never identified as a female, and it was literally mental abuse dressing her like a girl when I'm her mind she was a boy. Long rant, but basically what colors a child or person wears isn't important. Growing up is hard enough, without people literally telling them that something is wrong with them based on the same color of a freaking shirt.
My son had bright blue eyes and bright curls and was always covered in dirt and practically clad. Bc of his eyes and golden curls people assumed him beeing a girl. People are strange.
I think that this is funny because a lady put a sticky note on a baby's head.
I’ve dressed my daughter in pink from head to toe and put a bow on her and then people ask me how old my little boy is. Then I’ve had her in all blue and people say that my baby girl is so cute... You just have to laugh! What does it matter anyway? Is she going to think she’s a boy cause her clothes are blue? Really now...
Feel free to dress your kids as you want, one day itl be them dressing themselves as *they* want&youl never have a say in it! Marketing Fashion is just a way of grabbing your money
Why would the other kids need to know the gender of a toddler anyway?
The daycare people probably get confused. I mean it’s not like they can just remind themselves when they have to change her diaper...
can we just call attention to the fact that babies puke on everything they wear? XD screw you day-care people, this one is clean!.... for now
My kids dressed in what ever they had available, lol, until they asked for different. It was mostly tshirts and pants or shorts as those were comfortable. I used to dress the same way, back in the dark ages, and got mistaken for a boy a few times (I was tougher than my brother then). It's nobody's business about somebody's clothing choices as long as they are appropriate for the activity, and sometimes the age. MYOB is a good rule a lot of the time.
Sigh, I feel like someone made a comment because the other kids assumed the baby was a boy and then people set the internet on fire. Sure, it wasn't the right comment to make, in my opinion. Still there are honest to God real problems you will face a parent, and one out dated comment is not worth losing your sh** over.
It doesn't matter. My grandson with long beautiful curls got called a girl (and still does sometimes) even with "boy" clothes on, and now my granddaughter gets called a boy even in pink & with earrings (she doesn't have much hair). My grandson thinks it's funny. The funniest is when a cashier at a fair was calling him "she" & his coworker called him out & made him turn around, and his hair was down below his butt.
I didn't get a choice of boy's or girl's outfits. ALL of my cousins were boys and I got their hand-me-downs. My parents used money wisely and buying new clothes everytime I grew was ridiculous. And before mid-80s nobody knew what sex "it" was, so baby clothes were white, green, and yellow.
There's a gender-neutral kids' clothing line I saw that was started by a mom for her daughter because she often wore boy's clothing because they were easier to be active in and had POCKETS. Boys and girls are pretty much the same shape at that age.
This seems fake. I can't imagine anyone in 2018 asking a parent to dress a baby more gender-specific.
I was appalled to find my post office selling two books " 501 things for boys to draw" and "501 things for girls to draw"... After several double takes to see what I couldn't believe I was seeing, I took both up to the counter and complained. Politely, " your bosses need to fix this "... she was polite also and told me how to make an official complaint via net....waiting for reply.
The fact that people are so adamant about assigning gender to colors (pink, blue) and pieces of fabric is just plain impractical.
I guffawed when I saw the post-it. Well done, parental units.
My 6 year old daughter wears her brothers' hand me downs all the time, boys clothes are generally thicker and better lasting (through two boys and still good enough to wear) than the equivalent in girls, plus sleeves that are longer for sun/bug protection, shorts are longer too, and I prefer that she not flash her underwear when climbing and tumbling like most kids do. Not that I care, but you know, there are weirdos out there. She loves pink though so she has plenty of that too.
Well, pick or blue shouldn't matter, but forcing your kid to wear Jayhawk clothing is terrible parenting.... Go Heels!
