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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers)
We tend to go through life accepting a lot from society. We use these pieces of paper to buy things? Got it. I must work somewhere to earn more paper to ensure I can eat and have shelter? Yes sir. We must abide by rules the government decided on even if we disagree with them? Okay, sure. If we questioned everything that society considers normal, we’d go crazy. But recently, Reddit users have been discussing some socially acceptable things that upon further reflection, they decided they’ll never do.
2 months ago, Reddit user fuzziblanket asked, “What is something considered to be ‘normal’ by society that you refuse to do?” We’ve gone through the responses and curated this list of some of the most interesting topics that you may have never even questioned before. Whether you commonly do these activities or not, enjoy reading through them and determining if you still consider them normal. Be sure to upvote the answers you’d like other pandas to see, and let us know in the comments what “normal” things you’d never be caught doing.
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recording yourself doing an act of charity or a good deed in general. completely devalues it the second you hit post
Agreed, especially if someone famous with a lot of influence does it, it can raise awareness and inspire others to help. But then there’s those who do it to get popular and seem like a good person
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To me it can be intended both ways. Some just want to make positive content and inspire people. Some just want attention. Usually you can distinguish which is which. I absolutely cannot stand it when someone shoves a camera in a down-trodden person's face and treat them like they're hopeless without the heroic youtuber to save them. It strips them of any morsel of dignity they're trying to salvage and their bad times are forever immortalized on the internet.
Yes, it’s the difference between providing awareness vs exploitation of the vulnerable. So important to make sure that any help given is useful and wanted, done with respect, and that anything publicly shared is done with consent.
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I've always thought that was sick. Telling people what you did. I only let my son know when doing something like that because I was raising him and I let him know that it was something to be kept secret. Now that he's an adult I find out from other friends about the good deeds he does. He doesn't tell me.
With children it is definitely different - you're setting an example you hope they will follow. It's shouting about it to all and sundry which is off! Keeping quiet about is also another good example! 👍👍👍
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I don't do this, but I think it's normal. if a person shows what charity they do to thousands of people and then at least one of the viewers gives it a second thought and follows their example - amazing! they can show it to a million poeple if they inspired at least someone to do the same. Also, i don't care if it was a selfish or a selfless act, as long as somebody got help that they needed! an animal shelter got food as charity? Amazing! or would you prefer for the animals to starve, but not let some blogger film his charity on camera? (you can think of any other examples, not only animals, but you see what I mean)
What you’re describing is sharing publicly for awareness/fundraising, which isn’t the issue here. The problem is people exploiting the vulnerable by sharing publicly for personal benefit rather than the benefit of whoever they’re helping. In these cases the help given may not even be useful and is provided without respect or dignity. Basically, the issue is hollow gestures for personal gain that don’t really help much at all.
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Tory politicians opening foodbanks. Afterall, if it weren't for them it would never have been necessary, I mean, possible....
Hell yes. I hate when people do this, it instantly puts me off them. Especially when people film homeless people (I've been homeless twice and hated having to rely on other people for help but had no choice at the time) just put yourself in the other persons shoes, would you want someone filming you at the most difficult, desperate time in your life and posting the video online for the world to see? (You desperately need that food/money to survive and the person "helping" holds all the power so you feel like you can't ask them not to film/photograph you. You probably haven't showered in a while, are most likely wearing old/dirty clothes and generally look and feel terrible/ill) If you genuinely want to do something to help another person then do it, but the minute you film it and put it online it becomes more about feeding your own ego than helping someone in need.
Oh my God, NO IT DOESN'T. The value is for the recipient, not the gifter. If someone films themselves giving away millions of dollars to homeless folks, who TF cares that they're just doing it for promo?! Homeless folks got millions of dollars that spend just the same as anonymous dollars.
How on earth could recording something devalue it? Maybe if you're focused on the recording that distracts from what you're doing, but I don't understand how it could hypothetically devalue anything if doing the thing has value in the first place. Feeding the homeless for example; somebody might do it anonymously for love of humanity, someone else might do it to uphold their charitable image on TicTok. How could their motives for doing make any difference in the value being provided to the person in need? Someone please explain this
It depends on how they do it. If they are at a soup kitchen or another similar charity location volunteering where people are choosing to come it helps. If they are forcing something on someone on the street who isnt asking for it and may not be able to eat it (or worse have a place to prepare it if it isnt a ready to eat item) then it doesnt have value to the person recieving it and they may just abandon it. In the second case it is exploitative of the person they are "helping" not helpful and the help is just for the giver's ego and has no value to the supposed needy person.
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I have done charitable deeds before but I've never posted of bragged about it. However, I don't have a problem with this who share their deeds. If a person is doing good for another person that is to be commended. Perhaps we don't agree that they should post/share about it. But I'm not going to hate on anyone who performs some charitable deed. Even if a person is giving just to be recognized, they are still giving. No one should be criticized for doing a good deed regardless their reason behind it.
I would give this comment 100 up votes if that were possible.
