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As Andrea F. Polard, Psy.D., wonderfully put it, arrogance is weaponized pride. Unlike healthy pride — which is an appropriate celebration of personal or communal accomplishment — it pushes people away.

The subreddit r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls is an excellent example of this. The online community is dedicated to shaming people who are trying to be unique by defining themselves outside of "the norm." Instead of proving how unique they are, these folks simply make a fool of themselves, earning ridicule instead of respect.

We've covered r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls before here and here, but with 785K members, the subreddit constantly offers new content, so it's about time we release an update. Continue scrolling and check out its most popular recent posts.

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Moms Are More Important

Moms Are More Important

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, other people work very hard too. Not just you. Get to the back of the line.

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Of all of the things that diminish the quality of interpersonal relationships, few, if any, are as damaging as arrogance.

To be arrogant is to appropriate for yourself, presumptuously; to claim without right and to be overly convinced of your own importance.

One of the unfortunate consequences of arrogance is that people who have this trait often have no awareness of it and when confronted by feedback that suggests that they may be grabbing more ground than they are entitled to, often become highly defensive and even combative, which ironically demonstrates that they probably are.

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The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe I can speak for the rest of the neurodivergent community when I say that we don't accept this a*****e as neurodivergent. Go hang out with Elon Musk. Y'all belong together.

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Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

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So in an attempt to learn how to deal with these people, let's take a look at what the before mentioned doctor of psychology, Andrea Polard, suggests doing to stay calm and collected while still standing strong and confidently against arrogance in your life.

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"Be compassionate, but don't try to fix the person," Polard wrote. "The need for superiority is deeply rooted and ranges from low self-esteem to an unquenchable thirst for praise to a lack of empathy for those who are or appear to be less accomplished. Only the arrogant person can confront such a problem with sustained effort. On the other hand, and as always, it brings peace to your heart and potentially to the situation if you can have compassion for the unhappiness of others."

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I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

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By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

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Next, accept the fact that the other indeed feels superior. Try to realize that there is nothing you can do in the future or have done in the past to make them arrogant.

"He or she suffers from a problem that goes far beyond you. Most importantly, understand that accepting feelings of superiority in another person does not mean that you must feel inferior in turn. Look at it as a game that you can refuse to play."

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Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, let's just go full anarchy. I'm sure people will respect each other's rights when there are no punitive systems in place right?....right?

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I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

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Blazej Kowalczyk
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You order your coffee at Starbucks? Wuss. Real men grinds coffee beans with his teeth, then pours boiling water in mouth and headbangs violently until coffee is brewed.

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#12

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

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Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

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Pan Paweł
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, you are the same, you just do different, popular thing. Building actual rocket (it is possible for normal people too), or studying science would be a thing. Watching sports does not make me any more sporty.

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"Communicate directly," Polard added. "Sometimes it is advisable to tell the other person how she/he came across. It is good to remind an arrogant person that no one knows that much, considering life’s mysteries, and that no one can claim absolute truth. As long as it does not harm you later, do not suppress yourself."

You can use disarming sentences such as, "Forgive me for interrupting, but...", or "Maybe you did not mean to sound arrogant/hurt my feelings/come across as if you are 100 percent right, but..."

If arrogance is an aberration, you can also ask if anything negative happened to them that day.

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Found This Gem On Facebook

Found This Gem On Facebook

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Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No they've got a point! Look the picture proves it! You get girls that have long hair and you get girls that don't have long hair!

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Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

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My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

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"Involve a mediator or a greater number of people," Polard said. "Sometimes direct communication backfires, which is why you might want to include a third party to help diffuse the situation."

"Without being vindictive, stand up for yourself under the guidance of someone else. Seek the support you need. Sometimes you might have to find allies and stand together against a particularly harmful arrogant person or persons."

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She’s Handy

She’s Handy

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Aran Lindvail
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is cool to be able to do repairs on your own. Probably wouldn't make an Instagram post about it, but still.

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So Cool

So Cool

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry you were bullied but that sounds like a you problem & not something to make into a personality trait that you tell everyone about...

