Woman Says She Was Raised To Take Care Of Her Husband, Gets Roasted With 14 Responses
Twitter is definitely a place for people to share opinions, express their frustrations, or dish out hot takes. So it’s no shock to see a single tweet with someone’s thoughts explode into a full thread with people clashing, gifs and reaction images flying, and things becoming very personal. Especially when a person’s tweet touches a sensitive subject or a topic that many people have shifting opinions on.
This is exactly what happened to Brylea Kay, a college student from Texas.
On June 10, Brylea decided to share her thoughts on Twitter that sparked an outrage
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The woman shared a tweet detailing what kind of wife she would be and how she was raised. Cooking, cleaning, and washing her husband’s clothes are just some of the things Brylea says she’d do for her man, working round the clock to make him happy. She even describes it as being “old fashioned” and judging by the way people responded, many agree (and more).
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As soon as Brylea tweeted this, hundreds of people rushed to like, retweet, and, of course, drop their two cents in. And the general response? Not exactly positive. People pointed at many different aspects of the original tweet saying that it was internalized misogyny and sexism at work. Brylea later tweeted that their response was so harsh, she saw some replies where people wished she’d die, which is, of course, extreme and undeserved.
Most of the people didn’t take to Brylea’s thoughts kindly and offered her their own thoughts
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My problem with that last tweet is that feminism IS about letting women have the power to choose. This woman said she was "raised" to take care of her husband. That's not choice, that's upbringing acting as blinders.
Yes, but she’s still choosing to do it now as an adult. Holding onto the values you were raised with is a choice.
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Hmm - I do all this for my wife. She''s got the big-bucks job, and I have more time. So why wouldn't I? Isn't that what brylea kay is doing? She didn't say, "I keep my ideas to myself and always tell him that he's right." My wife and I don't do that. And I get my way in other aspects. On weekends, she gets the jump on chores that I usually do. Re: alarms - my wife sleeps through alarms but must get up on time or she'd be late. So I wake her up when my alarm goes off. Isn't it Love - to help your spouse especially when you can and when you find it easier than she does? And I can and do, every day.
Yes, that is love. I think that’s what she meant. But it was just distasteful to say she was “raised” to be that way. She should be that way because she cares about her lover. Not because she was programmed to be subservient to a man, which is how it came off. But for the record I agree with her and you. I wouldn’t be with someone if I didn’t think they deserved to be taken care of by me.
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I was raised to be my husbands wife, not his mum. I am his equal not his slave. Whilst I do the cooking and cleaning it is only because he works and I don’t. BUT I do not wake him up, don’t make him lunch for work, I don’t lay his clothes out for him, etc, and if he complains about the way I do things then he can do them himself.
There's a difference between a man being capable of these things and yet his wife does them by choice as acts of love and a man who expects to be waited on in this way and is not capable of doing for himself. The first attitude makes a great marriage, especially if both partners do for each other. It shouldn't automatically be assumed that to want to do those things for the man you love means that man is incapable, ungrateful, taking advantage or sexist.
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I understand the old fashioned mindset, and I understand the progressive mindset. I don't understand why its anyone's business or why anyone cares what this - or any lady - does with her hubby. As far as I'm concerned its TMI. Don't care. Whatever floats your boat.
Because the reverse of this is the fact that she posted on the internet about what she does with her hubby. Let's call this out for what it is: the girl wanted her 5 minutes of fame and she got them. You can have any conviction you like and share them with your family, friends, whoever. When you're posting about it on twitter or fb or something and making it publicly visible, you are aware that there are going to be reactions, some supportive and some not. And last but not least, because the "I was raised that way" feels very preachy and judgmental towards people who DON'T do X thing.
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I dont see why people on twitter respond so much to these kind of things. If she wants to do that, then its fine by me. Not like she is saying all women should do that. We (women) say we want to be free in what we choose to do, so she can too right?
She can, but she phrased it in a very preachy, judgmental way. ("call me old fashioned, but i was raised....") She wanted to get a stir out of people and she did.
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My mother was that type of wife to my father. But she never had to work outside the home after she was married. But it's much harder to have a one income household these days. My wife and I both work full-time and we share housekeeping responsibilities. It's just how things work.
It’s more difficult, but it’s not impossible. There are still stay at home parents. My mother stayed home for eight years. It depends on how much the working parent makes, what the cost of living is, and what their spending habits are.
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I don't understand the hate - this is apparently a role she took on willingly. I could understand the outrage if a husband said "My wife was raised to take care of me", but if taking care of our husband is what she wants to do, why does anyone else care?
I totally agree. I did this when I was married but could have worked. mind you I didn't have the skills to earn enough to pay anyone to look after my three children and it would not have been worth it, I was happy to stay at home and raise them in the way that I wanted too, this might be old fashioned now but I was content with it.
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Maybe that's her kink? I ain't gonna judge - but I'll take a hard PASS.
I take care of my husband also, make his plates wash his clothes, I do a lot for him because I like to do so etc etc. He also takes care of me/does all household/children care when I'm in a flare
I think that we need to slow down here. She said she was raised to do this but she is a grown up and with social media, I'm sure she can see that most marriages aren't like what she tweeted especially with the responses listed. However, if that is the life she feels she will be happy with, so be it. She may find out otherwise once married.
Or she may find out that she has a happy life and she made the best choice she could make.
Load More Replies... Why do people think that it's quite ok to bash this woman and portrait her as some dumb sexually frustrated golddigger just because she has her own ambitions and life goals? Isn't feminism about accepting women for what they are and what they want? Apparently only when you conform to some standards. Feminists: Free choice for all women as long as they choose what we dictate them.
She has chosen to remain how she was raised. Nothing wrong with that. We are molded as children, but as adults we make the choice to remain or change. If she is treated with respect and vice versa and is happy then no one should care or be against that. Raise your children you way and live and let live.
First year marriage I tried to be ordinary wife it exhausted me in no time. Work, after that hosework and childcare - all I had for me was 6-7 hours of sleep. The whole weekend spent for what was left during the week - gardening, home repairs etc. This is the worst year of my life, I hated life itself, I was suicidal. So I draw the line and we separated things. We both happier, I have free time and that freetime I mostly spend with husband, before that we had no sex life, and we had no time to play with the kids, now we do, we had no time to take walks, go fishing, camping etc. Separating responsibilities was the best thing we did for our family.
yes, nirity, same for me, i loved bringing up my son, but with too much responsibilities for both partners, the modern/progressive way, fulltimework & housework, our private sex/romantic life was going to an end slowly. also, i dont like someone to be financially dependent from me, we are divorced peacefully and life is so much better now. the traditional and progressive family wont work for me, i found out through this experience, so i choose the alternative, patchwork life, which i am fully happy with!
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I'd rather stay single and look after a dozen cats than play nursemaid to a full grown man, give him back to his mother !!
Unfortunately for her, more has changed than just "traditional values". She's going to have a hard time raising a family on one income. (If she's old fashioned, I'd be very surprised if she plans to be kidless.) And if she plans to work and still do all of this, she's going to find out why most other women these days want to share the load - it's not really possible for one person to work full time, raise kids, cook all the meals, and do all the cleaning without getting resentful of the one who gets to rest when he comes home. The economic reality of our times just doesn't support her plans.
That's true for the people who think they need a big house and 2 new cars and new clothes, HBO, the newest cell phone. There are lots and lots of stay at home moms.
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Come back in 25 years, honey. If two people choose to live the "old fashioned" way, that's their choice. Just don't ask the rest of us to support you when he dumps you for someone 20 years younger & you can't support yourself because you have no job experience.
What a cruel comment, to wish heartbreak and difficulty on someone because they have a different idea of happiness from you.
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I just can't get my head around the idea of choosing to devote your entire life to sustaining another fully functioning adult capable of taking care of themselves, often to the detriment of your own life. To each their own, but as for me, there will be an equal partnership or nothing at all.
As a person who grew up in a country with such slave-minded girls and dated plenty of them, now I'd any time prefer an actual human being with interests beyond serving her male, cleaning, cooking, and putting make up on. These girls are cancer.
Why are traditionally feminine interests like cooking and makeup less valid than any other type of interest?
Load More Replies... I was raised to be ... a decent human being. I want a wife who is intellectually, financially and spiritually my equal or better, and I love being able to converse with her about things that we both enjoy.
Why are you assuming that a wife whom wants to stay at home isn't also all those things to her husband? Also why are you assuming her husband isn't a decent human being because his wife is a "house wife" to him? You don't get a progressive badge for assuming you're a better person than people who make different life-style choices than you, thats rather...condescending and arrogant.
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It’s fine if she WANTS to do it, but not if he EXPECTS. You do nice things because you love someone, not because someone expects you to do it.
It seems pretty clear that this husband to be is entirely hypothetical. as such, "his" expectations are equally hypothetical.
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I find this girl a bit naive. Wait for her to be married, and THEN her pink bubble will burst. And even though I am quite liberal, I agree with some of the comments about letting her choose the kind of life she wants to live. If her dream is to be an "old fashioned" stay at home mom, then let her be. She is NOT saying that we all should do the same, or that HER ways is THE RIGHT way. So I don't get why people get all aggressive. It is her damn life. As long as she's not being all pushy and trying to force her ways on others... what's the problem?
It always makes me cringe when chronological adults begin an explanation with "I was raised to. . ." I will always listen respectfully because I was raised to - and agree so I choose to continue to believe - "to each their own". (See what I did there?) Many, many people are raised a certain way and choose to conduct themselves differently when they discover their own agency of choice. That being said, I frequently do many, and sometimes all of those things for my partner. They are gifts of love, not mechanical reflexes reulting from conditioning. Yes, my parents taught me that decent meals, regularly doing laundry, keeping a clean house etc should be normal things, but they also taught me that they are collaborative efforts. So when I take it upon myself to do them all myself, it is because I want to pamper my partner with a night or weekend of total relaxation. The beautiful thing is this: he does it for me as well. If doing these things for your partner makes you so happy that you want to share it, lovely! It just makes me shake my head when people wear it as a badge of domestic judgement. Sit pretty all you want, if you want to show off all the tricks you've been conditioned to perform - I have no treats to give.