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There's something to be said about spreading awareness. It's not always about showing off. Usually people do it to make others aware. Kids aren't born with the knowledge we've learned, some of them need to learn the way we did, by others showing us the options we may have. Seems more self absorbed to be pissed about this in the first place.
So if I donate a million bucks to a homeless shelter, but I record myself doing it, then it suddenly becomes less than a million dollars? No, the million dollars is a million dollars, no matter who saw me donate it, or how they saw me do it. The people benefiting from it will benefit the same no matter how much I show off. If the point is to help our fellow humans, and not to gain some imaginary points from the imaginary sky daddy, then sharing our charitable acts on social media has no bearing whatsoever.
A friend of mine posted a picture of her donating the clothes to the war refugees. Inspired me to do the same. It doesn’t devalue anything - if it motivates even one person to do the same, the picture was worth it.
Right? And those clothes provide the same warmth and protection to the people who received them than if there hadn't been a camera around.
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I’ve always seen this as a complaint from people attempting to feel better about not doing something for charity. If you take your time or money and give it to charity then I’m ok with you taking some photos.
I wonder if people who shame people for doing this are actually just bitter berries because they don't do anything at all charitable themselves. In my personal bubble the people I know who scoff at this are also the ones who say "why did you give that bum change? They will just use it for drugs" or " why did you put money in the fireman's boot? None of it helps anyone anyway"
Disagree. Even if you do a good deed for the wrong reasons a good deed was still performed and someone in need got the benefit from the person doing said good deed. You don't get to decide if someone else's good deed counts bc you don't like the reason they did it. Get off your a*s and go do something instead of judging others
I personally don't judge people for whatever reasons they have to help out others, their contribution has the same effect as anyone's and is no less helpful
I do this to motivate others. Please donate blood if you can. Donating blood saves lives, literally. (Def. Not a vampire here.)
That's total BS... it can devalue it if you only post it to show off... but, more often it brings much needed attention to a cause that others are more willing to join in after seeing it dine in the post.
Specialty if they make those people pose for their thumbnail, or make money out of it. And they make up a story for them to seem very pitiful
I don't consider that normal, no. If you can't do something good without bragging about it on social media, I question your motives.
I totally agree - good deeds and charity are to be done without expectation of recognition!
No one says they're posting it for recognition. It could be to show others how easy it is to do a small thing to help out.
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Most religious traditions include acts of charity and often they are considered sacred/powerful only when done in private. A Tzedakah in Judaism, Dana in Buddhism, Vand Chhakna in Sikhism, Pwen in Voodoo, Zakat in Islam and many others. Most are done in promise of some etherial reward either in or after life. As an atheist, I'm happy with the warm feeling I get for doing something that makes another's life a little better.
When celebrities do it they use paparazzi. Proves its to toot their own horn.
I'm very much not religious, but I like to be aware of a few points in various 'holy books'. The bible has a good line about this.. "But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing"
Why? Good people doing good deeds has value, shitty narcissistic people doing good deeds still has the same value, right? I'm not seeing anyone explain why it would devalue anything in account of the motives being self serving or not.
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The whole point of charity is to do it in secret, in my opinion. That way you're truly doing good instead of doing it for clout
Wrong. The point of charity is to help people that need help.
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Excluding fake or particularly engineered charity videos, I'd have to disagree with this complaint. So long as they have permission to post it then charity is charity, there is no reason for invalidating charity just because they opted to make it publicly available to see. I don't get how it bothers people so much, where this unspoken rule came from that if it isn't selflessly silent then it's as bad as doing nothing. It can motivate people, encourage them, make others feel good to have reminders after a bad day that good people still do good things out there. Sometimes it's like people take charity videos as some slight or personal jab against them, like it ignites some unspoken guilt they have which drives them to angrily post internet criticism making assumptions about the person who posted the video. As someone who spent time homeless and living out of a car, I'd rather have met the people in these videos than the comment section.
I get why it bothers people absolutely. The same why narcissistic shitty people doing anything bothers people. But I can't understand why that would make the actual charitable act any less valuable. There's a lot of comments on here of people condemning, but no one is explaining why it devalues it.
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Well at least their faces aren't in it so they are not doing it for ego. It sets a fine example I'd say.
The whole point of doing something charitable is to help others, not to help ourselves to attention by doing it. Some people have tested the recipients of cash gifts to see what they do with the money, I get the the thought process behind this, and sadly there really are people desperate who would use the money for good, and I have seen videos of that. If they use it for good, they get rewarded by being given more. If not they get called out on it. My issue with all of this is that if we give people money, it is now their money. We don't give our kids gifts then take them back if they don't pick up after themselves. A gift is a gift, either do it because you genuinely want to be of help. You don't give a gift to see how good or bad the person receiving the gift uses it. Our karma comes from what we do, as does theirs. Give to help, not to be smug.
100% agree and it only motivtate others who want attention, as people are out there each day doing it without recording or the need to be told...those are the heros.
Family Vlogs by YT/IG Influencers do this all the time and you see the look of confusion on the recipient's face when they're given the charity ...
You cant get the praise for doing good , for your ego and gain . Or big gold star grow up.
