There are two types of nice guys — those who get the term from others for being decent human beings and those who attribute it to themselves. Sadly, some self-proclaimed "nice guys", who are actually manchildren or douches, mistake being spineless and pathetic for being nice and they are all over the place.

They might tone down their virtue signaling in real life over the fear of being called out and having to actually deal with a person but show all their true colors online, where the cable provides them with distance and security. Mainly, they go after women on every imaginable platform. However, rejections shake their vulnerable ego and in order to save it from shattering, nice guys attack.

The appropriately-titled subreddit r/NiceGuys collects sightings of these repulsive creatures in order to prepare everyone should they face one of them in the wild. The ridiculous posts paint a pretty vivid picture of what might be waiting for you just a click away, so continue scrolling and check them out. By the end of this article, you'll definitely know how to spot — and avoid — a nice guy.

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We Even Eat

We Even Eat

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Kateryna
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5 months ago

Best comeback ever!

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These nice guys, the often physically unattractive men who overcompensate for their physical and social shortcomings with clingy and over-the-top behavior to women, are relentlessly mocked online.

Dr. Robert Glover, who's studied the issue, agreed that these men are often trying to form "covert contracts" with the target of their affections.

#2

An Honest Observation

An Honest Observation

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Lauren Caswell
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5 months ago

Upvote x infinity

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Psychologist Dr Jesse Marczyk told The Independent: "The men who tend to get stuck in the friend-zone might not be attractive enough on their own (physically, socially, or otherwise), and so try to compensate for their shortcomings by investing in women more than their peers. In other words, they might use kindness to try and make up for what they lack elsewhere."

Their logic dictates that if you meet someone's needs without them having to ask, they should meet yours. So if a man is nice to a woman, she should repay him by becoming his girlfriend, because that's only fair.

"Others typically do not realize these contracts exist and are often surprised when the nice guy lashes out at their failure to keep their end of the deal."

#3

Thought It Belonged Here

Thought It Belonged Here

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Lauren Caswell
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5 months ago

Reinstate said law please! (But not nose biting, maybe a swift kick to the twig and berries?)

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#4

It's Not The Piece Of Plastic

It's Not The Piece Of Plastic

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Loretta
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5 months ago

What is meant with a "piece of plastic"?

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#5

When Will They Realise

When Will They Realise

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Saico Hipe
Community Member
5 months ago

Yeah, about that... I am a guy who's been friends mostly with women throughout my life. Not because I expected them to have sex with me, but because I genuinely valued their friendship. Lo and behold, more than a couple of them ended up having sex with me. Even if that didn't continue, we remained friends. In one case it DID continue, and we've now been together almost 5 years. ❤️

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#6

Nice Guy Thinks He’s Better Than Guacamole

Nice Guy Thinks He’s Better Than Guacamole

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Ripley
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5 months ago

Dude honestly thinks that she's putting in a booty call with him after he called her a "f*****g bitch". Talk about being massively deluded.

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#7

At Least Some Justice Was Served

At Least Some Justice Was Served

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Lord Mysticlaw
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5 months ago

Good lord.

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#8

A Self Aware Former Nice Guy

A Self Aware Former Nice Guy

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Rabbit Carrot
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5 months ago

I like this one, he made me laugh. I hope he’s found his happiness now he has some self awareness.

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#9

Nice Guy Tries To Insult A Woman And Accidentally Compliments Her Instead

Nice Guy Tries To Insult A Woman And Accidentally Compliments Her Instead

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DKS 001
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5 months ago

lol

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#10

Guess We Can Add Moby To The List Of Nice Guys As Well

Guess We Can Add Moby To The List Of Nice Guys As Well

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Cat
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5 months ago

Savage! And I'm here for it lol

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#11

This One Is So Unbelievable It Sounds Fake... But At The Same Time, I Don’t Doubt It At All

This One Is So Unbelievable It Sounds Fake... But At The Same Time, I Don’t Doubt It At All

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Kateryna
Community Member
5 months ago

Why does this sound like someone who was the annoying 6th grader...

