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Guy Teaches His Narcissistic Parents A Lesson After They Demand He Trade Houses And Steal His Air Conditioners When He Refuses
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Guy Teaches His Narcissistic Parents A Lesson After They Demand He Trade Houses And Steal His Air Conditioners When He Refuses

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Many of us have it very good—we’ve got loving, supportive families that we know have our backs. Unfortunately, not everyone is as lucky. The sad truth is that a person’s parents don’t always have their best interests at heart. And sometimes… sometimes they’re so greedy, they’re willing to throw their own kids under the bus if it gets them what they want. They believe that their kids owe them for life just because they raised them. That, dear Pandas, is entitlement turned up to the max.

Redditor u/Plop-Tart-Throwaway, from Arizona, shared a shocking story about his narcissist parents who wanted to trade houses. And when they didn’t get their way? They resorted to shameless tactics and even broke the law. You’ll find the full story below. Grab yourselves a cup of tea and get ready to get angry at the injustice of it all.

The redditor starts off by explaining how their parents started treating him very differently once they entered teenhood. While childhood independence is overall a good thing, these parents took it too far, demanding most of their kid’s paycheck. And when he didn’t play by their rules, they evicted their own flesh and blood.

A redditor shared a tale about how his entitled and jealous parents crossed all the lines

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His childhood wasn’t the best, and there were plenty of parenting red flags way back then

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After buying a house for himself, the son received a very peculiar offer from his parents

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Things later came to a head when his parents wanted a handout. The situation quickly turned very nasty indeed

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Once the authorities got involved, the man decided to humiliate his parents for what they did

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Eventually, the redditor got his own house, not far from his parents. That’s when the parents decided that they wanted to trade houses. Yup, you read that right. They were hating the fact that their kid was doing better than them. They were quickly and firmly told, ‘no.’ However, that’s just the tip of the iceberg, it wasn’t the end of the story. What happened next was downright disgusting.

Fast-forward a bit and you find the redditor’s parents begging him for a handout because their air conditioning unit broke. After he refused, he found his house broken into. The front door locks were drilled off, the place was a mess. Naturally, the parents denied doing anything wrong. But when the police and the neighbors got involved, they were suddenly hoping they wouldn’t go to jail.

The price for that was simple justice: give back the ACs, clean up the house, write an apology, and promise to never ask for anything ever again. The mom and dad were severely humbled. Meanwhile, their son got cameras for his house so nothing like this would ever happen again. The cherry on top? It turns out the parents actually did have enough money for an AC after all.

Childhood independence and resilience expert Lenore Skenazy previously told Bored Panda that more and more parents try to track and control their kids nowadays.

“One thing many parents are choosing today is to keep their kids under constant surveillance, with the help of tech. Whether it’s being able to track their kids’ movements, read their browsing history, or even scan their texts, parents have all sorts of new tools to make them seemingly omniscient,” she said that many parents don’t respect their children’s privacy.

“For the same reason you didn’t want your parents to read your diary, or to build a treehouse on the branch right next to YOUR treehouse, children need some space to grow into their own person. Kids need to know they are loved, but they also need to know they are trusted. They can’t prove that if parents never actually let them do some things literally on their own, without constant surveillance,” she said.

“In the past, the only people we electronically tracked were felons on parole. They had to wear an ankle monitor that the warden could check to make sure they were where they were supposed to be. The felon knew that this was better than prison—but it wasn’t freedom,” the expert told us that parents should adopt a “talk, don’t stalk” approach for everyone’s sake.

“Try to keep the lines of communication open with your kids, and gradually give them more freedom as they get older and earn it by being responsible. Taking all independence away for their ‘safety’ is a way to teach them that you don’t think they can handle anything on their own— how deflating!—and that you don’t trust them. Would you appreciate a spouse who tracked your every move? Would you feel trusted? Love requires some trust.”

The author of the story shared a lot of extra information in the comments of the viral thread

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seanette avatar
Seanette Blaylock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't trust locks supplied by the parents. Seems like it would have been super-easy for "Dad" to make copies of keys before installing the locks.