That's a great response to the criticism to the daycare. But how did they spell your last name wrong? It looked the same to me. No offense, I'm just wondering
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I wonder if the people working at the daycare are just trying to get clothing "cues" as to which children are boys or girls? So that they can look across the room quickly and know how many boy or girl diapers they may need? Otherwise I don't understand what the difference is
I have a son and a daughter, they both wore the same unisex diapers. (Even Pampers stopped to make the difference between boys and girls diapers.) I don't think a daycare would bother to manage two stocks when one is enough ;)
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Ok. I like it but why is bp posting things that sound a lot like click bait lately. What happened to the creativity? We have very few lately.
There is much to criticise when it comes to how many societies care for children, for families, for education. Parent who chose based on what they educatedly believe is best should not be criticised. There is an ongoing scientific discussion whether children benefit or suffer from being in day-care from rather early ages on. Children with a safe relationship to their parents who are not just "given away" for eight or more hours are day rather benefit, e.g. regarding their social skills and cognitive capabilities. After all, this should be an individual decision based on observing the whole situation.
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Please do have them because aliens are awesome
Load More Replies... Just dess them as YOU want - until they are old enough to point to a colour or pattern they want themselves
I'm not saying don't allow her to wear anything blue. I was simply saying to be prepared for people to comment based on what the child is wearing. For example, be prepared for comments about your son if your daughter is wearing a onesie that says "Little Slugger" or comments about your daughter if your son is dressed in pink. People usually go by what the baby is wearing to first determine a gender before commenting. Dress your child however you want. Just don't assume people will always automatically know which it is, or even ask which it is, before commenting.
Load More Replies... If I ever get pregnant, I want that "We are hoping it's a dinosaur" shirt
I would buy a plain white shirt and print "IT'S A BABY !" on it ! ^__^
Load More Replies... As a child care professional, I've dealt with similar situations; we had a little girl come to our summer camp with boys clothing on and a pixie cut. She rocked the c**p out of it and was so happy and proud of how "cute" she looked that day. Telling you how to dress your child is almost never okay. If the child is not in danger or wearing inappropriate clothing than who cares?
What difference should it make to a daycare worker what gender a baby is? They should be prepared to change diapers of either sex. It certainly doesn't matter to the babies.
A good friend of mine has young twin girls. One is so girly and loves dresses and cute shoes and refuses sneakers. The other is a little sporty girl who loves superheros and active clothes and hates dresses! I love that she lets them be themselves and never forces them to match, or makes the sporty girl feel she needs to be more feminine, or vice versa. They're both adorable and fun little girls!
My younger brother had 4 older sisters when he was born... no brothers. He LOVED dolls and we let him play with them. GUESS WHO is the most handsome lifeguard on the beach??
Ridiculous. Why not even buy clothes that you simple look nice and that fit a girl or a boy? Chances are pretty high (50%, eh?), a second child will be the other sex...
I should add on that, that I found it rather hard to find non-pink sparkling stuff or, alternatively, clothers with over-dimensional symbols of cars and machinery. Many things even with something like "Momma's little girl/boy" printed on them. "Neutral" baby attire is not so easy to find, particularly if you want to combine it with the attributes "not too pricey" and "organic cotton, no harmful chemicals in colours"...
Load More Replies... "Excuse me but the way I dress MY girl is of no concern to you..." God, as long as the clothes are clean... who cares about the color?
I think the best way to dress a baby is to get clothes that fit and are comfortable for the child. It should matter the color, just what's best for the baby!
when i was a child, i love the color yellow...i dont like pink and pinks stuff...i always pick the odd color or the least popular..i know it's weird, but i find joy in it...i find freedom in it...i dont care about pink vs blue...i pick yellow in the power ranger series, or green...haha...it's just me...
I had a pink/blue babygro when my daughter was tiny so depending on which angle they approached her from they'd think she was male or female. I used to crack up laughing at people. She went through a pink fairy phase then opted for black alien Goth! She rocks.
Something about my kid makes people think she's a boy. She could be in the pinkest frilliest dress and people still go "he's so handsome." I dressed her both ways, sometimes super girly, sometimes boyish. She's 5 now and sick of people callimg her a boy so she's started wearing skirts on top of pants so people know. It's her choice. And letting strangers know the gender is literally the only reason for something like this. If no one's bothered, who cares?
