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Woman Shares A Letter She Got From Her Neighbors With A Baby And It Goes Viral
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Woman Shares A Letter She Got From Her Neighbors With A Baby And It Goes Viral Interview With Author

Few things cause more stress for both parents and the neighbors (and the baby) than the baby who just won’t sleep. No wonder there are so many sleep training methods, like bedtime fading or graduated extinction that have been a subject of debate among scientists and parents.

But one out of every five or six parents find themselves utterly drained after numerous sleepless nights where their baby wakes up every night multiple times. At this point, many look for any solutions that could put an end to the insomniac nightmare. This is what happened to the authors of a viral letter that has been circulating on social media.

It was first posted by Twitter user @KittyBeeJr: “neighbors left this on the door… I’m gonna bake them some cookies,” two days ago. The letter was written by the “tired and sorry” Wards family who warned everyone they would be trying out the somewhat controversial Cry-It-Out method to get their baby to sleep. The parents also said they will do what it takes to mend the neighbor-ship if the crying-out baby gets on everyone’s nerves too much.

Read the viral letter that amassed 1 million likes and 78.4K retweets down below, but beware that any sleep training methods should only be implemented on your kid after first consulting with specialists.

This Twitter user shared a letter she received from “tired and sorry” parents and it went viral, amassing 1 million likes

Image credits: KittyBeeJr

Bored Panda reached out to the Twitter user @KittyBeeJr who shared the viral letter from her neighbors on Twitter. “I thought it was the cutest, most considerate thing. You see stuff like this on the internet so I was surprised it actually happened to me,” she said. And added that “the tequila peace offering made my day.”

@KittyBeeJr also said that she never expected the letter to go viral. “I posted the tweet, went on about my business, and came back to 1 million likes. With so much going on in the world, people were expecting something negative,” the neighbor said and added that the letter was the complete opposite. “It was very heartwarming,” she commented.

This is the full text of the neighbors’ now-famous letter

Turns out, the parents of the baby are doing great and @KittyBeeJr assured us that they “really enjoyed the cookies” she baked them.

And for those who’re wondering how the sleep training is going, from what @KittyBeeJr said, it seems like the neighbors are all doing fine so far. “I have my AirPods in and Kitchen Aid going most of the time so I never hear the baby crying,” she said.

The Twitter user even made some nice gifts to help the neighbors get through their dreadful baby sleep training

Image credits: KittyBeeJr

The term “sleep training” is an umbrella term that refers to a variety of approaches that are aimed at helping babies to learn to fall asleep on their own. But many of these methods, especially the cry-it-out one, which refers to leaving the baby on their own while they’re crying themselves to sleep for the intervals, have been looked at with great controversy.

Jodi Mindell, a psychologist at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia and the author of “Sleeping Through The Night,” believes that many sleep training methods carry a bad rap because they’re “equated with this moniker called ‘cry it out.’”

“You put your baby into their crib or their room, you close the door, and you don’t come back till the next day,” Mindell says. “But that’s not the reality of what we recommend or what parents typically do.”

She also said she’d go for the tequila offer but turns out, she’s a whiskey type of person

Image credits: KittyBeeJr

But according to Mindell, there’s no strict formula that works for all parents (or babies) when it comes to checking up on your child. Instead of looking for a strict formula—such as checking every five minutes—parents should focus on finding what Mindell calls “the magic moment”—that is, the moment when the child can fall asleep independently without the parent in the room.

For some babies and their parents, it may include frequent checks, but for others, less soothing may be much more efficient. Finding out what works for your baby’s temperament, for yourself, and then sticking to the balanced and adequate way of putting your baby to sleep is key for a family to finally feel well-rested.

And many people joined the thread to comment on the letter

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Hans
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1 year ago

The letter is really nice. However, I fear that the parents have been ill-advised about the "cry-it-out" method, which is not actually a method. Children do not soothe themselves by crying; if they stop crying, they have actually given up, which supposedly is a devastating feeling to them. Of course, this has to be distinguished from crying for attention. Parents usually can distinguish the desperate tears from the "angry" ones. However, a four-month old is not capable of that; in fact, a four-month old does not yet have the cognitive ability to be spoiled and pampered. Trying to leave the baby for a few moments at a time might work, but they key will be to be consistent on the one hand and provide comfort to the baby on the other hand. Unfortunately, some children take quite a while to learn this while for others it comes naturally.