This is beyond pathetic. I've been married 28 years and I've made it very clear from the start that I'm not his mother. He does his own laundry and makes his own food and I make damned sure he cleans up after himself. I've started WWIII over dishes he's left in the sink because it's a battle worth having. I'm his partner in life, not his maid or his mother. I hope this woman isn't raising her kids to have her views. It's very depressing to think about.
I grew up in a large retirement community when i was young. You could tell the old men that were clearly taken care of in this manner their entire marriage. Then the wife dies and they can barely dress, groom themselves. Don't know how to cook or wash their clothes won't eat till someone to serves them a plate. I'm sorry but this women is essentially handicapping her husband. The clothes washing is a big one, i'm in my late 30's and still run into men my age they don't wash their on clothes. It's either a wife or mother....it's crazy. I hate to say this but if you're a physically capable adult and require another human being to feed you daily you're just incompetent or in prison.
If I could not have a job outside the house, I'd love to be a Martha Stewart wifey to a worthy husband. I'd bake that mother-f****r a cake every day. I see zero things wrong with one partner being mostly domestic if the other partner is bringing in the money. Why do people care so much what other people do in their own relationships? I'm not living her life so wifey on, girl.
I think if she had described her (entirely hypothetical) domestic relationship “I’d bake that m**********r a cake every day” there would have been far fewer snide remarks.
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Okay, I'll call her old-fashioned. "Raised" is the most important word here. She might change her mind, she might also marry a man who doesn't want to be waited on. It's her choice, but I wouldn't ever want some to "make my plate"
Her picture can't be more photoshopped than it is, I think that she is very young. Since she isn't married, I think she had someone particular on her mind, when she was posting that c**p. ("I've been raised that way") Otherwise, she wouldn't post "her thoughts" on social media. She probably didn't expect so many people to react. Thoughtless kid's stuff.
I married 25 years ago. As a married couple, you take care of each other. Its not a one way street. Its a team effort.
My grandma was big into “man’s work” and “woman’s work.” Man’s work = outside & yardy stuff. Woman’s work = basically everything else. When I was a preteen I remember telling her that I was gonna get married one day and my husband was going to clear his own plate from the table (that was woman’s work) and her response was that I was going to be an Old Maid. Lol. Fast forward time... my husband & I have been married for close to 15 years. I do things for him and he does things for me. There are some chores I always do that he hates (like dishes) & some that he always does that I hate (like cleaning the cat box). Marriage is about compromise and working together.
And if one partner enjoys doing housework, and the other enjoys working outside the home, that is also a form of compromise and working together.
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I come from an area where many people still pursue such way of raising daughters (and sons), especially in rural areas. Now, let me make it clear, there is no talk about "mutual respect, mutual helping out" or whatever, it is more like "serve him, don't make him have to lift a finger, serve to his any needs" etc. When I hear of some friends who for example "have to" get up before 4am just to wake their husbands and make them coffee before work, makes me wanna throw up >.< And say whatever you want, I can't say that those women "made that choice" or are "happy that way", to me personally it is more that they are completely brainwashed up to the point where they think that is ok.
This! I completely agree. I think people who automatically assume she's talking about "partners mutually sharing the burdens of marriage" are being incredibly naive. In my experience, it's like you described too: Sadly, the vast majority of families who'd say things like "we raised our daughter to look after her husband" don't think of marriage as "sharing the load" or "mutual respect" or "balancing each other's flaws" at all. Instead, they often think of it as serving, following, obeying, babying. And that's the perspective they pass on to their children.
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My husband works 10hrs a day in the hot fl sun and humidity. When he gets home. The house is clean. I make sure he has clothes to take a shower with and I am cooking dinner. He works to take care of us. Why should I sit at home and expect him to come home and do more work.
Watch out... the Feminazis are coming for you! And that makes total sense. Almost as much sense as him saying "she handles the home and family for 10 hours a day. Why should I expect her to work after she has worked at home?". But thats why chivalry is dead... feminism is killing it.
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Holy downvotes, yall really that offended that a ten year old has a more mature perspective than you do? You tell em kid
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Hon, love and relationship is not defined by stereotypical roles. I am not born to make my husband happy and to make him feel like a king. We, my husband and I, were born to make EACH OTHER happy and valued. So the system in our house is: where one left off the other takes over or we do the task together financial or household chores. I have both a girl and a boy as children. I am expecting both of them to bust their butts equally to be productive individuals. Everybody feels the same emotionally and physically. We are all human, men and women, so we also get exhausted and burned out. That is why our forefathers and foremothers abolished slavery and are fighting to establish gender equality.
It sounds like making her husband happy would make her happy. Her husband would probably be pulling his weight in other ways, such as working full time while she stays home.
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This is f*** up to the point where it is kinda strange to realize that a person that reaches the age of adulthood is incapable of taking care of themselves, especially when it’s the 21st century and most of the things are already fully automated. I mean, raise your kids to be responsible on their own, and they will do just fine with other partners, respecting each others efforts, treating each as equal, without the common prejudices. I think!
It’s not that he isn’t capable of caring for himself, it’s that she’s choosing to care for him out of love.
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I see a red flag only because she needs to tell people about this private part of her life. If she is comfortable with her life she wouldn't need to announce it, eh? Is she looking for people to approve of her actions? And could it be she is getting no approval at home? If you want to live this way, just do it. No need for the announcement. Enjoy!
I wasn't raised to take care of anyone because my parents don't believe in slavery.
I feel so bad for her. What she is talking about is putting someone else comfort and needs first always and it never ends up well. One day she will wake up and realise that she has no idea who she really is except a "wife" and what if her husband cheates on her or leaves her and this whole "wife" thing will fall into pieces? If you wanna be stay at home mom and wife, go for it, but damn! think about yourself outside of that, in your own head be more than just that. I hope she will be lucki in this one and won't pass this mentality on her kids.
Where did she say that she isn’t going to be anything outside of that? You don’t know this woman, her hobbies, her interests, or her life.
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So she was raised to be someone's b***h with no independent thought.
What’s wrong with wanting to pamper your spouse, who you love? Taking care of the household while your partner works isn’t “being his mom,” it’s an important job. If the husband works long hours outside the home, and the wife takes care of what happens in it, they are both pulling their weight and as long as they are both happy there’s no problem.
Tweet translation: Single white female looking for wealthy man. Talents include: laundry, cooking, alarm clock, light cleaning, bar tending, agreeing with all my man's opinions and making my man the center of the universe. Poor guys need not apply.
This woman's picture is so photo-shopped she looks like her face is made of plastic. Says a lot about how she sees or dreams herself.
Yeah, like where is that left eyebrow trying to go??
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Each and every one of you telling, and shaming this woman she is "Wrong", That she is a "slave" or "Being his mom." Let me ask you a question? Do any of you KNOW that relationship SHE IS IN? What if she is happy? What if he treats her equally as well and THIS IS HER way of giving to him? Some of you claim to be Feminist or Liberal, but your admonishment is oppressive to her sense of self, more than anything your sanctimonious assumptions can imagine.
The funny this is, I don't think she's in a relationship lol. I think it's all hypothetical.
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A great candidate for Gilead. she'll be saying Blessed be the fruit and Praise be day in day out. Pfft!
We have had a traditional family and as we have 4 children now pretty much all grown up. The cost of daycare made it hard for us to justify paying someone to look after our children while we were at work. To make ends meet I worked away and was fortunate that as a tradesman with my skills set that I was able to provide for my family as I made a better than average wage working overseas. The peace of mind knowing that my wife was a stay at home mom and our children were looked after was priceless. I could never put a price on what my wife did for our family. Seems to me that many of those with the negative comments do not know the value of a stay at home mom. I sure do.
Leave that girl alone. Her values arre only affecting herself. If it makes her happy, good for her. Wouldn't be my cup of tea but live and let live.
I bet she also says she will NEVER let her kids play with her cell phone, or watch tv as toddlers, or etc!
Well, that's how most women were raised here in Europe too. Especially in the olden days, this was something completely normal.
My first response was to note that she says she was raised to take care of her husband, but she doesn't actually have a husband to take care of. Why not if that is her purpose in life? I would also suggest that the reality may be different than she imagines.
Probably because she hasn’t met someone yet. Everyone who is married was single at some point.
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Click bait. None of my business and I don't care one way or another. But then why did she post it with that glamour shot? It also make me break my resolution not to click on these type of sites. For the umpteenth time.
So let me understand: my wife comes back home from her full time job, and then she has to clean the house, wash the dishes, cook, make the laundry, maybe even fix plumbing and climb on the roof for maintenance issues, not to mention grocery shopping...What else???? It has to be partnership, not slavery. I'd be a son of a b***h to even think of letting such a thing happen.
I don't think you understand -- the original poster is not your wife and doesn't share your life. She's not telling you and your wife how to live. Maybe she and her husband decided to forgo a second income so the wife can be an old-school homemaker. Maybe she doesn't want to be a wage-slave and forced to go out to the workforce while what she'd really rather do is stay home and cook and clean and whatever else she wants to do with her time.
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Her photo is shopped out of all recognition to reality, just like her tweets
And if I were this person's friend, I would tell her to get her head out of her a*s and also maybe cut back on the makeup because she's going to ruin her skin :-D ... but seriously.... I have a hard time understanding how people like this continue to exist in the 21st Century.
Call me old fashioned but I was raised to be the breadwinner and man of the house. But my wife had the best job, so I stayed home with the kids and made her dinner every night.
She isn't saying that every woman should do the same. She is just saying she was raised this way and wants to continue to act this way. It's not a good thing for some but is still her choice.
What will happen if she decides one day to stop doing this? And what about sex - same old fashion as in "spousal duty"? She will be in for a rough awakening in a few years.
If she decides one day to stop doing this she won’t do it anymore. Not sure what you are implying.