There’s a celebrity that does (what he calls) “charity bombs”, where he will leave HUGE tips, sometimes a couple of hundred dollars just for coffee. Each time he books it out of there, when his friends ask him about it he said it’s not charity if you get something out of it. And the only reason why people know about it is because his friends will occasionally bring it up during podcasts.
This may be why I've never done any charity. It's required for nearly any job now it seems, but then that doesn't make it altruistic, and that just makes me and the whole situation depressed.
What’s considered “normal” is determined by society, but there are many societies around the globe that have their own quirks. In the United States, for example, it’s totally normal to drive your car anywhere you go, even if it’s just a mile away because there might not be decent sidewalks or crosswalks to get to your destination. In many other countries where roads are built to better accommodate pedestrians, this would be considered bizarre. It’s also normal in many European countries for kids to walk or bike to school by themselves, especially when they’re about 8-years-old or older. This would be very rare in the US. Even when in their own neighborhood, American kids are usually expected to have adult supervision at all times. When paying at a restaurant in the US, patrons typically hand the server their card, the server takes it to their computer, and then they return with the receipt. If a server in a European country tried to walk off with someone’s credit card, the customer might assume they were being robbed. Societal norms vary greatly based on where you are, so there's nothing wrong with questioning them. They might be more arbitrary than you think!
Forbidding my (straight male) partner to spend time with female friends. He's a grown-a*s man; he should know how to hold healthy boundaries. It shouldn't be on me to keep him from cheating. If he's really gonna fall into the pants of the first girl I leave him alone with, she can have him.
Similarly, blaming someone else for my partner's failings, and/or trying to "win back" someone who doesn't want me. He's a big boy who can make his own choices (even bad ones), and I want a partner who wants to be with me, not someone I had to talk into staying.
(For the record, my dudeman of 20 years is awesome.)
Anyone that enters into a relationship and starts setting the terms and conditions of their new partners interactions is definitely not a healthy person to be with!
I don't know if it's been mentioned already, but I'll throw in my 5 cents.
The need to be available 24/7, i.e. always having your phone on you.
I like going for long walks and leaving my phone at home. I don't feel guilty for missing texts or calls, it's just stressful being expected to be available all hours of the day.
It's sad times when people are apologizing for not responding within a minute to a text. I have to tell friends to chill out. A text is not going to disappear. We all have other priorities and no one should expect anyone to stop their lives all of a sudden to engage in a conversation out of the blue.
One of the socially acceptable activities mentioned on this list is drinking alcohol. While alcohol has been around for centuries, it’s also the most commonly abused substance. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a couple drinks, especially in social settings. Alcohol is linked with many cultures, as sharing a bottle of wine with a loved one or enjoying some beers with your best friends can be great ways to bond. Holidays tend to be filled with booze in many places as well.
But regardless of how socially acceptable drinking is, it’s completely fair to question it too. People who have experience with alcoholics in their families or personal lives may decide that drinking will never be for them. Others decide to refrain from drinking for religious or health reasons. Drinking heavily can lead to developing heart, liver, or kidney issues and can even increase an individual's likelihood of developing cancer. It's completely up to individuals whether or not they decide to drink; no one should ever feel pressured to order a drink because its expected by society.
give a s**t about celebs. Sometimes they're fun to talk about for like 5 minutes but other than that? Aren't they just people? I don't get it.
Work myself to death.
Edit: I commented this, passed out, and now it blew up. Thank you for the awards.
Also please use your vacation days. Your sick days. Take your dog out. Hang out with the family. Even if you're alone like me - Go do something you like.
Talk to toxic family members
This!!! Being related to someone does not grant them permanent space in your life. If they are not good people, you DON'T owe them your time, your forgiveness or your love.
Smoking is another habit that’s considered socially acceptable in some places but more taboo in others. We’re all well aware of cigarettes being carcinogens, and most of us have seen terrifying examples of what smoking can do to the body our entire lives. Yet for some reason, smoking is still incredibly common and accepted in many countries. In Greece, for example, about 38% of the population smokes, including 47% of men. According to cardiologist and tobacco control researcher Konstantinos Farsalinos, “Greeks aren’t highly motivated to quit. There is plenty of education, and we have smoking cessation centers, but they are not popular. There is not a lot of social pressure to quit smoking. Although there are laws prohibiting indoor smoking, those laws are not obeyed. So that reduces the social pressure. So, the smoker tends to forget the reasons why smoking is bad for you. Most Greek smokers only quit when they develop disease.” While the culture around smoking is different everywhere, it’s definitely worth questioning if it’s accepted wherever you live.
Push for the removal of homeless. They need help, not further persecution.
Honestly, it depends. We have organized beggar clans, which get driven into the country in spring and back home in autumn. They refuse any and all help, they even refuse to use the toilets specifically installed for them only they have a key for, and instead s**t on sidewalks and p**s in parks and bike parking spaces instead. I get persecution.
