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We tend to go through life accepting a lot from society. We use these pieces of paper to buy things? Got it. I must work somewhere to earn more paper to ensure I can eat and have shelter? Yes sir. We must abide by rules the government decided on even if we disagree with them? Okay, sure. If we questioned everything that society considers normal, we’d go crazy. But recently, Reddit users have been discussing some socially acceptable things that upon further reflection, they decided they’ll never do.

2 months ago, Reddit user fuzziblanket asked, “What is something considered to be ‘normal’ by society that you refuse to do?” We’ve gone through the responses and curated this list of some of the most interesting topics that you may have never even questioned before. Whether you commonly do these activities or not, enjoy reading through them and determining if you still consider them normal. Be sure to upvote the answers you’d like other pandas to see, and let us know in the comments what “normal” things you’d never be caught doing. 

Then if you’re looking for another Bored Panda piece pointing out odd yet socially acceptable things, look no further than right here.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) recording yourself doing an act of charity or a good deed in general. completely devalues it the second you hit post

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What’s considered “normal” is determined by society, but there are many societies around the globe that have their own quirks. In the United States, for example, it’s totally normal to drive your car anywhere you go, even if it’s just a mile away because there might not be decent sidewalks or crosswalks to get to your destination. In many other countries where roads are built to better accommodate pedestrians, this would be considered bizarre. It’s also normal in many European countries for kids to walk or bike to school by themselves, especially when they’re about 8-years-old or older. This would be very rare in the US. Even when in their own neighborhood, American kids are usually expected to have adult supervision at all times. When paying at a restaurant in the US, patrons typically hand the server their card, the server takes it to their computer, and then they return with the receipt. If a server in a European country tried to walk off with someone’s credit card, the customer might assume they were being robbed. Societal norms vary greatly based on where you are, so there's nothing wrong with questioning them. They might be more arbitrary than you think!

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#2

“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Forbidding my (straight male) partner to spend time with female friends. He's a grown-a*s man; he should know how to hold healthy boundaries. It shouldn't be on me to keep him from cheating. If he's really gonna fall into the pants of the first girl I leave him alone with, she can have him.

Similarly, blaming someone else for my partner's failings, and/or trying to "win back" someone who doesn't want me. He's a big boy who can make his own choices (even bad ones), and I want a partner who wants to be with me, not someone I had to talk into staying.

(For the record, my dudeman of 20 years is awesome.)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone that enters into a relationship and starts setting the terms and conditions of their new partners interactions is definitely not a healthy person to be with!

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) I don't know if it's been mentioned already, but I'll throw in my 5 cents.

The need to be available 24/7, i.e. always having your phone on you.
I like going for long walks and leaving my phone at home. I don't feel guilty for missing texts or calls, it's just stressful being expected to be available all hours of the day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sad times when people are apologizing for not responding within a minute to a text. I have to tell friends to chill out. A text is not going to disappear. We all have other priorities and no one should expect anyone to stop their lives all of a sudden to engage in a conversation out of the blue.

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One of the socially acceptable activities mentioned on this list is drinking alcohol. While alcohol has been around for centuries, it’s also the most commonly abused substance. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a couple drinks, especially in social settings. Alcohol is linked with many cultures, as sharing a bottle of wine with a loved one or enjoying some beers with your best friends can be great ways to bond. Holidays tend to be filled with booze in many places as well.

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But regardless of how socially acceptable drinking is, it’s completely fair to question it too. People who have experience with alcoholics in their families or personal lives may decide that drinking will never be for them. Others decide to refrain from drinking for religious or health reasons. Drinking heavily can lead to developing heart, liver, or kidney issues and can even increase an individual's likelihood of developing cancer. It's completely up to individuals whether or not they decide to drink; no one should ever feel pressured to order a drink because its expected by society.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) give a s**t about celebs. Sometimes they're fun to talk about for like 5 minutes but other than that? Aren't they just people? I don't get it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, definitely this. I just can't fathom why anyone would give a sh*t about what dress a celeb is wearing, who they're currently dating, etc. Whatever part of the brain that finds that stuff interesting I must just be missing.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Work myself to death.

Edit: I commented this, passed out, and now it blew up. Thank you for the awards.