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Zero
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, that was my first thought. 2nd was that he needed a couple of hidden cameras in the common area in case the externals get knocked out & to let roomie know about them.

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Kevin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was buying it right up until the police let you question the parents and then hung around all day watching the ac reinstall/locks and mom clean up.

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Jennifer Millner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where I live, private citizens don't "press charges". If a crime has been committed, an arrest is made.

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Rens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex-inlaws were like this, so I know people like this exist; it would not surprise me in the slightest if this was actually true.

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PSimms
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does VLC mean? I've googled it and found nothing that fits this situation.

laurabamber avatar
The Starsong Princess
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amusing but a fantasy. I can’t imagine cops anywhere sitting around supervising for hours while your parents replaced the AC and cleaned up. It would be “you don’t want them charged? Ok, bye!”

kadri-annraidlepp avatar
Kat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Things like that happen in small towns. I've seen some situations like that with my own eyes so not impossible.

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Fat Harry's Ghost
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have thought the one thing a parent would want is for their children to do better than they did.

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Nicole Krenzler
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You dont know narcissism then. Many do feel a threat to their self-worth when they see someone do better than they are.

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Suzi Q
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also--Some people are so naïve they think everything is made up. There are really people this horrible in the world. I'm thinking there was more than marijuana and alcohol on board. This seems like a tweaker move. It would explain their sudden change when he was in his teens.

julija-mich avatar
B-b-bird
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry to say, buy could it be by any chance that father started developing dementia (or something similar) around your age of 16? illness like that alters people temper, understanding of others and behaviour, a lot. Mom seems just to follow the lead.

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Kyle Simmons
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Doesn't sound like dementia at all. Just drug abuse and general assholery.

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Jamie Cassetta
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To those that doubt this story, I can tell you there's worse out there. My mother took me from her mother's house, who was raising me as her own child, and trained me as her maid. No joke. I learned to cook at 7 yo, wash clothes and dishes, and her punishments? Beatings with whatever came to hand. Her favorite was using her dogs' metal leashes. I started working when I was 15,at a McDonald's but got fired because I didn't have the right black shoes. She wouldn't buy them. The next job was in an office, doing bookkeeping because they found I was good with numbers. I was a Freshman still. I finally left her for good when she gave me the ultimatum of a 2nd job or I left her house. I was 17, and didn't want to leave school. So I walked to the nearest police stn. My dad rescued me. I had nothing in my pocket when I left. Every paycheck I ever earned had been turned over to her. Even the clothes I was wearing had been bought by my grandma whom I'd visited on the sly. So yeah, they exist.

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Christine Will
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SO, so sorry, Jamie, but what *courage* you had, to walk to the police station and get help! You were very brave and very resilient. I totally understand that reality of a nutso, narcissistic mother, having grown up with one myself. Mine also wanted a maid, a punching bag, and free babysitter for my younger brother... instead of a daughter. I got out at 19. Here's hoping you have gone on to make a great life for yourself!

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Jus
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds fake, too specific, too many details, I don't believe the police would behave like that. It's someone's fantasy for likes, which happens too often nowadays.

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aaaggg hhh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These Reddit stories are BS designed solely for generating outrage clicks. I wish people would stop falling for them, and I REALLY wish Boredpanda would stop being lazy and using these fiction tales as an "article".

cpope avatar
C Pope
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Police definitely stay around in potential domestic disturbance situations. Naysayers are OOT.

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Suzi Q
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA-I would have a locksmith there to change the locks. Wouldn't surprise me if they made a copy while they were buying the locks. I love my parents more now.

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Lyone Fein
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For the doubters, let me just say bad parents come in all shapes and sizes. I completely believe this story.

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Kimi Tomminello
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I truly felt this one. No contact with my mom cuz I wouldn't give her and my son $500 for Christmas. NPD parents are the worst and it always seems to come to a head during the tween/ teenage years. Hope this person got therapy as well. Having to parent your parents does a number on your brain.

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Robert Thompson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of those things where there is way more to the story than what can be written in a few pages. We got the highlights, but this guy had to live with them till he could move out.

