40 Examples Of ‘Nice Guys’ Exposing Their True Colors
There are two types of nice guys — those who get the term from others for being decent human beings and those who attribute it to themselves. Sadly, some self-proclaimed "nice guys", who are actually manchildren or douches, mistake being spineless and pathetic for being nice and they are all over the place.
They might tone down their virtue signaling in real life over the fear of being called out and having to actually deal with a person but show all their true colors online, where the cable provides them with distance and security. Mainly, they go after women on every imaginable platform. However, rejections shake their vulnerable ego and in order to save it from shattering, nice guys attack.
The appropriately-titled subreddit r/NiceGuys collects sightings of these repulsive creatures in order to prepare everyone should they face one of them in the wild. The ridiculous posts paint a pretty vivid picture of what might be waiting for you just a click away, so continue scrolling and check them out. By the end of this article, you'll definitely know how to spot — and avoid — a nice guy.
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These nice guys, the often physically unattractive men who overcompensate for their physical and social shortcomings with clingy and over-the-top behavior to women, are relentlessly mocked online.
Dr. Robert Glover, who's studied the issue, agreed that these men are often trying to form "covert contracts" with the target of their affections.
Psychologist Dr Jesse Marczyk told The Independent: "The men who tend to get stuck in the friend-zone might not be attractive enough on their own (physically, socially, or otherwise), and so try to compensate for their shortcomings by investing in women more than their peers. In other words, they might use kindness to try and make up for what they lack elsewhere."
Their logic dictates that if you meet someone's needs without them having to ask, they should meet yours. So if a man is nice to a woman, she should repay him by becoming his girlfriend, because that's only fair.
"Others typically do not realize these contracts exist and are often surprised when the nice guy lashes out at their failure to keep their end of the deal."
Thought It Belonged Here
Reinstate said law please! (But not nose biting, maybe a swift kick to the twig and berries?)
When Will They Realise
Yeah, about that... I am a guy who's been friends mostly with women throughout my life. Not because I expected them to have sex with me, but because I genuinely valued their friendship. Lo and behold, more than a couple of them ended up having sex with me. Even if that didn't continue, we remained friends. In one case it DID continue, and we've now been together almost 5 years. ❤️
At Least Some Justice Was Served
A Self Aware Former Nice Guy
I like this one, he made me laugh. I hope he’s found his happiness now he has some self awareness.
Nice Guy Tries To Insult A Woman And Accidentally Compliments Her Instead
Guess We Can Add Moby To The List Of Nice Guys As Well
This One Is So Unbelievable It Sounds Fake... But At The Same Time, I Don’t Doubt It At All
Not Mine But Shared With Permission. Note How The Apology Only Comes When He Realizes He's Been Blasted
When Your Self-Awareness Tank Is Empty
A lack of self awareness on this level definitely explains how there are still so many Trump supporters
I (19f) Broke Up With My Boyfriend (25m) Of 2 Months Only To Find Out He Was A “Nice Guy.” Bullet Dodged. The Last Bit Of Our Text Conversation And A Post He Made On Instagram A Couple Days Later
This Screenshot From The Social Network Is Just Beautiful
Why Don't Women Have Sex Wiv Me?
Why do men watch porn and wank, are we women not good enough for you?
A Little Too On The Nose
Feed Up With The Whining
Every time with these incel-types. Like, do you have any idea how much of a turn off it is to hear someone whining about how they're unfuckable? Ever heard the phrase, 'self-fulfilling prophecy?'
Charming Alpha Male Asks Me To Break Up With My Girlfriend For Him
It's A Bold Strategy, Cotton, Let's See If It Pays Off For Him
And Then I Never Used Bumble Again
Found At A Church LED Dance...
i get what they were going for in trying to encourage the girls to say yes, but yeah, this flier needs to be revised, heavily. With kerosene and matches. This flier is un-redeemable.
So, essentially this is a dance where the girls are pimped out to boys who are being groomed to expect this sort of behavior and subservience their whole lives. Sounds like a Duggar finishing school.
Remember: You serve men and you owe it to your masters to look and act like a lady!! (That was sarcastic, don't worry...)
Not sure this qualifies as modern. Very much the attitude of an organisation looking to the Bronze Age for its moral standards.
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"remember who you are" - and then pretend to be someone else, and follow our "advice".
S**t like this is why I left the Mormon church. Women are expected to provide for the men and make babies, girls are groomed and taught that this is their godly "duty". It's so ugly.
I immediately recognized the "remember your standards" and the "for the strength of youth" notes in the flier. The sad part is, these things are common in young women's classes but never in the young men's classes. It's always "girls don't dress inappropriately," "girls don't tempt the boys." Screw that, BOYS HAVE AGENCY, TOO. They know right from wrong and it is THEIR choice to do right or to do wrong. Not some girl's "fault" for wearing a short skirt or tight pants.
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And we rebound back to the 1950s... I suggest the author of this helpful note remembers to floss their brain...