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You can also reduce the harm by setting limits. "We cannot always choose with whom we work and must deal with, but we can set limits," the psychologist highlighted.

"Before meeting with an arrogant person, decide how much time you will spend together and what subjects you will or will not speak about. Be disciplined and resist biting any hooks that would prolong the allotted time or cover more territory. If you cannot keep your distance despite great effort, maybe it is time to plan to sever the ties. Nobody should remain silent and endure abuse, whether in a personal or professional relationship."

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Found On Instagram

Found On Instagram

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Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admit this: We all tried journaling or writing a diary every day but never work.

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#25

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

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LittleMissPanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope, I am just THAT basic. If it's hot outside, I am wearing a tank top, shorts and sandals

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The important thing to remember is to stay mindful. Whatever you decide to do, attempt it deliberately, thoughtfully, and with as much love as possible.

"Arrogant people cause others to lose their temper and become their worst self. Observe your reactions with self-compassion and your long-term interest in mind. Play the game of your life instead of trying to fit into someone else's," Polard said.

So always stay true to yourself and... don't forget to shame them on r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls.

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Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

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olx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one doesnt really belong this one is deliberately satirical

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Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a Cardi B fan either, I didn't realise that made me a Speshul Snowflayke.

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#29

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

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Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

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‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

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So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

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#33

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

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Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why on gods green earth would you listen to Mozart in reverse? I'm pretty sure Mozart himself would be asking you that same question

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Not Like The Other Triplets

Not Like The Other Triplets

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, not at all, all 3 of you are unique, you even dress differently and have different occupations… 🤔

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#38

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

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#39

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

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Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So your friend being clearly uncomfortable isn't reason enough?? The f**k

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Dude.... wtf you can't fix a problem IF THEY REFUSE TO TELL YOU THE PROBLEM or work it out yeh the jokes a bit raunchy but you can't force someone to change to suit you ya gotta meet in the middle no?? What's happening their is similar to how christans try and change the LGBQT they don't wanna meet halfway either it's do what I say or u dead too me

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you send sex jokes/memes to someone who has asked you to stop doing so, that's sexual harassment. If someone isn't reciprocating your 'jokes' and their boyfriend/girlfriend/anyone tells you that they are uncomfortable, and want you to stop, stop. You don't get to demand to 'Discuss it to their face'. They are clearly uncomfortable confronting you about your behaviour. It doesn't matter if OP is a girl, and the person she's harassing is male, this is as much sexual harassment as it would be if the genders were reversed. Also if your friend asks you to not send sex memes and sexual innuendo to their boyfriend/girlfriend, they're allowed to have boundries too, and you should stop. The "It's just a joke/my sense of humor" is BS. This is classic abuser behaviour Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

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Michelle M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was so cringy to read but my favorite part was "you see, I know men. I'm hanging around them my whole life." 😅

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most people have does she think its cool to think that doing something that most girls do every day is cool?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the statement "I know men...and I know they appreciate.." Just as women are not a monolith, neither are we. I don't appreciate dirty jokes and memes, and would feel VERY uncomfortable if one of my wife's friends started sending me dirty jokes.

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Sheila Stamey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omgoodness. AH everywhere. ( Not the friend and her boyfriend, but this nasty talking "bestie's) I have a clue for you, hun, if anyone in the relationship ( or room for that matter) is uncomfortable with the level of nasty jokes you are passing,telling, sending memes about, just stop. It's not strictly a law or anything to be the ugliest talking girl or guy for that matter in any situation. Cringe aside, everyone is paying attention to you. But, trust me,it's not good or even neutral. We have enough of that kind of thing going on. In private between two friends who like dirty jokes and I do enjoy one ever so often myself, yes. But telling really filthy "guy" jokes, and I get the idea that's what's going on, nah. If it's in questionable taste, take a pass in public, and with your best friend's bf that is public.

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Lee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The guy was probably like, "I don't know her well enough to call her out. She's your best friend, will you please talk to her?"

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Aunt Messy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Translation: I've never been in an actual relationship because I don't understand that being rude all the time is off-putting, so I try to destroy other peoples' relationships because I'm so jealous I can't stand myself.