Wear makeup. If I can deal with my face, so can everyone else
Similarly to smoking, people around the world have very different views on recreational drugs as well. Marijuana is particularly controversial, as it has been legalized for recreational use in 6 countries, 19 states in the US, and parts of Australia. In places where it is legal, like the state of Oregon for example, it usually is considered socially acceptable. Sure, it’s not for everyone, but it’s legal and harmless, so people tend to mind their own business. However, in other places where it is heavily enforced, like the Philippines where it is considered a "dangerous drug", people are a lot less likely to openly discuss their marijuana use. How socially acceptable recreational drugs are depends greatly on individual cultures, but even in places where marijuana is common, there will always be those who simply have no interest in getting high.
My dad just scolded me because I was unwilling to put in 60+ hrs/week at a new salaried job by saying 'I've worked 70/hr since I was out of college!'
Yeah dad, that's probably why you missed every important life event and smoke a juul at age 57
I don’t drink or do illicit drugs. Alcohol messes with my medication, and pot gives me anxiety. I am a sober person and people often give me s**t about it and call me boring.
I’m sorry to break this to you, but you’re hanging out with the wrong people. Unless everyone is drunk, being with drunk people is really boring!
Hang out in a social setting where the music is so gawdam loud that you have to scream at the person next to you to communicate.
Another thing mentioned on this list that some people swear they’ll never experience is dating apps. Online dating originally began in 1995 when Match.com launched, but as our culture has become increasingly obsessed with the internet since then, finding love online has only become more and more common. In 2020, the Pew Research Center found that 30% of Americans had ever used a dating site or app, including 48% of people between the ages of 18-29. These numbers have likely only gone up since the onset of the pandemic, though, and online dating is even more common among members of the LGBT+ community. Pew found that 55% of LGBT respondents had experience on a dating site or app, with 21% of them saying they had even been in a serious relationship with someone they met online.
Two months ago, my dad died. He had cancer and had had it for like a year.
I told my work over and over again that he was really sick. I work in an office and am on a computer all day. I have a company-supplied laptop. I have the ability to work from home, but I was not allowed to do so because I was an hourly employee.
I told them that his condition was worsening. I live five hours from my parents. They refused to accommodate me, even when I offered to work every day from my parents house, just so I could be with him.
They said 'well maybe when the situation gets more dire.'
I tried to apply for FMLA (I think that’s the right acronym) and I wasn’t eligible because I was hourly and hadn’t been there for a year yet, despite the circumstances. A week before he died I told my boss that it was almost time and I might have to take off work.
They were not concerned and told me as long as I got my work done and didn’t miss deadlines. I took the day he died off work—I just had a bad feeling, and was packing to go see him when he passed.
I told my work and they don’t have bereavement leave. So I offered to work remotely during this period and again they refused. Again, I have a 'good job' working at a huge corporation, in an office; my job requires a degree.
I was forced to use all of my sick time and some of my PTO so I could attend his funeral and help my mother with arrangements.
And I'm stuck here because I can't afford to quit without something else lined up. I've been looking. They obviously don't see us as humans.
You don’t owe your company anything. I would give anything to go back and time and quit, just to spend the last few weeks with my dad.
Whatever company you work for doesn’t care about you, only about how much you make them. Don’t worry about screwing them over or anything because at the end of the day, you could die and they would consider it a small inconvenience.
This. Companies think they're the most important s**t on the planet over humans. Idc if it's business or what. They're run by humans who've forgotten where they came from and the meaning of what's important. We're not slaves to corporations. We're brainwashed into believing we need them.
Have kids.
I'm a 38 year old woman with lots of experience with kids - I like kids! - but people think that is a reason to birth them.
Being able to opt in or opt out of hanging out with munchkins is great! I love being Aunt Mary Rose and not Mommy!
Ironing. Life is too short. I don't even own an iron and my clothes are just fine.
I may be weird, but I love ironing. The best part is when you watch the transformation of a shirt, from a wrinkled to a smooth one. I love it!
When it comes to apps specifically, they did begin as a way for same-sex couples to meet. Grindr, a location-based app geared towards gay and bisexual men, launched in 2009 and started somewhat of a sexual revolution in the gay community. Since then, dating apps have become the norm for everyone regardless of sexual orientation. Tinder launched in 2012, and now has over 50,000,000 users. But just because dating apps are now socially acceptable doesn’t mean everyone has to use them. In fact, about half of Americans say that online dating has had neither a positive or negative effect on their love lives. If you prefer to meet people the old fashion way, there’s no reason to feel pressured into using the internet.
Don't follow sports
I get really annoyed when people don't understand "I don't care it is boring to me" as an excuse to explain it to me in minute detail, as I just don't understand it. My usual response is to start explaining software development to them. Strangely they aren't interested and don't want to talk about it.. and yet don't get the link.
Yes. People are flabbergasted when I’m not informed on the latest celebrity news and honestly I just don’t see a reason to keep up with it
Smoking. I can't stand cigarette smell.
I'm a smoker (down from 30/day to 10/day and on my way to quitting completely), and I always ensure I'm well away from everyone when I light up. No one wants to breathe my smoke or even get it on their clothes. It absolutely is a disgusting habit, and I wish my parents hadn't smoked, because I probably would never have started.