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I say as long as it's what SHE wants, more power to her. the article didn't give any other info, so we don't know that she DOESN'T have other interests besides taking care of him. While she may have been 'raised' that way, once she became an adult, she had the choice of continuing that way or 'breaking free' and becoming a modern woman. Don't hate just because she chose something most would consider unconventional...these days, manners seem to be unconventional, but i know a lot of people that would love to see them come back! (FTR--I'm a strong, independent woman and would never 'take care' of a man like that; to each their own)
I am a 60 year old woman and I was married for 21 years this is how things were he went to work I looked after the children and him by making dinners washing ironing cleaning doing the dishes etc if yourhusband or partner is at work and you are staying at home why would you not do this? think it's very different if you both work a , Yes raising three children and being a housewife is hard but I didn't expect my husband to come home from a long day at work and then do housework or cooking, it's up to her if she wants to look after him in that way I don't know why people are getting so upset about it it's her choice and it doesn't mean she's not her own person she's just likes the caring aspects, she needs to be a little bit careful I think but I am sure she knows what she's doing . Why can't people let other people do what they want without having an opinion on it .........I mean what does it matter to everyone else? It's not a desease that spreads it just a personal choice
Did he help you with the kids after he got home? Because you ALSO worked the entire day. You weren't sitting around watching soap operas. People get paid to clean houses, take care of children and cook, because it is hard work! But I have a feeling that after your husband got home, he didn't lift a finger to help you with anything.
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I'd say if both are loving towards each other and hes at work all day and she does not work then I don't see a problem and she has a choice but if on the other hand if she worked all day it would be different because then you have her doing a days work then looking after another as well as herself which would be exhausting and unfair..it depends on the relationship too if he was expecting this from her all of the time and was ungrateful or abusive and so on then hes not worth her care for him..it would be unfair if he worked all hours to come home to a filthy house and having to make his own meals while the wife has just sat around or being out spending all the money on trivial things every day ..there has to be a balance and i.m not saying she should not have any fun either she can do both if she has no job
If he is good to her and she is happy, what's the problem? I was married in 1973 and this is the type of wife I wanted to be. except he took advantage and now we are divorced. it depends upon the man and how he treats her in return.
I can see this being just part of something you do for your partner - I mean... twitter only has so many characters and I'm sure plenty of us do this for our respective SOs depending on the situation. The way it was phrased and put forth with the whole "I was raised to" - it just comes off/gives the impression of (even if it wasn't what she meant) "This is what's GOOD and RIGHT and aren't I the BEST?" ... which brings only EXTRA annoyance if/when in the future she tweets things like..."Omg, MEN. I mean... can't they think for themselves? I just can't even" or "Why can't guys like... pick up for themselves or you know, make their own breakfast? What are they, children? So pathetic!!!!" - see... THAT is annoying.
D. Pitbull- Exactly! Almost everyone has missed that point.
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If this is what she actually WANTS to do, then fine, good luck to her. She can't help her upbringing any more than the rest of us can, and hopefully she has enough brains and self respect to do it because she has now chosen it, rather than feels obligated and forced. It doesn't affect anyone else, even if she started trying to shame other women into being the same, which she doesn't appear to be at this point. so, meh, let her be
Who cares and why?! I think she is little bit stupid, but who am I to judge her? Its her life and her decisions, so what?!
It's her prerogative to behave in whatever way she chooses in a relationship.
I think if she wants to be a housewife, it's her choice and it's just as noble as any other job. I personally couldn't, but I respect her choice because it is a full time job. She's not putting on the boring details, but she'll end up taking care of all the taxes, bills, shopping etc. These are usually things that couples do on weekends, after work or by hiring someone. It is hard work that couples I'm sure stress about because of lack of time because of work and kids, so I wish people, especially women, would stop putting other women down for their life choices. I love taking care of my boyfriend because he doesn't really take care of himself. And her man will work hard to provide and take care of her. If that's what she wants, respect her choice and move on.
Like one of the things said above. It depends on who works but adding to that it is the most logical practical solution and nothing is wrong for a male or female to do such things for their spouse or spouses
What gets me is the opinionated jackasses calling her weak, etc for WANTING to care for her up-to-now theoretical husband. Not a damn thing wrong with what she said. She never said she would walk two paces behind him and call him Sir and ask for permission- unless of course, those dynamics eventually figured into THEIR life- who are we to judge? She is sharing her thoughts- period. I wish her happiness and joy in her life to come with whomever she chooses. I hope he will also have been raised to love and appreciate his future mate and not be entitled. THAT people, is bad. Sharing is Caring, right?
That last tweet nailed it. If she chooses to live like that, it's her prerogative. As long as she doesn't imply all women should do it, I don't care what she does.
What do you care what she does with her own life? Stop looking into others life and focus on your own. I've said it countless times - mind your own business.
She better expect to either marry a rich man or expect to be poor most days. In this day and age, it takes two working parents to make ends meet. And from her appearance, I expect she won't take to being poor. Now the next step...she said she was raised to be a good wife to her husband. Does that include having kids? Because I got news for her..kids change everything. And if you set hubby's expectations high..he's going to expect that clean house, prompt meal and clean laundry same as always. He won't care if the kids occupy 99.9% of your time. And don't expect him to raise a finger to help you with the kids. Expectations and reality have this nasty habit of being two totally different things. Brace yourself for reality.
You don’t have to be rich, financially comfortable yes, but not rich. My mother stayed home for eight years, we weren’t quite rich, but upper middle class (my dad is a doctor). They made it work.
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Although i don't think alike, i don't know any reason for the person not to behave as she's saying. Life can also work like that. I have more problems with the reactions to the tweet. She's nor menacing your lifestyle, is she?! I don't feel the threat. Do you? If you do, check with a doctor as soon as possible. Be well.
There's a reason why 1950's housewife is no longer the norm and sad to think that she was brought up by the residue pockets that still believes that. I can't imagine the kind of man that wants to be/ is dependent on another person to meet his basic needs is going to be anything other than a cliché... What does she do when she has a child? Juggle him like mothers of twins do?
Generally the expectation would be that he contribute in other ways, like working hard outside the home and making money for the family.
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So many people judging this woman. She can live the way she wants. You all would be surprised to learn most people in the U.S. live this way.
It appears she cannot accept the face that she was born with and thinks her husband prefers a clown-face too. Just an outward sign of her standards for herself, her husband and their marriage. Ease up on the makeup lady, love yourself.
It's a choice, I think. If it makes her happy then good for her. I thank my mother-in-law for raising my husband to be an independent person who can cook and clean after himself. We both work long hours and if on top of all that I had to get home to do all the chores with no help from him I'd run for the hills.
My husband came home after 36 hours on the road to Prudhoe Bay, Alaska, slept for 6 hours, and without waking me, got up and used a bucket loader to do snow removal for 7 hours in our driveway so I could get out of the driveway to go to work. Does he expect me to do that? (I DID spend 10 minutes shoveling the steps.) Then why would I expect him to also come in and throw in some laundry?
Wow, did she say she "worked around the clock" like a scullery maid, doing housework? If you ask me, she looks like she is pretty happy, wearing nice clothes and expensive make-up, driving a nice car, and out with a friend.
I think its funny that women are so offended by this post. Brylea is obviously, from her picture, a girl who is well "taken care of" herself. Obviously she and her guy have an arrangement that works for them. Does she look happy? Is she wearing nice clothes and does she spend a mountain of money on makeup? If she is at home taking care of it, the guy is obviously providing well for her. All of these women who say if they are doing chores, their men are doing chores, make me laugh. So what if I come home from work, and then have to cook? We get a lot of snow where we live, and my husband who is a truck driver, had to come home and spend 7 hours outside doing snow removal with a bucket loader and a 4 wheeler with a blade on it. So I could get out of the driveway and go to work. Should he expect me to do that? Then why would I think he should be in the house doing laundry? Every woman should be respected for the choices she makes. Don't tell her, "this is how its done now."
What will she 'make his plates' from? Hopefully paper and not wood or clay since then there will be less washing up to do.
I do this all for my husband. I don't work. I am retired so I make money, but he works outside the home. I get up with the kids, I then get him up, while he showers I set out his clothes, I make sure he has all of his stuff ready to go, why because it makes life easier for him and it doesn't create a hardship for me to do so. If I don't feel well or if I need help, he's there to help. I enjoy making his life easier why is that so wrong?
I cook and clean and do the laundry, and fix my husband's plate. He washes the dishes, fixes the car, maintains the landscaping, and pays most of the bills. He does the heavy work that needs muscle. I do the stuff that a 110 pound old lady can do. He knows how to do laundry and cook, I could work a job away from home, it's not a sexist thing, it's just how we divide and conquer the day.
If that's how you WANT to be then go for it, but don't make it seem like you're better for doing so. I will continue sharing responsibility with my partner because we both work full time.
Marriage is a partnership and that is how couples are supposed to treat each other. This young woman has been fed this stuff from childhood and knows no other way. I think that it is sad that there are people still raising their daughters to be like this. Being a housewife is a choice, but it sounds like this woman is not getting to choose. If a man requires someone to clean up after then he needs to stay with his mother, if he wants a partner then he can get married.
Listen! I was raised with two very powerful women, and had very little male influence in my life. They raised me to respect women and be chivalrous when possible. I didn’t have a choice how they raised me, but I can say that right now my wife is the bread earner right now, where I used to be the bread earner. But I take care of the kids and cook the meals and do school and more, and I’m not angry about it. One of my daughters came up to me and said “daddy when I grow up I want to be a mom and stay home and take care of my family.” Why is that not a noble goal!? I told her exactly what the powerful women told me in my life growing up, “sweetheart, we support you in whatever you want to do.” When she says “raised” I am almost certain she means in the sense of the value system of taking care of the one you love, not brainwashed! It sad when women bash other women in this supposed progressive society. Women need to stick together and not tear each other down!
angry twitter dykes hate even the idea of a good housewife whereas they expect men to do and provide everything for them just due to them owning an axe wound.
First of all...I ain't about to take someone named " Brylea" seripusly. Bye, girl.
Funny whenever someone expresses a conservative view of life, suddenly the liberal maxim "do whatever makes you happy" suddenly doesn't hold good. Liberal double standard at it's best. Lol!