Those nursery workers are such pains in the necks - there not even teachers! They have one to two days training and think their experts, trying to sound knowledge. I had one try to teach me what my boy should be doing at his stage when he was one, and it was nonsense. I had to school her on child development and all the observations she overlooked. Dress more like a girl? Do some more diversity aware training more like.
I've never liked nursery workers. When I was in my disgusting kindergarten, they put my little sister's name on the nursery's list, because she was "too young" for first group, since she was born in January. My mom sent them to hell and didn't enrol my sister of course.
Load More Replies... People make a big deal out of everything these days. I'm a woman and blue is my favorite color. Does that mean I'm too boyish?
Possible solution: ‘iron-on transfers’ are great for anyone and everyone. (The solution is for those who, like some in the comment section of this post, explained a difficulty in finding cotton clothes with no chemicals in them, that also have good designs related to science or anything else like that). So, really, about time people just buy plain grey/white/beige/black/pastel green or yellow cotton clothes, then simply have the ‘iron-on transfers’ of anything that’s good and not nauseatingly typical and shallow as princesses. (it’s fine if some children like princesses but, that shouldn’t be the main item in the wardrobe because it is shallow, as I am sure you all can agree.) For inspiration, google: ‘ funny baby clothes’.
As for the couple who drew a bow on a piece of paper: good on them for not even bothering to argue with the people at the daycare, and just show them the couple’s stance using that bow.
Load More Replies... Can kids that young go to daycare?! Doubt she has in depth gender discusssions with the other kids as they are too busy with Peppa Peg (or Gen Z equivalent)
I'm a mom, now a grandma, and I used to work in childcare taking care of infants and toddlers. We had plenty of baby girls dressed in "boy" colors and baby boys dressed in "girl" colors. Never once did it cross my mind to tell the parents how to dress their child, except in the case of comfort. For example, it was cold in the air conditioned rooms where I worked, and we told parents to dress their babies warmly, because they would be uncomfortable.
If I raise kids, I'll put them in whatever comfy clothes as a baby and let them wear whatever the heck they want when they get older (as long as it fits and isn't inappropriate). I hate dresses and skirts and pink and mainly wear loose t-shirts and plain pants. Seriously! Does it really matter what gender your clothes appear to be made for?
People confused me for a boy too when I was a baby, because mom dressed me in blue often. I've never really liked pink. I preferred red until the age of 8, now my favourite colours are black, orange and green. Especially black. And because my hair has never been longer than shoulder-length, many people still confuse me for a boy! Ok, right, I wear black T-shirts and camouflage Bermudas but I thought that since I, well, grew boobs, people would stop doing such a stupid mistake. All in all, I have a family member that criticises my choice for black colours too! My grandma constantly complains that I've "blackened" myself "at such a young age" and asks me if I would wear white on her funeral as a change *eye roll. My best friend is experiencing the same issues, even though her style is not even that ridiculous point of casual mine is. Honestly, grandmas...One of the ways I now measure people's worth is by paying attention if they are stereotypical. Grandma doesn't make it high on my list.
Can we stop forcing gender stereotypes on kids? They're children. Let them be children, and let them be themselves. If little girls want to wear dresses, and play sports... let them. If little boys want to wear pink and frills and play with dolls... let them. It doesn't matter. Children are born the way they're born, and no amount of pressure from adults will change it. It only makes them miserable. Forcing little girls to be quiet, docile and that their worth is based on their looks is harmful. Forcing little boys to be loud, rough and to hide their feelings is harmful. Abolish that c**p.
I use to dress my babies in yellow and green just to mess with people.
When my daughter was a baby I had her dressed in a blue frilly dress. Some dumb woman kept calling her "he". I told her she was a little girl and she said "how can anyone tell, it's dressed in blue?" Can't fix stupid.
