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Most of us like to think the world is a fair place. We rent-to-own appliances to repair the kitchen, pay to set up a router, and pack on ink cartridges for our printers that seem to have an insatiable appetite for these overpriced refills.

And there’s nothing wrong about it until you pause and think for a moment. Are we all just normalizing the ways companies make a profit off us without even realizing it?

When someone posted the question “What is clearly a scam but is so normalized people don’t notice?” on r/AskReddit it surely resonated with many. Amassing 85.7k upvotes and 47.1k comments, we have some of the most interesting and insightful responses that will make you go “wait a moment!”

#1

50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Most mega churches... I remember an interview with Kenneth Copeland talking about how he needed a private jet to spread religion

GrandTadpole18 , Karl Fredrickson Report

#2

50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Minimum wages staying the same, while the price of virtually everything else rises

Mcreemouse , Sharon McCutcheon Report

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Ozacoter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s crazy. The minimum salary in Spain stayed the same for about a decade. Even working 50h a week with that salary didn’t give you a decent life. Luckily the new left government is raising it. It is still too low for the rent and cost of living but it’s an improvement.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Funerals and everything to do with them. The funeral industry has insane pricing. Some of the funeral homes and vendors are even predatory, getting grieving families to pay upwards of tens of thousands of dollars, because “that’s what the deceased would have wanted”.

chiggenNuggs , Rhodi Lopez Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I personally don’t understand the big lavish funerals. Your dead so why do you care how your send of goes. I don’t care if I have a memorial, ceremony etc. I want to be disposed of as cheap as possible coz I don’t want my family to be in debt or pay thousands of dollars to legally dispose of me.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Planned obsolescence, where products are deliberatly designed to have a defect or worse performance shortly after the warranty has expired.

TheBassMeister , Markus Spiske Report

#5

50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized ''The customer is always right"

Biggest scam of all- the customer is usually an idiot and looking to get free stuff.

Corner_beat , Johann Walter Bantz Report

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The original saying made perfect sense: “The customer is always right, in matters of taste.” If a customer wanted wear something ugly or eat something gross, you helped them out with a smile. It’s their money and their business, and you’re just there to facilitate that purchase. But once it got shortened and lost that meaning, it became a huge pain in the ass for employees and businesses, and a license to act like an entitled douche to customers.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized The US tax system. “We know how much money you owe, but it’s up to you to figure it out and if it’s not right, we’re going to penalize you for not understanding the convoluted code.”

JeromeBaritone , Leon Dewiwje Report

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Vorknkx
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so weird. In my country, all the necessary data is fileld in. In most cases I don't have to file anything at all, my employer does that for me, automatically.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized The fact that so many products require you to create an account and register it just to use it. This is starting to become so widespread. Even CAMERAS are doing that [things] now. Pisses me off so much. I don't want to be tied to some stupid cloud BS I just want to use the damn thing.

Phones themselves are terrible for this too. I should not need an apple or google account to have a phone I should be able to use it as a standalone device with just the cell service and that's it. All this sort of BS is only so they can spy on you.

RedSquirrelFtw , Marc Mueller Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree 100%, also I hate that you have to give permission to use your data to access most apps, websites etc. You should be able to use them without them selling your info to other parties.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized College textbook prices.

It's crazy how ridiculous expensive they are putting even more of a financial burden on students

-eDgAR- , Daria Nepriakhina Report

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We the option to lease textbooks for a very small price. The only condition was to return them without any visible damage.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Unpaid internships. F*ck anyone who gives unpaid internships! People get exploited like sh*t in that and for what? Most times they don't even count. For what purpose?

I get so irritated when someone posts "unpaid but you'll be given a certificate". Shut the f*ck up and do the work by yourself you lazy ass.

MojoJojo1945 , Austin Distel Report

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Worst in these is that people usually get to do normal paid work without any guidance at all.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Diamond rings for marriage.

Red-7134 , Simon John-McHaffie Report

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Vorknkx
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If two people are truly in love, it wouldn't matter if there is a ring at all.