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#12

Not Mine But Shared With Permission. Note How The Apology Only Comes When He Realizes He's Been Blasted

Not Mine But Shared With Permission. Note How The Apology Only Comes When He Realizes He's Been Blasted

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Vorknkx
Community Member
5 months ago

There's that old cliche that "if you love someone, let them go" - there is a certain wisdom in it. And this conversation illustrates it in a very good way.

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#13

When Your Self-Awareness Tank Is Empty

When Your Self-Awareness Tank Is Empty

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Saico Hipe
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5 months ago

A lack of self awareness on this level definitely explains how there are still so many Trump supporters

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#14

Let There Be... Nice Guys

Let There Be... Nice Guys

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Vorknkx
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5 months ago

So "nice guys" are kinda like pets - they perform tricks and expect treats as a reward :D

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#15

“Decent Guy” Only Wants One Thing From His Date

“Decent Guy” Only Wants One Thing From His Date

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Deborah B
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5 months ago

On the plus side, at least he self-id'd as an asshole before she got any deeper in the relationship.

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#16

I (19f) Broke Up With My Boyfriend (25m) Of 2 Months Only To Find Out He Was A “Nice Guy.” Bullet Dodged. The Last Bit Of Our Text Conversation And A Post He Made On Instagram A Couple Days Later

I (19f) Broke Up With My Boyfriend (25m) Of 2 Months Only To Find Out He Was A “Nice Guy.” Bullet Dodged. The Last Bit Of Our Text Conversation And A Post He Made On Instagram A Couple Days Later

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Kateryna
Community Member
5 months ago

Calling her family? What the actual f? What's wrong with him? I hope she is alright.

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#17

This Screenshot From The Social Network Is Just Beautiful

This Screenshot From The Social Network Is Just Beautiful

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Alex T
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5 months ago

truth

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#18

Why Don't Women Have Sex Wiv Me?

Why Don't Women Have Sex Wiv Me?

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
5 months ago

Why do men watch porn and wank, are we women not good enough for you?

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#19

A Little Too On The Nose

A Little Too On The Nose

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Lauren Caswell
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5 months ago

XD so accurate

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#20

Feed Up With The Whining

Feed Up With The Whining

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Saico Hipe
Community Member
5 months ago

Every time with these incel-types. Like, do you have any idea how much of a turn off it is to hear someone whining about how they're unfuckable? Ever heard the phrase, 'self-fulfilling prophecy?'

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#21

If A Nice Guy Was A 911 Operator

If A Nice Guy Was A 911 Operator

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varwenea
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5 months ago

Not believing her makes him not a nice guy.

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#22

Im A Dude Lmfao

Im A Dude Lmfao

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nanashi
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5 months ago

"unless you got really fat." wow

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#23

Some Honest Reflection On The Nice Guy Mentality

Some Honest Reflection On The Nice Guy Mentality

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Kateryna
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5 months ago

I appreciate him admitting it and being ashamed

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#24

Charming Alpha Male Asks Me To Break Up With My Girlfriend For Him

Charming Alpha Male Asks Me To Break Up With My Girlfriend For Him

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Elsa May
Community Member
5 months ago

toxic masculinity is a disease

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#25

It's A Bold Strategy, Cotton, Let's See If It Pays Off For Him

It's A Bold Strategy, Cotton, Let's See If It Pays Off For Him

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nanashi
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5 months ago

in what dimension does this kind of threatening works??

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#26

Looking Out For A Bro

Looking Out For A Bro

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Kateryna
Community Member
5 months ago

Talking to someone else doesn't mean cheating or being "slutty"

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#27

“Fedora With Arms”

“Fedora With Arms”

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
5 months ago

That is just stupid.

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#28

And Then I Never Used Bumble Again

And Then I Never Used Bumble Again

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varwenea
Community Member
5 months ago

Drama king. Freak out much?

