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As Andrea F. Polard, Psy.D., wonderfully put it, arrogance is weaponized pride. Unlike healthy pride — which is an appropriate celebration of personal or communal accomplishment — it pushes people away.

The subreddit r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls is an excellent example of this. The online community is dedicated to shaming people who are trying to be unique by defining themselves outside of "the norm." Instead of proving how unique they are, these folks simply make a fool of themselves, earning ridicule instead of respect.

We've covered r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls before here and here, but with 785K members, the subreddit constantly offers new content, so it's about time we release an update. Continue scrolling and check out its most popular recent posts.

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Moms Are More Important

Moms Are More Important

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, other people work very hard too. Not just you. Get to the back of the line.

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Of all of the things that diminish the quality of interpersonal relationships, few, if any, are as damaging as arrogance.

To be arrogant is to appropriate for yourself, presumptuously; to claim without right and to be overly convinced of your own importance.

One of the unfortunate consequences of arrogance is that people who have this trait often have no awareness of it and when confronted by feedback that suggests that they may be grabbing more ground than they are entitled to, often become highly defensive and even combative, which ironically demonstrates that they probably are.

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The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe I can speak for the rest of the neurodivergent community when I say that we don't accept this a*****e as neurodivergent. Go hang out with Elon Musk. Y'all belong together.

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Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

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So in an attempt to learn how to deal with these people, let's take a look at what the before mentioned doctor of psychology, Andrea Polard, suggests doing to stay calm and collected while still standing strong and confidently against arrogance in your life.

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"Be compassionate, but don't try to fix the person," Polard wrote. "The need for superiority is deeply rooted and ranges from low self-esteem to an unquenchable thirst for praise to a lack of empathy for those who are or appear to be less accomplished. Only the arrogant person can confront such a problem with sustained effort. On the other hand, and as always, it brings peace to your heart and potentially to the situation if you can have compassion for the unhappiness of others."

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I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

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By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

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Next, accept the fact that the other indeed feels superior. Try to realize that there is nothing you can do in the future or have done in the past to make them arrogant.

"He or she suffers from a problem that goes far beyond you. Most importantly, understand that accepting feelings of superiority in another person does not mean that you must feel inferior in turn. Look at it as a game that you can refuse to play."

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Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

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Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, let's just go full anarchy. I'm sure people will respect each other's rights when there are no punitive systems in place right?....right?

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I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

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Blazej Kowalczyk
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You order your coffee at Starbucks? Wuss. Real men grinds coffee beans with his teeth, then pours boiling water in mouth and headbangs violently until coffee is brewed.

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I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

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KM
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

haven't the people in those shelters suffered enough though?

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Fearhunter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's the look of a person who doesn't know what's feminism is.

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Bunzilla
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of people in BP don't understand what feminism is either, it seems : / Guys, Webster definition: "Belief in and advocacy of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes."

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Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That you are even allowed to write is because of feminism, you ignorant little girl. Grow up first.

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Kayjunmoon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sees women who have fought for equality and rights as victims? Who is the real idiot ?

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MJ
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She said “playing victims”, like female equality is something women have made up for attention. She’s beyond idiot level. Smh.

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Kris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate the misconseption of feminism. Its quite simple really: "the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes."

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Bunzilla
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Close. It's: "Belief in and advocacy of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes." This does mean that we have to work heavily on women's rights, since we've been ground down for so long.

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Ozacoter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish we could do that. Put them in a simulation (like a dream) where they are a person suffering in the time/Ideology that they praise. Like a woman in the 50s married to a pig husband, a racist white man as a black person in the 60s, a homophobe being imprisoned for loving somebody etc

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Yubo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And you don't get to complain because you're getting paid less than your male counterparts.

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Jennifer Norton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she doesn't need feminism then fine. Let her go back to the time of not being able to vote or get a job or own property.......etc....etc....

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Delilah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lord almighty woman, you need help, starting with all that internalized misogyny. Then progress to a dictionary and find out what a feminist actually is.

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Ellie Vanille
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah I get you. I don't need feminism either. I just want men and women to be equals... Oh wait... That's feminism.

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Catch 22ish
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah? You like being paid less than a dude for the same job? You like some old white men telling you what you will or won't do with your own body? Idiot.

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Janet C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thanks to feminism, she can get a credit card, loan, and bank account without her father's or husband's signature. She can take birth control and get an abortion (for now). She can go to any college. She can get any job and isn't stuck with secretary, nurse, or teacher. She can divorce without proving infidelity. She has no clue what feminism has done for her.

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Alana Voeks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feminism isn't about total control for women, it's about equal rights for everyone. Feminazis are the things ruining the word.

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Noho 2000
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone let her know that any privilege she has, starting with VOTING is a result of feminism.

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Viktor Rosendahl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looking at all the butthurt people in the comments I'd say the world needs more people like her, taking responsibility without complaining.

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Emily Kerkstra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

do you enjoy having a bank account, owning property, access to birth control, the right to equal pay, the right to file for divorce, and the right to not have your a*s grabbed at work and not be able to do anything about it? Because feminism got you all that.

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Brian Garrett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unpopular I don't care. She has the right attitude. There definitely needs to be equal rights for sure. But using it to get what you want isn't right either.