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Honu
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally, I like wearing a physical symbol of my marriage, but I don't think it's necessary. Even if you want that symbol, it doesn't have to be expensive.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many other gemstones that are more interesting and beautiful than diamonds, and they don't cost as much. The DeBeers marketing ploy really worked.

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Kenny Kulbiski
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. Diamonds are the most boring, lifeless dull gemstone ever. They're not all that rare either.

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Donkey boi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a ring custom made for when I proposed, I'd managed to sneak a measurement of her ring size while she was sleeping, sat down with a designer. We discussed shape, colours, materials, what she did for a living (in case it stuck out to much), the cut of the gems the whole lot! Almost 3 months of secret planning before the big moment. I proposed, she said yes, I gave her the ring, she loved it. Fast forward a few months later, I'd added the ring to the home insurance, she saw the value and now she won't wear it. She says it's our 'rainy day fund' and wears a £20 ring from a high street shop. Yeah, it's a bit of a scam and I fell for it, but it is also a bit of an investment (I say to myself hopefully).

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Danieletc
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

DeBeers' evil genius using marketing to make it a tradition.

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RoseTheMad
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My fiances ring is Opal and Tanzanite, our birthstones for October and December. Diamonds are overrated, the shimmery opal and the blue-purple tanzanite look far more beautiful than a plain ol' diamond imo. ;) And it cost me a grand total of £110 on etsy. Rings don't need to be so expensive when there is love behind them, love is more important than money in this case especially. If 2 people love each other, hell, there doesn't even NEED to be a ring.

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Sweetie Dahling
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My morganite engagement ring is from Etsy as well :) Love the stones you picked!

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The diamond supply/stored stock is massive. The main controllers are (excuse spelling) De Biers and another one, who deliberately hold back the majority of diamonds to make them scarce. And the whole diamond ring for engagements is just a marketing thing it's not a very old tradition. If you want a precious object that will retain value I'd recommend gold; not only has it stood the test of time having always been seen as valuable to most societies ancient and new, it will always have a value (yes it fluctuates but that's not the point), it doesn't tarnish it's antiseptic and used in computers. More of a safe bet than artificially valuable carbon formations that would just burn up in a fire

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Steve Barnett
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Lauren. Was going to post a comment similar to yours. But you've nailed it, so I don't need to bother. Yours, S.

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Leo Domitrix
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

DeBeers suckered the world. Diamonds aren't forever. They're just well-controlled by a market cartel, to give the illusion of value. Colored gems were, for mosto f history, much more valued.

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Ian Bartels
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The diamond is symbolic. You can find diamond rings in the lower price of $300 or $400 dollars. You don't have to spend thousands of dollars.

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KT
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't need a diamond to be married, it's nice but not necessary.

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Brandi VanSteenwyk
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Young people just starting their lives together and choosing to spend BIG money on diamonds and weddings just boggle me. Call me frugal but I can think of so many better ways to utilize those funds to lessen their worries and increase their contentment.

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Elaine N
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know you people are right... but diamonds are so pretty 😬😊😊

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Diamonds are my favorite gemstone too. I like the clearness of them as opposed to being trapped into one specific color. If it’s in your budget then do what you want. Some people opt for glass, cz or moissanite instead. I can tell the difference but not on first glance really. You have to really look up close to notice the differences. Lab grown diamonds are cheaper as engagement rings but are still true diamonds. I argued my partner about lab grown diamonds because I want them and he only buys the real ones, but he says it’s more meaningful to give someone a gift that has been waiting for them for millions of years. Different strokes I guess. I get that these bad companies have cornered the market and ruined the pricing but money comes and money goes. It’s not that big of a deal to buy something you really want, if you have the means.

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Rose the Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In some countries the woman wears a plain gold wedding band on the opposite hand when she becomes engaged then changes it to the traditional hand at the wedding.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me I think diamonds are overrated and expensive rings. My engagement and wedding ring set cost less than $300. I would have been pisses if my hubby spent thousands on a ring.

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Norah Reilly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please remember that the rings for an engagement and marriage are an all-too-real vestige of the chattel arrangement that we call marriage.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That may be, but they are also valuable, especially a diamond ring, and can be sold by a woman in the event of a divorce, when statistically women are left much worse off financially. A bit of financial insurance should not be something that a man who truly loves his partner would balk at.