I choose to live my life this way. I support my significant other by doing the things that he is not great at. Cooking, cleaning, budgeting, scheduling appointments, making sure things get accomplished, providing reminders to him... etc. Do I ever replace my windsheild wiper blades, take out the trash, carry in groceries, do house and car maintenance? Absolutely not. There are things that he is good at and things that I am good at. That is what makes us a team. I don't see anything wrong with supporting each other in this way and I'm tired of people criticizing me for choosing such a traditional role.
Why are so many people having a go at this girl for posting that? If that's what she wants, good on her. There's many marriages that are like that where both parties are perfectly happy. Nobody is twisting her arm. People need to mind their own business. If you don't want to be like that, then don't. it doesn't give you the right to judge her for it.
So many strawmen in those responses. What part of "taking care of" implies raising her husband like a child?! She never said she was dressing him, wiping his a*s, and bathing him. Jesus, these f*****s are stupid! If this is "roasting", then they've lowered the IQ standards. Perhaps this is the roasting Special Olympics.
I take care of my man, but he takes care of me too and we both wear the pants me 60 him 40 but if that how you want u relationship that up to and spouse no one else
It’s a joy to take care of my husband. Yes, I iron his scrubs and lab coat, I get up early every morning to make his hot tea. I do all these things and more. I am a retired PA, he is a physician. He works damn hard to put our boys through school, spoil me rotten with expressions of love. It goes both ways. We appreciate each other, been married 38 years and every day is a joy together. You go girl, I pray that you will find a man deserving of your love and dedication. It sure makes for a sweet life and marriage. You ignore these people with their “it’s all about me” attitude. They’ll never be lonely, they’ve always got their self to keep them company.
I think I really side with kumasuxx. The point is choice. Creating the opposite problem where we won't let women do what they want (whether it's to be a housewife or a worker, or something in between) is also bad.
I think someone deleted my comments. Lol i can't see my comments. O well. 😂
I make my husbands lunch for him every day. I get up with him before he goes to work. Sometimes I clean, sometimes, he cleans. He does his own laundry, I do my own laundry. We have separate bank accounts. I cook and serve him dinner, sometimes he does that for me. I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman who chooses to be her husbands girlfriend and chooses to do things for him. I think everyone can do what they want and whatever works for them and their relationship is their business and people shouldn't judge. Do whatever you want!
I’ve been around 55 years now. With the explosion of social media peoples’ judgement Of others’ life choices has also exploded. I’ve never experienced so many people thinking that other peoples’ business is their own and that they are 100% qualified by some unknown source to rule those choices as right or wrong. Smh.
s**t my mom didn't do any of that for me. I was actually surprised that was said to her because what she said did not translate that way to me. shrugs. #liketheyknowyou #betyouwouldeatherfood
That's why there's vanilla and chocolate-if you aren't into it, it's cool, don't marry her
I don't understand why they all lose their s**t over her tweet. Yes, I don't share her values, but she is an adult person and has the right to think for herself. She doesn't say anywhere in her tweet that everyone should live like that. So nope, her tweet isn't even remotely as cringeworthy as a bunch of people, personally offended by a random woman who lives her life not in a way they think she should.
if both partners feel well with it, why not. although, "i was raised to be..." sounds like a condition with little self-reflection. do, what you feel to do, not society / your parents expect from you.
this is NOT feminism. she is not pushing this on other women. she is saying that this is HER choice. choice. this is how she wants to live. get your nosy judgemental a*s noses out of this.
As long as she isn't putting herself in judgment of women who don't do as she does, then if she wants to care for her husband in that way, then hey. It's not my place to judge how she lives her life, either. I personally don't do as she does, though I was also raised to treat men this way, and to "stop reading so many books! It turns men off!". ::shrugs::
I do all this for my husband and I don't care what anyone thinks! He makes sure I want for nothing. Leave this poor girl alone. It's HER life, not yours.
I want to buy her a copy of Marriage for Dummies.... Yep, I'm going to he**. Oh well.
My first response was to note that she says she was raised to take care of her husband, but she doesn't seem to have an actual husband to take care of. Why not?
Probably because she hasn’t met him yet, also it’s none of our business.
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People make me sick If this women wants a life with taking care of her family and her husband /WHO CARES!!! Awesome and her choice OHmuch better if you idiots start with your stupid sayings about her choice .Well maybe she should take her kids to the park and sit there on her cell. Or even better take the family to dinner and as soon as you sit down Whip out the ipads and phones and gove them each one so that they do not have to learn to behave when in public or learn to commonicate .What a joke some of you are You are so bent on being so bloody politically correct you are missig life with love and empathy and comassion.there wuld not be so many children with emotional problems if you would put down your phonesWOW!
The only thing raised is my eyebrow, which is probably a couple of feet higher than her eyebrows.
A woman makes a post about how she was raised to take care of her husband and everyone loses their damn minds. When a man makes a post about taking care of her woman, he is praised and everyone raves on and on about how every guy should be like him, how he's a true "gentleman", and that any man is anything less than thoroughly devoted is an MCP and a sexist. Nice. Real nice. I'm really sick of these bloody double standards you know that? This woman wants to do all she can to make her man happy and everyone condemns her for it? I can't stand this. I really can't. I'm so sick to death of these double standards. I'm someone who believes that if you love someone, you would definitely do everything in your power to make that person happy. But I guess that applies only to duties of man, not a woman. Most of the girls I have known have this attitude. They talk about how they deserve nothing less than the best. Really? I don't see how a selfish, self-absorbed and narcissistic individual deserves to have someone devoted entirely to them, as all they can think about is what the other person can do for them and they couldn't care less about what they can do for the other person. I don't see the logic. My point isn't some idiotic notion like oh all women should treat every man with an endless amount of devotion and respect. I believe that very few people deserve that, be it men or women. But there's this notion now that every woman deserves such treatment. Really? Every woman? Really? Every single woman on this planet? And guys, because they're men, naturally just don't deserve this treatment and should only be the ones providing such treatment? And how do you know that this woman's man doesn't do all that he can do make her happy? He may not do the same things she does, but he may also do things that she doesn't do. So this could be a couple who love and adore each other, but you can't stand that she believes in taking care of her man, because you can't stand the idea of a woman doing things for her man, all while expecting your own man to do everything you ask of him. Sorry for my rant but I just had to vent. Writing this long winded comment was the only form of catharsis that could stop my blood from boiling.
“Feminism is mixed up with a muddled idea that women are free when they serve their employers but slaves when they help their husbands." — G.K. Chesterton
If you fail to see why this quote is so illogical, you shouldn't be attempting to criticize feminism. Yes, a woman who makes money as a professional cook serving customers at a restaurant DOES have more freedom than a woman who stays at home and serves meals to her husband. Because the first woman has a skill and work experience. If her husband died in an accident, she can still make money and look after herself and their children. Whereas the second woman, who never worked a day cause she was "raised to" look after her husband or some b******t, might end up in an awful situation, unable to provide for her kids, reliant on the mercy of strangers to keep her family afloat, because she never got to have the opportunity, skills or experience required to make money on her own. And I can't begin to describe how irrational it is to equate "paid work = servitude = slavery." By that moronic argument, we should all aspire to be unemployed and the government should be eliminating jobs. Feminism fights for *the freedom to choose.* And being able to pay your own bills gives infinitely more choices than being reliant on another human to survive.
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I'm kinda curious as to who she expects to pay for all that "Barbie-like" plastic surgery in the future. EVERYTHING sags at some point. Honey, even the best pussy gets old when it can't think above the 5th grade.
Well, since she can't spell & doesn't understand basic grammar - I'm gonna go out on a limb and say she's never gone past 9th grade - and this is basically all she's cut out for.
This woman has no brain. You were raised to take care of a grown man ? She's probably too dumb to work, school or make any effort to find a true passion in life. The easy way is to please a man into thinking you were raised to take care of him.
If that's what gets your engine going then slave away. I hope the sex is worth it.
I grew up believing I was going to be this kind of wife. Well it didn't work out that way but in the end, I am her. My husbands 15 years older and I swear no one taught him nothing in concerns of house work/ care. I'm doing this but I love being that wife that shows him that kind of love. I do have hobbies outside of home but being that kind of wife is my favorite job. He's old school 69 this year and shows his appreciation of my work. I'm his 7th wife and the first 6 might cook but wouldn't clean. The others lasted less than 3 years and we've been together 13 years- married 12. I've never been treated better in my 54 years, I love my job. Say what you want but some of us love what we do, I'll never change my mind on it cause my hearts in it!
And she'll never expect an orgasm or become suspicious when she contracts an STD...
I wonder if she will offer him a concubine some day. Servitude is alive and well.
Don't make women feel less empowered by doing these things for their husband. He's obviously not a baby, he's out working 10+ hours every single day. Do men sit around and feel less empowered because they have to work in order to keep the family afloat? No. Know why? Because suddenly if a woman is doing ANYTHING for a man she's apparently a modern slave. Feminism use to be about gaining equal rights, and now it's become a "I don't have to do that!!' whine. Stop bitching and moaning.
How would you feel? How would you feel if you had to work twice as hard to even begin to be respected? How would you feel if you were expected to stay at home, raise babies and do all the cooking and cleaning? Sexism is a real problem. I'm not even a teenager and I have been affected by it. So stop complaining.
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Could this young woman possibly be an American gypsy? I'm not being sarcastic; I'm only going by what I've seen.
what the girl said is absolutely fine and what she said is this ~ she was raised to be there for her husband and help him to take care of the family but the world of "civilized people" like to die alone with their best friend the dog.
The obscene level of misandry on this website is at a head with this post.
I don't know if I find it hilarious or pathetic that people downvote this..
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A woman's "rightful place" is wherever the hell she wants it to be. We have the freedom to choose now. If that means more divorces, I can live with that.
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It's really starting to sound like, someone left your demanding a*s because you didn't get along with their dog
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i'm happily married and have been for the last 3 years...your point is?
