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As Andrea F. Polard, Psy.D., wonderfully put it, arrogance is weaponized pride. Unlike healthy pride — which is an appropriate celebration of personal or communal accomplishment — it pushes people away.

The subreddit r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls is an excellent example of this. The online community is dedicated to shaming people who are trying to be unique by defining themselves outside of "the norm." Instead of proving how unique they are, these folks simply make a fool of themselves, earning ridicule instead of respect.

We've covered r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls before here and here, but with 785K members, the subreddit constantly offers new content, so it's about time we release an update. Continue scrolling and check out its most popular recent posts.

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Moms Are More Important

Moms Are More Important

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Icy_Question_4977
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, other people work very hard too. Not just you. Get to the back of the line.

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Of all of the things that diminish the quality of interpersonal relationships, few, if any, are as damaging as arrogance.

To be arrogant is to appropriate for yourself, presumptuously; to claim without right and to be overly convinced of your own importance.

One of the unfortunate consequences of arrogance is that people who have this trait often have no awareness of it and when confronted by feedback that suggests that they may be grabbing more ground than they are entitled to, often become highly defensive and even combative, which ironically demonstrates that they probably are.

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The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe I can speak for the rest of the neurodivergent community when I say that we don't accept this a*****e as neurodivergent. Go hang out with Elon Musk. Y'all belong together.

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Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

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So in an attempt to learn how to deal with these people, let's take a look at what the before mentioned doctor of psychology, Andrea Polard, suggests doing to stay calm and collected while still standing strong and confidently against arrogance in your life.

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"Be compassionate, but don't try to fix the person," Polard wrote. "The need for superiority is deeply rooted and ranges from low self-esteem to an unquenchable thirst for praise to a lack of empathy for those who are or appear to be less accomplished. Only the arrogant person can confront such a problem with sustained effort. On the other hand, and as always, it brings peace to your heart and potentially to the situation if you can have compassion for the unhappiness of others."

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I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

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By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

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Next, accept the fact that the other indeed feels superior. Try to realize that there is nothing you can do in the future or have done in the past to make them arrogant.

"He or she suffers from a problem that goes far beyond you. Most importantly, understand that accepting feelings of superiority in another person does not mean that you must feel inferior in turn. Look at it as a game that you can refuse to play."

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Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, let's just go full anarchy. I'm sure people will respect each other's rights when there are no punitive systems in place right?....right?

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I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You order your coffee at Starbucks? Wuss. Real men grinds coffee beans with his teeth, then pours boiling water in mouth and headbangs violently until coffee is brewed.

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#12

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

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Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

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Pan Paweł
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, you are the same, you just do different, popular thing. Building actual rocket (it is possible for normal people too), or studying science would be a thing. Watching sports does not make me any more sporty.

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"Communicate directly," Polard added. "Sometimes it is advisable to tell the other person how she/he came across. It is good to remind an arrogant person that no one knows that much, considering life’s mysteries, and that no one can claim absolute truth. As long as it does not harm you later, do not suppress yourself."

You can use disarming sentences such as, "Forgive me for interrupting, but...", or "Maybe you did not mean to sound arrogant/hurt my feelings/come across as if you are 100 percent right, but..."

If arrogance is an aberration, you can also ask if anything negative happened to them that day.

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Found This Gem On Facebook

Found This Gem On Facebook

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Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No they've got a point! Look the picture proves it! You get girls that have long hair and you get girls that don't have long hair!

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Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

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My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

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"Involve a mediator or a greater number of people," Polard said. "Sometimes direct communication backfires, which is why you might want to include a third party to help diffuse the situation."

"Without being vindictive, stand up for yourself under the guidance of someone else. Seek the support you need. Sometimes you might have to find allies and stand together against a particularly harmful arrogant person or persons."

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She’s Handy

She’s Handy

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Aran Lindvail
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is cool to be able to do repairs on your own. Probably wouldn't make an Instagram post about it, but still.

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So Cool

So Cool

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry you were bullied but that sounds like a you problem & not something to make into a personality trait that you tell everyone about...