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WoodChuckCouldChuck
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kinda weird that you’d send multiple memes specific to handjobs. I hoard memes and send them every day I can’t say I have even seen more than a handful (lol) of handjob memes. The OP of this is trying to manipulate the boyfriend in a stupid way and got caught.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the OP doesn’t care that she is making her “bestie” uncomfortable, putting her in the middle between her friend and her boyfriend, and that she has a complete lack of respect for her friends feelings because she “knows men”? Honey, you don’t know men. You are just trying to get the attention of any man in the room. Who cares if you *know men*. You are supposed to be there to support your friend in her relationship. You don’t need to be friends with him. Just be friendly and respectful of their relationship. Keep it that. It sounds like you are trying too hard to be the focus.

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Lyenne Summers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah you see.. The problem is that her 'bestie' hasn't realised yet that all guys are exactly the same and like all the same stuff. It's literally impossible for a man to not like something sexual or to be uncomfortable about it, so it has to be the girl...... Honestly, some people are just delusional. Poor guy. He doesn't owe her an explanation at all! Also even if her 'bestie' was the only one uncomfortable about it, she should just stop.

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Mary Rogers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh...context matters. Read the room, girl. You are NOT his buddy. Obviously a woman needs to take care because this could be misinterpreted. And not every man enjoys dirty jokes!

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MelFunction
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's your friend. Does it really matter who is uncomfortable with your sexual jokes? Just quit it already. What's wrong with people?

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Vanessa Panerosa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This person is toxic. The friendship won’t last. And JFC i almost threw up thinking of sending my BFF’s (since 7th grade) husband handjob memes. Ew. Yuck. Not bc I’m delicate, but because I’m not some narcissist loser who’s trying to toxically ruin others relationships.

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DumYum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA. You are putting out blatant signals to your “bestie’s” boyfriend. Totally uncool.

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VulcansAreSexy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"you see, I know men. I'm hanging around them my whole life." I never thought I'd be the one to say this but...not all men

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Green Tree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you are an (obviously) young & immature female that mostly hangs out with men and have no sense of when overtly sexual jokes are making someone uncomfortable ---- I have real concerns here....

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No Clue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is anyone else thinking this sounds like it was written by a teenager, or is it just me?

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Pam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Respect your friendship. Actually, you are no way a friend to her. You want her boyfriend and couldn’t care less about destroying your “friendship” with your “bestie”.

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Windtree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your beastie's boyfried could maybe block this OP. And just because the guys she has hanged with are a certain way does not mean ALL mean are like that.

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Crep 105
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I know men". Here, let me fix that for you: "I have a warped perception of what a man is, and I act like it's the truth".

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AuthorHeart<3
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did she really say, I know men, because she took taekwondo and had an older brother?

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KimB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTH did I just read? This is exactly why you have the ability to block people on social media and smart phones...time for the "friend" to get the scissors out and cut ties with this "bestie" OP.

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Alana Voeks
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1) Not all guys like those types of jokes. 2) If that's all you send, it sends a message you may not be trying to send. 3) Your friend's boyfriend's feelings shouldn't be the issue here. You are clearly making someone uncomfortable, doesn't matter who. 4) Sometimes, and hear me out, people are these things called introverts...and they don't like loud personalities. 5) How our personalities are depicts how we remember a situation. Since you clearly seem extroverted, you remember that first interaction in quite a different way than he may have. It's called sympathy and compassion. Maybe learn it

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Lena Flising
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't know ALL men, you know some men, and men sometimes act in one way when they are in a group, and in another way when it's one-on-one. You say you're not like ordinary women. Well, perhaps he's not like ordinary men.

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Found This Out In The Wild:

Found This Out In The Wild:

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#42

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

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Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

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Anya
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, that’s. Really long way of saying that no one wants to be friends with me because I suck.

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Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

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Sue Lynn Chan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the member of the heterosexual community, we would like to apologize for this girl that will be soon kick out of the group and gift to hell.

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#46

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

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Michelle M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry to burst the bubble, but stepping on a Lego is an everybody problem.

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#47

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

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The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

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I Think Oop Made This About Herself

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

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