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Emma London
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Diamonds' value is pure fiction. Artificial, commercial diamonds work better in the industry, and a common person can't differ a diamond from high quality dupe. At least gold has actual value as a material .

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fiction or not, it is in fact reality that diamonds are considered valuable. A lab-grown diamond is still a diamond with the exact same composition, and they aren't exactly cheap either. It's not hard to tell a CZ from a diamond, either.

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Gosia Buczek
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you are professional, you wouldn't even tell the difference between diamond and glass cut in the same shape.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You'd be very wrong about that. Mineral composition is actually a thing. A cut diamond is going to catch throw lights and colors that silica can't. It's really not hard to tell, even to the untrained eye.

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Krystine Patterson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since the 1980’s the De Beers’ cartel over rough diamonds has been unwinding. Today they control only 30% of the market. This did not prevent the US Supreme Court from belatedly prosecuting them for anti-trust activities in the early 2000’s. The company is now under periodic review, even though it lacks the means, and possibly even the desire, to control the diamond market again. All prices are an abstraction, representing a balance between buyers and sellers. All sellers will seek to maximise their price and add value through marketing. The means of exchange, currency, is the biggest abstraction of all, as money itself has no intrinsic value, only a social one. We continue to buy diamonds because they are important for making jewellery. Jewellery is an industry, it fills an essential need, arguably even more critical than the fashion, fine dining or wine industries.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is more of a tradition than a scam. The diamond engagement ring goes all the way back to the 1400s. Now I believe it's more of a status statement in regards to the size and the cut. The better the clarity and color of the diamond as well as the carat size, the higher the cost. If you don't care about any of that stuff but still want a diamond, there are options available. Just don't get what I call frozen spit. They are crap diamonds and are mostly reserved for earrings because no one gets that close like they do a ring. Still there are many other gem choices for engagement rings out there. You should just pick what you like and screw tradition.

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tmw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

anything to do with the wedding (not marriage, wedding is a ceremony) industry. total scam

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Joan Bohlmann
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the de beers company started this. they hoarded the diamond supply, marketed them as engagement ring "must-do's" and dictated prices.

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Winx
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It shouldn't matter what the ring is made of. What matters is what it represents

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Your_local_introvert
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the significance of a ring, but I would rather have a cheap fake diamond than a real one, for the purpose of saving money for more important things, and because I would just end up losing it anyway.

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Víctor Alfonso García Olmo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I bought our wedding rings in a flea market. Two hours after the ceremony our fingers were green!!!! Great laughs in the moment, we packed the rings in a tiny basket and digged in our home´s attic

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GirlFriday
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh! I helped a coworker pick out a ring (I advised against diamonds, but he wanted to purchase one) and then he went to her parents to tell them of the plan. The mom told him that if the ring didn't cost at least $10,000 then he wasn't serious about marriage.

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Karl Baxter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When me and my missus got engaged she chose a £40;silver ring with a blue topaz over a trad, ring. 30 years later we’re still together. This is unlike the couple we know where she demanded he spend 2 months wages on the ring - marriage lasted 3 years..

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Paul Budhram
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would do the birthstone (though April is diamond) because it means just a bit more

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Bettie-Jean Neal
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband gave me a choice. A diamond ring or a downpayment for a house. I took the house.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol, according to who? Cheapskates? That is a matter of personal taste. But never marry a guy who is bitching about giving you one if you want one, ladies.There are options for size and price, but if you hear any ridiculous arguments as to why you shouldn't want a diamond if you want a diamond, dump the whole man. He's just cheap. And let's also remember that a diamond ring is valuable, and can be sold in the event of a divorce. Or do we forget that women are usually left financially worse off after divorce? Get the ring, get some financial security in the event of divorce. Don't let some misguided notion of romance lead you down the garden path. You can't eat love, and you especially can't once it's gone and the man is too.