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#29

Found At A Church LED Dance...

Found At A Church LED Dance...

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
5 months ago

Woah, this is f****d up.

Lynsey Mooney
Community Member
5 months ago

All sorts of f****d up!

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Jo Cooper
Community Member
5 months ago

My church never lets my son go to the dance if he’s wearing lipgloss!

My O My
Community Member
5 months ago

That's mean actually. In general

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Truth Monster
Community Member
5 months ago

i get what they were going for in trying to encourage the girls to say yes, but yeah, this flier needs to be revised, heavily. With kerosene and matches. This flier is un-redeemable.

Flare
Community Member
4 months ago

Okie dokie! *grabs gasoline and matches*

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Katy McMouse
Community Member
5 months ago

So, essentially this is a dance where the girls are pimped out to boys who are being groomed to expect this sort of behavior and subservience their whole lives. Sounds like a Duggar finishing school.

CatWoman312
Community Member
5 months ago

What is this from, 1953?

Nudge
Community Member
4 days ago

probably

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Blue of the yams (They/He)
Community Member
5 months ago

Remember: You serve men and you owe it to your masters to look and act like a lady!! (That was sarcastic, don't worry...)

Saico Hipe
Community Member
5 months ago

F**k churches so hard. This is disgusting

giovanna
Community Member
5 months ago

A modern version of "lay back and think of England"?

Charlotte
Community Member
5 months ago

Not sure this qualifies as modern. Very much the attitude of an organisation looking to the Bronze Age for its moral standards.

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Lazy Farmer
Community Member
5 months ago

sh*t, the whole thing is an effing train wreck 🤮

Ssss
Community Member
5 months ago

The whole poster is just awful. Issues here with consent, suggesting women are subordinate, everything is based on looks and you should say yes to a man whether you want to or not. Disgusting.

Charlotte A.
Community Member
5 months ago

"remember who you are" - and then pretend to be someone else, and follow our "advice".

kinmik
Community Member
5 months ago

S**t like this is why I left the Mormon church. Women are expected to provide for the men and make babies, girls are groomed and taught that this is their godly "duty". It's so ugly.

Teresa Taylor
Community Member
5 months ago

I immediately recognized the "remember your standards" and the "for the strength of youth" notes in the flier. The sad part is, these things are common in young women's classes but never in the young men's classes. It's always "girls don't dress inappropriately," "girls don't tempt the boys." Screw that, BOYS HAVE AGENCY, TOO. They know right from wrong and it is THEIR choice to do right or to do wrong. Not some girl's "fault" for wearing a short skirt or tight pants.

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Oskar vanZandt
Community Member
5 months ago

And we rebound back to the 1950s... I suggest the author of this helpful note remembers to floss their brain...

Jonahs Mrs
Community Member
5 months ago

Why doesn't number 4 say "if you don't want to dance, find a kind but FIRM way to say no thank you?" And why is there no 4a stating " boy's, good on you for plucking up courage to ask her to dance in front of all her friends, but remember no means no and she doesn't owe you anything else" Why it is only male and females allowed to dance is another rant altogether x

Sinkvenice
Community Member
5 months ago

Wow, this is so f****d.

Ms.GB
Community Member
5 months ago

Who tf wrote that

Amelia Brown
Community Member
4 months ago

Mormons.

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Avery S
Community Member
5 months ago

Welcome to my life, we get these before every dance. the best part is, I'm gay af lol

Nadine Bamberger
Community Member
5 months ago

A rapists handbook. Just like Jesus wanted it to be.

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
5 months ago

Did they gets this from 1810?

Gemjoybug
Community Member
5 months ago

'Never say no' it's only 3 minutes......

WiggleCat
Community Member
5 months ago

I like how after the "Don't say No to a guy who asks..." , it immediately says Know your Standards. Yeah, I know my standards. Hence why I wouldn't say yes to everyone :I

London Panda
Community Member
5 months ago

Cheesus crackers, if a guy walked up to me and said, "You can't say no it's the rule" i would scream

Lavender Wolfie (づ ◕‿◕ )づ
Community Member
5 months ago

Preach!!!!