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good lord! How do you even function if you’re raised by those two? They are despicable creatures. This is a very toxic situation. I wish you the best of luck.

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Katinka Min
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The police comments really made me laugh. Next time, I am listing things I am thankful for, I'll include my parents. They made some mistkaes, but overall did a good job and loved and supporetd me loads! Thank you, universe, for giving me decent parents!!

viviane_katz avatar
-
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Taking all of an adult child's money out of greed is financial abuse. Paying a small rent or chipping in for expenses is more usual where I come from.

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Susanne B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you wrote that your parents were all rigt until you were about 16, combined with the fact, that your mother seems to be just tagging along, I cannot help thinking that your father changed because of something inside him. Is he growing senile or something? Maybe he ought to go see a doctor.

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Fran Morasco
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how do you know , when he got you new door locks , that he didn't make copies of the keys????????

katlia avatar
kat lia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

probably part of the story is made up but if he really wants to cut ties from his parents he should not bought a house close by. He should go far away from them.

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Cordelia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly with the dad acting like that the kid might look into making sure his mom is being mistreated or abused. Could be it's one of those whatever the man says goes or else type relationship

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JuniorCJ82
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How exactly was he "rubbing it in their faces"? Did he ever even invite them over to see it? Those two are f****d up.

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youtube viewing only yea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP's parents seem to have toxic filipino traits of some parents 🤮 good riddance to his parents indeed omg I remember so many people's parents here in Manila

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Diane Knight
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Given that central air conditioning is more efficient, I'd let the parent have the relic window ones, Just pay for them and off set the cost of the new system---and they clean up the mess. I'd gloat that the new system is another way to be better then the folks.

seanette avatar
Seanette Blaylock
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't trust locks supplied by the parents. Seems like it would have been super-easy for "Dad" to make copies of keys before installing the locks.

zeroflight avatar
Zero
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, that was my first thought. 2nd was that he needed a couple of hidden cameras in the common area in case the externals get knocked out & to let roomie know about them.

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kfuz53 avatar
Kevin
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was buying it right up until the police let you question the parents and then hung around all day watching the ac reinstall/locks and mom clean up.

jennifer_millner avatar
Jennifer Millner
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where I live, private citizens don't "press charges". If a crime has been committed, an arrest is made.

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mark_muirhead avatar
rens_1 avatar
Rens
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex-inlaws were like this, so I know people like this exist; it would not surprise me in the slightest if this was actually true.

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ps101pcd avatar
PSimms
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does VLC mean? I've googled it and found nothing that fits this situation.

laurabamber avatar
The Starsong Princess
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amusing but a fantasy. I can’t imagine cops anywhere sitting around supervising for hours while your parents replaced the AC and cleaned up. It would be “you don’t want them charged? Ok, bye!”

kadri-annraidlepp avatar
Kat
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Things like that happen in small towns. I've seen some situations like that with my own eyes so not impossible.

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fatharry2 avatar
Fat Harry's Ghost
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have thought the one thing a parent would want is for their children to do better than they did.

qexfic avatar
Nicole Krenzler
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You dont know narcissism then. Many do feel a threat to their self-worth when they see someone do better than they are.

Load More Replies...
suemyers avatar
Suzi Q
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also--Some people are so naïve they think everything is made up. There are really people this horrible in the world. I'm thinking there was more than marijuana and alcohol on board. This seems like a tweaker move. It would explain their sudden change when he was in his teens.

julija-mich avatar
B-b-bird
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry to say, buy could it be by any chance that father started developing dementia (or something similar) around your age of 16? illness like that alters people temper, understanding of others and behaviour, a lot. Mom seems just to follow the lead.

kyle_simmons avatar
Kyle Simmons
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Doesn't sound like dementia at all. Just drug abuse and general assholery.