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Well good for you, I guess? I prefer divorce any day over a lifetime as a maid to some lazy fat a*s not doing their share
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you certainly do blow sheep, as no woman will f**k you. If you're wondering why, it's because you call women "c***s"
Load More Replies... My problem with that last tweet is that feminism IS about letting women have the power to choose. This woman said she was "raised" to take care of her husband. That's not choice, that's upbringing acting as blinders.
Yes, but she’s still choosing to do it now as an adult. Holding onto the values you were raised with is a choice.
Load More Replies... Hmm - I do all this for my wife. She''s got the big-bucks job, and I have more time. So why wouldn't I? Isn't that what brylea kay is doing? She didn't say, "I keep my ideas to myself and always tell him that he's right." My wife and I don't do that. And I get my way in other aspects. On weekends, she gets the jump on chores that I usually do. Re: alarms - my wife sleeps through alarms but must get up on time or she'd be late. So I wake her up when my alarm goes off. Isn't it Love - to help your spouse especially when you can and when you find it easier than she does? And I can and do, every day.
Yes, that is love. I think that’s what she meant. But it was just distasteful to say she was “raised” to be that way. She should be that way because she cares about her lover. Not because she was programmed to be subservient to a man, which is how it came off. But for the record I agree with her and you. I wouldn’t be with someone if I didn’t think they deserved to be taken care of by me.
Load More Replies... I was raised to be my husbands wife, not his mum. I am his equal not his slave. Whilst I do the cooking and cleaning it is only because he works and I don’t. BUT I do not wake him up, don’t make him lunch for work, I don’t lay his clothes out for him, etc, and if he complains about the way I do things then he can do them himself.
There's a difference between a man being capable of these things and yet his wife does them by choice as acts of love and a man who expects to be waited on in this way and is not capable of doing for himself. The first attitude makes a great marriage, especially if both partners do for each other. It shouldn't automatically be assumed that to want to do those things for the man you love means that man is incapable, ungrateful, taking advantage or sexist.
Load More Replies... I understand the old fashioned mindset, and I understand the progressive mindset. I don't understand why its anyone's business or why anyone cares what this - or any lady - does with her hubby. As far as I'm concerned its TMI. Don't care. Whatever floats your boat.
Because the reverse of this is the fact that she posted on the internet about what she does with her hubby. Let's call this out for what it is: the girl wanted her 5 minutes of fame and she got them. You can have any conviction you like and share them with your family, friends, whoever. When you're posting about it on twitter or fb or something and making it publicly visible, you are aware that there are going to be reactions, some supportive and some not. And last but not least, because the "I was raised that way" feels very preachy and judgmental towards people who DON'T do X thing.
Load More Replies... I dont see why people on twitter respond so much to these kind of things. If she wants to do that, then its fine by me. Not like she is saying all women should do that. We (women) say we want to be free in what we choose to do, so she can too right?
She can, but she phrased it in a very preachy, judgmental way. ("call me old fashioned, but i was raised....") She wanted to get a stir out of people and she did.
Load More Replies... My mother was that type of wife to my father. But she never had to work outside the home after she was married. But it's much harder to have a one income household these days. My wife and I both work full-time and we share housekeeping responsibilities. It's just how things work.
It’s more difficult, but it’s not impossible. There are still stay at home parents. My mother stayed home for eight years. It depends on how much the working parent makes, what the cost of living is, and what their spending habits are.
Load More Replies... I don't understand the hate - this is apparently a role she took on willingly. I could understand the outrage if a husband said "My wife was raised to take care of me", but if taking care of our husband is what she wants to do, why does anyone else care?
I totally agree. I did this when I was married but could have worked. mind you I didn't have the skills to earn enough to pay anyone to look after my three children and it would not have been worth it, I was happy to stay at home and raise them in the way that I wanted too, this might be old fashioned now but I was content with it.
Load More Replies... Maybe that's her kink? I ain't gonna judge - but I'll take a hard PASS.
I take care of my husband also, make his plates wash his clothes, I do a lot for him because I like to do so etc etc. He also takes care of me/does all household/children care when I'm in a flare
I think that we need to slow down here. She said she was raised to do this but she is a grown up and with social media, I'm sure she can see that most marriages aren't like what she tweeted especially with the responses listed. However, if that is the life she feels she will be happy with, so be it. She may find out otherwise once married.
Or she may find out that she has a happy life and she made the best choice she could make.
Load More Replies... Why do people think that it's quite ok to bash this woman and portrait her as some dumb sexually frustrated golddigger just because she has her own ambitions and life goals? Isn't feminism about accepting women for what they are and what they want? Apparently only when you conform to some standards. Feminists: Free choice for all women as long as they choose what we dictate them.
She has chosen to remain how she was raised. Nothing wrong with that. We are molded as children, but as adults we make the choice to remain or change. If she is treated with respect and vice versa and is happy then no one should care or be against that. Raise your children you way and live and let live.
First year marriage I tried to be ordinary wife it exhausted me in no time. Work, after that hosework and childcare - all I had for me was 6-7 hours of sleep. The whole weekend spent for what was left during the week - gardening, home repairs etc. This is the worst year of my life, I hated life itself, I was suicidal. So I draw the line and we separated things. We both happier, I have free time and that freetime I mostly spend with husband, before that we had no sex life, and we had no time to play with the kids, now we do, we had no time to take walks, go fishing, camping etc. Separating responsibilities was the best thing we did for our family.
yes, nirity, same for me, i loved bringing up my son, but with too much responsibilities for both partners, the modern/progressive way, fulltimework & housework, our private sex/romantic life was going to an end slowly. also, i dont like someone to be financially dependent from me, we are divorced peacefully and life is so much better now. the traditional and progressive family wont work for me, i found out through this experience, so i choose the alternative, patchwork life, which i am fully happy with!
Load More Replies... I'd rather stay single and look after a dozen cats than play nursemaid to a full grown man, give him back to his mother !!
Unfortunately for her, more has changed than just "traditional values". She's going to have a hard time raising a family on one income. (If she's old fashioned, I'd be very surprised if she plans to be kidless.) And if she plans to work and still do all of this, she's going to find out why most other women these days want to share the load - it's not really possible for one person to work full time, raise kids, cook all the meals, and do all the cleaning without getting resentful of the one who gets to rest when he comes home. The economic reality of our times just doesn't support her plans.
That's true for the people who think they need a big house and 2 new cars and new clothes, HBO, the newest cell phone. There are lots and lots of stay at home moms.
Load More Replies... Come back in 25 years, honey. If two people choose to live the "old fashioned" way, that's their choice. Just don't ask the rest of us to support you when he dumps you for someone 20 years younger & you can't support yourself because you have no job experience.
What a cruel comment, to wish heartbreak and difficulty on someone because they have a different idea of happiness from you.
Load More Replies... I just can't get my head around the idea of choosing to devote your entire life to sustaining another fully functioning adult capable of taking care of themselves, often to the detriment of your own life. To each their own, but as for me, there will be an equal partnership or nothing at all.
As a person who grew up in a country with such slave-minded girls and dated plenty of them, now I'd any time prefer an actual human being with interests beyond serving her male, cleaning, cooking, and putting make up on. These girls are cancer.
Why are traditionally feminine interests like cooking and makeup less valid than any other type of interest?
Load More Replies... I was raised to be ... a decent human being. I want a wife who is intellectually, financially and spiritually my equal or better, and I love being able to converse with her about things that we both enjoy.
Why are you assuming that a wife whom wants to stay at home isn't also all those things to her husband? Also why are you assuming her husband isn't a decent human being because his wife is a "house wife" to him? You don't get a progressive badge for assuming you're a better person than people who make different life-style choices than you, thats rather...condescending and arrogant.
Load More Replies... It’s fine if she WANTS to do it, but not if he EXPECTS. You do nice things because you love someone, not because someone expects you to do it.
It seems pretty clear that this husband to be is entirely hypothetical. as such, "his" expectations are equally hypothetical.
Load More Replies... I find this girl a bit naive. Wait for her to be married, and THEN her pink bubble will burst. And even though I am quite liberal, I agree with some of the comments about letting her choose the kind of life she wants to live. If her dream is to be an "old fashioned" stay at home mom, then let her be. She is NOT saying that we all should do the same, or that HER ways is THE RIGHT way. So I don't get why people get all aggressive. It is her damn life. As long as she's not being all pushy and trying to force her ways on others... what's the problem?
It always makes me cringe when chronological adults begin an explanation with "I was raised to. . ." I will always listen respectfully because I was raised to - and agree so I choose to continue to believe - "to each their own". (See what I did there?) Many, many people are raised a certain way and choose to conduct themselves differently when they discover their own agency of choice. That being said, I frequently do many, and sometimes all of those things for my partner. They are gifts of love, not mechanical reflexes reulting from conditioning. Yes, my parents taught me that decent meals, regularly doing laundry, keeping a clean house etc should be normal things, but they also taught me that they are collaborative efforts. So when I take it upon myself to do them all myself, it is because I want to pamper my partner with a night or weekend of total relaxation. The beautiful thing is this: he does it for me as well. If doing these things for your partner makes you so happy that you want to share it, lovely! It just makes me shake my head when people wear it as a badge of domestic judgement. Sit pretty all you want, if you want to show off all the tricks you've been conditioned to perform - I have no treats to give.
This is beyond pathetic. I've been married 28 years and I've made it very clear from the start that I'm not his mother. He does his own laundry and makes his own food and I make damned sure he cleans up after himself. I've started WWIII over dishes he's left in the sink because it's a battle worth having. I'm his partner in life, not his maid or his mother. I hope this woman isn't raising her kids to have her views. It's very depressing to think about.
I grew up in a large retirement community when i was young. You could tell the old men that were clearly taken care of in this manner their entire marriage. Then the wife dies and they can barely dress, groom themselves. Don't know how to cook or wash their clothes won't eat till someone to serves them a plate. I'm sorry but this women is essentially handicapping her husband. The clothes washing is a big one, i'm in my late 30's and still run into men my age they don't wash their on clothes. It's either a wife or mother....it's crazy. I hate to say this but if you're a physically capable adult and require another human being to feed you daily you're just incompetent or in prison.
