18 Saddening Replies To The Question ‘What Would You Do If There Were No Men On Earth For 24 Hours’ Shared On TikTok
According to global estimates by the World Health Organisation, around 1 in 3 women worldwide have experienced physical and/or sexual violence. That makes up about 35% of the population of women. Moreover, the WHO indicates that approximately 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner. Evidently, there’s a huge disproportion in terms of who experiences the most violence towards them. Sadly, there’s a pattern that definitely needs reevaluation and the times are calling for a change.
Luckily, young women and girls are starting to speak out more, and the #MeToo movement that broke out several years ago has made it somewhat safer for the victims to come forward with their stories. That doesn’t mean that the problem has gone away.
The more we’re open in these conversations, the safer the world will be for women in the future. That’s why it is important that young people are using social media platforms to speak out on issues that can’t be overlooked anymore. So when someone on TikTok asked “what would you do if there were no men on earth for 24 hours,” it was a learning moment for some. “it makes me mad and sad that women have to fear doing all these things because some idiots thought that it’s a great idea to harass women,” one man on Twitter commented. “We as men need to do better,” another one added.
Scroll down below to read the answers from women and tell us what you think, and what you would do if there were no men for 24 hours, in the comment section!
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Someone on TikTok asked women “what would you do if there were no men on earth for 24 hours”
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The thread almost instantly went viral. It seemingly resonated with a lot of people, as almost half a million of Twitter users “liked” it. Naturally, there were people who disagreed with such portrayal of men. “Right… because only men can be criminals and engage in illegal acts,” someone tweeted sarcastically. “Buy a gun, learn self defense, don’t walk alone at night,” one man immediately offered a solution to the problem.
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“Saw a TikTok that said, what would you do if there were no men on Earth for 24 hours,” Twitter user @wxixp posted. “Here was the comment section,” she tweeted with a sad emoji—understandably so, as the comment section is really disheartening to read.
“Go on walks at night”
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“Wear whatever I want and feel safe while doing so”
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“A massive picnic with my girls at late and sleep under the stars”
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“Live how I want to live”
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One clear pattern emerged—it’s that women would very much like to go out at dark hours without fearing for their lives. In addition to this, there were a couple of people who shared that they would dress any way they want, again, without fearing for their safety.
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But the response from women was quick and savage
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In case any of those "But I'm a nice guy" guys are reading this: 1) Unless you're a friend, you're a stranger, and nobody knows you are actually nice. 2) A lot of thieves and rapists seem like nice guys because that's a tactic. Sooooo don't blame the women for overreacting, blame the guys for making the world so dangerous for them.
Yep. Are the majority of my interactions with men perfectly fine? Of course! Have I also had interactions that had me fearing for my safety and my life? You betcha. The bad guys don't have signs saying "I'm bad!" or have a "bad look," so we have to exercise care. It's like if I told you that in a bowl of M&M's the majority were perfectly safe and lovely but one or two of them would make you violently ill - would you reach in and chow down or exercise caution before you took a bite?
This is a perfect analogy!
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Very well put. Thank you.
@DiannaSiever It is a good analogy. This is not misandry because 50% of women experience sexual violence. And nobody brought race into this. This applies to men, which is why we have to exercise caution.
Or not take any bites at all! The chance of me eating one of those poison M&Ms is enough to dissuade me from it just as much as the chance of an encounter with a bad actor is enough to keep one AirPod out while walking alone.
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No, it's not. Let's assume you are a white supremacist and replace the inference to "men" with "black people". Now do you see how this thinking is wrong?
And btw, I do empathize with women and the crap they have to endure as a result of the jackasses of the world. When I encounter one (or more) in places where we are isolated, I take actions such as greeting them, steeping off the trail, when possible, and letting her pass. I'll make noise so that she/they know where I'm at. I can't say I like doing it per se (but neither do I mind), but do feel this kind of thing is necessary in today's world.
Thanks for doing those things, Jerry. I've encountered men before who did the same things for me. It made me feel bad for them, but I appreciated that the effort was made.
That's very considerate of you! I really do feel bad for the genuinely decent guys of the world. It's sort of like the whole class being punished because that one asshole kid couldn't manage to behave himself.