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Kerryn Thomas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You won’t get near the value of the new item if you sell diamond jewelry. It’s not an investment. Anyone “demanding” a diamond should just be dumped. How shallow can you be?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 'tradition' is the result of very good marketing by the diamond industry.

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A Head
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I both have simple silver rings that we bought on the street in NYC a few days before our wedding - $10 each. I actually haven't worn mine in years - I have finger claustrophobia. I literally have to make sure I can get it off immediately upon putting it on, and have to check repeatedly.

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Debbie Burton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because the media and jewellery companies have convinced us that diamonds are rare

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Christina Uhlir
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like my old friend Karla used to say: "One can make a lot of money on people's stupidity."

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Sarah Grape
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my grandpa was a sailor in veitnam and he proposed with a deorated sailor hat.(like decorated with markers) its the greatest love story I know because no one even cared

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panda_legerdemain
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I watched a short film on how Deebers made diamonds necessary for weddings.. its amazing..

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Tigger O
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I told my husband I didn't like diamonds. They're cold, hard stones with no joy in them. so he bought me a beautiful mid-range colour amethyst in an Edwardian setting. It gets ever so many admiring comments.

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Stannous Flouride
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my closest friends just turned 96, though a widower he still wears the wedding ring he wore for the 47 years before his wife died. It's a rubber 'O' ring.

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Peter Ledoux
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The big diamond companies control how many of them get to stores to keep the price up.

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Sara Mccracken
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yes ,why not celebrate your love with a really expensive ring you do not need ,that was almost certainly available in part because of dangerous conditions and minimal wages

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Patricio2223
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

value of diamonds is artificially increased by debeers. They make diamonds seem more rare than they actually are by limiting the supply.

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Vicky Z
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was part of an advertising campaign that happened some years ago to increase the sales of diamonds! Apparently you definitely needed the diamond to convince the lady to say yes! The campaign was a huge success and it continues until now even though they don't need this advertise so much anymore...probably the best advertise ever

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backatya
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did you know the diamond industry is a lie. There's an over abundance of diamonds and they make it sound like they're scarce to raise the prices. Then they fill the commercials that you need to give what a woman wants. It's all marketing just like most holidays

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Gunshow Lily !
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you really want a diamond get an engineered one. Cuts the price down tremendously. No blood diamond on your hand.

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Miguel Denyer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a scheme that was created by the DeBeers diamond corporation back in the early part of the last century. Fact... check it out.

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Kelly Hartle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the price of any jewelry is marked up beyond belief. I do have a diamond ring, but a friend of ours is a gemologist who bought out a jewelry store--I got a beautifully designed gold ring with 8 small baguette diamonds for $110.

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Isabella
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We had silver ring / black pearl... and titanium wedding bands. It was a shitshow when some people found out there will be no bling and no gold involved.

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Natalie KS
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Diamond value is due to a successful marketing campaign by DeBeers https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2015/02/how-an-ad-campaign-invented-the-diamond-engagement-ring/385376/

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sylvantic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

in my religion, an engagement ring can be whatever, but wedding rings are supposed to be bands without big gems or whatever.

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Megan Flanagan
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wanted, so we used a family ring. I wouldn't have had it any other way

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Marilyn Holt
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally agree with this one. Not just the ring--the whole wedding drama. I hope the new generation can pull away from all this expense---the ., flowers, the dress!!! all the bridesmaids, the lavish dinner, the liquor. It has almost become a competition.

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C.S. E.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you De Beers in the 1930s, the jerks. Until then, the rings tended to be colored stones and the practice of proposing with a ring wasn't as pervasive as it is now.

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Katinka Min
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank God it's not a tradition in my country. Most of these rings are butt-ugly.

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WildHoneyPie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My engagement ring has a ruby. It's such a pretty color and I fell in love with it when we went to pick a ring out. My husband was very surprised, he thought you "had" to get a diamond. The jeweler and I just laughed and told him no it can be whatever you want it to be! Still love it after almost 25 years.