It hardly matters for an infant. I remember taking my daughter out in all pink and a little old lady still kept calling her a boy and told me I needed to pierce her ears. Lol I never did, she decided to pierce them around 16
Oh dear, I had the same unsolicited advise for my daughter. She's 2yo, pixie haircut (her hair won't grow) and half of her clothes once belonged to her brother. I got my ears pierce at 6 because I asked for it. I had them repierced around 18, I know it doesn't hurt at all but I would never impose it to my kids. Would they advise nose or eyebrow piercing???
Load More Replies... When my eldest daughter was 6 months old she was wearing a purple dress with a tutu style skirt. While we were out shopping a lovely older lady told me what a beautiful boy I had. Damned if you do damned if you don't and good luck to anyone who can get a bow to stay in the hair of a baby girl (I had 3 of them before I had a boy).
My response if I had a child and if that one was mine "She's my daughter. I think she looks fine"
God, I absolutely detest these weird bows they put on babies! It's really not a good look on a little person with no hair! Just draws even more attention on the fact they are still "bald".
as if!!! My nephew LOVED playing with dolls when he was a toddler. He spoke softly and was tender and cute... now he's a womanizer. What are you tlking about getting them "confused"???
Isn't the child's name an indication of her gender? Or do the staff at the day care place refer to the children as Boy 1, Girl 3 etc, rather than by name?
When my daughter was around 6 months old we had really hot summer so I dressed her in oversized loose t-shirts (got more wear out of them) and shorts. I shopped in the boys sections for primary colors as well as the girls section for pastels for variety. Poor kid was practically bald when she was born so at 6 months her hair was still quite short. I never put one of those stretchy headbands with bows on her because I thought they looked stupid and uncomfortable. When she was wearing primary colors, people would assume she was a boy. Pretty dang stupid.
We have a baby boy and people are just obsessed over baby boys in India. And if he is cute+ handsome + fair skinned then it's considered as a Lottery by most! So to avoid people getting jealous and to avoid those disturbing GREEDY gazes.. . I dress him as a girl 🤭 then people by default think that he is a fair- beautiful looking baby girl who has a bright future because she is fair and will easily get married to a nice rich man!! I don't bother to correct them!! Seriously the amount of old ladies who are clearly jealous that we have a fair skinned son as our first child is huge!!! This bothers me a lot! Those people they don't even hide it!! Very very backward!!! Dressing him like a girl just changes the entire scene!! And I have a good time laughing at them 😂😂
When I was pregnant with my kids pre-ct scans, I used to knit my kids jumpers green, white or yellow, also anything I sewed were basically in the same colours of green and yellow.
My little sister hated pink from birth it seemed. She became a me!bet of our family at just 15 days old. Big blue eyes, blonde ringlets, looked like a porcelain doll. I sh*t you not, every single time my dressed her in anything pink, my sister would spit up or vomit all over it. When she started school, my !on bought her all these really girly dresses, skirts, etc. I was 17 then, and after the first week of school sewing my sister basically have meltdowns because she hated girly clothes, I took her shopping for clothes. I told her that she could pick out her own outfits. Every outfit was from the boys section. My sister never identified as a female, and it was literally mental abuse dressing her like a girl when I'm her mind she was a boy. Long rant, but basically what colors a child or person wears isn't important. Growing up is hard enough, without people literally telling them that something is wrong with them based on the same color of a freaking shirt.
My son had bright blue eyes and bright curls and was always covered in dirt and practically clad. Bc of his eyes and golden curls people assumed him beeing a girl. People are strange.
I think that this is funny because a lady put a sticky note on a baby's head.
I’ve dressed my daughter in pink from head to toe and put a bow on her and then people ask me how old my little boy is. Then I’ve had her in all blue and people say that my baby girl is so cute... You just have to laugh! What does it matter anyway? Is she going to think she’s a boy cause her clothes are blue? Really now...