Thank you, Jerry. It seems like you are trying to understand rather than expect us to just get over it.
Jerry, Today's world? I get you are trying to be kind but it's those kind of blinders that are detrimental. It's Not Today's World. It's Decades, Upon Centuries, to the beginning of time. Learned behavior in the male psyche that women are less than. You may not show clinical bad behavior but do you speak up when another man is out of line? Or maybe less overt behavior, such as if you had to choose between a male or female financial planner, instinctively is the male more qualified? Would it bother you if a woman made more than you for the same work? See, no men on earth for 24 hours is just a ban-aid on a bullet wound.
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Bless your heart, at least I see a person who wants people to know he’s coming and their safe.
Please, all of you wonderful men who are in the vast majority of men who are not violent towards women, who could not possibly rape anyone, who wouldn't dream of ganging up on a lone woman to taunt her 'for the fun of it', please TALK TO OTHER MEN about how inappropriate it is to behave like that, how unacceptable misogyny is, how very much it does not make any man stronger and more manly to behave threateningly to women. The bad men among you do not listen to women, but they may listen to you.
should not they hear what their mom said ?? why is it only men fault ?
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... so if a man you care about sees a "bad" man harassing a woman and decides to step up and say something and then gets stabbed to death for his effort, will that make you feel BETTER? Evil is evil. Males aren't by definition part of some exclusive club where we're all friends and we all hang out. This idea that "good" men should somehow be responsible to "fix" all the evil in the world is absurd.... first of all because you can't "fix" evil and second because those evil men you fear are actually much MORE LIKELY to commit acts of violence against OTHER MEN... and if a man who loves you fails to protect you, he may very well commit suicide rather than face the shame of his failure. Being a woman is hard. I get it... but being a good man doesn't mean the entire world is simply a video game with all the cheat codes. Women here talk about how the world would be a better place if evil men didn't exist... but good men are somehow responsible for making evil disappear....
Geoff -
Unfortunately "friends" can turn out to be toxic too. I knew this guy for 8 years before we started dating. I just came out a bad breakup so I was taking it slow. He knew about my bad breakup and had seen what it had done to me. So when he offered a nice night in with a movie and popcorn I told him not to expect more from me at that point. I wasn't ready for more. But he insisted that was fine. So I agreed. It only took about an hour before he stated to be "in the mood for sex" I kindly refused and told him to leave. It may be hard for men to hear. But for me you're all the same. I trust nobody. Because unfortunately we can't be all trustworthy around men. If you want the respect and trust that you feel you deserve, you'll have to earn it. Deal with it!
yes. it's not all men's fault, but it's better safe than sorry. the sad truth is that there are so many men out there that AREN'T nice guys, that women can't feel safe around them anymore. they aren't shaming every man, it's just that the norm often is that many men are predators to women
(Male here), when we flag up unacceptable behaviour, it's typically dismissed and they'll justify it somehow. Just no getting through to some of them who are convinced they're being flirty and charming instead of predatory. Sadly it seems so deeply normalised that it will take a lot of work and time to sort. At the very least I'd like to live to see a generation not have these things so prevalent that everyone knows a rape victim. Obviously we'll not give up, it's not nice when school girls have to worry about men being dangerous, I want them to be able to stay as kids until they mature naturally, not be slapped out of their innocence by necessity because many men just don't take no for answer and prey on those they see as weak
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Exactly. A lot of serial criminals get away with it for a long time just because they look and act like a completely normal and average person!
Case in point - Ted Bundy. Looked like a clean cut nice young man.
If you have to say and swear you are a nice guy, I bet you aren't.
I've noticed that guys who say "I'm a nice guy" never are. I know a few who say that to girls, but in reality, they are complete dickheads. Act like a decent human being instead of saying that you are one.
I agree but would like to add women can be dangerous too, albeit a lower percentage I think.
I don't think women are overreacting. But I do think it's not a complete picture. Sure, if men were gone for 1 day, you could do all things suggested and for most women nothing would happen. Of course that is true right now. But as you expand the timeframe, the chances of something bad happening go up. Both in reality and in the hypothetical situation. I'd bet within a year (with no men) you couldn't walk the streets at night anymore than you could now. People are people. Getting rid of men would just end up with criminally minded women filling the gap. Maybe less if 1 type of crime and maybe more of another. But it would be there. Women's prisons show a power structure at the same rate men's do.