Hans
Community Member
1 year ago

Wow, I am really outraged reading stupid web sites now. Just an example: https://www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/crying-it-out.aspx Quote: "A small number of babies get so worked up from sleep training that they throw up. Fortunately, throwing up when crying it out isn’t a health concern." How severaly screwed up is this? Let a baby develop so much stress by anxiety that it throws up? This is not parenting, this is brutal! Babies essentially follow a biological mode of 10,000 BC. Throwing up is then a sign of panic of dying alone, as if forgotten by the family outside of a cave, to be found and eaten by animals...

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Carrie Laughs
Community Member
1 year ago

So tough. Though I have to say that I read in the news fairly recently of a baby dying after being suffocated while 'co-sleeping' (mentioned in one of the comments above). Do be very, very careful if that's the method you're going with - to end up accidentally killing your own child must be about the most devastating thing I can think of.

Hans
Community Member
1 year ago

It must be, yet there is strong evidence that co-sleeping does not normally lead to such accidents. Parents on drugs or alcohol, parents moking before going to bed, extra linens, too soft mattrasses all contribute to the risk of SIDS. Healthy parents wihout a sleep disorder who did not take any medication almost impossibly will suffocate their children as they, in a way, have a built-in mechanism to prevent this.

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Evil Little Thing
Community Member
1 year ago

People should quit judging. My son (now a teenager) was terrible at sleeping for the first six months. Then I moved him into his own room and let him cry for a couple minutes, and guess what? After one night he started sleeping great. Turns out he likes to be left the f**k alone when he's sleepy.

Alex Bailey
Community Member
1 year ago

I think that must be what happened to my friend - she and her baby slept better separately.

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Hans
Community Member
1 year ago

The letter is really nice. However, I fear that the parents have been ill-advised about the "cry-it-out" method, which is not actually a method. Children do not soothe themselves by crying; if they stop crying, they have actually given up, which supposedly is a devastating feeling to them. Of course, this has to be distinguished from crying for attention. Parents usually can distinguish the desperate tears from the "angry" ones. However, a four-month old is not capable of that; in fact, a four-month old does not yet have the cognitive ability to be spoiled and pampered. Trying to leave the baby for a few moments at a time might work, but they key will be to be consistent on the one hand and provide comfort to the baby on the other hand. Unfortunately, some children take quite a while to learn this while for others it comes naturally.

Hans
Community Member
1 year ago

Wow, I am really outraged reading stupid web sites now. Just an example: https://www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/crying-it-out.aspx Quote: "A small number of babies get so worked up from sleep training that they throw up. Fortunately, throwing up when crying it out isn’t a health concern." How severaly screwed up is this? Let a baby develop so much stress by anxiety that it throws up? This is not parenting, this is brutal! Babies essentially follow a biological mode of 10,000 BC. Throwing up is then a sign of panic of dying alone, as if forgotten by the family outside of a cave, to be found and eaten by animals...

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Carrie Laughs
Community Member
1 year ago

So tough. Though I have to say that I read in the news fairly recently of a baby dying after being suffocated while 'co-sleeping' (mentioned in one of the comments above). Do be very, very careful if that's the method you're going with - to end up accidentally killing your own child must be about the most devastating thing I can think of.

Hans
Community Member
1 year ago

It must be, yet there is strong evidence that co-sleeping does not normally lead to such accidents. Parents on drugs or alcohol, parents moking before going to bed, extra linens, too soft mattrasses all contribute to the risk of SIDS. Healthy parents wihout a sleep disorder who did not take any medication almost impossibly will suffocate their children as they, in a way, have a built-in mechanism to prevent this.

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Evil Little Thing
Community Member
1 year ago

People should quit judging. My son (now a teenager) was terrible at sleeping for the first six months. Then I moved him into his own room and let him cry for a couple minutes, and guess what? After one night he started sleeping great. Turns out he likes to be left the f**k alone when he's sleepy.

Alex Bailey
Community Member
1 year ago

I think that must be what happened to my friend - she and her baby slept better separately.

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