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Angie Chan
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Diamonds at all. I have several ear piercings that work great because as I rag on how useless diamonds really are, people like to say, "...but you are wearing a pair of huge black diamonds and several smaller ones." Me: "All of this *waves at ears* is steel, silver, and cubic zirconia...and no one here can tell the difference. Anyone who steals my jewelry will be REALLY disappointed at the p**n shop"

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denzoren
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always like to use this as a "Q&A" when I'm getting to know someone..."Do you like diamond rings?" or something along those lines. If the answer is "OMG yes...it has to be a diamond" we probably wouldn't work out. Lol. Also, have people seen rubies, emeralds and sapphires? They're a fraction of the price and gorgeous.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A natural emerald of a decent size is much more expensive than a diamond. You're talking about synthetic emeralds if you're looking for a cheap emerald.

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Eslamala
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my ex gave me the ring, it had a big rock and all kinds of ridiculously blingy-blingy stuff. I found it so tacky I couldn't hide my face, though I controlled the laughter. I was always gonna say no, but noticing he didn't know me at all (cause I always laugh at proposals/big rings/ big weddings) made it a lot easier.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then I guess you can also grow the baby and carry it in your body for 9 months. Also, do exactly half of all childcare, cooking, cleaning, and the emotional labour required to keep a relationship healthy and solid.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I have a moissanite ring. Looks (acts) just like a diamond but about 95% cheaper and IMO Waaaay prettier it has more fire and brilliance than a diamond. Put it this way, my fiance special made my ring, it's 1.5 carats and cost 1k where as the SAME carats, clarity and color in a Diamond would've been no less than 9k. If not more. Moissanite has almost perfect color / clarity, so in the diamond world you'd pay exorbitant pricing. I told him after he gave it to me that from now on all I want is Moissy. Oh and a diamond is a 10 on the hardness scale, a moissanite is 9.5.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and yet woman (because it's usually womans) still got crazy for diamond.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Mobile game ads that show gameplay of a Call of Duty or Skyrim style game but in reality are just a spin-off of Candy Crush

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have downloaded so many apps from what is advertised in another game and then find out it is nothing like the ad at all. So now I don’t even bother. It’s essentially click bait.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Printer ink.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg yes, it is super expensive. Our old printer was cheap but we didn’t research before hand to find out that the ink for black was $38 and colour was $45.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized "If you tell me the truth, I won't get mad." -Mom

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Bottled water, like Dasani. Especially in places like an amusement park that mark ups the price a shocking amount. Also the average markup of bottled water is 4000%, which is outrageous, bc water is literally free most places

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Having to pay $100+ for glasses

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized The diamond industry, specifically as it relates to jewelry. Everything that the average person "knows" about it stems from propaganda and advertisements created by DeBeers. They aren't rare, they aren't worth what you pay for them, they don't appreciate in value and are a terrible investment. They aren't special.

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Health Insurance in the US. Costs a small fortune, never covers sh*t, and you still end up bankrupt if you're not rich and get sick or hurt.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and most still hate of the though of socialised health care , crazy AF

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Apple's headphone jack removal.

Supposedly was to make the phone thinner, but everyone puts a case on anyways. Samsung galaxy S10 was 7.8 mm thick with a headphone jack. Apple removed the jack with iPhone 7, which was 7.1 mm thick. That's great, but every iphone since has been thicker.

And very convenient to remove that, wait till the annoyance died down, then release airpods.

The whole thing was clearly a scam to artificially make bluetooth a borderline necessity right before releasing Apple bluetooth earbuds.

And everyone ate it up.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the removal of the chargers “for the environment”. If it was for the environment then you would reduce the cost of the charge from the phones and also give the option to buy them for a small price. Now they charge the same without it and then charge you like 40 euros for the charger.

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Gerrymandering. In most representative democracies, voters choose their elected officials. In the US, elected officials choose their voters.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The electoral college is a huge scam as well - allows people who get FEWER votes to win. How does that make any sense?