You know the thing is, as a woman it's difficult trusting men. Especially strange men you've never encountered before. As a woman your always going to end up the weakest link if a man would decide to harm you in any way. Because they are most likely always stronger than us. If something were to happen to me or I don't feel safe at some point and I need help, I look for other women. Because even though we might be total strangers and she might not be as honest and trustworthy herself. We do tend to help each other in times of trouble. Because we've all been in a situation before where we're desperate for help. We don't just go to the bathroom in pairs to socialise. We travel in groups to protect ourselves from getting hurt, groped, harassment and worse. Women do tend to look out for each other.
that's not the point. the point is that men make sexual & violent advances on women, and there are more cases of women being kidnapped/killed/raped by men then there are of women doing those things to other women, and that's why were fearful. we don't have a choice. if you go out late at night and you're attacked, it's almost always by a man, so if you eliminate men for 1 night (nobody ever said more so idk why you brought that up, bc obviously it's not forever and that would change things) then there's no chance of you being attacked by a man, which is the most common
Um, Rissie, what are the potential outcomes if a dude isn't trusted by a woman? 1. Dude doesn't get laid. 2. Woman gets raped and murdered.
Can you walk the streets at night now? If so, what makes you believe women left alone would not be able to?
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funny, I was thinking along the same lines
The idea that women would “fill the gap” strongly conflicts with all DOJ crime data. Try Not to let your emotions prevent you from making fact-based, rational arguments. No one is trying to make you feel bad. No need to be sensitive.
I think the biggest thing is that there wouldn't be any men to automatically physically overpower us. That's really what this is all about. If women were physically stronger than men on average, then it wouldn't matter if all men were assholes. Because we wouldn't have to be afraid.
But there in lies the problem. I completely agree with you that all women have the right to act anyway they want and I say ALL women. HOWEVER, lumping all men into one group is not the solution. There will never be a perfect society but everyone can take steps in whatever manner they can to create positive change. In other words "men" are not the problem; "assholes" are the problem.
It's not lumping all men together as bad. It's being careful and not taking chances with men they don't know. They have to be this cautious because 1) there are a lot more bad men out there than most people think and 2) the bad they do can be devastating, lifelong, and even fatal. Those two facts are what #MeToo is determined to bring to the surface.
We absolutely know that it's not all men, but just a minority of them. However, a lot of bad people (a**holes) are wolves in sheep's clothing, hence our trepidation.
When women express a fear of assault, it's common for men to mansplain safety to them. "Don't walk alone at night, lock your doors, carry pepper spray", etc. etc.. The onus is ALWAYS put on the woman to protect herself, as if it's their own fault if they get attacked.
Looking at the original question in the post - it only asked what women would do if there were no men for 24 hours. That would mean all the toxic men are missing. So this is what they would do in that situation. It does not mean all men are toxic. I'm sure I could make some comments about sets and subsets, but maths was too long ago. To be honest, if all men were absent, there'd probably be some toxic women who would take advantage of that somehow and screw it up anyway.
Yeah, Bob, you're "not all menning" here.
It was a thought experiment; don’t take it personally. Try it. Imagine if there were no women for 24 hours. You’d have 24 hours during which you could whine about anything and no woman would call you butt hurt or triggered. Does this mean every woman thinks you’re a butt hurt, triggered whiner? Of course not. This is all theoretical. But thanks for pointing out that society isn’t perfect; I don’t think anything of us had noticed that before.
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@Troux, yes it is. Most men are not a threat at all. Still you are saying be careful of all men because some are assholes. You are lumping everyone together. And to keep holding on to that will prevent you from any solution. Even without "asshole men", a group of people will emerge that will try to become dominant by means of aggression. And that means as a none aggressor you will always find an adversary that you need to take measures against. But if you don't want to learn and keep believing that all men are the problem, well then you're essentially accepting that women should protect themselves against all men by no using any potentially sexual invitations. Grow past it, find actual solutions and you earn the right to wear a miniskirt at night back again.
When I walk around at night, Im scared of other men. I have never been attacked by a woman.