Social media is another thing that has become socially acceptable, but still doesn’t appeal to everyone. Since social media began in the early 2000s, it has dominated the internet. In 2004, MySpace was the first site of its kind to reach over 1 million monthly active users, but today, Facebook has 2.89 billion active users. Facebook has been the most popular social media site globally for over a decade now, but Youtube is quickly catching up, with 2.29 billion active users. Among the other most successful sites are Instagram, which currently has 2 billion active users, and TikTok, which has only been around since 2016 and already has 1 billion active monthly users.
Walk in the house with shoes.
Why people want to track all the junk from the outside and smear it over the floors , bed, and couch?! No thanks
Here in Finland that's considered VERY rude and it makes sense to take the shoes off.
Call my coffee something other than small, medium & large.
Bore other people with photos of everyday stuff they see all the time anyway. For example, the meal I am going to eat, the shoes I bought, the place I am at.
If it's on social media people have the choice to just scroll past it.
Despite how popular social media sites are, it’s understandable why some people would want to avoid them. One of the biggest reasons people cite for staying off these apps is because they can be a huge waste of time. The average global user spends about 2 hours and 27 minutes on social media per day, with average users in Nigeria and the Philippines spending over 4 hours per day. It’s easy to rack up hours on these sites though, as they are typically designed to be addictive. With features like “likes” and feeds designed to constantly show users new content, these websites are aimed at getting users hooked.
Do “lives” on social media. Since when did vanity and narcissism become so acceptable?
No one cares about your dining experience or “get ready with me” moments.
Text while hanging with friends, or out to dinner, or driving, or in a movie theater.
I'll text my man to update him on if I plan on being home soon, as a courtesy, but otherwise my phone is out of sight. Texting around others is rude.
One Night Stands
Sex doesn't mean anything to me if I can't build a connection first
Social media is also notorious for causing users to compare themselves to others, which can negatively impact their self esteem. One study from the University of Pennsylvania even found that reducing social media use to only 30 minutes a day resulted in a reduction in anxiety levels, depression, loneliness, sleep problems and FOMO (fear of missing out). Like everything else, there’s nothing wrong with using social media in moderation. But just because it’s considered “normal” to spend hours a day on these sites does not mean you need to create an account today. If your life is perfectly fine without social media, I’m sure it won’t be any better with it.
Going in debt $30k-$70k for a vehicle.
Which begins to depreciate the minute you drive it out of the lot. I've always bought used cars, and I've never regretted it.
Shave/wax my pubes. I actually really like having pubic hair. It doesn't bother me or my partner, and I find waxing and/or shaving extremely uncomfortable and not at all worth it.
Buy fast fashion (or pretty much any fashion whose supply chain is questionable). I used to. Then I found out not only how and where those clothes begin their lives, but also how and where those clothes end their lives.
It was so horrific, I decided I was done. I now buy secondhand, or I save and buy pieces from independent tailors from sites like Etsy. And I research the tailor too.
I also took some of the money I saved from clothes shopping and got a sewing machine. I am learning to sew and make my own summer dresses (I'm not good enough yet to take on complex clothing, but I'm learning)
My grandmother made most of my clothes for me when I was a child, and she had an old treadle machine that she eventually replaced with something more in keeping with the times. After my poor grandfather died after living on without my grandmother for 11 years, my aunt had all of the grandchildren—who were all adults—had each of us walk through my grandparents’ home of 60+ year (a home my grandfather built) and put a Post-It with our name on anything we wanted to take home with us. I chose a small number of things, all of which were made by one or the other of my grandparents, and I took home everything I asked for.
I think this list has taught us that just because something is considered "normal" does not mean we have to go along with it. We all have the right to make our own choices, and what's socially acceptable totally depends on where we end up living. Enjoy the rest of this list, and remember to upvote the answers you most agree with. Then let us know in the comments if you think of any other "normal" activities you would never do that didn't make it onto this list.
My wife and I had a very small wedding on a beach with only our parents there. Then, we drove to a mountain and hiked to the top with our photographer for our first dance.
It was incredible and people keep telling us they wish they could’ve done something that simple but social pressures made them spend more.
Now, we’ve just had to spend more than the entire cost of our wedding just to buy the plane tickets to attend my sister’s big wedding.
Treat it as a nice holiday, but seriously; I wouldn't go into debt to go to my own wedding much less anyone else. If I couldn't afford it I wouldn't go sister or no sister
Have tons of social media accounts where I'm constantly posting pictures of what I'm doing every day. Remember, if it's not photographed and posted online, it didn't happen.
Didn’t see it here so figured I’d share. Live in a city. I was born in a large city, lived there until I was 11. Then moved to the woods. I’ve lived in the woods since then and although I have visited cities since, I could never live there. Too many people, too much noise and I just don’t feel comfortable. I feel more comfortable taking walks at night in the woods than I would in a city.
I lived in San Francisco for most of my adult life (40 of my now 66 years), and my last apartment there was the best one I’d ever had, and I wanted to spend the rest of my life there. Alas, once I was no longer working, I had to move, and after a year (minus two days) of living with my favorite brother and his wife on their farm in rural Oregon, I ended up with a job in a small town on the Mendocino coast of Northern California. I have come to love small-town life in a way I would never have anticipated. I just wish I weren’t so far from my dearest friends, who all live in the Bay Area.