Also please use your vacation days. Your sick days. Take your dog out. Hang out with the family. Even if you're alone like me - Go do something you like.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My workplace has been under staffed for over a year. I refuse to work extra hours and when im sick Im staying in bed. Whats the point if you burn out and have no energy to do the things you actually like?

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Talk to toxic family members

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This!!! Being related to someone does not grant them permanent space in your life. If they are not good people, you DON'T owe them your time, your forgiveness or your love.

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Smoking is another habit that’s considered socially acceptable in some places but more taboo in others. We’re all well aware of cigarettes being carcinogens, and most of us have seen terrifying examples of what smoking can do to the body our entire lives. Yet for some reason, smoking is still incredibly common and accepted in many countries. In Greece, for example, about 38% of the population smokes, including 47% of men. According to cardiologist and tobacco control researcher Konstantinos Farsalinos, “Greeks aren’t highly motivated to quit. There is plenty of education, and we have smoking cessation centers, but they are not popular. There is not a lot of social pressure to quit smoking. Although there are laws prohibiting indoor smoking, those laws are not obeyed. So that reduces the social pressure. So, the smoker tends to forget the reasons why smoking is bad for you. Most Greek smokers only quit when they develop disease.” While the culture around smoking is different everywhere, it’s definitely worth questioning if it’s accepted wherever you live.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Push for the removal of homeless. They need help, not further persecution.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, it depends. We have organized beggar clans, which get driven into the country in spring and back home in autumn. They refuse any and all help, they even refuse to use the toilets specifically installed for them only they have a key for, and instead s**t on sidewalks and p**s in parks and bike parking spaces instead. I get persecution.

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#8

“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Wear makeup. If I can deal with my face, so can everyone else

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Sacrifice a down payment on a house for a wedding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nobody understood why I wouldn’t have a big wedding. Between the costs and my MIL thinking it was her special day I talked my husband into a destination wedding with just us. When we got back my MIL had a fancy cocktail party. That was enough.

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Similarly to smoking, people around the world have very different views on recreational drugs as well. Marijuana is particularly controversial, as it has been legalized for recreational use in 6 countries, 19 states in the US, and parts of Australia. In places where it is legal, like the state of Oregon for example, it usually is considered socially acceptable. Sure, it’s not for everyone, but it’s legal and harmless, so people tend to mind their own business. However, in other places where it is heavily enforced, like the Philippines where it is considered a "dangerous drug", people are a lot less likely to openly discuss their marijuana use. How socially acceptable recreational drugs are depends greatly on individual cultures, but even in places where marijuana is common, there will always be those who simply have no interest in getting high.

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My dad just scolded me because I was unwilling to put in 60+ hrs/week at a new salaried job by saying 'I've worked 70/hr since I was out of college!'
Yeah dad, that's probably why you missed every important life event and smoke a juul at age 57

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) I don’t drink or do illicit drugs. Alcohol messes with my medication, and pot gives me anxiety. I am a sober person and people often give me s**t about it and call me boring.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m sorry to break this to you, but you’re hanging out with the wrong people. Unless everyone is drunk, being with drunk people is really boring!

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Hang out in a social setting where the music is so gawdam loud that you have to scream at the person next to you to communicate.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I refuse to go to bars or restaurants where the music is too loud to talk to each other without screaming. I just don't get the point.

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Another thing mentioned on this list that some people swear they’ll never experience is dating apps. Online dating originally began in 1995 when Match.com launched, but as our culture has become increasingly obsessed with the internet since then, finding love online has only become more and more common. In 2020, the Pew Research Center found that 30% of Americans had ever used a dating site or app, including 48% of people between the ages of 18-29. These numbers have likely only gone up since the onset of the pandemic, though, and online dating is even more common among members of the LGBT+ community. Pew found that 55% of LGBT respondents had experience on a dating site or app, with 21% of them saying they had even been in a serious relationship with someone they met online. 

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Two months ago, my dad died. He had cancer and had had it for like a year.

I told my work over and over again that he was really sick. I work in an office and am on a computer all day. I have a company-supplied laptop. I have the ability to work from home, but I was not allowed to do so because I was an hourly employee.