If I could not have a job outside the house, I'd love to be a Martha Stewart wifey to a worthy husband. I'd bake that mother-f****r a cake every day. I see zero things wrong with one partner being mostly domestic if the other partner is bringing in the money. Why do people care so much what other people do in their own relationships? I'm not living her life so wifey on, girl.
I think if she had described her (entirely hypothetical) domestic relationship “I’d bake that m**********r a cake every day” there would have been far fewer snide remarks.
Load More Replies... Okay, I'll call her old-fashioned. "Raised" is the most important word here. She might change her mind, she might also marry a man who doesn't want to be waited on. It's her choice, but I wouldn't ever want some to "make my plate"
Her picture can't be more photoshopped than it is, I think that she is very young. Since she isn't married, I think she had someone particular on her mind, when she was posting that c**p. ("I've been raised that way") Otherwise, she wouldn't post "her thoughts" on social media. She probably didn't expect so many people to react. Thoughtless kid's stuff.
I married 25 years ago. As a married couple, you take care of each other. Its not a one way street. Its a team effort.
My grandma was big into “man’s work” and “woman’s work.” Man’s work = outside & yardy stuff. Woman’s work = basically everything else. When I was a preteen I remember telling her that I was gonna get married one day and my husband was going to clear his own plate from the table (that was woman’s work) and her response was that I was going to be an Old Maid. Lol. Fast forward time... my husband & I have been married for close to 15 years. I do things for him and he does things for me. There are some chores I always do that he hates (like dishes) & some that he always does that I hate (like cleaning the cat box). Marriage is about compromise and working together.
And if one partner enjoys doing housework, and the other enjoys working outside the home, that is also a form of compromise and working together.
Load More Replies... I come from an area where many people still pursue such way of raising daughters (and sons), especially in rural areas. Now, let me make it clear, there is no talk about "mutual respect, mutual helping out" or whatever, it is more like "serve him, don't make him have to lift a finger, serve to his any needs" etc. When I hear of some friends who for example "have to" get up before 4am just to wake their husbands and make them coffee before work, makes me wanna throw up >.< And say whatever you want, I can't say that those women "made that choice" or are "happy that way", to me personally it is more that they are completely brainwashed up to the point where they think that is ok.
This! I completely agree. I think people who automatically assume she's talking about "partners mutually sharing the burdens of marriage" are being incredibly naive. In my experience, it's like you described too: Sadly, the vast majority of families who'd say things like "we raised our daughter to look after her husband" don't think of marriage as "sharing the load" or "mutual respect" or "balancing each other's flaws" at all. Instead, they often think of it as serving, following, obeying, babying. And that's the perspective they pass on to their children.
Load More Replies... My husband works 10hrs a day in the hot fl sun and humidity. When he gets home. The house is clean. I make sure he has clothes to take a shower with and I am cooking dinner. He works to take care of us. Why should I sit at home and expect him to come home and do more work.
Watch out... the Feminazis are coming for you! And that makes total sense. Almost as much sense as him saying "she handles the home and family for 10 hours a day. Why should I expect her to work after she has worked at home?". But thats why chivalry is dead... feminism is killing it.
Load More Replies... Holy downvotes, yall really that offended that a ten year old has a more mature perspective than you do? You tell em kid
Load More Replies... Hon, love and relationship is not defined by stereotypical roles. I am not born to make my husband happy and to make him feel like a king. We, my husband and I, were born to make EACH OTHER happy and valued. So the system in our house is: where one left off the other takes over or we do the task together financial or household chores. I have both a girl and a boy as children. I am expecting both of them to bust their butts equally to be productive individuals. Everybody feels the same emotionally and physically. We are all human, men and women, so we also get exhausted and burned out. That is why our forefathers and foremothers abolished slavery and are fighting to establish gender equality.
It sounds like making her husband happy would make her happy. Her husband would probably be pulling his weight in other ways, such as working full time while she stays home.
Load More Replies... This is f*** up to the point where it is kinda strange to realize that a person that reaches the age of adulthood is incapable of taking care of themselves, especially when it’s the 21st century and most of the things are already fully automated. I mean, raise your kids to be responsible on their own, and they will do just fine with other partners, respecting each others efforts, treating each as equal, without the common prejudices. I think!
It’s not that he isn’t capable of caring for himself, it’s that she’s choosing to care for him out of love.
Load More Replies... I see a red flag only because she needs to tell people about this private part of her life. If she is comfortable with her life she wouldn't need to announce it, eh? Is she looking for people to approve of her actions? And could it be she is getting no approval at home? If you want to live this way, just do it. No need for the announcement. Enjoy!
I wasn't raised to take care of anyone because my parents don't believe in slavery.
I feel so bad for her. What she is talking about is putting someone else comfort and needs first always and it never ends up well. One day she will wake up and realise that she has no idea who she really is except a "wife" and what if her husband cheates on her or leaves her and this whole "wife" thing will fall into pieces? If you wanna be stay at home mom and wife, go for it, but damn! think about yourself outside of that, in your own head be more than just that. I hope she will be lucki in this one and won't pass this mentality on her kids.
Where did she say that she isn’t going to be anything outside of that? You don’t know this woman, her hobbies, her interests, or her life.
Load More Replies... So she was raised to be someone's b***h with no independent thought.
What’s wrong with wanting to pamper your spouse, who you love? Taking care of the household while your partner works isn’t “being his mom,” it’s an important job. If the husband works long hours outside the home, and the wife takes care of what happens in it, they are both pulling their weight and as long as they are both happy there’s no problem.
Tweet translation: Single white female looking for wealthy man. Talents include: laundry, cooking, alarm clock, light cleaning, bar tending, agreeing with all my man's opinions and making my man the center of the universe. Poor guys need not apply.
This woman's picture is so photo-shopped she looks like her face is made of plastic. Says a lot about how she sees or dreams herself.
Yeah, like where is that left eyebrow trying to go??
Load More Replies... Each and every one of you telling, and shaming this woman she is "Wrong", That she is a "slave" or "Being his mom." Let me ask you a question? Do any of you KNOW that relationship SHE IS IN? What if she is happy? What if he treats her equally as well and THIS IS HER way of giving to him? Some of you claim to be Feminist or Liberal, but your admonishment is oppressive to her sense of self, more than anything your sanctimonious assumptions can imagine.
The funny this is, I don't think she's in a relationship lol. I think it's all hypothetical.
Load More Replies... A great candidate for Gilead. she'll be saying Blessed be the fruit and Praise be day in day out. Pfft!
We have had a traditional family and as we have 4 children now pretty much all grown up. The cost of daycare made it hard for us to justify paying someone to look after our children while we were at work. To make ends meet I worked away and was fortunate that as a tradesman with my skills set that I was able to provide for my family as I made a better than average wage working overseas. The peace of mind knowing that my wife was a stay at home mom and our children were looked after was priceless. I could never put a price on what my wife did for our family. Seems to me that many of those with the negative comments do not know the value of a stay at home mom. I sure do.
Leave that girl alone. Her values arre only affecting herself. If it makes her happy, good for her. Wouldn't be my cup of tea but live and let live.
I bet she also says she will NEVER let her kids play with her cell phone, or watch tv as toddlers, or etc!
Well, that's how most women were raised here in Europe too. Especially in the olden days, this was something completely normal.
My first response was to note that she says she was raised to take care of her husband, but she doesn't actually have a husband to take care of. Why not if that is her purpose in life? I would also suggest that the reality may be different than she imagines.
Probably because she hasn’t met someone yet. Everyone who is married was single at some point.
Load More Replies... Click bait. None of my business and I don't care one way or another. But then why did she post it with that glamour shot? It also make me break my resolution not to click on these type of sites. For the umpteenth time.
So let me understand: my wife comes back home from her full time job, and then she has to clean the house, wash the dishes, cook, make the laundry, maybe even fix plumbing and climb on the roof for maintenance issues, not to mention grocery shopping...What else???? It has to be partnership, not slavery. I'd be a son of a b***h to even think of letting such a thing happen.
I don't think you understand -- the original poster is not your wife and doesn't share your life. She's not telling you and your wife how to live. Maybe she and her husband decided to forgo a second income so the wife can be an old-school homemaker. Maybe she doesn't want to be a wage-slave and forced to go out to the workforce while what she'd really rather do is stay home and cook and clean and whatever else she wants to do with her time.
Load More Replies... Her photo is shopped out of all recognition to reality, just like her tweets
And if I were this person's friend, I would tell her to get her head out of her a*s and also maybe cut back on the makeup because she's going to ruin her skin :-D ... but seriously.... I have a hard time understanding how people like this continue to exist in the 21st Century.
Call me old fashioned but I was raised to be the breadwinner and man of the house. But my wife had the best job, so I stayed home with the kids and made her dinner every night.
She isn't saying that every woman should do the same. She is just saying she was raised this way and wants to continue to act this way. It's not a good thing for some but is still her choice.
What will happen if she decides one day to stop doing this? And what about sex - same old fashion as in "spousal duty"? She will be in for a rough awakening in a few years.
If she decides one day to stop doing this she won’t do it anymore. Not sure what you are implying.
Load More Replies... I say as long as it's what SHE wants, more power to her. the article didn't give any other info, so we don't know that she DOESN'T have other interests besides taking care of him. While she may have been 'raised' that way, once she became an adult, she had the choice of continuing that way or 'breaking free' and becoming a modern woman. Don't hate just because she chose something most would consider unconventional...these days, manners seem to be unconventional, but i know a lot of people that would love to see them come back! (FTR--I'm a strong, independent woman and would never 'take care' of a man like that; to each their own)
I am a 60 year old woman and I was married for 21 years this is how things were he went to work I looked after the children and him by making dinners washing ironing cleaning doing the dishes etc if yourhusband or partner is at work and you are staying at home why would you not do this? think it's very different if you both work a , Yes raising three children and being a housewife is hard but I didn't expect my husband to come home from a long day at work and then do housework or cooking, it's up to her if she wants to look after him in that way I don't know why people are getting so upset about it it's her choice and it doesn't mean she's not her own person she's just likes the caring aspects, she needs to be a little bit careful I think but I am sure she knows what she's doing . Why can't people let other people do what they want without having an opinion on it .........I mean what does it matter to everyone else? It's not a desease that spreads it just a personal choice
Did he help you with the kids after he got home? Because you ALSO worked the entire day. You weren't sitting around watching soap operas. People get paid to clean houses, take care of children and cook, because it is hard work! But I have a feeling that after your husband got home, he didn't lift a finger to help you with anything.