Yup. I also make a habit of looking as harmless as possible if I meet a woman on the street at night, preferring to even cross the street so that she doesn´t have to walk by me. I feel so very sad that my first thought is "Better not look intimidating!" when I walk towards a woman in the evening or at night... :-(
Yes, I do the same.
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Yep. Husband said same. He has never walked into a room and been concerned about being there due to any women who were present.
I am a woman and I have. I've been attacked by both in different settings and they were both not my doing or my fault and it took a long time to realize that.
Dudes never have to worry about getting harassed by women on their way to work.
consider yourself lucky then
I’ve been attacked by women. But yes, it’s the fear that some ’guy’ is going to jump out at you. I blame allot of that on society but also, it’s just facts, unfortunately..
There seems to be a lot more evil out there than good. And that needs to change.
Maybe not but it’s still possible
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Walk in my area then. The sex workers will scare the hell out of you.
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And still you are here alive because most of them don't hurt you.
You can be seriously hurt without dying you (insert insult here).
I've never had a female threaten me or trying to touch me by force. However, I've had plenty of men do this, some of them even these so called "nice guys". So yes...I accept lumping men in this case. And to the answer, I would go on a nightly walk somewhere in the forest. :)
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night-time forest walks and picnics in the dark are nice dreamy sentiments but do little to keep hungry wildlife at bay - getting rid of men would only make you 'feel' safer!
There is no hungry wildlife where I live. But we still have plenty of forests.
Hungry wildlife in many parts of Europe would be foxes and deer. There are no bears or wolves or lynx anymore. No problem there. Believe me: it’s the fear of men that is holding us back.
I might get gnawed on by a kea or pukeko (both birds) but there's no wildlife that will eat or kill me here. No snakes. People however, would/could be considered a 'predator' I have to be wary of (not all men at all, only a minority. But I've been followed twice in an extreme way, once I asked ppl at a bus stop to pretend they knew Me, the second time I hid in a busy shop. But less than a week after one of those times a woman was murdered about a block from where I had been walking/lived. I felt like maybe id been overreacting to being followed, until that happened. Never ever took that risk again (unless i had no choice)
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You may not have, but I have had plenty of women manipulate me and make me fell like s**t to the point that I'm not sure how I'm still alive. Your one case is not the voice for the entire world. Everyone has their own points of view. I'm not saying yours is wrong, but understand it's not the only one that exist.
I'm really sorry this happened to you. Women can be abusive too.
But were you afraid for your life, on a regular, ongoing basis? Because women (with a few exceptions) have to be aware of their surroundings for fear of attack, at all times.
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Helen, not all women have to be aware of their surroundings. There are places where women do feel safe and there are differences depending on the country and the area. And even if he wasn't afraid on a regular basis, would that make his point any less valid?
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Thats too bad. There are shitty people everywhere. I've had more negative interactions with "Karens" than my wife has had with men. Its situational and isn't always the norm.
Yeah, but your negative interactions with "karens" 🙄 may, for all we know, be utterly your fault. Sorry, but some of the things you post on BP lead me to believe that you most likely are at the very least partly to blame. Your point score on here is -2254 for a reason.
“Negative interactions” like being told to f**k off or something similar? Not violence or threat of violence like many women face from men though...
In case any of those "But I'm a nice guy" guys are reading this: 1) Unless you're a friend, you're a stranger, and nobody knows you are actually nice. 2) A lot of thieves and rapists seem like nice guys because that's a tactic. Sooooo don't blame the women for overreacting, blame the guys for making the world so dangerous for them.
Yep. Are the majority of my interactions with men perfectly fine? Of course! Have I also had interactions that had me fearing for my safety and my life? You betcha. The bad guys don't have signs saying "I'm bad!" or have a "bad look," so we have to exercise care. It's like if I told you that in a bowl of M&M's the majority were perfectly safe and lovely but one or two of them would make you violently ill - would you reach in and chow down or exercise caution before you took a bite?
This is a perfect analogy!
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Very well put. Thank you.
@DiannaSiever It is a good analogy. This is not misandry because 50% of women experience sexual violence. And nobody brought race into this. This applies to men, which is why we have to exercise caution.
