Guy Deletes All Of His Fiancée’s Work Because She Doesn’t Go With Him To A Birthday Party
Striving for the perfect work-life balance is a task many of us have trouble with. No matter how hard we try, sometimes our work bleeds into our personal lives. But when you have a loving partner who understands your needs and supports you no matter what, you can cope with nearly anything.
Sadly, this wasn’t the case for Redditor Anna34757. A few days ago, she shared a troubling story on the AITA subreddit about how her fiancé took drastic measures to get back at her for a minor argument. You see, Anna had a tight deadline to finish an important project that could lead to a potential promotion at work.
So when her fiancé insisted she comes with him to a friend’s birthday party, she apologized and said her work is just too important. Well, this wasn’t good enough of a reason for her SO. He felt the need to get even after Anna “embarrassed him by forcing him to go alone and get weird looks and questions from everyone.” Scroll down to see how the story unfolded and tell us what you think about it in the comments.
Redditor Anna34757 shared a story about her fiancé’s drastic measures to get back at her for refusing to come to his friend’s birthday party
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When it comes to heated arguments in a relationship, partners often do things they later regret. But wiping the author’s entire project from her computer is a whole other level of disrespect. As we found out from the post, Anna worked hard and wanted to prove herself worthy of the promotion. So when the fiancé could not stand his public image somehow getting ruined, justifying his actions by saying it was “classless and socially unacceptable” for him to attend the party alone, he showed a serious lack of support.
The author mentioned later in the comments her fiancé comes from a family that cares a lot about their image. We may only guess that seeing her excel at her job and be so close to reaching another milestone in life could look to him as a potential threat.
It’s challenging to work toward your goals when your partner does not have your back. It’s especially hard when their behavior includes an element of manipulation. Sadly, some people feel insecure about their SO’s victories, and even end up discouraging them and hindering their growth.
“When we talk about others sabotaging our progress or success, we almost immediately think of control,” therapist Cynthia Catchings, LCSW-S, told Talkspace. “This control can come in a direct and obvious way or it can be in the form of subliminal control. We have to remember that control is not always accompanied by fear or force. It can also be present in subliminal ways.”
She pointed out that manipulation, pinpointing insecurities and weaknesses, diminishing your successes, not providing emotional support, and talking about you in a negative way are some of the signs people should be on the lookout for.
The most common reason for sabotaging is insecurity, fear of abandonment, or jealousy, the therapist argued. “Another reason might be the lack of trust,” she added. “Success might come with extra attention from others and this might scare some individuals, creating mistrust.”
“Recognizing the sabotage is just the first step. Avoiding making excuses for our partner’s negative behavior is the second one.” Well, the author of this post mentioned in the comments that her fiancé’s behavior has crossed pettiness and is becoming worse. She is already sick and tired of her fiancé’s inappropriate actions, so she seems to be on the right track.
If your partner is constantly letting you down, reducing your self-worth, or is generally making life difficult for you for the smallest reasons, don’t stay silent. You should sit down and have a sincere conversation. “Be honest and talk to your partner about what you see, think, and feel and be open and clear communicating the need for the sabotaging behaviors to stop,” Catchings suggested.
At the end of the day, we all want to be with someone who’ll listen to our problems, boost our confidence, and be there for us whenever we have any doubts. Even if there was a hidden meaning behind the fiancé’s action, if he continues to behave this way, the relationship will start to quickly crumble.
Commenters unanimously agreed that the author was NTA, here’s what they had to say
Is this even worth a comment? I hope he's her ex-fiance and still alive, because he isn't worth going to prison over.
Definitely not worth the 25-life jail or marriage
Load More Replies...They could also say, "next time, save it to the cloud". (I agree she should dump him, but if it was saved to the cloud or backed up to a hard drive disc, it would be a lot less painful to retrieve. Just sayin').
Load More Replies...This is close, but I'm still waiting for "AITA for bleeding on the floor after my vicious boyfriend stabbed me multiple times?"
I think one cannot overestimate the amount of brainwashing people undergo when they have a gaslighting, manipulative spouse. They really end up thinking THEY are the problem, when it's crystal clear for an outsider that the spouse is a psycho.
Load More Replies...I'm going tell you something most people might think is over the top. You truly need to file an official complaint with your police department. This absolutely needs to be on an official record with them. A complaint is not the same as pressing charges (although I believe you have grounds). That man is dangerous. Right now he has sabotaged your job (financial independence), blamed you for what he did (you made him do it) and is doing everything he can to convince you that you were at fault and he never would have done this if you had just behaved the way he told you to. These are the people who end up killing their "loved ones" and blame them for it. Even if he never escalates that far he has already exhibited his potential for greater harm, stalking etc. Make an official trail with work and PD now. With luck this would end here but it's not worth chancing.
That simply put is grounds for abuse. Mental, emotional, and psychological abuse DUMP HIM and have a good lawyer help you in filing a case against him.
Load More Replies...Please, don't marry this jerk he's showing you who he really is. Good luck.
Jesus, why does she even have to ask? She needs to get out of this relationship as fast as possible. The guy is a controlling freak.
A lot of domestic abuse victims end up on AITA because they've been gaslit into doubting their reality but are not so bad yet that they're convinced the behavior is as normal as the abuser claims.
Load More Replies...This relationship needs to be ended right now. This guy is insane and it's only going to get worse. She needs to change the locks, throw out his stuff, and file for a restraining order. She also needs to tell her employer what happened and if necessary get law enforcement involved.
Good lord, this guy is pathetic. Controlling, abusive and pathetic.
Is this even worth a comment? I hope he's her ex-fiance and still alive, because he isn't worth going to prison over.
Definitely not worth the 25-life jail or marriage
Load More Replies...They could also say, "next time, save it to the cloud". (I agree she should dump him, but if it was saved to the cloud or backed up to a hard drive disc, it would be a lot less painful to retrieve. Just sayin').
Load More Replies...This is close, but I'm still waiting for "AITA for bleeding on the floor after my vicious boyfriend stabbed me multiple times?"
I think one cannot overestimate the amount of brainwashing people undergo when they have a gaslighting, manipulative spouse. They really end up thinking THEY are the problem, when it's crystal clear for an outsider that the spouse is a psycho.
Load More Replies...I'm going tell you something most people might think is over the top. You truly need to file an official complaint with your police department. This absolutely needs to be on an official record with them. A complaint is not the same as pressing charges (although I believe you have grounds). That man is dangerous. Right now he has sabotaged your job (financial independence), blamed you for what he did (you made him do it) and is doing everything he can to convince you that you were at fault and he never would have done this if you had just behaved the way he told you to. These are the people who end up killing their "loved ones" and blame them for it. Even if he never escalates that far he has already exhibited his potential for greater harm, stalking etc. Make an official trail with work and PD now. With luck this would end here but it's not worth chancing.
That simply put is grounds for abuse. Mental, emotional, and psychological abuse DUMP HIM and have a good lawyer help you in filing a case against him.
Load More Replies...Please, don't marry this jerk he's showing you who he really is. Good luck.
Jesus, why does she even have to ask? She needs to get out of this relationship as fast as possible. The guy is a controlling freak.
A lot of domestic abuse victims end up on AITA because they've been gaslit into doubting their reality but are not so bad yet that they're convinced the behavior is as normal as the abuser claims.
Load More Replies...This relationship needs to be ended right now. This guy is insane and it's only going to get worse. She needs to change the locks, throw out his stuff, and file for a restraining order. She also needs to tell her employer what happened and if necessary get law enforcement involved.
Good lord, this guy is pathetic. Controlling, abusive and pathetic.

























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