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Cat food. Look at the cat food at a random store, and see how the design brags about all the healthy vegetables they've crammed into your obligate carnivore's diet. Then check out the ingredients and see how corn, rice, etc. are often the first ingredients. Pet foods market toward humans by trying to appeal to human sensibilities, not genuine desire to provide your cat with the best diet.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you buy kibble look at the ingredients. Like this post said the first ingredients are the ones that have a bigger %. You want the first ingredients to be meat and it to not contain a lot of wheat, beets, corn, flour or ash. Most fancy commercial brands are really poor in composition.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Members of Senate, Congress, and Presidential candidates, collecting money from corporations, big donors, and hiding it in campaign accounts, Pac's and Super Pac's, and then doling it out as they like. They no longer act as a government of the people and for the people.

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#23

50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Giving credit card details for a "free trial" and auto renewal fine print.

Heck, stop it after my trial ends. If I really liked it, I'll pay for it.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes you can use those Visa gift cards/credit cards that you can load money onto.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Manufacturers refusing documentation to private repair enterprises and requiring you to get your products fixed by the dealer. Basically, the reason for the "Right-to-repair" movement

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES. And making products "seamless" so that you CAN'T open them up to repair them (I'm looking at you, Apple), at least not without a ton of effort and higher than average risk.of damaging the product doing it yourself. This refusing documentation and all is just yet another scheme for them to wring money out of consumers and away from small businesses

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized The school picture industry. $80 for an awkward picture of my baby? Nah, thanks

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

$80 is insane. I would never pay that. Thankfully the average cost I pay is $35 for a basic pack which includes a class photo and about 10 individual photos of various sizes.

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Application fees for colleges, apartments, etc.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized HOSPITALS OMG

Lol ask them for an itemized bill (like everything they gave you and how much it costs) and they'll cut the bill down by like 50%.

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Weddings. My wife and I got married in a post office and could not have asked for a better ceremony. It cost us the price of notary services and that’s it.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The exhorbitant sums spent on weddings, specially second marriages or where couples have lived together for years and often already have children, has become rediculous.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Working 40 hours a week

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or the entire concept of having to work, in order to justify being alive... many years ago I came across a quote by some economist (can't remember the name, sadly) who argued that most job positions are totally superfluous, but are maintained because of the whole "everyone has to have a job" thing.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Wish.com

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Rick
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can’t believe people still use this website. Although Amazon is slowly going the same way with its marketplace and scammers flooding it with fake 5 star reviews.

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Fashion, but also just clothing in general. No pockets on female clothes? More purses get sold. Thinner layers for women? Have to buy more layers. It gets marketed as being fashionable, but the clothing industry could roll out a marketing campaign for baggy rugged clothing tomorrow and get it trending if they wanted to.

Also, the clothing industry is a cesspool of child labor, human trafficking, and it has some of the highest carbon emissions and water waste of any industry on the planet, way worse than flying. One cotton t-shirt takes thousands of gallons of water to produce. Almost any synthetic fabric is a type of plastic, and you release microplastics upon washing.

On top of all that, we have repressive cultural norms and laws regarding the necessity of wearing clothing that come from Puritans and Victorians who thought table legs had to be covered and ankles were sexy. The idea that you should be embarrassed to be naked in front of other people is a cultural phenomenon, not instinct, and you can look at pretty much any tropical tribe to verify this fact that humans are actually generally normal around other naked humans.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always wear men’s trousers because it is impossible to find non skinny jeans for women and least with real pockets. I don’t mind but they are always too long for me.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Social media. From their happy beginnings they are now mostly a funnel used to ram as many advertisements into your mind as inhumanly possible. “Sponsored Posts” every third or fourth item - I see you, IG/FB/Red/etc. And that’s not even mentioning the extensive filtering network that “curates” the information you get to see when you are looking for something. “Curated information” is just a nice expression for you being conditioned to form certain opinions / buy more stuff. Social media groom minds

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I noticed this with Pinterest. One day ads started popping up but looked like pins. Now, just looking at the browse feature, it shows me pins I already have pinned! Not just a few, quite a bit. Same with Facebook. I HATE how the feed only shows you a few peoples' posts.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Reducing a price by 1 cent to trick our brains into thinking a product costs less than it actually is.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some stores rise the price 100% 1 week before "sale". Then they can have 50% off.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Starbucks. I pay $9.99 for 51 oz of Folgers Ground Coffee, roughly 380 8 oz cups. That comes out to about $0.02 per cup of coffee. At Starbucks, a Tall Dark Roast costs $1.85. I could have 92.5 cups of Folgers at home before I pay for 1 Starbucks. My tub of Folgers is worth $703.00 if I were to sell it at the same price as Starbucks. AND I’m using reusable cups every day.