I told them that his condition was worsening. I live five hours from my parents. They refused to accommodate me, even when I offered to work every day from my parents house, just so I could be with him.

They said 'well maybe when the situation gets more dire.'

I tried to apply for FMLA (I think that’s the right acronym) and I wasn’t eligible because I was hourly and hadn’t been there for a year yet, despite the circumstances. A week before he died I told my boss that it was almost time and I might have to take off work.

They were not concerned and told me as long as I got my work done and didn’t miss deadlines. I took the day he died off work—I just had a bad feeling, and was packing to go see him when he passed.
I told my work and they don’t have bereavement leave. So I offered to work remotely during this period and again they refused. Again, I have a 'good job' working at a huge corporation, in an office; my job requires a degree.

I was forced to use all of my sick time and some of my PTO so I could attend his funeral and help my mother with arrangements.

And I'm stuck here because I can't afford to quit without something else lined up. I've been looking. They obviously don't see us as humans.

You don’t owe your company anything. I would give anything to go back and time and quit, just to spend the last few weeks with my dad.
Whatever company you work for doesn’t care about you, only about how much you make them. Don’t worry about screwing them over or anything because at the end of the day, you could die and they would consider it a small inconvenience.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. Companies think they're the most important s**t on the planet over humans. Idc if it's business or what. They're run by humans who've forgotten where they came from and the meaning of what's important. We're not slaves to corporations. We're brainwashed into believing we need them.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Have kids.


I'm a 38 year old woman with lots of experience with kids - I like kids! - but people think that is a reason to birth them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being able to opt in or opt out of hanging out with munchkins is great! I love being Aunt Mary Rose and not Mommy!

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Ironing. Life is too short. I don't even own an iron and my clothes are just fine.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I may be weird, but I love ironing. The best part is when you watch the transformation of a shirt, from a wrinkled to a smooth one. I love it!

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When it comes to apps specifically, they did begin as a way for same-sex couples to meet. Grindr, a location-based app geared towards gay and bisexual men, launched in 2009 and started somewhat of a sexual revolution in the gay community. Since then, dating apps have become the norm for everyone regardless of sexual orientation. Tinder launched in 2012, and now has over 50,000,000 users. But just because dating apps are now socially acceptable doesn’t mean everyone has to use them. In fact, about half of Americans say that online dating has had neither a positive or negative effect on their love lives.  If you prefer to meet people the old fashion way, there’s no reason to feel pressured into using the internet.   

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Don't follow sports

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get really annoyed when people don't understand "I don't care it is boring to me" as an excuse to explain it to me in minute detail, as I just don't understand it. My usual response is to start explaining software development to them. Strangely they aren't interested and don't want to talk about it.. and yet don't get the link.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Yes. People are flabbergasted when I’m not informed on the latest celebrity news and honestly I just don’t see a reason to keep up with it

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Smoking. I can't stand cigarette smell.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a smoker (down from 30/day to 10/day and on my way to quitting completely), and I always ensure I'm well away from everyone when I light up. No one wants to breathe my smoke or even get it on their clothes. It absolutely is a disgusting habit, and I wish my parents hadn't smoked, because I probably would never have started.

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Social media is another thing that has become socially acceptable, but still doesn’t appeal to everyone. Since social media began in the early 2000s, it has dominated the internet. In 2004, MySpace was the first site of its kind to reach over 1 million monthly active users, but today, Facebook has 2.89 billion active users. Facebook has been the most popular social media site globally for over a decade now, but Youtube is quickly catching up, with 2.29 billion active users. Among the other most successful sites are Instagram, which currently has 2 billion active users, and TikTok, which has only been around since 2016 and already has 1 billion active monthly users.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Walk in the house with shoes.
Why people want to track all the junk from the outside and smear it over the floors , bed, and couch?! No thanks

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here in Finland that's considered VERY rude and it makes sense to take the shoes off.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Call my coffee something other than small, medium & large.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Bore other people with photos of everyday stuff they see all the time anyway. For example, the meal I am going to eat, the shoes I bought, the place I am at.