Why doesn't number 4 say "if you don't want to dance, find a kind but FIRM way to say no thank you?" And why is there no 4a stating " boy's, good on you for plucking up courage to ask her to dance in front of all her friends, but remember no means no and she doesn't owe you anything else" Why it is only male and females allowed to dance is another rant altogether x
Cheesus crackers, if a guy walked up to me and said, "You can't say no it's the rule" i would scream
Time to get the flashiest pantsuit you can find out of the closet and carry a sign that says "Touch me and you will dissolve in the flames of eternal oblivion." This whole paper seems extremely outdated. Wonder how long they've been using these rules?
Yep... sounds about right. Some religions specifically see women as a means of procreation. We are supposed to shut up, man the home front and make babies. That’s it. One major reason why I lost respect for the church
If you have a dance card, you dance with the people on your dance card, not some rando who lurks his way over to ask you.
How can you know your standards but then be expected not to say no to any guy who asks to dance
Gotta groom those girls early, if you want enough stepford wives for the future.
I bet $50 that this was written by a dude who was scarred by every dance he went to.
This is why I’m no longer Christian. If God’s so perfect and forgiving, why does me loving another woman mean I have to spend an eternity in hell? I don’t care if he’s real or not, I won’t worship someone who makes you burn for being LGBTQ+.
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All that’s missing is the reminder to leave space between you for the Holy Spirit
Clearly written by the class weirdo who never got married and who works in the same school he himself attended.
Didn't know they had church LED dances in the US back in the 1900's.
I feel like this is exactly what I'd expect under the "church" heading.
No, it is not in. It is the contrary to ok. It is sick and damaging. They are teaching the boys that they have the right to a girl as much as they want. And teaching the girls they don't have the right to refuse.
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That is sickening. Oooh her defences are down she just lost her boyfriend, I'm gna creep on over to try and meet my own needs because I can. Oh hell there is a lot of shuddery stuff on this thread
Here’s A Fun A Guy Who Also Texted My Boyfriend About The Matter (4) I Made This Account Just To Post This
This Guy Commented On A Post About My History Of Sexual Abuse
jesus christ dude there's a time and a place, and it's NEVER and NOWHERE
This "Nice Guy" Claimed He'd Never Pmed A Girl This Way Before & That He Meant No Offence But His Attitude Changed Dramatically After I Forwarded A Screenshot To His Wife...
My Former Friend's Decent Into Madness
If they work for the same company (I'm assuming they do), HR would be getting screen shots of this daily until his ass is terminated.
I'm Just A Gooood Guuuuy, I Need No Sympathy
"love you like a lady should be treated" "kill yourself" these people need to stop.
An Old Platonic Friend Randomly Sent Me A Video Of His Dingaling Because He Was Trying To Be Nice... I Think?
My Stalker Called Himself A "Nice Guy" Today...
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Ooof this was a painful read. So much hormonal rage from these guys. A lot of them need to put down the phone, take care of themselves and have a nap. The rest need to see therapists.
They need to put down the phone and open a dictionary, to see the definition of the concept of "nice". (Nah, I don't think that would make them understand....)
A lot of them need to be put down. As in youth-in-Asia.
AnnieLaurie Burke love
Thomas brennan what
Ninety percent of these dudes I would have blocked without warning after the first couple messages. Way too many of these women tried to be polite for way too long! If someone calls you a bitch or slut, LEAVE and BLOCK.
as an Aro/Ace, I'm always fascinated by how much value does sex brings to a person. does it really matter that much whether you had to have sex with someone or not?
Possibly an ego thing as well. Long term unplanned singlehood could make them feel inferior, that they ain't 'man' enough to attract a mate.
"Had to have" is tricky. Some people view sex as a claim of ownership. My hubby and I view it as a demonstration, physically, of the "in-love" feeilng we have for each other, and, yes, to satisfy that basic hormonal urge stuff. We can go a year without sex and still love one another deeply. But we may be the exception?
Just had to google that
What's an Aro/Ace?
aro/ace or aromantic/asexual is uses to describe a person who doesn't feel romantic or sexual attraction
Ace/Aro means you don't seek love at all.
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Alpha male wannabes have those tendency. Basically ego.
This was horrifying.
If you’re a nice guy you don’t have to say it. Actions speak louder than words is not just a cliched statement. It’s true.
All of those just make me disgusted. How could people be so entitled? Sadly, I realize I know a few people with the potential of turning into "nice guys/girls"
My husband can never die or leave and I'm wrapping my daughter in bubble wrap
Why do men.... I put out an ad for a roommate on a site SPECIFICALLY for finding roommates. The guy came over, checked out the room, we chatted a bit, things got hella f*****g weird and he left when I told him my BF was almost there for our date. Later on this guy messages me saying he was so horny and hard and wanted to f**k me then and there. Then proceeds to tell me that my BF is useless, I should be with him and that we can be a couple if he moves in. I had to block and report him. I broke lease on that place because I felt unsafe. WHY DO MEN?!?!