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Homeowner's insurance:

"Sorry, we're not selling new policies in Your Area right now because Thing just happened" where Thing = earthquake, wildfire, flood, and other things you might ... want to insure against?

"We don't cover That Sort of Problem." where That Sort of Problem = anything that actually happens to your house, due to weasel-wording loopholes

"You submitted a claim? We're going to triple your rates FOREVER after this."

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Those registries that people pay money to “name a star”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The thing is no registry owns the stars so just because you name it, doesn’t mean it is actually named that or that you are the only person to name that specific star. You may call it Fred whilst someone has called that same star Wilma. You are literally paying for a piece of paper, nothing more.

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Payday loans.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

never ever use them had a mate borrow £100 then lose his job , he was over £5000 owed last i knew , he's trying to fight it at the moment

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Lotteries

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

never enter into the lottery. Even if you win the money, you'll probably lose all of you relationships.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Doing your own taxes, and paying to use a privately-owned software (or a service) when the government could totally do it for you, send you the details, and ask if it’s correct.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would rather use an accountant, especially when our tax is a bit more complicated with all the deductions.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Annual college tuition increases. Why aren’t they held to a competitive pricing model as opposed to having to take out a mortgage to go to school? Everyone wants to talk about government paying for college education, but there is no conversation on why is it that expensive anyway? Especially when some unis have endowments in the billions that just the interest on those funds could literally pay the tuition for everyone that goes through the door.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Colleges got ridulously expensive because the US government got involved. 1971 was when student loans became mainstream and about the time costs started spiking

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#41

Social media looks like free, harmless fun, but is more like selling your soul (and data), makes you addicted and sad. Most people notice, probably, but don't care enough.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Paying for cable tv. The whole idea of paying was to create a revenue stream separate from that of marketing. There are a few out there (HBO, I think) but generally we pay to access the content and still have to spend 20% of the time sitting through commericals.

Then streaming comes in and were free of advertisements again, for a bit. Now YouTube has tons of ads and other streaming services are talking about adding ads as well

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never get Foxtel coz it is approx $60 a month when I can get Netflix, Disney Plus, Prime video, Stan etc plus all the catch up tv and YouTube for at least $20 less a month. They are an absolute rip off.

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Most modern manufactured goods. Designed to not last, so you keep buying more.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yep , my wife thinks we get a bargain if a washing machine lasts 4 years , i get mad having to buy yet another washing machine for £400

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized EVERY SINGLE PERSON on the Internet that sells some sort of „millionaire education“ .

Every single one of them. They are all liars, most of them are not even rich to begin with! They fake it enough that some idiots buy it. You are customers to them. Nothing more.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of self-help unfortunately is based on the falsehood that you can "accomplish it with this one trick." The One Trick will not get your weight healthy, get you that relationship with that person, put money in your pocket or make you happier. Real life requires nuance and complexity. And things that are hard and take time and effort. I wish there were One Trick but we need to deal with the situation we have, not the situation we wish it was.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Toothpaste commercial were actors filled their toothbrush with toothpaste too much which is unnecessary

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should only use about a pea size amount. In saying that though, I am just as bad as the actors and put on almost as much as what is pictured lol.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Internet Data Cap

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

always get unlimited , if you go over your cap you pay a fortune

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized The fact that you have to pay to bury loved ones

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think the mere fact that you have to pay for burials is a scam, but the often high prices are equivalent to a scam.

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50 Things That Are Actually Scams Yet We Don't Notice Them Because They're So Normalized Rent-to-own furniture and appliances.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand why it’s a thing coz some people can’t afford to pay for those big items upfront so rent to buy is one of their only options.

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Lootboxes in videogames.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, to the point where some countries actually declared them illegal. A wise decision.

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