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You can also reduce the harm by setting limits. "We cannot always choose with whom we work and must deal with, but we can set limits," the psychologist highlighted.

"Before meeting with an arrogant person, decide how much time you will spend together and what subjects you will or will not speak about. Be disciplined and resist biting any hooks that would prolong the allotted time or cover more territory. If you cannot keep your distance despite great effort, maybe it is time to plan to sever the ties. Nobody should remain silent and endure abuse, whether in a personal or professional relationship."

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Fearhunter
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And she really wonders why Mary doesn't like her.

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Cynthia Wilkins
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right. She does her bridesmaid duties? She can’t even be bothered to dress appropriately.

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Sarah K
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But...I like, look sooo good in this white sundress. Like, y'all don't even understand.

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Lee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this story in a Not Like the Other Girls YouTube video. I want to say she was kicked out of the wedding party and of COURSE it was because Jake couldn't stop staring at her and Mary was jealous. He wasn't just looking at her in bewilderment that his so called best friend could possibly be so openly rude and disrespectful about his fiancee.

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SweetCee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, Kelly Kapoor. "I thought you weren't supposed to wear white to a wedding?" "There was an emergency.... I look really, really good in white"

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Helen Witten
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good natural looks is not and has never been about showing up someone else's look. The OP should have more sensitivity about this.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WAIT there's MORE: I found the post on Reddit ----Since I’m a tomboy I almost never dress up like this, with makeup and heels and all that and Jake couldn’t stop telling me how gorgeous I looked. There was steam coming out of Mary’s ears but I figured her insecurities weren’t her problem. Well, that night I was officially kicked out of the wedding party along with being uninvited. Mary claimed that she “tried to be nice to me” and she can’t “take my b******t” anymore. I was completely shocked and called Jake in tears, he’s on my side but her bridesmaids have been blowing up my phone and calling me a b***h. So, AITA for “showing up the bride” at the rehearsal dinner?-----

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE: Posted by u/howthecookiefalls 2 months ago I(F29) hooked up with my best friend (M29) and now I’m not sure what to do TW: Mentions of binging/purging and anxiety attacks So my best friend (Jake) recently got married. His wife has always hated me and I’ve been a point of contention in their relationship. She felt like I wanted to “steal” him from her or something. The story is pretty short, Jake came over last week to watch a baseball game. We both got a little tipsy and I’ll admit I get handsy with anyone whenever I’m tipsy around them. Jake brought up the time we kissed in high school and asked if I wanted to do it again. I laughed and told him he’s married and he jokingly went, “I won’t tell if you don’t.” I didn’t expect him to pull me into a kiss. And I didn’t expect to kiss him back. I know this is cliche to say but I didn’t expect it go to so far. One thing led to another and we had sex. Afterwards I completely freaked out and told him to leave,

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Cpt. Robert Christian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you wore white to someone else's wedding rehearsal dinner... then yes, you are most definitely the winner of the AITA award. You are also a narcissistic waste of human space.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wearing white to someone else's wedding literally announces that you are a selfish, conceited arsehole who has a major jealousy issue with the couple getting married - you might as well wear a neon sign announcing this fact - everyone at the wedding knows it, will be talking about the arsehole who dared wear white, will laugh at them, mock them, and generally have a very good reason to dislike them. Wearing white, unless instructed to do so by the couple if that's their colour scheme, only serves to try and upstage the bride, to take attention away from her and only an arsehole would do that. Bottom line, wedding guests do not wear white, end of.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instead of green with envy, it's white with passive/agressive jealousy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Somebody wants to be the one in the bride dress. What next? Object at the wedding because nobody loves him like you do? Maybe he'll leave her at the altar and run off with you leaving everyone gasping? How many times have you been running that scenario?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her comments on the posts are unhinged and it reads like a shitpost and I hope it is because if not, the girl needs help because her comments are insane.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And he invites her on his wedding as a bridesmaid. Good luck. In a students house one guy often visited, friend of a housemate, with his gf and his "just friend" female friend, who stuck to him and said they were such best just friends, almost sitting on his lap. We're like brother and sister ya know. It irritated everyone, but you just act like your nose bleeds. They always came with 3. Then one day he only came w his gf and he was so mad and had gotten rid of her. Well finally.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yta, and you know it. Everybody knows you don't wear white, for any part of a wedding, unless you're the bride.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your title shows you knew you were trying to upstage the bride. Yes, YTA.