Load More Replies... I'd say if both are loving towards each other and hes at work all day and she does not work then I don't see a problem and she has a choice but if on the other hand if she worked all day it would be different because then you have her doing a days work then looking after another as well as herself which would be exhausting and unfair..it depends on the relationship too if he was expecting this from her all of the time and was ungrateful or abusive and so on then hes not worth her care for him..it would be unfair if he worked all hours to come home to a filthy house and having to make his own meals while the wife has just sat around or being out spending all the money on trivial things every day ..there has to be a balance and i.m not saying she should not have any fun either she can do both if she has no job
If he is good to her and she is happy, what's the problem? I was married in 1973 and this is the type of wife I wanted to be. except he took advantage and now we are divorced. it depends upon the man and how he treats her in return.
I can see this being just part of something you do for your partner - I mean... twitter only has so many characters and I'm sure plenty of us do this for our respective SOs depending on the situation. The way it was phrased and put forth with the whole "I was raised to" - it just comes off/gives the impression of (even if it wasn't what she meant) "This is what's GOOD and RIGHT and aren't I the BEST?" ... which brings only EXTRA annoyance if/when in the future she tweets things like..."Omg, MEN. I mean... can't they think for themselves? I just can't even" or "Why can't guys like... pick up for themselves or you know, make their own breakfast? What are they, children? So pathetic!!!!" - see... THAT is annoying.
D. Pitbull- Exactly! Almost everyone has missed that point.
Load More Replies... If this is what she actually WANTS to do, then fine, good luck to her. She can't help her upbringing any more than the rest of us can, and hopefully she has enough brains and self respect to do it because she has now chosen it, rather than feels obligated and forced. It doesn't affect anyone else, even if she started trying to shame other women into being the same, which she doesn't appear to be at this point. so, meh, let her be
Who cares and why?! I think she is little bit stupid, but who am I to judge her? Its her life and her decisions, so what?!
It's her prerogative to behave in whatever way she chooses in a relationship.
I think if she wants to be a housewife, it's her choice and it's just as noble as any other job. I personally couldn't, but I respect her choice because it is a full time job. She's not putting on the boring details, but she'll end up taking care of all the taxes, bills, shopping etc. These are usually things that couples do on weekends, after work or by hiring someone. It is hard work that couples I'm sure stress about because of lack of time because of work and kids, so I wish people, especially women, would stop putting other women down for their life choices. I love taking care of my boyfriend because he doesn't really take care of himself. And her man will work hard to provide and take care of her. If that's what she wants, respect her choice and move on.
Like one of the things said above. It depends on who works but adding to that it is the most logical practical solution and nothing is wrong for a male or female to do such things for their spouse or spouses
What gets me is the opinionated jackasses calling her weak, etc for WANTING to care for her up-to-now theoretical husband. Not a damn thing wrong with what she said. She never said she would walk two paces behind him and call him Sir and ask for permission- unless of course, those dynamics eventually figured into THEIR life- who are we to judge? She is sharing her thoughts- period. I wish her happiness and joy in her life to come with whomever she chooses. I hope he will also have been raised to love and appreciate his future mate and not be entitled. THAT people, is bad. Sharing is Caring, right?
That last tweet nailed it. If she chooses to live like that, it's her prerogative. As long as she doesn't imply all women should do it, I don't care what she does.
What do you care what she does with her own life? Stop looking into others life and focus on your own. I've said it countless times - mind your own business.
She better expect to either marry a rich man or expect to be poor most days. In this day and age, it takes two working parents to make ends meet. And from her appearance, I expect she won't take to being poor. Now the next step...she said she was raised to be a good wife to her husband. Does that include having kids? Because I got news for her..kids change everything. And if you set hubby's expectations high..he's going to expect that clean house, prompt meal and clean laundry same as always. He won't care if the kids occupy 99.9% of your time. And don't expect him to raise a finger to help you with the kids. Expectations and reality have this nasty habit of being two totally different things. Brace yourself for reality.
You don’t have to be rich, financially comfortable yes, but not rich. My mother stayed home for eight years, we weren’t quite rich, but upper middle class (my dad is a doctor). They made it work.
Load More Replies... i was raised to let people write whatever the hell they like on their own accounts. She didn't say all other women should be the same so why the f**k are there thought police getting all "outraged" about a tweet in which she expresses herself about HER desires. Just call her old fashioned like she asked and go f**k yourselves.
Although i don't think alike, i don't know any reason for the person not to behave as she's saying. Life can also work like that. I have more problems with the reactions to the tweet. She's nor menacing your lifestyle, is she?! I don't feel the threat. Do you? If you do, check with a doctor as soon as possible. Be well.
There's a reason why 1950's housewife is no longer the norm and sad to think that she was brought up by the residue pockets that still believes that. I can't imagine the kind of man that wants to be/ is dependent on another person to meet his basic needs is going to be anything other than a cliché... What does she do when she has a child? Juggle him like mothers of twins do?
Generally the expectation would be that he contribute in other ways, like working hard outside the home and making money for the family.
Load More Replies... Woman says she likes cooking and staying home with her children, gets roasted online. F**K ONLINE
So many people judging this woman. She can live the way she wants. You all would be surprised to learn most people in the U.S. live this way.
It appears she cannot accept the face that she was born with and thinks her husband prefers a clown-face too. Just an outward sign of her standards for herself, her husband and their marriage. Ease up on the makeup lady, love yourself.
It's a choice, I think. If it makes her happy then good for her. I thank my mother-in-law for raising my husband to be an independent person who can cook and clean after himself. We both work long hours and if on top of all that I had to get home to do all the chores with no help from him I'd run for the hills.
My husband came home after 36 hours on the road to Prudhoe Bay, Alaska, slept for 6 hours, and without waking me, got up and used a bucket loader to do snow removal for 7 hours in our driveway so I could get out of the driveway to go to work. Does he expect me to do that? (I DID spend 10 minutes shoveling the steps.) Then why would I expect him to also come in and throw in some laundry?
Wow, did she say she "worked around the clock" like a scullery maid, doing housework? If you ask me, she looks like she is pretty happy, wearing nice clothes and expensive make-up, driving a nice car, and out with a friend.
I think its funny that women are so offended by this post. Brylea is obviously, from her picture, a girl who is well "taken care of" herself. Obviously she and her guy have an arrangement that works for them. Does she look happy? Is she wearing nice clothes and does she spend a mountain of money on makeup? If she is at home taking care of it, the guy is obviously providing well for her. All of these women who say if they are doing chores, their men are doing chores, make me laugh. So what if I come home from work, and then have to cook? We get a lot of snow where we live, and my husband who is a truck driver, had to come home and spend 7 hours outside doing snow removal with a bucket loader and a 4 wheeler with a blade on it. So I could get out of the driveway and go to work. Should he expect me to do that? Then why would I think he should be in the house doing laundry? Every woman should be respected for the choices she makes. Don't tell her, "this is how its done now."
What will she 'make his plates' from? Hopefully paper and not wood or clay since then there will be less washing up to do.
I do this all for my husband. I don't work. I am retired so I make money, but he works outside the home. I get up with the kids, I then get him up, while he showers I set out his clothes, I make sure he has all of his stuff ready to go, why because it makes life easier for him and it doesn't create a hardship for me to do so. If I don't feel well or if I need help, he's there to help. I enjoy making his life easier why is that so wrong?
I cook and clean and do the laundry, and fix my husband's plate. He washes the dishes, fixes the car, maintains the landscaping, and pays most of the bills. He does the heavy work that needs muscle. I do the stuff that a 110 pound old lady can do. He knows how to do laundry and cook, I could work a job away from home, it's not a sexist thing, it's just how we divide and conquer the day.
If that's how you WANT to be then go for it, but don't make it seem like you're better for doing so. I will continue sharing responsibility with my partner because we both work full time.
Marriage is a partnership and that is how couples are supposed to treat each other. This young woman has been fed this stuff from childhood and knows no other way. I think that it is sad that there are people still raising their daughters to be like this. Being a housewife is a choice, but it sounds like this woman is not getting to choose. If a man requires someone to clean up after then he needs to stay with his mother, if he wants a partner then he can get married.
Listen! I was raised with two very powerful women, and had very little male influence in my life. They raised me to respect women and be chivalrous when possible. I didn’t have a choice how they raised me, but I can say that right now my wife is the bread earner right now, where I used to be the bread earner. But I take care of the kids and cook the meals and do school and more, and I’m not angry about it. One of my daughters came up to me and said “daddy when I grow up I want to be a mom and stay home and take care of my family.” Why is that not a noble goal!? I told her exactly what the powerful women told me in my life growing up, “sweetheart, we support you in whatever you want to do.” When she says “raised” I am almost certain she means in the sense of the value system of taking care of the one you love, not brainwashed! It sad when women bash other women in this supposed progressive society. Women need to stick together and not tear each other down!
angry twitter dykes hate even the idea of a good housewife whereas they expect men to do and provide everything for them just due to them owning an axe wound.
First of all...I ain't about to take someone named " Brylea" seripusly. Bye, girl.
Funny whenever someone expresses a conservative view of life, suddenly the liberal maxim "do whatever makes you happy" suddenly doesn't hold good. Liberal double standard at it's best. Lol!
I choose to live my life this way. I support my significant other by doing the things that he is not great at. Cooking, cleaning, budgeting, scheduling appointments, making sure things get accomplished, providing reminders to him... etc. Do I ever replace my windsheild wiper blades, take out the trash, carry in groceries, do house and car maintenance? Absolutely not. There are things that he is good at and things that I am good at. That is what makes us a team. I don't see anything wrong with supporting each other in this way and I'm tired of people criticizing me for choosing such a traditional role.
