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Man Perfectly Explains Women’s Rage Today Using Brutal Analogy So That All Men Can Finally Understand It
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Man Perfectly Explains Women’s Rage Today Using Brutal Analogy So That All Men Can Finally Understand It

Author A.R. Moxon has recently invited all men to participate in an exercise of empathy. He reframed women’s experiences with violence and sexual assault and presented it in a way that most guys should comprehend… getting kicked in the nuts. At first, it sounds silly, but it doesn’t after you read the whole thing.

“Speaking on the societally-macro level, empathy has been largely a one-way street when it comes to gender roles and dynamics,” Moxon told Bored Panda. “In my experience, women are empathetic toward men, while men tend not to be particularly empathetic toward women.”

“Put another way, women have to think about what men are feeling as a matter of survival. Men aren’t in a similar situation, and so, if they don’t want to, they don’t. And, by and large, we don’t want to.”

“When women tell their stories of living with danger and vulnerability in abusive relationships and of survival from assault, our first instinct appears to be to protect ourselves from personal culpability and accountability; we certainly saw that dynamic play out as the Kavanaugh story developed.”

Moxon said that his analogy – like any other – is imperfect, and he has received a lot of feedback since he hit “send.” Positive and negative. “I chose nut-kicking because there isn’t a man alive that doesn’t understand exactly what a nut-shot is, and, with very few exceptions, none who would ever want it or seek it out or go out ‘asking’ for it,” he explained. “Most importantly, no man confuses getting kicked in the nuts with sex. It’s very clearly violence, even though it involves sex organs. The idea of growing up in a society where getting hoofed in the balls is normalized behavior, systematically if tacitly allowed by a complicit society, and frequently confused with a pleasurable activity like sex, would rightfully be horrifying to any guy.”

And he couldn’t have come up with it at a better time. As Judge Brett Kavanaugh has just been confirmed to the US Supreme Court, the world has been hit by a huge wave of anger and protest, highlighting the problems that surround sexual abuse, assault and other social issues around it.

“I can’t imagine women’s rage today,” Moxon wrote. “But this exercise, while abstract, helped me get nearer to it than I’d been.”

“The Kavanaugh confirmation proves once again that one of the primary drivers of our society right now is normalized abuse and enablement of abuse,” Moxon added. “In such a society, the telling of wrong is itself seen as the wrong. It’s unutterably sad. It’s why the country has a bully with the mind of a cruel child as president, supported by power, cheered by crowds.”

“I think you can see, if you want to, that there is a powerful political party that doesn’t care about women at all, and thinks not caring is good. I dare hope more of us see this clearly now than we did before.”

Continue scrolling to read the analogy and tell us your thoughts in the comments!

More info: armoxon.comTwitter

As Judge Brett Kavanaugh has just been confirmed to the US Supreme Court, the world has been hit by a huge wave of anger and protest, regarding sexual abuse and assault

Image credits: Julius Ghost

So author A.R.Moxon described the situation in a way all men could understand

Here’s how the people responded

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Leo Domitrix
Community Member
3 years ago

I once had to explain to a male acquaintance that rape hurts even fi you don't fight back and get punched. He was utterly clueless tha a penis could harm a vagina. Had advanced degrees, etc., but didn't realize that you can be lying there in shock and terror, utterly still, and it will STILL HURT LIKE HELL... And not just emotionally. Gobsmacking stupidity out there.

Random Panda
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3 years ago

Men are often so clueless about female anatomy.

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BusLady
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3 years ago

I don't think he is aiming it at all men. But rather, men who lack that basic respect for women and their bodies. Women are not toys to be used and discarded.

Aileen Cawlfield
Community Member
3 years ago

@Whatevers not taken and @Rebecca Lipps - Sometimes it’s both. More often it’s about power, because the person is trying to show dominance over the victim, like with chickens and other animals, when the male is trying to get on top of the female. Other times it may be about sex, if the male/female wants to have sex because he just wants to experience the pleasures of sex, and the other person doesn’t, so that’s when rape happens.

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Jarno Flinkers
Community Member
3 years ago

I don't need to be kicked in the nuts to understand the pain causing it. Why is calling someone out on their fucking nutkicking, a reason for others to threaten you? Because they don't believe it? Nutkickers are everywhere. You might even know one. They don't wear a sign saying "Nutkicker". They could be hiding between young kids, in church, in policestations and even your own home. Sadly but true. If someone says they were kicked in the nuts, believe them! And please do everything to protect them for it ever to happen (again).

Grumble O'Pug
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3 years ago

Some do, sadly.

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Leo Domitrix
Community Member
3 years ago

I once had to explain to a male acquaintance that rape hurts even fi you don't fight back and get punched. He was utterly clueless tha a penis could harm a vagina. Had advanced degrees, etc., but didn't realize that you can be lying there in shock and terror, utterly still, and it will STILL HURT LIKE HELL... And not just emotionally. Gobsmacking stupidity out there.

Random Panda
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3 years ago

Men are often so clueless about female anatomy.

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BusLady
Community Member
3 years ago

I don't think he is aiming it at all men. But rather, men who lack that basic respect for women and their bodies. Women are not toys to be used and discarded.

Aileen Cawlfield
Community Member
3 years ago

@Whatevers not taken and @Rebecca Lipps - Sometimes it’s both. More often it’s about power, because the person is trying to show dominance over the victim, like with chickens and other animals, when the male is trying to get on top of the female. Other times it may be about sex, if the male/female wants to have sex because he just wants to experience the pleasures of sex, and the other person doesn’t, so that’s when rape happens.

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Jarno Flinkers
Community Member
3 years ago

I don't need to be kicked in the nuts to understand the pain causing it. Why is calling someone out on their fucking nutkicking, a reason for others to threaten you? Because they don't believe it? Nutkickers are everywhere. You might even know one. They don't wear a sign saying "Nutkicker". They could be hiding between young kids, in church, in policestations and even your own home. Sadly but true. If someone says they were kicked in the nuts, believe them! And please do everything to protect them for it ever to happen (again).

Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
3 years ago

Some do, sadly.

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