Or not take any bites at all! The chance of me eating one of those poison M&Ms is enough to dissuade me from it just as much as the chance of an encounter with a bad actor is enough to keep one AirPod out while walking alone.
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No, it's not. Let's assume you are a white supremacist and replace the inference to "men" with "black people". Now do you see how this thinking is wrong?
And btw, I do empathize with women and the crap they have to endure as a result of the jackasses of the world. When I encounter one (or more) in places where we are isolated, I take actions such as greeting them, steeping off the trail, when possible, and letting her pass. I'll make noise so that she/they know where I'm at. I can't say I like doing it per se (but neither do I mind), but do feel this kind of thing is necessary in today's world.
Thanks for doing those things, Jerry. I've encountered men before who did the same things for me. It made me feel bad for them, but I appreciated that the effort was made.
That's very considerate of you! I really do feel bad for the genuinely decent guys of the world. It's sort of like the whole class being punished because that one asshole kid couldn't manage to behave himself.
Thank you, Jerry. It seems like you are trying to understand rather than expect us to just get over it.
Jerry, Today's world? I get you are trying to be kind but it's those kind of blinders that are detrimental. It's Not Today's World. It's Decades, Upon Centuries, to the beginning of time. Learned behavior in the male psyche that women are less than. You may not show clinical bad behavior but do you speak up when another man is out of line? Or maybe less overt behavior, such as if you had to choose between a male or female financial planner, instinctively is the male more qualified? Would it bother you if a woman made more than you for the same work? See, no men on earth for 24 hours is just a ban-aid on a bullet wound.
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Bless your heart, at least I see a person who wants people to know he’s coming and their safe.
Please, all of you wonderful men who are in the vast majority of men who are not violent towards women, who could not possibly rape anyone, who wouldn't dream of ganging up on a lone woman to taunt her 'for the fun of it', please TALK TO OTHER MEN about how inappropriate it is to behave like that, how unacceptable misogyny is, how very much it does not make any man stronger and more manly to behave threateningly to women. The bad men among you do not listen to women, but they may listen to you.
should not they hear what their mom said ?? why is it only men fault ?
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... so if a man you care about sees a "bad" man harassing a woman and decides to step up and say something and then gets stabbed to death for his effort, will that make you feel BETTER? Evil is evil. Males aren't by definition part of some exclusive club where we're all friends and we all hang out. This idea that "good" men should somehow be responsible to "fix" all the evil in the world is absurd.... first of all because you can't "fix" evil and second because those evil men you fear are actually much MORE LIKELY to commit acts of violence against OTHER MEN... and if a man who loves you fails to protect you, he may very well commit suicide rather than face the shame of his failure. Being a woman is hard. I get it... but being a good man doesn't mean the entire world is simply a video game with all the cheat codes. Women here talk about how the world would be a better place if evil men didn't exist... but good men are somehow responsible for making evil disappear....
Geoff -
Unfortunately "friends" can turn out to be toxic too. I knew this guy for 8 years before we started dating. I just came out a bad breakup so I was taking it slow. He knew about my bad breakup and had seen what it had done to me. So when he offered a nice night in with a movie and popcorn I told him not to expect more from me at that point. I wasn't ready for more. But he insisted that was fine. So I agreed. It only took about an hour before he stated to be "in the mood for sex" I kindly refused and told him to leave. It may be hard for men to hear. But for me you're all the same. I trust nobody. Because unfortunately we can't be all trustworthy around men. If you want the respect and trust that you feel you deserve, you'll have to earn it. Deal with it!
yes. it's not all men's fault, but it's better safe than sorry. the sad truth is that there are so many men out there that AREN'T nice guys, that women can't feel safe around them anymore. they aren't shaming every man, it's just that the norm often is that many men are predators to women
(Male here), when we flag up unacceptable behaviour, it's typically dismissed and they'll justify it somehow. Just no getting through to some of them who are convinced they're being flirty and charming instead of predatory. Sadly it seems so deeply normalised that it will take a lot of work and time to sort. At the very least I'd like to live to see a generation not have these things so prevalent that everyone knows a rape victim. Obviously we'll not give up, it's not nice when school girls have to worry about men being dangerous, I want them to be able to stay as kids until they mature naturally, not be slapped out of their innocence by necessity because many men just don't take no for answer and prey on those they see as weak
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Exactly. A lot of serial criminals get away with it for a long time just because they look and act like a completely normal and average person!