Why are so many people having a go at this girl for posting that? If that's what she wants, good on her. There's many marriages that are like that where both parties are perfectly happy. Nobody is twisting her arm. People need to mind their own business. If you don't want to be like that, then don't. it doesn't give you the right to judge her for it.
So many strawmen in those responses. What part of "taking care of" implies raising her husband like a child?! She never said she was dressing him, wiping his a*s, and bathing him. Jesus, these f*****s are stupid! If this is "roasting", then they've lowered the IQ standards. Perhaps this is the roasting Special Olympics.
I take care of my man, but he takes care of me too and we both wear the pants me 60 him 40 but if that how you want u relationship that up to and spouse no one else
It’s a joy to take care of my husband. Yes, I iron his scrubs and lab coat, I get up early every morning to make his hot tea. I do all these things and more. I am a retired PA, he is a physician. He works damn hard to put our boys through school, spoil me rotten with expressions of love. It goes both ways. We appreciate each other, been married 38 years and every day is a joy together. You go girl, I pray that you will find a man deserving of your love and dedication. It sure makes for a sweet life and marriage. You ignore these people with their “it’s all about me” attitude. They’ll never be lonely, they’ve always got their self to keep them company.
I think I really side with kumasuxx. The point is choice. Creating the opposite problem where we won't let women do what they want (whether it's to be a housewife or a worker, or something in between) is also bad.
I think someone deleted my comments. Lol i can't see my comments. O well. 😂
I make my husbands lunch for him every day. I get up with him before he goes to work. Sometimes I clean, sometimes, he cleans. He does his own laundry, I do my own laundry. We have separate bank accounts. I cook and serve him dinner, sometimes he does that for me. I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman who chooses to be her husbands girlfriend and chooses to do things for him. I think everyone can do what they want and whatever works for them and their relationship is their business and people shouldn't judge. Do whatever you want!
I’ve been around 55 years now. With the explosion of social media peoples’ judgement Of others’ life choices has also exploded. I’ve never experienced so many people thinking that other peoples’ business is their own and that they are 100% qualified by some unknown source to rule those choices as right or wrong. Smh.
s**t my mom didn't do any of that for me. I was actually surprised that was said to her because what she said did not translate that way to me. shrugs. #liketheyknowyou #betyouwouldeatherfood
That's why there's vanilla and chocolate-if you aren't into it, it's cool, don't marry her
I don't understand why they all lose their s**t over her tweet. Yes, I don't share her values, but she is an adult person and has the right to think for herself. She doesn't say anywhere in her tweet that everyone should live like that. So nope, her tweet isn't even remotely as cringeworthy as a bunch of people, personally offended by a random woman who lives her life not in a way they think she should.
if both partners feel well with it, why not. although, "i was raised to be..." sounds like a condition with little self-reflection. do, what you feel to do, not society / your parents expect from you.
this is NOT feminism. she is not pushing this on other women. she is saying that this is HER choice. choice. this is how she wants to live. get your nosy judgemental a*s noses out of this.
As long as she isn't putting herself in judgment of women who don't do as she does, then if she wants to care for her husband in that way, then hey. It's not my place to judge how she lives her life, either. I personally don't do as she does, though I was also raised to treat men this way, and to "stop reading so many books! It turns men off!". ::shrugs::
I do all this for my husband and I don't care what anyone thinks! He makes sure I want for nothing. Leave this poor girl alone. It's HER life, not yours.
I want to buy her a copy of Marriage for Dummies.... Yep, I'm going to he**. Oh well.
My first response was to note that she says she was raised to take care of her husband, but she doesn't seem to have an actual husband to take care of. Why not?
Probably because she hasn’t met him yet, also it’s none of our business.
Load More Replies... People make me sick If this women wants a life with taking care of her family and her husband /WHO CARES!!! Awesome and her choice OHmuch better if you idiots start with your stupid sayings about her choice .Well maybe she should take her kids to the park and sit there on her cell. Or even better take the family to dinner and as soon as you sit down Whip out the ipads and phones and gove them each one so that they do not have to learn to behave when in public or learn to commonicate .What a joke some of you are You are so bent on being so bloody politically correct you are missig life with love and empathy and comassion.there wuld not be so many children with emotional problems if you would put down your phonesWOW!
The only thing raised is my eyebrow, which is probably a couple of feet higher than her eyebrows.
A woman makes a post about how she was raised to take care of her husband and everyone loses their damn minds. When a man makes a post about taking care of her woman, he is praised and everyone raves on and on about how every guy should be like him, how he's a true "gentleman", and that any man is anything less than thoroughly devoted is an MCP and a sexist. Nice. Real nice. I'm really sick of these bloody double standards you know that? This woman wants to do all she can to make her man happy and everyone condemns her for it? I can't stand this. I really can't. I'm so sick to death of these double standards. I'm someone who believes that if you love someone, you would definitely do everything in your power to make that person happy. But I guess that applies only to duties of man, not a woman. Most of the girls I have known have this attitude. They talk about how they deserve nothing less than the best. Really? I don't see how a selfish, self-absorbed and narcissistic individual deserves to have someone devoted entirely to them, as all they can think about is what the other person can do for them and they couldn't care less about what they can do for the other person. I don't see the logic. My point isn't some idiotic notion like oh all women should treat every man with an endless amount of devotion and respect. I believe that very few people deserve that, be it men or women. But there's this notion now that every woman deserves such treatment. Really? Every woman? Really? Every single woman on this planet? And guys, because they're men, naturally just don't deserve this treatment and should only be the ones providing such treatment? And how do you know that this woman's man doesn't do all that he can do make her happy? He may not do the same things she does, but he may also do things that she doesn't do. So this could be a couple who love and adore each other, but you can't stand that she believes in taking care of her man, because you can't stand the idea of a woman doing things for her man, all while expecting your own man to do everything you ask of him. Sorry for my rant but I just had to vent. Writing this long winded comment was the only form of catharsis that could stop my blood from boiling.
“Feminism is mixed up with a muddled idea that women are free when they serve their employers but slaves when they help their husbands." — G.K. Chesterton
If you fail to see why this quote is so illogical, you shouldn't be attempting to criticize feminism. Yes, a woman who makes money as a professional cook serving customers at a restaurant DOES have more freedom than a woman who stays at home and serves meals to her husband. Because the first woman has a skill and work experience. If her husband died in an accident, she can still make money and look after herself and their children. Whereas the second woman, who never worked a day cause she was "raised to" look after her husband or some b******t, might end up in an awful situation, unable to provide for her kids, reliant on the mercy of strangers to keep her family afloat, because she never got to have the opportunity, skills or experience required to make money on her own. And I can't begin to describe how irrational it is to equate "paid work = servitude = slavery." By that moronic argument, we should all aspire to be unemployed and the government should be eliminating jobs. Feminism fights for *the freedom to choose.* And being able to pay your own bills gives infinitely more choices than being reliant on another human to survive.
Load More Replies... I'm kinda curious as to who she expects to pay for all that "Barbie-like" plastic surgery in the future. EVERYTHING sags at some point. Honey, even the best pussy gets old when it can't think above the 5th grade.
Well, since she can't spell & doesn't understand basic grammar - I'm gonna go out on a limb and say she's never gone past 9th grade - and this is basically all she's cut out for.
This woman has no brain. You were raised to take care of a grown man ? She's probably too dumb to work, school or make any effort to find a true passion in life. The easy way is to please a man into thinking you were raised to take care of him.
If that's what gets your engine going then slave away. I hope the sex is worth it.
I grew up believing I was going to be this kind of wife. Well it didn't work out that way but in the end, I am her. My husbands 15 years older and I swear no one taught him nothing in concerns of house work/ care. I'm doing this but I love being that wife that shows him that kind of love. I do have hobbies outside of home but being that kind of wife is my favorite job. He's old school 69 this year and shows his appreciation of my work. I'm his 7th wife and the first 6 might cook but wouldn't clean. The others lasted less than 3 years and we've been together 13 years- married 12. I've never been treated better in my 54 years, I love my job. Say what you want but some of us love what we do, I'll never change my mind on it cause my hearts in it!
And she'll never expect an orgasm or become suspicious when she contracts an STD...
I wonder if she will offer him a concubine some day. Servitude is alive and well.
Don't make women feel less empowered by doing these things for their husband. He's obviously not a baby, he's out working 10+ hours every single day. Do men sit around and feel less empowered because they have to work in order to keep the family afloat? No. Know why? Because suddenly if a woman is doing ANYTHING for a man she's apparently a modern slave. Feminism use to be about gaining equal rights, and now it's become a "I don't have to do that!!' whine. Stop bitching and moaning.
How would you feel? How would you feel if you had to work twice as hard to even begin to be respected? How would you feel if you were expected to stay at home, raise babies and do all the cooking and cleaning? Sexism is a real problem. I'm not even a teenager and I have been affected by it. So stop complaining.
Load More Replies... Could this young woman possibly be an American gypsy? I'm not being sarcastic; I'm only going by what I've seen.
what the girl said is absolutely fine and what she said is this ~ she was raised to be there for her husband and help him to take care of the family but the world of "civilized people" like to die alone with their best friend the dog.
The obscene level of misandry on this website is at a head with this post.
I don't know if I find it hilarious or pathetic that people downvote this..
Load More Replies... A woman's "rightful place" is wherever the hell she wants it to be. We have the freedom to choose now. If that means more divorces, I can live with that.
Load More Replies... It's really starting to sound like, someone left your demanding a*s because you didn't get along with their dog
Load More Replies... i'm happily married and have been for the last 3 years...your point is?
Load More Replies... Well good for you, I guess? I prefer divorce any day over a lifetime as a maid to some lazy fat a*s not doing their share
Load More Replies... you certainly do blow sheep, as no woman will f**k you. If you're wondering why, it's because you call women "c***s"
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