Have never and will never use a dating app.
Sometimes that is the only way people can get to know new people. Haven't used one in a while, but i def would again if i needed to.
This might be oddly specific, it's wearing flip flops.
I grew up in a tourist beach town, I have never owned a pair of flip flops in my life. I find them wildly uncomfortable and people in my hometown look at me like a crazy person when I tell them I don't own a pair.
brushing before breakfast:
doing that is basically wiping before you s**t and i refuse to do that
Buy copious amounts of dishes, Why the f**k do you need 27 plates for the two people in your household. Im looking at you mom.
Do you never have guests over? I also have a dumber reason for it - so I can use my dishwasher. I wouldn't run it for just two or three plates (it's wasting water and energy) and I hate washing dishes, so I have enough to use until the dishwasher is full.
The Hustle Culture. Although I like the idea of bettering your life but always thinking of doing something or the other will leave you with burnout. Taking a break regularly is nessecary
Edit: It's good if you are in a bad place. But it's not always about working your a*s off. What's important is taking a break and keep it from becoming toxic
What does this even mean? To me, hustling means coercing or tricking people into doing something or buying something. I don't think that's generally accepted though is it?
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Businesses bending to please customers no matter what. This whole 'the customer is always right' mentality. It is soul destroying for the workers that have to deal with these kinds of customers and it's about time businesses start standing up for themselves against entitled baby adults who act like it's the end of the world when they have to cover their own return postage costs. Humans should not be treat so badly by other humans while trying to provide them with a service!
Agreed. Be the customer who gets awesome service because you are polite, respectful, and worth helping to have a good outcome.
Load More Replies... Smart phone obsession. I know people who seemingly can't put their phone down for more than a few minutes at a time.
My mother is like that. I have the tendency to forget about the existence of my phone for days at a time though, which isn't really great for communication either.
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I don't have a Twitter account and deleted my Facebook account. I got tired of the constant you need more friends shtick.
This! I didn't delete my accounts but simply stopped logging in at one point without saying anything to anyone (I'm sure there are ppl thinking I'm no longer alive lol). That was several years ago, I haven't regret it a single moment.
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Didn't read the entire list, but to me it seems many were just "getting older and more relaxed and less caring about what other thinks" things. Could also be titled "Things you stop worrying about when you are growing older".
Some of them were definitely like that, others were just pretentious (like the ones that refuse to say "grande" or "venti")
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Use Alexa. Not only are there privacy issues, I do not talk to inanimate objects.
I'd like to say I'm the same, although I did cuss a tree limb when I tripped over it yesterday. Falling, at my age, is not funny. F*****g tree limb.
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Why is wearing tall heels not on this list? I refuse to wear things that causes pain in my feet and cause disfigurement in toes over time. I just don't get it.
I can't believe that wearing high heels is still a thing. They feel horrible and they deform your toes. I haven't worn heels in years and my toes are all perfectly straight and smooth.
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Thinking my way is the only way... I'm so tired of people thinking that what is right to them/for them is right for everyone. Especially now that the government is making decisions for everyone based on their own private/religious beliefs.
I'm of two minds on this. I can see your point of view, for sure, but humans wouldn't have succeeded as a species without cooperation, and without thinking of the group as a whole. We're social animals because alone, we're not that great. We're fragile, we're weak (compared to other animals that are similarly sized), we're slow...if a human and a chimp had a fight, the chimp would eat the human's face off. If 50 humans fought the chimp, they would win. If 49 humans sat back and did nothing while one fought it, then the chimp would win and move on to the next person. And the next. And the next. Now imagine that chimp is covid and you can see why vaccines and masking and social distancing are so important
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People downvoting your comments when they are on subject, then getting a ban because BP refuses to even have a person check first!
Yeah, getting your comments hidden because it's an unpopular opinion is a bummer
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The obsession with hero worshipping the military. It's overdone and ridiculous.
Always having your phone out during concerts. Live in the moment people, why do you need to record a whole darn song and block the view for others?! The amount of phones in the air filming nowadays when the band gets on stage, it's crazy.
That one seems weird to me too - like, you aren't doing a better job of recording the concert than the professional videographers are doing (probably at that same concert), all you'll hear on the phone is the screaming of the people around you (because phone microphones work different than human ears), and all you'll see is a distant blur of lights because the camera can't pick out what the human eye focuses on...it's really just a waste of time
Load More Replies... For me, it's watching gory movies. Like the Saw franchise, or Final Destination, or any other movies where they viscerally show people getting killed. There's something really wrong with a culture that has movie theatres full of people watching human bodies being torn apart, but showing people having sex is still considered to be pretty taboo.
Fvck late-stage capitalism and all of its fans. I refuse to put corporations over humans.
Acting like the customer is always right. Not true AT ALL. The saying is just a way for rude people to manipulate employees and get what they want most times.