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Jules
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. Yes, you are indeed the ***hole. Might just as well come in singing "It shoulda been me"...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude really? WHITE?! WHITE?! You’re an adult, act like you know white isn’t an appropriate color dress to wear at a rehearsal dinner let alone a wedding

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wearing white to the wedding is taboo, since you're distracting from the bride - who is all in the traditional white. There is no tradition of the bride wearing white at the rehearsal dinner. In fact the op was told to wear whatever she wants. Why not white? Secondly, Jake is the AH for getting her into this and not finding a way out for her when things started to go sour. (Which they did long before the dress issue.)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where I live, the bride often wears white to all wedding-related functions. Maybe it’s a regional thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a close male friend when I was about 10ish. We stayed close to the point we lived together in our early 20's and had lots of fun. I was never even remotely attracted to him. He got a girl friend who clearly felt threatened by me. As he got serious I told him that in the end it would be me or her - and he needed to understand I would never never date him and if I fell in love with a man who felt threatened by him, I would be choosing love. TBH I was pissed at him for being insensitive to his girlfriend. I moved out and quickly lost touch. I was invited to their wedding - I declined. Because I'm a normal human being

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's pretty much the one ironclad rule for weddings; don't wear white if you're not the bride.

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1 year ago

"I have never gotten along with his fiance(Mary) and have no idea why." OH REALLY.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not like they have a right to get mad when they say anything goes, but if you already know you shouldn't...

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Stephanie Paich
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not getting this one. This was the rehearsal, not the actual reception. Who cares if she wore white?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your relationship bothers the soon-to-be bride's means you need to be an adult and just tell your buddy "we'll celebrate after, it's mostly the woman's day". I think you're repressing feelings hard here if you had to elaborate that you don't "like him like that"

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No way. Rehearsal dinner isn't the wedding or the reception. Wear whatever. Show up in a Barney costume. If the bride feels upstaged at a rehearsal dinner, it's her own insecurities showing. That said, it was a total dumb move to wear it. If you KNOW the bride and her crew hate you, you DO NOT POKE THE BEAR. Don't give them ammo to use against you. Besides, who wears white to dinner? I see sauce stains in your future.

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Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admit this: We all tried journaling or writing a diary every day but never work.

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Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope, I am just THAT basic. If it's hot outside, I am wearing a tank top, shorts and sandals

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The important thing to remember is to stay mindful. Whatever you decide to do, attempt it deliberately, thoughtfully, and with as much love as possible.

"Arrogant people cause others to lose their temper and become their worst self. Observe your reactions with self-compassion and your long-term interest in mind. Play the game of your life instead of trying to fit into someone else's," Polard said.

So always stay true to yourself and... don't forget to shame them on r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls.

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Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

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olx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one doesnt really belong this one is deliberately satirical

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Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a Cardi B fan either, I didn't realise that made me a Speshul Snowflayke.

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Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

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Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

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‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

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So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

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#33

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

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Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why on gods green earth would you listen to Mozart in reverse? I'm pretty sure Mozart himself would be asking you that same question

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Not Like The Other Triplets

Not Like The Other Triplets

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, not at all, all 3 of you are unique, you even dress differently and have different occupations… 🤔

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I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

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I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

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Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

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Found This Out In The Wild:

Found This Out In The Wild:

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Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

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Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

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Anya
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, that’s. Really long way of saying that no one wants to be friends with me because I suck.

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Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

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Sue Lynn Chan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the member of the heterosexual community, we would like to apologize for this girl that will be soon kick out of the group and gift to hell.

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#46

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

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Michelle M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry to burst the bubble, but stepping on a Lego is an everybody problem.

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#47

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

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The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

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I Think Oop Made This About Herself

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

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