Case in point - Ted Bundy. Looked like a clean cut nice young man.
If you have to say and swear you are a nice guy, I bet you aren't.
I've noticed that guys who say "I'm a nice guy" never are. I know a few who say that to girls, but in reality, they are complete dickheads. Act like a decent human being instead of saying that you are one.
I agree but would like to add women can be dangerous too, albeit a lower percentage I think.
I don't think women are overreacting. But I do think it's not a complete picture. Sure, if men were gone for 1 day, you could do all things suggested and for most women nothing would happen. Of course that is true right now. But as you expand the timeframe, the chances of something bad happening go up. Both in reality and in the hypothetical situation. I'd bet within a year (with no men) you couldn't walk the streets at night anymore than you could now. People are people. Getting rid of men would just end up with criminally minded women filling the gap. Maybe less if 1 type of crime and maybe more of another. But it would be there. Women's prisons show a power structure at the same rate men's do.
You know the thing is, as a woman it's difficult trusting men. Especially strange men you've never encountered before. As a woman your always going to end up the weakest link if a man would decide to harm you in any way. Because they are most likely always stronger than us. If something were to happen to me or I don't feel safe at some point and I need help, I look for other women. Because even though we might be total strangers and she might not be as honest and trustworthy herself. We do tend to help each other in times of trouble. Because we've all been in a situation before where we're desperate for help. We don't just go to the bathroom in pairs to socialise. We travel in groups to protect ourselves from getting hurt, groped, harassment and worse. Women do tend to look out for each other.
that's not the point. the point is that men make sexual & violent advances on women, and there are more cases of women being kidnapped/killed/raped by men then there are of women doing those things to other women, and that's why were fearful. we don't have a choice. if you go out late at night and you're attacked, it's almost always by a man, so if you eliminate men for 1 night (nobody ever said more so idk why you brought that up, bc obviously it's not forever and that would change things) then there's no chance of you being attacked by a man, which is the most common
Um, Rissie, what are the potential outcomes if a dude isn't trusted by a woman? 1. Dude doesn't get laid. 2. Woman gets raped and murdered.
Can you walk the streets at night now? If so, what makes you believe women left alone would not be able to?
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funny, I was thinking along the same lines
The idea that women would “fill the gap” strongly conflicts with all DOJ crime data. Try Not to let your emotions prevent you from making fact-based, rational arguments. No one is trying to make you feel bad. No need to be sensitive.
I think the biggest thing is that there wouldn't be any men to automatically physically overpower us. That's really what this is all about. If women were physically stronger than men on average, then it wouldn't matter if all men were assholes. Because we wouldn't have to be afraid.
But there in lies the problem. I completely agree with you that all women have the right to act anyway they want and I say ALL women. HOWEVER, lumping all men into one group is not the solution. There will never be a perfect society but everyone can take steps in whatever manner they can to create positive change. In other words "men" are not the problem; "assholes" are the problem.
It's not lumping all men together as bad. It's being careful and not taking chances with men they don't know. They have to be this cautious because 1) there are a lot more bad men out there than most people think and 2) the bad they do can be devastating, lifelong, and even fatal. Those two facts are what #MeToo is determined to bring to the surface.
We absolutely know that it's not all men, but just a minority of them. However, a lot of bad people (a**holes) are wolves in sheep's clothing, hence our trepidation.
When women express a fear of assault, it's common for men to mansplain safety to them. "Don't walk alone at night, lock your doors, carry pepper spray", etc. etc.. The onus is ALWAYS put on the woman to protect herself, as if it's their own fault if they get attacked.
Looking at the original question in the post - it only asked what women would do if there were no men for 24 hours. That would mean all the toxic men are missing. So this is what they would do in that situation. It does not mean all men are toxic. I'm sure I could make some comments about sets and subsets, but maths was too long ago. To be honest, if all men were absent, there'd probably be some toxic women who would take advantage of that somehow and screw it up anyway.
Yeah, Bob, you're "not all menning" here.