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Mushroom Garden
Community Member
2 months ago

Time to get the flashiest pantsuit you can find out of the closet and carry a sign that says "Touch me and you will dissolve in the flames of eternal oblivion." This whole paper seems extremely outdated. Wonder how long they've been using these rules?

Tiffany Weathers
Community Member
5 months ago

Yep... sounds about right. Some religions specifically see women as a means of procreation. We are supposed to shut up, man the home front and make babies. That’s it. One major reason why I lost respect for the church

Azure Adams
Community Member
5 months ago

More like an LDS church dance

Teresa Taylor
Community Member
5 months ago

AND WE HAVE A WINNER!

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sabocat
Community Member
5 months ago

ew ew ew ew!

Missy Barton
Community Member
5 months ago

If you have a dance card, you dance with the people on your dance card, not some rando who lurks his way over to ask you.

Animal lover❤
Community Member
5 months ago

Oh my god

Rabbit Carrot
Community Member
5 months ago

Um no means no. Christ.

Thenatural
Community Member
5 months ago

Go with Christ child.

Vorknkx
Community Member
5 months ago

This sounds like it was written in the 1950's, at least!

Hollie Newton
Community Member
4 months ago

How can you know your standards but then be expected not to say no to any guy who asks to dance

S.
Community Member
5 months ago

Ew.

Kim
Community Member
5 months ago

What the actual f***

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
5 months ago

Who the f**k thought this was a good idea?

i0ana
Community Member
5 months ago

Ohh,hell NO,just NOOOOO!

Katinka Min
Community Member
5 months ago

Gotta groom those girls early, if you want enough stepford wives for the future.

Paizleypie
Community Member
5 months ago

What the actual f***¿?¿?

Maurettis
Community Member
5 months ago

It's church, what did you expect?

oddkiddo
Community Member
5 months ago

What decade? What planet??

Full of Giggles
Community Member
5 months ago

What in the Footloose is this s**t?

Michelle C
Community Member
5 months ago

I bet $50 that this was written by a dude who was scarred by every dance he went to.

Alien_cos
Community Member
5 months ago

This is why I don’t go to church. Ever.

Todorokie-dokie
Community Member
5 months ago

This is why I’m no longer Christian. If God’s so perfect and forgiving, why does me loving another woman mean I have to spend an eternity in hell? I don’t care if he’s real or not, I won’t worship someone who makes you burn for being LGBTQ+.

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Nudge
Community Member
4 days ago

So this would be a flyer written by one messed up church leader, not approved by the church itself

Nora the mistake 0_o
Community Member
1 week ago

we have our rights to say NO!

Vanta Black
Community Member
5 months ago

That's the church for ya...

Suzanne Garrison
Community Member
5 months ago

All that’s missing is the reminder to leave space between you for the Holy Spirit

Retro Dan™
Community Member
5 months ago

Clearly written by the class weirdo who never got married and who works in the same school he himself attended.

B-b-bird
Community Member
5 months ago

How does does "Never say NO" and "know your standards" even appears on one card

Stannous Flouride
Community Member
5 months ago

Invitation to the Handmaids' Ball.

WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
5 months ago

Didn't know they had church LED dances in the US back in the 1900's.

DKS 001
Community Member
5 months ago

I'd be finding a new church

Carlota
Community Member
5 months ago

Wow I have no words

Lord Mysticlaw
Community Member
5 months ago

I feel like this is exactly what I'd expect under the "church" heading.

Lora Mad
Community Member
5 months ago

I guess they were trying to make the girls acknowledge the shy and dorky boys and help them build up self-esteem... But they only managed to order the girls to never say no to anything and point out that's appreciated by the clergy... Yuck

Bernd Herbert
Community Member
5 months ago

it's church...what did you expect?