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Ele V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh honey... Oh honey sweety.. Go back to sleep now shshsh

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Arbys BeefNCheddar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a shame modern feminism doesn't stand for what it's supposed too. It's lost it's way from it becoming too mainstream and people wanting to adopt it's own version of it.

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Lacey Graves
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feminism is important...for you know..equal rights and voting...but ngl, modern day feminism has its....issues...

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Keley Babs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Manipulative idiot is kind of an oxymoron. You have to be pretty intelligent to be manipulative

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Viana Velos
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok I need the difference between feminism and gender equality, cuz I thought feminism was the opposite of machism

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Lauren Capp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait until you find out you make way less than your male counterpart.

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Mary Elliott
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stupid b***h doesn’t need feminism until she realizes she's being paid less than the men at her job for the same work. Think that's not happening? Think again. Why do you think your employer doesn't want you to discuss wages with your coworkers?

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Steven Mankey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feminism is just a different term for "man hating" . It is not what feminism was in the 60s. They call themselves feminists but they just want to whine and complain. And try to argue about myths like the wage gap and all that c**p. It has been proven to be untrue. But they refuse to accept this

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Ladytron
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's just you saying "it's ok up to a point but now I want to protect my entitlement and privileges".

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Mary Rogers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sad part is that *some* feminists have given the movement a bad name. Those are the types who insist that men can never be abused or be victims of women. And they tend to be vocal about it. We saw that with the Depp/Heard trial and how some women were complaining that the attention on Depp took away from the (in their minds) more "legitimate" issue of abuse against women. But it isn't a contest! Young women need to be educated that this is NOT feminism.

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Sheila Stamey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And.. Scene. She's going to give out that are does need it,a bit later in life.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An ignorant fool who is setting out her stall to attract the kind of person who will probably ensure that she becomes a victim

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't need feminism because you don't need a bank account of your own, nor to leave the house without a chaperon, nor to be seen as a mature adult; you'd happily be seen as the property of your father or your husband, or your younger brother. The truth is, you don't need feminism because you are standing on the shoulders of women who fought and died for the rights you take so much for granted that you don't even know you have them.

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Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, you are the same, you just do different, popular thing. Building actual rocket (it is possible for normal people too), or studying science would be a thing. Watching sports does not make me any more sporty.

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"Communicate directly," Polard added. "Sometimes it is advisable to tell the other person how she/he came across. It is good to remind an arrogant person that no one knows that much, considering life’s mysteries, and that no one can claim absolute truth. As long as it does not harm you later, do not suppress yourself."

You can use disarming sentences such as, "Forgive me for interrupting, but...", or "Maybe you did not mean to sound arrogant/hurt my feelings/come across as if you are 100 percent right, but..."

If arrogance is an aberration, you can also ask if anything negative happened to them that day.

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Found This Gem On Facebook

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No they've got a point! Look the picture proves it! You get girls that have long hair and you get girls that don't have long hair!

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Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

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My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

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"Involve a mediator or a greater number of people," Polard said. "Sometimes direct communication backfires, which is why you might want to include a third party to help diffuse the situation."

"Without being vindictive, stand up for yourself under the guidance of someone else. Seek the support you need. Sometimes you might have to find allies and stand together against a particularly harmful arrogant person or persons."

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She’s Handy

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Aran Lindvail
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is cool to be able to do repairs on your own. Probably wouldn't make an Instagram post about it, but still.

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So Cool

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry you were bullied but that sounds like a you problem & not something to make into a personality trait that you tell everyone about...

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You can also reduce the harm by setting limits. "We cannot always choose with whom we work and must deal with, but we can set limits," the psychologist highlighted.

"Before meeting with an arrogant person, decide how much time you will spend together and what subjects you will or will not speak about. Be disciplined and resist biting any hooks that would prolong the allotted time or cover more territory. If you cannot keep your distance despite great effort, maybe it is time to plan to sever the ties. Nobody should remain silent and endure abuse, whether in a personal or professional relationship."

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Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admit this: We all tried journaling or writing a diary every day but never work.

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Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope, I am just THAT basic. If it's hot outside, I am wearing a tank top, shorts and sandals

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The important thing to remember is to stay mindful. Whatever you decide to do, attempt it deliberately, thoughtfully, and with as much love as possible.

"Arrogant people cause others to lose their temper and become their worst self. Observe your reactions with self-compassion and your long-term interest in mind. Play the game of your life instead of trying to fit into someone else's," Polard said.

So always stay true to yourself and... don't forget to shame them on r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls.

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Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

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olx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one doesnt really belong this one is deliberately satirical

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Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a Cardi B fan either, I didn't realise that made me a Speshul Snowflayke.

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Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

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Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

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‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

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So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

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#33

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

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Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why on gods green earth would you listen to Mozart in reverse? I'm pretty sure Mozart himself would be asking you that same question

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Not Like The Other Triplets

Not Like The Other Triplets

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, not at all, all 3 of you are unique, you even dress differently and have different occupations… 🤔

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I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

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#39

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

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Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

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Found This Out In The Wild:

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#42

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

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#43

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

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Anya
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, that’s. Really long way of saying that no one wants to be friends with me because I suck.

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Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

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Sue Lynn Chan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the member of the heterosexual community, we would like to apologize for this girl that will be soon kick out of the group and gift to hell.

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#46

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

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Michelle M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry to burst the bubble, but stepping on a Lego is an everybody problem.

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#47

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

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#48

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

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#50

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

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