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Despite how popular social media sites are, it’s understandable why some people would want to avoid them. One of the biggest reasons people cite for staying off these apps is because they can be a huge waste of time. The average global user spends about 2 hours and 27 minutes on social media per day, with average users in Nigeria and the Philippines spending over 4 hours per day. It’s easy to rack up hours on these sites though, as they are typically designed to be addictive. With features like “likes” and feeds designed to constantly show users new content, these websites are aimed at getting users hooked.    

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Do “lives” on social media. Since when did vanity and narcissism become so acceptable?

No one cares about your dining experience or “get ready with me” moments.

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Text while hanging with friends, or out to dinner, or driving, or in a movie theater.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll text my man to update him on if I plan on being home soon, as a courtesy, but otherwise my phone is out of sight. Texting around others is rude.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) One Night Stands

Sex doesn't mean anything to me if I can't build a connection first

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably an unpopular opinion here but I have no problem with meaningless sex. I enjoy sex simply for the pleasure it gives, it doesn't need any deeper meaning than that for me. I don't really mind if it is a one night stand or something more long term, all I care about is that we both enjoy it.

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Bill Evs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll upvote. I genuinely don't understand why something so natural is frowned upon but each to their own

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's up to each person in my opinion. My problem is with one side shaming the other. If people want to f**k with strangers, let them be. I would just recommend them to be safe and keep the test up to date. And if someone doesn't want to f**k unless in a serious relationship, let'em be too. Or brains work differently, let's accept those non malefic differences 😊

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THANK YOU!! I'm sick of people calling people wh~res, sl~ts, and accusing them of having STD's cause they like hooking up/casual s~x.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just can't bring myself to find some random dude and be comfortable with him getting all up in my sacred parts. Those areas take time to earn to gain access.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fully agree. I'm staying a virgin until I'm married, and I'm still very confident in this plan and proud of myself for not giving in to those expectations of giving away something I can't get back to someone I won't be spending the rest of my life with.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the same way, but I do not shame those that have them, or FWB. You do you when it comes to that! And it's obviously not hurting anyways as long as it's between two consenting adults, so just be careful and have fun!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't believe in shaming people over this. You wanna have a one night stand, fine. It should really boil down to a persons preference and what they're comfortable with. Unfortunately there are situations were people force themselves on other or shame them for not having sex, so until some people can learn to be respectful of other people's preferences, I have a feeling this will be an on going topic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, sex is pleasure if i can meet a guy or girl that can give me that, than s**t i don’t need a connection. also std’s suck so wear protection

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No it doesn't. It needs communicating and compatability which you can get right off the bat. This is a total myth. Some couples will never have good sex no matter how much time passes. Some one night stands can be amazing. Just depends.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Connective sex is great. Animal sex is great. Life is better for everyone when you're honest with yourself and your partner(s) about which you're after, and there's no reason you can't have both kinds with the same person. Keep it safe and consensual and it's all good.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about respecting people's choices and the ability to consent period...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um, you sure you are doing it right? I don't regret any of my 1 night stands from when I was single. Yes, sex when you have an emotional connection with someone is great, but sex when you don't can be great in a completely different way

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Laurie Cobb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is really sad today how young people hop into bed with just anyone. You

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LeeAnn Ziegler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the same and it's taken me awhile to accept that it's legitimate for other people to just enjoy sex and want it more or need that emotional connection less. It's like sexual identity or libido...very individual and not something we should judge each other for!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It depends on the person, op obviously is demisexual and needs to form a bond first before sexual attraction. It's alright to think this but it can't be applied to everyone.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Completely agree with this. It's often joked about calling a wife a "ball and chain" or they'll "why do want to give up your freedom. Well the decade I was with my wife before she passed were the most free I've ever felt. I always knew I had someone to come home to who wanted to see me and spend time with me. I never had to fear being alone. Especially in bed, I only had to figure out how one person liked it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I fully agree! I think for most women sex is more emotional than physical. Some men are that way also. I believe giving my body to someone is an extension of my heart.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe that's called Demisexual! https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22678-demisexuality (As someone who's demiromantic, a similar thing, it makes me happy to see others out there!)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's exactly an expected social norm. Depends on the environment i guess though. Pretty common and expected at the factory and in sex work focused or adjacent areas. But outside of those situations i haven't really seen it be anything but a dirty secret at best or something that people look their noses down on. (Though my other experiences include public school staff, office work, retail, and fast food)