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Jamie Cassetta
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To those that doubt this story, I can tell you there's worse out there. My mother took me from her mother's house, who was raising me as her own child, and trained me as her maid. No joke. I learned to cook at 7 yo, wash clothes and dishes, and her punishments? Beatings with whatever came to hand. Her favorite was using her dogs' metal leashes. I started working when I was 15,at a McDonald's but got fired because I didn't have the right black shoes. She wouldn't buy them. The next job was in an office, doing bookkeeping because they found I was good with numbers. I was a Freshman still. I finally left her for good when she gave me the ultimatum of a 2nd job or I left her house. I was 17, and didn't want to leave school. So I walked to the nearest police stn. My dad rescued me. I had nothing in my pocket when I left. Every paycheck I ever earned had been turned over to her. Even the clothes I was wearing had been bought by my grandma whom I'd visited on the sly. So yeah, they exist.

cfw053 avatar
Christine Will
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SO, so sorry, Jamie, but what *courage* you had, to walk to the police station and get help! You were very brave and very resilient. I totally understand that reality of a nutso, narcissistic mother, having grown up with one myself. Mine also wanted a maid, a punching bag, and free babysitter for my younger brother... instead of a daughter. I got out at 19. Here's hoping you have gone on to make a great life for yourself!

Load More Replies...
giustizia avatar
Jus
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds fake, too specific, too many details, I don't believe the police would behave like that. It's someone's fantasy for likes, which happens too often nowadays.

aaaggghhh avatar
aaaggg hhh
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These Reddit stories are BS designed solely for generating outrage clicks. I wish people would stop falling for them, and I REALLY wish Boredpanda would stop being lazy and using these fiction tales as an "article".

cpope avatar
C Pope
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Police definitely stay around in potential domestic disturbance situations. Naysayers are OOT.

suemyers avatar
Suzi Q
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA-I would have a locksmith there to change the locks. Wouldn't surprise me if they made a copy while they were buying the locks. I love my parents more now.

lyone_fein avatar
Lyone Fein
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For the doubters, let me just say bad parents come in all shapes and sizes. I completely believe this story.

kimitomminello avatar
Kimi Tomminello
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I truly felt this one. No contact with my mom cuz I wouldn't give her and my son $500 for Christmas. NPD parents are the worst and it always seems to come to a head during the tween/ teenage years. Hope this person got therapy as well. Having to parent your parents does a number on your brain.

robertthompson_1 avatar
Robert Thompson
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of those things where there is way more to the story than what can be written in a few pages. We got the highlights, but this guy had to live with them till he could move out.

edc_82 avatar
Lola
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good lord! How do you even function if you’re raised by those two? They are despicable creatures. This is a very toxic situation. I wish you the best of luck.

kathinka avatar
Katinka Min
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The police comments really made me laugh. Next time, I am listing things I am thankful for, I'll include my parents. They made some mistkaes, but overall did a good job and loved and supporetd me loads! Thank you, universe, for giving me decent parents!!

viviane_katz avatar
-
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Taking all of an adult child's money out of greed is financial abuse. Paying a small rent or chipping in for expenses is more usual where I come from.

susanne avatar
Susanne B
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you wrote that your parents were all rigt until you were about 16, combined with the fact, that your mother seems to be just tagging along, I cannot help thinking that your father changed because of something inside him. Is he growing senile or something? Maybe he ought to go see a doctor.

fmgm1 avatar
Fran Morasco
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how do you know , when he got you new door locks , that he didn't make copies of the keys????????

katlia avatar
kat lia
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

probably part of the story is made up but if he really wants to cut ties from his parents he should not bought a house close by. He should go far away from them.

b33sunnym3 avatar
Cordelia
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly with the dad acting like that the kid might look into making sure his mom is being mistreated or abused. Could be it's one of those whatever the man says goes or else type relationship

juniorcj82 avatar
JuniorCJ82
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How exactly was he "rubbing it in their faces"? Did he ever even invite them over to see it? Those two are f****d up.

youtubeviewingonlyyea avatar
youtube viewing only yea
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP's parents seem to have toxic filipino traits of some parents 🤮 good riddance to his parents indeed omg I remember so many people's parents here in Manila

dpopknight avatar
Diane Knight
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Given that central air conditioning is more efficient, I'd let the parent have the relic window ones, Just pay for them and off set the cost of the new system---and they clean up the mess. I'd gloat that the new system is another way to be better then the folks.

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