It was a thought experiment; don’t take it personally. Try it. Imagine if there were no women for 24 hours. You’d have 24 hours during which you could whine about anything and no woman would call you butt hurt or triggered. Does this mean every woman thinks you’re a butt hurt, triggered whiner? Of course not. This is all theoretical. But thanks for pointing out that society isn’t perfect; I don’t think anything of us had noticed that before.
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@Troux, yes it is. Most men are not a threat at all. Still you are saying be careful of all men because some are assholes. You are lumping everyone together. And to keep holding on to that will prevent you from any solution. Even without "asshole men", a group of people will emerge that will try to become dominant by means of aggression. And that means as a none aggressor you will always find an adversary that you need to take measures against. But if you don't want to learn and keep believing that all men are the problem, well then you're essentially accepting that women should protect themselves against all men by no using any potentially sexual invitations. Grow past it, find actual solutions and you earn the right to wear a miniskirt at night back again.
When I walk around at night, Im scared of other men. I have never been attacked by a woman.
Yup. I also make a habit of looking as harmless as possible if I meet a woman on the street at night, preferring to even cross the street so that she doesn´t have to walk by me. I feel so very sad that my first thought is "Better not look intimidating!" when I walk towards a woman in the evening or at night... :-(
Yes, I do the same.
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Yesssss, this.
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Yep. Husband said same. He has never walked into a room and been concerned about being there due to any women who were present.
I am a woman and I have. I've been attacked by both in different settings and they were both not my doing or my fault and it took a long time to realize that.
Dudes never have to worry about getting harassed by women on their way to work.
consider yourself lucky then
I’ve been attacked by women. But yes, it’s the fear that some ’guy’ is going to jump out at you. I blame allot of that on society but also, it’s just facts, unfortunately..
There seems to be a lot more evil out there than good. And that needs to change.
Maybe not but it’s still possible
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Walk in my area then. The sex workers will scare the hell out of you.
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And still you are here alive because most of them don't hurt you.
You can be seriously hurt without dying you (insert insult here).
I've never had a female threaten me or trying to touch me by force. However, I've had plenty of men do this, some of them even these so called "nice guys". So yes...I accept lumping men in this case. And to the answer, I would go on a nightly walk somewhere in the forest. :)
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night-time forest walks and picnics in the dark are nice dreamy sentiments but do little to keep hungry wildlife at bay - getting rid of men would only make you 'feel' safer!
There is no hungry wildlife where I live. But we still have plenty of forests.
Hungry wildlife in many parts of Europe would be foxes and deer. There are no bears or wolves or lynx anymore. No problem there. Believe me: it’s the fear of men that is holding us back.
I might get gnawed on by a kea or pukeko (both birds) but there's no wildlife that will eat or kill me here. No snakes. People however, would/could be considered a 'predator' I have to be wary of (not all men at all, only a minority. But I've been followed twice in an extreme way, once I asked ppl at a bus stop to pretend they knew Me, the second time I hid in a busy shop. But less than a week after one of those times a woman was murdered about a block from where I had been walking/lived. I felt like maybe id been overreacting to being followed, until that happened. Never ever took that risk again (unless i had no choice)
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You may not have, but I have had plenty of women manipulate me and make me fell like s**t to the point that I'm not sure how I'm still alive. Your one case is not the voice for the entire world. Everyone has their own points of view. I'm not saying yours is wrong, but understand it's not the only one that exist.
I'm really sorry this happened to you. Women can be abusive too.
But were you afraid for your life, on a regular, ongoing basis? Because women (with a few exceptions) have to be aware of their surroundings for fear of attack, at all times.
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Helen, not all women have to be aware of their surroundings. There are places where women do feel safe and there are differences depending on the country and the area. And even if he wasn't afraid on a regular basis, would that make his point any less valid?
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Thats too bad. There are shitty people everywhere. I've had more negative interactions with "Karens" than my wife has had with men. Its situational and isn't always the norm.
Yeah, but your negative interactions with "karens" 🙄 may, for all we know, be utterly your fault. Sorry, but some of the things you post on BP lead me to believe that you most likely are at the very least partly to blame. Your point score on here is -2254 for a reason.
“Negative interactions” like being told to f**k off or something similar? Not violence or threat of violence like many women face from men though...