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Anon E. Mous
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for saying it! I wish I could find someone like minded

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Kay Phillips
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s cool as long as you don’t judge people who make a different choice.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have nothing against it but it's rarely good if it's just a ons imo so not really "worth it". Fwb is better because then you have some time to communicate better and get to learn what works or not. But as a whole I don't mind sex without romantic feelings as long as the sex is good.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why choose? Both sexual experiences are satisfying for different reasons. Same goes for masturbation. Also, it seems like many people responding about STD's do not understand how they work. You could remain a virgin until your 50. Get married and still catch an STD from your partner. The ONLY shame is not getting tested regularly. .It's Pretty simple, STOP shaming yourself and others for contracting an STD and remove the stigma around getting tested and you stop the spread of new outbreaks.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel the same way. Been there done that and it is never worth it. I feel cheap and dirty, besides it's not like most males put forth any real effort if they know it's just a hit and run. Thanks, I'll pass

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree with them not putting much effort if it's a ons. That's the primary reason why I don't really like ONE night stands.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have you heard of being demisexual? It's classified as a type of asexuality where you can't feel sexually attracted to a person unless you have that emotional connection.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Humanity is a spectrum, for some this is a true statement, for others it's not

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Buggycas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi! I would like to introduce you to a label under the asexual umbrella: specifically Demisexual. It means you can't get aroused without an emotional connection first. It's more common than you think, and having a label helps a lot of people.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's the first time I've heard that it counts as a type of asexuality. (Never quite understood why that name either)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i understand the desire for one night stands, but i would never do it. i haven't even ever been in a relationship with anyone until i'd been good friends with them for at least a year prior.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As much as you're allowed to dislike it. People should also be allowed to like it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does it matter to you? Take care of yourself not others, let them do what They want, no one asks you to do it yourself like that...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, being solosexual is far more sanitary, for starters...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really funny how many people this hit the wrong way and feel they need to defend their desire to be hos. "I would never SHAME someone..." They aren't, by stating their preference, shaming you. People are allowed to say a one night stand is gross or simply not their thing. I was pressured into one by a well meaning friend and I felt ashamed I let her talk me into sleeping with her random friend since it happened almost 20 years ago. Stop telling normal people that WE'RE the weird ones by not being a ho like you are.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for...you? I mean.. that's literally you. You are not everyone. You are you. Lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe that casual sex inside a relationship could actually be beneficial. I hate that it is looked down upon as "cheating".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is only ok if all parties agree to it. It is most common with polyamorous couples that marry for the benefits but go on dates with other people, it's just a style of living and shouldn't be called cheating or shamed on. Some people prefer this and some people just want to be with one person forever, not everything is black and white

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nowadays' approach to sex is rather disgusting, tbh. It's supposed to be something done by married people, and married people only, to each other, one person only your entire life, and only after your wedding. Nowadays it's anything goes, your body your rules, men w/ men and women w/ women, and mast**ation and all sorts of promiscuity are encouraged. This is all profoudly disgusting.

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That game is for whores( male or female) and I'm not a whore

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I REFUSE TO EVER CALL IT A HER/ them /they or to call someone undocumented they are either gay or illegal

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Social media is also notorious for causing users to compare themselves to others, which can negatively impact their self esteem. One study from the University of Pennsylvania even found that reducing social media use to only 30 minutes a day resulted in a reduction in anxiety levels, depression, loneliness, sleep problems and FOMO (fear of missing out). Like everything else, there’s nothing wrong with using social media in moderation. But just because it’s considered “normal” to spend hours a day on these sites does not mean you need to create an account today. If your life is perfectly fine without social media, I’m sure it won’t be any better with it.  

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Going in debt $30k-$70k for a vehicle.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Which begins to depreciate the minute you drive it out of the lot. I've always bought used cars, and I've never regretted it.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Shave/wax my pubes. I actually really like having pubic hair. It doesn't bother me or my partner, and I find waxing and/or shaving extremely uncomfortable and not at all worth it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For ladies. when they do it's like people want us to be little girls and that's. creepy [I'm not explaining this well.].

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Buy fast fashion (or pretty much any fashion whose supply chain is questionable). I used to. Then I found out not only how and where those clothes begin their lives, but also how and where those clothes end their lives.