Feel free to dress your kids as you want, one day itl be them dressing themselves as *they* want&youl never have a say in it! Marketing Fashion is just a way of grabbing your money
Why would the other kids need to know the gender of a toddler anyway?
The daycare people probably get confused. I mean it’s not like they can just remind themselves when they have to change her diaper...
can we just call attention to the fact that babies puke on everything they wear? XD screw you day-care people, this one is clean!.... for now
My kids dressed in what ever they had available, lol, until they asked for different. It was mostly tshirts and pants or shorts as those were comfortable. I used to dress the same way, back in the dark ages, and got mistaken for a boy a few times (I was tougher than my brother then). It's nobody's business about somebody's clothing choices as long as they are appropriate for the activity, and sometimes the age. MYOB is a good rule a lot of the time.
Sigh, I feel like someone made a comment because the other kids assumed the baby was a boy and then people set the internet on fire. Sure, it wasn't the right comment to make, in my opinion. Still there are honest to God real problems you will face a parent, and one out dated comment is not worth losing your sh** over.
It doesn't matter. My grandson with long beautiful curls got called a girl (and still does sometimes) even with "boy" clothes on, and now my granddaughter gets called a boy even in pink & with earrings (she doesn't have much hair). My grandson thinks it's funny. The funniest is when a cashier at a fair was calling him "she" & his coworker called him out & made him turn around, and his hair was down below his butt.
I didn't get a choice of boy's or girl's outfits. ALL of my cousins were boys and I got their hand-me-downs. My parents used money wisely and buying new clothes everytime I grew was ridiculous. And before mid-80s nobody knew what sex "it" was, so baby clothes were white, green, and yellow.
There's a gender-neutral kids' clothing line I saw that was started by a mom for her daughter because she often wore boy's clothing because they were easier to be active in and had POCKETS. Boys and girls are pretty much the same shape at that age.
This seems fake. I can't imagine anyone in 2018 asking a parent to dress a baby more gender-specific.
I was appalled to find my post office selling two books " 501 things for boys to draw" and "501 things for girls to draw"... After several double takes to see what I couldn't believe I was seeing, I took both up to the counter and complained. Politely, " your bosses need to fix this "... she was polite also and told me how to make an official complaint via net....waiting for reply.
The fact that people are so adamant about assigning gender to colors (pink, blue) and pieces of fabric is just plain impractical.
I guffawed when I saw the post-it. Well done, parental units.
My 6 year old daughter wears her brothers' hand me downs all the time, boys clothes are generally thicker and better lasting (through two boys and still good enough to wear) than the equivalent in girls, plus sleeves that are longer for sun/bug protection, shorts are longer too, and I prefer that she not flash her underwear when climbing and tumbling like most kids do. Not that I care, but you know, there are weirdos out there. She loves pink though so she has plenty of that too.
Well, pick or blue shouldn't matter, but forcing your kid to wear Jayhawk clothing is terrible parenting.... Go Heels!
That's a great response to the criticism to the daycare. But how did they spell your last name wrong? It looked the same to me. No offense, I'm just wondering
Load More Replies... I wonder if the people working at the daycare are just trying to get clothing "cues" as to which children are boys or girls? So that they can look across the room quickly and know how many boy or girl diapers they may need? Otherwise I don't understand what the difference is
I have a son and a daughter, they both wore the same unisex diapers. (Even Pampers stopped to make the difference between boys and girls diapers.) I don't think a daycare would bother to manage two stocks when one is enough ;)
Load More Replies... Ok. I like it but why is bp posting things that sound a lot like click bait lately. What happened to the creativity? We have very few lately.
There is much to criticise when it comes to how many societies care for children, for families, for education. Parent who chose based on what they educatedly believe is best should not be criticised. There is an ongoing scientific discussion whether children benefit or suffer from being in day-care from rather early ages on. Children with a safe relationship to their parents who are not just "given away" for eight or more hours are day rather benefit, e.g. regarding their social skills and cognitive capabilities. After all, this should be an individual decision based on observing the whole situation.
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