Celebrating my birthday or congratulate people on theirs... i absolutelly see no reason.
I don't understand why there are paragraphs on not drinking and not smoking and about dating apps between the numbered points. This website is hard to read.
I never had any interest in downloading TikTok, but my mom always likes sending me TikToks she likes, so I finally downloaded the app just so I can watch what my mom sends me but I just don’t bother with it otherwise 🤷🏼♀️
Taking a cruise ferry. More over taking a car in the ferry so one can drive around. I live in Sweden.for all the ecofriendly people, somehow Swedes think it is their birthright to take those polluting cruises.
Having friends. I don't have friends, I don't want friends. I have my husband a d that's often more social interaction than I can handle or want.
This is a "just do you" post, I like it people shouldn't feel pressured to do thing they just don't want to do
This may not be totally the norm, but using the insanely hard-to-read cApItAl AnD sMaLl letter typing. I HATE it. Please stop it, people!!! I know, I did it there, just for effect so you could see what I meant. 🤬
I get the reasoning for it though - it's meant to denote mockery and sarcasm, which is inherently VERY tricky to get across with the written word. It's meant to be read the way a kid would repeat back something you said to make fun of you: "I said to go clean your room!" "I sAid tO go cLeAn YoUr rOoooOmM"
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I will never drink coffee. I find it equal to alcohol and cigarettes and pot, it's addictive and it irks me that caffeine addiction is so normalized.
I gave up by #7. Nothing on that list is stuff I consider people are "normally" doing anyway. Except the posting their good deeds, which is fine by me. It does no harm, and if it's the only reason someone does a good deed, who cares. The recipient of the deed still receives.
It's the only reason I read this article because it's 100% on the dot. Nobody cares about your pride or your mental illnesses. Just fix yourself and work on building a better family and stop caring what the world thinks.
Load More Replies... The idea that you NEED to respect your parents. They brought you into this world, but you can take yourself out. Not only that, but don't you think the ones WITH EXPERIENCE should be working for the respect, not the other way around? Doing the bare minimum is not earning respect. That's doing your due diligence for bringing a life into this world.
I hate the media-centric displays of who is gay today. I dont care who you do, you do you! I just dont need it taking my news feed. Not my business.
Down voted for SURE. This is SUCH a hetero-centric point of view. Nobody asked for your input. But you know who does care about celebrities coming out? Gay people. People who are still in the closet. People who still have to fear for their LIVES when they consider coming out. People who worry about being attacked, having their lives on the line, for walking or talking "too gay". When gay is normalized, people like me won't have to worry as much. When people like Lil Nas X, Elliott Page, and Kristen Stewart come out, and talk about it, and share it, they are making life immeasurably better for people like them. But sure, they should STFU because it annoys your breeder a*s.
Load More Replies... Having a pet. For me, it doesn't make any sense. Why would you breed and slave an animal, remove all their wild instinct for absolute no use other than serve humans' lack of affection.
Dogs have been domesticated for thousands and thousands of years, humans love companionship - and animals are nonjudgemental and loyal
Load More Replies... Out of all the topics that are glamourized in pop culture and music, you chose to make polygamy your example? Not like, rape, child molestation, murder? Polygamy is your hill to die on? Weird.
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Businesses bending to please customers no matter what. This whole 'the customer is always right' mentality. It is soul destroying for the workers that have to deal with these kinds of customers and it's about time businesses start standing up for themselves against entitled baby adults who act like it's the end of the world when they have to cover their own return postage costs. Humans should not be treat so badly by other humans while trying to provide them with a service!
Agreed. Be the customer who gets awesome service because you are polite, respectful, and worth helping to have a good outcome.
Load More Replies... Smart phone obsession. I know people who seemingly can't put their phone down for more than a few minutes at a time.
My mother is like that. I have the tendency to forget about the existence of my phone for days at a time though, which isn't really great for communication either.
Load More Replies... I don't have a Twitter account and deleted my Facebook account. I got tired of the constant you need more friends shtick.
This! I didn't delete my accounts but simply stopped logging in at one point without saying anything to anyone (I'm sure there are ppl thinking I'm no longer alive lol). That was several years ago, I haven't regret it a single moment.
Load More Replies... Didn't read the entire list, but to me it seems many were just "getting older and more relaxed and less caring about what other thinks" things. Could also be titled "Things you stop worrying about when you are growing older".
Some of them were definitely like that, others were just pretentious (like the ones that refuse to say "grande" or "venti")
Load More Replies... Use Alexa. Not only are there privacy issues, I do not talk to inanimate objects.
I'd like to say I'm the same, although I did cuss a tree limb when I tripped over it yesterday. Falling, at my age, is not funny. F*****g tree limb.
Load More Replies... Why is wearing tall heels not on this list? I refuse to wear things that causes pain in my feet and cause disfigurement in toes over time. I just don't get it.
I can't believe that wearing high heels is still a thing. They feel horrible and they deform your toes. I haven't worn heels in years and my toes are all perfectly straight and smooth.
Load More Replies... Thinking my way is the only way... I'm so tired of people thinking that what is right to them/for them is right for everyone. Especially now that the government is making decisions for everyone based on their own private/religious beliefs.