It was so horrific, I decided I was done. I now buy secondhand, or I save and buy pieces from independent tailors from sites like Etsy. And I research the tailor too.

I also took some of the money I saved from clothes shopping and got a sewing machine. I am learning to sew and make my own summer dresses (I'm not good enough yet to take on complex clothing, but I'm learning)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandmother made most of my clothes for me when I was a child, and she had an old treadle machine that she eventually replaced with something more in keeping with the times. After my poor grandfather died after living on without my grandmother for 11 years, my aunt had all of the grandchildren—who were all adults—had each of us walk through my grandparents’ home of 60+ year (a home my grandfather built) and put a Post-It with our name on anything we wanted to take home with us. I chose a small number of things, all of which were made by one or the other of my grandparents, and I took home everything I asked for.

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I think this list has taught us that just because something is considered "normal" does not mean we have to go along with it. We all have the right to make our own choices, and what's socially acceptable totally depends on where we end up living. Enjoy the rest of this list, and remember to upvote the answers you most agree with. Then let us know in the comments if you think of any other "normal" activities you would never do that didn't make it onto this list.

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My wife and I had a very small wedding on a beach with only our parents there. Then, we drove to a mountain and hiked to the top with our photographer for our first dance.
It was incredible and people keep telling us they wish they could’ve done something that simple but social pressures made them spend more.
Now, we’ve just had to spend more than the entire cost of our wedding just to buy the plane tickets to attend my sister’s big wedding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Treat it as a nice holiday, but seriously; I wouldn't go into debt to go to my own wedding much less anyone else. If I couldn't afford it I wouldn't go sister or no sister

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Faking orgasms

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never with someone you want to have sex again with. But sometimes it can help to shorten an awkward hookup 🤷‍♀️

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Have tons of social media accounts where I'm constantly posting pictures of what I'm doing every day. Remember, if it's not photographed and posted online, it didn't happen.

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Didn’t see it here so figured I’d share. Live in a city. I was born in a large city, lived there until I was 11. Then moved to the woods. I’ve lived in the woods since then and although I have visited cities since, I could never live there. Too many people, too much noise and I just don’t feel comfortable. I feel more comfortable taking walks at night in the woods than I would in a city.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lived in San Francisco for most of my adult life (40 of my now 66 years), and my last apartment there was the best one I’d ever had, and I wanted to spend the rest of my life there. Alas, once I was no longer working, I had to move, and after a year (minus two days) of living with my favorite brother and his wife on their farm in rural Oregon, I ended up with a job in a small town on the Mendocino coast of Northern California. I have come to love small-town life in a way I would never have anticipated. I just wish I weren’t so far from my dearest friends, who all live in the Bay Area.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Have never and will never use a dating app.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes that is the only way people can get to know new people. Haven't used one in a while, but i def would again if i needed to.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) This might be oddly specific, it's wearing flip flops.

I grew up in a tourist beach town, I have never owned a pair of flip flops in my life. I find them wildly uncomfortable and people in my hometown look at me like a crazy person when I tell them I don't own a pair.

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Wearing a bra, I completely hate the feeling

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) brushing before breakfast:

doing that is basically wiping before you s**t and i refuse to do that

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Buy copious amounts of dishes, Why the f**k do you need 27 plates for the two people in your household. Im looking at you mom.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do you never have guests over? I also have a dumber reason for it - so I can use my dishwasher. I wouldn't run it for just two or three plates (it's wasting water and energy) and I hate washing dishes, so I have enough to use until the dishwasher is full.

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The Hustle Culture. Although I like the idea of bettering your life but always thinking of doing something or the other will leave you with burnout. Taking a break regularly is nessecary

Edit: It's good if you are in a bad place. But it's not always about working your a*s off. What's important is taking a break and keep it from becoming toxic

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does this even mean? To me, hustling means coercing or tricking people into doing something or buying something. I don't think that's generally accepted though is it?

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“What Is Something Considered To Be ‘Normal’ By Society That You Refuse To Do?” (40 Answers) Drink alcohol.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't mind the occasional social drink as long as I can't taste or feel the alcohol lol

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Play wordle

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