Romenriel
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5 months ago

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Daria B
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

"No guy is ever going to interrupt the...." What? Good joke.... However, I've been in situations when I wish someone interrupted (a.k.a. resqued me from) drunken pseudo philosophers.

RaroaRaroa
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5 months ago

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If this is a school dance, No 4 is OK, as long as it works both ways. Girls should be able to ask and not be rejected too. Although a 2nd request from the same person shouldn't need to be an automatic yes.

Laugh or not
Community Member
5 months ago

No, it is not in. It is the contrary to ok. It is sick and damaging. They are teaching the boys that they have the right to a girl as much as they want. And teaching the girls they don't have the right to refuse.

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#30

A Facebook Friend Had Her BF Pass Away Recently, And She Shared This Experience From A "Nice Guy"

A Facebook Friend Had Her BF Pass Away Recently, And She Shared This Experience From A "Nice Guy"

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
5 months ago

That is sickening. Oooh her defences are down she just lost her boyfriend, I'm gna creep on over to try and meet my own needs because I can. Oh hell there is a lot of shuddery stuff on this thread

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#31

Here’s A Fun A Guy Who Also Texted My Boyfriend About The Matter (4) I Made This Account Just To Post This

Here’s A Fun A Guy Who Also Texted My Boyfriend About The Matter (4) I Made This Account Just To Post This

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Kateryna
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5 months ago

I don't understand why people think this would work.

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#32

This Guy Commented On A Post About My History Of Sexual Abuse

This Guy Commented On A Post About My History Of Sexual Abuse

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Conrad Strucker
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5 months ago

jesus christ dude there's a time and a place, and it's NEVER and NOWHERE

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#33

Niceguys(™)

Niceguys(™)

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guy greej
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5 months ago

Watches too many movies this gguy. Here's a tip, that never works unless you were already at a stage where you're basically dating without the label.

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#34

This "Nice Guy" Claimed He'd Never Pmed A Girl This Way Before & That He Meant No Offence But His Attitude Changed Dramatically After I Forwarded A Screenshot To His Wife...

This "Nice Guy" Claimed He'd Never Pmed A Girl This Way Before & That He Meant No Offence But His Attitude Changed Dramatically After I Forwarded A Screenshot To His Wife...

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Peeves
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5 months ago

"Flawnt"

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#35

My Former Friend's Decent Into Madness

My Former Friend's Decent Into Madness

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Katy McMouse
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5 months ago

If they work for the same company (I'm assuming they do), HR would be getting screen shots of this daily until his ass is terminated.

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#36

I'm Just A Gooood Guuuuy, I Need No Sympathy

I'm Just A Gooood Guuuuy, I Need No Sympathy

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CamlikesCookies
Community Member
5 months ago

"love you like a lady should be treated" "kill yourself" these people need to stop.

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#37

And Hes Still Waiting For His Apology

And Hes Still Waiting For His Apology

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Kateryna
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5 months ago

I really hope this guy gets fired. This is inappropriate, ESPECIALLY to coworkers.

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#38

Nice Guys And Creepy Asterisk Crossover Courtesy Of My Boyfriend

Nice Guys And Creepy Asterisk Crossover Courtesy Of My Boyfriend

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Kateryna
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5 months ago

...that's not discrimination. She won't reject you because you are dyslexic. She will reject you for being too self entitled.

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#39

An Old Platonic Friend Randomly Sent Me A Video Of His Dingaling Because He Was Trying To Be Nice... I Think?

An Old Platonic Friend Randomly Sent Me A Video Of His Dingaling Because He Was Trying To Be Nice... I Think?

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Bernd Herbert
Community Member
5 months ago

what is wrong with those people?

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#40

My Stalker Called Himself A "Nice Guy" Today...

My Stalker Called Himself A "Nice Guy" Today...

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Daria B
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5 months ago

The better resolution is to show this to the police.....

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