I'm of two minds on this. I can see your point of view, for sure, but humans wouldn't have succeeded as a species without cooperation, and without thinking of the group as a whole. We're social animals because alone, we're not that great. We're fragile, we're weak (compared to other animals that are similarly sized), we're slow...if a human and a chimp had a fight, the chimp would eat the human's face off. If 50 humans fought the chimp, they would win. If 49 humans sat back and did nothing while one fought it, then the chimp would win and move on to the next person. And the next. And the next. Now imagine that chimp is covid and you can see why vaccines and masking and social distancing are so important
Load More Replies... People downvoting your comments when they are on subject, then getting a ban because BP refuses to even have a person check first!
Yeah, getting your comments hidden because it's an unpopular opinion is a bummer
Load More Replies... The obsession with hero worshipping the military. It's overdone and ridiculous.
Always having your phone out during concerts. Live in the moment people, why do you need to record a whole darn song and block the view for others?! The amount of phones in the air filming nowadays when the band gets on stage, it's crazy.
That one seems weird to me too - like, you aren't doing a better job of recording the concert than the professional videographers are doing (probably at that same concert), all you'll hear on the phone is the screaming of the people around you (because phone microphones work different than human ears), and all you'll see is a distant blur of lights because the camera can't pick out what the human eye focuses on...it's really just a waste of time
Load More Replies... For me, it's watching gory movies. Like the Saw franchise, or Final Destination, or any other movies where they viscerally show people getting killed. There's something really wrong with a culture that has movie theatres full of people watching human bodies being torn apart, but showing people having sex is still considered to be pretty taboo.
Fvck late-stage capitalism and all of its fans. I refuse to put corporations over humans.
Acting like the customer is always right. Not true AT ALL. The saying is just a way for rude people to manipulate employees and get what they want most times.
Celebrating my birthday or congratulate people on theirs... i absolutelly see no reason.
I don't understand why there are paragraphs on not drinking and not smoking and about dating apps between the numbered points. This website is hard to read.
I never had any interest in downloading TikTok, but my mom always likes sending me TikToks she likes, so I finally downloaded the app just so I can watch what my mom sends me but I just don’t bother with it otherwise 🤷🏼♀️
Taking a cruise ferry. More over taking a car in the ferry so one can drive around. I live in Sweden.for all the ecofriendly people, somehow Swedes think it is their birthright to take those polluting cruises.
Having friends. I don't have friends, I don't want friends. I have my husband a d that's often more social interaction than I can handle or want.
This is a "just do you" post, I like it people shouldn't feel pressured to do thing they just don't want to do
This may not be totally the norm, but using the insanely hard-to-read cApItAl AnD sMaLl letter typing. I HATE it. Please stop it, people!!! I know, I did it there, just for effect so you could see what I meant. 🤬
I get the reasoning for it though - it's meant to denote mockery and sarcasm, which is inherently VERY tricky to get across with the written word. It's meant to be read the way a kid would repeat back something you said to make fun of you: "I said to go clean your room!" "I sAid tO go cLeAn YoUr rOoooOmM"
Load More Replies... I will never drink coffee. I find it equal to alcohol and cigarettes and pot, it's addictive and it irks me that caffeine addiction is so normalized.
I gave up by #7. Nothing on that list is stuff I consider people are "normally" doing anyway. Except the posting their good deeds, which is fine by me. It does no harm, and if it's the only reason someone does a good deed, who cares. The recipient of the deed still receives.
It's the only reason I read this article because it's 100% on the dot. Nobody cares about your pride or your mental illnesses. Just fix yourself and work on building a better family and stop caring what the world thinks.
Load More Replies... The idea that you NEED to respect your parents. They brought you into this world, but you can take yourself out. Not only that, but don't you think the ones WITH EXPERIENCE should be working for the respect, not the other way around? Doing the bare minimum is not earning respect. That's doing your due diligence for bringing a life into this world.
I hate the media-centric displays of who is gay today. I dont care who you do, you do you! I just dont need it taking my news feed. Not my business.
Down voted for SURE. This is SUCH a hetero-centric point of view. Nobody asked for your input. But you know who does care about celebrities coming out? Gay people. People who are still in the closet. People who still have to fear for their LIVES when they consider coming out. People who worry about being attacked, having their lives on the line, for walking or talking "too gay". When gay is normalized, people like me won't have to worry as much. When people like Lil Nas X, Elliott Page, and Kristen Stewart come out, and talk about it, and share it, they are making life immeasurably better for people like them. But sure, they should STFU because it annoys your breeder a*s.
Load More Replies... Having a pet. For me, it doesn't make any sense. Why would you breed and slave an animal, remove all their wild instinct for absolute no use other than serve humans' lack of affection.
Dogs have been domesticated for thousands and thousands of years, humans love companionship - and animals are nonjudgemental and loyal
Load More Replies... Out of all the topics that are glamourized in pop culture and music, you chose to make polygamy your example? Not like, rape, child molestation, murder? Polygamy is your hill to die on? Weird.
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