These weird folk are all over the spectrum. I knew a girl who wanted to fling herself off my friend's 4th floor balcony because I didn't want to have sex with her after meeting her once. Meeting, as in "hello, nice to meet you" and never speaking another word for the rest of the night. Apparently, our mutual friend at the time told her I would be interested in her for some reason too and she was expecting something to happen (even though I was still a virgin then and all my friends knew). I was never informed that this person liked me whatsoever. A few weeks later she stuck a knife in my front door and ran away because she cut herself as she did so. Never got an explanation as to why I deserved that, because we literally never spoke after that first night. People are just disgusting and crazy.
I literally sent my husband a message after reading these saying that I'm so grateful to have him, because good lord this does paint men in a good light...
Gemma Priest lol
There was this really genuinely nice and cute guy that worked next to the same dept in my last job. Everyone liked him, he was kind, polite, smart and just a cool person to everyone. I had been friends with one his coworkers who tried to act the same way, but got angry about how much everyone/women liked his coworker. He went off one day that the way the actual nice guy was just an act, that any guy that acts like that is secretly just acting that way to f**k women, and women are all superficial and only care about money. He just couldn't grasp that some people are just nice without ulterior f**k motives, whereas he was just acting nice to try to f**k women that he didn't even respect as human beings. That was the last time we hung after I called him out on it and he yelled at me because I was going slower than the speed limit and a couple of rude texts about how I had changed and was disillusioned.
Lastly, real nice guys don't resent being in the friend zone. They value a woman's friendship enough that they're happy to be there. If you just want "friends with benefits" because she's hot and you don't care that that's not what SHE'S looking for, you're not the nice guy you think you are. OTOH, if you're really looking for a life together with someone, you might find yourself in a very painful place of loving someone who loves you back as a friend, but because you are so close, she can see where it could never work out... even if you'd really would be better for a little while with her than some guy she's still willing to see how it works out with.
I write each of these as a socially awkward guy who was "friend-zoned" a lot until I finally met the right woman and grew up a lot... and can look back at my mistakes.
Good for you:-)
I have never read so much anger and frustration in one Bored Panda thread. It's not that women don't like nice guys. These men seem to ignore the fact that attraction is deeply personal. And, no matter how much they plead, curse, insult, and yell, they will not change a woman's mind, especially if she is already in a committed relationship.
What is all this nice-guy-stuff even about? Seriously, if it is just about intercourse, go to a brothel, pay what is due and a little extra ... no texting, no need to public self-humiliation and all that. I just don't think any woman ever said "He told me he's nice, then insulted me, told me to kill myself and, well, here we are - 50 years of marriage!" ... or do I miss anything here?
My partner of almost 5 years and I are polyamorous, and a few years back she went on a few dates with this guy. As always, she was very upfront about being poly and already having a live-in partner, and he had to be cool with that. Everything was going fine until one day he starts telling her how he's going to 'rescue' her from me, because he just KNOWS he's a better man than me, and she DESERVES better. Christ, that was almost 4 years ago and we still get a good belly laugh out of it periodically 🤣
Oh, and FYI, in poly circles that's what is known as a 'cowboy.' Git along, little dumbass.
So you don't actually love each other then,it's just a partnership born from convenience....where you just go and sleep with anyone you like but don't have to be alone...quite sad really, I couldn't have someone like that in my social circle...how could I trust them not to try it on with my partner? You're basically just f**kbuddy's?
Guys just because shes pan/poly doesn't mean she's disgusting. Shes actually educating you on the subject and teaching you things you never knew. Poly relationships are amazing, unique, brilliant things that allow people to be themselves. Did you know most of us in the LGBTQIA find most of yall nasty? And I'm not talking about all straight people. Just the gross, greedy, homophobic ones. Downvote all you want but I'm taking side with Saico. She's human too. :)
You're really ok with your partner having sex with other men?
Pearl the rapper..Saico is a guy....did you not read that?
Yep! As well as other women, or people who identify as neither. And she is okay with me having sex with other women/men/whatever. Again, it's called 'polyamory,' and the concept in one way or another is at least as old as the idea of monogamy. It's not ideal for everyone, but if you're interested in learning more, I highly suggesting googling or reading a book about it! :)
You're not "polyamorous" you're swingers! Lol!
And this is a problem to you how?
Bex Hallihan Good response!
These type of guys do not make things look good for men in general. Not all men are like that, we just hear more about the negatives than the positives. Seems like BP has a male bashing theme going on tonight.
I know that this only represents some men and not all, but I'm dreading the arrival of "nice guys" rushing to their own defence like in any other post that tries to highlight what many women are forced to deal with from some men
The incel movement is a large part of this, I think. They produce a lot of angry men who think there is some evil female conspiracy going on to keep them virgins.
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wow very ignorant, straight out of the media playbook for sensationalism You do know there are incel women as well ? or did think all women are in relationships, rather than the complaints that they cant "find a good man"
It's true that not all men are "like that", but neither are "all women", which the incels claim. So... if you think there's more negative than positive heard about your particular group of concern, address them about the concerns, and maybe we'll all end up as better-behaved civilized people?
And that's right after that body positivity post. Good timing, really....
Maybe. I just hope any self proclaimed “nice” guy/girl reading this would reconsider how they approach life.